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you give two people poor person a million dollar wealthy person a million dollar poor people get money and they start calculating the new furniture they could buy the trips they can go on the new car they could lease they essentially spent the million dollars before it's even finished the wire transfer the wealthy person doesn't rush to do anything with the money and starts considering based on their allocation and their portfolio where can I get the best return that makes the most sense for the long term poor people use money to consume wealthy people use money

to create more money why do you think most people are [Music] broke I think most people are broke for a few reasons the first one is is that they don't they're they don't they don't realize that they're responsible 100% for their life like 100% they're accountable like there's nobody coming to save you there's nobody that's going to do it for you there's no moment where somebody passes away and leaves you a bunch of money there's no lottery tickets there's no going to the casino and winning there's literally you saying if I don't make this better

it will not get better that needs to happen second part is is they're broke because they don't realize that the world will compensate you based on the value you bring to the world so if you're upset with what you're making income wise or you feel like people are taking advantage of you you have to ask yourself what could you do to become more valuable what are the skills you have have to acquire how do you how do you add those skills like that to me those two things if you can be 100% accountable for your

situation and develop yourself to become more valuable for other people and then I would say the third thing is to know your worth because I don't think even if you had those first two if you didn't believe you deserved more you'll never get a penny more than you think you're worth so if you don't feel you're worth more even if you're more valuable even if you're 100% accountable but you don't ask for it it will never show up in your life that's why I think people are broke is because they're not willing to be accountable

for their situation they're not willing to invest in themselves to acquire new skills are more valuable and they're not willing to ask for what they think they deserve because they don't think they deserve a lot and no other person's going to going to teach you how to deserve more you have to decide that you are worth it tell me something about rich people that 99% of people don't know that rich people are harder on themselves than anybody else will ever be on them I think most rich people are so misunderstood because people think they have

the easy life and what I've discovered is the people that have wealth are wealthy because they were willing to do the work in many ways I think their work ethic is a reflection of their gratitude it's my experience I think rich people honor the the fact that they've been given an opportunity and a blessing I'm not talking multi generational wealth I'm not talking about people that are trustful kids I'm talking to people that have created their situation and it doesn't mean that they own a business it could be somebody that's an executive at a company

that gets paid a lot of money to do what they do what you will quickly learn if you spend time with them is they are more hard on themselves more critical of their performance more more um driven to do better than anything any person could say to them and for some of them it's not a life you would want to live and I think that's that's misunderstood a lot of people say well I want to be rich it's like I don't know if you want to have all that comes with being rich because it isn't

easy it only becomes easy if you learn how to deal with those emotions the feelings that come with being rich and realize that to the degree that you can deal with bigger problems you will actually live a more fulfilling life you went from reab to being a multi-millionaire what what changed what changed rehab to multi-millionaire kind of everything like everything had to change my whole world view when I when I go back 25 years coming out of this place Portage that literally saved my life after spending 11 months there trying to learn about myself and

what made me tick there was so much that had to change I would think I would say the thing that is universal though for me for sure is that I believed I could do it but that belief came from other people so I didn't believe I could do it other people believed that I could do more but I accepted the belief and like that's a different thing because there's been situations where people have talked about kind of what they think they see me do and I'm like oh I wasn't ready to believe it but the

one thing for sure is because I had shown up and got sober and then got out and started in business and even though I failed for seven years of trying back-to-back failures people still believed because of what I went through and where I was at even in the failures that I had potential that they saw the passion I brought to anything I did they believed that there was eventually going to be some kind of success I don't think any of us could have predicted what it became but that was that was probably the big thing

that shifted for me was just the belief that I could be one of those people CU I grew up my whole life not believing that I was even worth breathing the air I was taking up I mean what if what should I do if I don't have anybody that believes in me well if you do believe in a Creator that's a great place to start that's just the truth man I've just got so much gratitude when I look at like what I went through and what life I get to live today and just like there's

no other way any of this happened without without him and that's why I think I wake up every day to just try to be better is just I want to honor the fact that I was given a chance like there's no world statistically where I'm alive let alone thriving let alone having resources that I get to choose to do what I want to do when I want to do it with whoever I want to do and be where like I mean it's just it's just an honor and when I think of how close it came

