USE THIS MINDSET to Achieve Anything You Want & Reprogram Your SUBCONSCIOUS Mind w/ Peter Crone (4K)

the following is an operation podcast production what do you think is the number one thing for most people keeping them from moving forward in their life today gosh that's a an entire semester of understanding human identity my work which is to bring awareness to these Primal constraints that we all have in our subconscious and then to transcend those so we can find my main thing which is freedom so but most people don't know that that even exists they just think they are a certain way they have their OS syncrasy based on their parents and their

upbringing and that's just the way it is and I'm going to do the best I can survive and I the whole premise that humans are sort of innately evil or that's how we arrive yeah without getting into the politics of it I think you know there's a certain manipulation that every Authority has out there but particularly in religious Realms that you are X and you're not y so I think it's less that we're evil I think it's actually that beneath the surface least the domain that I speak from call it Soul Spirit Consciousness the absolute

the Divine the kingdom of the Lord within you the Buddha whichever word floats your boat is boundless it's Timeless it's Limitless the default setting is survival and survival can come at all sorts of big costs hi I'm Peter cron some of you may know me as the Mind architect and I'm very excited to be here on ever Forward Radio the Mind architect but also the word wizard the more I have been diving into your work and your content and other podcasts I'm just like I have to rewind just to appreciate the vocabulary and the thought

that goes into your descriptions and answers so just a quick little shout out to thank you I appreciate that yeah the word wizard I'm changing your adop that hor Monica yeah no it's it's it's it's sweet I I I often say I traffic in language so and and the the the reason being that you know one of my quotes as you probably heard me use many of them I say the words of the Wardrobe for the soul and so obviously the degree to which you have a bigger lexicon or a greater pallet of words the

more outfits you can wear I guess oh man and the Wardrobe The Outfits every time I've seen you so far you're always killing it so the words the look it's it's the whole package here man I appreciate it and so your worth that you really kind of help people with is in my interpretation getting us to understand first and foremost that we can have our dream life it's just a matter of uh dissolving some certain things yeah and so I want to ask you my first question is what do you think is the number one

thing for most people keeping them from moving forward in their life today gosh that's a an entire semester of understanding human identity it's really the misidentification with the idea of ourself right that that I'm this physical body this Meats suit as I often refer to it but more subtly more insidiously that I am the thoughts that I have in my head right so most people become so associated with with this internal narrative that is usually based in sort of insecurity scarcity inadequacy like it's not particularly flattering the way that most people view themselves internally and

so usually that's that's the biggest obstacle because even if somebody's proactive meaning that they think they're subtly not enough and then they adapt and cope by becoming a perfectionist or a people pleaser but they're still being defined by the constraint so that's yeah I mean you've really sort of pinpointed my work which is to bring awareness to these Primal constraints that we all have in our subconscious and then to transcend those so we can find my main thing which is freedom so but most people don't know that that even exists they just think they are

a certain way they have their idiosyncrasies based on their parents and their upbringing and that's just the way it is and I'm going to do the best I can survive you made me think you were kind of saying how most people we think of ourselves as inadequate or when we look in the mirror we only see our imperfections or we're always our own worst critic right but there are some people out there that when they look in the mirror when they have those internal thoughts they think they opposite yeah like I'm the [ __ ]

I'm killing it I see it and I think a lot of people truly believe that and not from an egotistical perspective maybe a little why do some people just seem to have that level of confidence and the ability to have positive self-talk positive self-image gosh I mean they could be the listy of different things that they've experienced often times trauma is the Catalyst for awakening they might be somebody who's been raised by parents who've done a lot of spiritual work or they might have great therapists uh they might have done plant medicine Journeys I I

don't know so I think if we just look at it in terms of like the default operating system of a human being is the derogatory you know that I feel is this Dimension that's the opportunity and it doesn't sound like a great opportunity but that's the possibility that it is to be human is to recognize that by design that part of us is founded in constraints and limitation and the game if you want to call it that of being human is sort of the quintessential straight jacket of the mind that we're trying to break out

of right so that's the way I look at it so those people perhaps are either a little further on their Journey if we want to get real esoteric we could say this Incarnation is a little further for them they've they've been around the block a few times in terms of Being Human so they've reconciled a lot of those constraints um yeah it's hard to pinpoint why other than as I said there's a myriad of different means that we can access and hopefully discovering this lifetime to get Beyond these perceived constraints um it's they're the people

that we rely on right I I hope at some level to emulate that for people so that they can see what's possible like wait a minute this guy Often by 17 hasn't had it easy not left a penny it seems to be pretty vital and loving life and free and kind and loving you know so no one would begrudge me if I became a kudon and I was drinking heavily or addicted to something cuz life wasn't fair and [ __ ] you and so yeah I think we we need comparison right we need I think

we need both I mean all frequencies exist in this domain right we've got the extremes of like love and peace and beauty and then sadly especially the last few years we seem to have the antithesis but so I I don't know the answer but I'm glad that there are people like that out there because I certainly have relied on them for for my own Evolution over the years um but then also we need people struggle so that we can feel that sense of contribution and making a difference to help others when you said the default

is derogatory yeah in religious Realms right that you all acts and you're not why and so I think it's less that we're evil I think it's actually the beneath the surface at least the domain that I speak from call it Soul Spirit Consciousness the absolute the Divine the kingdom of the Lord within you the Buddha whichever word floats your boat is boundless it's Timeless it's Limitless and so there is a I feel some inherent quality ities that exist for that aspect of us which is freedom love possibility selfworth they're all there they're all intact I

think what we might become misidentified with and Associate as being evil is the part of us that gets developed over time through trials and tribulations this condition self the human part um which is flawed or based in these in perceptions of inadequacy and insecurity it's not so much it's evil it's just its imperative is to survive and so if you think about it just from Pure animalistic sense if you're just programmed to survive then you're going to do whatever you have to to make it right so on the surface that can look like really like

evil is you know it's a it's a tough word I mean it's one that I've adopted a little bit more in the last four years with what's been going on but it's certainly going to look like less than ideal it's not going to look philanthropic it's not going to look kind it's not going to look loving but I think the more you understand the human disposition we can start to pull a bit more from compassion that everybody's doing the best they can within the limits of their awareness it's just that most people's awareness is is

kind of confined so um you know the old expression and with your faith you know forgive them Lord they know not what they do right and I've used that a few times in my own understanding of some behavior that to towards me was really really hard really derogatory really accusatory you know in relationship with somebody and and it really called for me to be a much bigger human and just about to listen and understand once I got my own sort of personality to one side that could feel hurt and you know picked on and it's

not fair and then I was just left with their pain you know um and so yeah it's it's it's a hard it's a hard pill to swallow because humans by Design aren't you know on the surface they're they're not very free and so there as I said they're the default setting is survival and survival can come at all sorts of big costs what a great little shift there instead of the default is derogatory the default is freedom love possibility like that's what I want to appeal to in humans is that you know who you are

beyond your idea of yourself is founded in these beautiful tenants that we really all aspire that we're moved by when we see someone on the street that is doing an act of kindness that we notice and it's like it appeals to something within us I think I think at the deepest deepest level the real factory settings of who we are as souls or Spirits is really founded in the essence of love but on top of that the the experience of being human is at times the antithesis of that which I would assert is part of

