8 MAJOR Green Flags in Guys (you should date him!)

in today's video we're going to talk about what I think are eight huge green flags in a guy and if he has all these things then he may very well be a keeper hey friends welcome back if you're new here my name's jills and I help women step into their power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self so if that's something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around so instead of talking about a bunch of things that we don't want in a partner like all the red flags let's talk

about some of the green flags what we do want in partner cuz also if you want to attract a high quality type of man it's important to focus on what you want not what you don't want what we focus on Grows Right so I'm going to talk about eight big green flags in men there can obviously be way more than this I'm just going to talk about some eight green flags that I think are really important I'm obviously not going to mention the basics like he is kind and he is kind to his mother or

that he takes care of himself and goes to the gym or he doesn't spend too much time on social media we're going to dig into the deep deeper ones and if there's anything that you think are major green flags that I didn't mention absolutely comment them below the first green flag is a big one and this isn't necessarily about something that he is specifically doing but is more so about how he makes you feel and that big green flag is that you feel like you can turn your brain off when you're with him this is

huge why is this such a good sign because this means that your nervous system feels safe around him that you feel like you can trust him that he's responsible that is reliable when your body feels like you can fully relax when you're with him that is your intuition speaking to you the deeper parts of you trust him you know if you feel like you guys can go out together and you accidentally forget your person it's no big deal if you don't have to be constantly thinking about everything and on edge about things when you can

just actually just relax and be when you can just notice the pretty flowers or the cool art on the wall and you don't have to think about wait where did I park the car or you don't have to be peering over your shoulder to make sure that no nobody is following you or you don't have to worry about if you guys are going to get the bread at the restaurant or not seriously one of the most attractive things that a guy can do is give you the gift of being able to turn your brain off

and this will also of course help you lean more into your feminine energy and be more in receiving mode creative mode soft mode loving mode relaxing mode you know a lot of men say that they want a soft loving woman well this softness tends to come naturally when we're in the presence of a man who we feel can handle things someone who we really trust and so if you feel like you can turn your brain off with a guy that is just a very very good sign it's just all about him allowing you to let

your guard down and I feel like out of all the green flags I think this is one of the most important ones especially especially if you are a woman who wants to lean more into her feminine energy in life and in her relationships which are most of the women who watch my channel then this is so important now you might not be able to notice this right away in a person because I feel like this takes some time like like no one's going to fully trust someone after one date right but after you've spent some

real time with this man gone on several dates with him I feel like that's when you should be able to notice if you feel this or not and if you do I think that is a really really good sign so if you feel like you can turn your brain off when you're with him green flag the second green flag is that he has a vision meaning he has goals he has a plan he has ways in which he's working to better himself he has a vision for a path forward in life if a man has

a vision that means he is more likely to live with purpose and intention that means he's more of a forward thinker and can plan for the future which is important to have in a life partner and a man with a vision is also more willing to sacrifice short-term comfort for longterm gain and reward he's more likely to be a man that you can trust if he doesn't have a vision that means he's usually going to lack focus and just have more directions he's going to feel a little you know wishy-washy and all over the place

he's more more likely to be less of a go-getter and less of a leader now obviously if you are really young like 19 or something and you're dating other 19-year-olds then the 19-year-old guys might have a little bit of a fuzzier vision than the 35-year olds you know that's normal that's a part of growing up but regardless no matter how old you are there should be some sort of vision there what is he striving for in his life what is he building towards what is he trying to create a man with no plan no vision

will likely not end up creating the life that you want to live in so if he has a vision for himself green flag now next green flag number three there are going to be times in a relationship where there is just a little bit of tension or maybe you guys are frustrated with each other or you guys are in an argument this just will happen at some point in a committed relationship but a huge green flag is that he still communicates kindly even in these tougher moments even under distress it's easy to be kind and

loving when things are going great but it's not as easy to be kind and loving when you guys are mad at each other or you accidentally did something wrong and he's upset at you for it or in those tougher moments when you guys are arguing about something when he is able to keep his cool and still be loving and gentle with you in those moments that is a really big green flag in my opinion even if that means that he's just self-aware enough to be like hey you know what I'm going to take a 10-minute

walk outside and then let's come back to this that takes maturity like when you guys argue or disagree is he just trying to win is he just trying to one up you or is he trying to reach an understanding there's a big difference this is a really positive trait and this is something that's very important in not only a husband but also if you want kids also a father there will be those tougher moments there will be those stressful moments there will be times where you or heaven forbid your daughter or your son will do

something absolutely stupid but being able to handle your emotions or anger in those moments and still stay kind and thoughtful you can be firm but you can still be loving and gentle at the same time this shows that he's mature this shows that he can handle himself this shows that he can handle stress and most importantly this shows that your emotional safety won't be threatened when you guys hit those tougher moments so if he communicates kindly under distress green flag now the fourth big green flag in a guy is if he has sexual discipline a

man who is completely controlled by his desires and impulses is not a strong man he is not reliable man he's not a trustworthy man he's a weak man not only does this show a lot about his character and his priorities but also you are probably going to question more of his loyalty to you or will he be ogling over other girls a man who doesn't have sexual discipline has no self-control and that can quickly become dangerous that does not make a good husband or a good father so this would be a man who is ideally

not watching that stuff on the internet a man who is not begging for attention from any woman who has the discipline to wait for the woman who is right for him and especially in the beginning of a relationship what is he going for first is his first intention courting you and pursuing you or is it getting intimate with you if he's trying to go straight for the intimacy that is usually not a good sign if he's not respectful of your boundaries there when you guys start dating also not a good sign and just to be