to that not being the case it just gets me emotional I'm just I think that if you don't have anybody that can believe in you know that he believes in you that your creator believes in you if you follow my content I believe in you I don't even need to know you because I know who you were created by and I believe in you like I legit see you doing something incredible with your life I think it's why you're watching this video sometimes people want to see a sign they're like show me a sign and

the sign's right there the sign could be this conversation it literally is not it doesn't have to be a big Grand Jester it can be a moment with a person a video an audio something you hear or see or you read and you're like oh I've been asking for this and it's right there I think I've had hundreds of those show up in my life sometimes I wasn't paying attention sometimes I was sometimes I played it down sometimes I played it up but the there's opportunities every day to see the absolute blessing that is called

life and we get to live in it and whether we want to do something with it or not time's going to pass today's going to pass this minute like literally every day seconds are going to pass and I can either choose to actively engage in my life and create something from it the fact that I have Consciousness and I have the ability to have judgment and make decisions you know I'm alive those are all those are all real things I can be grateful on this moment for the air I breathe like crazy grateful because in

three minutes if you didn't have any air to breathe you would wish you did so I don't know I think sometimes we we need more than we think we need to actually decide to just change things I don't I don't need any person to validate my ideas I just got to realize that like hey if I don't do it nobody else is going to do it and I don't need anybody to believe in me because what if they can't see my greatness because they're too close what if the fact that they're my family or my

friends and they've known me for a long time and they don't see what's changed inside that's the hard part is the you know fitness journey people see that physically they see it it's easy to correlate oh you used to be this now you're that but when you're on a journey of personal development and growth and mindset growth they don't see it right away and it's it's easy to feel like they don't understand it's not their fault because they don't understand what you see inside they don't they don't hear the words you say to yourself but

you've seen this whole new pattern emerge and you got to be willing to be misunderstood by the people closest to you because they're too close to see the greatness that's brewed inside and you just have to be okay being misunderstood for long periods of time and over time if you show up and you do the work and you just you swing it'll connect and then they'll all go like oh yeah overnight success not really if anything not impressive if anything 25 years in the making how can I overcome the fear of starting for me the

way I always overcome the fear of starting anything is realize one the people that I care about their opinion are more worried about their own life than my life right everybody's living in this movie called me movie or me ink and they're like worrying about what everybody else thinks of them and we think they're thinking about us but they're not so first off judgment from other people but what I do with my life I usually park those things cuz I realize that there beliefs in my decisions are 100% a reflection of their own limitations judgment

reality of their life they've live not on my reflection of my life and decisions so that's one two most people's worst case is actually other people's dream scenario think about that most people's worst case scenario of having to live with their parents again having to lose everything and sell it or whatever it is based on where they live in the world the worst case for them is some other person in the world's dream outcome some other person in the world that woke up today that doesn't have any food a place to sleep anybody that cares

about them your worst case scenario would be their dream life put that into perspective so like starting or trying is kind of silly if you take that into consideration and then the other thing is tomorrow is definitely not guaranteed but I don't even look at it that way I think about in fiveyear increments like if I only had 5 years to live 5 years to breathe 5 years to expand and grow and create and spend time with people what would I want to do over those next five years people should get really familiar with the

concept that their life is very impermanent it is it's here and gone five years is enough time to do something meaningful without being wasteful right like I don't think people should pretend like I only got a week to live and go a beach No 5 years is like hey I want to leave an impact I want to I want to serve I want to create I want to help other people how could I do that and I just think that getting comfortable with the fact that you're going to die is a beautiful way to prioritize

decisions and if you have any inclination here's the crazy part I don't believe God puts ideas on your heart that he doesn't think you can pull off you wouldn't even have the idea to start a business if it wasn't possible and there's never been a situation I know this to be true for all people where you've been put in a tough situation that you didn't make it through I'm not saying you got the outcome you wanted but it's very rare for somebody to be pushed into a corner that rose up that didn't get through that

tough situation some way somehow and I think we just forget that if you just decide the reason it was on your heart is cuz it's meant for you to go create that outcome that business go after your dream that you will be given the strength to accomplish that and it's why for you specifically you've had this thought you probably have a dream that I've never even considered nothing I'd ever want to desire or get or anything you have a unique vision of your life that I've never had that's only yours and the reason why is

