KENDALL JENNER Opens Up About Anxiety, Insecurity, & How To Be Truly Happy! | Jay Shetty

if your happiness depends on the actions of others you know you're at Mercy of things that you can't control the bestselling author and host the number one Health and Wellness podcast on purpose with J shett yeah I'm not even just saying this I literally think I manifested this like it's the after I saw you at simy and Hayes's house so that was a couple months ago and then a few weeks ago my I was talking to my social media girl randomly we were just talking about bunch of stuff um and just kind of what I

would love to represent just talking about a new chapter for me and whatever and I was she was like who would you really want to like talk to or whatever and I was like it would be so cool to talk to Jay and she was like that would be really cool and then we kind of just that was kind of the thought and whatever and then you hit me and I was like no freaking way he's hitting me right now so I was like absolutely this is like perfect it's the universe just putting it in

perfect timing because that that makes me so happy because it was exactly the opposite way so I've for a long time had people that I'd love to sit down with and every time I saw you do something with mental health and Vogue or any of the segments that you ever did I was just like she's amazing like you know it's incredible to the way you were talking about it when you'd post about it I'd be like oh this is incredible like to see see you speaking so openly about it and vulnerably about it and so

I've always wanted to do this and then but we've never really crossed paths and so I'm always just a bit like and I don't like asking friends of friends when I haven't met someone and so I I was like that day I had to like pluck up the cage be like I'm just going to ask it myself cuz it's easier when I ask and I know Christie so but I was like I it's nicer when there's I told my team too I was like it's so much nicer when there's like a personal connection and someone

really feels comfortable rather than it's like a PR no it was it was so perfect like when I think back to it I'm like that was me just trusting the universe and not pushing for anything and I knew it was going to kind of happen when it was supposed to and it literally did so you felt it too we got yeah and I hope that this is the of spending more time together camera too I would love that cuz like I think also I don't know like I admire people like you I admire like you

know the the Michael polands and Michael singers and whim Hoffs of the world and I feel like you fit in that category for me of just people that are cuz you know I know a little bit about your story I'd like to actually know more which would be really cool to actually I know we're obviously not here to for that exactly but for me just personally like I I'd love to know more of your story I know that um you've had quite the experiences and I think that's so cool I'm like so intrigued by people

with just that amount of curiosity and like determination determination and patience like that takes so much patience to be like you or like any of those people that I just listed it's so cool to me and I just I wish I wish for myself but I'm working on it no you're that curious too you're that curious I am it's just you know that that level of like I said patience and DET determination is like it's a gift like that is like a really really amazing gift and like I said like I'm just working on it

all the time and I that's my goal in life I guess well well I I think I feel the same way about you again that and by the way I love all those people you just mentioned too so so feel very honored to be put into that group of people and we've had whim on the podcast before too so he's been a guest but with you I feel the same way back when it's like when when you see someone who is so curious who could get away with not worrying about this things if you don't

want to but then still being courageous enough to talk about these things and then using your platform as a space to open up these dialoges like that is as if not more important as well as as doing the work and doing the path yeah I can see you doing the work it's fun watching you do the work and figuring it out I love working on myself like it is actually like a passion of mine and like I just I find so much comfort and joy and like actually finding where I think I could better myself

and being like even if it's physical like physical as in like my physical health or working out or I just started doing speaking of Wim Hof I just started doing like cold plunges and Ice baths and like even if I don't have the time to go outside I just got a cold plunge I did it right before I got here it's the best thing ever it's also again it takes so much mental the whole thing of it is all mental so I don't know just stuff like that I really love so I'm always I'm always

trying to just be the best version of me and so I just love that it like actually makes makes me feel really good I love selfcare and I just love stuff like that so it's been really cool but it's cool for you to say that you enjoy seeing that from me because there's always been kind of this weird part of it for me where I'm like is this a pity party cuz I don't want it to be like I want this to feel very positive I want to connect with people and I guess that's that

is my goal there is to be like there actually is this side of me that you might may not know of but the goal here is to connect and also not feel like I'm throwing some pity party for myself because I want this to be a learning experience for everyone I want this to be really positive and really really well received I want you to look at it and actually have a positive feeling towards it so I don't know you'll find like if I you know when I do kind of post about something or when

I want to talk about something I'm usually sharing a tip or like sharing kind of like a little technique even if it's something so simple as like run walking outside taking a few deep breaths and journaling like it's just that kind of stuff that I really like um to share because I feel like I want to be helpful more than anything absolutely and that's how that's at least how I see it like I see it not not completely not as a pity party at all but so much more as just hey here's a reminder or

here's something that I did and I feel like that positivity shines through too in the way you do it so at least if that helps whatever that's worth from the outside it definitely comes across that way and this has easily been the warmest introduction to a flow a conversation I've ever experienced in my entire life doing this say I was actually I was actually really nervous coming in here cuz this means so much to me like and I'm serious cuz you know I've done a lot of interviews in my life and when when thinking about