the design of this Dimension because what a great means to have to develop love right I often say like if you look at a person anyone ourselves included you're going to find attributes about yourself that you just inherently like you know if it's a woman she's likes her hair or her eyes or her skin or the shape of her physique or for a guy CU he's tall or he's strong or you know there's qualities that we can all look at within ourselves that we find favor with okay that's not so difficult to loveh but then

at the Lany of lists that everybody's going to have about themselves that they don't like right even the things that I just listed a woman might not like a hair or skin or her eyes or a shape and same with a guy so the opportunity there for me is as a human by Design being flawed or having what we discern as imperfections we have to develop true love right because to love the things about yourself that you like is not a challenge to love the things you don't like about yourself is the opportunity to discover

true love o yeah that's good that's good yeah so we have to be [ __ ] up in order to develop what we're here to do which is to reveal the essence of who we are which is love very true and I actually had down this quote I heard you say on another show that you can't be held accountable to that which you are oblivious yeah and I think already that fits so perfectly to what you're talking about the religious quote from the Bible you know forgive them Lord for they know not what they do

exactly imagine if we kind of just turn that on ourselves forgive look in the mirror I forgive you you don't know what you're doing you know this is we can't be held accountable to that which we are oblivious can you impact that a little bit for us please sure and and again that was like most of the things that come through me and whether I'm channeling them or I have whatever reasons a mind that has all of these intuitive insights I it has much also to do with myself of like profound forgiveness right like we're

we're doing the best we can within the limits of our awareness as I said earlier so right now I don't know how many millions of people around the world still smoke cigarettes right and I guarantee you not one of them isn't aware of the fact that with all the medical research the cigarettes aren't ideal they're not good for you you can't even buy a pack I think anywhere in the world without it having massive graphic warnings like dead fetuses things like that just massive skull and cross bones yeah so it's self-evident m so then we

could argue from the perspective of some somebody who might be more judgmental and doesn't really embody that quote that well then what the [ __ ] are they doing what they know but look at ourselves the listen I would invite you to there's many things you know that you're not doing or that you're doing that you shouldn't right so then we start to look at well then why is it if we think that we're so smart that we still engage in habits that are the antithesis of what we say we're committed to whether it's working

out Foods we eat it's like I'm going to be really healthy and I'm going to work out and then the next you know you're sitting in front of the TV for 2 hours and eating a pinea whatever it is fill in the flavor of your ice cream right so and that's okay so we start to breed a little bit more forgiveness so the unpacking for me is going back to the cigarette analogy what that person does know yes is that cigarettes aren't great for them what they're oblivious to for which they can't be hard accountable

is what are the subconscious constraints based on the traumas and experiences they went through as a kid that create the internal sensation of suffering and woe as me based on their inadequate insecurities that suffering is something that by Design as a human we want to mitigate and Escape they just found it through nicotine for somebody else it might be food it could be alcohol it could be smoking marijuana it could be prescribed medication so until you get to that root cause as far as I'm concerned of these subconscious constraints which is what I work on

with people then it does beg for forgiveness that you're functioning within a blind spot or bit your conscious knowing is what I'm about to do what I am doing isn't necessarily um the greatest thing for me it's not in my favor but I still don't know why I need it or I'm drawn to it because of whatever stress and triggers have just been activated do you think we are addicted to our own suffering I I feel like most people there is a subconscious level of awareness that we ignore we know oh I I should go

move my body today I shouldn't have another jour drink I should not have the ice cream I should or should not whether you say it out loud or think it I think most people are generally aware what is good for them for sure but yet for a lot of the reasons like you just described we we stay in that suffering yeah is there comfort in suffering are we addicted to our own suffering there's for sure familiarity and when we look at it on a biochemical level we could argue that it's a degree of addiction I'd

actually go a level deeper and say suffering is the byproduct of the real addiction which is to the idea of ourself H what do you mean by that so the you that you are for yourself is the way I phrase it like so everybody has this this what you know ego identity personality whatever word you want to use the when you talk about yourself say I this I that or when you're lying in bed before you go to sleep oh I should have done this I should that dialogue that conversation is the you that you

are for yourself that's the addiction it just so happens that that that personality that ego ego not in a bad sense just the identity how you perceive yourself is founded its structure is based in limitation so that's the real addiction suffering is the byproduct of being misidentified SL addicted to that Persona so it's a little subtler a little yeah so then would you say once we have that level of awareness true awareness maybe even consistent awareness if we are then looking at oursel we're aware of the self and kind of looking outside looking in yeah

how uffing even possible after that point because we should then realize oh that's not me exactly that's Liberation that's why my main product is freedom freedom from the idea of yourself that's that to me you know in all the Eastern philosophies whether they call it um sentori as a moment or moocher as Freedom or Enlightenment you know whatever words people might have heard that to me is the only game in town that's why we're here as humans it's not to amass more followers more money six pack abs and a beautiful partner and a big home

and a jet and all of these things are great have at it do it I love it you know playing in the material world is fun but the real game of FO as far as I'm concerned is self- Liberation and that's not easy that's why we rely on each other that's where the compassion comes in that's where the patient comes in that's where the trust and the forgiveness is necessary to realize I'm doing the best I can given I don't know what I don't know mhm and then life will one of my bigger quotes at

people love I say life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free please say that again life will present you with people and circumstances to help to reveal where you're not free so meaning it's not your spouse that pissed you off it's just life is given you through what is in this case a wife a husband a partner the dialogue The behavior that triggered something in you where you're not free now most people don't look at it that way so then they react and now you're in a fight and then

you don't talk or you get divorced or what have you do that's fine that's all part of the human level but the opportunity is to recognize you're a Divine being you're an aspect of God you're the absolute there's nothing wrong with you so then why are you getting triggered by something right so that's the that to me is the opportunity to emancipate ourselves from the constraints with which I assert we arrived it's not because of Dad or Mom you arrived as a sovereign being encased in these fears and these constraints and you've curated the events

you need for your life to be able to break free that's pretty hey for a lot of people but that's the way I look at it I'm uh I'm I'm dropped in with you on that one that's uh that's big Chang the whole journey right doesn't that change the whole plan the the board of Being Human I mean it's not even the same game it's not it's an entirely different game because most people again going back to the addiction think they are who they think they are which is based in survival so you're going to

do whatever you need to to adapt to cope to strategize to manipulate your environment to avoid really looking at the very fears that you arrived with which means you go nowhere but if you can play the game differently go okay that's fine I mean look I run a business I make a difference I love to be able to contribute to people I care about obviously I live a life myself that I want to have certain preferences MH um and Comforts no one's going to begrudge anybody that but if that's a focal point then you're missing

the entire point of what it is to be human makes me think of uh this quote from senica the stoic we suffer far more in imagination than reality yeah and so that coupled with what we kind of just talked about this level of awareness around suffering the question comes to mind for me of does suffering actually exist it's a good question so or is it just entirely our perspective on our circumstances well we could say then the bigger question is is perspective truth right so so suffering is real the distinction I would make is it's

just not true it's real but not true okay so very subtle right this is again why I say traffic with language because you got to be able to discern the difference and certainly vibr in terms of vibration of words right so it's real that someone's suffering MH the Catalyst for why they're suffering is based on a nontruth though aha right so the suffering might be someone's sitting at home right now they're feeling depressed anxious woe is me even you know I help a lot of people in the transition of the potency of suicidal ideation I

obviously don't want them to actually fulfill on it but to me suicide is one of the most powerful times in a human being's life if they understand it from the perspective which we're talking about because it's not that they want to die it's a part of them wants to die the part of them that's the constraint yeah I know it's big wow wow wow wow so whoever's sitting at home right now their suffering is real and we want to have compassion for that MH the difference is the reason they're suffering the cause the root cause

for the suffering I guarantee you is based in an untruth I'm not good enough I'm not not wanted nobody likes me I'm a failure I'm not going to go I'm not going to achieve anything you know the dialogue that creates the suffering is fictitious not fictitious and is not there but it's not based in actual truth so that starts to again create some space and some levity and some Freedom where we can separate ourselves from the narrative and then that's when the suffering equally dissipates right so I mean I just had a very powerful conversation

