Be better or stay bitter

why do you want to change no like seriously why do you want to change can you give me three things right now that would positively influence your life if you change right now like what would happen you can't then please skip this video because this video is not for you what because anything i tell you right now won't make you change it might motivate for a little bit but if you don't have that core reason to change and to want to improve your life you're not gonna stick to it so please skip this video and

come back when you have three valid reasons as to why you would change and how it would improve your life hi guys my name is liz and welcome to my youtube channel i will be giving you guys some advice on leveling up on being the baddest and best version of yourself as you should and just you know we have to make it work like we have to do this there is no other option so either you subscribe or you just go on with your life and you don't do these things but don't forget you'll stay

in the same place so okay let's get into it so the first thing you need to do to improve your life is stop living in the past show me the past like show me the past where is it you can't even show me the past you know why because the past does not exist it's literally just a thought in your head like you're just thinking something and that thought is preventing you from planning your future and being in the present moment you are being being terrorized by a thought in your head do you not realize

this we cannot change the past we cannot change what happened we cannot change what we did we cannot change what happened to us we cannot change anything it's not coming back we're getting older every single minute and to that time you choose to live in the past honey that's embarrassing that's really embarrassing now here are some certain things you can do instead of focusing on the past plan your future what do you want your future to look like do you even have any goals like are you trying to accomplish something because if you were you

would not be dwelling on the past you know why because you have no time you have things to accomplish you have things to do you can't you can't even afford to focus on the past because you realize that if you want what you want so badly the only way you can look is forward there is no looking back forgive yourself forgive yourself we all make mistakes oh lord i have made the biggest mistakes ever i have made mistakes so big till this day it's just haunting me literally i've been i am being blackmailed by my

mistakes till this day i'm being bullied people are lying on my name till this day because of a mistake i made four years ago but you know i don't care because i forgave myself i came to the conclusion of like you know what you were young you made a mistake people make mistakes would we be human if we didn't make mistakes would we why like who are we we're not gods we're supposed to make mistakes and we're supposed to learn from them how can i grow as a person if i don't do anything wrong how

can i learn how can i how can i be perfect if i've never been imperfect before how the beauty is in being imperfect the beauty is being like the beauty isn't making mistakes the beauty isn't doing the wrong things then looking back at it and saying like you know what i have grown so much and i'm so proud of myself that's the beauty of making mistakes so you have to forgive yourself it was not your fault something might have happened it might have been your fault you might have done something or somebody might have done

something to you but the only power you have right now is how you treat yourself afterwards and how you react to it and you have to realize that in order to move forward in your life you have to forgive yourself first stop the self-pity party honey we're done stop crying stop doing all these things it's done look i'm gonna tell you something eighty percent of the people are happy that you got problems and twenty percent does not care life has to move forward it's very sad what happened to you and it's very sad what might

have happened in the past and all these things but you cannot wallow in all these self-pity and like oh i feel so sorry for myself and all these things you can't you can't because if you're trying to improve your life you don't have time for it you don't you don't the only thing you see is forward you have to look like this this is my goal i gotta go i gotta go i don't have time for this i just don't i read this book once um about two men who got into a car accident but

no injured people nobody one man got out of the car and was like oh my god i don't need this as well my life is so bad look what what is this what a what a shitty day i i just uh was in a car accident all these things the other men got out of the car and he was like wow what a blessed day what a beautiful day to have a car accident but nobody injured who do you think of those two men went home with a happy heart another thing is you have to

start a healthy lifestyle and i know that this is like oh accept your body do this you should accept your body you should love your body obviously but it is not wrong to be healthy or to want to be healthy and what i mean by this is start working out and it doesn't have to be like one hour at the gym and like from zero to 100 real quick no no start small start like implementing a 10 minute workout maybe a day maybe don't even work out go walking go get your 10 000 steps are

you even getting those in like go walking every single day go to the woods walk around be mindful like control your think about your thoughts think about what you want try to think positively but go for a walk it really helps it makes you feel better also what i would suggest is eat a little healthier and i'm not saying like you know only salads now all these things no no definitely not because that will devolve develop an eating disorder i had one and it's not pretty it's not pretty at all you don't look good you

just look sick really honestly but the one thing i would say is start with like you know if you want to eat healthier start with i am going to drink more water from tomorrow start planning it i'm gonna drink more water then you may be uh gonna implement i'm gonna eat less sugar not completely could have sugar because that's hard you're gonna be like i'm gonna eat less sugar oh i'm gonna replace this meal with more vegetables and like little by little you're gonna see results not like this because like this nothing is healthy everything

