MILLIONAIRE gets Dating Advice from Assistant

[Music] reply for like five hours that would turn me on i'd be like oh this guy's [ __ ] five hours totally done so i thought you were gonna say five days five hours is a long time next question for you um would you ever sleep with a guy on the first date so ladies and gentlemen you guys absolutely love the q a with amara my assistant so i thought i would bring her back on and one of the things that we kind of touched on in that last video was dating so yesterday i put

on my story and i went guys because let's be honest here i know my audience on youtube at least is like 88 males you're probably entrepreneur like me dating probably isn't your biggest focus in life and um if you're anything like me you're probably very useless at it so i thought i would bring amara on get my audience to ask her some questions by the way um with that other camera mario you you want to show introduce your little friend oh now she now she got now she runs in [Music] i love how now she's

sitting so she's sitting here screwed oh now she's coming up there we go come here say hello oh i love you asmr yeah so as i said if you hear any weird background noises dory it's not tristan it's uh it's riva amara's pug who's joining us today um so yeah how you feeling you excited feeling good glad to be back on the channel nervous appreciate it thank you to everyone who subscribed yeah really i think you went up to what twelve really made my day yeah very happy and very thankful so thank you all right

well hopefully you can impart some um uh wisdom on our audience i mean here's the thing um you are like outside you know in the offline where like honestly you're one of the wisest people i've met so so you know even me um as uh you know as many lives as i feel as i've lived um you know when i come in and i talk to you especially about some of the dating stuff uh for sure you're definitely a good source of oh appreciate it so anyways i'm going to throw some questions that you will

start off with an easier one i guess let's get it um best opening someone's used on her so best uh opening line or conversation star if someone's used on you uh in brackets not cliche genuinely it's just gotta be hey like that's so boring but that's the way to go if anyone ever came at me with some weird line or like you're the most beautiful girl in the club i'd um not find that attractive no 100 you know why i wouldn't find that attractive what is because that would make me think that all the guy's

intention is just to have sex with me that night you know what i mean like if a guy came up with something you know sexual or something like that that he thought was very flirty um i would just read it as okay he literally just wants to have sex with me and that's that so yeah i'm not a big fan of chat up lines i've never thought they work and if you want to have a chat up line do something jokey or fun or just like a little silly nothing um what about a dad joke

like something that's so obviously not meant to be funny yeah just like something that's so not funny that it's like funny or like oh that's a bit weird i like you you know what i mean just like nothing so in a hundred percent agreement the the best thing you can ever say hey how are you um you know 100 stay away from the pickup lines i guess uh another way to approach it is has a guy ever come up to you and just like mention something you're wearing like hey i really like that or maybe

just or like is there anything outside of something that's sexual like that he's some sort of commonality he's been like oh you look like you're italian or do you i mean like yeah something you'd almost say to a guy as a conversation are you from or something like that like you don't look british or something like that but if a guy was like oh i love your shoes then then i definitely think he doesn't want to have sex with me and he probably is into guys so yeah basically i think just keep it short keep

it simple keep it sweet nothing too intense because that's just a bit gross in it all right understood moving on next one how to know when she's using you for fame or money if she has a little twinkle in her eye when you're showing her your car or your house then she's probably in it for a lot more than your looks and personality so if i were you i would make sure not to flash those things around as well because that's that's personally one thing i hate is when someone's too flashy and trying to show

off because i personally am not interested in those things but for the girls that are interested in those things you got to watch out for them because they might not be with you for the right reasons so yeah if i were you uh you know see how they react to certain things and then you can pretty much tell if they're into you for something other than your heart and your personality all right next one how should a guy ask questions and show interest without interrogating a girl this is such a strange question because it's like

no i think it's i think this is such a well thought out question because how let's be honest how many times have you gone on a date and a guy is asking questions because he thinks it's the polite thing to do but it's like it's a spitfire question he's like you can tell like you don't want to be having an interview with the person it's like you ask a question they answer and then you bounce off that answer you'd be like okay yeah me too like when i was younger i did this or like i've

