5 Things Men Should Never Do With Women | Stoicism

if there's one thing that separates men who naturally attract women from those who constantly struggle it's this they know what not to do most advice focuses on what men should do how to be more confident how to impress her how to keep her interested and while those things matter what's often more important are the mistakes you must avoid at all costs because attraction isn't just about making the Right Moves it's about not making the wrong ones and here's where most men go wrong they assume that if they just try harder if they're nicer if they

give more if they go out of their way to please her they'll win her over but in reality some behaviors don't just kill attraction they erase it entirely the worst part most men don't even realize they're making these mistakes they keep wondering why she lost interest why she pulled away why she suddenly started treating them differently but by the time they figure it out it's already too late so today we're cutting through the noise these are the five things you should never do with a woman if you want her respect her desire and her genuine

attraction you must avoid these at all costs let's begin Thing One never seek validation from her validation seeking is one of the biggest attraction Killers yet most men don't even realize they're doing it it it comes in many forms needing constant reassurance do you still like me are you mad at me overe explaining yourself I just wanted to make sure you didn't misunderstand me asking for permission to be yourself is it okay if I say this fishing for compliments do you think I'm funny am I attractive to you at its core validation seeking is about

insecurity it's about placing your sense of worth in her hands instead of standing firm in who you are and here's the truth women don't want to be your emotional caretaker the moment she feels like she's responsible for making you feel good about yourself the attraction starts to die she wants a man who already knows his own worth not someone waiting for her to tell him he's enough so how do you stop one detach from her reaction oh if you say say something funny don't look at her to see if she laughed if you make a

decision don't second guess it based on her opinion stand firm two give validation don't seek it oh instead of needing her to confirm your worth turn the tables observe her challenge her compliment her in a way that shows you see her depth not just her beauty three remember she's attracted to confidence not neediness oh confidence isn't isn't about arrogance it's about being secure in yourself whether she approves or not a man who doesn't seek validation is a man who commands respect and a man who commands respect commands attraction thing two never put her on a

pedestal there's a dangerous belief that many men hold the idea that if they treat a woman like a queen she'll treat them like a king but in reality the more you put a woman on a pedestal the more she looks down on you most men don't realize this but attraction is not built through worship it's built through respect and a woman cannot respect you if you act like she's above you this doesn't mean you should treat her badly it means you should treat her like a human not a goddess because here's the truth she doesn't

want to be worshiped she wants to be challenged intrigued and engaged she wants a man who stands beside her not beneath her so how do you stop putting her on a pedestal one don't over compliment oh if you constantly tell her how amazing she is she will stop believing it Compliments are most powerful when they are earned and rare two have your own life owe a man who puts a woman on a pedestal usually does so because he has nothing else going for him get busy have goals have purpose three call her out oh if

she does something disrespectful say something if she's acting entitled don't tolerate it a woman respects a man who sets boundaries and holds his ground a woman doesn't fall for a man because he worships her she falls for him because she feels something real when she's around him and real attraction does not exist in fantasy thing three never let her control the relationship a woman will test you not because she's manipulative not because she's cruel but because she needs to know who you really are she will test your patience your confidence your ability to hold your

ground and if you fail she will lose respect for you the worst thing you can do as a man is let a woman dictate the direction of the relationship this happens when you agree to everything she says to keep the peace you let her make all the decisions because you're afraid of upsetting her you apologize constantly even when you've done nothing wrong a woman doesn't want to lead she wants to trust that you can leadership doesn't mean control it means Direction a man who knows where he's going and stands firm in his path is a

man a woman can trust if you let her take control she will resent you for it thing four never be be afraid to walk away nothing destroys attraction faster than a man who is afraid to lose a woman men who fear losing a woman will compromise themselves tolerate disrespect and put up with situations that drain them all in the name of keeping her around but here's the Paradox the man who is least afraid to lose a woman is the one who keeps her the longest because she knows he's not with her out of desperation he's

with her by choice a man who stays because he wants to not because he needs to is a man who commands respect and respect is the foundation of all attraction but when you fear losing her you become too agreeable you stop setting boundaries you let disrespect slide you tolerate bad behavior because you don't want to rock the boat and in doing so you show her something dangerous that your self-worth is tied to her presence women don't want to be your purpose they don't want to be the thing holding you together they want to feel that

you would be fine with or without them why walking away is powerful walking away isn't about playing games it's not about making her chase you or proving some kind of point it's about self-respect when a man walks away he's saying I have standards I have boundaries and if they're not met I'm gone and this does something powerful to a woman's psychology she realizes this man is rare most men tolerate bad behavior most men will bend over backward change their personality and accept less than they deserve just to keep her around but a man who can

walk away that's a man who has options and a man who has options is a man who is naturally attractive the psychological effect of walking away women are wired to be drawn to Men Who value themselves if you can't walk away from a situation that isn't serving you it tells her you one don't believe you can do better two are emotionally dependent on her three will tolerate anything to keep her around none of these things spark attraction in fact they do the opposite but when you walk away you trigger a deep instinctive response in her

