(Full story) My parents didn't notice that I moved to another state, but now my father is calling…

my parents didn't notice that I moved to another state but now my father is calling me and demanding that I visit them or he will stop paying for my college education so I told him that I already graduated a year ago and I earned 10 times his income I'm the child in the family who was always looked down on by my dad he was just obsessed with my brother then he says you know what I don't care if you got accepted to some prestigious College you have to go to the local College because we don't

want your brother to be jealous of you well you know what guys I pretended everything was okay I said you know what Dad okay fine I'll go to that college on one condition I get to stay in the dorms well I lied to him I pretended to stay in the dorms and went to the prestigious college on a scholarship he doesn't know about but when he finds out he's going to explode what would you do if the people who barely acknowledged Your Existence for 3 years suddenly wanted you to show up and play family for

a day that would be one heck of a tricky situation right I mean it's always going to be like that with family especially family like mine let me start from the beginning my name's Jonas and if you haven't guessed by now my family is all sorts of Twisted and I mean it that is if you can even call it a family I mean what do you call the people who gave birth to you only to suddenly forget about you when they found a better version of you can that even be called family let me put

it straight instead of running around in circles I could have had a happy family if my parents actually treated both their children equally but no my parents are a bunch of biased jerks who have been treating me like background noise for as long as I can remember just because my brother Roman was the healthier kid I mean Roman was one of those healthy cute babies who caught everyone's attention in a jiffy while I was the skinny average looking one that nobody particularly wanted to hold but should these things actually affect parents so much that they

start differentiating between their kids it shouldn't right but it was different with my parents Patrick and Marin within a month of Roman's birth he became their Golden Child the baby who got them praise from everyone I mean he wasn't extraordinary or anything he was just the better-looking one what people call the main character so everyone was taken by him while I was always the supporting character standing there in the background always forgotten you can imagine what a horrible childhood I must have had my parents ignored me and only paid for my basic necessities while my

arrogant brother let all of this attention get to his head all of this pampering and Extra Care LED Roman to grow up as a spoiler Brad who cared for no one but himself so you can imagine what kind of relationship we shared I was the shy introverted kid while Roman turned out to be a big old bully can you imagine that being bullied by your little brother yeah well that was the case for me it seemed like Roman had made it his life's mission to make mine miserable whether through crazy Tantrums that got my parents

to ruin my plans or by directly taking away the things I liked it was a bad situation in itself am I right now add a pair of biased parents into the equation and you can imagine how miserable my childhood was my parents were the root cause of Roman growing up to be such a brat while Roman got showered with new toys attention and praise I got well let's just say I never had to worry about being spoiled my birthdays were a formality my achievements never mattered much and my role in the family was more or

less that of a background prop I remember one time in third grade when I got straight A's on my report card I was excited you know I thought maybe just this once I'd get a pat on the back or something but when I showed it to my mother all I got was that's good as she continued talking about what a cute little drawing Roman had made that we just had to put on the refrigerator yes Roman crooked dog drawing took center stage while my Straight a report card was tossed into the pile of Forgotten papers

in the junk drawer so you see how things were I was like that forgotten report card while my brother was praised for every little thing but it wasn't just the little things oh no Roman got to pick where we went on family vacations what we had for dinner and even what we watched on television every time I tried to select something I was shut down and that idiot Roman rubbed it in my face as much as he possibly could he was The King and I was nothing more than a servant so I guess you can

start to understand why I wanted to leave this hell hole as soon as I could and I even got the perfect opportunity I was looking to pursue a bachelor's degree and landed a scholarship at one of the top colleges in the world it was a really prestigious College the type that guarantees a successful career for its students getting a scholarship there oh boy that's a dream but here's the catch it was a few states away and like everything I held dear in my life my parents couldn't let me have this one either you can click

on share and more to see if there is a part two part two want to know the reason of course it was Roman my parents even said that I could just study at the local College in our state as it was a better opportunity and option they argued that since Roman who was not that bright academically might feel bad that I got opportunities to study at such a prestigious College while he couldn't I should stay local I mean what was stopping him he could have worked his butt off like I did and gotten what he

