How to be so charismatic people start questioning your sanity

have you ever met someone who just draws people in they make everyone laugh conversations flow effortlessly and somehow everybody seems to like them and the craziest thing is it looks like they don't even have to try it just seems natural I'm sure you know somebody like that but if I asked you why they're so likable you'd probably struggle to give a clear answer right it's not that they're incredibly good-looking have some high social status or are the loudest in the room the secret to their magnetic presence is real Charisma Charisma is the ability to make

people feel comfortable engaged and genuinely interested in you without them even realizing why it's not about trying to impress others it's about how you make them feel one thing most people get wrong about Charisma is that they think it is something you're born with but that's not true Charisma isn't some natural gift it's a skill you can develop and in today's video I'll break it all down for you we'll take a quick look at some common things people believe make them more likable and while they're not wrong they won't be able to give you real

Charisma instead I'll show you three key Concepts that will actually make you naturally charismatic without feeling like you're trying too hard or putting on a fake persona so make sure to stick around because by the end of this video you'll know exactly how to become the kind of person others are genuinely drawn to now I know this because I've been on both sides when I was younger I was extremely introverted in school I was always the quiet one and never the center of attention it wasn't that I had no friends or that people disliked me

but I was just unremarkable especially when it came to girls I was painfully shy I was always overthinking afraid of saying or doing something wrong so most of the time I just didn't say anything at all this went on for years and at some point when I was around 17 or 18 I'd had enough I was tired of feeling uncomfortable in social situations that's when I started to read books like How to Win Friends and Influence People or how to talk to anyone and while those books had some great tips I quickly realized something a

lot of advice out there focuses on surface level tricks to seem more charismatic things like using people's names in conversations keeping strong eye contact or lightly touching someone's arm while talking these can all be useful and they do work to some extent but real Charisma doesn't come from memorizing social tricks it comes from something deeper and I would break that something deeper down into three main Concepts first givers energy second unshakable presence and third first movers rule let's look at them one by one and in more detail one givers energy when you think about the

most charismatic people you know what is it about them that makes them so magnetic it's not just their confidence or how they carry themselves the real reason people are drawn to them is their energy specifically what I call givers energy at its core giver's energy is about having pure intentions in your interactions instead of thinking how can I get this person to like me or what can I gain from this conversation a charismatic person naturally thinks how can I make this person feel good and here's the key it's not about forcing it or being overly

polite it's about being authentic people are naturally good at picking up on energy even if they don't realize it if you approach a conversation with a transactional mindset meaning that you're always trying to get something from the other person they will feel it it makes interactions feel off forced or even even manipulative on the other hand when you genuinely enjoy seeing others happy they sense that too and they will naturally be drawn to you think about it when someone gives you a genuine compliment or laughs at your joke in a way that feels real it

creates an instant connection that's because their reaction isn't about trying to impress you it's just pure positive energy the best part about givers energy is that it's not about memorizing tricks or forcing yourself to act a certain way it's just about expressing the posit itive thoughts you already have but often keep to yourself for example if you think someone has a cool jacket say it if someone tells a funny story laugh genuinely instead of holding back if someone is passionate about something show real interest instead of just waiting for your turn to talk a lot

of people have these positive thoughts in their head but never express them they assume the other person already knows or they don't want to come across as weird but the truth is everyone appreciates a genuine compliment or positive energy energ now this doesn't mean you should go around showering people with compliments just for the sake of it being overly nice or trying too hard to be liked can have the opposite effect it makes you seem fake givers energy is about being real it's about noticing what you naturally like about people and just verbalizing it charismatic

people don't need anything from you they don't try to win a conversation they just bring a light positive energy into social interactions and people feel good around them because of it so next time time you're talking to someone stop thinking about how you're coming across instead just focus on making the other person feel good in an authentic way that alone will instantly make you more charismatic two unshakable presence If giver's energy makes people feel good around you unshakable presence makes them respect you it's that calm steady energy that makes someone feel like a leader like

someone who isn't easily shaken by what others think or say at its core unshakable presence comes down to one simple belief no matter what happens I'll be okay this mindset changes everything it removes desperation from your interactions makes you more attractive in a non-t trh hard way and allows you to stay calm in any situation people are naturally drawn to those who don't seek approval but instead stand firm in who they are most people spend too much time worrying about their reputation how others see them what people think and whether they're being judged but truly