clear I'm not saying that you need to wait a certain amount of time to do whatever you want with him I'm just saying that he needs to be respectful of where you are and where you want to be the thing about this is that if a man has sexual discipline he likely has good self-discipline in other areas of his life as well he's just likely a strong and disciplined person and that's an important treat to have for a life partner if a man has no self-control and discipline in this area then it's likely that you

will not feel as safe and cherished when you're with him and that is is incredibly important for the feminine it's hard for the feminine to fully relax and lean back into her feminine energy if she does not feel safe and cherished and then if slash when you guys do have intimate relations later on a man who has no sexual discipline is also more likely to focus solely on his needs rather than on yours as well but when you meet him if he is focused 100% on you and building that connection that emotional connection that shows

an initial commitment to you and that he sees a potential real thing with you and not just like a one night thing so I think this is important if he has sexual discipline green flag now green flag number five again this is another thing that he is not specifically doing but more of a reflection of you and how you feel when you're with him so the question is what kind of person do you become when you're with him if he brings out the best in you then that is a green flag does he elevate your

anxiety or does he diminish sh does he make you feel crazy or does he make you feel calm and safe does he bring out your soft and loving side or does he bring out your crazy side does he bring out your aggressive side some people who are not high quality or are just simply not a match for us sometimes they can bring out the parts in ourselves that we don't particularly like they can make us feel like we are not our best self but on the other hand those who are high quality those who are

meant for us can complement us in a way where we become our best self or a better self when we are with them what kind of woman do you become when you date him or when you're around him do you like the person you become when you're with him this is important this will tell you a lot does your life improve when you're with him not necessarily because he's doing something specific but because when you're with him you become your best self and therefore your life just naturally improves so if you feel like he brings

out the best qualities in you or he awakens positive qualities that you weren't even entir sure that you had or he lessens the negative ones that you struggle with then I would definitely take that as a good sign in a green flag from my experience being with my husband made me much more confident of a woman it made me a better Communicator because I was really bad at that before it made me more loving and patient like in a good way like I just naturally became that and he taught me how to invest in myself

and trust myself he helped to bring out positive qualities in me and I know that he will stay the same that I help to bring out positive qualities in him I don't think it's anything that he specifically did or I specifically do it's just the way that our lives and our personality mesh together so if he brings out the best in you this is another really really big one this is a green flag number six another green flag is if he just does things to improve the quality of your life especially without even asking this

is a man who cares for you this is a man who is committed to you this is a man who is willing to invest in you and spend time and energy into you if he picks up a little treat from the grocery store because he knows that you love it or he's driving by your favorite Deli and so he calls you and asks if you want a sandwich or if he goes over to your apartment and something is clearly broken so he just takes it upon himself to fix it if he just wants to make

your life better this is a good sign and this is a good sign in a partner especially if you want to be a partner who is taken care of and cherished and treated well and who doesn't want that a man who prides himself in making your life better will constantly try to be making your life better this also means that he's just a Kind and Generous person too so if he does things to improve the quality of your life especially without asking green flag now another green flag and this is more for like the early

dating phase but a green flag is that he has clear intentions with you if you're not really sure what he's looking for if you're not really sure that he likes you then he's probably not your person if his intentions are unclear or fuzzy don't put your energy into him don't go out with him you want to a man who knows what he wants and you want a man who knows that he wants you okay hi that is half the battle in finding a good life partner and if he doesn't have those two things then don't

put your energy into him a man who truly cares for you and is interested in you he will make it clear you know that's saying if he wanted to he would it is so true if he doesn't want to on his own he doesn't naturally want to pursue you if his intentions are like me like you don't really know what he wants he's not your soulmate don't get your heart and your emotions all tangled into that is not worth it so if he has clear intentions with you green flag now last green flag number eight

is that he is not afraid to talk about a future with you now of course this is going to look different depending on where you're at in their relationship if it's a first date he's probably not going to be talking about marriage with you but he might talk about that cute little mini golf place that he wants to take you to next or that fun new restaurant that just opened that he wants to take you to next he's still talking about the future but in a way that's more appropriate to where you're at in the

relationship or if you have been with him for like over 6 months deeply committed to each other is he open and comfortable talking about a future with you does he feel excited by the prospect of a future with you or does he always try to change the subject in my opinion I do think that men know what they want pretty early on when it comes to marriage though just keep in mind that sometimes there are other components that stop them from wanting that it could be sometimes they want to reach a certain level in their

career before they do it or have a certain amount of income before they do it and that's why I think it's important to have those open and honest conversations with him so you actually really know where he's at but if he just hesitates to talk about the future with you then he is likely not very committed to you and there's no reason to spend time with a man who's not actually committed to you if he talks happily about future oriented things with you that is a good sign even if that's just him being super excited

to bring you to his cousin's wedding this summer so you can meet his whole extended family that is a good sign of a man who has clear intentions a man who values you who sees a potential future with you and is likely in it for the right reasons I remember like six months into my relationship with my husband I accidentally said something that I thought was embarrassing I said something like oh well when we're married dot dot dot I said something like that and then I immediately was like oh oops I didn't mean to say

that and I was kind of embarrassed and he was just like I like that you said that and I was like Anyway if he's not afraid to talk about the future with you green flag but use discernment here just because he's not jumping into marriage with you after 2 months it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you or that he's not committed or that he's not the right guy you get what I mean by this now one of the best ways to attract a highquality masculine man is to be in your feminine energy and

that's why I recommend you go watch this video 10 tiny micro habits to increase your feminine energy this is what my most popular videos so if you haven't watched it I think you should go check it out now let me know your thoughts in the comments below what do you think do you agree with my green flags do you disagree are there any big green flags that you think that I missed comment down below thank you so much for watching I always appreciate you staying until the very end and I'll see you next time