wanted but of course none of this made sense to my parents they told me I had to go to the local College you see how ridiculous this whole thing was somewhere in my mind I thought they were doing this just to ensure I didn't out shine Roman it was like they saw potential in me but actively chose to ignore it as if giving me any real support would somehow threaten Roman's Golden Child status why else would they pushed so hard for me to stay at the local College while Roman who wasn't even half as ambitious

got all the encouragement in the world it was as though I wasn't supposed to be more successful than him that wasn't part of their script but did I let that foolishness get to me no I mean no I had already sacrificed a lot to keep up with the family and their crazy biased Antics but I decided I'd had enough I told my parents that I would only settle for the local College if they allowed me to stay in the college dorms my parents agreed a bit too happily thinking they had convinced me to stay back

at the local college but did they really not a chance in hell I took the scholarship and moved states away while my parents believed I was studying at the local College the best part was that the prestigious College I got admitted to have the finance course I wanted in just two years while the local College offered it in four so it was perfect because this meant I could graduate earlier than my parents even expected honestly it was the best decision I ever made not only did I escape the hell hole my parents created but this

college was the epitome of success I say this because right after graduating I landed a six-figure salary and I've been in this job for a year things are actually looking up for me as I'm even close to getting a promotion I managed it all the scholarship covered 70% of the fees while I used the money my father sent supposedly for the local College fees to cover other expenses now I'm living the good life my father still sends me money thinking I'm studying at the local college and I haven't told him to stop I know it's

sort of wrong but I consider it payback for the last 3 years I've been in low contact with my family there were a few checkup calls here and there and even one or two visits to my house during the holidays so they wouldn't get too suspicious other than that they haven't bothered me much and I've been able to stay away telling them I've been busy with studies honestly they don't seem to care much anyway I mean why would they they had their Golden Child now the one guy they were forced to take care of was

out of their lives so it was a win-win for my parents I was actually content with this Arrangement it did hurt from time to time that my parents didn't care enough to know I had moved states away but the sadness was tempered by the piece of no longer having their toxic presence around me truth be told though I did miss having a family not a dysfunctional one like mine but just the feeling of having a family that actually cared about me despite all the friends and luxuries it felt like something was missing from my life

however this seemed impossible to fix until this morning today my father called to inform me that Roman was getting married and he wanted me there days before the wedding to help with preparations I was taken back was my father really asking me to come home I had craved this moment for so long especially when he told me I was part of the family and he wanted everyone present for Roman's big day I actually got emotional my parents had never acknowledged me as part of their family for them it was mostly them and Roman but now

my father especially wanted me at the wedding it was overwhelming this newfound recognition from my parents but then again I was reminded that these were the same people who had ignored me throughout my childhood even now they didn't know their eldest son was living states away from them do I really want to go back to these people only to be ignored again like I've been my entire life this is where I find myself stuck in a dilemma and I want to ask you all what would you do if you were in my shoes I miss

the sense of family and it would be great to have them care about me for once but the thought of going back only for them to shatter my expectations yet again haunts me should I accept their invitation and go to my brother's wedding just for the sake of family or should I stick to my decision of living far away from them and not let them hurt me again before we dive into the it's been 2 days and I've had a lot of time to think about what I should do in the end I've decided to

protect my peace even though some of you might not agree with my decision I chose not to accept my father's invitation to Roman's wedding and honestly it feels like the best decision I've ever made spoiler alert my parents haven't changed and they never will let me pick up where I left off in my initial post after some thought I texted my father simply stating that I wouldn't be able to make it no long-winded explanation no excuses just the truth I wasn't coming I expected a bit of push back but I didn't expect how quickly the

manipulation would start start within an hour my phone was blowing up with texts left and right first my mother tried to guil trip me she asked if I really wanted to miss Roman's big day if I wanted to be that brother and how disappointed Roman would be if I wasn't there she went on about how much it would mean to Roman if his older brother were present really she also tried to play the you only get one family card but here's the thing Roman's big day didn't mean a thing to me because Roman had never

once cared about any of my important days not one and yeah you only get one family but you can click on share and more to see if there is a part three part three but only if they act right you know so I told the same thing to my mother that I was not coming and when the guilt tripping didn't work my father stepped in with his own set of crazy tactics he tried to play it cool at first saying things like how family should stick together for occasions like this when I still didn't budge

