How to become mysterious & stop oversharing

why do you give away everything of yourself the second you meet the person why hello my angels welcome back to my channel in this video I'm going to teach you how to be mysterious I say how to be mysterious instead of how to appear mysterious because there's a huge difference okay when it comes to me people have come to me all my life and tell me you appear so mysterious what is this like why are you so mysterious and don't think that I never share anything like if you follow me on Instagram then you know

on some days I just Spam my story with memes with like funny stuff with things I do with my friends don't think that the key to becoming mysterious is to never talk again to never share anything of yourself again to just be quiet and sit in the corner and observe no this is not the truth so I am here to teach you how to actually become mysterious and the first thing is don't be a try hard people feel your energy even if you don't speak if you just watch a movie and there was a overly

like a mysterious girl and you say oh my God I'm just imitating what she does in that movie and then I'm going to be so mysterious this is not going to work people feel your energy even if you don't talk people feel try hards I can't even explain it but if I see someone on social media and I just feel that they want to be something so hard that they are not I feel repelled because it's not authentic I just feel that this person is trying too hard it's not who they really are and you

don't want to be someone you are not you want to become something but it has to be in alignment with your true self so if you watch this video right now and you think okay I don't want to be mysterious stop watching stop watching this video is absolutely not for you this video is for people who have this problem of oversharing all the time and who maybe even gten themselves in problems because of this because they don't know why they overshare and they don't know how to stop oversharing and they want to become mysterious they

want to be a more private person but they don't know where to start guys where do I start the thing is you have to ask yourself why am I oversharing there are usually a few reasons why you feel this neat to talk and talk and talk on like an endless stream about your private things to people you don't even know this is not just coming out of nowhere this has a reason like a source maybe the reason is that no one ever listened to you when you were a child maybe the reason is that you

have this feeling that the only way to connect to somebody is by giving yourself away so much that they think they know you so well or maybe you have this feeling that you are obligated to share a part of yourself you know maybe you feel like okay if I don't share something of myself if I don't give away something of myself they will feel as if I'm boring or stuff like this first thing like I talk about in all of the videos I make the first thing is always to find out why is it the

way that it is because we can fight the symptoms the whole time but if we don't know the root like the cause of this it's going to appear all the time in our lives again we need to find out the source why is it the way that it is why did I become this way in orderorder for us to really change for me I'm someone I don't overshare I do like the opposite even when I'm with my friends I don't tell them a lot of stuff and it's because I was being taught in my early

childhood that I couldn't trust other people and so I am working on that I trust other people more and maybe it's the same case for you okay maybe you have also learned in your childhood that you can trust other people but you cope in a different way than I do I cope by isolating myself I cope by not telling people anything about myself this is not a good way either like this extremes are not good we want to find the balance like the middle a healthy balance where we share things with people but we don't

overshare this is the key so we will talk about gossiping now okay because this is a huge topic and people ask me all the time is gossiping bad like my friends always want to gossip what should I do first of all I'm going to explain you the difference between gossiping and telling people about the business you had with someone okay because people mistake these two things all the time so for example if I go to my friend and I tell my friend hey this person they really did me so wrong and I just want to

talk about this with you because I want your opinion on this how should I handle this this is not gossiping this is me talking about my bad experience that I had with someone gossiping for example would be if I go to someone and I talk about a person I don't even know and I never interacted with and I say she's so ugly she's so this she thinks she's all that blah blah if I just lie about that person and it lies this is gossiping but telling a person especially a close friend about someone who did

you dirty and getting their opinion in return is not gossiping you people need to stop confusing these two things because you do people wrong and then you go out there and you say oh my God they talked about me no they didn't they explained to other people how bad you did them okay there's a huge difference and they are allowed to talk about their experience with you there is no way that you do someone dirty and you get the power to silms them like in what Universe do we live in it's normal that people talk

about the bad experience they had with someone after I made this clear what happens is often that especially in school okay it happened to me a lot of times people come to you and they will test you they will test if they can gossip with you for example they came to me and they were like what do you think about Lisa uh I heard that she's doing blah blah blah okay if this happens to you this person is testing if you are a potential gossiper partner in my opinion what I would do is to just

say nice things behind people's back because especially if you don't even know this person if you don't trust this person this person can go around and twist the words in your mouth and at the end they will return back to you and the whole story is just a different one and you are the bad guy and you're like oh my God this is what I don't even said happened to me because I would was young I was naive and yeah I gossiped when I was younger you know I'm not saying I was born an angel

we all gossiped at some point of Our Lives it's normal but the thing is I learned my lesson this is what you have to learn there are certain people for certain topics for example if I want to talk about something very intimate and very private I go to my close friends to my inner circle if I want to share funny things or like beautiful things I post this things on Instagram because I want people to know these funny things you know people don't need to know my private business this is nothing that like strangers need

to know about me everything I share has a reason for example I shared a lot of my traumatic things and I'm not suggesting you to share your traumatic story with the whole world I did this in order to help other people I did this because I want other people to feel less alone with what they are going through but if I just just had a small account if I was a private person I wouldn't post them a story and tell them about my childhood trauma if you have a bigger meaning for the things you do

and say and share it's okay but don't just share things for the sake of sharing CU you will never know what they will use against you people even use the things I share in my videos against me like they comment on the my videos oh my God she's not healed you can see she has borderline blah blah blah yeah and now now do you think you can use something against me that I voluntarily shared with the whole world baby you have to learn a lesson here I'm very good when it comes to giving people the

