How Reputation Is Affecting Your Life (And Why)

every time you walk into a room full of people they already know whether you're a leader or a nobody fascinating or forgettable you see the way people see you isn't random okay it's shaped by an invisible force that affects every conversation job opportunity and relationship in your life it's the reason some people are respected While others are ignored and whether you realize it or not it compounds over time either working for you or against you now most people people don't realize that you can actually control this Force but the ones who do well let's just

say fame fortune and success come a whole lot easier to them in this video we're talking about your reputation okay the unspoken currency of success because when you know how to shape how people see you doors will open up for you before you even knock welcome to alux my friend the place where future billionaires come to get inspired so let's start off today by saying everybody has the reputation okay your reputation is like your Shadow it follows you everywhere you go growing and shrinking with every move you make and even though you've probably never thought

much about it it's shaped by the course of every friendship job and relationship you've ever had like it or not you already have a reputation it's being built every single day with every little interaction every decision and everything you say in public or in private in some cases the only question is is are you the one in control of it now most people think they know how others see them but the truth is they've got no idea have you ever met someone who thinks they're the life of the party but they come across as arrogant

or someone who thinks they're the smartest person in the room but everyone rolls their eyes when they start yapping away if you're not careful about your reputation that could very well be you but on the other hand have you ever met someone who never tries too hard but still commands respect the moment they walk into a room maybe it's the leader at work who never speaks much but everyone listens when they do or the person at a party who doesn't fight for attention yet everyone naturally gravitates toward them and then there's the guy who won't

shut up about how successful he is but nobody really takes him seriously this is the difference between a reputation that works for you and one that works against you when you've got a strong carefully constructed reputation you don't have to fight for respect it is given to you you get better opportunities stronger networks and more influence not because you're constantly proving yourself but because people already believe in you before you even open your mouth but why does this happen why do some people effortlessly command respect While others have to beg to be taken seriously well

it's because people don't judge you based on reality they judge you based based on perception let me just show you what I mean okay so imagine you walk into a jewelry store looking for the perfect engagement ring the owner presents you with two identical Diamonds the same cut same Clarity same value but there's one key difference one diamond is displayed in a velvet case perfectly lit mounted on a stunning ring and the other one is sitting in a Dusty cardboard box covered in cobwebs which one do you think people are going to pay more for

it's obvious right even though they're exactly the same one diamond is perceived as valuable while the other one is ignored it's all about presentation and this same principle applies to how the world values you you ever wonder why two people with the same experience and skills get wildly different results one gets hired promoted and respected the other is constantly overlooked well that's because people don't judge you based on what you really are they judge you based on what they perceive you to be think about it you could be the most skilled intelligent hardworking person on

the planet but if other people don't know that they won't know how to Value you or worse if they see you as awkward unremarkable or untrustworthy they'll avoid you entirely this is why your success in life is just as much about perception as it is about ability and this perception doesn't just begin the moment you meet somebody no it can can start before they've even laid eyes on you think about it if somebody speaks highly of you whoever they're talking to will assume you're valuable before they even meet you the opposite is also true if

somebody describes you as unimpressive or untrustworthy that person isn't exactly going to be excited to meet you and on job interviews dates networking events this happens instantly people need an idea of who you are and how to treat you so they look at signals like your posture the way you dress the confidence in your voice so in the immediate sense the way you present yourself physically is how you start to build a reputation that works in your favor and once you get your first impressions under control the world starts opening doors you didn't even know

existed but here's the thing okay first impressions don't last forever you have to control your narrative a little bit reputation isn't just about how people see you in the moment it's about how they remember you over time if you truly want people to see your value you have to stop thinking of your reputation as a single interaction and start treating it like a lifelong game because look okay if you don't take control of your own narrative somebody else will and they won't always be kind about it you see people don't just remember the things you

do they remember the story behind them that's why two people can make the same mistake but one gets a pass while the other one gets dragged through the mud it's also why why some people's accomplishments are forgotten While others are hailed as Legends I mean look at Mark Zuckerberg for example meta's Mission from day one was to connect people and as of now almost three and a half billion people use at least one of their apps every single day it's pretty crazy when you think about it Zuck connected half of the planet but he has