because it's meant for you I'm setting goals and dreams but I'm not achieving any of them what should I do measure and get feedback if you're setting goals and dreams okay and you're not achieving them two things that are missing measuring progress where you at now where do you want to be what should you be making progress towards what's the number most people don't break things down into actions right so if I know I want to be a millionaire by the time I'm 30 seems to everybody's or make 100K a month now it seems like

that's the new number then where you at if you're 22 you want to be a millionaire at 30 that's eight years break it down now it's not it's not linear it usually kind of goes exponentially but you should be on Pace then you measure it every quarter and every month so now we have a measurement timeline but then we got to back it up by like what kind of activities or decisions would create the scenario for that to be true obviously if you want to start a business or you want to get into a structure

in your current company where you can get paid based on performance those are all things that could you know you could save your way to that you can invest your way to that definitely invest over save but then you have a measurement now what will happen is along the way at some point you will Plateau here's what I know to be true 100% of the time is there will be issues there will be problems or I like to call them puzzles you will face adversity and the way to overcome that is to get feedback is

to find people that have built the million ay year business or more and ask them for feedback to anal your strategy and those people typically will come in look at it and within seconds go oh change this tweak that start this stop that and all of a sudden the momentum builds back up there's no person I know that if they're honest with themselves measured their progress along the way and if at any point they felt like they hit a wall went and seek advice or feedback from people that have been there before and took that

feedback and Chang and tweaked their strategy I don't know anybody who hasn't been successful but a lot of people just lie to themselves along that journey and they'll say oh it's not for me or it's hard or it's not working it's not working because you don't want it to work because you're not giving feedback you're not seeking out well this is uncomfortable yeah I know that's the work that has to be done anything that's easy that's like that's immediately you know that's not the right thing it's supposed to be hard you're supposed to deal with

adversity that will make you better steel sharpen steel and through that journey is how you actually become successful what's the number one trait in successful people that that you've observed Through The Years number one trait man that's a great question number one character trait the number one like if I had to like there's a lot of stuff you know determined grit resilient but I would say is they have the the ability to drive like and it and it's not like some people can have spurts of it successful people are driven they're driving they're they're in

the driver's seat of their dreams they're that the people on their team feel the energy of forward motion and even if they have a flat tire they fix the tire and and they're back to being driven successful people literally feel different when you talk to them they're they're not looking at their feet they're looking at the the the skyline like there's a different energy of even their language their focus what they work on but the word that always comes in mind if I think of like my mentors my coaches the people I work with my

friends that are incredibly successful driven individuals it doesn't matter are they outgoing introverted you know creatives Engineers left brain right brain doesn't matter what's true amongst all of them is they are driven you can feel that energy to forward motion and creation what makes someone successful in your opinion financially successful successful see this is the thing is words matter and meaning matters right so like for me success is not wealth success you know if you do things primarily for money or every decision you make is based on money then I don't actually think that's success

I think success is this concept I got from my coach which is blissfully dissatisfied I think I think success is waking up every day in being so ridiculously gr grateful I think success is waking up every day and being so ridiculously grateful that it could bring you to tears and in the same breath realize that you were here to create more not out of a place of lack not out of a place of recognition not to fill a void that's inside not the not to create because you don't feel enough know you're enough feel that

realize how big of a blessing everything in your life currently is no matter how good or bad it is just absolutely feel the gratitude for the presence and knowing that same breath that you're here to do more with your life that to me is success and it's not a number in a bank account how can I find my purpose I think every person purpose sits right next to the worst thing that ever happened to them and here's why I usually ask people at like what level of income is it 100 Grand 500 Grand a million

dollar $10 million $100 million a year what level of income personally to you do you stop thinking about accumulation and things you could buy and start thinking about giving to other people and that's a fascinating question cuz some people it's like a 100,000 they're thinking I'll give 50 away I can live off 50 some people it's it's north of 10 million so there's a big range but what usually follows that is if you had that Surplus what cause would you want to invest that into what's what pain or challenge you see people face that you

would love to help them overcome or make easier for them and it's usually aligned with the worst thing that's ever happened to them you know be growing up in poverty growing up without a father growing up in and being abused in some way um experiencing you know medical illness or whatever it is just some kind of pain you've ever experienced maybe it was a loved one and usually right next to that pain is your purpose and when you compare your your vision for what you're here to do the purpose in your life if you can

