5 Things a Narcissist Does When They’re Alone | C.S Lewis Sermons 2025

five things a narcissist does when they're alone what truly happens when a narcissist is left alone stripped of the audience they so desperately crave beneath the surface of their carefully curated image lies a Restless tormented Soul a person who cannot bear The Silence of solitude their lives are a constant performance but when the stage lights dim and no one is watching their true nature emerges for many Solitude is an opportunity for reflection prayer and seeking God's guidance but for a narcissist being alone is a nightmare they cannot Escape it forces them to confront the emptiness

within the spiritual void that drives their every action in their desperate attempt to avoid this confrontation they turn to behaviors that not only harm themselves but also those around them today we'll explore five deeply revealing actions a narcissist engages in when left alone peeling back the layers of their Persona to expose the insecurities and Brokenness they work so hard to hide understanding these patterns is not only a tool for self- protection but also a reminder of the spiritual battle at play in our relationships let us delve into these truths with discernment seeking God's wisdom to

guide us through does this revised opening align with your expectations let me know if further refinement is needed one immersing themselves in social media for validation when left alone a narcissist's first instinct is to escape the discomfort of their own company by diving head first into the endless expanse of social media for them platforms like Instagram Facebook and YouTube are not just tools for connection but Battlegrounds where they seek to assert their dominance and feed their fragile ego behind the scenes their actions are meticulously calculated to draw attention and admiration they slide into the direct

messages of strangers disguising their desperation with charm and Charisma love bombing becomes their weapon of choice as they shower unsuspecting individuals with compliments and affection luring them into the narcissist's web of manipulation if successful this interaction provides a fleeting sense of validation a supply they are addicted to but can never truly satisfy but it doesn't stop there narcissists thrive on chaos and control and social media offers countless opportunities for both they may engage in heated arguments on comment threads not because they are passionate about the topic but because they crave the thrill of conflict the

rush of winning an online debate even one based on insults and falsehoods gives them a temporary high for some narcissist their Time online takes a darker turn they may seek out explicit content or engage in inappropriate conversations all while maintaining a facade of moral uprightness in their public life these actions highlight the stark contrast between the image they project to the world and the reality of their inner ter what drives this behavior is not mere boredom or curiosity it's a deep spiritual void The Narcissist soul is restless unable to find peace or fulfillment because they

have built their identity on a foundation of falsehoods they fear silence because it forces them to confront their insecurities shame and lack of authentic connection to God or others that is it is unnecessary and without it we lack the skills we need to respond to the weighty problems of the day it's the only substitute for insight for Christians this serves as a sobering reminder of the importance of grounding ourselves in God's truth social media while a tool for connection can also be a breeding ground for Envy deceit and Temptation narcissists exploit this space to avoid

facing their Brokenness but for believers it is a call to to guard our hearts and Minds social media the narcissist's Relentless pursuit of validation on social media reveals a profound emptiness A desperate attempt to fill a void only God can satisfy it is a reminder that no amount of likes comments or online interactions can replace the peace that comes from walking in alignment with God's purpose as we navigate our own digital lives let us stri strive to use these platforms as instruments of truth and light resisting the pull toward vanity and superficiality this Relentless need

for validation cloaked in the guise of harmless interactions exposes the true nature of a narcissist's soul they are not simply seeking attention they are running from themselves and in doing so they unknowingly distance themselves further from the healing and Redemption that only God can provide look back two violating the privacy of others when a narcissist is left alone the boundaries of decency and respect cease to exist Solitude creates an opportunity for them to indulge in one of their most invasive and destructive behaviors violating the privacy of others this isn't merely an act of curiosity it's

a deliberate strategy rooted in control Power and manip a narcissist's invasion of privacy often begins with seemingly harmless actions such as flipping through someone's journal or scrolling through messages on a phone but it doesn't stop there they dig deeper uncovering intimate details of your life that were never meant for their eyes every piece of information they gather becomes a weapon stored and ready to be used against you at a moment's notice if the narcissist is particularly indictive they may go beyond simply gathering information they might tamper with your belongings destroying sentimental items cutting up clothing