charismatic people focus on their character instead your character is who you really are your reputation is just what others perceive and here is the thing reputation is out of your control no matter what you do people will always have their own opinions the only thing you can control is your character your values your integrity and how you treat people the moment you shift your focus from what do people think about me to am I living in alignment with my values you'll notice a huge change you'll stop seeking validation you'll stop overe explaining yourself and paradoxically

people will respect you more one of the fastest ways to build unshakable presence is to be brutally honest not in a rude way but in a way that shows you have nothing to hide charismatic people don't say things just to please others they're real they mean what they say and say what they mean they don't exaggerate pretend or twist the truth to fit in and because of that people trust them more if you have nothing to hide and nothing to prove you become incredibly powerful in social situations you no longer feel the need to convince

anyone of anything instead you speak your truth and let people react however they want another thing you'll notice about people with unshakable presence is that they aren't overly focused on individual interactions they aren't thinking I hope this person likes me instead they have a bigger Vision a purpose that matters more than any single social interaction when you have a clear purpose whether that's building a business mastering a skill or improving yourself you naturally exude confidence you're not desperate for approval because you have something bigger driving you people respect those who move with intention rather than

seeking validation and ironically when you stop caring so much about how you come across people naturally start paying more attention to you one of the biggest mistakes people make in social situations is trying to prove themselves they feel the need to explain justify or impress others but the truth is you don't need to convince anyone of anything if someone doesn't get you that's okay if someone doesn't like you that's okay too charismatic people don't chase approval instead they live by a simple rule this is who I am if you connect with that great if not

that's fine too when you stop needing approval you become naturally confident and when you combine that with givers energy you become the kind of person others truly admire and respect three first mover's rule if givers energy makes people feel good around you and unshakable presence makes them respect you then first mover's rule is what makes people notice you in the first place charismatic people don't sit back and wait for things to happen they take the first step they initiate conversations introduce themselves first and set the tone in social interactions most people hesitate in social situations

because they're waiting for a sign that it's okay to speak up or make a move charismatic people don't need that permission they create the moment instead of waiting for it have you ever been in a group where no one knows each other and there's that awkward silence most people stand there waiting for someone else to break the ice but charismatic people don't wait they go first they're the first to say hey my name is so and so nice to meet you they're the first to crack a joke to lighten the mood they're the first to

ask a question and get the conversation going by being the first one to engage they immediately take social pressure off everyone else and people love that it makes them feel more comfortable and naturally draws them in a lot of people hold back in conversations because they're afraid of rejection they wait to see if the other person likes them first before showing any real interest charismatic people flip that mindset instead of thinking do they like me they think do I like them they're not afraid to give a genuine compliment first ask a personal question first show

enthusiasm first by Leading with warmth and curiosity they make the other person feel seen which instantly makes them more engaging and memorable this even goes beyond conversations whether it's planning an event suggesting an idea or making a decision people respect those who take action first think about it how often do people hesitate when making plans should we meet up this weekend should we try this restaurant should we start this project instead of waiting charismatic people will make the call let's do Saturday at 700 this spot looks great let's go there I'll take care of it

no worries this kind of decisiveness is rare it shows confidence leadership and a willingness to take responsibility qualities that naturally attract people many people believe they need confidence first before taking action but the truth is confidence comes from taking action first when you start speaking up first showing interest first and making decisions first you naturally become more comfortable in social situations and over time it becomes effortless the first mover's rule isn't about being the loudest or most dominant person in the room it's about setting the tone taking the lead and making it easier for others

to engage with you when you combine all three concepts givers energy unshakable presence and first movers rule you'll naturally develop the kind of Charisma that draws people in without even trying you won't have to put on an act or remember a bunch of social tricks people will simply feel good around you and that's what makes someone truly charismatic applying these Concepts isn't always easy breaking the ice making the first move and taking the lead all require you to step out of your comfort zone I know exactly how hard it is to push past that fear

and take action when everything inside you wants to play it safe but it is necessary that you fully understand the importance of this that's why I created a video about it so if you want to start to make real progress in your life make sure to check it out thank you for watching see you there