REFLEXÕES SOBRE LEVEZA: Em 2024, acrescente leveza em sua vida! Lúcia Helena Galvão da Nova Acrópole

Hello! Welcome to our chat today. Today we are going to talk about a very interesting topic, which is how to face the new year with lightness.

This virtue that we know so little, that we talk very little about it, has a very great value. Life has a rhythm, life has a course. And if we don't have lightness, we are overcome, we don't follow the flow of life, we lag behind.

So it is very important that we understand what are the things that make us weight, what are the things that make us lose the rhythm of life, what are the things that make our trajectory become tiring, heavy, exhausting and sometimes extremely exhausting. So let's talk a little about lightness, let's get to know a little bit about what it is. Well, always starting with the etymology, you know me, you know that I always start like this.

Lightness comes from the Latin levis, which means what is light, very obvious. Now, light is what has little weight, but lightness is the characteristic of both what has little weight and also of the one that makes things light. That is, a person who is able to make things with little weight, he also has this lightness.

This attribute of lightness, that is, he knows how to generate lightness. That's exactly what we're looking to generate in us. The human virtue of lightness.

The ability to make life flow in the lightest, softest way possible. And let's see why we put so much weight on things. To the point of having a terrible stress, a terrible fatigue when each cycle, each year ends.

May we really renew in this next cycle. May this next year be a cycle of resuming life with much more lightness, with much more fluidity, following this rhythm that life proposes to us. How do we influence the weight of things?

Well, on a physical level, making things lighter is very obvious. It has to do with knowing how to carry them. You know that an object, depending on the way you carry it, it becomes lighter, it becomes possible to be carried.

If you take it badly, it will be very difficult to carry it. If you take it badly, it will be unbearably heavy. So the way we carry things, the way we carry things, and also when we take off weight.

That is, you go there, there is a closet that you need to carry. Open the doors, take everything out of the closet. Take all unnecessary weight.

And then it becomes much easier to be carried out by life. So this double characteristic, which is to take things, to carry things in the right way, and take the weight off things. This is what happens on the physical plane.

On the emotional level, lightness has to do with knowing how to carry things that correspond to us through life, leaving behind all unnecessary weight. In other words, on the emotional level, we have sadness, we have grief, a series of things that if you drag on for the rest of your life, it will give you a terrible weight. It will always lower your consciousness every time you remember.

That is, it will be a burden that you will have to carry. In other words, lightness on the emotional level is to know how to leave these gross emotions behind. Learn that that situation taught you, but know how to go ahead.

On the mental level, lightness has to do with not adding weight to the mind. That is, circular ideas, emotions dominating the mind, which makes our thoughts become increasingly dense and heavy. What is this?

A circular idea is something that for some reason, it keeps spinning in your mind for a long time. The impression it gives is that it is an obsession, a madness. It weighs so much that one day with a circular mental shape, it will tire you more than a heavy day with physical work.

You can be sure. Circular ideas, I recommend that you do an exercise of imagination with them. That you imagine that you are taking this idea, making a ball, throwing it into space, and put a positive idea in place.

That you will be able to fill this space. Nature does not leave gaps. This idea will return to you, but you will already find this occupied space.

You can say that it comes again, and you throw it back into space. That is, do not accept that it dominates your mental plan. Be very careful with circular ideas.

They exalt our energy. And emotions dominating the mind, is also a complex thing. We know that there is a gap between emotions and reason.

When you are very emotional, you think very little. When you are thinking lucidly, emotions are serene. Understand well, emotions and not thoughts.

I can be thinking very lucidly, and have a feeling of love, have a feeling of fraternity, that does not interfere with anything. Now emotions, like passions, like hates, like grudges, when you have them, do not think. They do not reason.

They take full account of your mental plan. Drg these emotions with you, makes you think little and badly. And they are heavy.

So in the mental plan, it is to get rid of circular ideas, and emotional, passionate, choleric, that make your mental plan weigh, your thoughts weigh, and you get stuck in this encroachment of very low emotions. Emotions will always evoke elements in us, so that we can see things. And we will see that some emotions, for example, linked to fears and traumas of the past, will actually cloud our vision.

Imagine a very silly situation. You were bitten by a dog when you were little. This situation was not well assimilated by you.