this one or thinking about that I even wanted to do something like this it just it means a lot to me and so it made me a little nervous and I was like I just want to get this right this isn't like you know me going out and promoting something or talking about something this is you know something very real that um we all experience which is just you know our ourselves and our well being and just everything so yeah and this is this is a you know for me genuinely and and I really do

mean this like the podcast has been a great excuse or really from my side an intention to get to know people I'm I really admire and so for me it's been a great way of building new friendships and relationships because if you can sit and talk to someone and really get along with each other you're like oh we should do this more often and so well I'm honored yeah so for me it's definitely been that and to me you know you saying that and you know taking as intentionally as you are it's you know for

me it's as important I I always Shar this before we start recording usually but we just flowed hey everyone welcome back to on purpose the number one Health podcast in the world thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen learn and grow now it's very rare that I get to sit down with someone that I have admired for a very long time from afar someone that I believe has inspired me through the sharing of their story someone who speaks so vulnerably and openly about the things that I

most care care about mental health purpose uh the Journey of life and Discovery and curiosity and what I want to share about this person is when I bumped into them at a mutual friends birthday party and I just want to give a big big shout out to Simeon Hayes because this wouldn't happen without them I love you Simeon Hayes You've been amazing guest on the podcast before as well uh I would have bumped into this individual and had this opportunity to reach out to them and as soon as I reached out this has been the

most flowing conversation and connection that I possibly had on the podcast to be honest so I just want to put that out I'm speaking about the one and only someone who needs no introduction but successful business founder International supermodel uh founder of the incredibly successful tequila brand 818 and star on the Hulu the Kardashians which premieres in second season on September 22 the one and only Kendall Jenna Kendall thank you so much for doing this thanks for having me that was a wonderful introduction oh well it's it's honestly been such an honor getting to know

someone who it's very rare that I find someone who functions in with very similar values in in a personal connection sense so when I reached out to you I I really meant everything I said and I could have written you an essay but I was like let's spare her the details and then to to get your response and then for us to be here within a couple of weeks of connecting and even your message this morning I just want people to know I was like the the text you sent me this morning I was like

this never happens like I was like this is amazing and I was like but and I was literally going to do the same thing and so to me I was like this is very rare and so I love the Synergy and the flow that we're experiencing and me too I'm excited to get into it now it's funny cuz I called I called Hayes before um the other day and I was just like oh my God I'm going on your friends show and whatever and she was like he's the best it's you're just going to flow

right into it he's so easy to talk to and that's literally what happened and like I told you I just feel like I manifested this moment for for both of us and for this just this whole experience and so I am really happy to be here and I'm honestly honored like I said I admire you and I there's so many people like you that I admire so I think sitting down here with you is just so cool for me and I get to talk about fun things with you so amazing first of many and and

I wanted to start with because I I always like to start with just things that I've seen more recently a couple of days ago I think you posted a beautiful picture of you hugging your horse uh and you were like you know like snuggle time or something like that and I was just like when when did horses become a part of your life and how did you get so close to them I think I've spent many lifetimes with horses I think this is very one of many lifetimes that I've had I grew up in a

horse community so where we grew up horses everywhere tra more Trails than there were homes really and so I was always around horses and I just was deeply in love with them and I have no explanation and that's why I say I feel like in past lives I have just been around horses yeah so since I was a really young kid loved them and continue to love them my whole life they're just the best they're the most majestic and gorgeous and spiritual they feel everything I just like it's such an honor to be in their

presence and to be able to do what I can do with my horse I find so magical that I can stand in her stall with her and just like Vibe out with her I I like sometimes come to like a little get a little teary eyed when I'm standing in my stall with her because I'm like this is so cool that you allow me to do this and we have this connection without any words it's just the best thing ever so I love them yeah that's so special I I have a different teide story with

horses but I'll tell I'll tell you the short version so when I proposed to my wife who I can't wait to introduce you to when I proposed to her which was eight years ago or something like that when when I proposed to her I organized a very what I would consider like a very a very Hollywood proposal it was it was too over the top and I would do it totally different today with all everything I've learned happens yeah it happens it happens and so we were walking to by the temps in London which is

where we're both born and raised and this Acappella group jumps out and they're singing Bruno Mars and then like they give her a bouquet of flowers and then I get out on one knee I propose we have dinner by the river and then we walk around the corner and there's a horse R and carriage to take us around to take us around London and so we're on this Carriage we have this beautiful you know path through London and then we get into the train to get back home to her parents to tell them and they

already knew she's got hives all over her face and all over she was allergic she's allergic to horses and I found out the day I proposed it I was like all right so then she was like she had tears and when we got back par were like what did you do to at least you got to enjoy the moment at least you got to yeah it was until after but but no I I love horses no I love horses the same way you do like I I used to go to India a lot when I

was a kid and that's where I first learned to be with horses and I mean they're so therapeutic absolutely there's a reason there's ecoin therapy it's the best but exactly yeah they make me they make me when I'm with her I have a few but I'm most mostly with one of my horses right now cuz I'm her name's delandra didn't name her she came with her name but I call her Dylan or D um I love her so much but when I'm with her I I genuinely I speak of like I I spoke about how

