It’s actually pretty easy to be self-disciplined (if you stop getting distracted)

look around everyone is stressed out of their minds we all want to achieve big things but it is becoming infinitely more difficult to focus on those big things so those big things don't get done our mind is flooded with the risk of pursuing your own goals instead of the ones your parents or friends or partner or boss want for you being told what to care about skills to learn countries to support foods to avoid by people with goals that don't align with your own thoughts about the job you have to show up to how much

time you're going to waste and all the things you won't be able to do and what people will think if you decide to go your own way and take control of your life these are not easy thoughts to deal with if your friends or parents don't support you or if they even try to stop you that can be incredibly painful you may lose people from your life and you may lose a part of your identity and that hurts the problem is that they don't know what you know they haven't been exposed to the same information

education and potential so they don't see the opportunity their mind is still programmed with beliefs that serve their outdated goals it's difficult for them to believe that your new Endeavor will work out because all they know to be possible is what they've done parents are very good at this they were assigned goals at Birth they pursued those goals and saw results their identity was shaped and so was their mind they don't continue their education and expansion and exploration after graduating high school or college their minds harden up they get locked into the same beliefs and

thoughts that they had their entire life and once this happens you've heard the saying people hate what they don't understand that's exactly what happens things that don't align with what they know to be true or possible or whatever is there in their limited mind that's what's possible and they're not going to believe anything else and they're going to try to avoid and stop anything else this is the first realization that you have to make nobody is going to give you permission to do what you want they weren't exposed to the information you were they don't

have the story that you were telling yourself unless they are developed enough to open their mind to that story you have to jump out of the nest at some point and trust that you can learn to fly even further you only have so much Focus you can invest into your goals every single day it's no wonder why people live in a constant state of stress we can't focus as soon as we wake up we grab our phones and flood our minds with news advice doomsday predictions and people doing better than us the only way to

find relief is to keep scrolling to make ourselves feel like we are making progress the Mind craves order and that's exactly why you feel terrible your attention is not focused on a singular goal for the future so that distractions can't penetrate it your focus is split between all of these different goals that people are trying to tell you to achieve to the point where you can't pay attention to your own you don't have any attention left to invest into your own goals or even think about them so you only have one option and that is

to feel deep into your situation realize where your life will end up if you keep going down this path become absolutely fed up with the lack of progress you're making use that negative energy to laser in on the meaningful goal that you've been putting off you know exactly what I'm talking about it's that nagging inner voice that is asking you to do more with your life and you can hear it you were meant for more than this you have what it takes to be successful you don't have to end up like the rest so seriously

feel into your situation stop avoiding it you have to add to the gravity of the life you want to achieve so here's where you don't want to be here's where you want to be and the more you realize where you don't want to be the more powerful this becomes and it starts to pull you towards it because the other one is pushing you away the fear of ending up in just a terrible life will push you towards a life that you want to live the pain of not achieving your goals must outweigh the pain of

living a comfortable life you must remove the distractions numbing you from the pain of becoming who you were meant to be now if you want to achieve great things you have to understand what self-discipline is because discipline comes from Clarity not force self-discipline is saying no to people places and things that distract you from the pain of not achieving your goals most people don't understand self-discipline it's not something that is supposed to be difficult it is the byproduct of knowing what you want and accepting nothing less from yourself it is the byproduct of an ordered

mind or an obsessed mind and that means maintaining a Clear Vision for the future and when gaps appear that threaten that Vision or make it so you I don't know how to achieve that Vision that's when you go to educate and acquire skills that allow you to close that Gap so you maintain the clarity because order is balanced with chaos your mind isn't always going to be ordered it's often going to be chaotic and you need to be able to zoom out create order remind yourself of your goals and fill in the gaps that created

the chaos in the first place so you need one constant reminder of your Vision Two constant self-education and three constant building towards your vision so that you can practice skills that allow you to achieve it and identify New Paths that you need to take or identify gaps in your knowledge so you can fill it and actually make progress in life the reason people struggle with self-discipline is because they get distracted from what matters they forget who they want to become they forget what they are capable of they forget the impact they want to have you