It became a trauma. Every time you see a dog, even if it is a little dog, you will tremble. You will be afraid, because you associated the idea of ​​a dog with a certain danger, which is not always true.

So, emotions are sometimes linked to these experiences we have. Emotions like fear, like panic, make us not have clarity to see things from the past. So be careful when you are going to analyze a new situation in your life.

It's a new dog that has appeared. And you are not able to examine that this is a dog, totally harmless. You pour your dog trauma on it.

Your past fears, everything you carry. So, this makes it very difficult for us to analyze the future, analyze the present, analyze the new things that life presents to us. Weight over overcoming a problem.

It is also a serious thing. Let's say you overcame a situation, learned a lot from it, but you can't forget the pain you suffered to overcome this situation. So you come to a person and say, Wow, you have a wonderful virtue.

And she will say, Ah, you don't know what I suffered to get through this, to get here. I almost died, I won't even tell you. Sit down, I'll tell you everything I went through.

In other words, she drags with her all the weight of that experience. She was not able to extract wisdom from there, useful teaching, and leave the experience there. It's like you squeezed several oranges, to absorb vitamin C, to prevent you from the flu, let's say.

You take this juice. The juice begins to integrate your body's defense system. You don't need to carry the orange peels with you.

What you paid, the price you paid in energy to have that juice. It would be absurd if you were dragging this orange peel. In other words, the price I paid to learn, is behind.

And I take with me the learning. This is fundamental. There is a tradition that says that if we were able to bring with us only learning, only wisdom, and let the circumstances that generated this wisdom die, we may not need to die.

We die like a merciful mantle of nature, because we are so heavy, dragging us through life, that at a certain moment it is no longer possible. That is, it is a strong idea, but it is an idea to be considered. Extract only the teaching of situations, and not carry the weight you paid for them, the price you paid for them.

Fear is also something that adds a terrible weight to things. That is, when I am afraid of something, it can be a small obstacle. It becomes a dragon, it becomes a huge thing, and many times it can immobilize me, prevent me from walking towards the future.

The problem with fear is that sometimes it points exactly in that direction that would be my greatest growth potential. It is generally like a compass, it points exactly to what would make you grow more. So we should, in the face of fear, have a simple reflection, which is the following.

If what is on my way, is necessary to do, I need to do this to grow, to fulfill my role as a human being, if I need it, it is because I can. So I will not let fear paralyze me. Now, if I seek out of my experience, a crazy adventure, if I seek something that has nothing to do with my experience, it is not my need, then it may be that this fear is being prudent and warning you that you really should not go.

If I need to teach you, this is part of my career, I am a teacher, if I have this need, it is because I can. Now, if I need to go out with my car running at 1,000 per hour, when will I need it? Only if I see a very urgent situation, an emergency that demands this from me, but even so it is not smart to do it.

What I can have instead of an emergency is two. So I don't need it, if I do this, it is a prudence. So it is correct to fear these things that are not necessary.

And it is wrong to fear what is necessary, which is part of the course of your life, which promotes you to a degree of greater and greater awareness. So know how to qualify situations, know when it is fair to be afraid and when it is not fair to be afraid. In each situation, so that we do not carry a burden, we should seek to do our best.

If you stop, to realize our regrets, our guilt, it comes exactly because we feel that we did not do our best. That person who left, lost a loved one, lost a friend, what hurts us most is to think, I was not as good with him as I could have been. Do not pay attention to him that he deserved.

What anguishes us most is to feel that in each situation, we have not reached the limit of our possibilities. To do our best. When I give my best in each situation, I stay at peace.

There is a phrase by Helena Blavatsky, that she said the following, who does his best, does everything that can be expected of him. I like this phrase too much, and it is very useful to me. Who does his best, does everything that can be expected of him.

That is, if I went to the limit of my possibilities, I stay at peace. When I don't do what I can, when I give my best in my efforts, I will have a feeling of guilt, for not having done everything I could. And feeling of guilt is another weight that we drag through life.

So a way to have peace, always go to the limit of your possibilities, and do everything you consider noble, fair and good. Do not give up any effort. Do not stop doing what you consider noble, fair and good.

