Three Secrets to Thriving After Losing Your Spouse – You Won’t Believe #2!

life in this world you never know how far the person you love can accompany you mizaki Hao said life is like a train and everyone can only accompany you for part of the journey when they have to get off you should be grateful because they have spent a wonderful time with you if someone can accompany you throughout the journey you should be even more grateful having a partner when you're young and when you're old is a blessing but not all love can last a lifetime some Partners leave this world early due to illness or disaster

when the spous is gone the house becomes empty as if life has lost its support however no matter how sad or painful it is time does not stop for anyone and the deceased will not come back to life when your spouse dies you have to heal yourself while living your life well three experienced individuals share their personal stories to tell middle-aged and elderly friends that if your spouse leaves first you must refuse to do three things to live a decent life in your later years doing so will make your later years comfortable and pleasant first

refusal immersing in excessive grief for too long when a partner who has accompanied you for most of your life leaves early even with the companionship of children The Emptiness in the heart is hard to fill that space belongs uniquely to the partner where you nostalgically linger unwilling to leave 67-year-old misley said when I was 64 my husband passed away whenever I recall the time when he just left I still find it hard to accept during those days I was like a Walking Corpse feeling that life was meaningless many times I thought I might as well

follow him I often cried myself to sleep especially at night when I couldn't sleep for whole nights looking at the wide double bed where now only I lay it was inevitable to feel sad but every time I looked at our old photos smiling so happily I thought maybe I should persist a little longer my husband wouldn't want me to live like this no matter how sad I was tears wouldn't bring him back so I continue to be sad living well and letting him in another world feel at ease is what I should do misley finally

figured it out indeed the separation of life and death is the saddest thing in the world but the deceased are gone and the living continue no matter how happy the past was or How Sweet the memories you cannot always dwell in the past and neglect the present Beauty and future hopes learning to look forward and live well in the present is not only a duty to oneself but also a way to let the deceased spouse rest in peace when the spouse is gone first stay calm Comfort yourself take good care of your health keep a

clear mind and not let grief overwhelm you slowly adjust your mindset regain confidence and live a self-sufficient and strong life cheer up eat when you want sleep when you can stroll in the park and walk around the streets do not rely on others learn to enjoy Solitude with elegance and wisdom nurturing your spiritual world and loneliness like sipping aged wine savoring your endless life when lonely you can check with friends talk about everything and find joy and Solitude this way the lonely later years will still be enjoyable second refusal over relying on children for the

rest of your life when old and the spouse is gone the closest people are your children many single parents think of living with a particular child believing it is the best retirement however nowadays young people prefer to live separately not wanting to live with elderly parents it's not just different living habits but also different consumption views and child rearing Concepts some elderly after their spouse leaves wish their children could be with them 247 or at least take them in for a while thinking this is the children's duty of filial piety however the elderly forget that

young people also have their own families and many pressures unseen by us if they focus on accompanying their parents they cannot strive for their own lives experiences of Mrs how 65-year-old Mrs how said after my spouse passed away I lived with my daughter for many years and now I live alone again initially I believed that the mutual support between parents and children was natural I raised you when you were young and you accompan me in my old age however after dedicating everything to my daughter's family what I got in return was growing disdain over time

my husband and I were both retirees I didn't think about how to live alone beli leaving that we would grow old together but a disease took my husband away leaving me alone my daughter had just given birth to a grandson then and my son-in-law took me in saying I should live with them and retire I was grateful for their advice and comfort seeing my grandson I considered him a Reincarnation of my husband and dedic ated all my time and energy to him helping with household chores at my daughter's place initially my daughter and son-in-law gave

me some money monthly for living expenses but later they stopped because I had my pension as my grandson grew my pension was not enough for the family of four I mentioned this to my daughter many times but she seemed impatient occasionally giving me some money mostly pretending to forget the elderly talk a lot and living together inevitably leads to disagreements sometimes I couldn't help but criticize my daughter for not knowing how to live frally shopping online every day without saving for a rainy day and regarding my grandson's education my daughter and son-in-law let him develop

naturally while I believed that children should be disciplined from an early age over time there was a gap between us they spoke to me less politely and respectfully reflecting on my ear at my daughter's place I chose to live alone again when I proposed returning home they said they would miss me but were obviously happy and relieved it seemed my presence was a burden they needed my help when my grandson was young but now they could manage on their own back home initially I felt lonely and idle not busy anymore and life was simple but