aren't disciplined because you aren't the person who would seamlessly achieve the goal they set out to to achieve someone whose true identity is a bodybuilder doesn't have difficulty going to the gym or eating healthy they just do it it's a natural part of who they are because that's who they are someone whose true identity is a writer doesn't have difficulty going on long walks for idea generation or sitting out and having focused work sessions for writing they just do it they're a writer what else are they going to do they aren't a video gamer they

aren't a bodybuilder they're not going to the gym they're not playing video games they're a writer they write that's what they do it's easy now on the flip side someone who has the true identity of a video gamer and I'm talking like a stereotypical gamer who you'll find in the depths of Reddit comments just trolling all day they don't have any difficulty doing that that's just a natural part of their identity that's a habit to them is to go on and try to ruin other people's lives and Troll and not contribute anything meaningful to the

world not saying every gamer is like that obviously but the people where it's their identity to be a troll and a game and their actions reflect that and it just digs them deeper and deeper into a hole they obviously don't have any trouble doing that people's behavior is shaped from their identity you don't have trouble doing what you do on a daily basis like procrastinating or going to bedl light or other things because it's just been conditioned as to that's who you are and anything that conflicts that like becoming a writer or becoming a fitness

guy or becoming someone worth being that's going to threaten you and you need to recondition who you are in order to get there so that your actions just become natural you're naturally self-disciplined now in terms of the gamer you have to understand they can sit in front of a screen for 8 to 10 hours a day and like their lives a bodybuilder on the other hand would see that as a living hell because they're they know that they're ruining their health they've studied bodybuilding and nutrition to the point of knowing that sitting in front of

a screen for 8 to 10 hours a day is the worst thing that they could do for their health and if their goal is health and bodybuilding then they're not going to do that because it's not their goal you're working towards goals with every single action you take much of the time that's just unconscious and you have no idea what the [ __ ] you're doing but when you make those conscious and you start to pursue them and you invest energy into a new goal for who you want to become it's going to be difficult

at first but you're eventually going to create the identity that you want to create and those actions are going to come naturally and then you will become that person each identity has its tradeoff so it's wise not to become dogmatic about one becoming a gamer or becoming a writer or becoming a bodybuilder is good it's a good lens for achieving a specific goal and acquiring specific skills and having specific behavior but once you become attached to that that's when sacrifices are necessary and pain starts to get involved because everything challenges your identity like getting locked

into a routine and one day when you have to get off that routine you just feel like [ __ ] because your happiness was based off of the order that the routine provided that's not the goal your goal is to kind of collect identities and perspectives to form this big overarching integral one where you can become a shape shifter you can become different identities at different times and have the skills necessary to do so so that you can live in more situations optimally it's not about being a specialist it's about being a generalist which we'll

talk about next week but you want to be a generalist in perspective to be able to navigate more situations in life without stress so the first step to become self-disciplined is to remove distractions ask yourself do you know why you're doing what you're doing have you asked yourself that question in the last month why are you going to school working that job building that business doing that workout was it your choice or was it a goal that was programmed into your head by your parents friends or culture audit your life for goals that you didn't

know you were pursuing sit down with a notebook and write down every single thing that you are doing throughout the day and why you are doing it if you don't have a good answer that's a distraction you are wasting emotional energy on other people's dreams so that you don't have enough for your own now if you need help with Clarity and just want something physical to write this down on you can use my fosi planner which is in the link in the description it's right here it's an actual physical planner the second step to becoming

self-disciplined is to view Life as a game now recently I've been fascinated by the concept of anti-g goals anti-g goals are not goals that you don't want to achieve they are the sacrifices you are not willing to make to achieve a goal as an example if I want to build a billion dooll company what am I not willing to sacrifice to get there because most people who have these lofty goals don't really pay attention to what they sacrifice along the way they're so focused and specialized on one specific goal that they neglect their health their

family and most other areas of life just to achieve it and then look back and be like look at everything I destroyed rather than look at everything that I built now on the other hand if you're smart you understand that you can still achieve that goal and maintain or even build other aspects of your life you don't have to lose your health in order to build a business you don't have to lose your family in order to build a business if you think that then that's what's going to happen but if you accept that that's