figure that out and then you pair that up with a way to create a business that supports that it's aligned with that where the business and the purpose are the same thing or directionally serve the same thing that is a winning recipe so I just can't see a world where somebody wakes up and says Hey by helping people I get to collect resources AK make money and then take that and support a a cause an organization or people that you feel absolutely compelled to serve based on what you experienc in your life that's super unique

to you I think if every person woke up with that drive and desire that would change the world it literally would we don't need billionaires to fix problems we need people to go create Millionaires and then solve the problems around them in their Community is making a a lot of money a bad thing no being everybody should want to be rich every person should have a desire to create resources to do more I have a problem when people say that they really care about helping people and they think that playing small is helping anybody cuz

if you see other people be rich or have more money than you and you think that they're not using it right great go become a millionaire go go grab that resource go create a better Mouse trp go build a business go become more to go be rich and then do what you want with the money you know and people say well it's not about the money well I say well go become a millionaire and then decide what you want to do with it but don't tell me it's not about the money because the money is

a reflection of the value created in the world so I think every person should have a desire to be rich go get as much money as you possibly can and then as you're doing it choose what you do with it and I think that is just a beautiful way to wake up every day it's not about you know saying well rich is bad there's nothing wrong with creating resources like every day the more options you have the the bigger the opportunity to live a fulfilled life so if you want to donate to a charity do

you want to donate a little or a lot I want to donate a lot cool go get rich if you want to help a cause you want to help a little bit or you help a lot I want to help a lot great go get rich you know you got this person you want to bless you want to bless him a little bit you want to bless him a lot great go get rich there's nothing wrong with being rich the desire for why I think is a problem what you do once you collect it is

a problem the way you think about yourself or make decisions once you have money it could be a problem but money is a tool no different than a fork is a tool it can be used to nourish your body or it can be used to take somebody's life it's the same thing you decide what you do with that resource but every person should have a desire to be rich because what you're saying is I deserve I'm worth it I can create value in this world I I I I'm capable of growing my skills growing my

beliefs growing my character traits to become the person that I was created to become your 10.0 version your best version if you took all the best moments in your life where you stepped up powerfully and you're creative and you're resourceful and you're kind and you're gracious all those things if you took the best moments of your life put them all together if you actually live like that all 18 hours you're awake or whatever amount of time you're awake can you imagine that person that's that's that's it so when I say Rich I just say best

version of yourself you should want that what do you think about Legacy here's the deal I think purpose is required you can't have perseverance without purpose because if you did some people call that grit I call it a grind if you want to see somebody's Soul just get deteriorated have them work on something and not know why and I think that's what happens with a lot of people they they feel fatigued they feel like burnt out and it's like I've never been burnt out doing something I love for a purpose that's way bigger than me

what was the question again what do you think about Legacy so the challenge is is that I believe that focusing on other people's a good thing I think using language around Legacy can sometimes be another part of the ego Playing Tricks on you to do things for long term so you don't enjoy the short term so a lot of people make sacrifices for legacy for their family for multigenerational wealth whatever it is they sacrifice in the short term and I find that as a copout instead of just saying hey can I be present now can

the best thing that I leave the world is me now in this moment for the rest of my life not a sacrifice for this generation that you'll never meet that in three generations will never know your name you cannot tell me your great great grandparents names maybe 0.1% of you guys but very few people know their lineage nor does it matter what matters is how did you show up today who did you impact today what kind of conversations you have today what kind of energy did you bring to every interaction with every person you had

today that that's Legacy but it's not legacy the way most people think about it it's a decision to leave the world a better place I think the best thing you could ever leave the world is your if you have kids is your kids like that's my my gift is not a financial bucket of money my gift is going to be my children it's going to be the relationships the people that came into my life it's the the teams that I've built I think Legacy is just used as a copout for sacrificing today and not living

today I want to encourage people to just like sh show up fully present in the moment for now try to get it done in this lifetime afterwards it's going to get redistributed to everybody the idea of ownership is hilarious nothing you have you own you think you do it's gone your home not yours you think you own the land you don't think you have that money in that bank account you don't none of it you it's all borrowed it's it's kind of like you're a custodian of it for a short period of time and it

