Stop Being Soft to Everyone | BRENE BROWN | Best Motivational Speech | YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS

good morning everyone let's take a moment to think about how we interact with the world around us how many times have we silenced our needs to accommodate someone else's Comfort how often have we offered kindness while suppressing the voice inside telling us this isn't fair now don't get me wrong kindness is not weakness compassion is not a flaw but when we're constantly bending over backward to please to avoid conflict or to earn approval we're not being kind to ourselves we're being soft in a way that drains us setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and

self-care yet it can feel incredibly difficult especially for those of us who are naturally empathetic or driven to avoid conflict we worry that by setting limits we'll push people away or come across as unkind but here's the truth boundaries are not about keeping others out they are about protecting what's sacred within you your energy your time and your emotional well-being when you don't set boundaries you're giving others permission often unintentionally to overstep and to take more than you can give over time this leads to burnout resentment and even feelings of invisibility as though your needs

and desires don't matter but they do matter profoundly you cannot pour from an empty cup and when you overextend yourself you end up depleting the very resources that make you who you are abound boundary doesn't have to be harsh or aggressive it can be as simple as saying I'm not available right now or I'd love to help but I can't take this on at the moment boundaries are not ultimatums they are commitments to your own well-being they communicate your limits clearly and respectfully while still leaving space for connection and understanding here's the beauty of boundaries

they don't only protect you they also teach others how to engage with you in a way that is healthy and respectful people often fear that setting boundaries will damage relationships but the reality is quite the opposite boundaries create Clarity they remove the guess work and the silent frustrations that canest during the absence of clear communication think of boundaries as fences around a garden they don't stop the Sun from shining or the rain from nourishing the soil they simply prevent the weeds from taking over they ensure that the beauty within can thrive without those fences even

the most vibrant Garden will become overrun remember boundaries are not selfish they are necessary they allow you to show up for others in a way that's sustainable and genuine because you're not giving from a place of depletion you're giving from a place of abundance a place where your own needs have been honored first so practice setting boundaries even if it feels uncomfortable at first start small and be consistent honor your own limits and trust that the people who truly care for you will not only respect your boundaries but appreciate the clarity they bring you're not

closing the door on connection you're opening it to authenticity and mutual respect self-respect is the foundation of a healthy fulfilling life and yet it's one of the first things we abandon when we're trying to please others avoid conflict or keep the peace it's easy to get caught up in the demands and expectations of others especially when we care deeply for those around us we often find ourselves saying yes to things we don't want to do agreeing to compromises that make us uncomfortable or silencing our own needs to meet the needs of someone else but the

truth is when we abandon our self-respect we lose the very essence of who we are we start to bend and contort ourselves into roles that are not authentic and in doing so we undermine our own worth over time we may begin to feel resentful invisible or disconnected from ourselves wondering why we're not living in alignment with our values or Our Truth prioritizing self-respect isn't about arrogance or selfishness it's about understanding that you are worthy of the same level of care attention and consideration that you give to others you don't have to be perfect to deserve

respect and you don't have to be everything to everyone to earn love or appreciation what matters is recognizing your inherent worth and making choices that reflect that understanding when you prioritize self-respect you start to honor your needs desires and boundaries you stop waiting for someone else to validate you or approve of your choices because you know your own value you learn to listen to your inner voice and trust that your feelings are valid your experiences are real and your needs matter this doesn't mean you always have to put yourself first in every situation of course

there will be times when you make sacrifices for the sake of others but self-respect means that when you do make those sacrifices you do so from a place of choice not obligation you don't get from a place of scarcity hoping someone will fill the void but from a place of abundance knowing that you have enough to give without losing yourself in the process another aspect of prioritizing self-respect is learning to let go of people situations and habits that undermine your sense of worth whether it's toxic relationships negative selft talk or environments that drain your energy

letting go of what no longer serves you as an act of self-respect it's about creating space for growth joy and peace one of the most owering things you can do is to become your own Advocate when you prioritize your self-respect you speak up for yourself in a way that's confident calm and assertive you learn to say no without guilt and to express your needs without fear of judgment you stop apologizing for being yourself and start embracing the truth that your presence is enough just as you are prioritizing self-respect is an ongoing practice of commitment to

