4 Ways to Torture The Narcissist

ladies and gents today we're going to look at four ways to torture the narcissist step number one and probably the most powerful one this is the basis for everything else I'm going to be able to teach you today is you must reduce the narcissist significance in your life do not fake this do not act as though they are no longer as significant as they used to be make them less significant than they used to be if you want to create distress if you want to create anguish uncertainty and security and paranoia you must reduce their

significance don't fake it because they're smart in terms of detecting other people's emotional states they have no capacity to detect their own emotional states no capacity to self reflect or very little capacity but they can map other human beings frighteningly well if you genuinely do this you won't need to put on an act they'll feel it they'll know it and it will drive them insane with anguish because the whole superstructure of their personality is in being significant to everybody but particularly to their targets so reduce their significance what does that mean it means that even

inside of the relationship you need to let go of being with them if it's your mother or father you've got to grieve the fact that you never had and never will have a mother or father grieve cry go to therapy feel sad write poetry whatever you need to do and in the end you won't be attached to them being a good mother or father you'll have Let It Go and you'll have reduced their significance if it's a romantic relationship grieve cry go to therapy let it go drop the idea they're ever going to be a

husband a wife a father a mother they're not despair grieve and let it go you will reduce their significance that's step number one step number two the second piece of advice I've got for you the second method for torturing a narcissist would be to challenge their narcissistic idealized self if you can challenge to ride Mock and devalue their false self which is their idealized Fantastical delusional story of how wonderful sexy powerful intelligent Rich whatever they are if you can find ways of poking holes in that from a position of reduced significance they're in a they're

in a state of reduced significance for you so you're pretty indifferent you're pretty cold you're pretty detached and you just gently suggest to them that their false selves once you've figured out and you've mapped exactly what the paradigms of that false self are once you've mapped that and you slowly subtly over time challenge that you will send them into an absolute Blind Fury because this creates a massive amount of narcissistic injury obviously with everything I'm telling you here today you need to make sure as a sovereign adult using an entertaining YouTube video that you are

safe when you do this that you're dealing with a narcissist not a psychopath and that the power Dynamic of the relationship doesn't mean that for example they can take custody of your kids kick you out of a house drop you from a job drop you from a team or dump you you need to be smart before trying to do any of this because if you inflict narcissistic injury and they go into a narcissistic rage their response will be disproportionate they will pursue you to punish you for having inflicted this narcissistic injury against them I'm just

showing you how to create mental anguish in somebody with narcissistic personality disorder what you do with this information is on you map their false self map the specific paradigms of the false self feed it back to them and then gently you don't have to be bold it's better to do it the way they do it in an Insidious cold maybe even mocking or sneering way challenge those elements of the false self which is what the things that they're most insecure about because secretly inside they know that the false self is false and you will create

a massive amount of mental anguish in them the third tactic I want to show you to torture the narcissist is probably the healthiest thing I'm going to suggest today you go to therapy really go to therapy don't go to therapy to torture them go to therapy to heal go to therapy to get better go to therapy to get over the relationship with them to grieve the relationship with them to let it go go to therapy to heal the wounds that caused you to get into that relationship with them and start to live a better life

focused on more joy more passion more happiness do what you want to do the narcissist is going to try and coerce you press you and bully you into a dark nasty cold oppressive imprisoning and enslaving world if you break free of that world and you refuse to live in a dark oppressed uh enslaving World instead you're in a sunshiny optimistic happy and bright one you will drive them completely insane because you are simultaneously reducing their significance and their power and you are challenging the false self just by doing this the notion of you being being

free not needing them being free from them being happy without them and going on and living a good life without them having poisoned you warped you or permanently damaged you will drive them completely insane because it destroys their narcissistic self-image and all of the anguish you can cause a narcissist is going to be through either reducing their narcissistic Supply or destroying damaging the false self narcissistic image the fourth method for torturing the narcissist that I suggest you use if you feel it's safe and you feel it's right to do so is to mess with their