always been you know it's like a a two-part thing whereas if it's constantly like and also the girls should be saying like what about you you know like oh what is your take on it you know um if she's not doing that then you know maybe she's not the most talkative or doesn't really know how to hold a conversation either or eastern european yeah yeah i don't know was that supposed to be targeted at me you're not wait you're not eastern european what's wrong with you what the [ __ ] am i then you're confused

well you're italian greek and what french german but bitter german okay whatever these girls like they take a lot to warm up yeah yeah they they take a lot of buttering up that's when you have to pull out the rolex and then they're like [Laughter] for those of you guys who can't see like the behind the scenes i'm going to get a video of justin's current situation that's actually too funny um so yeah back to what i was saying is if you can tell that she's not really um holding her part of the conversation and

you're just asking question on question on question um if i were you i would pull out like a nice story or bounce off her answer because um yeah we don't want to be feeling like we're in an interview when we're on a date is that a good answer yeah so i think 100 percent so i think i you know just to chime in and to give the gentleman some advice um you know as you said because you know in a in an ideal world of course the girl is going to engage and you guys are

going to bounce off but i think also as a guy you should be able to like you should be able to entertain yourself if the girl is not really giving you much or she's like because some girls honestly and as i said i mentioned eastern european girls like it's funny like eastern european girls in the first two three dates they're like i [ __ ] hate you and then by like date eight they're like if you go to prison i'll wait for you like they're like you know they they turn very easily so you know

for me uh i think as a guy as well if you're on a date and the girls just not really giving me much like be able to entertain yourself like as you said tell a story that you find interesting even hearing back or talk about your day and some like i've always said like i've always had like girlfriends that i'm like oh it's scared it's gonna be awkward and i've always told them like it's only gonna be awkward if you make it awkward like if you just like can hold your own conversation when in doubt

like then just do that you know it's never going to feel uncomfortable or awkward and uh you know just if if oh drizzling cozy so yeah well i think that's a good leeway into the next question uh how to open up without risking being friend-zoned um so i think the main thing here is time as well as what you're opening up about if i were you i wouldn't you know open up about your biggest darkest grossest secrets or things too early on because that can also be a bit too much and off-putting um so if

i were you just you know you have to take time things take time it takes time to you know unravel a person and understand a person and i think sometimes when you give too much it can just be a bit overwhelming and then that's when it kind of puts a person off and that's when you can get a little friend zoned so if i were you just you know see how far she's taking it and then you go the same kind of vibe did that make sense you go the same mile as her but uh

yeah definitely don't give too much too quickly and enjoy the unraveling enjoy the process enjoy the time it takes to make that person yours those are always the best times i think like the first two three months of like dating getting to know a person understanding the person because also i think the more that you can not necessarily hold close to your chest as like a tactical trick but also the thing is like if on the second or third encounter with someone you're telling them literally like everything like everything then they're probably thinking oh he

he's gonna do the same thing to another girl he's only been with you know met two or three times you know there's parts of you that someone should honestly only find out when you're in yeah and someone should earn the right to find out well like i think it's great to be an open person open-minded you know be able to have conversations about all kinds of things but i just think like people people earn that right yeah people totally earn that right and trust as well you don't want to go telling all these people without

really you know knowing their intent so take your time well said okay moving on uh reduce your interest to boost hers question mark does it work this one's a complicated one because i think it's a matter of age and maturity definitely when i was 18 if a guy didn't reply for like five hours that would turn me on i'd be like oh this guy's five hours totally different sorry i thought you were gonna say five days five hours is a long time no it's not yeah no it's not what if you're in the middle of

a conversation and you're you know you're on your own and the guy just disappears that with a girl's head yeah but also that's just yeah i don't know i guess that's weird i guess here's the thing i would never stop a conversation midway through i mean here's the thing if i'm talking to a i'm gonna probably realistic respondents in like a day or two yeah but that's just i guess that's what i'm like but that's you that's you know what i mean it's a different the thing is if i have the time like let's say

