My Ex-wife Cheated on Me With My Golden Child Brother and Gave Birth to His Baby. Now, My Family...

my ex-wife cheated on me with my Golden Child brother and gave birth to his baby now my family which always hated me begs for money after I get promoted I 29m got divorced from my wife 27f 2 months ago she'd been cheating on me with my estranged brother 27m for a while and 4 months ago I finally found out when she told me that she was pregnant initially she tried to convince me that the baby was hours but my brother's frequent visits made me question everything so I decided to check her phone I confronted her

about whatever I found and she ended up confessing that she'd been cheating on me with my brother since she pretty much had no other option anymore my family and I hadn't been on talking terms ever since I left home when I turned 18 they'd always treated me like an outsider even in my own family and my brother was The Golden Child I thought that it was a little weird to start the party meant for me without me but then I saw the cake and completely lost it I finally confronted my parents and asked them why

they hadn't thrown me a party for an actual real achievement instead and they told me that after my acceptance letter they didn't want my brother to feel left out so they threw him a party instead and instead of throwing a tantrum I should be trying to uplift my brother as well that just completely broke me and that very day I made up my mind to never come back to them ever again and I stuck to it I paid my way through college by taking out a loan and working and then rented a tiny apartment with

a friend after I was done with college I never spoke to my parents after I moved out for college and neither did they try to get through to me either of course ages have passed since then and last year my brother reached out to me online to ask if I wanted to reconnect with him and my parents since they really seemed to miss me a lot had happened since I'd left home like 2 years ago I'd gotten married to my ex-wife I was leading a very comfortable life but I don't think I'd ever moved on

from whatever had happened with my parents so I did end up agreeing to meet them it was awkward and felt uncomfortable initially but they were making an effort to fix whatever they' done to me in the past so I felt obliged to make an effort for them as well so I invited them to my home as well and I guessed it was my first mistake introducing my brother to my ex they met they started an affair and she got pregnant I was really happy when I found out that she was pregnant since I'd obviously thought

that the baby was mine but then like I'd mentioned earlier my brother started visiting more often after I found out about the pregnancy and while initially it didn't bother me it started getting weird when he would touch my wife's pregnant stomach and speak into it my ex told me that it wasn't that big of a deal but I just couldn't shake off a sneaking suspicion that my brother had more to do with a baby than he was letting on 6 months into the pregnancy I decided to go through her phone while she was asleep and

it confirmed everything that I was terrified of the texts between my ex and my brother proved that it was actually his baby and they've been together for a while now not only that my my ex had no intention of ever letting me know that the baby wasn't even mine she and my brother planned on telling me about the affair after the baby was born and then she'd get a divorce from me and finally get with my brother while theyd live off the fortune with the child support that I'll be paying the next morning I asked

her about the texts and while she did try to deny it at first she eventually gave up and confessed that was the end of my marriage of 2 years and well of course my parents sided with my brother and my ex all their words about the two of us being equally important to them were just words after all when my ex and my brother announced our divorce on social media and her decision to marry him my entire family was fully supportive of their decision nobody cared that they'd ruined my mental health and broken my trust

not just that my ex had been lying to me for 6 months and telling me that the baby was mine it felt as though I'd not just lost my wife but also my kid and it just hurt so much my parents told me that this was for the best and once again refused to even act like my brother had wronged me they in fact told me that I should be happy that my ex and brother had finally found happiness and should join the celebrations once again I I cut them out of my life and that

messed up my divorce as well my ex-wife walked away with a huge settlement sum in my car all because my family was on my wife's side in the divorce because she was with my brother now she and her lawyer cooked up some story about how I was toxic and controlling and forced her to quit her job even though it was her own choice and my family reinforced it by saying that the reason they'd cut me off in the first place was because of my misogynistic attitude and temper tantrums so the evidence was stacked against me

and I lost a lot of money in the divorce but thankfully I got to keep the house when the divorce was finalized I was I was just glad that I was done with this crap now and wouldn't have to see any of these god- awful people ever again luckily there's no waiting period for a divorce where I live and my ex-wife didn't contest it either so I was able to wrap it all up as quickly as possible so that I could move on with my life it was difficult to forget about all of this but

I drowned myself in work and pushed myself to be better so that I could move on from this nasty episode as fast as I could that paid off since 2 weeks ago I got a promotion better position better salary and better company car The Works basically and I couldn't have been happier about it so I decided to treat myself to a solo dinner date at one of my favorite restaurants but I made the mistake of posting about it online and within a day or two my mother contacted me and asked me to come visit them