I've just loved horses my whole life I I feel like a kid around her like I feel like my 12-year-old self that would get up every morning at throughout the entire summer at 8:00 a.m. to go just be at my trainer's facility and I would stay there from 8:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. I'd ride all her horses I'd groom all her horses I would just sit in the Stalls with all the horses like it just anytime with her I just have that sense of like being a child again and it's a really really good feeling

animals have that special ability don't they like whichever animal you're attracted to and I i' I never thought I would but when I lived as a monk the animal that's revered in India is cows and you would never think of cows being like Majestic or you know in that way especially when you're not in India but the cows in India have these like Lotus like eyes like the eyes are just like absolutely stunning yeah and they're so special and they're such gentle animals and recently r and I went trekking with gorillas in Rwanda and gorillas

are the we have to go that sounds unreal it was unbelievable and they're the animal that's revered in Rwanda so whenever they have a new gorilla that's born they have a naming ceremony with the community love it's so beautiful but and then I heard somewhere that you your first job was you were a dog walker yeah and so I was thinking like do you have any lessons or anything you learned by being a dog walker I think first jobs are so interesting yeah no I mean I was always a super disciplined child like meaning to

my like I just loved I would put myself to bed at 700 p.m. be like my mom would be like playing with me and my little sister and be like Mom it's 7 I got to go to sleep like it's time for my bed time she'd be like are you okay and so I was always that kid and so I I think I just was always really eager to like work I don't know why I just like wanted to always have something to do something that I felt passionate about that I really enjoyed and so

yeah when I I was young I put some flyers around our community and said I would walk dogs and I ended up getting people that would get let me have their dog for a few hours and take it for a walk so I loved animals and I liked having something to do so I spent I was a kid that liked to be by myself with animals so like I think that that was a cool very fitting thing for me cuz I got to be by myself walking but then also experience all these little dogs with

me yeah I wish I did that I used to deliver newspapers so that was my first job and it's not as glamorous in London because it's raining was that what you were Desiring or was that no I was 14 years old and wanted to make some money just like I need a I was like I need to make some money yeah and so I was like I'm going to start doing this and you don't get to you know you'd see in the movies where the paper boy just like Chucks the paper at the door but

I'd like to actually go and put it inside so my only interaction with dogs is they were on the inside grabbing the paper and so yeah they barking at you yeah they're barking and stuff but I always love knowing about people's first jobs and and how things started for them because of you know obviously where you are today but what do you think it was in those early years where you just said you were very disciplined like it sounds like you were you were aware of certain habits that you built then what were some of

the things that you feel confident about or how how did you look for validation in those early years and where did it come from for you I mean it's interesting so Kylie my little sister she was always the social butterfly I was always I just liked being to myself I don't know if that's the Scorpion in me so it just came naturally or whatever I had a I had a group of friends who I loved but I just I I like can vividly remember just on the weekends not running to go be with my friends

all the time during the summer I was with them but on the weekends um in between school I would I was really just by myself I would love to like hang out in my room I like was kind of a nerd I loved video games and like sitting on the computer and playing Sims all day like I just kind of liked being to myself and then all day long during the summer was with my horses and yeah I don't know I just it just brought me joy I don't think I have like you know a

super long explanation for that it was so simple for me as a kid like it was just as simple as that made me happy and that's just what I wanted and it explains I guess a lot of me now um I went through like a phase where I felt like I had to be around people I think I live a very social life and my job is very social so I was you know kind of conditioned to want to be around people a lot and then as you know the pandemic came around you're not around

as many people anymore and now I'm just re- enjoying being by myself which is really cool yeah and um I had the most I had the best day on Sunday all by myself I got up I went and rode my horses I like um took my niece to ride her Pony just me and her was so nice brought her back home went to my house got in my cold plunge went in my pool laid out journals like I was having the best and I was just pretty much all by myself so I I enjoy it

so much I love that I'm sure that's so refreshing for people to hear too because I feel like people may from the outside perceive a life which obviously like you said for work it's busy and it's social and of course you have wonderful friends but to know that you can feel comfortable in your own company and that's been a habit that you've developed I crave simple things like I I love my life and I love my job and I I feel so fortunate that I have been placed here that for some reason I was given

this life like I feel immensely grateful for that and I have had so much fun and I like think back on just the experience that I've had the experiences that I've had this far and it's like it's like it's shocking to me I'm like this is so freaking cool that I live this life but at the end of the day like when I am home and when I'm alone like I crave the simple things I love a simple day I love just like a simple routine and being to myself and being around the people that