i'm in a car or something and i'm having a conversation with someone i know i guess it'd be weird if the conversation stopped me with you or for example let's say i was going into um a store or a meeting or this or that i'd be like uh by the way just pulling up to my meeting i'll message you back later yeah but a lot of guys don't do that and the question is pull back to make her want you more and a lot of guys like in like they're in they what is it the

word they purposely don't respond because they know it's gonna [ __ ] with the girl's head you know it's like a twisted game and i'd say that when i was younger like i would pay attention to those things and i would i like the chase you know what i mean i think also guys like the chase i think it's important to take your time but nowadays like you know life's too short to be playing those games personally and i think you know just be real like maybe you won't be able to reply for a while

as emman said because you're in a meeting or you're going about your life but that's you going about your life but instead but when you're like purposely doing that i think um it does a lot more bad than it does good so i would just not bother with the games you know you want a mature relationship anyways so you want to just be real from the the beginning and not uh not play games i find them really useless because then you're going to fall in love and then all your games are going to go out

the window so what was the point you know ain't not the truth preach it sister yeah so moving on how do you balance work and someone you're seeing slash talking to um i think at the end of the day as long as the person respects you have priorities and um you have your own schedule and hopefully the other person also has priorities in their own schedule i think you'll always make time for things that matter to you you know like i hate it when people are like uh but i'm not gonna have enough time i'm

not gonna have enough time like fact of the matter is you will always make time for something that's important to you even if that means getting up two hours earlier you know what i mean you're gonna make the time because it's something that you need to keep in your life and it's another priority on our list so i think uh man up you know like get a better schedule and make the time for the person you like you know even if it's like one night per week that's your night that's better than nothing you know

or fitting in a coffee here and there like let's go for a quick lunch you know you shouldn't overthink these things because uh if it's right you're going to make the time for it right uh nowhere comes first but nice work comes but that's the thing work comes first like work is your schedule that's your schedule and that's your priority but you if you also have you know a person you want to see or a thing you want to do but also there should never be as you can make time for that as you mentioned

like one evening like no one should be in a situation where they no one should be in a situation where they can't give up one evening of their week to see someone and if they're if they are genuinely generally in that situation you shouldn't be dating in the first place um i don't know because the thing is it's like if you've been seeing this person for a while and then all of a sudden you know work changes life changes in your life gets a lot more hectic but you want to keep seeing that person you're

going to make time for it but even it's like with anything you want to enjoy in life if you want to pick up a new skill and you need to go to a class you're going to make time to go to that class you know what i mean yeah but i'm saying someone who has less than an hour or like less than a one evening a week at that point in my opinion you should really be dating yeah but that's only a temporary situation you know they could only have that amount of time for one

month because that's like a crazy month for them you know they're not gonna have the rest of their life only being able to but i think bottom line is you will make the time simple all right so moving on so moving on to the next one uh how to not get attached right away um chill out like why would you be wanting to get so attached so quickly anyways like that's just like a rookie mistake and that means you have no respect for yourself no but it is true like you can't let your heart like

you can't that's like a matter of boundaries right or like self-respect like you can't just let yourself go so get so crazy about one person in such a short amount of time like we're human beings with stories with personality traits with different lives you know you can't it's just stupid you know i think it's important to have uh you know to value yourself more that to understand that it takes time to understand a person i'm just like literally chatting so much i need to think about my answer it's like not coming out right do you

understand what i'm trying to say no because i need to form it better no well i mean you know maybe i'll give my perspective and then you can yeah yeah because i know i'm getting real hot you know and then maybe that bounces off um if you're getting it well first of all it depends at what stage are you getting attached attachment you're getting attached to one year then of course you know that's a totally different story if you're getting attached in the first few weeks but i think that's what he's asking like not to

get attached so quickly so yeah if you're getting attached at that stage um it's simply you don't have a lack you have a lack of options yeah and i think you i think you should deal with that right so so here's the thing it's one of two things either you have a lack of you have a lack of options or you have a lack of purpose because and and even if you have a lack of options but you still have a lack of purpose you know but you still have a good purpose then it doesn't