I was baffled as to what they could possibly want from me now since we hadn't even spoken after the divorce was finalized and they supported my ex and her lies I managed to ignore it for a few days but then she started calling me relentlessly and eventually when nothing else worked she showed up to my office she simply refused to leave and got into a fight with the receptionist which was pretty embarrassing so I promised that I'd visit in a few days which was how I was finally able to convince her to leave a couple

of days after that I finally visited my family they'd used the settlement amount to move into a bigger house so they could accommodate the baby as well who'd been born just a little over 3 weeks ago I guessed that the alimony was also being used to pay the bills but truth be told it didn't really affect me that much since the alimony was a really small part of my salary at this point and I could afford it my brother wasn't home and my ex was asleep so it was just my parents who spoke to me

I didn't try to make any small talk and simply waited for them to get to the point so after around 5 minutes of silence my father blurted out that my brother had been fired from his job in the alimon and settlement just weren't cutting it anymore they said that they'd seen the post about my promotion and were hoping that I could help them out since they were running low on money now my parents retired a long time ago my brother was out of a job and my ex obviously wasn't going back to work anytime soon

the alimony wasn't enough to pay the bills for a family of five especially with a newborn in the house and I knew that to however I was shocked that they'd even had the audacity to approach me for it after everything that had happened I I was so shocked that I didn't even have anything to say for a good few minutes but finally I came to my senses and decided that I didn't need to entertain any of this I simply got up and left without a word when I reached the door and opened it I found

my brother standing outside my parents were telling me to stay back and hear them out and my brother looked a little alarmed to see me there I still didn't say anything and proceeded to leave it was raining pretty heavily and it was a short walk to where I'd park my car outside their lawn so I got completely drenched and I was already in a horrible mood now this is where I might have been the ah because my parents and brother came after me and while I was looking for my keys in my pocket they decided

to ask me for help one last time and this time it was my brother who was making the plea he's always been smug and arrogant a direct result of the way our parents treated us so it was weird to see him asking me for help and it must have taken a lot of trouble to convince him so they were definitely being honest about the bad phase anyway I sort of lost my cool and ended up telling them to leave me alone and that they could beg on the streets if they were really that hardpressed for

cash since a stranger who knew nothing about them was probably more likely to take pity on their condition than I was having said that I got in my car and drove away leaving them in the rain I'm not going to lie it was pretty satisfying to do that to my family since they' done nothing but mistre me my whole life it's been 2 days since that happened and well I'm not sure if I'm right anymore my mother has been texting me Non-Stop and I feel so guilty for not helping them out I know I have

a lot and sending them a little money won't actually hurt me but after everything that's happened it just feels like I'm being used quite frankly so either for not helping my family out with money after they took my ex's side in the divorce update one so I decided not to help them out it was a pretty big deal for me since I felt awfully guilty about how I was just going to abandon them but then I realized that well they'd been doing that to me my entire life and even in the divorce they'd been the

ones who had thrown me under the bus so why should I think twice before doing the same to them I told my mother to stop pestering me or else I'd be forced to get my lawyers involved and it wouldn't end well for them now that naturally irked them and so my brother showed up to my house a few days ago to talk to me he told me that while he felt sorry for how I'd been treated my entire childhood he couldn't help the fact that he just was inherently better than me which is why he

was also treated like that and he also told me that I should stop being so weird with our parents for doing what any other normal parent would have done in their place and just helped them out since they're in a tough spot instead of holding grudges like a child I laughed in his face because of how absolutely demented he sounded talking crap like that I told him that instead of trying to put me down and manipulate me into helping them out he should probably be out looking for a job and not wasting his time like

this that touched a nerve I think and he started yelling at me about how I was just jealous of the fact that not just our parents but even my ex-wife preferred him over me and I was taking Revenge by refusing to give my family money I didn't even bother to fight back and just agreed with him saying that all that I was doing was just to get revenge on him and there wasn't much that he could do about it so he got super pissed off and told me that he was going to come after me

and forced me to cough up the money one way or another and I'd regret ever speaking to him that way honestly I'm not taking any of that seriously in the least he can try to scare me all he wants but it's just not going to work because I know he's not capable of doing anything at all to me I'm unbothered update to well 3 days ago my brother visited me and tried to convince me to help them but he was unsuccessful my parents have already tried in the past and it didn't work out for them

either so this time my ex decided to call me up and speak to me I was skeptical about answering but then I decided to answer anyway because if I didn't then they'd probably visit again and waste some more of my time so I spoke to her and it was insane how entitled and cruel these people can be she started very politely and told me that like I already knew she and her family were struggling with money and while she realized that I had absolutely no need to help them after whatever they'd put me through she