I love my small core crew so yeah that's beautiful yeah I mean that's I think that's what we're all striving for is that passion in our careers and our work and then the simplicity at home what would you say I I was thinking about this and I've watched so many of your interviews and and read so much too but what would you say for you as being one of your like proudest moments or greatest achievements or something that you really feel like and internally I mean like for the basis of our conversation like something that

really brings you Joy internally when you think about it or when when you had it like I said I look back and the things that I've accomplished just even my job like I think I really at one point when I was younger decided I want to be a model and this is what I want to do and the fact that I executed because we talk about that determination like I really was I was 14 years old when I kind of made that decision and was like this is what I want to do and I went

to my mom and I was like please help me do this and I didn't stop until I was 24 that I was like okay I think I need to like take it back and not which we can also get into cuz that's a very kind of dramatic story but like I I just knew and I think I'm proud of myself for being that kid and being determined to do that and then executing and doing it to the to the level that I had done it and that I I guess I still do but I I

also am proud of I think more so the self-work that I've done within that process cuz there was a long period of time I'd say the core years of it that I was extremely overworked not my happiest not because I wasn't doing what I loved but just because I was overwhelmed and I was I felt like I was saying yes to everything cuz I felt really really grateful and really honored to be in the position that I was in so I was always saying yes and it just took a lot out of me to the

point where I just wasn't happy anymore and so I had to set those boundaries for myself when I was about 23 24 I'd say like what a year before the pandemic so yeah I was probably 23 I really set boundaries for myself and I was like I want to continue to do this cuz this is what I love but I need to start saying no when I can and prioritizing me and prioritizing like you know my happiness and my well-being and it has done wonders for me like I feel like I can show up better

for myself and I can show up a better person for the people that get to be around me that day and you know that I work with on that day so yeah that's what I'm proud of sorry I didn't give you a long answer that's a great answer that's an amazing I I was I won't say I was hoping for that because I I'm always open to wherever anyone's life experience goes but there's a part of me that loves hearing that like I really appreciate hearing that because when you've achieved so many incredible things in

your career which you have to then say well this is the part like knowing how to navigate it or making the right choices at the right time healthy balance the healthy balance it's so important it's important for all of us like we have to this is what we're prioritizing you know yeah so how did you find the courage to do that at the 23 Mark as you're saying you're in a competitive industry as you said it was overwork it's fastpaced I'm guessing there's comparison in that industry there's competition in that industry it's not an easy

space to be you're you know you're in the top 0.01% in your industry so it's it's hard and the reason I asked this is because I work with so many people in this space and to have the courage to say no I know that if I sort this out then all of this is going to be just fine that actually takes more courage than we recognize we realize that when you have nothing then there's nothing to lose you can actually have a lot of Courage but when you have everything and there's everything to lose and

a lot of the time at least what I've heard in in town is you know older managers and agents and I'm not saying you have any of this but people that I know will be told well hey if you don't do this like you'll be forgotten next year or you know your your career is only going to last another 6 months how did you have that courage to say no no no I need to do this like where did that come from and I think that it's like I've never thought about it that way to

be completely honest with you I just knew that if I had gone any further that I was going to lose myself I was at that very I was on the Teeter Totter edge of that point where had I gone any further I was probably not going to be great it was so important to me to feel good that I just knew that it was something that I had to do and I can't say like you're absolutely right like there were so many people around me that had told me not to say no and told or

told me yeah told me not to say no told me not to stop I fought my way out of it a little bit because there were people that had worked for me that you know didn't want me to stop because it might have benefited them of course um but I got to that point and I just knew I had to do it and I I just I don't know I don't know how to explain it I guess it was just such an unbelievable Sensation that I had where I knew that if I do this I'm

going to be better for everyone and I'm going to be better for myself which means I'm going to be better for the people around me and I have to do this and so it wasn't really I want to be able to live with happiness God forbid any of this ever went away and I think that that was a big moment for me of being being like I'm going to be okay if I don't get this job tomorrow and I'm going to be okay if I don't get that job in a month if I have to

take this time to do whatever things will come everything's going to work out the way it's supposed to and I had to trust that so yeah well to me on from the outside and it's it's beautiful that you didn't see it in yourself because that almost makes it even more wonderful but the idea that to me from the outside that's a lot of Courage yeah it takes a lot of Courage it takes a lot of vulnerability and openness and and it takes courage at every level whether some 's thinking about quitting their job to do

something they love or whether someone's trying to relocate their family and doesn't know how or whether Someone Like You is feeling success but then going well wait a minute and I think in the past few years we've seen athletes and musicians and actors and people in all creative industri step back and say well I need to put me first and I think that that's empowering because I think we hear about burnout in work and corporate so often sure for sure so what what was it that you started to do that new found time at that

time like where was is that where the curio was the Curiosity always there and now you could actually follow it it was it was it was always there and I had had a lot of people coming to me telling me about meditation and how it changed their life and therapy and so many different things and I was a bit overwhelmed cuz I was like oh my God what of this is going to suit me I think it's a very personal experience I think everybody has a very different version of all of that stuff and so

it was a little overwhelming so I think I really just took the time to be off for a second it was even the little things it was like being able to go to my friend's birthday party which I wouldn't have been able to go to before because I was working a lot I I love hearing that because I think it is those simple things like you know giving yourself that space whatever it is that you needed to do yeah when you needed it and and like you said sometimes it's like that's when all the Subscribe

buttons come up in front of you and it's like try this and try this and it's like well no no no let me just take my time it was also now that I think think about it yeah 23 I'm 26 I've had my horse for so around that time is when I bought the horse that I have now who is my like I I jump her and I like have I I have two other horses but they're like retired so I don't really ride them the same way I ride her so yeah I guess it

