Parents Demanded That I Give My Golden Child Sister the $30k That I Saved Up for My College For..

parents demanded that I give my Golden Child sister the $30,000 that I saved up for my college for her to buy an apartment I'm 19m currently a college student my relationship with my family has always been a bit strained mainly because of how different I am from the rest of them I've worked hard to achieve what I have maintaining good grades and even securing a scholarship for college I thought my efforts would finally earn me some respect but that wasn't the case my parents have always favored my sister she's spoiled entitled and used to getting

her way it's been clear to me for a long time that they see her as The Golden Child while I'm just the responsible one who's expected to handle things on my own every time she screws up I'm the one who has to pick up the pieces or make sacrifices for her over the years I managed to save up $30,000 for college this wasn't easy I earned most of it through part-time jobs and scholarships this money means everything to me it's my ticket to a future where I'm not dependent on anyone but to my parents it

was apparently just another resource to exploit when my sister was short on cash my sister Sarah is 24 but you wouldn't know it by the way she acts she's been coddled her entire life always getting whatever she wants without lifting a finger right now she's unemployed and has been for a while she claims she's figuring things out but really she just spends her time lounging around doing nothing despite this she's decided that she needs a new apartment something fancy in a nice part of town of course she has no savings or income to afford it

one evening my parents sat me down and told me that Sarah had found the perfect place but was short on money for the deposit they demanded that I hand over my entire College savings $30,000 to help her secure the apartment I was floored they didn't ask they demanded and then came the kicker if I refused they said I could pack my things and leave they made it clear that my future was less important to them than making sure Sarah was comfortable they didn't stop there my mom pulled the whole family come's first card and my

dad said something about how Sarah had always been there for me which is a complete lie they tried to guilt me saying that if I was a good brother I'd do this without hesitation the emotional manipulation was strong at first I couldn't even speak I was in shock completely blindsided by their demand I asked them how they could possibly think it was fair to take everything I'd worked for and give it to Sarah who hadn't lifted a finger to help herself my dad just Shrugged and said it was about keeping the family together my mom

said something about how Sarah needed this apartment more than I needed my savings that's when it hit me no matter what I said they wouldn't listen they didn't care about what was fair they only cared about Sarah over the next few days it was a mess constantly weighing my options I thought about just giving in to avoid being kicked out but the more I thought about it the more I realized how wrong that was why should I have to sacrifice everything I'd worked for just because my sister couldn't be bothered to take care of herself

but on the other hand standing my ground meant risking everything I didn't have anywhere to go if they kicked me out I was on my own I even considered reaching out to some extended family members but I knew it wouldn't help most of them were just as taken in by Sarah's act as my parents were I felt trapped like no matter what I I chose I was going to lose something important finally I decided I wasn't going to let them push me around I started researching my legal rights I knew that as an adult they

couldn't just take my money without my consent I also made sure to secure all my important documents birth certificate passport Bank information in case things went South I even started quietly packing some of my valuables and moving them to a friend's place just in case I had to leave in a hurry I knew I had to be prepared for the worst case scenario being kicked out with nowhere to go so I I reached out to my College's housing office to see if they had any emergency accommodations available they didn't but they pointed me towards some

local resources that could help it wasn't much but it was something when I finally confronted my parents I was firm I told them there was no way I was giving up my savings and that if they really wanted to kick me out over this I was ready to leave my dad got Furious accusing me of being selfish and ungrateful my mom started crying saying she couldn't believe I was willing to tear this family apart over a little money if it was really little money why don't they pay for it then Sarah of course threw a

tantrum she screamed about how I was ruining her life and how I didn't care about her happiness my parents just stood there glaring at me waiting for me to back down but I didn't I told them that if they wanted me gone I'd be out by the end of the week the next few days were hell my parents barely spoke to me and when they did it was only to throw more guilt my way my mom started giving me the silent treatment while my dad resorted to making snide comments every time I was in the

