5 things you probably need to hear

here are five things you probably need to hear number one not everything that happens to you is your fault but everything that happens to you is your responsibility right off the bat you might think to yourself everything is my responsibility how is everything that happens to me my responsibility i can't possibly account for every little thing that life throws my way the chaos the triumph and if something goes wrong which it inevitably will am i supposed to blame myself because i was responsible for having that thing not go wrong that's not really what i'm getting

at here because for most of us our domain of influence is fairly small we usually go to similar places we see similar people we do similar activities as we do most days and occasionally we step outside the norm and we experience new people places and things to freshen things up and along the way we'll be put in situations that we don't like situations that make us feel uncomfortable or angry we'll talk to people that we think are idiots and occasionally we'll be blindsided by tragedy or misfortune i don't have to tell you what life is

like life is spicy but if it is in our life it is our responsibility to figure out what we're going to do about it because who else's responsibility is it who else is responsible for your physical fitness your mental health your social life who else is responsible for the types of people that you're inviting into your life the type of reaction that you have when something doesn't go your way when you break it down like this it's really hard to think of anything that's not your responsibility anything that you would realistically do interact with experience

aren't you tired of delegating the responsibility of your own flourishing onto other people it's probably time that you have some confidence and your ability to make decisions for yourself to assume responsibility over the outcomes of your life regardless of whose fault it may be because at the end of the day it affects you so what are you gonna do about it number two life gets easier when you're on your own side if you love yourself first and treat yourself with respect you'll have more love to give when you dislike yourself and treat yourself poorly then

you'll start to subliminally feel unlikable and worthless and if this is your default mode of being if you continue to treat yourself poorly if you don't like yourself very much then every single interaction that you have with every single person in your life will be tainted with the need to solve this inherent problem because we need to feel loved and accepted and if you starve yourself of your own approval off the get-go then every interaction that we have with people will be trying to gain that approval back you'll start to rely heavily on other people

to make you feel validated and worth something and if you do this long enough you'll start to lean on this external validation like a crutch addicted to compliments constantly searching for validation and approval you'll start to wear clothes that you don't necessarily like but you think you're going to get a lot of compliments on it you think you're being kind of bold and brash by wearing it and when you don't get that attention that you so desperately require you'll start to build resentment you'll start to feel butt hurt you'll be kind of passive aggressive for

no reason because they owe you something right every interaction that you have is an exchange you're nice to people you compliment people just so that you can be complimented back and if people treat you poorly holy smokes that ruins your day because when a person doesn't just not return your compliment but they're rude to you they become public enemy number one because you've conditioned yourself to place your entire sense of self-worth in the hands of other people but at the end of the day what you think other people owe you you owe to yourself if

you start treating yourself like somebody that you genuinely care about and want the best for if you start acting as if you're on your own side then it will change every single aspect of your life it will change the way you walk into a room it will change the way that you interact with other people it will change the clothes that you wear the way that you speak and every decision that you make when you treat yourself with respect and you love yourself then you will actually be able to give compliments without expecting any in

return you will actually have the ability to be generous with your time with your attention with your resources because you genuinely want to it comes from a place of abundance treating yourself with respect just has a ridiculous roi number three nobody owes you anything you are not entitled to any job position any lifestyle any relationship just because you have big muscles and workout doesn't mean you're entitled to a hot girlfriend maybe your personality is the equivalent of a wet sock or a dirty diaper just because you have a business degree from a community college doesn't

mean that you're entitled to be on the board of directors even if your business degree is from harvard or some other prestigious school you're still not entitled to anything the type of person who walks around like the world owes them something usually comes from a place of lack they're usually very ungrateful when they get the thing that they think they deserve and they're white hot and vengeful when they don't get it the type of person who thinks this way usually has a giant ego they have an idea of themselves that is disconnected from reality in

some way they probably have some delusion of grandeur or they want to appear on the surface that they're better than they actually are but as i've covered in previous videos ego is brutal it distorts you from the truth it stunts growth ego is far more concerned with being somebody rather than doing something and if you followed step two and started treating yourself like somebody you're responsible for helping which is kind of a direct quote from jordan peterson then you wouldn't require others to give you things to make you feel whole you will start to want

certain positions because of a genuine confidence that you could add value so instead of chasing status work on developing competence focus on the craft not the corner office because 99 times out of 100 your work will speak for itself number four communism has failed every time it was tried number five it's going to be okay i don't know what you're going through right now um you could be having a very great time in life it could be you know probably the best time that you've ever had you might feel energetic and optimistic and like everywhere

you go there's a song singing behind you a song singing behind you there's a background track a cinematic score elevating all of your steps butterflies everywhere but for a lot of people i know that's indeed not the case i get the feeling that there's a lot of people watching the video that are in a very rough place maybe they're going through something that is just like incomprehensibly tragic you know life has a habit of doing that to a lot of people i know it's i know it's hard to think about it's hard to imagine that

things could be better for you and sometimes it's not better for a little while but life's kind of weird because it seems like every dark period that i've ever had in my life has always turned into a period where i looked back and i i never regretted the dark period like there was always so much to learn in those periods of darkness so much to learn about yourself about other people um and sometimes those realizations about other people are that you know people can be pretty terrible um but i think that if you have compassion

for yourself if you have compassion for others if you realize that at the end of the day you're still responsible for your own happiness regardless of whose fault uh your current happiness levels might be you're still responsible for making something of it and there is always something to be made from it as long as you're voluntarily willing to confront whatever your situation is in with humility and perseverance something good always comes from it and that's been my experience the only time something good doesn't come from it is if you bury your head in the sand

and give up but even then i feel like we're given countless second chances in life so if you are currently burying your head in the sand consider taking your head out of the sand looking around dusting yourself off and getting back on the grind because uh at the end of the day if you're willing to stick with it things will be okay they always will be okay even if you're not okay that's okay too it's going to be okay i just want to give a big thank you to audible for sponsoring this video guys i

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