was around that time too that I was like I'm going to do this cuz I love this and like I want to get back into it and this is what I've loved my whole life so so it was around that time that I feel like all of that started happening and I bought my horse and I like started taking more time for things that made me really happy yeah what what I what I'm noticing in you and observing or at least from just no in a good way in a good way it's all good I

was just saying it's like it feels like no matter what's happening in your Orit there's this pillar of belief that it's important to be happy yeah like it you know that's like this core Center belief in your life where it's like it's important to be happy it's important to be happy it's that has to be the goal for sure and and you know it's not always easy we live in such an interesting industry and in such an interesting time with social media that it can be very hard sometimes you can fall victim to so many

things that don't serve you and that don't make you happy if your happiness depends on the actions of others you know you're at Mercy of things that you can't control mhm and that's never where I want to be so I I always want to live in like me and my therapists talk about like my higher goddess my higher self like I always want to live there knowing that you know when I'm there you can't take that away from me that that's mine and no matter what you can disagree with me you can agree with me

that's not going my I'm not changing I'm not shifting I'm here I'm in my higher goddess so I kind of I always live by like keep hold my happiness and not letting anyone else affect it and though I fall victim to it at times as we all probably do absolutely I um I strive every day to live in that place so what what are some of the qualities of your higher goddess so that that kind of uh Avatar she's awesome like I said I don't love a pity party I also like you know sometimes it

feels weird to like say good things about yourself but I've also learned a lot about talking to myself and a lot about looking in the mirror and being like you're great you're gorgeous you're amazing you're loyal you're positive you're so many like I love words of affirmation I love just sitting there and reassuring myself of who I am because that's another thing for me you know there's so many false narratives about me about all of us I'm sure like so many people think they have you figured out when they don't even know the half of

it so sitting there and being like you know you get frustrated sometimes it could feel really unfair you could be reading something that someone is saying about you or hearing something that someone's saying about you and being like that is so unfair cuz that's not who I am and that really gets to me sometimes and that really sucks but then looking at myself in the mirror and being like but I know who I am and that's all why does anything else matter and my friends know who I am and my family knows who I am

my dog knows who I am my horse knows who I am like why does any of everything else is just noise I I do this exercise I don't think I've shared this before but I do this exercise with some of my clients where we'll go on a walk and we'll be on a hike wherever we are and I'll ask them what they think a piece of you know maybe there's a little leaf or maybe there's some a flower or something that looks a little unique on the path and I'll say what do you think that

feels like and what do you think it would feel like if you picked it up in your hand and they'll be like oh it looks really rough and like it might scratch me and like it looks like a bit you know like uneven or what whatever and it looks kind of hard and strong and then I'll ask them to pick it up and nine times out of 10 it's completely different like they'll pick it up and it'll just dissolve in their hands or they'll turn it over and the color's really soft and sorry the shape

the shape's really soft and the color is totally different on the other side and I do that exercise to help us realize just how multifaceted humans are like today I've got to meet you and and obviously we're spending a lot of deep intimate vulnerable time together so you learn faster about someone but if someone only follows someone on social media or only sees someone at an event or only sees one interview it's so easy to create such a singular view of someone and I think and I want to say this because I really think we

all feel it I don't think anyone wants to be seen in a singular way if you had to choose one word that had to be you for the rest of your life I don't think anyone wants that I think we all know that we're messy and complex and different of but we like to put someone else in a box whoever that may be because it's easier then to live life and say okay well that's persons a b right yeah know so there's this beautiful piece of wisdom that I always share from Charles Horton coie and

he wrote this in 1890 I think it was which just shows how true this has been for such a long time and obviously long before that as well and he said the challenge today is I'm not what I think I am I'm not what you think I am I am what I think you think I am and we'll let that blow everyone's mind it gives me chill every time I say it Charles hton coie said the challenge today is I'm not what I think I am I'm not what you think I am I am what

I think you think I am and what he's trying to say is that we live in a perception of a perception of ourselves so if I think you think I'm smart then I allow myself to feel smart right it's like we need that validation need that validation or if I think you think I'm not smart then I feel hurt and and the challenge is I don't know what you're thinking at all especially outside in the world and so I find that what you're saying around like well what do I think about myself like how do