or even stealing money these acts are not driven by necessity but by a desire to instill fear and insecurity by creating chaos in your personal space they force you to question your safety and Sanity what's truly Sinister is their ability to cover their tracks when confronted a narcist will vehemently deny their actions employing gaslighting techniques to make you doubt your own reality that's not how it was they'll say you're imagining things their pathological lying is so convincing that even the most grounded person can begin to question their perception but why do they do this at

the core of these actions lies a deep spiritual Brokenness a narcissist identity is built on control over people narratives and environments violating someone's privacy allows them to feel powerful feeding their insatiable need to dominate in their minds knowledge equals power and the more they know about you the more control they believe they have for those on the receiving end of this Behavior the impact can be devastating discovering that someone has rummaged through your most private thoughts or possessions leaves you feeling exposed Ed and vulnerable it creates an atmosphere of distrust making it difficult to feel

safe even in your own home from a spiritual perspective this behavior is a reflection of the enemy's tactics just as a narcissist invades your privacy to se confusion and fear the enemy seeks to disrupt your peace and distance you from God yet as Believers we know that no Act of manipulation or deceit can withstand and the light of God's truth if you've experienced this kind of violation take heart in knowing that God sees everything no secret is hidden from him and he will bring Justice in his time Psalm 91 reminds us of God's protection he

will cover you with his feathers and under his wings you will find Refuge let this promise be your comfort and strength in the end a narcissist need to violate privacy reveal feels their own insecurities they are so consumed by their need for control that they cannot respect the boundaries of others instead of seeking healing and Redemption they double down on their destructive behaviors creating more pain and Chaos in the process for those who encounter such Behavior the key is to stand firm in your faith and trust in God's protection while a narcissist May succeed in

creating temporary turmoil they cannot touch the peace and strength that come from a heart Anchored In God's love let this be your Shield against their manipulative tactics knowing that his truth will always Prevail three running smear campaigns when left alone a narcissist doesn't use that time to reflect or grow instead they seize the opportunity to turn their focus outward seeking to damage the reputations of others particularly those closest to them this is when the infamous smear campaign begins an orchestrated effort to spread lies distortions and half truths designed to isolate their target and Elevate their

own image The Narcissist weapon of choice is gossip and Their audience can include anyone willing to listen friends family members colleagues and even mutual acquaintances with an air of feigned vulnerability they paint themselves as the victim weaving elaborate stories of betrayal mistreatment or neglect at the hands of their target the goal is simple yet devastating to destroy the reputation of the person they Envy or seek to control all while rallying others to their side these mere campaigns are meticulously planned a narcissist knows how to twist the truth omitting key details or adding embellishments that make

their target appear guilty of offenses they never committed they might knock on doors make phone calls or send private messages all in an effort to spread their narrative far and wide to the unsuspecting listener their stories might seem genuine as narcissists are skilled at masking their malicious intent behind tears charm or righteous indignation but what motivates this Behavior at the heart of a smear campaign is envy a consuming jealousy of the target's relationships achievements or character rather than seeking to build something of value in their own lives narcissists choose to tear others down their insecurity

drives them to attack those they perceive as threats often those who embody the qualities they lack Integrity kindness or success from a spiritual perspective smear campaigns reflect a deeper battle between truth and deception narcissists operate in the realm of Lies much like the enemy who is described as the father of Lies their tactics aim to sew Discord and confusion creating division where there was once Unity this Behavior mirrors the biblical warning about those who spread Strife among brothers and sisters a trait God detests for the victim the impact of a smear campaign can be overwhelming

losing the trust of loved ones being misunderstood or feeling ostracized can create a profound sense of isolation yet it's in these moments of vulnerability that Faith becomes a Lifeline when others turn away God remains steadfast his truth is unshakable and his Justice is uniring to those navigating The Fallout of a narcissist smear campaign remember this God's opinion of you is what truly matters while the world may believe the lies God sees your heart and knows the truth his word assures us that no weapon formed against us will prosper and every tongue that rises in judgment