matter right because here's the thing at the end of the day why are you gonna let your all your thought why are you gonna let this person consume all of your thoughts when you've got this monumental thing you're working towards and the issue is a lot of guys when they get it the reason they get attached is because they think this is the only girl they're going to get of this quality ever again or they just don't have anything going on with their lives and it's the same thing with people who make arguments and find

issues and problems and ev and everything if they actually had something that they were working towards in their life something and you see this little law with very wealthy people who grew up in very wealthy families everything's a [ __ ] problem to them because they've never faced any problems in their life right so um you know my best advice in terms of um you know not getting attached is probably get a bit more context for what's out there and you know don't ever like here's the thing like this whole like soulmate thing is such

a [ __ ] you probably have you have infinite amounts of soulmates what it is it's there's people who there's a predisposition like you guys have the same values morals beliefs and there's a you know predisposition for attraction right then it's also a matter of timing so you know for me in terms of the whole um for me in terms of not getting attached it's simply just knowing that hey you know what maybe this one fell through cracks maybe this one doesn't like you there's a thousand one other people out there that you'll have that

same sort of connection with and you will have that same sort of connection with it's just a matter of finding them and also finding them at the right time yeah i mean i think for your soulmate point i totally believe in soulmates but i believe like you said no but no but do you believe in i because i also believe in soulmates but do you believe that you have one for your whole life no or there's only a set of horse do you believe that you know 100 percent of the soulmate spectrum 70 is predetermined

right but then the other 30 you nurtured that soulmate like um uh relationship between you guys yeah i mean yeah i guess so and i believe that like everyone has times in their life that they probably have their person for them at that time in their life you know what i mean so you're going to go through thousands and thousands of i know maybe not thousands hopefully hundreds yeah hopefully not like you know many different soulmates but even like not even in terms of relationship like even a best friend at that time in your life

i think you know there has been people i think you know we're all connected some way or another and we have people on this earth specifically for us at certain times in our life so i i believe in soulmates i don't know why we're talking about soul mates now but like yeah well how do we go into soul mates i don't know we'll we'll cut it back um so yeah after i've said my piece about you know really just not getting attached um because for me being attached or at least that early on is just

simply a lack of purpose or a lack of options i hear that what's your opinion on it how do you not get attached so quick i hear that i think again i think again it's like a matter of maturity in this point because for sure when i was younger and i had literally no worries or things to i didn't have a job i didn't have priorities i didn't have bills to pay nothing like that um that i had so much free time that like whenever you know i was with a guy or just that was

my whole life you know what i mean i think like when am i seeing the person again blah blah blah like dates you know it's like all in your head but i think you are right like a lack of purpose like when you have more goals than one and like you're not just focused purely on a relationship it's hard actually to get so attached so quickly because that's just not where your mind is at you know what i mean and i think as you get older as well your walls build up more and more and

more and your boundaries get you know it's just like a matter of self-respect that i think that when you're uh i think that it's it's just stupid to get so attached so quickly and i just think you need to find joy in being patient and taking the time to really get to know a person and as i said before i mentioned before um like you know unraveling a person for what they are um and i think it will always benefit you in the end because then you'll feel like you're kind of protecting yourself and as

we've said before like you know the person has to earn the right as well like you both need to earn each other's right to really get to know one another and i just think getting too attached too quickly is always kind of a recipe for the for disaster because most likely the other person won't be on that wavelength you know and it will overwhelm the person and it it's it's just not a vibe did that make sense i think it did let me know all right well that actually brings us to the end of our

question so i'm just going to spit i'm definitely not gonna so i'm just going to spit fire some questions so as i said by the way i'm when i press you when i press you your opinion can stay to like don't change your opinion because of me right i'm just playing yeah no devil's over devil's avocad there was avocado that was avocado yeah avocado of course um okay so the next thing would you prefer um someone who's you know because not to name any names but you know for example you have guys messaging you that