And be happy with life every day. One element that I always advise in dealing with fear, so that it is not this terrible burden, which serves for small situations, lighter situations, works very well. Fear always threatens you with something.

It threatens you to lose something. And you, there, with the fear of losing that thing, get intimidated, and often stop. When they are small things, accept the loss.

Take the loss. He will no longer be able to blackmail you. I will give a classic example that I use, because it was something that happened to me.

When I took my driver's license, I was terribly afraid to drive. It was something I could not do, just sit in that car and drive, although I had already taken the license and been approved. One day I stopped and thought, why am I so afraid?

What is it that is really scaring me? Why am I so afraid? Because walking at the speed I walk, the most accident I can cause is to run over a mangrove turtle.

Another thing I can't do. Then I found out that the fear I had was that people would think I was driving badly. My problem is over.

I just got in front of the mirror and said, I drive badly, I drive badly, I drive badly. It's over. If someone says that, I'm saying the pure expression of the truth.

So if I'm driving badly, someone says, that's it, this one knows me well. I've already accepted it, it doesn't scare me anymore. I'm going to teach for the first time.

People will think I'm a novice. They will. Assume that you are a novice.

Get there and say, good evening, look, I'm a novice, but let's do the best we can here. It's over, they've already thought. From now on it's profit.

In other words, don't let fear threaten you. When they are small things that we can accept the loss, accept the loss. And you will see that you will destroy the trigger of fear.

And you don't have to work with this fad anymore. When we have to meet a person, to live with a person, in coexistence, one of the things that puts the most weight on us is to label. And there comes a person who has such a profession.

Everyone I knew who had such a profession was boring. Too meticulous, phlegmatic. And there comes, ah, he is from such and such a city.

And such a city, everyone I knew was like that. And, that is, you already waste on this relationship a weight, which is a pure fantasy. No one is equal to anyone.

Saying that in a city everyone is the same, that in a country everyone is the same, is crazy. We have absolutely original human beings. No one is equal to anyone.

Every time we label, we generate a previous weight that makes it difficult for us to actually know the person. That is, I already have the label, I don't even look at what she really is. And I want to force her to fit into that label.

This makes the relationship very difficult, it weighs on relationships. One thing that, on the contrary, makes coexistence become lighter is to develop empathy. Empathy takes the weight off of other people's attitudes.

When someone has an attitude and I don't understand it, it weighs on me, it generates a hurt, it generates, many times, a counter precaution and makes this relationship become heavy. When I have empathy, I put myself within the psychological framework of the other. And I understand why he acted the way he acted.

Having the history he has, living the circumstances he has, seeing the world as he sees, it is perfectly possible for me to act that way. I then understand the angle by which he is seeing life. His attitudes no longer have the same weight for me.

I can even help him to try to see better, offering my point of view. And also receive his point of view, so that I can see better too. Because we have both shadow zones and light zones.

We can change our light zones and alert each other about where our shadow zones are. So, if I know how to put myself in the psychological framework of the other, I take the weight off of coexistence. I understand why certain attitudes that hurt me had to be taken as a form of empathy.

I understand why the other's reasons make coexistence much easier, much lighter. Another thing that weighs too much on coexistence are expectations. I hope that such a person acts in such a way.

We do this a lot with our children. I hope they are like this, like this, like this, you know? This is a terrible weight, both for those who receive the expectation and for those who generate it.

Naturally, this person will not fully fulfill our expectations. This would massacre her. It would end her individuality.

She feels the weight of these expectations on her. The relationship becomes massacring, heavy. And when this person decides to claim for his freedom, to assume his destiny according to what she is and not what we expect, she disappoints us.

Then comes another weight. We blame the other for not being what I expected. Well, who expected it was you.

Why would you put a weight on the other of the guilt of having frustrated your expectations? You are the one who is guilty of having had expectations. So be very careful with this spilling over the other expectations.

The relationship weighs for those who receive the expectation and for those who generate it. One of the things that makes our relationships, coexistence, lighter is from the principle that we came here to love people, to know how to listen to them, to know how to understand them, to know how to forgive them. Every time we act with two elements, which are the rancor and self-pity, we carry a huge weight.

Rancor and self-pity will make us drag out very negative elements, in the case of rancor, very heavy. It's like you have a ball of steel stuck to your ankle. And self-pity is considered by many traditions there is an author from the last century, Nilakanta Srivam, who spoke about it, it is mixed with a lot of selfishness.