room Sarah refused to even look at me as as if I'd personally betrayed her they kept up with the threats and emotional blackmail trying to wear me down despite the hostile environment I kept preparing to leave I secretly moved the rest of my valuables to my friend's place and made arrangements to stay with them temporarily if needed I also reached out to some other friends letting them know what was going on they offered their support and even suggested I look into legal action if things got worse the breaking point came one morning when I found

out that my parents had tried to access my bank account they thought they could just take the money and deal with the Fallout later but I was one step ahead of them I'd already emptied the account and closed it when they realized what I'd done they were livid my dad yelled at me calling me ungrateful and saying that I was destroying the family my mom just cried and kept asking how I could do this to them but I didn't back down I told them that they'd crossed a line and that I was done being their

scapegoat if they wanted me out I'd leave but they weren't going to get a single scent of my money I knew that leaving quietly would just let them spin the story however they wanted so I decided to take control of the narrative I posted a detailed account of what had happened on social media I included everything how they tried to force me to give up my savings the threats the emotional manipulation I even posted screenshots of their texts and the bank alert showing their attempts to access my account to make sure the message got across

I tagged not just my parents and sister but also some of their friends and extended family members I wanted everyone to know the truth the reaction was immediate and overwhelming most people were on my side offering support and calling out my parents and sister for their behavior some of my extended family reached out shocked and disappointed by what they'd learned they'd had no idea things were this bad a few people mostly my parents close friends tried to defend them but they were drowned out by the criticism it didn't take long for word to spread my

parents colleagues and Friends started distancing themselves and I heard that Sarah's plans for her new apartment fell through when the landlord got wind of what was happening she was Furious blaming me for ruining her life but I didn't care they'd all brought this on themselves The Fallout was brutal for my parents their carefully curated image as the perfect family was shattered my dad's work relationships became strained as his colleagues began to see him in a different light my mom who prided herself on her social standing found herself being quietly excluded from her usual circles and

Sarah she lost her chance at the apartment she wanted so badly and no one was rushing to offer her another one after The Showdown I moved in with a supportive friend it wasn't ideal but it was better than staying in that toxic environment adjusting to Independence was tough but it also felt freeing I could finally focus on my studies and my future without constantly worrying about what my family would try to take from me next my parents didn't take the Fallout well they flooded my phone with calls and messages alternating between threats and desperate pleased

for me to take down the post and come back home they even tried to twist The Narrative claiming I'd overreacted and that they were just trying to help Sarah out of a tough situation but by then it was too late everyone knew the truth I decided to maintain a strict no contact stance I blocked them on all platforms and made sure they couldn't reach me I also sought legal advice about potentially getting a restraining order if they didn't back off it wasn't an easy decision but it was necessary I couldn't let them drag me down

anymore in the aftermath a few estranged relatives reached out offering their help and expressing regret for not getting involved sooner my college even offered additional financial aid after hearing about my situation which was a huge relief through all of this I've grown a lot I'm more confident and self-reliant than I ever was before my academic performance has actually improved now that I'm not constantly stressed about my family I've also made new friends and built a support network that I can actually rely on looking ahead I'm focused on achieving complete Financial Independence I'm also seriously considering

cutting ties with my family for good the cycle of toxicity has gone on long enough and I'm committed to breaking it it's not going to be easy but I'm determined to build a better future for myself one where I'm not constantly looking over my shoulder waiting for the next betrayal so Reddit I defer refusing to give up my college savings to my sister and for going public with what my family tried to do to me update one it's been been about 3 months since I posted my original story and a lot has happened I want

to thank everyone for their support and advice it really helped me get through some tough times after I moved out and went public with what happened things got pretty crazy my parents and Sarah didn't take it well at all they kept trying to contact me switching between angry threats and guilt tripping I stayed firm with my no contact rule but it wasn't easy about a week after I left my mom showed up at my friend's place where I was staying I have no idea how she found out where I was she was crying and begging