such a terrible reputation as the creepy Lizard Man Tech Overlord that nobody really talks about the impact he's had on the other hand look at the late great Steve Jobs behind the scenes at Apple he was Notorious for insulting berating and screaming at anyone who didn't meet his crazy demands by all accounts working for him was brutal And yet when people talk about him they don't call him a tyrant they call him a Visionary why because that's the narrative he built jobs framed every decision every product and every keynote speech around a single idea I'm

here to change the world world and guess what it worked when you don't actively shape how people see you you become a blank canvas for people to project their assumptions that's why today Zuckerberg is going through a very drastic very public Rebrand but when you know how to tell your story well you get to Define what your most important moments mean that's why Apple does everything it can to preserve the idea of the great Steve Jobs that narrative sells a crap ton of iPhones think of it like a movie trailer if your reputation is weak

if you're known for being boring unremarkable or Worse the creepy Lizard Man nobody's going to buy a ticket but if you're known for something compelling if you can draw people in they show up to the theater okay they remember your name now the point here is that your reputation is not set in stone it's a living evolving narrative that either works for you or against you and the the only way to control that is through your actions if you want to be seen as an expert then you need to consistently share your knowledge and insights

if you want to be trusted then be the kind of person who never breaks their word if you want to be known as a leader then start acting like one even before you're given the title you have to reinforce that identity over and over again because here's the thing okay the more people see you acting in alignment with your narrative the more they're going to believe it and something interesting happens once enough people believe your story you no longer have to introduce yourself because you see most people think that meeting important people and getting opportunities

is about going to networking events and stalking people on LinkedIn but the people with the strongest networks they don't chase connections they don't have to because their reputation does all the heavy lifting for them let me explain okay so at first your reputation is barely noticeable like a weak magnet struggling to hold on to a paperclip but as it grows it gets stronger and stronger and past a certain point it becomes Unstoppable so instead of a magnet it's a black hole a force so strong it bends the world around you effortlessly sucking in Opportunities influence

and connections because look your reputation doesn't just exist out there okay it compounds it makes people remember you respect you and want to introduce you to others until eventually you have this invisible spiderweb of influence where every connection every deal and every recommendation leads to another and people you've never met suddenly know your name that's what a well-crafted reputation does for you it creates a ripple effect and once it reaches a Tipping Point well you don't chase opportunities anymore the best ones come straight to you and if there's anything you should take take away from

this video my friend it is that reputations don't just get built accidentally okay the most respected people in the world are very deliberate about it if you're not shaping your reputation the world will shape it for you and that never ends well just ask the creepy lizard man that's why being intentional about how you present yourself isn't optional it is necessary and in today's world your reputation isn't just about how you show up in person it's it's also about how you show up everywhere okay online too 100 years ago your reputation only mattered to your

local community but today it is global every time you post online you're leaving a digital trail that tells people who you are what you stand for and whether or not they should take you seriously the smartest don't just let their reputations happen okay they put just as much care into their online reputation as they put into their local one because if you thought regular connection could get you places well with the internet the opportunities are infinite just imagine what happens when you tell your story to millions of people when your reputation is so impactful that

opportunities Partnerships and connections just show up that's what happens when you understand the game and lucky for you we've built the entire Playbook inside the alux app like it or not your reputation is already being built and it's either opening doors you didn't know were there or it's keeping you invisible overlooked and stuck so the question isn't whether you have a reputation it's whether you are in control of it that's why within the alux app we teach you how to build and control your reputation the right way both online and offline so you can unlock

real world opportunities we go through everything from how to build confidence to mastering communication telling your story and the personal branding strategies used by top CEOs influencers and thought leaders but that's just the beginning okay okay when you join the alux app you're also getting daily insights goal setting tools and expert courses on everything from physical fitness to communication and wealth creation it's going to help you level up every aspect of your life so if you're ready to shape your reputation and unlock the kind of success most people can only dream about then now is

the time to grab that steering wheel okay if you download the app and scan the QR code on screen right now you'll get 25% off our yearly plan and instant access to our full Library everything you need to become exactly who you're meant to be right at your fingertips all right alexir we'll see you back here next time until then take care my friend [Music]