I felt empty and lost without emotional support after a while I learned to enjoy Solitude rediscovered some of my interests joined calligraphy and painting classes and Community groups making a few like-minded friends my days are fulfilling I realized that a life of money Leisure and freedom is the ideal I have longed for after my husband passed away I finally lived the retirement life I wanted third refusal rashly finding a new partner or remarrying it said that second marriages are often risky while this isn't entirely true it's not entirely wrong either as elderly remarriages often involve

habits and Views formed over decades everyone has their own selfishness and it's hard to truly walk the rest of the journey together sincerely when old and the spouse is gone one may feel lonely and fearful of the future finding a like-minded companion for Mutual support is okay but elderly remarriages come with risks and complications finding a considerate companion is challenging and a wrong choice could bring Calamity to the remaining years experiences of Mrs Fong 62-year-old Mrs Fong said having been through two marriages my first husband died when I was 53 3 years later I remarried

but divorced within a year thinking about my second marriage still pains and angers me I want to share my experience to remind others considering remarriage at 50 I retired hoping to travel with my husband after his retirement making up for lost time unfortunately he died of illness before retirement after he passed I was in deep grief for a long time my son seeing me so depressed was worried and wanted me to live with him but I didn't want to trouble him they were busy enough my son then wanted to to enroll me in a senior

Travel Group to cheer me up but I didn't want to trouble him so I enrolled in a dance and poetry recitation class myself there I met my second husband Mr Lou initially we were just acquaintances one day I sprang my ankle going down the stairs Mr loot immediately helped me to the hospital and took care of me at home for those few days I couldn't attend the class but he came over daily to help gradually we got closer two months later Mr L proposed saying he liked me and wanted to live together for Mutual support

I was happy but didn't agree immediately saying I'd discuss it with my son my son didn't oppose but suggested meeting Mr Lou's family to see how they were Mr Lou agreed readily that night both families had dinner together afterward my son advised me to observe more and not rush into marriage but I didn't listen thinking Mr Lou was good enough a few days later we registered our marriage and I moved into his house initially we got along well though I did all the housework I didn't mind as I did it before conflicts began when three

old friends invited me to travel I agreed without hesitation but Mr Lou was unhappy saying no one would do the housework if I went I felt unfair was I hired to do housework that day we argued fiercely he said hurtful things implying I was useless without housework for the first time I doubted the marriage returning from the trip things got worse Mr Lou's son divorced leaving a grandson with us at first I took care of him as my own but he was spoiled picky with food throwing Tantrums if displeased after some days I couldn't handle

him I talked to Mr Lou suggesting his son take the grandson Mr Lou opposed strongly saying you're not my grandson's mother so don't interfere if you can't do it stay out of it I felt extremely wronged finally understanding that remarriage at this age is challenging it's hard to gain acceptance from the new partner's family after months of end during I filed for divorce as I couldn't live like this anymore thankfully the divorce was smooth reflecting now I think living alone might be lonely but it's better than dealing with so many problems conclusion life is long

you can live it any way you want but it passes quickly everyone experiences ups and downs in life and loneliness can enrich us if we accept it and live a better life taking care of yourself learning to find joy and loneliness spending time on Hobbies meeting new friends and accepting life's changes will make your later years vibrant refusing excessive grief dependence on children and rash remarriage will bring you a rich fulfilling old age e