will be condemn The Narcissist May gain temporary satisfaction from their deceit but their actions ultimately expose their own emptiness they thrive on chaos because it distracts them from their inner turmoil but no amount of Destruction can fill the void within them for Christians this serves as a call to respond with Grace and Truth while it's natural to feel anger or sadness in the face of false accusations we are reminded to trust in God's justice as Romans 12:19 teaches do not take revenge my dear friends but leave room for God's Wrath for it is written it

is mine to avenge I will repay by anchoring ourselves in faith we can rise above the lies and maintain our integrity let the narcissists actions serve as a reminder of the importance of standing firm in truth and trusting that God will vindicate his children in his perfect timing though their smear campaigns may cause pain they cannot touch the peace that comes from a heart aligned with God four reconnecting with old sources of Supply when narcissists find themselves isolated unable to secure new attention or validation they often Retreat a familiar territory reconnecting with old sources of

Supply these are individuals they once manipulated Charmed or controlled and who may still carry emotional ties to them often through trauma bonds this Behavior reveals their inability to cope with Solitude as they desperately cling to anyone who can momentarily fill the void they so deeply fear for the narcissist these old sources could be ex Partners former friends or even acquaintances who once admired them the narcissist reaches out under the guise of vulnerability portraying themselves as victims of their current circumstances I've been struggling they might say or I don't know who else to turn to these

emotional appeals are designed to rekindle sympathy pulling the unsuspecting person back into their orbit male narcissist IST s in particular often turn to their mothers who may have enabled their behavior from the start this Dynamic is disturbingly codependent the mother seeing her son as an extension of herself offers unconditional support no matter how distructive his actions may be she becomes his ultimate enabler providing comfort and validation while reinforcing his entitlement then losing the Sheep it's as if the narcissist verts to being a child seeking refuge in the arms of someone who will never hold them

accountable the lengths to which a narcissist will go to reconnect with old sources of Supply can be extreme they might call text or show up unannounced weaving stories of hardship and woe to elicit compassion but their intentions are far from Pure these encounters are not about genuine reconciliation or growth they are about exploitation The Narcissist doesn't want a relationship they want control this Behavior underscores their spiritual emptiness instead of seeking healing through repentance or turning to God for Renewal they seek to fill their void with human attention and manipulation it's a temporary fix for a

permanent problem leaving them just as Hollow as before for those who find themselves on the receiving end of these manipulative tactics The Experience can be confusing and and emotionally draining the narcissist words may seem heartfelt their actions genuine but these gestures are often nothing more than a ploy to regain dominance as Christians it's crucial to recognize this pattern and guard our hearts scripture reminds us to be Discerning to test the spirits and to seek wisdom in our relationships while compassion is a Cornerstone of our faith it does not mean in enabling destructive Behavior there is

a difference between offering forgiveness and allowing someone to repeatedly harm you reconnecting with old sources of Supply is not just a practical act for The Narcissist it's a spiritual Act of desperation their refusal to face their own Brokenness leads them to use others as mirrors reflecting back the image they want to see but these Reflections are fleeting and false of offering no real substance or healing for believers this is a call to remember where true fulfillment comes from unlike the narcissist who seeks validation in the wrong places we are called to seek God's presence he

alone can fill the void within us offering a peace that surpasses all understanding when faced with the narcissist's attempt to reenter your life stand firm in your faith pray for wisdom and strength to set boundaries that protect your spirit remember that God's love is not manipulative or self-serving it is pure unconditional and lifegiving let his love guide your actions and trust that he will provide the clarity you need to navigate these challenges in the end the narcissists need to reconnect with old sources of Supply as a reflection of their own unhealed wounds it is a

cycle of emptiness driven by fear and insecurity while they may never break free from this pattern you have the power to step away and seek the wholeness that only God can provide trust in his plan and let his light guide you out of the Shadows of manipulation and into the Peace of his truth five escaping through substances and Fantasies when left alone a n narcissist's greatest battle begins not with the world but with themselves the Solitude they face becomes a mirror reflecting the depth of their insecurities shame and emptiness to avoid confronting their true selves