are some of the best football players in the world some of the biggest rappers in the world in morris face um no but right and and you know that like so there's guys like that and then your boyfriend is very like very private and like what do you prefer or like is one an absolute no-go let's say for example could you be with someone with millions of followers um or would you prefer to be with someone who's private or like just on that side of things to be honest i think i would prefer to be

with someone more private i love how she didn't say anything about boyfriend by the way she probably admits it yeah no i do admit it i do you cut that baby um to be honest i i think i would always see myself being with someone more private but i would never say no to someone who's you know if someone's like reached their goal of life and is doing so well and that comes with like millions of followers then who am i to like not be fine with that you know what i mean i think that

would be a conversation i'd have to have with myself say if i was to date a footballer or something like that i'd have to say like amara you know like there's going to be tons of girls going into his dms every single day he's always going to get attention is that something i would be able to handle and i would have to you know have a really really really honest i'd have to have a really honest conversation with myself but i think the woman i am now and my sort of the way i am i

think i would always prefer a private more private kind of guy yeah so with all these questions it's like anything i know you could it's not a definitive it has to be this yeah yeah it's just more where are your preferences yeah preference private for sure next question for you um would you ever sleep with a guy on the first date uh no why'd you think about it so long wouldn't and never have really wouldn't and never have because that the guy has to earn that i've never done that and i would never i'd i've

i've only slept with a guy that i have known for a bit or i've seen a couple of times i would never ever do on the first date that's just me personally i'm i don't judge anyone who does i don't judge people who have one night stands but for me it's a matter of respect towards myself interesting not saying that people who have one night sounds don't have respect for themselves i'm not saying one extent i'm not saying once after the first date that's their own preference but me i personally just wouldn't because i also

like to lead up to that as well like sex is an important thing in my opinion and i don't take it lightly like i wouldn't just have sex with anyone i'm also i'm too ocd i need to know you know your hygiene i need to know where you live i need to know your like sheets are clean like i can't do that you know like i need to know i need to get your vibe a bit more than just one date have you ever been tempted to but then consciously told yourself oh i want to

hold off yes yeah for sure [ __ ] ill calm down i sound like reba yeah um yeah no no for sure i mean if you're attracted to a guy and the two of you are flirting and it's like very sexual tension but that if anything makes me wanna wait even more because it's like it's just like fun you know what i mean to have that chase and that like drive you know you want to think about it like that's me personally i like the weight i like making the guy wait it's like so [Laughter]

fun all right um so next question do you like this applies to you and then also on the guys side um because there's some girls who when they're like even after they go on one date with one person and there's an intention to go on a second date in their mind they're like block everyone else off like i'm dating this person i'm not a relationship with this person but i'm dating this person and until there's a definitive either we're going to get a relationship or this is over then i can't go on dates with other

people where do you what side of the fence do you sit on i think when it comes to i think go on as many dates as you possibly want with as many guys as you want because you have to keep your options open and then this is another thing that it's like you don't you can't get attached to a person too easily as well so um you know i think i think when it comes to if you start kissing them all that's an issue you know what i mean going on dates harmless getting to know

person nothing wrong with that but if you you know were to do anything more than kissing with one of them i personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing that on rotation with multiple guys but dating is totally fine that's the whole point of dating you know what i mean like getting to know a person and you know just because you're dating one person doesn't mean you can't date another person or text another person you know you have to keep your options open but then as soon as you admit any kind of emotion or feeling and so does

the other person that's when you have to stop it because as soon as you uh know you're playing with another person's feelings that is a honor and that is something you have to respect and cherish so so in your mind when does it go from uh dating to exclusive to relationship or are two of those because to me you know to me for example exclusive and relationship is the same thing yeah me too yeah me too to be honest as long as you're you know yeah tricky one i think when the when the vibe is

right you know like i think when you get a mutual feeling between the two of you or you guys have like you know a little conversation like am i the only person you're doing this with you know you have to get on one knee and be like will you be my girlfriend like [Laughter] you dirty [ __ ] we're giving that in oh my god and look how she's looking at me i am the captain i am the captain now um yeah i think it's just until you both have a mutual feeling like there's not

