How to be more DISCIPLINED | Master Self-Control, Get Focused

self-discipline is an act of self-love when you do the things that you know are good for you like eating healthy and working out you are proving to yourself that you care about your well-being and your long-term goals self-discipline is about showing up for yourself even when it's hard because you know that you are worth the effort it's about consistently choosing long-term growth over momentary comfort and when we build our self-discipline we give our goals and our dreams the space to Thrive and that is the ultimate form of self-love but how do you build that self-discipline

how do you consistently do the hard things over choosing to do the easy things because they feel better that's what we're going to be talking about in today's video how to build self discipline so that you can consistently show up for yourself and your goals if you like these kinds of videos definitely make sure to hit the Subscribe button and hit the little notification Bell so you don't miss my next video and without further Ado let's get into it so if you're like me and you tend to be a perfectionist you tend to have like

an All or Nothing mindset this is for you self-discipline is not about perfection it's about consistency so I kind of always thought of being disciplined as 100% always showing up with the same exact effort every single time but what I realized is that it's not necessarily about always being at 100% every single time you show up it's about giving what you can at the moment and sometimes giving what you can in the moment might look different than what it looks like tomorrow or the next day and that's okay it's just consistently showing up for yourself

and I just want to make it very clear that I am not endorsing a hustle mindset I am not saying to continue to push through and continue to force yourself and just ignore the way your body feels because especially as women we need to honor our cyclical nature and we need to be mindful of our hormonal changes so I know that in the days leading up to my period it might be a little bit more challenging in for me to get to the gym and so self-discipline doesn't mean forcing myself to go to the gym

and forcing myself to continue to do the really high intense workout that I plan to do but instead still choosing to go to the gym or still choosing to do some form of movement but maybe adjusting it to the way my body is feeling in the moment maybe instead of doing a high intense City workout doing Pilates or yoga or using lighter weight self-discipline can be flexible you can acknowledge that some days may be more challenging than others and that's okay you still showing up for yourself which by the way if you don't yet track

your cycle I highly recommend it because it just really allows you to learn more about yourself and how your body and your hormonal needs change throughout your cycle and if you're interested in me doing a whole entire video on that leave a comment down below because I would love to so I just wanted to start this video with that reminder that self-discipline does not mean being perfect 100% of the time it's about consistency and also consistency is not about showing up every single day consistency is just about what are you doing a majority of the

time if you look at the last 30 days how many times did you show up for yourself versus not and what is the majority you know if let's say you skipped out on the gym for 7 Days of the last 30 days you still had 23 days of you showing up for yourself so that's the majority but if you look over your last 30 days and you only went to the gym 5 days that's 25 days of you not showing up for yourself in your goals we are what we do most of the time so

what are you doing most of the time it's not about living like this perfect life where we never indulge we never have a cupcake and we never scroll on Tik Tok it's about what you're doing a majority of the time so the definition of self-discipline is the control of one's impulses and desires foregoing immediate satisfaction in favor of long-term goals so something that I noticed about myself in my mid-20s is that I never really thought to myself how my decisions in the moment would affect my long term and I think we all kind of do

this we ask ourselves what's the harm in stopping for fast food this one time what's the harm in going out tonight just this one night and there's nothing wrong with those things there's nothing wrong with having fast food there's nothing wrong with going out and drinking drinking but if you do those things every night or multiple times a week you will start to see the negative results add up maybe you'll start to gain weight maybe your energy will be affected you'll start to notice that it's more difficult to stay focused and over time these small

seemingly insignificant decisions add up and before you know it they become habits that shape your future so that's why we want to switch momentary thinking to long-term thinking and like I said it's not about never indulging yourself it's not about never allowing yourself to have a night out or never allowing yourself to have fast food it's about consistently making conscious choices that align with your long-term goals rather than always giving in to your momentary impulses I saw this Tik Tok recently and it really resonated with me because she said follow your plan not your mood

so when I first came back to Florida I decided to do 75 hard I made it to day 30 and then I decided not to continue with it because it was just bringing more stress into my life especially when I'm just going through a lot of change right now but even though I didn't complete the challenge I still learned so much in those 30 days so if you're thinking about doing 75 hard or some type of accountability challenge I definitely recommend it because I would say the biggest thing that I noticed in those 30 days

of attempting to do 75 hard is I stopped asking myself should I work out today and instead I switched it to what should I work out today I no longer gave myself the option of should I move my body today or should I not because if you're familiar with 75 hard you have to do two workouts a day one of them has to be outdoors too so it was no longer a question of should I move my body today should I work out today because I know that every single day I needed to work out

and move my body so it was more so a question of what should I work out today how is my body feeling today what do I need today and following my intuition and this made me realize that if we constantly ask ourself do I feel like working out today do I feel like eating healthy today the answer will probably be no especially if you're not used to doing those things so you can't really base it on your feelings you can't base it on your mood you just need to follow the plan you just need to

decide that you're going to do it and just do it that doesn't mean that you can't adjust based on how your body feels because like I said I listen to my body and I moved my body intuitively based on what I needed but if you say you're going to the gym tomorrow if you say that you're working out you go regardless how you feel your workout might change depending on how you feel but you still show up regardless doing 75 hard also made me realize that I do kind of have an All or Nothing mindset