I don't work much now with one-on-one people but with a client just before I got here and you know keeping certain things confidential but somebody who's a big achiever she's a mover and Shaker in the world and much of her suffering is coming from the occurrence or what appears as though she's either running out of time or potentially wasting time and that can create stress for a lot of people but when I point it out but it's only because of your relationship two time you're always where you are and you can't not be there oh

just a relationship with time oh my I'm already going down a rabbit all with that sorry that's just no most people's suffering is because of a dysfunctional relationship to time that's so relatable yeah that's all it is most suffering is based solely on the illusion of History your past what you're calling which is really just memory and then what you're calling the projection of usually your history into a future which is really just that it's a speculation it's imagination so then you start to go holy [ __ ] all of my imagination is completely made

up by my own mind so it's real we have compassion for it I get it I meet people in their woe but I don't leave them there because once I point out that your woe is based on untruths and when they see that they see the lies you can't not see that and then it's like oh my God I feel so light God suffering is real but not true yeah honestly I'm done with the podcast I'm done with that wow um yeah and to to keep it really specific for people because for them I again

I really want to speak with compassion for them it is a truth right like if we were to measure all their Vital Signs increased blood pressure apathy cortisol whatever is going on in their system there's a biology that speaks to well this is true like we can measure this so it's not that it's not true the semantics or the subtlety is important it's it's based on non- truths so we could for that reason argue therefore in mathematical equation therefore it's not true yeah but we we want to speak to the fact that you know being

human is replete with suffering it's part of I mean you know I think the first tenant of the four truths or noble truths of Buddhism I think is as human you suffer something like that someone will correct me but yeah suffering is there but it doesn't have to be that's the good suffering is inevitable we're only entitled to the work momento Mory I mean a lot of different uh faiths and belief systems and schools of thought have different ways of kind of saying the same thing absolutely yeah which is kind of comforting if we have

all of these different walks of life that many people find to ease suffering we're all coming to the same thing which is pretty comforting I think and reun and reinforcing of what we're saying right it's not Peter Cron's philosophy here this has been a conversation for Millennia you know where people are talking about emancipation salvation Liberation Freedom you know for me I just freedom is the word I use you know it's my platform that I invite people to come and join and find it but it's it's to me as I said that's that's the onra

of Being Human that is our real purpose it's not to amass leave Legacy da da da these are all byproducts these are great but when you're free you get to step into those roles with so much more joy and creativity and limitlessness yeah yeah okay so understanding all of that yeah it should much to understand I intermission everybody we come back please it's pretty simple so if you're not keeping up at home I don't know what's wrong with you no doubt someone right now I mean myself included we're kind of having maybe an aha moment

and with aha moments I think the next step is is a choice is making a choice that well an unknowing uh and uh a reestablishment of relationship to truth we then decide we'd take action and our life I have changed my life with something as simple as just making a choice yeah to to continue to do something or not continue to do something can our life can our dream life actually just be boiled down to to the the ease and simplicity of just making a choice is it all come down to that um as a

possibility yes but as a so there's figurative choice and there's literal choice right so again we words are very slippery right so you could say well choose not to smoke choose to go to the gym so that sounds great and it's certainly in the realm of what's available to that person but figurative choice is what most people are talking about they're not talking about literal choice so this room I'm going to assert is probably like 150 200 square ft if that that we're in right so if this room represents our Psych the Choice points that

are available in this room are limited to what we see as being definitive because of the walls in the container in the container and that's no different than somebody's personality right so we're not like we could say well I choose to hold my friend's wedding reception here with 250 guests that's not a choice based on the container that we're in as a figurative yes but not as a literal so this is where again more compassion comes in because people think they're choosing something and often times this is where they berak themselves because they chose to

join a gym to get in shape at the beginning of the year but they didn't fulfill on it because they don't know the bigger Choice points that are being made at a deeper level because of the subconscious relationship they have to theirselves which is based in inadequacy therefore they can't fulfill on something that is actually a value proposition because that's not how they see see themselves at the deepest level so it's really once a choice is made an alternate timeline also immediately falls into place if it's a genuine Choice okay so we have linear Choice

which is you work within the compounds of this space right so again using this because I think for people it's very easy to have or it's easier to have visual analogies so this room they can't see it but you know they know that it's a room there's 200 squ F feet to play with let's say and we could say someone might argue well I don't like this gray pain and da d da this wood want authentic the best wood from Italy and I'm going to get this beautiful bed from Restoration Hardware and have fret a

sheets 100% thread count and we could make this R sounds nice does sound nice so now we're taking the room and what we're doing is we're improving it and let's just say just to exacerbate the example for people to really get that when we came in here there's mold behind the drywall we got shitty carpet with stains and God knows what they were filming in here before but it was probably x-rated you know whatever it is that you come into a room great advocate for my studio everybody yeah and so we all hypothetical claims by

the way right exactly previous as career we all had to get here somehow operation what so anyway so that you've come into this space that is less than ideal and attractive and yet you transform it you you improve it right that is a choice that you're making but the thing that people don't understand is those choices occurring so really in my vernacular they're decisions because they're decisive because they're being given by a context which is definitive so it's not really a choice choice is actually the vertical Ascension out of a current timeline it's not in

the current timeline so timeline choices are actually decisions because they're being defined by your own in this case a wall which is really speaking to the confines of your own psyche you can't see beyond the limits of your current awareness therefore you don't have access to choices that are on the other side of those so it's really decisive so choices is really oh my gosh I can see that when I was a kid I learned because I was the youngest sibling and my brother got all the accolades because he was a great athlete or the

academic that I had decided at a very young age that I wasn't enough or I didn't matter as much as my brother I wasn't as special whatever it is that became a confining space so either I became the overachiever or I became apathetic and I had you know struggles at school CU I was fulfilling on my shortcomings so I could be right because again survival is the number one imperative of the ego it wants to be right even if it's you know to our detriment which we see on the streets of every major city so

that kid then was in that world of I'm not enough and fulfilled on it where we could have coping strategies of again becoming a perfectionist a people pleaser but there's no choice there because you're being defined by the root of which you're unfamiliar or oblivious to so is it really a matter of active versus passive decisions if we you could you could use those words for sure right so but I would say to keep it on point for people to understand the distinction at least as I'm articulating in choice is decisions happen within a space

that you can't see choices arise once you see the space and see there's actually more space on the other side which is more empowering right if we kind of we go that route because then it's like oh I didn't actually decide this no so then we no longer feel this this compulsion or need to stay latched to this old Identity or or or lifestyle or whatever so what you are liberated to your point of the realization that I didn't decide this it was just definitive of my circumstance it was a byproduct I would say at

