after years of experimentation and study on seduction girls and social skills I discovered that if you want to own any girl all you need to do is speak to her emotions not her mind and the quickest way to do this is by using a technique I like to call listen like a therapist when a young man talks to a girl after a short period the girl's mind categorizes him into one of three categories potential boyfriend friend or someone she doesn't want to meet again for me I was always in the third category someone she doesn't
want to meet again this was because I was socially awkward and often you who are listening to me now I was more socially inept than you because from a young age I was very introverted and didn't know how to talk to people after a while I started learning some social skills and I began to know how to talk which made me socially acceptable at this stage when I started talking to girls I moved from this category to that one I became just a friend and here was the shock why what's the secret what mistake was
I making then I started learning how women think I read every book or article about women I started learning and the first thing I discovered was that the difference between a boyfriend and a friend is emotion if you want a girl to see you as a boyfriend you must know how to stir her emotions you must speak to her emotions I began applying this principle with girls and started moving from the friend category to the boyfriend category I understood the secret so what do I mean when I say you should stir her emotions listen to
me well now because I will walk you through everything step by step there are two ways to stir emotions and feelings either these feelings are entered into her or they are brought out of her initially the girl has a lock on the door of her emotions you can't put feelings into to her this method cannot be used at the beginning but you can bring them out the moment you make her express feelings you will have opened the door to her emotions and don't worry I will delve deeper into this matter in upcoming episodes of the
series on how to attract women but if you want a small idea on this topic you can watch this video where I explained how you can put feelings into her anyway how can you make her express feelings by using the technique of listening like a therapist how will you apply this technique you will ask her emotional questions and listen to the answers like a therapist what do I mean by emo questions I will explain how to ask these questions and give you examples of how to answer them and I will explain everything when I first
read about this topic and started researching it I found that some people give you a number of questions and tell you to ask them and the girl will answer you and that's it but no it doesn't work like that I will give you examples of questions to ask later but you need to understand not just memorize you need to understand what emotional questions mean and create them yourself according to the circumstances you are in so we humans to create an emotional connection need to talk in an emotional way we need to express our feelings and
to make the other person talk in an emotional way you need to ask an emotional question I'll give you an example imagine you are a girl just imagine I came to you and started talking about studies or your job and you start telling me you study computer science and do this and that and that what is this this is logical communication meaning you are talking about something logical in a cold way but imagine if I asked you what you study and you said computer science and then I asked you if you like this field you
can say no you can say yes but imagine if I asked asked you why why do you like it or why don't you like it here you will start expressing those feelings you have inside about what you like and what you don't like and this will make you talk more and express more feelings this is the first condition of an emotional question a question that makes the woman Express her feelings those feelings can be anger sadness hatred admiration passion Etc another example imagine two people talking Guy where do you live girl New York guy wow
New York that's a beautiful city in this case what happened hm nothing just a cold logical conversation after a few hours the girl will have forgotten this conversation as if it never happened but let's see someone who understands what we talked about today where do you live girl New York New York how can you live in a city like that note if you don't understand why I said this answer please when you finish this video watch the entire series because I explained this anyway let's go back to our conversation girl why what's the problem it
seems like a very noisy City to me do you like New York here my brother you have asked an emotional question related to feelings and started applying the technique let's continue the conversation girl yes of course why let's stop again to see what happened when the girl answered with this answer yes of course even though it's an answer to an emotional question it didn't meet the second condition of an emotional question the answer should be long the girl's answer should be long and expressive meaning if you ask a girl if she likes New York and
she says yes don't just stare at her ask why and here the girl in the second example will start to express and start to talk and start pouring out her feelings to you and start talking emotionally here here comes the Second Step listen to her carefully at this moment you should try to get her to express herself as much as possible you need to listen and not interrupt her when she starts talking and sharing her story with you at this moment you are not talking to her mind but to her emotions to that instinct responsible
for love but is that all no this is just the first step the emotional question is merely a key to unlock something bigger it is just a key to the door of emotional conversation after you ask her and let her tell you her story and express herself it's time to turn the emotional question into an emotional conversation let's return to the scenario imagine the girl answers and starts talking and talking and reaches a point where she says I like the Metropolitan Museum of Art there by the way if you don't know this is a famous