I feel about myself how do the people that actually know me feel about me I think that's really empowering I wanted to ask you because I feel like from from what I've seen and from what I've heard you have you have great friendships you have a great relationship with your family as you said like what do you think have been really great habits or in relationships that have helped you build up good friendships and and family relationship because I think for so many people sometimes their friendships and their family can often be the most difficult

part but I feel like the way you communicate or the way you're talking about it I'm like okay there's some really good habits in place here have there been any principles or rules that you've learned along the way that have been helpful I mean of course honesty um I'm a big person on like keeping a really honest healthy communicative relationship um but but I also think like I find it really important to have not feel like you're on top of each other when you have your family around or you're friends around it's okay to like

sometimes even if you're at like a family dinner running to the bathroom and just being let me just take a couple breaths because this is getting overwhelming do you know what I mean so I just love to like take a second my feelings are valid like sometimes my family's a lot which I bet everyone already knows everyone's families are have a sense of crazy to them but but I think that I can get really overwhelmed really easily I am prone to just you know a good amount of anxiety and just being extremely overwhelmed and kind

of taking everything too seriously sometimes so I like to just step away sometimes and just be like this is okay I'm allowed to feel this way it's valid I'm just going to take a deep breath and I'm not going to react and then I'm going to go back out there and I'm going to be fine sometimes I do that I love that I love how easy it is we don't need no one needs to learn a new meditation practice or a new things simple as that yeah it's as simple as that I love that I

you know one of the things that you know when which which really touched my heart when I saw this because I think when things happen in culture and and everyone talks about it but but sometimes you're like okay well I can tell that there's a real connection here like when when you lost Virgil right like that when I when I saw your message and what you spoke about it I was like wow this is this is someone who had a really deep connection with this individual and going through grief is really really tough like you

know people who lose and I lost uh two really close people to me during the pandemic I'm sorry uh one was thank you one was one was my spiritual teacher since I was 12 years old and he died of stage four brain cancer and I hadn't seen him during the pandemic I couldn't go back for his because that was still when it was like TI lockdown so I couldn't go back for his funeral and you know he'd been the person who'd been such a key piece of my life and then the other person pretty much

in the same year was my best friend as a monk so he was still a monk wow and and he having to get cancer and he passed away during the pandemic I couldn't see him either and he was my age and so to lose someone that was you know he was still there and so yeah and so and so when I saw your you know your wonderful tribute to Virgil as well I was like you know how how do you process something like that when you know it's not only industry friends but genuine friendship beyond

that just how yeah well my first thought here is why is it always the best people like why is it always these people that are just such balls of light in everyone's life it's like so you just think about it and you're like this is so unfair and you're going through every emotion and to be honest it was really shocking cuz not everyone knew what he was um going through and suffering from so it was really shocking um I'll never forget the day I found out and it just absolutely obviously breaks your heart and you

can't help but be like oh my god did I did I ever say enough did I ever tell him enough it's really interesting to share that feeling with so many people it feels good in a way and you're just like everyone it makes you feel so human and you're sharing this emotion with people that knew him people that didn't know him people that just loved him from afar and it's just a really beautiful and incredible thing to a certain degree but then also just obviously the most devastating thing it hits so hard when so many

people are talking about it and so many people are affected by it so it was definitely um a really shocking really sad time yeah it was yeah yeah and those and and it's really interesting what you said there is like why and and I had that with my spiritual teacher for sure I was just like like he was you know and and what's really powerful about what I could at least remember from him at that time was that even though he had stage for brain cancer which means he'd lost his short-term memory and a lot

of his long-term memory was impaired if you ever met him he would just thank you for your service to God like he would just say thank you for everything you're doing for other people and he would just be grateful and I was just like that's exactly how V was too he was the most positive lived life like appreciative wanted to say yes to everything wanted to just be there for everyone one you could literally ask him to design a pencil for you and he would be like it'll be done tomorrow what do you what else

do you need like he just had so much to give and he gave it and that wasn't that was pre his diagnosis that was like that was just who Virgil was and so to then find out what he found out at a certain point in his life and still be that person it's still like I'm going to show up for everyone and like my time here is so special to all these other people and I'm going to like be here to make them feel amazing is just like unreal like it makes you just be like

what like H how you're how could you be that incredible and giving like that is so crazy there wasn't a selfish bone in that man's body like he was just the best so but I'm sorry to hear about your oh no I I think it's it's actually nice speaking about people that we both love in in a s in a in a similar way even though they're in such different places in life doing very things but to talk about someone's and I think that's a big part of it for me at least with grief that

I feel like when I talk about the beautiful qualities of the people that I lost it gives me so much confidence that they want me to live it and they want me to try and embody it and that how fortunate we are to have experienced that type of humanity yeah like you know and those are my thoughts of him like I think all we ever really want as human beings is to be you know when we do leave this earth we want to be remembered so beautifully and posit positively I know at least I do

of course but like you just want you of course want to make people feel something and he made so many people feel something and for that it is so special like what do they say that we you know we have our purpose here and I know that he fulfilled a purpose here that he was supposed to fulfill and I think that that's I think about it beautifully like I obviously it's a very very sad situation and it and it breaks my heart but I have nothing but beautiful thoughts of him and I think that's really

cool and really special so yeah you thank you for sharing that too and I I had to ask you because yeah I just I feel I I love hearing amazing things about amazing people that you know because I think so many of the most incredible people I grew up reading about people that I never met and I spent a lot of my life studying books about people that I never met so Malcolm X and Martin Luther King and Einstein and people that I really see as people that have directed so much of my life from

how they lived and I feel like he was potentially one of those people that I never met him but whenever I hear about him I'm just like oh this is someone that we could learn from you spoke about purpose there I was wondering how has your purpose changed you had this very confident view of I want to be a mono you know you you've superseded exceeded and continue to flourish in that world and I and I always wish that you do how has your purpose evolved as that time's gone on I think I've learned learned