a deeper level without getting too deep here that you there you did decide it for this Incarnation meaning that we have these constraints we arrive with we then just curate the events including our parents and the things that we attract so that we can then mitigate transcend and overcome these these constraints right so it was a deeper decision and an earlier point that we're oblivious to if we remembered when we incarnated oh that's right for me particularly one of my Choice points that I couldn't was that I had a fear of loss why well my

mom dies at 7even my dad dies at 17 no one's going to begrudge me as an only kid who's orphaned before he's even an 18yearold that I'm going to have some fear associated with loss anything of perceived value so the first girlfriend I meet who I fall in love with what am I going to do well in my case my compensation was be a perfect boyfriend what was that really speaking to the deeper fear that I don't want her to leave me right so there's no choice that that's an automatic decision based on my survival

until I saw oh my gosh until she left me fear is will break its own heart right with self-fulfilling prophecy of the mind that's real manifestation people talk about manifestation in these high fluent ways not realizing no you're constantly manifesting it's just you're doing it from a place that you're oblivious to and that's why your life isn't working doesn't make you a bad person it's just these are these oblivious constraints with which you arrived and therefore you keep attracting the same abusive Fillin the blank or the same work that isn't acknowledging you think you market

and your value in the marketplace and so until you see these constraints there's no choice but when you see them so for me I was like oh my gosh I realized that I was being driven by the fear of loss again complete compassion for myself my parents died right but then that's why I was the over compensatory boyfriend perfect kind which is actually not too dissimilar to who I am but when it's got this underlying sort of murky manipulative Edge to it which is an ugly word but that's what we're all doing you know and

I saw oh my gosh I was trying to be the perfect boyfriend just being me who she loved she loved me she didn't need me to be Peter plus right but I was being Peter plus which is actually my relationship with myself not her that's why most relationships don't work cuz people aren't in relationship with the other person they're in a relationship with their own view of that person which is based on their own constraints so then choice just to finish it off Choice kicked in when you realize for me in this case using myself

as the case study that I lived in a world where I was scared of loss which was really an extension the fact that maybe I'm not lovable for me and people might leave me when I realize that's not a truth that's a story then I realized I now have a choice and ironically in this particular case this girl who had left me and it had been seven or eight weeks called me within 15 minutes of me having this realization which speaks to the power of the quantum realm and entanglement Theory because I was for the

first time in a relationship at this point it almost been two years available to her how [ __ ] crazy is that [ __ ] um yeah yes that if if everyone listen listening if most people listening or watching right now are not just jaw dropped nodding their head I mean I'm over here raising my hand as well I felt like so much what you're just describing was like I was like [ __ ] he's been reading my journal like has he been rewatching the last like 12 years of my life it's so relatable and

so especially I think to the point of relationships I think one of the best ways we could ever go to one of the best locations we could ever want to go to like how can I make my life better so look at our relationships and more particularly look get not the person that we are in relationship with but the person that we are being because of the person in our life and everything you just said was just like boiled down to what I have lived through in relationship and was the hardest mirror to ever look

in once I had that realization it's actually even more subtle than that because it's not that you're in a relationship with the person that you've attracted because that person just like each of us has many facets right I remember being at a speaking at a spring training event where I was talking to this MLB team and one of the speakers that happened to goone on before me was talking about genetic Expressions right so this team was you know they were pretty proactive in terms of teaching their guys all sorts of different permutations of being an

athlete and a human and what he said is and to what degree this can be proven I don't know but it was a very poignant for me point to listen to is that there's 28 different 2800 versions of you 2800 different versions of as a potentiality based on a genetic expression right now what does that mean so if Peter chome when his dad died and finally I'm by myself cuz my mom died I'm like you know what [ __ ] life life's not fair again my friends probably would have accepted that understood it certainly wouldn't

have begrudged me as I said earlier and I turned to alcohol and I became a drunk or I became somebody who just found comfort in food you know so I could be the person who has now psorasis of the liver and I have like terrible skin and I've got type 2 diabetes and life was hard it makes sense that he's wallowing and that could be quote unquote one of these figurative Choice points now why it's figurative is cuz it's not what I did therefore it's not an actual choice right again I I'll come back to

the relationship point but this is this will help people I I i' bought a bunch of domains for whatever reason when I was younger I saw an opportunity to you know potentially sell them in the future suffice said didn't you know didn't allow me to retire but I made a few grand here and there so this one guy who reached out wanted to buy one of my domains he happened to live down in Orange County somewhere and he said he was this guy from New Zealand and he imported the best fish and he had this

this restaurant he's like hey you know this is why I want the domain blah blah blah come down and have lunch at my restaurant I was said Okay cool so he bought the domain I came down had lunch and we're chatting about all of these some many of these philosophies that I speak about and the illusion of time and da da da and choice and he's like well Free Will and and and he's like well of course we have choice and I was like so how tell me and he's like well I could have chosen

for you not to come to my restaurant I said that's not true and he's like what do you mean I said well tell me how could you have chosen for me not to be here and he said well I could have not invited you just bought the domain and then just not mentioned about my restaurant and and I said yeah but you know why you you still not answering my question I said that's not true and he's like of course it's true I said it's not true and he's like how and I said cuz I'm

here I'm here and it like your reaction he got it he's like oh my God I said everything else is completely fictitious oh my God I feel like I've got to put this episode out when like the new Deadpool movie comes out CU I know that's supposedly going to have 8 28,000 different timelines I feel like we're having a a Cory podcast about the timeline experience of the of humans so so to come full circle to the question about relationships and why I said it's more subtle is that the person anybody's currently dating is the

iteration of that being that is appropriate for you and vice versa that person leaves you goes on to another ration they may have obviously certain similarities for sure they're going to probably look the same and carry the same name and probably cell number you know but you get the point which is based on who we are and the way that we communicate we are a space energetically that affords or usually not how somebody shows up towards us right so that so it gets even more so it's not that I'm dating Jenny or Wendy or you're

dating like whoever someone's dating Bill or Dave it's the version of Bill and Dave that is appropriate for your Evolution based on the way that you view yourself that has you think feel behave in a way that's commensurate with the way that bill or Dave shows up so what if we are listening to this and we have this realization that the person I'm in relationship with is not appropriate for my Evolution yeah that right there that statement shows me that they are because the resistance Point mhm right is even if it's in the moment of

realizing that this person isn't my Evolution that is for your Evolution right so again subtle right do you see what I'm saying so again I get very specific but that's but then does that mean that it might be necessary for their evolution but that does not also mean that they are meant to stay in that relationship no exactly so that's where again it's the semantics of it but it's subtle so they are for your evolution in terms of the realization that they're not for your evolution is for your Evolution and what that looks like is

that I get divorce I move on I start dating someone else or there may be the other option which a lot of people don't look at is that I get to see that the way that I've communicated is what's giving rise to the way that they're showing up and that if I shift in the way that I communicate I get a different iteration of my partner that might be the evolution that's called for ah you know I put it this way one of my favorite Expressions I gave to a client who was going through a

divorce and so to a similar point of this personism for my Evolution and she was really struggling in letting go of the person for obvious reasons kids were involved many many years all the memories and experiences Joys and you know trials and tribulations as well and I said but you're not letting go of them you're letting go of the version of you that attracted them mhm and that's why it's so difficult MH now the irony is in letting go of that version of her she actually found another version of her that was more commensurate with

