After a sexual relationship, your spirits are now together | How to break soul-ties with your EX

[Music] with that said let me introduce my guest uh he is a motivational speaker he's also a marriage therapist or at least a life coach and his name is bogwa mumbi kuribusana to the show sandy senna good to have you thank you we want to talk about the power of soul ties and the truth is a lot of people i think we've heard this phrase but maybe they don't fully understand what we mean by a soul tie so maybe you can go ahead and just define that for us thank you joyce i'm glad being here

um if you look at the fresh soul type probably in the ritual sons of those two words it's like tying knitting interwoven two souls together joining so soul ties refers to a bond a very strong board that exists between two people who've had a relationship that is just built physical another spiritual aspect of it is clearly evident or the spiritual aspect of it so there is that relationship of boarding between two persons in terms of relationships that is much much deeper than just the physical aspects that we see how is a soul tie developed though

because there's plenty of people who are in relationships but i don't think everybody would claim that that person they're in a relationship with is their soul tie interestingly we seem to think that soul ties are only sexual there's several ways through which soul ties can be created for example by birth the fact that i have a father a mother or my close siblings already we have soul ties or through intimate relationship develop over for example business relationships entrepreneurship if probably we have a business that will partner in over time our relationship may go beyond just

the physical it could also be vows that we make but the deepest and probably the most ever rusting soul ties are sexualities because these two spirits have a very very deep connectivity intimacy and therefore they're likely to last longer and have more emotional power or attraction towards the parties involved and yeah and i think generally usually i think most people who've heard of soul ties almost always hear it within that context of it being a sexual activity that has bonded two people together yes but even with that then it is usually with a a negative

connotation um having a soul tied to someone is often perceived as a negative thing i don't think i've ever heard anybody you know say it's a sultan and celebrate that they have a soul tie to someone because we're always talking about breaking a soul tie so that someone can move on in their next relationship or you know heal from a heart from whatever relationship they had with someone so maybe you can explain that further thank you joyce i am married i have a family i have a wife clearly we have soul ties between my wife

and myself this is not negative it is positive it helps us to become one if you use a glute to to to to put together these two pieces of paper because we can use this to try and demonstrate what a sultan is okay the relationship between my wife and my child has been glued together in fact in that book great book they see the two become one so it's not always that solitary is or negative absolutely not but of course if the ties between the two parties are not um helping them to grow or develop

or are not beneficial then certainly they are negative for example if they are married and i have a relationship with somebody else and this is clearly not my wife and ultimately this relationship may this soul ties raw for me affect my marriage or relationship with my wife adversely in fact it's important for example for us to speak from the sexual perspective and say that every time you have sex with a with another person you get marriage to them you get strongly bonded to them and if this is not going to be your marriage partner it

is most likely that over time this relationship may not be productive um it becomes very difficult at some point to try and break this relationship that you may not want to continue with at some point in your life which because when the two are bonded together and the two become one ultimately when you want to separate what happens you realize that um [Music] parts of either of these two parts will be left on the other part it becomes very difficult to wholly separate the two um but of course there are ways in which ultimately you

can set yourself free of a soul tie that is not productive in your relationship with the other person i want us to talk about how then people can set themselves free from that because a lot of times even on the show we get questions um along the lines of you know i broke up with someone years ago we were sexually active and we were together but we broke up years ago now i'm married to someone else but i'm still thinking about my ex or you know every time my ex texts me then suddenly you know

you feel confused about so how does one fix that how do you because as you're saying when you're with someone yes you're right your parts of you are going to be left with that person and parts of them will be left in you so when that relationship doesn't work out and you're moving on how do you clean up so that you don't have to carry and imagine if you've been with 10 people right so you just have pieces of this person that person and you're taking them into your new relationship so how do you clean

up so that you are as i don't know what word to use but let me just say as ready as presentable for your current relationship this one that you want to stick to okay and the reason that probably i i'm still feeling strongly about a person i even hate or a person that we probably parted 10 20 years ago is because whereas probably we may have separated the physical aspect the spiritual aspect is not separated as yet the soul ties the soul the two souls are still joined together because for example if you had had

a sexual relationship with this person literally your spirits are now together when we were in school we used in to do some practical um [Music] part in chemistry called distillation it's separating two miscible liquids that are totally you know mixed up so until an unrest by the way you address the aspect of the spiritual connection it would be very very difficult for you to fully separate but the beginning point is that number one every soul tie started with a physical relationship greetings items exchanged and the first part is to try and do those items honestly

for example they bought you something try to either return it or put it away from you and tear it so that they do not act as physical reminders of this relationship um if there is a spiritual relationship trust me then you need to have a spiritual approach to try and break it i know christian spiritual relations i know i know i i know christians will talk about deliverance being prayed so that you pray about this situation so that you delivered but um from a cultural perspective especially in sexual relationships sexual relationships there is a spiritual