showing up for yourself day after day it means knowing that you deserve to be treated with kindness honesty and integrity it means refusing to accept less than your worth even if that means walking away from people or situations that don't honor you as you begin to prioritize your self-respect you will notice that everything shifts the relationships you have will change because you will attract people who value and respect you in the same way you respect yourself your decisions will come from a place of confidence and clarity and you'll begin to see that the more you

value yourself the more others will begin to Value you too ultimately self-respect is the foundation upon which every other aspect of your life is built when you honor yourself you create a life that reflects your worth one that is filled with peace authenticity and meaningful connection kindness is a beautiful and essential trait that allows us to connect with others show empathy and offer support it's what creates the bonds that make life meaningful and it's the foundation of many positive relationships but there is a fine line between kindness and people pleasing and if we aren't careful

our kindness can be used as a tool to meet the needs of others at the expense of our own well-being people pleasing is rooted in the need for external validation it's when we go above and beyond to make sure everyone else is happy even when it means sacrif icing our own Comfort values and desires people pleasing can feel like an automatic response something we do out of habit or out of fear that saying no will result in rejection or conflict we often confuse people pleasing with kindness because they both involve doing something positive for others

but there is a critical difference true kindness is freely given while people pleasing is motivated by a fear of disapproval and a need to be liked when we engage in people pleasing we give Without Limits constantly trying to prove our worth through actions rather than understanding that our worth is inherent we may find ourselves saying yes to requests even when we're exhausted agreeing to things that don't align with our values or constantly putting the needs of others before our own while it can feel good in the moment to make someone else happy or to avoid

confrontation this pattern eventually leads to burnout resentment and frustration and the problem with people pleasing is that it's unsustainable eventually we run out of emotional and physical energy to keep up with the demands we've placed on ourselves and that's when we begin to feel drained wor when we're constantly giving to others without asking for anything in return we can feel unappreciated and invisible the kindness we show becomes something that others come to expect from us not something that's genuinely valued in contrast kindness is an expression of empathy and love without strings attached true kindness doesn't

require us to abandon our needs or self-worth it comes from a place of abundance not depletion it is a choice to offer help support or compassion because we genuinely want to not because we're afraid of being judged or rejected if we don't kindness is about being mindful of the other person's needs while still respecting our own when we separate kindness from people pleasing we start to act in a way that is both loving to others and protective of ourselves we understand that it's okay to say no to set limits and to prioritize our own mental

and emotional health we realize that we are not responsible for making everyone else happy nor do we have to compromise our values in order to be liked or accepted one of the key ways to separate kindness from people pleasing is to learn how to say no and to do so without guilt saying no isn't unkind in fact it's often the kindest thing you can do for both yourself and the other person when you say no with confidence and without apologizing for it you show that you value your time your energy and your needs you teach

others how to respect you and you take back control over your own life another important aspect is becoming comfortable with setting healthy boundaries boundaries are the way we protect ourselves from being overextended and they help us make sure that our kindness doesn't come at the cost of our own happiness it's about recognizing that you can give from a place of strength not from a place of depletion when you're able to give with limits your kindness becomes more meaningful and sustainable when we separate kindness from people pleasing we also stop seeking external validation to feel good

about ourselves we realize that our worth is not dependent on how much we give to others or how much they appreciate us our worth is inherent we don't need to prove our value through our actions we already matter this is when kindness becomes a powerful and genuine expression of who we are not a mechanism to secure approval one of the most liberating realizations is that when we stop people pleasing and start acting with true kind kindness we attract the right people into our lives we stop surrounding ourselves with people who take advantage of our willingness

to always say yes and start building relationships with those who respect us for who we are not just what we do for them when we set boundaries in separate kindness from people pleasing we make space for relationships that are authentic balanced and built on mutual respect kindness is an expression of our authentic selves freely given because we care people pleasing on the other hand is driven by the fear of rejection and the need for external approval the key is to recognize the difference and start practicing kindness in a way that honors both ourselves and others