the person the person she thought she was letting go of her partner and so that gave birth to a new type of relationship which if you really understand relationships and you're committed to a person then if you understand the nature of human evolution you're never with the same person twice wow wow yeah yeah because you're different it's like I've forgotten who wrote this um prayer or saying like you know no man steps in the same river twice because he's not the same man and it's not the same river right so we're in constant flux we're

always moving it's just that most people aren't in the level of their subconscious because those constraints don't usually and I'm trying to change that really get addressed it's all compens ations it's all strategies or often substances you know okay so this makes me think kind of keeping in the realm of relationship the whole point of the show is to help people move forward in life in unique areas to move ever forward and I've kind of been there but I think a lot of people have or maybe are mhm they feel like they can't move forward

in their life or be into a new relationship they don't even want to put themselves out there because they're still so caught up their ex they're bitter they have resentment hatred you know maybe rightfully so they were screwed over or whatever um how can we move forward when we are already out of a relationship through kind of this lens of understanding that it's not the them that were still so bitter with it's the version of us that was betrayed or broken by them exactly well said so then we'd have to look at if we wanted

to be really powerful who are who was I in the face of that relationship where I got betrayed who was I energetically that allowed for that right because there's no not to say it was my fault you know like oh she cheated on me it's my fault right no so we want to get out of the realm of judgment right as I said we want to keep leaning into compassion and and forgiveness in the way that we don't know what we're doing until we do right okay so that's so it's not fault but if you

want to be powerful you have to recognize it is responsibility so in ways that I might not have understood whilst I was in the relationship the person I was in the way that I thought felt communicated my body language all of the actions that I took was an extension of the me that I was at that time and that will be 100% commensurate with the outcomes that I got including how my partner behaves so it doesn't make either of us a bad person but if you want to come from the perspective of this subjective understanding

then you get to be responsible which is actually empowering otherwise you're a victim of something and being a victim is a lie and that's why it hurts because you're actually a sovereign being who's curating your life experience you might not know why you know but you're not here to understand that that you've made the choices already you're just here to actually reveal them so that you can continue to evolve that's an entirely different take yeah so when you look back in order to let go of quotequote you calling the hurt the bitterness or whatever it

is the the blame and the finger pointing then you have to recognize if you want to be powerful you want to be free that whatever transpired in that relationship no one was at fault invariably it's all with the best of intentions especially if it's a romantic relationship people fall in love they do the best they can they have all of these dreams and aspirations it's adorable we rely on it for movies and songs it is adorable it is adorable yeah and that we are equally as I tell people you're a masterpiece and a work in

progress right so there's always things to learn from that if you want to ever forward move forward then you have to recognize that what is done is done I mean it's my most popular quote is what happened happened and couldn't have happened any other way because it didn't hence when I was at dinner with a lunch with this guy in Orange County couldn't have happened any way because it didn't I'm here you had no choice and that's very humbling right so then you start to realize okay whatever's transpired even if I quotequote don't like it

didn't want it it hurt I get it that's fine and maybe there's an opportunity to have some counsel to speak to a therapist to talk to a friend to get over it to be complete with it and to be done with it that can be very therapeutic but nonetheless the event itself is complete you know it's it's it's this is a tough thing to share and I hope people take it within the context of what I'm sharing it which I worked with someone for a while before I said this to her right meaning this was

a client who had gone through some HH horren things which I don't condone at all which is child molestation she was sexually abused when she was young but now she's a mid 40s 44 45 year old woman who was quote unquote Stark in life right third marriage curtains figuratively literally closed in her house didn't want to be part of life anymore and so but the events that transpired which again to reiterate are abhorent disgusting finished when she was around 12 or 14 and so what I said to her within context is that for those few

years that quot quote you were being molested discussing if you were my child God forbid what I would have done to that person if I'd found them right that's just a human reaction but I said for the last 30 years you've been the one molesting yourself now that's hard to hear but it's nonetheless empowering to own and when she got it again within the context of this is not just like I shared in 4 minutes this is many sessions so she could get to the place of being fully accountable and responsible for her life today

as a woman in the face of some really tragic history so her brain because of the survival instincts not feeling safe not going to be okay all of the things again that we would totally understand when a child goes through that in the way that now she was relating to life was appropriate for the event not appropriate for her life MH and that's where the freedom came in and her like an immense amount of relief where she could allow her history to be where it is which is behind her again I'll give you one example

which is a lot more benign so hopefully helps people but I was working with one of my pj guys at a golf event and my guy happened to be I think he was TI for first or he was coming in playing well the media were waiting by the 18th hole to interview him based on his round and I was standing there to meet him as his quote unquote mind guy and one of the main anchors of the Golf Channel knew me and he said hey I've heard about your work I see your guys are doing

really well congratulations I said thank you very much he said I would love if you're down to just sit down with you and have a coffee and share um some things I said sure he says because I've got a lot of things in my past is what he said and I said no you don't and so he was a bit confused I said they're with you right now if they were in your past you wouldn't have to sit down talk to me and he really got it right wow wow yeah so that's the issue it's

not so much that what happened in your history it's just that you actually haven't allowed it to stay there and that's okay that's human because there can be a lot of trauma associate with events that sadly many people go through but we at least want to speak accurately about what you're fighting you're not fighting your history you're fighting your memory of your history which is only evidence to confirm why you feel what you feel about yourself in this case some form of inadequacy or insecurity I can't add anything to that I feel like you put

it a nice little bow on that concept but uh I just want to reiterate really if we feel like we can't move forward right here right now yeah it's not the here and the now that is the probably the main problem it's not the here and the now that warrants the most amount of focus and work it's that period in time last year 10 years ago last week five minutes ago that is really that hard Line in the Sand that wall that keeping you stuck back then it's just we are only here in the now

and the present in time yeah um another reason another area I feel like a lot of people probably can't move forward in their life and I've been there for sure is that even after making these decisions or even after choosing to to build a life of our design and we have all the best intentions we do the the the quote unquote right things things still don't go our way things don't go according to plan even though we build the perfect quote again system the best routines the the best support system what do we do then

what do we do when our worst case scenario seems to just keep popping up I mean notice the why right because when when I talk to people again I try to use as much light hardness and humor because let's face it being human we're all pretty [ __ ] but you know so it's nice to have a little humility for all of us myself yeah um I certainly haven't looked at life this way you know all my life I I have my fair share of struggles and fighting my own imagination but if there's a consistent

theme like you know with whatever it is relationships Health finances that people notice that they have in their life look like you know quintessential stereotype of a woman goes from a relationship where you know again I am not a stand for this but you know if there's a little bit of abuse God forbid it's maybe physical but then she goes to another guy and then it's more emotional but and then the next guy it's more psychological but the theme is I'm being abused so then the question we just think it gets a little bit less

and less worse so that's where I could say there's that linear but it's not vertical it's not like really transformative right it's just like a subtle Improvement but the consistent theme is what in this case this person oh look there wherever you go there you are right what's the common denominator me yes so that's the opportunity is go okay well then who am I that I am for myself that has me think feel and behave in a way that is commensurate with the results that I keep getting that's the Cascade it's it there's there's that's

