3 Signs God is Telling You to Give Up on Someone | C.S Lewis Sermons

Children of the almighty God relationships are among the most profound Gifts of life yet they also bring some of its greatest challenges they can lead us closer to God or pull us away depending on whether they reflect his love or distort it have you ever wondered how to discern when a relationship has reached a point where God might be telling you to let go the Bible speaks clearly to such moments Ecclesiastes 31 6 reminds us there is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens a time to search and a

time to give up a time to keep and a time to throw away these words remind us that even the best intentions cannot make every relationship a blessing sometimes in his wisdom God calls us to step back to protect our hearts and honor his purpose life is full of signs though we often struggle to read them God in his wisdom does not leave us to navigate these moments alone CS Lewis once noted that love is not a sentiment that asks nothing of us but an active pursuit of the good if a relationship consistently leads to

harm compromise or spiritual stagnation it may be time to listen for his guidance take a moment to ask yourself is this relationship honoring God's call for peace growth and love in your life or has it become a source of pain and distraction pulling you away from his purpose as we reflect together let us explore three signs God may be asking you to release a relationship trusting that his plans are always for our good and His glory have you ever paused to consider how the people around you reflect their treatment of your soul relationships are meant

to nurture encourage and uplift us toward our spiritual and personal growth but what happens when someone consistently treats you with disdain or manipulation this is not a mere question of human Frailty but a deeper concern of repeated harm unaccompanied by genuine remorse the Bible reminds us in Ephesians 4:29 to use our word and actions to build others up not to tear them down yet there are those whose behavior is a constant source of emotional harm manipulation indifference or contempt might seem subtle at first but they erode trust and confidence over time such mistreatment is not

love it is control veiled in pretense and it draws you away from the Peace of Christ CS Lewis wisely observed that love is not merely about sentiment but about willing the good of the other if someone repeatedly obstructs your growth abuses your trust or manipulates your emotions their actions reveal a lack of true love a pattern of hurt without repentance is a signal that the relationship May no longer align with God's purpose for you ask yourself do there actions bring you closer to Christ or do they push you further from his light we are called

to forgive yes but forgiveness does not demand enduring continuous abuse recognizing this distinction is an act of wisdom and faith not of judgment or resentment consider the harm of tolerating such Behavior emotional mistreatment diminishes your ability to thrive spiritually and emotionally it breeds sadness confusion and sometimes even self-doubt worse it can tempt you to excuse sin both in yourself and in the other perpetuating a cycle that robs both parties of healing and Truth Christians are called to reflect the love of God but this love is not permissive of sin allowing someone to continue mistreating you

without boundaries does not help them grow instead it enables behavior that distances them from God Proverbs 199 warns us a hot-tempered person must pay the penalty rescue them and you will have to do it again imagine love as a shield a protection of what is good and righteous to remain in an environment of manipulation or abuse is to lower this Shield allowing harm not only to yourself but to the other person's spiritual walk boundaries then are not selfish they are a form of love that reflects God's justice and mercy do not misunderstand this as a

call to abandon difficult relationships lightly instead it is an encouragement to discern the fruit of every relationship are you experiencing signs of mutual respect or are you enduring repeated manipulation and contempt You are not alone in this struggle God walks with you offering wisdom and comfort through his word trust in his guidance to reveal when it is time to release a relationship that no longer serves his purpose in your life and yet when we think about the harm caused another thought arises how does the environment we allow impact the kind of person we are becoming

is this relationship leading us into compromise or sin have you ever noticed how some relationships seem to unearth the Shadows within you you rather than drawing you closer to the light while no relationship is perfect those that consistently provoke bitterness anger or compromise reveal a deeper issue these connections do not simply challenge your patience they tempt you to forsake the virtues Christ calls you to embody the scriptures caution Us in 1 Corinthians 15:33 do not be misled bad company corrupts good character this warning is not merely about avoiding overtly Wicked influences but also about recognizing