me to come home saying they'd made a mistake and wanted to make things right I almost felt bad for her but then she started in on how I was tearing the family apart and how Sarah was suffering because of me that's when I knew nothing had really changed I told her to leave or I'd call the police she left but not before saying I was breaking her heart the next day my dad called my college trying to get information about my classes and schedule luckily I'd already talked to the administration about my situation so they

didn't give him anything but it freaked me out that he was trying to track me down like that things escalated when Sarah started showing up at places she knew I frequented the library the coffee shop near campus even outside some of my classes she'd Tred to Corner me alternating between screaming at me for ruining her life and begging me to give her the money it got so bad that I had to change my routines and ask friends to walk with me between classes about a month after I left I got a call from my aunt

my mom's sister she said she wanted to meet up and talk I was hesitant but she had always been kind to me so I agreed to meet her in a public place when I got there I found out my parents had put her up to it and they were hiding at a nearby table waiting for me I felt so betrayed I left immediately and blocked my aunts number too the social media Fallout continued my parents tried to do damage control by posting their own version of events claiming I was a troubled kid who had stolen

money from them and run away some people believe them but most saw through it it was hard seeing family friends and distant relatives take sides but I was grateful for those who stood by me Sarah took it to another level she started a GoFundMe campaign claiming she was a victim of financial abuse and needed help to escape a toxic family situation she used my name in it twisting the story to make it sound like I was the abuser I had to get a lawyer involved to get the campaign taken down speaking of lawyers my parents

threatened legal action against me they claimed I owe them money for raising me and that they had a right to my savings it was ridiculous but it scared me enough to seek legal advice the lawyer assured me they had no case but advised me to keep documenting everything just in case about 2 and 1/2 months after I left I got a surprising email from Jack Sarah's ex-boyfriend they'd broken up a few months before all this happened and I'd always thought he was a decent guy who got sucked into my family's drama he apologized for not

reaching out sooner and said he wanted me to know he supported me Jack told me some things about Sarah that shocked me apparently she'd been cheating on him throughout their relationship often with guys who could buy her expensive gifts or take her on trips he said she was always talking about how she deserved a more luxurious lifestyle and how unfair it was that she had to work for anything it made me see her behavior in a new light I also found out from Jack that Sarah had been fired from her last job for stealing my

parents had covered it up paying back what she took to keep the company from pressing charges I was Furious that they'd done that while expecting me to give up my hard-earned savings about 3 months after I left I got a call from a number I didn't recognize it turned out to be my grandfather my dad's father we'd never been close he lived in another state and we only saw him every few years he said he'd heard what happened from a cousin and wanted to hear my side of the story I was cautious at first after

what happened with the anti trusted but as we talked I realized he was genuinely concerned he told me that he'd had his own issues with my dad over the years and that he wasn't surprised by what had happened he apologized for not being more present in my life and offered to help me out financially if I needed it I was touched by his offer but I told him I wanted to make it on my own he respected that but said the offer would stand if I ever changed my mind it meant a lot to know

that I had some family on my side the conversation with my grandfather made me curious about other family members I'd lost touch with I reached out to a couple of cousins on my mom side who had always gotten along with one of them Megan told me she'd had her own issues with my parents and Sarah over the years Megan told me something that made me extremely angry as I didn't know about it while living with them a few years ago she'd been going through a tough divorce and needed a place to stay for a few

weeks my parents had initially offered to let her stay with them but then Sarah complained that she didn't want Megan invading her space my parents kicked Megan out after just 3 days leaving her to sleep on Friends couches until she could find an apartment I couldn't believe they'd do that to family while demanding I give up everything for Sarah as all this was happening I was still trying to figure out my living situation my friends parents were kind enough to let me stay with them but I knew it couldn't be a long-term solution I started

looking for a cheap apartment near campus but everything was out of my price range a few days later I ran into one of Sarah's friends at the grocery store she tried to Guild trip me saying Sarah was depressed and it was all my fault I asked her if Sarah had told her the whole story she admitted she only knew Sarah's version I gave her my side of things and I could see the doubt creeping into her expr expression she left looking confused and I felt a small sense of satisfaction the next day I got a