physics like you can't tweak if I pick up a red pen and I get upset that it's not writing in blue like you know for me right like that's so that's how the psyche works right it's just that again most people when you go and see an expert Specialists and instructors tend to work in the domain of action right don't do this you need to do this whether it's a golf swing or I'm working with a baseball player you're talking to a therapist try this in your relationship say this it's in the domain of action

where I work is in the domain of the subconscious because that's what's driving not actions down the line right cuz your subconscious is driving the way that you're the Genesis of your thoughts your conscious thoughts your conscious thoughts then lead to how you feel those two combined will lead to the actions you take right so until we actually deal with who are you for yourself that drives your thoughts and your feelings that actually create your actions you're hitting your head up against the W which is why most people's quote unquote you know New Year's resolutions

don't stick because it's a new Choice point in action not in who you are so that's why most of these self-fulfilling prophecies are consistent and why there is this consistent theme in whatever Arena of your life because the idea of yourself at the deepest level hasn't shifted you're still the same person trying to do things that are different to the person that you are you can't sustain it when you break it down like that it's kind of like no [ __ ] of course no wonder we're just stuck spinning the hamster wheel yeah that's why

again I'm pretty blatant but also very compassionate and patient because I understand until you see it it's like duh you know yeah and that's why I said you know there's none so self right there's none so self-righteous as the newly converted right cuz the soon say well yeah of course I know well yeah yeah but you've been living for decades in the blind spot and you know you weren't looking so smart then you know it's so true and I always go back to so many uh Fitness analogies in life that was my background you know

being a health coach and trainer for so many years and it it myself included when we find Fitness we are born again are the Disciples of the the best way to live and Healthy Living you're a completely different person and you are great good for you but it's just like shut the [ __ ] up yeah and it and it's cute it's again that word adorable because at the end of the day most of of most of us are being informed by The Narrative of a scared and hurt 5-year-old who's just trying to do the

best to what be loved and accepted that's it I mean it's really kind of cute you know for whatever means that the person has to use infinite filters on Instagram to the mechanisms of Charades that we use as humans to sound good look good from makeups to clothing like it's if you really break it down it's the person just asking to be loved and accepted well what got us here won't keep us here and it won't get us there MH what I'm referring to is this necessity to constantly stay evolving and and grow in the

work how can you describe for us please the evolving work necessary in our evolution in in pursuit of this life of our own dream um I mean it's a dissolution process right like I always jokingly tell people I don't solve any problems I dissolve them which is an incredible and appreciated different interpretation we want our problems solved but what is the difference if we choose to go I want my problems resolved so a problem is really all that is is a circumstance that fundamentally I'm resisting if we really want to break it down into some

sort of formulaic understanding of what what is what denotes a problem CU I would assert and this might be hard for people to hear there's no problems in reality none there's just circumstance and some of them are really quote unquote [ __ ] hard and difficult and challenging but they're just circum it's not a problem the problem is born of my relationship to circum irance my relationship to circumstance is given by my perspective which is again coming back to my subconscious and The Who that I am for myself and the way that I relate to

things you know for somebody else's what is it treasure it's somebody else's trials or I'm paraphrasing terribly yeah someone else's trash is someone else's treasure something like that within that realm right so again it's all perspective so when you understand that problems outside of us are really just life what we call Life the Manifest experience of our circumstance so then the opport opportunity again if you think that you have problems is it's too late in the Cascade right because if you think about how anything comes into existence as I was saying earlier subconscious idea of

ourself what I call ego is the generator of the thoughts that you're aware of the feelings that are associated with that that drive the behaviors that then are the precursor to all the outcomes which we're now calling our our life so if you can understand that Cascade then the problems you have you're aware of if you're aware of they've already happened if they've already happened then we've already gone through that Cascade right so in order to have a quotequote different life it's not incumbent upon us even though this is what most people try to do

which is changing their circumstances but you're not realizing the person that created your circumstances is the blind spot of who you are for yourself you start to see why people [ __ ] drink so much at this point they're like I give up you know what I'm just I'm good with who I am I don't know who the hell this guy is but I'm confused yeah no I promise you I'm trying to help so the problems again based purely in that Cascade of how things come into existence we're creative beings it's just that most people's

process of creation is reactive it's still a creation process but it's against what you don't want literally most people are trying to create a life which is the opposite of what they don't want they want to create money why because I don't want to be in debt they want to get in shape why because I think I'm overweight I want to find a relationship why because I think I'm alone and I don't like it so whenever you're the the the desire of your life is the antigonous of the antagonist of the life that you don't

want then you're actually perpetuating the life you don't want oh wow yeah everyone's like oh my God no one I'm so [ __ ] I literally met with somebody who's trying to get pregnant and I was explaining to her why she's not and she's like oh my God I'm not I can't guarantee you will but at least now you have a chance because of the language the energy and all of this and she said like where the [ __ ] were you 20 years ago which is a line I get quite a lot but yeah

so that's why the whole realm of problems I'm not sure if I fully answer that question but you know they're too late in the chain of creation itself right all you can look at is understand the process of creation okay why do I keep getting X outcome and then you can reverse engineer it you know go okay well I did this particular result before I mean it's like I love playing golf right so why did my ball slice to the right there's there's that's physics it's not because you're a bad golfer it's just that you

swung the club the way you swung the club now there could be all sorts of things that contribute to that in this case the plane of the club the face angle the attack angle much of which could do with the fact that maybe the guy doesn't have good external rotation of his shoulder right because you can't actually open up the club to bring it into a shallow blah blah that's a physics but it's a phenomenon going back to the context of this room where he's functioning within the space of what his Anatomy will allow now

it gets even more slippery within the mindset of he knows that he's sliced a lot on this particular hole where the waterers on the left right or so on the right so he aims more left because that's now a reaction to the his history that he doesn't want to repeat which is actually opening him up more to create a bigger SCE we're all [ __ ] all right so we just went into the quantum realm of podcasting uh ant-man's going to pop out at any second now yeah but yourself you see and that's why again

it's kind of adorable we're really not that advanced as a species I mean like if an advanced civilization they're always talking about Alien Invasion which we clearly know is obviously fabricated for the most part like anything else in this life but I'm like why the [ __ ] would you shoot these people like that just speaks to like the fight ORF flight like state of humanity if they're flying around the [ __ ] Universe chances are they're way smarter than us we might want to just listen bare minimum absolutely yeah no kill because again everyone's

in survival mode so everything is a perceived TR that's the American way right [ __ ] blast the [ __ ] out cuz we're so evolved but anyway Soap Box great Soap Box great Soap Box to shift gears a little bit um to hear you give these answers and kind of just explain certain things and give your experience and expertise I I hear so much focus and you're so like locked on target so to speak how how do you do that how do you stay focused how do you just stay so dialed into these trains

of thought to kind of come to these explanations or realizations or questions that's a great question no one's actually really asked that they point it out in different ways so i' assert that it's the byproduct of present right so attention comes from more presence yes so the degree to which I'm present is the degree to which I am focused the degree to which I say I have an intimate relationship with reality right in Lay terms what does that mean I'm here I'm [ __ ] here I'm here yeah right wow yeah and people feel that

when they're in my presence right I'm with now not all the time if I'm rushing I'm late for something or if I'm at an airport and I see a friend but I'm running to my gate like my present might be hey I love you I'm [ __ ] got to go that's the best amount of presents I got right now um so but yes focus this is why also I many people who know me are like your memory is insane it's not it's a byproduct of being where I am when I'm there because if you

think about it in terms of what we attend to right so let's again I like using Sports metaphors cuz I work with so many athletes but if a guy is at the plate facing a pitcher and this is at the major league level where the the best of the best around the world and they're being paid literally millions of dollars to perform the pitcher who equally is pH a Phenom in what he can do maybe struck out this particular hitter in their last time that they saw each other so now the hitter if he's in

the box and part of what he's attending to his his memory of the last outing with that picture much of his ability to perform is already compromised because if our 100% capacity to be here is without staying the obvious 100% now that's going to vary from Individual to individual depending on their IQ their EQ Etc and their experience but everybody's capacity to be fully present is their full capacity but many people especially as you get good at things you can kind of disappear a little bit and still like think about driving like when somebody first