I used to think that if it wasn't a really good workout then there's no point if I'm not sweating if I'm not able to go to the gym for multiple hours and have a really intense workout then there's no point but what I learned with this challenge is that 10 minutes in the gym is better than 10 minutes on the couch it doesn't matter if all all you have is 15 minutes today go to the gym for those 15 minutes and give it 100% that will make you feel 10 times better than not showing up

at all another part to follow your plan not your mood is to stop relying on motivation you will not always feel motivated to go to the gym you can't rely on motivation but motivation does come from seeing progress so the more you show up and the more you give it what you have in the moment the more you'll actually start seeing progress and that will motivate you you just need to remind yourself that the way you're feeling and your moods are temporary but your goals and your dreams are not temporary it's rooted in something a

lot deeper it's your long-term vision for your life sticking to your plan and sticking to what you say you're going to do regardless how you feel is also a way to build trust in yourself every time you honor your goals and your plan over a momentary mood that's fleeting your self-con confidence improves and you start to realize that you can rely on yourself and you can trust yourself and this is why if you watch my video last week all about how to reinvent yourself I really do think that regardless what goal you're going after in

your life your health and fitness should be number one not just because you know going to the gym and working out releases endorphins and makes makes you feel amazing and super focused although that is an incredible reason but because going to the gym and challenging yourself in your Fitness especially if it's not something you're used to especially if you kind of fell off the gym or you're just not as consistent as you would like to be sticking to a workout program sticking to going to the gym will allow you to build that self-confidence because working

out is challenging pushing your body and overcoming those feelings of discomfort is challenging and the more you do that the more you show up for yourself the more confidence you build in yourself and then that confidence and that discipline spills into other areas of your life it makes it a lot easier for you to show up in your business and take risk and put yourself out there because you know that you already went to the gym that day you pushed yourself and you did a 30- minute StairMaster workout and that was really challenging and you

overcame your mind and your thoughts in those moments and you showed up for yourself so giving a presentation at work or or walking up to somebody and introducing yourself to them those things feel a lot easier when you've already showed up for yourself in such a big way like moving your body also by training yourself to follow the mood instead of your plan you're strengthening your emotional resilience because the more you show up and you overcome those feelings of discomfort the more it's easier to overcome feelings of discomfort because then you're like well last time

I went to the gym I did not want to go like I really had to push myself but I did it so I know I can do it again and then over time your mood becomes less influential on dictating your actions which allows you to maintain a sense of stability even when life is chaotic I would say this is the biggest lesson that I've learned in doing difficult things like going to the gym or starting a business putting yourself out there is I've learned how to not allow my emotions to control me and this is

still something that I'm learning is emot intelligence and emotional regulation not allowing my emotions to control my life I'm definitely a work in progress I'm not perfect at this at all but doing these challenging things and building that self-discipline allows you to become more emotionally resilient it allows you to continue showing up regardless how you feel and then you start to realize that your feelings although of course like we want to be conscious and aware of how we feel we don't need to be controlled by our feelings we don't need to allow Our Lives to

be dictated by our emotions we can maintain a sense of strength and stability regardless how we feel so that when life gets stressful when it gets chaotic you can still show up for yourself you can still show up for your goals and that is strength that is what the most successful people in the world do is they don't allow their emotions to dictate their actions also that's another topic I can make a video on is emotional intelligence so let me know in the comments if you'd love to see that one too okay so by now

you guys know that I love talking about mindset about emotions spirituality but I also want to share practical action steps that you can take after you leave my video so that you can actually make changes in your life so I'm going to share with you five practical tips that will help you build self-discipline so the first tip is to start small chances are you've kind of lost trust in yourself and you need to rebuild that so when you try to go from 0 to 100 you're setting yourself up for failure and that's the mistake I

made when I tried to jump straight into 75 hard when I'm in this like very transitional period of my life my emotions are high and I also kind of went the last like 6 months not really going to the gym and not being super consistent on my healthy habits so I kind of tried to go from 0 to 100 by jumping straight into 75 hard and I'm still really glad that I attempted to do it because like I said I learned a lot of lessons from it but you want to start small so that you

can start to build that trust within yourself here are some things that have really helped me to kind of start small and like slowly ease my way back into it and slowly start to build trust in myself so I'll commit to just going to the gym I won't commit to specific workouts or I'll go to workout classes because workout classes I'm telling you it's the best way to get back into the gym get back into movement when you haven't gone in a long time because literally all you need to do is just show up and