they often turn to substances and Fantasies as a form of escape this Behavior reveals the profound inner turmoil they carry and their inability to find peace within their own soul sub substances such as alcohol or drugs become a means of numbing the pain of their fragmented identity for a narcissist these substances provide temporary relief from the feelings they are desperate to avoid inadequacy self-loathing and the weight of their own Brokenness drinking heavily or using drugs allows them to dull their awareness of these emotions creating a false sense of euphoria yet this fleeting Escape only deepens

their disconnection from reality and God's truth equally damaging is their Reliance on fantasies narcissists often indulge in unrealistic idealized visions of themselves or their relationships this can manifest in consuming adult content or engaging in imaginary scenarios that reinforce their grandio self- picture these fantasies are carefully constructed to avoid vulnerability in their minds they are Untouchable flawless and Powerful qualities they cannot authentically embody in real life this Reliance on fantasies also explains their struggles with genuine intimacy to be truly close to someone requires vulnerability honesty and emotional connection traits that narcissists fear and reject instead they

Retreat into their imagined worlds where they can control the narrative and avoid the discomfort of being truly seen their fantasies become a safe haven where they can escape the reality of their flawed Humanity at the root of these behaviors is a deep spiritual crisis narcissists avoid Solitude because it forces them to confront the truth they are broken disconnected and in need of healing yet rather than turning to God the only source of true restoration they seek counterfeit Solutions in the form of substances and Fantasies these temporary fixes might offer a momentary Escape but they cannot

fill the void within for Christians this Behavior serves as a powerful reminder of the dangers of turning to the wrong sources for fulfillment the enemy often tempts us with easy solutions things that promise immediate relief but ultimately lead us further away from God just as the narcissist numbs their pain with substances or fantasies we too can fall into the Trap of seeking comfort in things that cannot truly satisfy if you've encountered a narcissist engaging in this Behavior it's essential to understand that their actions are not about you they are about their own internal struggles their

substance use and Reliance on fantasies are symptoms of a deeper issue their refusal to face the truth of who they are and the healing they need as Believers we are called to pray for those who are lost even as we protect our own Hearts from their destructive behaviors scripture reminds us that God is near to the Brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit while the narcissist May reject this truth it remains a Beacon of Hope for anyone willing to surrender their pain to him for those struggling with the aftermath of a narcissist Behavior

take comfort in knowing that God is your Refuge while the narcissist May seek Escape in temporary fixes you have access to a peace that surpasses all understanding a peace found only in the presence of God in the end the narcissist Reliance on substances and Fantasies is a futile attempt to escape their own shadow they may run but they cannot hide from the truth of their Brokenness for Christians this is a reminder of the importance of anchoring our identity in Christ who offers not just Escape but true Freedom his grace is sufficient to heal even the

deepest wounds and restore what has been broken let his his love guide you as you navigate these challenges knowing that his light can dispel even the darkest Shadows the life of a narcissist though often hidden behind a mask of charm and confidence is a tragic portrait of spiritual emptiness their behaviors in solitude seeking validation through social media invading others privacy running smear campaigns exploiting old connections and escaping into substances and Fantasies reflect a desperate attempt to avoid the truth of their Brokenness beneath their facade lies a heart Restless fearful and disconnected from the peace and

purpose that only God can provide for those who have endured the chaos of a narcissist's actions it's important to remember that their behavior is not a reflection of your worth but of their inner void their manipulation and destruction may leave scars but those scars are not your identity your identity is rooted in the unwavering love of a God who heals restores and redeems let this be a moment to reflect not only on the pain caused by narcissistic behavior but also on the power of God's truth to overcome it his light shines through even the darkest

Shadows revealing that no lie no smear no betrayal is stronger than his love and Justice to everyone reading this take Heart You are not alone in this battle God sees your struggle hears your prayers and walks with you every step of the way surrender your pain to him for his hands are mighty to save and his grace is sufficient to heal if this message spoke to you take a step of faith and write I rest in God's truth in the comments below let it be a declaration of your trust in his plan and a reminder

that no matter the trials his love will always Prevail together let us seek his guidance Embrace his peace and walk boldly in the light of his truth