all goes back to the economy me once you're done so you might as well just say how can I use this to be the most present and and supportive and giving person now not worrying about 300 years from now it turns out though if you do that you'll probably leave on a mark it turns out if you do that you'll probably leave a mark on the world that will last 300 500 a thousand years that's a funny part if you actually live that way I think it has the best chance of you living that long

the whole idea of like donating money to a hospital to put your name on a new section of the building which in 20 years they'll literally sell your naming rights to the next person's highest bidder that's not Legacy Legacy is how you show up today you had a tweet go viral um a couple days ago normalize leaving people in whatever reality they have chosen um can you expand on that yeah the tweet that went viral I wrote normalize leaving people in the reality that they've chosen and the reason why is if you come to the

understanding that every person is choosing their reality okay they're choosing the world as they want to see it because the world isn't as it is the world is as you are so whatever world that they see the limitation the lack the frustration the challenges it's their world we I can't save any person I can't convince other people to change their beliefs on the world I can offer them perspectives and what I call pov's points of views that might influence them to make a decision to change that but they it's up to them so I've just

gotten to a place where I'm 100% comfortable and okay with somebody not seeing things the way I want to see it or doing things in a way I wouldn't agree with not being upset about it but just letting them go through their world be on their journey and it not affect me because it truly is not my responsib ility and I think when I say normalizing is like I would just hope everybody gets to understanding that sooner than later so that they can actually live a life that's way more peaceful cuz once you realize there's

nobody else to fix and it's really just you that I can control that I have agency over and I can move through the world with that understanding and I'll just let everybody else kind of figure out their stuff at their own timeline is imposter syndrome a good good or bad thing I think imposter syndrome's cool because imposter syndrome tells you where you're at your upper limits of your comfort like my favorite thing is to get in a room where I know that if anybody figured out that I was in it they'd probably kick me out

of it okay at the same time the nerves means I care so the fact that you have impostor syndrome is actually a beautiful thing because it tells you that you're honoring the opportunity you've been given the challenge is is when you act out of that feel and you don't take action to be in that room you convince yourself to not go you you know let somebody else take the spot you know whatever it is like you just don't want to not step into it but impostor syndrome is part of the process anytime that you're trying

to do something for the first time it's going to require you to show up in a way that from the outside seems confident but you know inside it's kind of like the duck on the top of the water it's just moving around the water really calm and collected and underneath it's got his two feet just moving you know frantically that's like your internal emotions I remember one time I got invited to an event and I had to go for a walk CU I was so nervous cuz every person I looked up to was in that

room like all the people people I follow on the internet they were in the room I went to the gym in the morning 13 people that I absolutely adore from Instagram were working out in that room and I'm sitting there going holy moly I hope they like who I am I mean I was legit scared I called my dad I said Hey Dad I'm like weighing over my head my dad's like are you serious like do you remember where you came from did you forget what you've accomplished and I was like yeah but these people

are way more accomplished he goes Dan they'd be lucky to have a conversation with you like I know you and it blows my mind what you've done what you're doing where you've come from I don't even understand it and I don't know anybody that's ever done that I would love to have a conversation with them and I think that's a big idea for people to consider is that inspiration doesn't come from the size of the thing you've accomplished it comes from the place you started and how much you people believe that that was hard for

you and in many ways impostor syndrome is just acknowledgement that hey this is really tough but I I showed up anyway in spite of my fear of being discovered not liked rejected kicked out my fear I showed up I could have stayed in my hotel room nobody would have known I didn't show up except for me so I hope you have a dad like I have that every once in a while he knows the exact words to say but I think impostor syndrome is just part of part of the the journey how do wealthy people

look at money two things wealthy people look at money as a way to invest to get a return poor people look at money as a way to buy things and literally that is the language you give two people poor person a million dollars wealthy person a million dollars poor people get money and they start calculating the debt they could pay off the the couch they could buy the new furniture they could buy the trips they can go on the new car they could lease Etc they essentially spent the million dollars before it's even finished the

wire transfer the wealthy person doesn't rush to do anything with the money and starts considering based on their allocation and their portfolio where can I get the best return that makes the most sense for the long term they don't think of acquiring more stuff they think about it working for them poor people use money to consume wealthy people use money to create more money that is the big difference between poor people and wealthy people how do wealthy people look at time I think wealthy people look at time as a reason that they can't get back