ceremony and i'm sure almost every tribe has that that ought to be performed for the separation of these two spirits for the distillation of these two spirits it may differ from one culture to another but sometimes until that is done you may realize by the way your mind keeps widering or diverting towards that person and that is why for example you may have had a sexual relationship with someone in college 20 years back and you meet on the street 20 years later just by seeing them on the street something in you is aroused and trust

me you feel like you want to have sex with them again even if you're married and so on and so forth so so um number one for example if it was just it's something that is you paint about you need to forgive the past you need to forgive that person so that spiritually that negativity that you've been you know carrying on or holding in your life can be dissipated if there are um vowels that you made for example um vowels like um i will never have another man you're the only person i'll always be there

for you those are vowels that also need to be recanted because you know our words are also spiritual and they have life so that those are some of the ways through which you can be able to to really separate yourself from these um soul ties interesting yes um the the truth is though in today's day and age yes sex is no longer something that people reserve for their spouses like within marriage um a lot of people are very open about moving around with different partners sleeping around with different people um some even like just to

raise money for themselves you know the sponsor culture has become very prevalent so you know this show has a lot of young viewers too what would you say to them then considering you're saying that a huge portion of soul ties are physical and the sexual ones specifically are some of the most powerful um united as far as spiritual i mean soul ties are concerned so what would you say to young people then considering the culture in which we live in today in spite of our lifestyles today we mean we need to speak and say the

truth you see the law of gravity will never change if a baby punches up on the fifth floor of a building and they accidentally fall not with studying their ignorance that they do not understand the law the force of gravity they will die what you have said it is very very true and that is why because choices have consequences you can see the turmoil you can see the misery that the world is going through the families are going through the 10 people going through is the result of breach of the truth you have sex one

ear with 20 partners you'll be confused you'll be depressed you may ultimately become insane because these are different spirits that are trying to cohabitate in one building one house called your body yeah and they're very diverse so the truth is the truth is this yeah you can have as many partners as you want you can have sex with 10 20 people but be prepared of the consequences so what is my message to ourselves let me tell you this the rule of morality has never changed because god will never change will never change yeah so please

engage in these practices that are immoral but be ready to suffer the consequences and the truth about consequences is that they may not necessarily happen to you right now yes because i think a lot of people look around and see oh but i'm seeing all these people who've become famous because of selling their bodies or they're now living large they're flying off you know on holiday internationally they don't look like they're suffering any consequences by you then saying it's not necessarily that the consequences will manifest right now but at some point every action does have

a consequence whether it's public or private there's going to be something that someone will have to deal with because i think a lot of young people are conflicted because they see a lot of immoral behavior we're glorifying it in music we're glorifying it in in our videos in what we watch and we're not seeing those consequences so it's very confusing for la for young people but maybe you can comment on that as your final word if you saw a seed of a plant that eventually would have bonds you don't see this bonds when the seed

just germinates probably when it is just a seedling but ultimately it may grow into a big tree that has a lot of funds yeah if you were all keen to look at those celebrities who are living large today and those who have lived large in the past you can clearly see some of them today suffering some of them have died we have an unlimited number of examples so ultimately one day you will suffer your consequences and that is why it is very important for us to have a vision and think long term in terms of

our life long term in terms of for example i don't want to die young and i know i know um the kind of habits that would probably shorten my life yeah so these celebs sometimes if we use them as our role models can be very very confusing and it can be relief for in the long term right so i think it is very important for us to have a vision of the kind of life that we want absolutely in fact the thing is one of the biggest challenges that we have today is we are being

very wildly and being ordered means we are conforming to the patterns of the majority in the world but the truth is that the majority in the world more often are wrong so we need some personal have your own spa absolutely and stand for your own values yes great well thank you so much from bogue mumbi for coming through to the show i see you have a book there maybe you can tell us about it very quickly oh yeah um is this a book you've authored there's a booking for that i'm an inspirational author of dan

four books okay my first and bestselling book is called excuse me your dream is calling by the i'm a former straight boy brought up in a family of 11 kids not that my father ever seen but i started dreaming very hard when in class five has dreamt of be working in the bank and actually became a banker then resigned to pursue my own you know passion in life all right yes so how can people get this book and how can they reach you very good if i could kind of give my cell phone number or

seven two three nine four two nine two nine or seven two three nine four two nine times two nine sorry or you can also go to my um facebook page or my website boogamombit.co.ke okay on my youtube channel boogamombeetv thank you so much thank you for coming through and uh guys be sure to follow him on social media and contact him should you wish to purchase his book with that said we need to take a short break now but coming up next we're going to be looking at some of the latest fashion trends this is

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