I know growing up for me growing up in England we had to learn stick right it's not automatic Vehicles so when you're first learning to drive I certainly was very very focused on what the [ __ ] I was doing my first car too yeah yeah I mean you like am I pressing the clutch at the right time too much have I let it up if I change there's so much attention it's actually exhausting it's a draining form of attention so but then nowadays I mean you you're on the [ __ ] 405 or wherever

you are and you like look across and there's someone on the phone doing the makeup eating a [ __ ] sandwich while they're driving like there's not much no one's here I look around and this drives me crazy in in the car but also you know I all I people walk around doing this and the more and more I see people not here and specifically more on their phone when they're not on a phone call or being present on their phone as an as an intentional action yeah it is the biggest cue for me to

drop in even more yeah it it drives me nuts and this is a personal thing I guess I'm working on but no one is here yeah no one's here yeah absolutely and then they wonder why their life doesn't work or they don't feel fulfilled so this again in response to your question which is a beautiful one the degree to which I'm able to um elicit experience and display this degree of focus is because I'm here I'm not attending to anything else right and I'm not saying that's easy if people are really interested in presence which

certainly my high performers that's the only thing they're interested in because that's what they might call Flow State or being in the zone it really is synonymous with just being present right you got everything all your faculties are attending to what you're actually doing so if people are truly interested in that well how do we get there we have to reconcile past and future which again is the dysfunctional relationship to time that I spoke to earlier because most people are stuck in time they've got things unresolved from their history so they're living in a place

of hurt which is usually something that's you know past trauma or things that happened that they were disappointed even their own failures but they haven't completed they're not done with which then tends to through one of my quotes they say that past hurt and forms future fear so anything that's incomplete in our history tends to inform the future the now that we're trying to avoid wow so now the predominant two emotions that humans live with is Hurt unreconciled History scared a fulfilled future that they're hoping to avoid so then the question for me there I

feel like I know the answer the analogy of stepping up to the plate like quite literally for your clients um for athletes but when we step up to the plate in life when we know I've got to go do this thing that the last time this happened I didn't succeed I didn't perform as well I got hurt it didn't meet my expectations and I now have to go relive it I have to try again but I'm not coming up to the plate here and now I'm coming up to the plate here and then mhm what

is the one thing we can do to leave then back then and show up to the plate present Here and Now by you can't do anything about then you literally can't change what happened now what's powerful is you can change your relationship to what happened how do we do that by recognizing that most people's identities as I said that you that you are for yourself is founded on the evidence from your history to sustain it right so if what I did proves now that I'm a I'm a loser I'm an idiot I'm a failure you

know which now perpetuates that person's idea of their future that they're trying to avoid that's where you can go oh no just because I did X didn't mean that I was a loser it just meant that I did X so it's the emotional attachment to the history it's not the event itself cuz we all for sure by virtue of Being Human [ __ ] up we sucked at things we didn't do things well we said things that hurt people's feelings you know we certainly were hurt by people or whatever it is so we now get

to realize that it's not so much what we did but the fact that we used it as evidence to sustain the limiting belief about ourselves so once you get rid of that then you literally change your relationship to your history you don't change the event right so to answer a question about how can people be here not there well first of all you have to understand just through the pure logic of understanding the nature of life which is it's never stopping it's ever moving that what again my quot like what happened happened and couldn't happen

any other way because it didn't I mean it's such a moving story this guy who tried to kill himself I don't know how many times and eventually the last attempt got him into a hospital it was the closest he got he didn't he didn't thankfully he didn't do it but he had a number of scars on his forearms from cutting himself I guess he heard me on a podcast Sim to this heard me say that quote what happened happened couldn't have happened any other way cuz it didn't and it moved him so much that he

really got it he's like oh my gosh whatever I've done that was the failures that led to me thinking I'm a loser and I should take my life and the woe is me and whatever including the attempts to kill myself which were also Frau with failure I couldn't even do that right all of it was what happened and he found it so he literally tattooed across all of his scars oh that's beautiful that quote isn't that amazing yeah so that the that's the access to now is to realize that what's done is done you know

it's not one of my quotes it's um Byron Katie she said uh my favorite thing about the past is it's over absolutely absolutely that's easy to say but for most people it isn't because and this again is where the forgiveness and compassion comes in we use our history as evidence for the who we are today that is founded in limitation when that person that you think you are is dissolved disintegrated with all you know love and compassion annihilated then your history is irrelevant it's only relevant to the evidence that you need to sustain The Limited

version of yourself today yeah and that's why most people are so attached that comes back to that ultimate addiction it also personally kind of makes me think of anytime I look at a person in my life now um my spouse a friend family member as we go through life certain triggers are going to come up we might remember something that makes us think about a time when they hurt us or there was a betrayal or just you know anything other than Pleasant and one way that I have really been able to navigate out of those

ruminating thoughts of the past is I immediately go to who are they to me now right and when I go oh I love my wife I love my brother I love this friend what we have right now serves my life in such an immense way I wouldn't have it any other way and I think to kind of summarize all this it really is a matter of our ability to fully become present to help us appreciate what we have and to keep the past in the past yeah and to your point earlier you know how do

you remember so many things people you know how do you recall all this stuff is when you were more present here and now the the past becomes more dissolvable and the future becomes more memorable because you're able to just like stay in touch with both yeah and think about it just in a very simple physical analogy you know everyone's used the term baggage they've got a lot of baggage what does that speak to it means to things that are unresolved right they're carrying a lot of emotional load traumas failures disappointments and now we're using the

under the aices of the term baggage okay well now look at it in terms of what you can attend to which could be another way of what can you hold right literally figuratively remember well if you're holding a bunch of you know if you got like 17 Louis Vuitton bag of [ __ ] past traumas you don't have much room to hold much more I got a lot of trauma but man it's a great bag it's it's packaged really nice I got some real style I got some Louis Vuitton let's face it everyone who talks

about their woses it's always a [ __ ] great story right like I mean yeah um we do that don't we we do that we we spend so much time and effort and maybe even money on making our baggage look so good I meaning to it never let the facts get in the way of a good story yeah because again listen I love quotes and I say that you know being right is the poor man's version of selfworth O all right right and so what are people being right about with their history is like look

this is why I [ __ ] up this is why I'm not where I'm supposed to be this is why I'm alone this is why I'm not rich is I've got the evidence for it like so even though they don't have the life they want this is how insane the ego is it would rather be right cuz at least it's a form of selfworth MH at least I I I mean listen I remember tangible thing I can plant my flag here yes I I remember working with a PJ golfer so talented and everybody Under the

