Play is the essence of game: how to effectively seduce anyone

I'm Dr Orion taban and this is psyx Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is play is the essence of game now when I say game I'm talking about game in the colloquial sense of the ability to effectively seduce game is the ability to win the game of Seduction this is something that many people especially men want to learn and today I'm going to reveal the secret at the heart of this Talent so let let's get to it now game is often misunderstood sometimes people think that game is slightly ridiculous it's

gimmicky pickup tactics or tacky scripted exchanges on the other hand other people think that game is dark and malevolent it's Machiavellian and manipulative in the sense that the man is attempting to satisfy his sexual desire at the expense of the woman and both of these expressions of game do exist in reality let's not pretend that they don't however I think that both really miss the mark with respect to the heart of game which is play play is the essence of game so let's talk about play for a minute play also gets a bad rap it's

something that children do not mature and serious adults like us and when it does occur it's something silly or trivial a bit of entertainment or a fantastic interlude before we get back to the important business of life we think that play only occurs during clearly defined periods of leisure which legitimizes the time outside of those periods as not play ironically playing at not playing is the most common and pervasive form of play there is unfortunately most people are so identified with their play they are so psychologically close to their roles that they truly don't believe

that they are playing and will become offended at the suggestion that they are this is precisely why play is so dangerous and therefore effective in seduction it's transgressive in the sense that it can alter a person's fundamental sense of reality so what is play play occurs when a person succeeds in cultivating the perception of a separate reality within the overarching reality that is only accessible to the initiated in which the objects of play assume a special significance independent of their meaning in the overarching reality consider what a child does whereas you or I might just

see a pencil which perception will activate all of a pencil's attendant associations a child might see a spaceship hurdling through the Cosmos on a desperate mission to save the Galaxy and anyone initiated into that play will also see the pencil as a spaceship the ability to cultivate that Vision in another is the essence of play now adults don't really see the spaceship they might play along with the child but they usually can't really play with him and because of this they believe that unlike the child they exist in objective reality don't be fooled this is

merely because perceiving a pencil as a spacecraft is a bridge too far for most adults it's too overtly Whimsical or ludicrous on the other hand if I were say to see you as you most desire in your heart of hearts to be seen you will likely join me in that shared reality if While most other people just see you as a person like any other I were to see a ravishing beauty or an unappreciated genius or a spiritual Guru or even just a capable adult the temptation to join with me will likely prove greater than

your capacity to resist provided I can identify the right desire the reason why this works is that most people secretly believe these things about themselves their vanity Harbors the conviction that they are exceptional in some regard and they must constantly contend with the ego injury of being surrounded by people who in their own ignorance and self-interest cannot recognize them as such meeting someone who sees them not as everyone else sees them but as they see themselves means entering into a shared reality in which things are slightly more the way they believe they should be it's

meeting someone who also sees the spaceship this is the essence of play and it's a very seductive Prospect if you appreciate the insights on this channel I would highly encourage you to get your hands on a copy of my book the value of others over the course of 432 pages I delve deep into my economic model of relationships and explain the behavior of both men and women in the game of mating and dating I also provide a lot of actionable advice on how to get and keep more of what you want in the sexual Marketplace

once you read the value of others you'll never look at relationships the same way again now available in ebook audiobook and paperback formats the links are in the description now it's also important to keep in mind that the best play is serious play like when we watch a movie we want the actors to take their roles seriously if if they were to break the fourth wall or step out of character the illusion is shattered and we can no longer be seduced into the world of the film we may even be annoyed and ask for our

money back and this is why the best seducers are sincere and the next best seducers can Fain sincerity effectively that is if you get the sense that I don't truly believe that you're a ravishing beauty or an unappreciated genius or what have you and that I'm only playing along with your desired self-perception like the adult who humors a child by swearing the pencil is a spaceship then the spell of Seduction is broken the play was to obviously play which prevented you from getting swept up into the story for play to succeed it must be serious

and sincere that is it must pretend it isn't play this is what I mean when I say that people play at not playing as this is the most effective and therefore desirable kind of play of course it's important to remember that even when you're playing and not playing you're still playing you are not who you think you are no book can contain its own author and no one else is who they think they are either however the vast majority of adults are about the business at playing at who they think they are and doing so

very seriously in sincerely to boot this can create the appearance of constancy and reliability which itself can be seductive to the right person it's typically someone embroiled in chaos and drama but it also generally demands the repression of those aspects of our personality that are antithetical to that stability and it's this repressed material that is seductions favorite medium by remembering that you are not who you think you are by remembering that you have been playing at not playing you create room for yourself to maneuver to express different dimensions of your personality as the situation warrants

this will help make you more flexible adaptive and ultimately effective in seduction as you'll be able to tailor your approach to the individual in question and by remembering that other people are not who they think they are by remembering that they are repressing aspects of themselves to maintain the illusion of playing it not playing you embolden yourself to tap into those hidden desires contrary to popular belief most people want to be seduced they're dying to be seduced without seduction and the promise of Escape that play offers life for most people would just be discharging an

interminable series of responsibilities until they die it would be a humorless obligation or a benal transaction draw the other into a separate shared reality that reflects their vanities or repressed personalities seriously and sincerely play at seeing the other as the other would like to be seen introduce sexual interest at the right moment and voila you have the recipe for a successful seduction and this is important to remember because it seems to me that many of the content creators speaking to men these days on intersexual Dynamics are inordinately focused on the importance of being an alpha

male it's not that these guys are wrong expressing dominance and cultivating an alpha presentation will absolutely help you get women it's just not the only way to seduce which is great news for guys like me who don't Tower over their intrasexual competition the greatest seducers in history the Don Juans and the covas weren't underwear models with seven figure incomes they succeeded not because they presented as hyper masculine in fact that can sometimes be a liability but because they were able to draw their targets into a separate reality in which the women in question believed they

could be provided with what they most desired and more than anything else what most women desire is an emotional experience you do not need ABS or a bank account to do this my guys what you need is the ability and willingness to play with me meaning in a way that is emotionally relevant to a woman and this more than anything else is the essence of game what do you think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below and please send this episode to someone who you think might benefit from

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