Imagine that you know that 200 people died in a crisis on the other side of the world. And you suddenly have someone who steps on your foot, who emotionally offends you, something. Usually our selfishness makes this stepping on the foot bother us more than 200 people who died on the other side of the world.

We hardly suffer so much for others as we suffer for our little ones. Hardly does the pain of the other take us to tears, as it takes us to tears our own pain. That is, the excess of self-pity is nothing more than a good dose of selfishness.

Think very well when you shed tears, exclusively for personal pain. And it is very little capable of feeling the pain of the other. Self-pity is something debilitating and it will make us drag this weight of feeling fragile, of feeling unable to face life.

Being fragile is also another thing that makes life very heavy. Poor me, I can't take it. This is closely associated with that poor thing, that self-pity.

So I'm weak. Everything that appears in my life I consider too heavy for me. And it turns out that things get really heavy.

I don't consider that rule we've already talked about. If it came up on my way and it's necessary, it's because it's for me. If I throw a ball at you and it catches you, it's because it's your height.

If it were too high, it wouldn't catch you, it would pass over your head. The things that come to our lives and are necessary, they come because we are their size. Because they think we are capable of overcoming them.

So don't consider yourself too weak for what life proposes. Certainly life knows you more than yourself. And you have possibilities that maybe you consciously don't know.

And life is leading you to bring out, to become aware of all these possibilities. A human being is not a fragile being. A human being is a man endowed with will, who can really turn the world around.

And he can turn the world upside down. Another thing that brings a lot of weight, is to fight against the flow of life. This weighs a lot.

I told you that all life goes to unity. Planets, atoms, beings, all go to unity. And I want to walk just to highlight my personal name.

I want to walk to be successful over the failure of others. I want to walk to be the first, to have all the privileges of the world. It is evident that I am in the opposite hand of nature.

And the flow of life comes in the opposite hand. The possibility of shock is very great. The possibility of you having to deviate all the time, taking a very high risk, is very great.

When you go in the opposite hand of the flow of life, it weighs too much. If you are facing many difficulties, take a look. Where is the flow of life going?

If you are not going in the opposite hand. If you are not opposing each other, fraternity, unity, justice, truth, which are the laws of nature, are the laws that govern the flow of life. When we oppose this, we carry a very heavy weight.

When we flow together with life, life has lightness, as we have already said. Knowing how to cut cycles of circular thoughts. We have also talked a little about this.

This takes a lot of weight off us. Train more and more concentration and attention. Dispersion is something that weighs us.

I find it funny that sometimes in universities, in my university time, it was like this. In the library they put those wooden boxes for you to study. Closed, so you don't look either to one side or to the other.

And then the students would go there and write a lot of things in those boxes. And we, instead of paying attention to the book, would read those things that were written in the box. That is, there is no way.

We scatter for anything. We have a difficulty in being whole in the present moment. As Cao Yung said, body and mind together.

We have a great difficulty in savoring life at every moment. This concentration, this constant dispersion, brings us the weight of failure. It brings us the weight of superficiality, of never knowing anything deeply.

Of never . . .

of never knowing the essence of things. Of always floating the flower of the skin. So take care of the dispersion.

Work, do exercises of concentration. Take care that your life is lighter. Life becomes lighter when you are body, mind and soul together at every moment.

Taking advantage of everything it offers you. Because life is entirely pedagogical. It always has something to help you at every moment.

It always has something to help you. Another thing that weighs too much. Anxiety.

Anxiety is an element that makes us totally polarized in the future. And also loses the present. So imagine, I want to get a diploma from a certain course.

I keep dreaming about graduation. And how will my profession be? And I don't pay attention to the classes I have to attend now.

The tests I have to do now. They make me a terrible student. How can I be a great professional if I am a terrible student at this moment?

How can I have a great future if I have a mediocre present? Anxiety steals from us the quality of our present. Of course it is interesting for you to have a goal in life.

To have a purpose. I think this is extremely necessary. But your purpose, your goal, your sense of life is a reference of direction.

For you to look from time to time and see if it is right. But it's not for you to be all the time wishing for that and losing consciousness of your present moment. The best way to have an ideal future is that all our presents are ideal.