call from the bank someone had tried to access my new account using my social security number the bank had flagged at a suspicious activity and blocked it I knew immediately it had to be my parents I filed a police report and started the process of putting a freeze on my credit I was shaken by how far they were willing to go I decided it was time to take more serious action I went back to the lawyer I'd consulted earlier and started the process of getting a restraining order against my parents and Sarah it was a

drastic step but I felt like I had no choice the day before the hearing for the restraining order I got a frantic call from my mom she was crying saying she'd heard about the hearing and begging me not to go through with it she said it would destroy the family and ruin their lives I told her they should have thought of that before they tried to steal from me and harass me and hung up the hearing itself was intense my parents and Sarah showed up with a lawyer of their own they tried to paint me

as an ungrateful troubled kid who was lashing out at his loving family but I had evidence the texts the emails the social media posts the bank records the judge saw through their act and granted the restraining order after the hearing as I was leaving the courthouse Sarah tried to approach me one last time she looked terrible like she hadn't been sleeping she started to say something about how sorry she was but then her face twisted and she spat out I hope you're happy now that you've ruined all our lives a BFF stepped in and led

her away it was the last time I saw her I've also started looking for a part-time job to help cover my living expenses it's tough balancing work in school but it feels good to be fully independent I'm determined to make it on my own I'm not going to lie it's been a tough few months there are days when I miss having a family even if it was a dysfunctional one holidays are especially hard so that's where things stand now I'm still processing everything that's happened but I'm moving forward final update it's been about a year

since my last update and I can't believe how much has changed I want to thank everyone for their continued support throughout this journey your encouragement has meant more than you know after the restraining order hearing things were quiet for a while I thought maybe my family had finally gotten the message but you know what they say about the Calm before the storm about 3 months ago I got an unexpected call from my uncle my dad's brother we'd never been close but he sounded genuinely concerned he told me that things had spiraled out of control with

my parents and Sarah apparently Sarah had gotten involved with some shady people and owed them a lot of money my parents in their Infinite Wisdom had taken out a second mortgage on the house to try to pay off her debts but it wasn't enough one night these people Sarah owed money to showed up at my parents house things got ugly my uncle didn't have all the details but he said the police were involved and my dad ended up in the hospital with a broken arm here's where it gets really messed up my parents despite everything

are still trying to protect Sarah they told the police it was just a random break-in but word got out in the family about what really happened a few days after my uncle's call I started getting messages from my parents again I unblocked them as they are still my parents big mistake they were begging me to come home saying they needed my help they even tried to guilt me by saying that if I'd just given them the money when they asked none of this would have happened can you believe it they're still trying to make this

my fault somehow I ignored their messages I've also managed to save up enough to move out of my friend's house into a better apartment in a more secure building it's a bit further from campus but worth it for the peace of mind but then Sarah showed up at my apartment ignoring the restraining order I have no idea how she found out where I live as I had moved the recently she was a mess crying begging for money saying she was in danger I told her to leave or I'd call the cops she screamed that I

was killing her and that if anything happened to her it would be my fault it was awful I called my lawyer right after that and we're in the process of extending the restraining order to include my current address I've also had to inform my landlord and Neighbors about the situation just in case Sarah or my parents try anything on top of all this drama I found out through the other family members that my parents have been telling everyone that I'm the one who got Sarah into trouble they're claiming I introduced her to these Shady people

and that I owe them money too it's complete nonsense but some relatives are believing it I've had to block a bunch of people on social media because of the hateful messages I was getting I've also made some great friends over the past year they've become like a chosen family to me we're even planning a celebration together as for the latest updates with my parents and Sarah I've heard through the grape vine that they're facing foreclosure on the house part of me feels bad for them but a bigger part knows that they brought this on themselves

I can't help but think about how different things could have been if they just respected my boundaries and treated me fairly so that's where things stand now thank you all again for your support throughout this journey I couldn't have done it without you