follow what the instructor is saying so that is one of the best ways to get back into working out another thing too is if I've gone through a period of time where I've just like eaten a lot of unhealthy food and I really want to get back on track with eating healthier is I will commit to limiting certain foods instead of restricting it completely so I may limit added sugar but I won't completely try to restrict it from my diet because I know know that that's me setting myself up for failure or I'll commit to

one day of not scrolling on Tik Tok instead of trying to cut it out completely so you just want to make small little commitments rather than just going from 0 to 100 because when you do that small thing you start to build that trust in yourself and then over time you start to be able to commit to more and more so usually what will happen is I will commit to going to a workout class for a couple of weeks and then from there I'll be like okay now I'm going to go back to the gym

and do whatever it is that I want in the moment and then after a month of that I'm like okay great I'm feeling really good now I'm ready to commit to like a solid workout program and that's kind of where I'm at right now it's been about a month of me being consistent in the gym again and now I'm like on a strict workout program because I've build that trust in myself by going to workout classes and slowly easing back into the gym that now I'm ready to like really commit to a workout program and

like be consistent and actually start seeing results another tip is to create clear specific goals so make sure you know exactly what actions you're going to take instead of keeping it vague so if you want to eat healthier what does that look like exactly for you does it look like meal planning on Sundays or swapping desserts with added sugars with more healthier desserts make sure you know exactly what action steps you're going to take so that you don't get caught in analysis paralysis but again also don't expect perfection out of yourself especially if it's something

that you're slowly easing yourself back into number three is to set boundaries with yourself so just like how we have boundaries with other people sometimes we also need to set boundaries with ourselves and this requires you really knowing yourself knowing your weaknesses knowing the things that tempt you the things that distract you so I'm just going to be real with you guys I'm a party girl and I always have been I love going out with my friends I do enjoy drinking and having a good time I love dancing but I'm also 28 so at this

age it sometimes can take me like a week to recover from just one night out so it's not worth it to me to let myself go out too often especially when I'm in a period of my life of really wanting to focus on my goals like right now for example I'm just really in this era of like improving my life and glowing up and just really just going all in on myself and my goals so I set a very strict boundary with myself where I'm only allowing myself to go out once a month and I'll

still go to like you know dinners and like events with friends and stuff but I mean like a night out where I'm I'll probably be out pretty late I'll probably be drinking like only once a month because it's not worth it to me to be thrown off so set clear boundaries for yourself if you need to and then tip number four is to use positive reinforcement reward yourself in some way that doesn't mean that every single time you go to the gym you stop by McDonald's on the way home to get yourself a cookie but

maybe you come home and you have some small sweet treat or something that just makes you feel happy something that kind of reinforces to your brain that showing up for yourself does have a positive outcome because a lot of times the things that we're doing aren't going to generate results right away and like I said earlier in the video we do get more motivated when we start to see progress when we do start to see results from our efforts but we can't just rely on that because it's going to take time to start to see

progress so something I like doing is on the days when it is really difficult for me to make it to the gym and I do push through those feelings and I do show up I will treat myself to something after I will get lunch somewhere or I will get a coffee or something to treat myself to just kind of reinforce to myself like okay it was very challenging for me to show up today but I got a little reward out of it I got a little sweet treat so all is well I'm going to continue

showing up so I don't necessarily reward myself every single time because honestly especially when it comes to working out or really any type of goal Pursuit like for me just like showing up and like being able to say like I did it I feel like that is really like a reward in of itself but whenever I feel discouraged or whenever it feels challenging to show up that's when I reward myself like for example posting on YouTube and like creating these YouTube videos is a reward because it Mak makes me feel so fulfilled it makes me

feel so good and like happy when I see comments of people saying like how much my videos have helped like that is truly a reward and then the last tip is to practice mindfulness so self-discipline requires self-awareness it requires you to be aware of your thoughts and your feelings so that you can make conscious choices rather than reacting impulsively and mindfulness can really help you with this so meditating giving yourself space to sit in silence or in those moments when you want to do something let's say for example you want to open up Tik Tok

just giving yourself a little bit of space this is something that I'm actually trying right now because I am really I'm really trying to like break up with my phone honestly like I've noticed that I have a real addiction to my phone and it's also very challenging because I have a career in social media so I do have to like be in the no I do have to be on social media and know like what's going on so it's been very difficult to create that balance of not letting it consume me and not being so

addicted to my phone so what I've been doing is I've just been giving myself just a little bit of space so if I want to grab my phone and go on Instagram or Tik Tok I will literally just give myself like 10 seconds just 10 seconds to just breathe and become aware of the desire to scroll and just giving yourself that tiny bit of space will allow yourself to consciously make the choice of whether or not you really want to do that thing so sometimes I will still decide to grab my phone and still scroll

but at least I gave myself that space to consciously decide that so before you make a decision just take some time to check in with yourself and ask yourself if it aligns with your long-term goals and that's pretty much it for today's video I really hope that you found this video helpful definitely make sure to leave a comment down below hit the little subscribe button and the little notification Bell so you can be notified the next time I post a video thank you so much for watching and I will see you on the next video

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