has to build up a little bit so by doing that consistently you're gonna see results and results that you can keep and not go into a binge cycle and again like eating and then not eating that will drain you more and more so what i would say is start little by little start implementing little things maybe do some yoga do some stretches healthy lifestyle next i would say is self-care i know this is also a big thing like you should just accept yourself how you are and you shouldn't have to change and you shouldn't have

to improve yourself that's nice that's not reality that really isn't because the world is very superficial it is it just it just is and the thing is like if you don't take care of yourself if you don't find yourself worthy of care the world will also not find you worthy of care it's just how it is and i don't make the rules don't shoot the messenger i'm just telling you do you have a skincare routine if you have a lot of acne and it's huge and you cannot do anything about it go to a dermatologist

what are you doing looking at youtube looking at all these people they won't help you go to a professional your hair is falling out it's crazy it's insane are you taking your vitamins did are you trying to look up foods that are high in biotin that will help you grow your hair um [Music] are you are you going to a doctor like honestly maybe you have a disease like you you have to check these things out then i would say inner self-care which is even more important than your outer work because inner self-care you literally

i have realized humans are just all traumatized beings walking around and you have to heal yourself you have to heal yourself for your future generations to come because it has to stop with you i feel very sorry for my parents because i think back in the day therapy and all these things were not as accepted as it as it is right now and you can tell because they carry so much trauma with them and they put it on to their children but it has to stop with you and you can decide to make it stop

go to therapy honestly therapy is one of the biggest things i would recommend because you talking to your strain to a stranger a therapist that is licensed that knows how to deal with your emotions is such a good and beautiful thing to learn about yourself to heal certain parts of yourself work on work on yourself work on releasing your trauma realize that certain things that trigger you or certain things mental issues that you have right now might be a response of a trauma that you did not recover from and for people dealing with um traumas

and issues i would suggest to not be in a relationship i would suggest to really be alone focus on yourself and focus on your healing because you are gonna bleed on people that didn't cut you it's just the way it is if you have been cheated on if you have been betrayed if you don't trust people work on those things because your partner it's not his fault but maybe unconsciously you're gonna start doing things to him or start mistrusting him or her because you would be you were you were treated badly before but that's not

fair because they didn't do that to you and they don't deserve that you should take responsibility and start healing those parts of yourself because otherwise you will never grow and what i would also suggest is if you don't want to talk to a therapist if you don't have friends to talk to talk to god talk to the universe whatever you believe in but when you're alone in your room i do it all the time just talk and tell them look this is how i'm feeling this happened to me and i do not appreciate that this

is how i'm feeling this is what i want these are my goals and you have to help me you know how much god wants you to talk to him how much he's waiting to hear from you and you're just suffering in silence it feels good to talk it feels good to let your emotions out it feels good talk to the universe talk to god they're here to listen they're here to help you and i will 100 guarantee you you will start to see signs and you will start to see things showing up in your life

that are helping you because you talk about it stay away from people that drain you oh my god like this is the worst part ever we are so afraid to be alone that we would rather keep toxic relationships going and that is such a dishonesty to yourself how dare you really how dare you because honestly if you are in a toxic environment you will never drive because you'll always try to go up and they will always push you back down because you have to realize one thing look you can change how you feel but you

cannot change how other people treat you you can't change that so and that is not your responsibility so what i would suggest if you are living in a toxic environment if you have a toxic relationship i would suggest either you keep to yourself and you just don't as much as possible you just keep to yourself and you don't try to interact with those people because they will train you or you try you find a way to leave if you're a teenager in a toxic home i would say you know what get a job save money

and once you're old enough and you can move out because sometimes it it be our own family that is toxic and that hurts the most but keep to yourself keep to yourself maybe try to spend more time at work try to like you know do these things but just don't be around negative people and even if they are negative and they come to you and they they want to drain you and whatever don't give them your energy because you know one thing you have power over is how you respond to people and don't you dare

give them your energy they do not they do not deserve that they do not deserve that at all another thing i would say is seek knowledge how many books have you read in the past month do you even ever read books if you don't enjoy reading books i mean i didn't enjoy reading books now i'm obsessed with it try try to find one book that you actually really like that helps you if it's really not for you listen to podcasts about self-improvement listen to youtubers about self-improvement listen to look up videos how to love yourself

what's your situation do you want to be motivated look up videos how do i get motivated you want to heal from a trauma bond how do i heal from a trauma bond you know what the biggest blessing you have right now what they didn't have back in the day you have internet you can't look up anything you can get free therapy i mean even this what i'm giving you right now is free therapy you just have to decide and you have to want to heal because no matter what i tell you you will not heal