really a time stamp on it you know and as long when you have that conversation of like you know are we both in this with just one another then fine at that point is exclusive at that point you're with that person you know so my next question is you know there's a lot of guys out there that will go out and you know they'll meet random women you know in clubs or bars or this or that and let's go up to random people obviously you know that can work um but i find most the time

and most of my like you know uh good female friends the people they they really end up dating is a friend of a friend or you know they meet this person randomly out and then exchange instagrams and you know like they're kind of all the men are all kind of pre-vetted you know they're not random people so i guess my question to you is have you ever gone on a date with someone who's just come up to you at a at a bar or a restaurant or a club and how often uh not often not

elected at all how does that compare to someone who's been intro to you from someone in your social circle it's gonna sound weird but i think the difference between someone that's kind of being introduced or you kind of know something about him or he's a friend of a friend weird but that to me makes me feel a bit safer than someone who's completely random right because as a girl yeah you know guys can be a bit gross i've had experiences when i felt extremely uncomfortable with men so i much prefer having some sort of understanding

of the person before but i have been on a date with a guy that i had no nothing about that just came up to me randomly i was also in a wild phase of my life so i was like yeah [ __ ] it you know and it turned out great and i made more friends through that so um i think you know it's good to be open-minded and meet new people whether that comes into fruition or whether it's just a person you met but each experience is going to be different so i'm totally always

open well now not because i'm in a relationship but i would always be open to someone in extreme you know completely different social scene better you just meet more people you know and you make a friend out of it at the end of the day all right so my last question yes and this is really uh for my audience i said i know i have whatever on youtube at least like 85 90 percent mail audience no you do you girl just go as i said you know i know i have a pretty much like 85

90 male audience service on youtube um and most of them are entrepreneurial or working on their career this or that so vibes well i guess maybe that ties in with the question if you were in their position and they're at a point where they want to have more options in their dating life what would be the first or second thing you would work on right because and i'll explain it like this they could work on their finances or career they could work on their because the thing is these things are totally different skill sets they

could work on their health and their body uh they could work on their self as in like you know do uh work on their spiritual journey uh do more meditation more introspection more journaling or they could work on their social skills right so they could you know because each thing takes such a big part of your life that you know the others kind of fall to a wayside so you know they could go through a period where for the next three months they're totally focused on meeting more people yeah improving their social what would you

tell the guys to do like what one or two things one thousand percent uh your self-love towards yourself because i've noticed that hurt people hurt people that makes sense um i have had experiences with guys that are sort of very damaged within and i think when you have a lot of baggage that you hold in your heart you automatically will put that on to any person you're introduced to even in an unconscious way and i think like it's just so important i don't necessarily believe in like you know you no one will ever love you

until you love yourself because i don't think that's true i think a lot of people are very loving and will give as much love as they possibly can but you won't be able to receive it very well until you love yourself right or you won't take it in the way that it's meant to be taken so i think self-love is honestly so important and self-love ties in with being disciplined with your health your fitness meditating spirituality practices all of those things tie under self-love you know the finances is one thing the social um you know

development is another thing but i also you know it's like if you're a bit awkward as a person that's who you are that's fine there's going to be a girl that loves you for that you know like i i've never just i've been with one person that like literally doesn't say a word and i've been with another person that says far too many words you know what i mean it's nothing about one one is better than the other it's just i'm fine with either or you know um so i think you know the social scene

obviously it's good if you can have a conversation and obviously it's good if you have your finances in check and you have a job and you're working hard but i think self-love and self-development is the absolute key to everything because you need that well i said i mean you attract who you are absolutely you know what i mean and if you're her and you're damaged that's probably what you're going to get a partner that's just like that and it's just going to be toxic in the end of the day so yeah it's important that's like

the first first first thing so yeah just to chime in on that i'd say definitely the most important thing is spiritual practice um because as you said like it's the world of the outer is you know merely a reflection of the world of the inner and you know the reason that so many people are and you know the reason that so many people are get so attached so quickly or for example people put other people on pedestals is because you know they're lacking something within them that they need to fulfill most people are living in