subtle corrosive forces that lead us to stray from our spiritual and moral values relationships that encourage Pride Envy or deceit erode the very Foundation of our faith think of your soul as a garden carefully cultivated by God every influence acts as either nourishment or poison when a relationship prompts you to lie to lash out or to act against your conscience it is as though weeds are taking root choking out the fruit of the spirit such relationships do not challenge you to grow they tempt you to shrink into sin how often do we excuse this Behavior

telling ourselves this is just who who I am around them or it's not really their fault I let it happen yet these justifications only deepen the Trap over time the compromise becomes normalized and we find ourselves more distant from the joy and peace of God CS Lewis wisely observed that Temptation often disguises itself as something harmless even pleasurable it is in these moments when a relationship feels thrilling but leads to deceit or manipulation that we must examine its true cost what starts as a small concession can spiral into a pattern of behavior that dishonors both

God and ourselves the toll of such relationships is not just moral but emotional they leave you drained unsettled and often ashamed of the person you are becoming this is not God's design for his children his will is for us to walk in Truth strengthened by connections that encourage Holiness and integrity how do we discern whether a relationship is bringing out the worst in US reflect on your actions and emotions do you find yourself justifying harmful Behavior whether in yourself or the other person are you compromising your standards to maintain peace avoid conflict or gain approval

such patterns are clear signals that the relationship is out of alignment with God's plan but do not despair recognizing this truth is not a sign of failure but an opportunity for Redemption God's grace is sufficient to guide you toward relationships that reflect his love and truth lean into him for the wisdom to separate what is harmful from what is Holy there is great hope in this process for it invites us to re-evaluate our connections and align them with the values God has instilled in us as we discern the relationships that hinder our walk we begin

to see a clearer path toward those that uplift and honor him and yet we must ask what happens when these relationships not only tempt us but bind us in a toxic cycle of dependency have you ever felt as though your emotions r rise and fall entirely based on someone else's Behavior this is the essence of codependency a relationship where your sense of stability and worth becomes entangled in the actions moods or approval of another such dependency though often mistaken for love slowly erodes the independence and balance God desires for each of his children the Bible

calls us to place our ultimate trust and dependence on God not on any human being Jeremiah 17:5 to7 reminds us cursed is the one who trusts in man but blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord codependency tempts us to reverse this order making someone else the center of our emotional Universe this not only damages us but also enables the other person to persist in harmful behaviors unchecked by accountability think of a Vine clinging to a tree so tightly wrapped that it strangles the tree's ability to grow in a codependent relationship neither party thrives

the one who clings loses their sense of self while the one being leaned upon grows accustomed to unhealthy patterns of indulgence or manipulation this Dynamic traps both in a cycle of dysfunction far from the freedom God intends codependency often disguises itself as selflessness I'm just helping them or they need me to keep them on track may sound Noble but beneath these words lies a subtle Pride the belief that we can fix or save another person yet salvation belongs to God alone and stepping into his role burdens both ourselves and those we seek to save CS

Lewis wisely observed that true love seeks the good of the other without losing sight of our own purpose in God codependency however turns love into control or obligation it allows sin to flourish under the guise of compassion leading to behavior that dishonors both God and ourselves what seems like help often becomes an excuse for someone else to continue in sin the emotional toll of codependency is profound it leaves us drained resentful and often blind to the ways we enable destructive Cycles instead of fostering growth these relationships breed stagnation and pain such Dynamics highlight the urgent

need to realign our dependence placing Christ at the center and trusting him to guide both our hearts and the other person's transformation but how do we break free the first step is to recognize the signs are your actions driven by fear of losing someone rather than by genuine love do you sacrifice your well-being to maintain a fragile peace such patterns are signals that the relationship has crossed into unhealthy territory acknowledging this truth is not an act of failure but a step toward Freedom healthy boundaries are essential in overcoming codependency these boundaries are not barriers of

selfishness but safeguards of love and respect allowing both parties the space to grow in Christ Proverbs 29:25 offers wisdom here the fear of man lays a snare but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe true Freedom comes not from controlling or being controlled but from Mutual Reliance on God's guidance seeking support from Christian Counseling or trusted spiritual mentors can provide Clarity and strength as you navigate this journey these guides rooted in biblical wisdom can help you discern when to step back and allow God to work in the other person's life without your interference remember stepping