still wanted me to think about it and be the bigger person here she tried to make me sympathetic by reminding me that my parents had paid for everything growing up and even she had done her best to be a good wife like yeah sure except for the part where my parents didn't give a damn about me and always preferred my brother and she actually ended up cheating on me with the same brother I used to complain about so yeah that didn't work at all and I told her that while I felt awful about what was

happening to them I was already spending a lot of unnecessary money by paying her alimony which she technically didn't even deserve since she' cheated on me but managed to get it out of me since my family had no qualms about lying and making me the bad guy for their gain she started sobbing on call and told me that I was being selfish and heartless which was just ironic when I still refused to help she told me that my brother was right and that i' left her with no choice but to get the law involved and

said that she was going to demand a higher alimony now and drag me to court to humiliate me once again honestly I'd like to see them try the first time around I was so emotionally drained and depressed that I didn't even bother fighting back or trying to prove them wrong I just gave in and agreed to pay the alimony without even attempting to prove their claims as false I never was toxic or controlling or any of those things that they claimed so she had no reason to cheat on me and so didn't deserve a single

dollar out of the divorce but whatever I didn't care then and just wanted to get the divorce over with no matter the financial impact of it this time though I'm ready to fight and make sure that I teach my family the lesson of a lifetime update three in a shocking turn of events my wife was true to her words for the first time and actually filed for a higher amount as alimony given that I'd been promoted but this time I wasn't going to let things slide so easily I got all our common friends involved and

told them whatever was happening and even filled them in on past events since most of them only knew that we'd separated and didn't even know about the real reason they were all obviously very shocked and I told them that I needed them to testify against my wife if it came down to it and they agreed readily I also told my lawyer that I wanted to discontinue the whole alimony Arrangement altogether since she didn't deserve it in the least I spent the past few days Gathering all the evidence I could find of my parents and brother

being horrible people who never bothered to treat me like an equal and are now hounding me for money just because they know about my promotion I'd had enough and I needed to get rid of these disgusting parasites once and for all so I wasn't going to stop and think about their feelings at all I managed to convince some of my cousins who'd watched me get treated like an outsider in my own home while growing up to speak on my behalf and they were kind enough to do so as well even though we were never particularly

close or anything my lawyer was pretty pleased with whatever we'd managed gather and told me that this would be airtight and we might actually be able to stop paying alimony it was already known that she cheated on me but the reasons given by my ex painting me as the villain and my brother as the hero who res rescued her were all lies and even though I hadn't tried to fight back the last time I was certainly going to set the record straight this time and I did so too my family had literally nothing to say

for themselves when I brought up several video testimonials that my friends and a couple of relatives had recorded in my favor to prove that everything that my family had said was a lie and that I wasn't the kind of person that they' made me out to be I guessed that they'd figured they'd be let off the hook this time just as easily as the last time but I wasn't that emotionally fragile anymore and honestly whatever they'd put me through had made me a lot stronger so yesterday it was finalized that I won't have to pay

my ex any alimony anymore in light of whatever new information had surfaced and I was probably the happiest man on Earth when I realized that it was over it was just so satisfying to see the smug look completely wiped off of my family's face and my ex looked like she was going to start crying any second now but yeah I couldn't care less about her crying anymore and was just simply done with this whole thing I'd thought that I'd go home and treat myself to some great takeout in a movie but my family obviously absolutely

had to do any and everything in their power to stop me from experiencing happiness I was only only a few yards away from my house when I noticed my brother's car parked right outside my home and I was really confused as to why he'd be there I still went in and there was my family standing outside my door and blocking my way in I was very taken aback and didn't even know what to say but I decided to act like this didn't bother me and told them to get off my property if they didn't want

me to call the police that's when my dad spoke up and told me that I should be ashamed of myself for what I'd done today he went on to lecture me about how I had no sense of responsibility towards my family and had betrayed them all by refusing to help them out when they needed it the most after after he was done I simply refused to answer or engage in any sort of conversation with him and stood there silently I just didn't want to give them the satisfaction of getting a rise out of me because