supply in a very very specific way so narcissistic Supply was identified decades ago as something that the narcissistic personality disordered individual needs it's not love it's not friendship it's not an authentic um reciprocal relationship with another human being they need their own version of love and attention it's highly narcissistic and it really is for them like shooting up a drug it's narcissistic Supply if you mess with that narcissistic Supply if you make them feel like they're going to be caught off from that narcissistic Supply you're going to create the kind of distress and anguish and

anxiety that a junkie would feel if they felt like they were going to run out of junk like they were going to lose their ability to get hold of more junk if you really want to aggravate them the threat or the potential in this scenario should be that the supply is going to be permanently damaged in a scenario in an institution with a particular individual that they value because they don't value all sources of Supply the same so be cunning as you were earlier map which sources of Supply they're very dependent on or they're very

very attached to and threaten to permanently damage those sources of narcissistic Supply by exposing the true nature of the narcissist so we know with narcissistic personality disorder at the level of uh um the personality structure itself there was an authentic self who built um as a child in response to a very oppressive and abusive environment a wall around themselves to protect themselves and within that wall is a sort of a mirror a Perseus Shield which distorts truth and everything that goes through well first of all very little reality actually breaks through this narcissistic shell but

when it does the little bits of reality the Breakthrough the narcissistic shell that which reaches the the little bit of authentic self that is left there which is mainly dead because the authentic self dies in this isolation and shrivels to almost nothing the little bits of reality that get through are distorted as they pass through the shield and they're reframed they're reformatted so that the self that looks out at the world through the shield is looking also through a mirror and that mirror is telling the narcissistic itself what the narcissistic self wants to hear it

here that is The False Image so no matter what happens the narcissist is desperately fighting to restructure what is happening to fit a pre-existing fantasy-based Narrative of how incredibly amazing they are what does that mean it means that generally speaking in simpler language there's the real person the real narcissist and then there's this fake image that they're pushing out to the world why do they push this fake image out to the world to Garner as much in our cystic Supply to become as significant as possible to develop a false self and to avoid narcissistic injury

it's a defense it's defensive so they're pumping this out to generate let's say um predominantly generates an emotional response in the people around them because they're predominantly feeding off emotions so they're trying to get reactions from people so they they generate a false self it's a big performance but what does that mean it actually means the narcissist is very vulnerable to if you're in the middle of a narcissistic abusive relationship you will see this overblown image of the narcissist which is how they want you to see them they're all powerful they're sexy they're an alpha

female an alpha male whatever the nonsense story is or they're the biggest martyr in the room they're the biggest victim you've ever known they've suffered more than anybody else ever has they're Christ himself down from the cross that would be more in line with uh covert narcissism or vulnerable narcissism but they're the biggest and best at something even if they're the biggest and best at being tortured and abused and abandoned that's what you believe when you're in the middle of it but when you look again you'll see the whole thing is an incredibly fragile incredibly

delicate facade that's actually very easily broken so if you threaten to expose them what you're threatening to expose what you're threatening to expose is this is how they show themselves to the world this is how they've shown themselves to this person this is how they've shown themselves to this institution this is how they've shown themselves this industry but you have evidence that in fact the real person is like this because of the PTSD element the trauma-based element there is a massive amount of splitting in narcissistic personality formations there's a massive amount of black and white

so typically not always but typically what their real feelings about any subject are are the opposite so they present as being very loving and very kind to let's say animals they do lots of charity work with animals but you live with them and you know personally despite all this virtue signaling for the outside world about how much they care about animal cruelty and so on and so forth you actually see them treat animals with either contempt cruelty or total indifference so that's just a small example of something that could expose the truth of who they

really are that ruins the false self-image that they're projecting to the world that would permanently damage a source of narcissistic Supply you don't have to actually do this the fear that it might happen is what will torture them and create a huge amount of mental anguish please use the information I have given you here for the highest good of all concerned if you're in an abusive relationship don't abuse the abuser simply leave go to therapy heal reduce their significance in your life get on with your life and give a good live a good life for

the highest good of all concerned ladies and gentlemen thank you very much for your time and for your attention I look forward to speaking to you again very soon cheers hello folks the new course unplugged from The Matrix of narcissistic abuse is out now and available from this link right here thank you