Sun and certainly within the realm of golf would say you know he's one of these quintessential phenoms who hasn't realized his potential which we could argue for many pretty much every human being but anyway cly is a golfer with his talent and so he worked with me our first year together he uh more than doubled his winnings that's pretty significant if you're a company in this case you know contractor and then but he was like he still hav got a one a win and so he said caddy for me and so I love this guy

but he once took he was on the green I handed him the poter he said watch me three po this now for the people who aren't Golf and fados you don't want a three- part I you want a one part because that usually speaks to a birdie you know you're getting a lower score two- part is a par typically if you're on the Green in regulation three part is a bogey you know so basically in late terms not good so he said watch me three part this now that's an automatic response to a deeper fear

of not fulfilling on intention right so this is the self sabotaging mechanisms that people witness in their life maybe not understand but hopefully through this example they can what he's literally saying all bit unconsciously is like look deep down I'm scared that this is a long part it's a tricky part I might not get it down and two but what I'm going to do is I've got a contingency this is the disclaimer is watch if I say watch me three part that if I do even though that that's terrible and we don't want that in

golf and it's certainly not good for my career and I'm not going to make money and I'm not going to make all the thing but at least I was right at least I was right yeah I mean you start to see the insanity it's idiotic it's but that's also the stubbornness right of the ego is that it will fight for its survival and when you understand why because it's fictitious it has to fight for itself because it's based on pretense it's based on lies so what I'm kind of taking away from this and um I

then want to get into my final question with you sure is if we if we want to look at our life objectively if we feel like we're killing it you know kind of Bring It full circle we look in the mirror we're like I'm so happy I'm so proud you I'm so evolved I'm doing all these things or I'm miserable I'm [ __ ] up I keep making the same mistakes I'm not growing I'm not all these things you know I think if we choose to go to First and most where are we just going

I'm right yeah whether we think we are evolving or not we're moving forward or not if we go to where we think we are right start there because that is to your point that is just keeping us stuck that is the ego just going I'm so much happier if I can just say and feel and know that I'm right MH than anything than actually being in truth and in alignment with the life that I want and committed to what's available to all of us on the other side of those constraints right because that can also

be kind of that's intimidating it can be scary like people know even if it's discomforting they're familiar with the patterns that albeit are self-sabotaging discomforting lead to dysfunction in relationships perhaps not the fattest bank account and some maybe you know thrown a couple of health issues like at least I know how to manage that right that's why we don't have a health care System we have a sickcare system they're not interested in people being healthy that's the worst thing for business right but words are very seductive so people think you go and see a healthcare

provider who's actually an expert in pathology doctors are good people nurses are but they learn pathology and then their intervention is pharmacology that's got nothing to do with health but man you throw the right words out absolutely we believe it yeah oh but you got a white lab coat and a [ __ ] steth stethoscope you know and you I get it and so that's again where we want to have compassion but we need to educate people if you want to be healthy that would be akin to me taking one of my basball players to

a hitting coach and he's like well who is this guy I said he's the best guy in striking out so well why the [ __ ] would I go and see that guy right that's like going to see a doctor about health now for infections TR trauma and you know where you need intervention with emergencies and [ __ ] amazing they save people's lives like credit where credits do I'm just saying don't confuse that with health right so the same thing for people who are being right about their shortcomings you're not living a life where

you're saying I'm committed to being fill-in the blank you know in a passionate loving intimate beautiful relationship I'm not committed to being vital and strong and healthy I'm not committed to to being abundant and no that's okay you're saying that but your energy and your subconscious patterns are comp completely committed to the antithesis of all of those things and when you see the Delta the differential between those two that's when you know something's up man well I mean I already have so many other ideas um either you need to go another couple more hours or

I can't wait to have you back down the road here but to bring it home to the theme of the show to ask you straight up how do we move forward in life how do we live a life ever forward what do those two words mean to you here today um I mean I'm going to guess you've never heard anyone say this but I would say ever forward means ever present I I've had that a couple times actually and kind of a new interpretation of my own actually yeah yeah yeah so ever forward because I

I get it and it's a beautiful like um intention right but I think if you look at the nature of life life is in constant flux when I really learned through my studies of ieda health is a dynamic State it's not a passive state where you don't reach health and you're like boom the weight scale is perfect your skin is glowing every hair is in perfect position just stays here and like let's stay like a [ __ ] now I got to eat some food and you know go to the bathroom like it's always moving

right so why for me that statement and I love it of being ever forward is for me ever present because life is in constant movement it's like a lazy river right like life is always moving it's just to what degree are we intimately present with where we are versus holding on literally imagine a lazy river where well no I like this part of my life so I'm going to hold on but the river is constantly pulling that's exhausting or trying to get to this idealized one day future where you're battling against life albeit seemingly in

the same direction but it's still exhausting so in order to be ever forward is to be ever presentent how to be ever presentent is to be complete with your history I love that interpretation thank you there's never a right or wrong answer but I over the last year maybe even two that has been like I said my kind of personal new reinterpretation of ever Ford I realized I spent so many years and necessary right I it wouldn't have been any other way right it all had to happen the way that it did yeah I spent

so many years so much time so much energy so much money focusing on moving forward and and just driving on leaving the past in the past and just go go go go go the way that I have like just dropped into so much synchronicity with truly the life that I love and that I have been trying so hard to build is realizing that I don't need to always be the one in motion no because if I am or I'm not the rest of the world and everybody else around me are yes so I can just

drop in in the right current and I'm still going to be going Upstream exactly and if I can speak to without getting into the personal you know knowing a little bit of your history you know I would assert that often times the things that we come up with like this beautiful intention and you even spoke to it so it's not like you're you're oblivious to this but the ever forward for you was really as you said to leave your past behind which has got a connotation of it's hard it hurt I don't want to have

to deal with that right so often times when people really look at what is pro propelling them in life it's they're trying to get away from something and that is ironically meaning you are actually dragging it with you so this other kind of analogy I use is when I had that ization it was I was moving forward in life but all I was doing was just adding another link on a chain to a ball that was keeping me stuck in the past it's your Louis Vuitton's baby yeah so that's why for me ever present and

I I get it the connotation leave your past behind you don't have to it's already behind the question is which part of you is holding on to it to give validation to the identity that you have become Mis associated with I'm getting too excited I got to kill it we're going to just keep going but Peter I want to say thank you again for coming on the show uh where can my audience go to learn more about you and your work it all be listed in the show notes in the YouTube box description box but

where you hanging out the most what are you up to these days thank you sure um Peter Crome is my Instagram it's just my name so Peter Crome my uh website is Peter chrome.com and the thing I'm most excited about that people are jumping into now is my membership platform we made super affordable uh it's just 29 bucks a month um and they can get so much more of like what we talked about today uh right now about 60 plus hours of My Free Your Mind program program on anxiety depression relationships health I do a

monthly Q&A uh which addresses questions from the community yeah that's that's my you know because I have a lot of program my Mastermind is incredible three month it's a container where I lead it so it's a lot more higher barrier to entry in terms of costs and people are like we want to access your work and so I just wanted to make something super affordable so well they've got this you're on so many other amazing podcasts you know recently I was joking you get a punch card here in the operation podcast Studios this is like

your third or fourth one here um shout out Emily Hayden Michael chernau so many great shows Dr G recently yeah um well again thank you it's been an honor to have you here and I look forward to sitting down with you again hopefully in the future thanks for having me bu