away does not mean abandoning them it means trusting God to accomplish what you cannot and as we examine these entangled relationships another question emerges how do we set boundaries in love without allowing bitterness or guilt to take root navigating relationships that drain or harm us requires both courage and wisdom it is not enough to Simply recognize toxicity we must also take deliberate steps to align our relationships with God's will these steps rooted in biblical truth are not acts of rejection but of obedience prioritizing spiritual growth and emotional health over Comfort or fear the first principle

is establishing healthy boundaries boundaries are not walls of isolation but Gates of discernment they allow what is good and lifegiving to enter while keeping out what is harmful Proverbs 423 reminds us Above All Else else guard your heart for everything you do flows from it protecting your heart is not selfish it is an act of stewardship over the life God has entrusted to you think of boundaries as the walls of a City without them the enemy gains easy access to destroy and plunder in the same way relationships without boundaries invite manipulation emotional abuse and cycles

of sin establishing clear limits is a reflection of God's justice and mercy providing a framework for mutual respect and accountability another essential step is taking space from toxic relationships when necessary distance does not equal hatred or unforgiveness rather it allows time for reflection healing and spiritual realignment even Christ himself withdrew from the crowds to pray and and seek Clarity Matthew 14:23 shows us that stepping away can be an Act of Faith trusting God to work where we cannot in cases of persistent mistreatment seeking guidance from Christian counselors or trusted mentors can provide Clarity and support

these individuals grounded in biblical wisdom can help you discern when to stay when to step back and how to act in a way that honors God Proverbs 1920 advises listen to advice and accept discipline and at the end you will be counted among the wise it is also vital to resist the temptation to enable harmful Behavior enabling may feel like kindness but it often perpetuates cycles of sin and dependency true love requires accountability when we excuse or cover for someone's actions we rob them of the opportunity to face the consequences and seek transformation in Christ

equally important is leaning on God's strength throughout this process relationships especially broken ones can be sources of deep emotional pain yet God promises to be our refuge and healer Psalm 34:18 reminds us the Lord is close to the Brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit trusting him to mend what we cannot is an act of faith and surrender forgiveness must also play a central role forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation nor does it demand remaining In Harm's Way instead it frees your heart from bitterness and opens the door for God's peace to

reain releasing the burden of resentment is a gift to yourself as as much as to the other person as you navigate these steps remember that growth is a gradual process healing establishing boundaries and trusting God take time and patience each Act of obedience no matter how small brings you closer to the freedom and peace he desires for you finally consider this what happens when we build boundaries and break toxic Cycles could it be that this space allows both you and the other person to experience God's transformative Grace in new ways when relationships become burdens instead

of blessings God often calls us to reassess their place in our lives he provides wisdom not to harm but to heal as we've explored the signs of harmful connections mistreatment spiritual compromise and toxic dependency we see how vital it is to align our relationships with his truth take a moment to reflect what relationships in your life nurture your walk with God and which ones hinder it perhaps you've recognized patterns of manipulation emotional harm or codependency these are not failures but invitations to trust in God's guidance to set boundaries in love and to grow into the

person he has called you to be the scriptures teach us that relationship ships are a reflection of his love for us yet they are also a mirror revealing our strengths and weaknesses are there ties That bring out the worst in you leading you into sin or despair if so remember that letting go is not rejection but an Act of Faith it opens the door for both parties to experience God's Redemptive work God's grace empowers us to act even when it is painful establishing boundaries seeking wise counsel and trusting him to intervene are all steps of

obedience let forgiveness reign in your heart even as you take space to heal let love rooted in Christ's truth guide every decision Angels walk with me I am shielded by Grace if these truths resonate with you you write this in the comments below as a declaration of Faith together we can support one another in choosing God's path for our relationships if this message touched your heart please like share and subscribe to continue receiving spiritual insights rooted in biblical truth let us grow together in faith seeking wisdom for every relationship and trusting God's plan for our

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