and they're always looking for ways to spend money to save time not spend time to save money and that's the big difference the end of the day money can be created and generated and based on the creativity and resourceful you can make more it doesn't matter what economic class you come from Rich poor middle class Etc you cannot manufacture time so understanding how to spend money to get time is the skill of wealthy people and that's the difference between poor people and wealthy people poor people think well I'll just work harder and then I'll save

money and that's how I collect money no you have to become better to create more money so that's how you get money wealthy people are always about how do I buy that time to then use the new time to go do things that are going to make me more money so that I can start building a surplus what are your thoughts on worthiness what are my thoughts on worthiness I have a lot of thoughts I don't know where to start it's kind of like worthiness has different like kind of angles to it there's the part

of like am I worth another person's time right like I know I can add value to them but if I don't feel like I can do that clearly I might not be worth their time so there's a worthiness of like do I feel regardless of the situation that interacting with another person could be valuable to them under the right circumstance that is one part of worthiness like just in conversations and interactions the other part of worthiness is you know what do I deserve to have you know do I deserve to be rich do I deserve

to have a nice car do I deserve to be in a a loving relationship if you don't believe that you deserve you won't you won't receive it right because you'll never fight for that outcome if you believe that you're an evil person you've done some bad things you have a lot of Shame then you'll never bring into your life the the the the result of being somebody that deserves those things is in many ways I've said this so many times you'll never get a penny more than you think you deserve so even like the worthiness

of like having money is on the by product of believing that what you do is valuable and I think a lot of people discount what they do because they think that everybody else knows how to do it they don't realize it took you four years to learn that or you do it two times FAS faster than anybody else that's closest to you that your result is very abnormal because you know it so well you're so close to it you're just like oh everybody knows this no they don't and if you can consistently get a result

for somebody that's worth a lot it's it's worth a fraction of whatever result you can get for them that's why I think of worthiness there's like different dimensions to worthiness worthiness isn't just one component it's a worthiness in a relationship worthiness in all aspects of love and and family and business and and career and then there's a worthiness of just of just attracting wealth into your life you know I have friends that can't receive gifts because they don't feel worthy of those gifts because they feel like I have to earn those things when they don't

realize that they we don't earn those things we attract those things by becoming valuable and if somebody wants to bless you you should learn to to accept a compliment a gift it all comes down to worthiness what's your definition of greatness my definition of greatness is very simple are the people closest to you better for having you in their life that's that's greatness do people your family your friends your peer groups your co-workers would they say they lives got better the more time they spent with you the more interactions they had with you the more

time they got to work with you the more times I had conversations with you do would they all say like man having that person around having you around made my life better that is greatness a great person finds the greatness pulls out the greatness holds expectations of other people's greatness to The Highest Potential and shows them through their own actions that it's possible that's that's my definition of greatness great people bring greatness into other people's lives what do you hope to teach your kids about life I got a list of things I want to teach

my kids about life but there's a handful of stuff first off and they're they're pretty much all our core values one you don't deserve anything that you didn't go and create no no country no family no situ ation will ever get you what you think you deserve you don't deserve anything unless you've created an environment or you've created the scenario where you've you've helped other people and you've you've collected a piece of that so there's I think right off the bat it's like just because it's a certain time of day or a certain day of

the week you don't deserve anything right off the bat number two you are incredible I do this cool thing where I tell my kids about them I tell them about their greatness I tell them about their giftedness I tell them about the Jesus I see inside of them I tell them about their giftedness like you are really good at this you are awesome at this so I'm a big fan of teaching them that I'm teach I love teaching my kids to communicate with other people especially adults when you meet an adult walk up to them

look them in the eye introduce yourself say your name clearly with confidence ask them what their name is smile simple will change the game for them in life I teach them about collaboration that if you want to go fast sometimes you go alone but if you want to go far you got to go with people right and just showing them how to collaborate with other people how to play nicely with other people how to partner how to set agreements how to manage expectations how to repair arguments huge area I teach my kids um grit I

always celebrate the progress not the outcome I whenever my kid accomplishes in something I say tell me about how much effort you put into that how many times did you want to quit tell me about those moments I'm really proud of what you created but I'm really impressed with the NeverEnding drive to get to that outcome because some kids stuff comes easy other ones it comes hard what I've discovered is people that are willing to do hard for long periods of time typically do really great in life um I teach them about compassion about caring