if you don't want to heal another thing is forgive others why you don't have to forgive them because they're sorry because most of the time they're not you have to forgive them for yourself you cannot strive and level up with hate in your heart or resentment in your heart because that's the worst pain you can experience why would you punish yourself for somebody else's mistakes why because anger is the punishment we give ourselves for somebody else's mistakes i read the story about this officer once he got shot in his spine the young boy that shot

him went to jail and when he when he yeah he i think he died in jail and the man the officer he was paralyzed for the rest of his life but he was so adamant to forgive him and he was so trying to motivate others to forgive people that do you wrong and he quoted it like this he said i would rather live with a bullet in my spine then i would live with resentment and hate in my heart and that is so so true because what they did to you that's on them they will

get their karma they will get their camera but you you should forgive them you should forgive yourself because we thrive in forgiveness another thing is realize your worth and stop settling literally stop settling what are you guys doing there is literally a woman and i know these women out here getting bentleys getting love getting diamonds getting real estate princess treatment 24 7. they don't have to worry about anything you are not even getting a response back you are being ghosted you are not being respected and i'm not telling you to go after material things because

that also won't make you happy but damn girl you are not even getting love the bare minimum honey raise your standards because you don't know how these girls are being treated out here i i'm telling you you don't know and these men try to manipulate you and tell you that's like oh i'm doing my best for you this is the best that you're gonna get oh no no that's not true oh ho that's not true it's not even one percent of what these women are getting you have to realize your worth you are a bad

queen you are even if you don't believe you are the baddest the most prettiest the confident be delusional start telling yourself that you are because what you think manifests into your life literally walk you know what i do i look in the mirror i'm like i am so powerful and i am i really am and nobody can tell me otherwise like i find myself very beautiful very smart a lot of people may look at me and be like you know she's so ugly ew she says so many stupid things and which is okay you know

like you're not gonna be beautiful to everybody you're not gonna be smart to everybody uh there's prettier people than you there are smarter people than you but they're not you everybody has a unique special place in this world everybody has their unique special purpose and i just fulfill my purpose i just feel good i just walk around i feel good being delusional to myself being and thinking like you know what i can accomplish anything that i want i feel good that way i don't hurt anybody with thinking that i just think that and you know

what happens i actually manifested into my life i really do be delusional if you don't believe that you are think that you are once you repeat so many times a thing in your head it's gonna literally come into your life there is no other way and i would be much rather delusional than sad 100 the last thing i want to say is watch your mouth watch how you talk about yourself could you manifest things into your life 100 i had this one friend and she was so beautiful and constantly when i was around her she

would tell me like oh i'm so fat i'm so ugly i'm so fat i'm so ugly to the point where i was like you have to stop not only for yourself but you're draining me i'm getting depressed because of you nobody wants to be around those people nobody honestly i'm gonna tell you because it's not it's not cute it doesn't look good it makes you look insecure and people don't like insecure people i'm telling you if you're not secure in your body and all these things and fake it at least you know but the way

she talked about herself i told her like you're going to manifest in this into your life so watch your mouth and then she started like um reversing everything she said and she actually started to love herself because i'm telling you what you say universe and god they listen whatever you say they hear either you decide to improve your life or you get out of the way of people who want to do it because you are going to get bitter because somebody else is trying to improve their life and you're just staying in your same cozy

place because you don't want to get uncomfortable and all these things you do not grow without getting uncomfortable you do not pain is weakness leaving your body so either you get on the bandwagon with them and you improve your life or you stay where you are and you be quiet and you're not you're not gonna hate on them because they have the courage to do what you're wishing to do and honey i'm telling you once you start leveling up your life you're going to have a lot more haters because people do not want to see

other people doing good they don't but do you care because you'll be laughing you'll be laughing once you're you accomplish all your goals you'll be laughing when you feel good about yourself and you won't those people you know what they're gonna do they're gonna come back into your life and be like oh my god do you remember me no i don't remember you who are you go away but i'm prepared to die for my goals i would rather die than be 80 or 90 years old and look back at my life and be like wow

i wonder what i could have done i wonder what f could have been literally if that is my life you can kill me right now heck i'll kill myself so i'm telling you girls boys whoever is watching this it's the time to change right now you don't want to do it fine get out of it get out of the way of other people don't hate on them don't be bitter be better thank you so much for watching guys i hope this helped somebody um and yeah i just let me know how you find my videos

if you like them or not i just know you're the baddest thing on earth and you can do anything you set your mind to