a lot I've learned a lot about myself about what I want from my life and which is kind of what we've been talking about but um I'm actually really excited to get older and to learn so much more about not only myself but like the journey and the path that I I guess want to take and want to be on so I'd say you know my purpose has evolved from obviously within business doing what I want to do and making sure I'm happy and finding the thing that I love and all those things but I've

kind of like I said really tuned in to me and I think my purpose at least at this very moment and what I've kind of evolved into is is my higher goddess like I am determined to tune into her at all times but also as I get older I have so much that I want to connect with other people and with you know AKA social media and people that may not know me personally um and just you know the following like I said I I was given this life for some reason for whatever reason I

was placed here and I do feel a purpose to share and connect and put a smile on people's spaces or make someone feel a positive feeling and so I think that within me wanting to achieve me tuning into my higher goddess I think that also entails me being a great version of myself for other people to that than experience and my tips and my tools and whatever I can share whatever help I can give I I really um you know as corny as it sounds I want to spread love like I want people to feel

love I that's really I guess the purpose yeah that's that's beautiful I mean what more could you ask for yeah right yeah and and and it is funny that so much of the stuff that is corny or you know whatever that's the stuff that's true right like that's the stuff it is like there's also just we all just like live in such a it's an interesting time obviously and it can feel really negative and I tend to stay off of platforms like social media platforms because it's hard to look at sometimes and it feels really

negative so I feel like we all just need a little bit of a smile sometimes I agree I agree I I post these uh videos every day which are just these fun silly things that happen in the world that my my team will find I'll find and I post them every day literally for that reason and that reason only because I'm like like I may or may say may or may not say something that makes someone smile but this definitely will like this this without a doubt will bring some joy to someone's life and if

if this is the only joy that someone experienced I want them to see good in the world and believe that there's good in the world that's one of my favorite things to see on um Tik Tok when I sit in my bed at night and fall victim to Tik Tok I love to see there's people that'll post like um here's like five amazing facts that have happened in the world in the last couple weeks or whatever and it'll be like the you know pandas are not extinct anymore and like the bar Great Barrier Reef is

coming back and stuff like that and so I'm like that's so cool that's what I want to hear exactly and and you know if it was like it's going down it's like it's going to get a lot of likes and hits but if it's going up it doesn't get the same attention why do we like gravitate towards the negative so much like very interesting we have to retrain I I genuinely believe it's just a pattern it's a pattern and a habit that's been adoped for so long AB absolutely and we have to retrain the clickbait

of it all and the whole thing and we're like that's going downhill I need to see what's happening and we just like we do need to retrain our brains it's exactly what it is yeah and it starts with what you said earlier it starts with how we see ourselves it is all from that if someone looks in the mirror as you were saying earlier or if someone just reflects on themselves not in physically but just internally yeah most of us will spot all the negative things about ourself and then we take that out into the

world spot all the negative things about everyone else and then we take that out into social media so that just propels from if you it's all a reflection it's all yeah if we ask someone to sit down and write down as you said we feel uncomfortable taking a compliment or we feel uncomfortable saying saying nice about ourselves right exactly and so it all starts with our relationship with ourselves if we were able to find three good things about ourselves today I promise you you're going to find three good things about the person sitting in front

of you and and that will right exactly uh I do a lot of like inner inner child work with my um therapist and there's actually a trend on Tik Tok that was going around but um coincidentally enough we ended up naturally speaking about it in my session and it was like this trend on Tik Tok I guess that was like um like a girl being like anytime you're being mean to yourself just think this is who you're talking about and then it flashes to like a photo of her as a kid and so I me

and my therapist were talking about something similar and she was like why don't you find like a photo of yourself and put it on your bathroom mirror so that every morning every night every day when you walk into your bathroom mirror you're looking at her and you're remembering that if there's anything negative that you're ever saying about yourself if you're ever being mean to yourself you're talking about her and so I did that and I went into my um I went into like my memorabilia closet in my house and I was looking through old like

photo books and I've seen these photo books my whole life I've literally seen every photo that's been in here and I like flipped to a page and there was a photo I'd never seen of myself ever it was a polaroid so it was the original photo and it was just me as a little girl with a bow in my hair and a dress on and I have like a little alien tattoo or something right here and I'm like have this big cheesy smile on my face and I was like that's the photo I'm putting on

my thing I can show you the photo later I have a picture of it on my phone but um so I pasted it on my bathroom mirror and I talked to her and I'm always like if I'm ever looking in the mirror and being negative towards myself or anything I always look right over to her and I'm like she's dope and I love her and so it's just another way of just self love I love that that's such a great tool that's such a great tool my team found a kid picture of me and made

an embarrassing version of that Trend so I'll show you that too but oh awesome okay so you know it yeah I know exactly I know exactly you're talking about as well K you were saying earlier that you know you you wanted to come here and you you wanted to share and manifested and you there were things you wanted to share what is it that's on your heart that you've wanted to share that maybe we didn't go there today already or is there something on your mind and heart as an experience or a any anything that