about the things the people they care about care about and if people in your life care about helping the community helping other kids helping other families then caring about those things is is is empathy it's compassion and I think you know I always tell them that like that person could be your brother could be your dad could be me could be your cousin just because they're not they could be so if you had a stranger come across your cousin how would you want them to treat that person if some somebody you know my son Noah

one time I we saw a person struggling and I said what if that was Max your brother what if your brother you didn't know where he was and he was walking around in a city and a stranger went up to him how would you want that stranger to interact with them that's how you should interact with that person assuming that that is some person's brother son father you don't know what else do I teach him I teach him about physical fitness health is wealth that if you don't have the energy to keep pushing when you

get tired that that's a decision you can make that you have the capacity to turn that around that what you put in your body affects your mind I mean I teach them a lot of stuff I teach the adults te I teach them the stuff that I know are going to be forc multipliers to have a a fulfilling life I teach them to acquire knowledge to read that there it's impossible for you to know what you need to know already it will always be external and you have to bring it internal every thing that you

want to achieve is going to be on the back end of learning something new and bringing it into your life those are the big things I teach my kids how can someone raise kids to not be entitled I think the best way to raise kids and not be entitled is to not do things for them right I'm not saying treat them bad abuse them all that stuff I people misunder understand me all the time I'm saying let your kids learn how to do things let your kids learn how to tie their shoes make their own

lunches make clean their rooms do their laundry my kids do all of those things ever since they were like six seven eight years old because I want them to understand that these are things that if you want to have happen you got to make them happen for yourself the other thing is is I don't buy them everything they want I get them what they need I pay for food I pay for clothes I pay for the needs and then we split the wants the wants are 50/50 they got to go make money bu working finding

opportunities in the house offering me up different chores and projects I don't put them on a salary or an allowance they have to find things to do and I'll pay them and if they can come up with half the money then they can get what they want but I only pay for the things they need and I go 50/50 on the wants the final thing I'll say on this is set the context for your your kids like my kids know when they're 18 they have to leave the house now whether I do that or not

doesn't matter but the fact that I've been telling them since they were little kids has gotten them prepared for leaving the affluent environment that they are growing up in okay flying around on Jets living in big homes flying around driving around in supercars that is not their reality that's my reality that's their parents' reality okay say often I'm rich you're not these people don't work for you I'm here to love you I will do that I don't need to be your best friend I can care about you but I will support you and you creating

and achieving value in the world independently yourself that's how I avoid raising entitled children what's the best piece of parenting advice you ever heard the best piece of parenting advice I ever heard I think the best piece of parenting advice I ever heard was celebrate the progress not the destination if a kid's climbing a mountain and they're struggling stop Point down to the bottom show them how small the parking lot was look how far you've come point to the mountain top celebrate the progress once they get to the top talk about moments they want to

give up celebrate those moments what's the secret to successful relationship a successful relationship I can only speak for my side out of the table like a male's opinion um don't try to fix things like unless you're being asked to fix something just listen but actually listen and want to listen cool part is you don't have to remember anything for the most part and you don't have to fix anything so just listen intentive and care and have empathy that's like 80% of the challenge how do you know if you found the one yeah I don't know

if I believe in the one I believe in finding a partner that you feel confident that you want to invest your life with and I think that there's probably a few people that that could have worked out with but at the end of the day what matters is that you have a deep connection and appreciation for who they are and their character and and you're committed to that investment like you want to co-create a future with this person and trying to find the one is actually a kind of a crazy idea and finding and investing

because like there's no a relationship that starts off perfect and stays perfect it's going to require work but what is going to be true is the desire to put that effort into the relationship to make it work what do you do what you do I do what I do for little Dan I do what I do because I know there's kids out there watching what I do making decisions about how they show up in life and if I can share my story of where I came from where I'm at today and all the different challenges

that I had and continue to have that I bring hope to those kids that's why I do what I do the success is required to get the attention of the people I really want to serve because I'll tell you I don't know about you I didn't go to university but if I did I'm pretty sure I wouldn't just happen to come up on my professor's Lamborghini in a parking lot but when I look at my mentors and and roll up to their jet or their yacht that inspires me and I know when I show up

to these kids to a rehab center to a crisis center to a group home or whatever in a Supercar I get their attention and I get to have a conversation with them that's why I do what I do