I'm guessing that's what the goal was to get me so emotional that eventually I'd give up and do something rash and stupid but I'm not an idiot and their Desperate Measures weren't going to help their case at all which they should have realized by then my silence probably pissed them off even more and even though my mother demanded that I treat my dad with respect and talk to him I still refused to speak I could see them getting agitated because they clearly hoped for a huge fight but nothing nothing of the sort was happening after

some more yelling my brother finally snapped and grabbed me by the collar he then proceeded to try and hit me but my dad managed to pull him back just in time while he yelled about how I was nothing but just a jealous loser who would never amount to anything I mean it was really funny coming from an unemployed guy still living with his parents and begging his brother for money to live on but okay I told them that they needed to leave or else I'd actually call the cops and seeing how they're broke they should

probably make a run for it within the next 5 minutes begrudgingly they went away but not before one last ditch attempt by my mother to shame me into coughing up some money it still didn't work and eventually they left it's been almost a day since that and they haven't tried to contact me since and I'm truly hoping that it stays this way now now on to the next story story two found out wife cheated on me with my stepdaughter's father so I divorced her immediately my 33m wife 33f cheated on me in December I walked

in on them at his house as I knew what was going on it was my stepdaughter's father I have been kicking him off our property for years and keeping his anger in check I spent all day taking care of the house the pets the yard and her daughter for f when we got married she had me donate my beater so I could drive one of her cars I even did a little part-time work on the side of the law firm she works at my days began at 6:00 a.m. and ended as late as 2: a.m.

some nights because of all the chores I was responsible for I tried to forgive her but continued catching her talking to him and even making plans to sleep with other male friends all the while assuring me she wanted us to work she abused me sexually and emotionally telling me that cheating was my fault because I should have done something to stop it and using guilt and threats to make me have sex with her when I was clear I wasn't ready for that she got pregnant after I caught her with him and I asked for a

DNA test instead she went and got an abortion immediately and blamed me for that two I decided to leave last month and quit my job since then my family has been supporting me and I struggle every day to get out of bed and even just feed myself we were married less than a year I am getting no spousal support no car had to leave my job lost half of my family her family my stepdaughter I have no home home and was left with no money if it wasn't for my family helping me I would be

completely homeless my mental health is in a bad place as I have found out that cheating was happening even when we were just dating it was all fake or some kind of game for her and I'm left to pick up the pieces I was cheated on and abused and I am the only one being punished am told there's little I can do by my lawyer whom I trust a great deal he is a trusted family friend what do I do with all this emotion how do I fix myself I know I need to take baby

steps get another job Etc but leaving the house feels like an surmountable task right now I'm struggling with severe depression and anxiety in public even being with my friends is extremely taxing and leaves me a sobbing mess when I finally can drive home I feel broken and nothing is getting better and I don't know what to do update one ex-wife bringing AP to our divorce hearing title says it all a friend informed me that my ex-wife will be bringing the AP to the divorce hearing as a final jab at me how should I deal with

this several friends have offered to come as support but some have said I should just do my best to ignore them what would you do update two my divorce hearing was finally today my post history contains my full story but I was abused by my ex-wife after catching her in our bed with another man days after Christmas last year I tried R But as time went on I kept catching her talking to the same guy and even planning to go see others out of town while getting inappropriate sexual Snapchats and texts from them all while

lying to my face and telling me she has cut contact every single time same story I finally told her I was leaving and would be filing for divorce and she told me again that if I left she would kill tell me here we are though I am alive and she is permanently out of my life I came home from the courthouse and hit a few new Maxes in the gym and I'm all around feeling great she doesn't know where I live moved out of town and she doesn't know where my new job is this woman

who I love dearly and would have done anything for took everything from me my job my car my home my stepdaughter my marriage my mental health and potentially my baby even though I am confident it was APS baby she aborted it when I asked for a DNA test this entire year has been an unending hell for me and all the while she blamed me for leaving and tearing apart our family by the time she arrived this morning I was already speaking to my lawyer we just had to be present and get the papers signed by

the judge I never looked at her once not even when she tried to hand me mail from the house I just grabbed it and kept walking I did notice that AP didn't come with her odd since she had been saying to mutual friends he would be coming with everything proceeds fine I was stressed and emotional on the inside but I kept a gentle smile on my face and kept my spirits High she was sounding like she was about to cry but I never looked it wasn't until I got home that I noticed a note mixed

in with my mail AP wasn't there because he got some other girl he was seeing pregnant I tore it up and threw it away she had a loving husband and she cheated lied and hurt me till I left her and she did it for a loser that was seeing other girls anyway the cherry on top is that AP hates being a father he is lazy beat my ex-wife when they were together and drops his daughter off with his mother any time he has her she called him by his first name and called me dad because

she barely knew the guy his own mother cried on Christmas while we shared a drink because she was so happy her grand after had me in her life this new baby will destroy his life even further my only hope is that whomever he is having this baby with gets away from him ASAP for the baby's sake despite how high energy I am I feel very alone today and I'm bouncing between very happy and very muted sorry if this is all over the place I'm just feeling very strange I thought it would feel better but if

I'm being honest I wish none of us were suffering