he decided to play dirty he called me and said that if I didn't show up to Roman's wedding they would stop paying for my college fees he claimed they couldn't afford to have people whispering about how one of their sons wasn't present at such an important event basically they wanted to maintain the facade of a happy family for all the friends and neighbors it was all about appearances as usual not about me not about Roman but about how the family was viewed by others that's when I actually lost it I mean how selfish could someone

possibly be threatening to stop paying my college fees just so I would show up at a wedding it was so stupid even more so considering I didn't care about a dime of the money they gave me so I told my father go ahead stop paying the college fees I'm not coming to the wedding and nothing you say or threaten will change that I still didn't tell them that I had graduated a year ago and was living states away with a six-figure job in a life they could never have given me I didn't want them to

know how good my life was yet or where I was because they would just ruin the good things in my life I know I have to tell them the truth sometime and I will soon enough but for now I was having fun my refusal to attend my brother's wedding even after my father's threats only made him angrier he ranted about how ungrateful I was how I had always been difficult and how he was going to withdraw my name from the local College to teach me a lesson he said it like it was some great threat

as if being removed from a place I had never even set foot in would devastate me little did he know the truth was far from that honestly I couldn't help but laugh I could have told him I was never enrolled in the local College but where's the fun in that guys so now I'm just waiting for my father to go and try to withdraw my name from a college I was never even enrolled in I'm honestly waiting for his reaction when he realizes I don't need him or his money anymore that's going to be a

shocker and it's only a matter of time before my phone rings again with another set of insults I honestly can't wait anyway I'll keep you guys updated on what happens until then so long hey guys it's Jonas again I know it's been um just a day since my previous update but the NeverEnding drama of my life just got a lot crazier after my last post I had a feeling my father wouldn't take my refusal to attend Roman's wedding lightly turns out I was right it all started with a phone call from him this morning and

boy was he livid he was Furious and didn't waste a single second before asking me where I'd been all this time and what the hell i' had been doing with all the money he sent for my college fees it was like watching a toddler throw a tantrum about not getting his favorite toy only this time it was my father Driven Crazy by the events around him apparently after our last call my father had gone to the local College yes this is where it gets really interesting he went there to withdraw my name just so he

could teach me a lesson that guy was so delusional that he thought withdrawing my name from the college and cutting off my education would make me come to Roman's wedding clearly he was mistaken so obviously when my father went to the local College he was in for the surprise of his life the local College had no record of my enrollment it must have been quite a scene my father standing there trying to cancel my enrollment while there was no Jonas in the college I bet the whole realization hit him like a punch in the gut

naturally the anger from his brief humiliation at the college was clear in his tone during our call he wanted answers as to where I'd been these past 3 months and what I'd been doing with all that money but honestly the situation was so ridiculous that I couldn't help but laugh after some more Angry Words from my father and a bit of stalling from me I decided to tell him the truth I told him that I had already graduated a year ago on a scholarship and the money he had been sending for my college fees had

been a great help then I dropped the bigger bomb I told him I now had a six-figure salary and was earning more than him the disappointment in his tone was clear when he asked if I was kidding but he knew it wasn't a joke the realization that I was no longer the struggling student he thought I was but an independent man with a great life must have been a bitter pill for him to swallow I was ready for what came next as soon as my father processed what I had just just said he started lashing

out accusing me of betrayal for keeping them in the dark he ranted about how much he had done for me only to be met with this betrayal done so much for me was he talking about how he and my mother ignored me for years to do on their favorite child then he came up with the stupidest idea ever he told me the only way he would forgive me was if I attended Roman's wedding and ensured there was no Scandal or gossip about the family I couldn't believe it this man still only cared about his image

I don't get why he's suddenly so obsessed with the family's image it never bothered him before anyway I told him I didn't need his forgiveness and I certainly didn't want to be a part of their charade pretending we were one big happy family my father still Furious tried to convince me to come to the wedding he honestly seemed desperate at this point but I stood my ground I told him there wasn't a chance in hell I would attend the wedding of the man who ruined my childhood not only that but I also told him I

was done with the drama and was cutting them off my father was shocked but I didn't stay quiet I had spent my entire childhood that way taking everything quietly but not anymore I told him I didn't want any of them to contact me again and that they could enjoy their golden Sons wedding without me while I enjoyed my life my Dad tried to manipulate me emotionally again but this time I wasn't having it you can click on share and more to see if there is a part four part four talking about how I was his