true kindness is empowering it strengthens us nurtures our relationships and allows us to give without losing ourselves in the process when we separate the two we unlock the power of kindness without the cost of losing Who We Are overextending ourselves is something we all do at least from time to time it's easy to fall into the Trap of saying yes to every request taking on every responsibility and stretching ourselves thinner than we can handle whether it's because we want to be helpful We Fear disappointing others or we struggle to say no overextending becomes a familiar

pattern that can feel impossible to break but it's crucial to recognize that every time we over extend there is a cost of price that we ultimately pay with our health our happiness and our sense of self at first overextending may feel like you're being productive efficient or even virtuous it might seem like the right thing to do especially when we're caught up in the demands of work family or social obligations saying yes feels good in the moment because we want to be the person who helps the one who is reliable the person everyone can count

on but eventually the weight of these commitments begins to take its toll and the consequences of overextending ourselves are rarely immediate or obvious they build over time quietly eroding our energy our mental Clarity and our emotional well-being the first and most obvious cost of overextending is emotional exhaustion when we're constantly juggling multiple tasks trying to meet everyone's needs and putting out fires we don't have time to rest or recharge this leads to a state of emotional depletion where we feel like we're running un empty we stop feeling connected to the things that once brought us

joy and everything starts to feel like a chore our emotions become numb or erratic and we start to lose sight of our own needs desires and dreams we become so focused on fulfilling other people's expectations that we forget to nurture our own Souls overextending also comes at a mental cost constantly thinking about the endless tasks we have to complete the people we need to please and the demands on our time puts us in a state of chronic stress our minds become clouded overwhelmed and unable to focus on the present moment we may experience difficulty concentrating

forgetfulness or a sense of constant mental fatigue when we overextend we don't have the mental space to think clearly or strategically about what truly matters we're simply reacting to one demand after another rather than responding thoughtfully from a place of clarity beyond that there's the physical cost overextending doesn't just deplete us emotionally and mentally it can take a serious toll on our physical health as well our bodies weren't designed to run on high stress for long periods of time without rest when we overextend we're more likely to neglect our own well-being we skip meals lose

sleep and forget to take care of ourselves in ways that nourish us physically this leads to burnout chronic fatigue headaches weakened immune systems and other health issues that could have been avoided if we had listened to our bodies and set clearer boundaries the stress we carry impacts our health on a cellular level which in turn makes it harder to keep up with our obligations and responsibilities the cost of overextending also affects our relationships when we are constantly stretched too thin we have little time or energy left for the people who matter most to us we're

always busy always running from one obligation to the next and we end up neglecting the connections that feed our spirit our loved ones whether they're family members friends or Partners begin to feel like an afterthought they might understand at first but over time they begin to feel like we're not true truly present the cost of overextending ourselves is the erosion of intimacy and connection we may find that we're surrounded by people but we're emotionally distant unable to give the kind of quality time and attention that strengthens our relationships furthermore overextending ourselves can diminish our sense

of self when we're constantly focused on fulfilling everyone else's expectations we lose touch with who we truly are and what we actually want we begin to act out of obligation instead of passion responding to the needs of others rather than our own desires this creates a disconnect between our actions and our true selves we become so entangled in our responsibilities that we lose sight of the things that once gave us joy or meaning over time we may feel lost or disconnected from our authentic self wondering how we ended up in this position of constant sacrifice

there's also the cost of resentment overextending especially when we do it out of guilt or fear of letting others down can breed feelings of resentment the more we say yes to everyone else the more we begin to feel like we're being taken advantage of we may resent others for asking too much or for not appreciating the effort we put in but ultimately the person we're most likely to resent is ourselves for not having the courage to say no for not setting clear boundaries and for not prioritizing our own needs resentment can poison our relationships and

our sense of fulfillment leaving us feeling bitter and trapped lack of fulfillment is another significant cost of overextending when we're too busy trying to meet everyone else's needs we lose the chance to pursue our own dreams and passions we might have a general sense of being busy but we lack a sense of purpose or fulfillment because we're not focusing on the things that matter most to us our actions may become automatic driven by external expectations rather than internal desires this can leave us feeling unaccomplished as though we're simply going through the motions of life rather