she sees you as a man who isn't afraid to lose her she realizes she must bring her best to keep you because the truth is women don't want a man they can control they want a man they have to earn when to walk away one when she disrespects you oh disrespect can come in many forms dismissing your opinions mocking your Ambitions constantly testing your patience the moment you tolerate it you teach her that it's a acceptable two when she plays mind games oh if she's constantly hot and cold if she's stringing you along if she

enjoys making you feel uncertain about where you stand walk these are power plays not love three when she's no longer interested or if she's pulling away not engaging or treating you like an option match her energy and leave never beg for attention if she values you she'll notice your absence how to walk away with strength one don't announce it just do it a weak men try to make a scene or say things like you'll regret this strong men they simply disappear two don't make it about her make it about you or you're not walking away

to punish her you're walking away because you refuse to stay in a situation that doesn't serve you three never look back of the biggest mistake men make walking away but then checking in texting her or hoping she comes back if you walk you walk for good final truth a man who can walk away is a man who chooses his own self-respect over temporary comfort and that that is the kind of man a woman never wants to lose thing five never be inconsistent with who you are women are drawn to certainty not the kind that comes

from arrogance or false bravado but the kind that comes from a man who knows himself who doesn't waver shift or mold himself to fit someone else's expectations a man who is inconsistent who says one thing but does another who changes depending on who he's with who adjusts his personality like a chameleon will always lose a woman's respect because deep down she's looking for something solid a foundation that doesn't crack Under Pressure a presence that doesn't dissolve when challenged a man who no matter where he is remains himself and the sad truth most men fail this

test without even realizing it they think they're being adaptable that they're just reading the room they change their humor their values their opinions all to avoid conflict all to be liked but what they don't see is that every time they shift to please someone else they lose a little bit of their authenticity and that is the fastest way to kill attraction women are wired to seek stability in a partner not just Financial stability or social status but something far deeper emotional and psychological stability this is because biologically speaking a woman's survival especially in ancient times

depended on choosing a man she could trust a man who would stand firm in danger who wouldn't crack under stress who wouldn't say one thing and do another so when a man is inconsistent when his moods shift unpredictably when his words don't match his actions when he acts one way in public but differently in private her instincts tell her he is unsafe she may not even consciously realize it but she'll start pulling away she'll test him more she'll feel less and less drawn to him not because he's a bad guy but because he isn't solid

how inconsistency kills attraction one it makes her question who you really are oh if you're always changing she can never trust that what you're showing her is the real you she'll start doubting your words second guessing your intentions and ultimately losing interest two it signals weakness not adaptability oh a strong man can adapt to different situ situations without losing himself he can be fun at a party serious in a meeting comforting to a friend all while remaining the same person at his core but a man who completely changes depending on his environment he looks weak

like someone who needs external approval to function three it makes her feel unsafe oh if today you say you love deep conversations but tomorrow you act like you don't care about any anything serious oh if one moment you talk about commitment and the next you avoid the topic oh if you act confident around your friends but insecure when you're alone with her oh she won't know which version of you to trust and a woman who doesn't trust you can never truly desire you the power of being unshakable the most attractive men in history the ones

who left a lasting impression were the ones who never bent to fit the world around them think of Marcus Aurelius a Roman Emperor a philosopher a leader despite all the chaos around him he remained firm in his principles never shifting based on public opinion or Bruce Lee he adapted in battle yes but at his core he remained true to his philosophy his discipline his Essence and even today the most magnetic men are the ones who stand their ground not in an aggressive stubborn way way but in a way that says this is who I am

I will evolve I will grow but I will never betray myself and that that is rare that is powerful how to stop being inconsistent one Define your values and stick to them oh if you don't know what you stand for you'll fall for anything take time to clarify what matters to you and once you do don't abandon those values just because a situation gets gets uncomfortable two be the same man in all situations oh whether you're with your boss your best friend or a woman you're attracted to be the same person adjust your approach when

needed but never adjust your character three match your words with your actions oh if you say you'll do something do it if you claim to have a certain mindset live by it the moment your actions and words don't align you lose credibility and attraction dies attraction isn't just about what you do it's about what you refuse to tolerate a man who seeks validation puts a woman on a pedestal lets her control the relationship fears walking away or is inconsistent in who he is loses respect loses power and ultimately loses attraction but a man who stands

first who knows his worth who leads without fear and who never compromises his self-respect that's the man she remembers that's the man she values that's the man she desires because in a world full of men who Bend break and beg a man who stands unshaken is rare so ask yourself are you the kind of man A woman can't help but respect or are you just another man hoping for her approval the choice is yours if you found this valuable subscribe for more insights stay strong stay sharp and I'll see you in the next one