really Drew you here and made this happen right like I want to honor that I think we've obvious we've honestly touched a lot of what I felt like I would have loved to get off my heart I don't know I was really excited honestly to come here and share a little bit of me that I feel is very sometimes scary for me to share and um like I said I came in here and I was a little nervous cuz this is important to me and like this part of you know everyone's journey and and what

we're talking about today is it's so important I really that was I guess my intention here today was to come in and share a little bit of me and maybe for whoever's watching they find some comfort in this or some Joy from this or they understand me a little bit more you know what I mean so I think that we've hit a lot of really cool points and yeah I mean I feel I feel really good good I wanted to honor that I I asked that because you know I think I think when when you

feel you're in that flow with someone and yeah I I feel like you know we've learned so many new things about you today and there's so many moments where I'm like I just feel like you're so comfortable and and you've been so open with us but I just wanted to honor that and make sure that you feel that you've really felt heard and seen I appreciate that thank you so I want be hope so we all want to just be understood at the end of the day so I think the closer you get to people

humans the closer you get to people of different backgrounds and different walks of Life the more you start to recognize how similar we all are yeah exactly and how many challenges we all share despite how much money someone has in the bank despite how much Fame someone has despite how much follows someone has and what we find is that everyone feels their own guilt for where they are and everyone feels their own pressure for where they are and everyone feels their own challenge for where they are and you just start to realize that we all

have the same emotions exactly in different mixes yeah we're all just having a human experience exactly we're all just going day by day I think we all need to be a little bit kinder to each other and just take it easy on some people so cuz we are we're all we all have our own struggles and um I don't know I'm I'm an empath so I like feel for things and I feel for people and um yeah yeah and it starts with you the the person right yeah it's exactly I thought you meant me I

was like I I don't want that power I was like thank you I I meant that to our listener like it starts with yourself like if you can be kinder to yourself chances are you're going to be I I found that the days I stopped judging myself I stopped judging others because it it changed how I saw Humanity so uh Kendall we end every on purpose episode with a final five which is a fast five round I ask you a question and you answer it with a one word or one sentence maximum so it's super

quick and short and we have to whisk you away because you need you need to go to your next appointment uh but okay so the first question is what's something you're curious about right now ooh um I am super curious about I was saying how I love um Michael Singer and I think what I really love I'm reading uh the surrender experiment right now and I'm only in the first couple chapters so he's basic this is not a quick answer it's I love please please he's basically at the first part of the book where he's

talking about how he was curious about meditation and how he got into meditation and how he really just was like on a trip with his friends and his girlfriend in the woods and like sat in a corner or sat at a tree and was like I'm going to just really dive into this and see what happens that's what I'm curious about right now it's just actually like I meditate I do a lot of breathing work breathing exercises and I just really want to tap in yeah like Michael Singer did I love that that's that's a

great answer that's a great answer uh second question if there's anything that you're working on personally right now what are you working on on yourself is there any yes um I'm working on I'm working on boundaries and I'm working on not my stresser like I can stress about things in my mind and I overthink and I just so I'm really working on like calming down and just letting things flow better and not being so controlling over things especially that I can't control love it so uh question number three uh what's your favorite thing about founding

818 ooh um entrepreneur and being a Founder probably that like I I you know was a model and I worked for people a lot I kind of love being my own boss and really being able to have my own creative a place where I can be creative and just really express my creativity and have so much fun doing all of that creative stuff and I've learned so much and learning about the culture and learning about the tequila and everything like I've just had the best time so I love that uh question number four what's something

you used to Value but you don't value anymore validation great answer I don't care anymore great answer at least I'm telling myself that yes yeah well we have to make it a thought first no but it it's true like I used to care so much more about validation I really don't care anymore at least thank yeah uh Fifth and final question if you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow what would it be ooh I would do like like on like a Sunday you have to take half the day and

like not look at your phone or something that's great I love that that's a legit L that's great right would be kind of nice or the full day being really crazy I love that idea I love that uh Ken Jenner everyone this was amazing Kendall this honestly uh and I'm excited to catch up afterwards too but this there was just so much flow and Synergy in this whole thing happening and I couldn't thank you more for doing this with me here on on purpose and I hope that this is the first of many times that

we'll did this but I hope it's the beginning of a beautiful friendship and relationship and uh sure I want to everyone who's been listening or watching back at home please let me and Kendall know tag us letting us know what resonated with you what connected with you like what was it that you've got curious about or what were something she said that just shifted your perspective or where you learned something new I'd love to hear it I know there were tons of moments for me where I was listening going this is amazing this is incredible

this is awesome so any wisd nuggets that stuck out to you please let us know cuz I love seeing uh what made a difference in your life as well and a big thank you to Kendall for opening our heart and opening up our mind I'm honored thank you so much thank you thank you so much that's amazing if you want even more videos just like this one make sure you subscribe and click on the boxes over here I'm also excited to let you know that you can now get my book think like a monk from

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