feeling of knowing me without even knowing me I am a master in this I have mastered this art of making people feel as if they know me because the key is if you are a try hard who just wants to appear mysterious people will first feel this and second they won't share things with you as well because they will think to themselves okay if this person is not sharing anything with me why should I give this person something of me so in order to really connect with people you have to share things with them this

is why I say like don't just be this cliche mysterious girl who never talks connect with people talk with them talk about your interests talk about their interest but don't just talk about things that could get you in trouble later you really need to realize this I am a heavy believer in the evil eye this is completely subjective some people say the evil eye is not existing some people say oh yes it exists from my experience and my opinion and the culture I grew up with the evil eye is very real because if you tell

people something they can give even unconsciously and this is the interesting part they can give you negative energy or Envy or jealousy even if they don't like consciously think about being jealous they can be jealous on the subconscious level and their energy can interfere with your plans and this happened to me a lot of times guys I am not kidding okay like the second I told someone something about my life it started to like completely break down for example I told people oh my God I have this new like business opportunity destroyed I was telling

people oh I want to travel to Paris my flight was delayed for like 5 hours this is why I don't tell people anything even my close friends when I am traveling I tell them that I'm in another country when I arrive there this is what I do I'm not suggesting you to do it like I do I just tell you if something is very important to me I keep it as private as I can especially when it comes to to plans I never talk about future plans and this is what you have to learn I

was listening about this in the podcast from like this neuroscientist and he said that if you tell people about your goals before you actually achieve these goals your brain thinks that you actually achieve them and your brain is going to give you dopamine and you you already get this reward hormone and therefore you won't feel motivated to really like go off after this goal because your brain thinks you already did it so I I never talk about plans I hate talking about plants I never do this this is why you don't hear from me oh

my next video is coming next I don't know Friday I will never do this you will never have a schedule of me first of all I record very intuitively I don't force myself to sit in front of a camera and try so hard to just like bring words out of my throat I do it very very intuitively and second because I don't want anyone to interfere with my plans I don't want this so maybe I post five times a week maybe I post once in a month who knows especially when it comes to dating you

have to give people the opportunity to fantasize about you this is the biggest part of Seduction the biggest part of Seduction is giving people the room for their fantasy and for their imagination there was a study on this they did study okay they had like people with brain scans and stuff on the one hand they had people who were naked on the other hand they had people with swimware and then they did these brain scans the result was that people would find people in swimwear more attractive than people who were completely naked why because if

someone is not revealing everything about themselves leave AP part for our imagination to fill this missing part and this is exactly what happens when you don't give out everything about yourself you leave room for people to wonder about you to fantasize about you and therefore to project their own desires and own imagination onto you and don't comment me and say things like isn't this playing I feel like as if I'm playing if I do this no this is normal like noay we made it feel like as if we are obligated to update someone 24/7 about

where we are about what we are doing and I don't know this is not normal okay back then people would have a date they wouldn't have they wouldn't even have phones they had a date they would bring that girl home they would go and they wouldn't talk to each other for like days this air of mysteriousness is needed when it comes to getting to know someone when it comes to dating it will increase your attractiveness so much guys okay if you don't update a person 247 about every single thing you do let them Wonder let

them find out let them ask you okay make them feel as if they want to become a deeper part of your life in order to know more about you don't give yourself away so easily just because someone is talking to you you give yourself away like that no make them work heart in order to get to know you on a really deep level guys I'm so honest like next time you feel like oversharing just go to my inbox and text me these things okay write it in your Journal go to the nearest forest talk to

like nature but don't just go to a random person and tell them all of your business there are so many benefits of becoming a mysterious person first of all and most important importantly your Security will increase so much more okay if people don't know every time what you are up to where you are what you are doing you are much safer okay there are really insane people out there like stalkers and stuff you have to really be careful second of all people will value you more okay you have to understand the psychology behind people people

will always want to be a part of something exclusive if you give them the feeling that if you open up and if you sh share something with them that this is a very special event because you don't just do this with everyone they will feel so blessed they will think oh my God she's not just like throwing around with informations around her she chooses me to share this with and therefore they will feel so blessed and they will really listen to you because they know if you open up then they are the special ones because

you give them your trust and they have earned your trust they will feel special guys I'm not kidding like when I open up to someone this person they really feel so special and so blessed because they know that I a person I don't easily open up to people if you give everyone this benefit of knowing you and of opening up to them it's nothing special anymore everyone knows you everyone knows your business everyone knows the tea about you like the things you are going through at the moment the things you are planning it's nothing special

anymore because it's everywhere it's like marketing it's like marketing guys like if a product is everywhere and everyone has it it's becoming cheap people don't even want it that anymore and it's just becoming boring but if there's a product and we hear first of all it's a limited edition second of all everyone wants it but it's so hard to get this people will want this even more this is our DNA it's basic human psychology we can't leave this behind because it's in our DNA in our brain to feel like this and to act like this

this is why all of the marketing things and the pr things of like big celebrities work because they know what they are doing they are playing with humans psychology and they are doing it very well remember you are in control of what you share with who don't talk about your plans don't talk about I'm going to do this I'm going to do this if you are a man or a woman and you watch this and you want to make like your partner happy don't tell them I'm going to buy you flowers I'm going to buy

you a gift just do it just do it don't talk about your plans show up with the results okay let your success speak let your actions speak don't just speak with words the less you say the better the more you do the better thank you for watching this guys I love you