the creative challenge that you have to take on to figure out okay how do I build this billion dollar company while still being able to maintain those things that's what creates the game that's what makes it fun because yes it will take a lot more time and work to actually achieve that goal but what else is there to do the only choice if you don't take on the creative challenge is to let your life burn right in front of you because you didn't have the restraint or discipline to take on more responsibility in a wise

way now that's the cool thing about anti-g goals is that they turn life into a game because they check all the boxes for the Flow State the first is challenge a goal that is Within Reach and test your skill the second is skill if your skill is too low for the challenge you get anxious if it is too high you get bored indicating that you need to choose a greater or lesser challenge rather than give up that's important if you are anxious you're probably pursuing a goal that is too high and you need to identify

a goal before that so that it becomes easier to achieve and easier to order your mind and focus on it you may be projecting too far into the future and if you're bored you're either not pursuing a goal or you're pursuing the wrong goal or you stuck you've achieved a goal and you still haven't set another one the third is Clarity a hierarchy of Greater to lesser goals makes it easier to start moving towards your vision for the future the fourth is feedback you know exactly when you are making progress and that feels good you

don't feel trapped in a cycle of repetitive tasks that lead to nowhere and the fifth is rules rules or boundaries frame how you perceive the world your mind has more space to notice information that aids in the achievement of your goals when you turn your life into a game you become obsessed with progress there are quests there are challenges there are dungeons there are other things and depending on the level of the game that you're at that's when on the map places become bright you can see them you can navigate them you can go into

them and discover what you didn't have before and what you didn't know existed there before so if you aren't pursuing new goals in your life and being self-disciplined you're closing yourself off to so much experience in life now the third step for becoming self-disciplined is Reinventing yourself all change is behavior change all Behavior change is identity change so all change is identity change because you are what you repeatedly do you are disciplined towards the goals in your head right now it isn't difficult for you to watch Netflix all day lay in bed and just be

lazy for many high performers that is the worst thing in the world they would hate their lives if they live that and you think you're comfortable for high performers the pain of not achieving the goals that make them who they are would eat them alive because their identity is dying there's physical death and then there's mental death your identity when that changes it hurts when a part of it is threatened it hurts when your connection to Something in the world or your attachment to Something in the world gets threatened like your video games being taken

away or something being taken away from you because that's mine that's what I'm talking about here when your lifestyle and goals are taken away from you or you're not able to achieve them that should feel painful and that's a good thing so with that your journey is going to be painful you are letting your old self die off you're letting your old beliefs and habits that are holding you back shed so the first step is just awareness that it's going to be difficult to change and the second step is reprogramming your mind to operate towards

becoming a new identity so throw yourself into a new environment that aligns with who you want to become Drown Your Mind in ideas information and education that exposes you to new goals and ways to achieve those goals and view every situation through the perspective of your ideal lifestyle and make decisions accordingly throw yourself into the deep end and teach yourself to swim but most people won't take the leap out of fear and that's why we need to talk about self-confidence rather than self-discipline so let's talk about an unconventional path to becoming self-confident because there is

a lot of advice online on how to become self-confident it's a very big issue and clearly it is a global problem that hasn't been solved yet I don't think my solution is the only solution but I think it may provide you with some things to try outside of what normal people are telling you to do the reason I say this is because when I started writing it changed my life and not just writing in a journal which is extremely helpful but writing in a public Journal writing helped me become confident in my thoughts and life