than actively creating a life that is aligned with our values overextending also has the subtle yet powerful cost of lost opportunities when we say yes to everything we spread ourselves too thin leaving little room for new experiences growth or pursuing goals that align with our values opportunities may come our way but we're too overburdened to seize them we might miss out on career advancement personal growth or meaningful experiences because we're too wrapped up in obligations that don't truly serve us recognizing the cost of overextending is the first step in Breaking the cycle we need to

understand that while it's important to be there for others and to be reliable it's equally important to take care of ourselves overextending ourselves doesn't make us better people or more valuable it simply depletes our ability to show up fully in our own lives and it compromises the very things that make life worth living our health our relationships and our sense of self the key to ending overextension is learning to set boundaries prioritize self-care and give ourselves permission to say no when we need to it's about understanding that we are not responsible for carrying the weight

of the world on our shoulders we don't have to do it all and when we recognize the cost of overextending we can start making more intentional choices that honor both our commitments to others and our commitment to ourselves uh there's a word that holds immense power yet we often resist using it it's simple concise and can change the trajectory of Our Lives yet it's one we are sometimes reluctant to speak that word is no for many of us saying no feels like an admission of weakness or selfishness it feels like we're disappointing someone letting them

down or causing friction in a relationship there's often a deep rooted fear that if we say no we'll be seen as unkind unhelpful or unworthy this is particularly true in a world that constantly demands more from us more work more attention more support more time but the truth is embracing the power of know is one of the most transformative and liberating actions we can take when we say no with confidence and Clarity we are not rejecting the person or the opportunity we are rejecting the idea that we must overextend ourselves abandon our needs or give

up our Peace of Mind in order to please others no is not a word of refusal or limitation it is a word of empowerment one that protects our boundaries and affirms our priorities by embracing the power of know we begin to reclaim control over Our lives our time and our energy time is the one resource we can never get back every day we are given a set number of hours and how we choose to spend those hours defines the course of Our Lives yet so often we say yes to things out of obligation guilt or

fear of disappointing others we overcommit ourselves to work social events family obligations and countless other responsibilities as a result we run ourselves ragged sacrificing our time energy and well-being in the process when we embrace the power of no we are making a conscious decision to protect our time by saying no to things that drain us don't align with our values or simply aren't important in the moment we create space for what truly matters we open up the possibility for self-care relaxation and pursuing the goals and dreams that fuel us no allows us to prioritize our

Health our passions and our personal growth overc committing ourselves doesn't just drain our time it drains our energy when we say yes to everything we spread ourselves thin and begin to feel exhausted mentally and physically we may even experience burnout as we constantly juggle too many responsibilities without ever fully recharging embracing no is an act of self-preservation by setting boundaries and honoring our limits we preserve our energy for the things that matter most we stop running on empty and start operating from a place of Vitality and strength no is not an indication of weakness it's

a recognition that our energy is a finite resource and we need to use it wisely by saying no we conserve the energy necessary to show up as our best selves in the areas that matter healthy boundaries are essential for maintaining our mental emotional and physical well-being boundar boundaries Define where we end and others begin they are a form of self-respect ensuring that we protect our space our needs and our values when we say no we are establishing a boundary that says this is my limit and I am not willing to compromise it it's a powerful

Act of self-respect signaling to others that we honor our own needs as much as theirs saying no with Clarity and confidence creates a clear distinction between what we are willing to to do and what we are not allowing us to maintain healthier more balanced relationships without clear boundaries we can find ourselves overwhelmed overextended and burnt out but when we embrace the power of know we communicate to others that our time our energy and our emotional resources are valuable we teach people how to treat us and in the process create more fulfilling and respectful connections one

of the most common reasons we hesitate to say no is the fear of disappointing others we want to be liked we want to be helpful and we want to avoid conflict but in doing so we end up compromising our own needs and well-being which in the long run is more detrimental than simply saying no in the first place the truth is it's impossible to please everyone no matter how hard we try there will always be people who are disappointed with our decisions and while it's natural to want want to avoid hurting others the cost of

