Want to Speak Like a Leader? DON'T Say These 7 Things!

hi guys welcome back to my channel i have coached many leaders across the globe and if you want to be seen as a leader please avoid seeing these seven things the worlds you speak can make a big difference between your success and failure do you want to learn how to speak like a leader watch this video to the end and don't forget to like subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss any of my videos most people are not aware of the change they need to make in their communication style to succeed in

their career leaders speak differently from the average employee if you want to be seen as a leader you will have to speak like one here are seven things you should avoid seeing one i agree to everything what you think about waking from whom i agree i meet tons of people who ask me the same question how do i get ahead they don't understand why they work so hard for so long and still haven't reached the level of success they truly desire today the workplace is more competitive simply keeping your head down and doing a good

job is not enough to get you noticed or promoted harvey coolman did extensive research and determined success is based on three key elements pie pie p performance accounts for 10 percent of what makes an individual successful i image accounts for 30 and e exposure accounts for 60 of your career success in order to advance in your career you need to be visible your impact must be felt companies are hiring you because they want to know what you think share your ideas speak up speaking up in meetings can be daunting it comes down to a lack

of confidence or poor self-esteem believe in yourself if you aren't participating you're watching from the sidelines it's time to get in the game if you think your opinion doesn't matter it does speaking up is a great way to make yourself stand out at work because most people are always agreeing to everything two i don't know or i'll try i don't know sounds unprofessional and dismissive especially saying this in the workplace to colleagues or customers it comes across as that's not my job i don't get paid enough for this leadership is about accountability leaders are always

looking for solutions taking the initiative and filling in the gaps sets you apart from the crowd sitting back and doing nothing is the worst thing you can do when someone asks you a question instead of saying i don't know use these phrases i don't have enough information to answer your question but i can find out and let you know that's an excellent question i'll look into it and get back to you by the end of the additionally in your speech with leaders replace i'll try with i will i'll try implies the possibility of failure leaders

get things done give a time frame it doesn't mean if your boss is used on unreasonable requests you will always have to say yes you can say something like given my current task of a b and c i will have this on your desk by friday be a citizen three avoid filler woods as um like earth research shows that using excessive filler woods makes you sound indecisive also avoid using these words excessively as literally basically actually quite frankly basically the report is due on tuesday actually the folder is on my desk technically i am on

a brick right now i know someone who uses actually in every other sentence it becomes a distraction furthermore don't respond with seriously really either as a leader you want to communicate clearly and concisely how do you counteract fillers two things one slow down how fast you speak so you will have time to freeze your sentences more coherently two pause there's nothing more effective than a well-timed pause practice pausing to be interesting to influence and keep people's attention you will have to be expanding your vocabulary the secret to being more eloquent in your speech is to

read read and read four avoid saying i or me say we and us i won no we won leaders take an enterprise view that focuses less on themselves and more on the wider organization i can only get you so far we can get you the results you want in research conducted by jim collins he found that the difference between top performing and lower performing cus was their use of the same words i and we the lower performing ceos use i many more times than the word we the fact is people trust leaders that say we

more than i using we brings a sense of cohesiveness a sense of belonging and makes it a team effort instead of seeing i achieve those results we achieve those results you need to fix this see let's figure out how to fix this as a leader you achieve results with and through people your language should always reflect this five i feel i feel this isn't a good idea don't go by feelings go by fast i have observed i have found the data shoes a trend i am noticing i have spent a lot of time doing academic

research and this is equivalent to how we handle research nobody cares about how you feel about the data tell us what you have observed found discovered i don't feel working from the office is a good idea i think working from whom is better next always say why and back it up with facts the past couple of months have shown that sticking to our current plan of working from home promotes employee well-being better work-life balance and increased productivity see the difference there 6. avoid words and phrases that undermine your authority and diminish your credibility disclaimers and

tentative words early in my career i struggled to speak up i found myself in meetings with experienced executives and i use phrases such as this may sound like a silly idea but or it's just my opinion but over the years i became more assertive i stopped starting sentences but i think maybe we should might could possibly probably sort of kind of instead i see based on my experience or my idea for this is use declarative statements to avoid tentative language also avoid requesting confirmation we see confirmation with words and phrases such as right does that

make sense do you know what i mean when you show hesitation about your own ideas it communicates a lack of confidence and shows you are insecure about your message you give others permission to reject it stop doubting yourself seven honestly how many of you are guilty of this honestly these are the results you may want to emphasize your point but when you start with honestly it can make people question everything you have said before if you have to state you are being honest this one time were you lying the other times additionally using trust me

or if i'm being honest can make you sound untrustworthy be forward you could use the phrase to be blunt or you could just get straight to the point avoid seeing this in professional discussions finally don't say anything at all yes you heard me correctly if you want people to respect you it's important to listen remember sometimes speaking like a leader means taking a back seat and not speaking at all but letting others speak instead non-verbal communication is also important your body language must supplement what you are seeing in conclusion a title doesn't make you a

leader it's your impact and influence now that you have listened to this video your mission is to go out there and be the leader you were born to be here are your wings it's time to sew the view is beautiful at the top until next time thanks for staying to the end don't forget to like subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss any of my very insightful videos have a great day [Music] you