Direction by being exposed to public criticism forcing me to audit my beliefs finding friends and connections with shared goals so I stopped feeling like an outcast practicing a skill and seeing progress with it every single day and failing often to keep me humble and give me new direction that I wouldn't have normally found now obviously writing is not the only way to to self-confidence but a lot of people get it wrong and I'm speaking from experience here I'm giving you writing advice from a writer and it may help you it's worth a try most people

think that writing is just a type of skill or a hobby they don't see it as the one thing that makes us human we are the only species that can pass down information by documenting knowledge with writing to help those who come after us avoid danger and evolve writing is why we make it so far as individuals and as a collective we would literally not be here with all of this stuff surrounding us with technology and any of that if it weren't for writing and documented communication writing started as carvings and caves and have now

become ideas on the internet that's how writing has evolved the carvings were barely seen but with the internet you have the ability to share your ideas and writing with thousands of people writing is the intersection of purpose and profit don't underestimate that power now writing will make sense when we come back to it but step one to becoming self-confident is to deconstruct your goals you aren't confident because you haven't invested in your portfolio of failures you spent too much time residing in the comfort of other people's paths in life you failed to break free from

the masses think for yourself set your own goals and Achieve them regardless of how long it takes you aren't confident because you don't have results in anything aside from what's already been done sit with your thoughts what do you really want out of life is it the same boring path as everyone else no then the only option is to pay attention to what you don't want in life by observing the actions of most people and where those lead do the opposite of everyone else if you want to achieve something more out of life think about

your future and deconstruct it into goals you will have to achieve and actions you will have to take educate yourself every single day with the material that will help you achieve those goals and last block out time for focused work to build out your vision for the future then start self-confidence comes from doing what you think is uncomfortable over and over again and realizing it wasn't that bad in the first place step number two to becoming self-confident is to start a business because if you truly think about what you want in life starting a business

is not optional a business is the only thing that gives you control over your time so that you can do what you want and even if you think you want a job you're going to be destined to pursuing the goals that are assigned to you for the rest of your life do you really want that I'm not saying jobs are bad I've never said that and I try to always preface it with the fact that I feel like a job is a stepping stone to learn and acquire skills to eventually be able to go and

do your own thing and survive along the way because you have to survive the problem is when people become trapped in a job because it becomes comfortable to them and they don't know how to escape and then by that point they're locked in with so many responsibilities from a family to bills to a mortgage that they have no way out and then they justify to themselves that that's what they wanted their entire life so think about it what do you really want and is that really any different from what most people want because it's in

their nature you want autonomy work you enjoy and to have an impact on the world so you can fulfill your human need to be a valuable contribution to humanity a business is not some capitalistic pursuit to own a private jet and Mansion a business is how you solve problems a business is how you build something of your own a business is how you contribute to humanity through value exchange a business is how you take back control of your life a business is how you develop self-confidence in your interest and expertise now small plug I probably

shouldn't do this this soon but new course on par with tour writer is called mental monetization Link in the description if you want to learn how to monetize your creative work in the best way most people are programmed to have a negative reaction when they hear the word business and this is one of the worst things that could happen to you honestly because you're just going to have that reaction Until you realize how dumb that reaction was it delays your your time and perception from noticing money-making opportunities and actually acting on them because if you

constantly think that the business and money are bad then you aren't going to make any and you're just setting yourself up for Unnecessary suffering because you have all of these irrational thoughts as to what you think money is when it's just a piece of paper it's neutral until put in the hands of good or evil and if you are evil or you think money is evil that's probably a projection of your internal state so maybe you shouldn't have money and maybe you should do some internal work first and then go after business so when this

happens when you mislabel money in business you go on to do one of the worst things of all you hide from your desire to reach your potential self-actualize and self transcend by demonizing anyone and anything that would compromise the comfort you don't even know you are addicted to and you continue to be a cog in the machine of a business that is making money in potentially unethical ways you don't want to start a business but the only other option is to work for a business you say that money in starting a business is superficial but

the thing that consumes most of your time is scrolling on surface level social media you never go deep into any kind of Interest or skill that's what business is you have to become an expert at something and dive deep into it it's the most deep Pursuit you can go into and then you need to pass that to others in exchange for money now step three to becoming self-confident is to write in public now if you aren't a fan of writing which I would heavily question and it's probably just a reaction in your head because everyone

writes you text your friends you send emails you're a writer whether you think you are or not that's just a base human function of yours if you don't want to think about it like that just think about communicating in public or communicating in general writing is a superpower you can achieve your goals faster you can attract like-minded people you can start with zero experience you become comfortable with people seeing your ideas and writing is the foundation of media everything you see online from Posts to videos to advertisements start with writing media is where the attention