so much lack and as you said most people don't love themselves and when you don't love yourself then that reflects outward facing and that's a it's a hard thing like i can't say i'm in love with i can't say like i love myself there's some days that i really treat myself as if i don't love myself but on a whole each day i'm practicing it and that's what's so important you know we're 21 like there's no way we can fully sit like there's parts that we need to work on you know where we're gonna be

and i hope for myself personally i'm gonna be doing that till the day i die otherwise if i had nothing i die you know what i mean that's like an important part of life but as long as you're aware and you're working on that and then i think that also you know it's like when you find the person that is also on that journey it really helps you know you grow together and you like really help one another and that's why i think friends relationships you know grown-ups people wiser older than us all these people

that come into our life are little pieces of our personal journey and they help fulfill us in some way or another even the bad people those teach us the most you know so uh yeah i just kind of slightly burped um that was your next level i don't know if this matcher did you any good to me yeah i don't think so um so yeah as i said i would put that as the first thing the second thing i would put is social skills and i'm talking in the domain of that's very useful of having

a dating life no that's very useful i'm curious what would you put second between the options i gave so once you've worked on yourself yeah what would you put next career finances uh health slash physique you know that's self-love tonight though to me that's not really how many people go to the gym and look at themselves in the mirror and go i hate i hate what i am and they go to the gym as a compensation for the fact that they don't love themselves i don't see it as that i see that like you know

i see like when i do a workout that is a part of gratitude towards my body no but that's the thing you've done the step number one take that out of the equation okay okay how many how many girls go to the gym and do all this fitness stuff because they don't love themselves no but i think they're doing it so that they can love themselves more no but that's the thing you should be able to love yourself whether you're uh you know obese whether you're overweight or whatever i hear you i hear you he's

gonna get all rowdy i hear you no so you know for me as i said it's i think that's a personal one and you can poke some holes at it yeah um for me the first is definitely spiritual and and introspection in terms of just in terms of having a good dating life then it's social skills because here's the thing i've seen so many people who absolutely love themselves they meditate they you know they have but they can't have a conversation they're in great health they have great businesses but they you know they can't have

a good conversation they don't know how to make friends and really how to like expand their social network so okay i hear you i hear you and as i said we're talking specifically because obviously this this video is about dating specifically specifically in the domain of having a better date okay probably not what's most important social skills second and then third for me would be finances and career because you know um obviously i kind of played devil's advocate with you but you really you don't necessarily need to make crazy amounts of money as i said

for me as long as you have a work ethic for me you just need to be able to match the lifestyle that the person you're with and but here's the thing if someone because there's billionaires you know there's billionaire kids doesn't mean you need to try to match their lifestyle maybe you know that's just um maybe that person just isn't for you because they're used to different things in life and the last one which i find always hilarious is um like gym fitness health um because so many guys will like think that once they get

a six-pack or once they're at like yeah they're like eighty percent body fat gonna get all the girls no yeah yeah like honestly as a guy if you you know if you go to gym a lot and you're in good shape you get more compliments from guys than you do girls it's hilarious um so yeah what do you think about that order in terms of having a better dating life would you mix anything wrong no no i think that's probably right i'm glad we agreed on introspection as the first one important and i do see

where you're coming from with the social skills but i also think that it is important to emphasize you don't have to be the most talkative outgoing um extroverted nobody person no you can be introverted and being incredible at meeting people yeah yeah yeah exactly so i do get you but i just want to make sure that there's no you know misunderstanding that uh because i love shy people i love shy guys i love i actually find shy people more attractive because it's a challenge to get to know them to peel that onion and we want

to peel the onion it takes more time so i love a good shy person me you know especially because i'm so not shy so like it's nice to be like so yeah what do you have to say and they're like nothing and i'm like great so yeah all right well ladies and gents first things first before we go amara you just want to plug some of your socials yeah sure no atamara riva that's all you gotta know on so adamara youtube on tiktok and on instagram i like to make it easy for people okay we'll

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