Giving my best and receiving the best that life has to offer me at every moment. Anxiety steals our present. Just like nostalgia also steals our present.

One for the future and one for the future. Both give us an unnecessary weight. Another thing that also gives us a terrible weight is a choleric temperament.

All your life dragging a cholera ready to explode at any moment. It's like you've been dragging a gunpowder all your life along the way. All the time with that complicated temperament that is sensitive to the skin's flower, susceptible, that bursts with anything.

You are dragging it all the time. You are carrying a terrible weight. Don't think that temperament is a sentence for your whole life.

Temperament is one of the things that we can work, we can sculpt, we can modify. The human being is endowed with will. There is a philosophical phrase that I find very interesting that says that the difference between a wooden log that floats in a river and a boat made of the same wood is that the boat has ropes and is able to navigate against the current.

We, human beings, are not a log of wood dragged by the current. We are a boat, we have ropes. We have the ropes of will.

And our will, our determination, can make me work on this choleric temperament. It can make me become a more and more balanced person. It can make me leave that weight behind.

I am not condemned by life abroad to carry the cholera because I was born in a choleric temperament. I am not condemned to be eternally trapped in a temperament. I am not condemned to be eternally stubborn because I was born in Capricorn, speaking of the zodiac.

That is, whatever they tell me that I have as a previous characteristic, this is to be modified. About the stars, about men, the stars incline, but do not determine. Because the man is a being endowed with will.

And he can navigate against the current. So I can be Capricorn and not be stubborn. I can have a choleric temperament and not be choleric.

Modify the characteristics of this temperament in the way I need. We can and must guarantee ourselves in the face of adversity. This gives us a lot of lightness.

What is to guarantee yourself in the face of adversity? Say, whatever the problem that comes ahead, I will answer with my human self. My animal self will not jump and take the lead.

Whatever comes behind the door of the future, I will answer as a human being answers. And not as an animal responds. That is, I guarantee myself, I sign below.

I know how to respond in a human way to any circumstance that life presents me. This gives you a lot of lightness. Guarantee yourself as a human being.

It gives you a lot of lightness. It removes a lot of weight off your back. It makes you walk in a much more agile way, much lighter, much more guaranteed.

Right? What else weighs? Pessimism.

Pessimism is something that weighs too much. And the morbidity too. Pessimism is the one who always hopes that the worst will come.

Logically, he will find a way to make the worst come. Because he is waiting for it. And the morbidity?

It is the one that looks for the negative side of all the things that have happened. That are happening. Of course, everything in the manifested world is dual.

There is a part of light and a part of light. There is a part of shadow. Morbidity never sees the part of light.

It only sees the part of shadow. That is, it is also a burden of shadow that you carry through life. Both pessimism and morbidity are addictions.

Addictions of looking at life with a very negative aspect. And that will make you carry shadows through life. Another thing that also brings a lot of weight.

Enjoy sadness and melancholy. In the past, it was said, that a phrase that is no longer used today, that they said was to enjoy it. Have you ever heard about it?

That person, I don't know, had a fight with his boyfriend, something happened, the next day he stays at home. Remembering what happened and crying. And enjoying it there, sometimes for several days.

It is not able to position itself before a fact, make a decision and keep walking. She likes to savour sadness. She likes to savour melancholy.

This, of course, can evolve into a state of melancholy. Pathological. It can evolve into a complex state.

Where you start to feed it and get stuck in it. Do not like pain. Think about them, reflect, extract the teaching they have to offer you.

And keep walking. Enjoy pain, be melancholic about past pains, for a very long time. It only makes you carry a burden and can not make a single step forward.

It was stuck at that point on the road. Be careful with that. Indifference to other people's pain.

It's another thing that weighs too much. It weighs on our conscience. When you realize, sometimes, a person that you knew was sick, that was bad, that was depressed, and you think, I could have done something for her.

A person who sometimes gets to the point of, idealize the end of his own life. You look and say, she passed through me. I could have tried, at least, to do something.

As I told you, it's the thing that hurts us the most. When we lose a loved one, when we lose a friend. When we think, I didn't do everything I could have done for him.