constantly trying to meet everyone's expectations is too great by embracing no we let go of the need for external validation and stop seeking approval from others we realize that we are not responsible for managing other people's emotions it's okay for someone to be disappointed as long as we are staying true to our own needs and values saying no becomes a form of self-compassion it's acknowledging that our happiness and peace of mind are worth protecting and that we don't need to sacrifice ourselves in order to be loved or accepted when we no longer fear disappointment we

free ourselves from the emotional burden of people pleasing and embrace a more authentic fulfilling way of living when we say yes to everything we can lose sight of the people who truly matter in our lives we become so preoccupied with fulfilling external obligations that we neglect our close relationships which ultimately causes strain saying no is a way of prioritizing the relationships that are most meaningful To Us by setting clear boundaries and respecting our own needs we create space for deeper more authentic connections with those who matter most we no longer have to stretch ourselves th

trying to maintain every friendship or meet every social obligation instead we can invest our time and energy in the relationships that are mutually fulfilling and that support us in living our best lives at the heart of embracing no is the opportunity to focus on what truly matters we often say yes to things that seem urgent or pressing but don't actually align with our core values or long-term goals we get caught up in the noise of Life running from one task to the next without ever pausing to consider if these tasks are contributing to the life

we want to create saying no helps us cut through the noise it creates space for intentionality and focus we become more Discerning about where we spend our time and energy we prioritize the things that align with our deepest values goals and passions by embracing know we free ourselves from distractions and start living with purpose we realize that not every opportunity or request is worth our time and we become empowered to say yes to the things that truly contribute to our growth happiness and fulfillment in a world that constantly asks for more it's easy to lose

ourselves in the process of trying to meet others needs but when we say no we send a powerful message to ourselves that we are worthy of respect that our needs matter and that we are not here to serve everyone else at the cost of our own well-being by embracing the power of know we reclaim our sense of self we take control of our time our energy and our life life we stop being reactive and start being intentional we recognize that we are not defined by how much we do for others but by how true we

stay to ourselves and our values in conclusion embracing the power of no is not about being negative or shutting people out it's about being intentional protective of our energy and clear about our priorities it's about understanding that every time we say yes to something we are saying no to something else and when we choose to say no to the things that drain us that don't align with our values or that don't serve our greater purpose we are ultimately saying yes to a life that is more focused more fulfilling and more aligned with who we truly

are so don't be afraid to say no embrace it because by doing so you will create the space for a life that is full of meaning balance and empowerment in a world that often seeks validation from others we've come to believe that our worth is determined by the approval we receive we've been conditioned to seek external affirmation whether it's in our personal relationships at work or on social media as a way to measure our value but what if I told you that true strength and fulfillment come not from the Applause or approval of others but

from leading with confidence in who you are what you believe and the path you choose to walk leading with confidence isn't about arrogance or Pride it's about aligning with your values owning your decision ISS and trusting that you are enough regardless of how Others May perceive you it's the internal assurance that no matter what happens you are worthy and capable when we stop waiting for permission or approval we begin to take control of Our Lives make choices from a place of strength and step into the kind of leadership that can Inspire others to do the

same we live in a society that places high value on approval from a young age we are taught to validation from parents teachers friends and later colleagues or bosses we get used to measuring our success self-worth and Happiness by how others perceive us we try to fit into the boxes others create for us hoping that their approval will make us feel validated and accepted but the danger in seeking approval is that it's never enough approval is fleeting subjective and often inconsistent one day someone may praise you for your choices and the next they may criticize

you for the very same decisions when we live for approval we are Tethered to the opinions of others which means our confidence is fragile always dependent on the next compliment or the next like or the next good job true confidence however comes from within it comes from being comfortable with who you are trusting your instincts and standing firm in your choices regardless of what others think it's understanding that you can't please everyone and that's perfectly okay to lead with confidence we must first learn to trust our own voice in a world full of noise and

differing opinions it's easy to get lost in the advice and judgments of others we may second guess ourselves wondering if we're making the right choice or if others would approve of the direction we're taking but when we lead with confidence we don't need to ask for permission from anyone else we trust our own wisdom experiences and intuition we don't need external voices to validate our decisions because we built an inner sense of self assurance this doesn't mean that we don't seek guidance or listen to feedback it means that we do so from a place of