son and that I must attend my brother's wedding but I was done I just told him that he only ever had one son since he was the one they all seemed to care about so they could keep it that way as I was happily cutting them off I didn't even give my father another chance to reply I just cut the call and blocked his number Dot and this is where I stand right now officially cut off from the toxic presence of my family it's a Bittersweet feeling since I never wanted things to come to this

but I'm also somewhat content because I know it had to be done at least now I can live my life peacefully and if things go well maybe I can make a family of my own someday so it's been over a month since I cut my family off I thought I was done with all that drama and manipulation but obviously they could not let things go so easily a few days ago out of nowhere I got this call from an unknown number it turned out to be my mother full-on sobbing I had blocked all their calls

so I was a bit taken aback when I got this one out of the blue I decided not to hang up on her thinking something bad might have happened but it was nothing of that sort she started telling me how much she misses me and how she just wanted her son back she said she didn't care about what me or dad did none of that mattered to her she just wanted me to be part of the family again thought I was confused I mean where was this energy before when I told them I was cutting

them off they didn't seem to care and now all of a sudden my mother wanted to patch things up that was a bit suspicious don't you think so I just hung up on her telling her i' talked to her later I had this feeling something wasn't right so I reached out to my aunt my mom's sister to see if she had any insight boy what she told me was crazy and it confirmed all my doubts do apparently Roman's wedding was an absolute disaster a complete crap storm it turns out that his oo perfect fiance was

basically a full-blown scammer before the wedding she somehow convinced Roman my parents and a bunch of family members to invest all their savings into some shady once in a lifetime investment opportunity and guess what it was all a fraud she took the money and dipped there was no wedding she's gone and so are my family savings dot but that wasn't even the end of it my aunt also told me that my parents were in way deeper trouble than I thought apparently my father caused some kind of scene with an employee and his family which led

to a huge loss in his already dying business and then it all clicked for me this is why he was so desperate to get get me to the wedding because he wanted to save his image by showing how he valued his perfect family and all those values but of course it didn't work this Fiasco with Roman and his fiance just added to the bad press dot so basically they're losing money left and right and to make things worse they put their house up as collateral for a loan to try to save the business but of

course that blew up in their faces too and now they're about to lose their home they had to move into some rundown trailer or studio apartment because that was all they could afford now everything was clear to me do my mom wasn't calling because she missed me or wanted me back it was because they desperately needed me they knew I was doing well for myself and now wanted to use me as a safety net I understood it all they were out of options and I was their last hope well I wasn't playing that game I

wasn't getting dragged back into their mess especially now that I saw the whole picture dot I mean they never cared about me because they were too busy catering to Roman and all his needs but here's the catch my parents are now even fighting with Roman because they blame him for everything for the entire wedding Fiasco for all the money they lost it's kind of funny actually The Golden Child they built their lives around as the one who ruined it all and not going to lie it gave me some sense of satisfaction that they were finally

seeing the error their ways dot anyway I couldn't care less I'm staying out of the drama after my mother called me I blocked her again I wasn't going to let her emotionally manipulate me dot but did that stop my parents from reaching out no of course not this was them being desperate and clingy people who refus to accept things not going their way soon enough my parents showed up at my home don't ask me how I don't know how they got the address but I guess they badgered some of my old buddies for information but

the how doesn't matter what matters is that they turned up at my door reminding me of family values and how as their older son I was their responsibility and now somehow they were mind do I slammed the door in their faces of course as They begged me to help them saying they were broke and had spent the last of their savings booking a flight to meet me well that sucks for them but I wasn't going to help dot this isn't even the end of it a few days later Roman showed up at my doorstep literally

crying and begging me for help he said he missed having his big brother in his life I don't know what big brother he's talking about because all I remember is him bullying me I told him as much but he kept begging saying that Mom and Dad were going to cut him off soon because they were mad at him for getting them into this mess dot it was all for nothing Roman met the same fate as my parents I shut the the door in his face too warning him that if any of them showed up again

i' call the police dot since then I haven't heard from any of them and honestly I don't care I'm done with this toxic family I do feel a bit sad that things with my family came to this because the void they left will always be there in my life life but I'm not taking their crap anymore just for the sake of family