is and if you want to do anything worthwhile in life you're either going to need money or attention to do so so you need to go where the attention is you can no longer rely on your boss to generate attention attract customers and assign you some measly work for a set amount of money to fulfill the product or service to those customers you must do all of the above writing in public is the first step for beginners who don't have capital or experience to start a business writing is a zero barri of Entry skill that

you can start today and start attracting people to your interest and the things you would eventually want to turn into a business choose two to three topics to write about topics you want to learn about build a name for yourself in and turn into a meaningful career second learn through observation watch what others in those topics are writing about how they write about it and why they say things the way they do if you think I could have wrote this then write about it you don't need permission on the internet and if you don't know

where to start consider to our writer even though it's unnecessary it's just a guide It's a course if you want to want to further your education consider it otherwise watch a lot of YouTube videos step four to becoming self-confident is to make new friends there is a concept called a mastermind and what that means is multiple Minds working together to achieve a shared goal in the past you had to make connections in your local area to make your business a success or you had to go to a prestigious School in your local area and connect

that way now you have access to anyone at the click of a button your success is no longer determined by your socioeconomic status and physical location it is determined by who you are connected to and the opportunities they can pass off how do you find these connections have a goal you want to achieve how do you attract people to that goal starting a business with a mission to achieve that goal how do you get in front of well-connected people writing in public to spread your ideas what does this have to do with self-confidence again well

it's kind of obvious if you don't push beyond your limits and fail and have a way to overcome that then you're not going to become confident if you don't have anything to fail at or get better at how are you going to be confident a goal business and writing in that order are how you continue to repeat this process to Infinity there are no limits except for the ones you place on yourself you will eventually hit a ceiling in a job someone is in charge of the limits you can reach if you aren't hopping on

the Evolution train with technology Ai and the Internet by opening up shop in virtual reality the internet and social media they will make you obsolete you make friends online by just showing up and talking to people and that's just just like you would at a party because on the internet you increase your Social proof with your brand and ideas and outside of the internet you increase your status with cars looks and material Acquisitions and I feel like it's obvious which one leads to a better life after four years of writing I can message almost anyone

online and get a response from them I mean Gordon Ramsey follows me I have a lot of followers because I write on social media when I say writing that's what I mean go look at my Instagram go look at my Twitter look at my YouTube Community page look at the newsletters that get turn into YouTube videos it's all writing and now with the social proof that I have based on my ideas I can DM people almost anyone you probably DM John Cena tomorrow and get a response from him now step five is to publish your

work to understand confidence we must understand stories stories equal transformation you aren't confident because you trapped in someone else's story you don't have a chance to transform into who you were meant to become you don't have full control over your ability to escape the low point of the story reach the climax and have a happy resolution the path out of a low point in your life is trial and error the essence of life itself your first attempt at writing will suck your first attempt at launching a product will suck your first attempt at making friends

will suck so if you learn to write and you learn to launch a product which is the new course mental monetization you're going to fail like that's just what you're going to do but then you get back up and you try again until it's right this is a path where people can't just tell you exactly what to do they can can give you guidelines and be like hey here's how you actually flesh all these things out it's up to you to do it but in schools and jobs it's like hey do this exactly this way

and you can be replaced the reason 99% of people are cripplingly unconfident is because they unconsciously think you just become confident without doing anything that breeds a more stable form of confidence confidence is Improvement publish your writing and be called an idiot publish your product and collect the negative feedback put yourself out there and let people expose your flaws only then once you're aware of the problem can you know what to improve you can't improve what isn't published so when I say published I mean just built in reality not in your head not little ideas

that you're thinking about but actually built you can't improve if you aren't aware of the problem dying in your dark hole of comfort prevents you from both the longer you decide to stay there the longer it will take to develop confidence you can watch this and do nothing with your life because you don't know enough to start or you can finally take the leap and dedicate your life to learning and building rather than expecting everything to be given to you that's it for this video thank you for watching like subscribe book planner other things Link

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