Indifference generates guilt, as we have already said. Indifference to other people's pain, other people's need. That superficial look that sometimes even realizes that the person is in need of something.

But I don't have time now, I have more to do. What is having more to do? A human being who is in my life, who participates in my life and needs my help, few things are more important than that.

Maybe you're not hierarchizing your priorities correctly. So it weighs too much. Not to feel and not to commit to other people's pain, as if it didn't interest us.

It makes us pull, as we have already said, the weight of guilt. Another thing that weighs us, that takes us away, is to continue torturing yourself with the problem, even after you have made a decision. I thought, thought, thought.

I took into account all the factors of my life. I came to the conclusion that the best thing I could do was this. And I did.

After that, I went. Why do I keep torturing myself over something I've already decided? I go back, it's already decided, it's done.

Even if the decision is not correct, I have to learn from this decision, to do something else in the future. You can't go back. Going back doesn't exist.

So, once you've considered all your possibilities, and made a well-thought-out, reflected decision, walk. Don't look back anymore. This is a burden on a person who doesn't know how to make decisions.

And so you waste your time. You don't know how to walk every time you make a decision. Another thing that weighs too much is to realize how much we waste our time.

Sometimes we stop at night and think, what did I do last on today? Today was a day off. I could have read a good book.

I could have visited a person I haven't seen in a long time. I could have done something that raises my consciousness, that does good to someone. What did I do?

Nothing. Absolutely nothing productive. Nothing that adds value to life, or to myself.

Nothing that raises my consciousness. There is that little pain in your heart, because we know that time is life. When we realize that we are wasting time, we know we are wasting life.

And it's a very great wealth for us to throw away. On the new year, we often feel that. We look back and say, what did I do with this year of my life?

What was really useful? That need we have to be a factor of addition, of adding some value to the other, to the world, to myself. Did I do that this year?

Did I add any value to life? To humanity? To the other?

To myself? Or did I just push life forward, without greater qualification, without greater reflection? What did I do this year?

This is one of the things that weighs the most. Realize that our time is being empty. It is essential that we learn to value our time, to put life into our time, to make sure there is a shift of consciousness, so that we look back and have that super pleasant feeling of duty fulfilled, which is one of the attributes of lightness.

Wasting time gives us a lot of weight. It weighs our conscience too much. So, now talking a little about lightness, let's see that one of the things that give us lightness is to know how to see the beauty of life.

Have you noticed that? When we use what we talked about back there, we are present in body, mind and soul, in the present moment. We pay attention to details that are sometimes subtle, simple, and we are happy with that.

We understand how nature works. At all times, things are happening around us, and these things have something to teach us. As the traditions say, if something had nothing to teach me, it would have been taken from my life.

Sometimes small things, a scene from your window, a scene when you are walking to work, a detail of nature, the behavior of a child, pure and simple things, a little animal sometimes playing with his toys, these simple things that animals and children know how to value so much. When we start to notice in detail, when we are meticulous, and we look at the beauty of life, this gives us a lot of lightness. Because we realize that despite any adversity, life gives us a lot.

Life gives us a lot all the time. And this observation gives us a lot of lightness. In short, lightness comes from loving life and knowing how to flow with it.

Knowing how to make it more and more consistent with nature. With which it can take us forward more and more. Lightness comes from knowing how to love life.

The Stoics called this amor fati, amor fatum. To love fate, destiny, life as it presents itself. And knowing how to walk at the pace it proposes.

To flow with it. We are fluid beings. We were made to flow through the obstacles of life.

To flow, letting it take us. And appreciating the beauty of each moment. When we love life, we have a lot of lightness.

That is, look to your future. Look to your next year. And love the future.

And say, this will be the year I will grow. This will be the year I will leave bigger than I entered. The New Year of 2024 will not take me to the same point that the New Year of 2023 left me.

I will flow in this time. I will take advantage of the time. I will put life inside it.

And I will get bigger on the other side. This means facing life with lightness. Leave behind, on December 31st, leave behind the burden you carry.

Both on the physical plane, on the emotional plane, on the mental plane. And face your future with lightness. I'm sure this is one of the most productive and favorable votes I can make for your new year.

And from this vote, I wish you a year of many achievements, of many happiness and of much lightness. A hug for you. Thank you.