strength knowing that we are the ultimate decision makers in our lives we learn to differentiate between constructive advice and Noise We embrace the reality that the loudest voices may not always have our best interests at heart and the quietest voices may contain the most valuable wisdom when we are constantly seeking approval it's easy to fall into a pattern of indecisiveness allowing others to dictate the direction of Our Lives we may avoid making decisions for fear of being judged or criticized or we may make choices simply because we think it's what others expect from us but

living in this space of indecision and people pleasing doesn't lead to fulfillment it leads to confusion frustration and regret leading with confidence means owning our decisions fully and unapologetically it means making choices that align with our values and goals even if they aren't popular or if they don't get the approval we expect we are not perfect and not every decision we make will be the right one but when we take ownership of our choices we create space for growth learning and Improvement we stop looking for validation from others and start valid ating ourselves when you

own your decisions you stand firm in your authenticity you don't let the opinions of others dictate the course of your life because you know that no one else can walk your path better than you can this kind of confidence creates Clarity and momentum allowing you to move forward with purpose and resilience we all have an inner critic the voice in our heads that tells us we're not good enough smart enough or worth enough this voice often mirrors the judgments of others reinforcing the belief that we need approval to be accepted or successful but leading with

confidence requires silencing the inner critic and replacing it with a voice of self-affirmation instead of focusing on the flaws or imperfections We Believe Others May see in us we shift our attention to our strengths accomplishments and potential we remind ourselves of our worth not not because of what others think but because we have proven to ourselves time and time again that we are capable of achieving our goals the more we learn to silence the inner critic the more we Empower ourselves to make decisions from a place of self-trust we stop doubting ourselves and start believing

that we are enough exactly as we are in every moment of Our Lives leading with confidence also requires the courage to take risks when we live for the approv of others we often shy away from stepping outside our comfort zones because the fear of failure or criticism holds us back but confidence isn't about being Fearless it's about taking action despite fear when we embrace the power of leading with confidence we take risks that are aligned with our values and goals we push past the discomfort of uncertainty and trust that we are capable of handling whatever

comes our way whether it's starting a new business pursuing a passion or speaking up in a meeting confidence allows us to act in the face of fear knowing that we have the ability to adapt learn and grow from the experience every successful leader has taken risks every Trailblazer has faced moments of doubt and fear but what sets them apart is their ability to trust themselves take action and learn from both their successes and failures when we lead with confidence we allow our ourselves to step into those moments of discomfort knowing that growth happens in those

very spaces when we lead with confidence we create an impact that goes beyond simply meeting the expectations of others we Inspire others to be authentic to embrace their own confidence and to live with purpose authenticity is magnetic people are drawn to those who are comfortable in their own skin who speak their truth and who act in alignment with their values by Leading with confidence we not only impact our own lives but also influence the lives of those around us when we model authenticity we create a ripple effect others begin to realize that they too can

trust themselves speak up and make decisions that align with their own values we encourage those around us to step into their own power and to stop living for the approval of others in a world that often asks us to conf warm leading with confidence is a radical Act of self-expression it's the act of Standing Tall in your truth and saying this is who I am I am enough and I will not wait for permission to be myself when you stop being soft to everyone you begin to reclaim the strength and power that have always been

inside of you you set clear boundaries that protect your energy prioritize self-respect over external validation and separate kindness from people pleasing you learn to recognize the cost of overextending yourself embrace the power of saying no and lead with confidence no longer seeking approval from others but instead trusting in your own decisions and actions as you begin to implement these principles in your life remember that confidence isn't something you have to chase or earn from others it's something you already possess it's about choosing to stand in your own truth taking ownership of your choices and trusting

that you are enough no matter who agrees or disagrees your journey will not always be easy but every step you take toward leading with confidence and strength will bring you closer to the life you deserve one where you are unapologetically yourself free from the pressure to please or conform and when you lead with confidence you'll Inspire others to do the same so the next time someone tries to push your boundaries or make you feel small remember you you are not here to be soft to everyone you are here to lead with your true self and

that is enough