Museum in New York in this situation you can stop her and ask wow do you like Arc yes of course then why and once again blah blah blah blah blah blah blah and you continue like this listening to her and each time transitioning from one thing to another focusing on always letting her talk about emotional things it doesn't matter what she talks about the important thing is to immerse her emotions in the conversation now I want you to compare this conversation with the first one the first conversation she will have forgotten after 10 minutes the
second conversation will stay in her mind for years because you stirred her emotions in it and let me not forget to warn you about a mistake many people make which is the interview mode where they keep asking questions and the girl answers and then they ask more questions and they just keep asking please don't do this the questions should be related to each other one thing complimenting another and now you may ask me should I not not talk should she just keep talking and I just listen listen carefully in a conversation with any girl she
should be talking 7% of the time and you only 30% especially in the beginning always let her talk a lot this is a topic we will continue to discuss in more detail in the upcoming episodes of the series now let me give you examples of emotional questions you can ask the social psychology researcher Arthur Aaron created a list of questions he called 36 questions to fall in love he conducted this experiment with a 100 people pairing a man and a woman who didn't know each other giving them the list and having them ask each other
these questions by the end of the experiment all the participants felt a significant attraction and some even continued their relationships and got married thanks to this experiment the 36 questions aim to reveal personal details and behaviors related to intimacy they are designed to increase intimacy with the other person there are three sets of questions each containing 12 questions the intensity of the questions gradually increases both within each set and across the three sets I won't be able to present the entire list in this video so I'll give you the first 10 questions if this video
reaches 2,000 likes I'll share a PDF file with all 36 questions in the first comment one would you like to be famous in what way two before making a phone call do you ever rehearse what you're going to say why three if you could change anything about the way you were raised what would it be four what would constitute a perfect day for you five when did you last sing to yourself to someone else six if you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old
for the last 60 years of your life which would you choose seven if you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability what would it be eight do you have a secret hunch about how you will die nine what is your most terrible memory 10 for what in your life do you feel most grateful these questions I've given you now I don't want you to memorize them I want you to understand them I want you to grasp the concept the secret is not in having the questions and asking them the secret is knowing
how to turn a regular conversation into an emotional one so here we will move on to something very important and I'll tell you a story that happened to me so you can understand some time ago I was dating a girl and we had been dating for about 3 weeks I had asked her to come over to my place what you need to know is that this girl was not the type to have sex on the first night she believed that sex should happen after a long time and only after being in a committed relationship we
had just started dating and we just getting to know each other before she came over she told me look I'm coming over just to spend time at your place we won't do anything beyond kissing and innocent cuddling we won't do anything sexual you know how I am I said no problem she came over and we sat down and started talking I began thinking about something we could do together and an idea struck me I said to her let's try the mbti test by the way the mbti test is a personality test you go to a
website that has this test and you start answering many questions and in the end it gives you your personality type she agreed and I started asking her the questions from the test with each question I tried to get her to elaborate and tell me stories about herself after a while and before we finished the test we ended up having sex why now listen to me carefully for us men sexual desire is triggered visually we see a beautiful girl and we automatically desire to have sex with her this is how our sexual desire Works women however
feel sexual desire when they start experiencing emotions and if you are the reason for these emotions you can consider yourself as having won her over this is the first lesson I want you to learn from this story the second lesson is that you need to be creative don't just go up to her and start asking her questions you'll come off as robotic or like someone who watched a YouTube video telling you to ask these questions and then you went to ask them but is this enough no if you only apply this technique you might end
up in the therapy Zone with the go you need to implement everything we've learned in this series please just try what I've told you today and trust me you'll be amazed by the results note this doesn't have to be applied only with girls you can also use it with people if you want to create a deep and memorable connection if you want me to make a video about social skills please let me know in the comments by the way if you have any problems or questions please write them in the comments so I can know
what issues you have and talk about them in the upcoming episodes of the series don't forget to subscribe this was the dark needle thanks for watching and I love you old