Stop comparing yourself to others.

hello my angels and welcome back to my channel I got this sport from no other reason than being overly dramatic okay because what's screaming more drama than just having a board where you write your messages on to let's get into it one of the question I get asked by you so many times is how to stop comparing yourself because you see all of those beautiful women or men online and you compare yourself to them you think oh my God they're so beautiful I am not enough oh my God they are making so much money they

are driving such cars they have so 10 years later I don't have that I don't have this I don't have this I want what they have so I'm here okay to cure your comparative problem to help you find a way out of this you have to realize that first beauty is always in the eye of the beholder okay think of the most beautiful person for you right now I don't know who it is maybe your mother or maybe a celebrity but the person you think is the most beautiful is not the most beautiful for everyone

like your own sister your own friend could say oh yeah they are beautiful but they are not the most beautiful for me so beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder beauty is subjective everyone finds something else beautiful this is why it's so unnecessary to compare your own Beauty to the beauty of someone one else because there's Beauty in everything okay in everything I have this flower analogy that I often used and it's like when you go into a flower shop okay you see tons of beautiful flowers you see roses you see tulips you see

peonies whatever okay and you think oh my God they are all beautiful you don't say oh my God yeah the rose is beautiful and her beauty makes the beauty of the two lip less beautiful that's not how you think so why do you think that just because someone else else is beautiful and is existing and sharing that beauty that it's going to make you less beautiful that's not the way that's not the truth that's your insecurities telling you that you are not good enough you have inside of yourself cannot be fought by doing external things

huge trigger warning when I was younger I was having an eating disorder and I was thinking okay when I have this special weight I will feel beautiful this is the only thing thing that I have to do to feel beautiful and then you know I reached this weight and I was like okay I don't feel beautiful body why don't I feel beautiful like what's going on in my brain I thought this was like the missing piece to my confidence when it was not it was not the missing piece because the insecurity was Within Myself I

didn't feel secure in my body I didn't think that my body was beautiful and therefore I set myself up a goal and I said okay if you hit that goal this is when you feel happy same thing goes for everything else like some people think okay if I have this amount of money I will be happy if I have this Chanel back I will be happy if I have this car I will be happy no these are external things and it's beautiful to own things that you like okay but these things are not going to

be the solution for your inner problems and your inner struggles so instead for reaching things on this outside world on this reality around you ask yourself why do I feel this way why do I feel the need to compare myself did my parents compare me to my siblings or to other kids all the time or am I just very very insecure about my looks because I got bullied or because I don't feel comfortable Within Myself what is the reason thing is and I always see people doing this it happened to me as well when I

started YouTube okay I got so many comments oh my God you are like this Creator oh my God this Creator is better than you or you are better than this Creator or this Creator blah blah blah why do you feel the need to compare two individuals with each other and it's not only about social media this happens for a lot of artists as well okay or singers songwriters whatever that the people take two of them and they put them onto like an invisible stage and they say oh yeah this Creator or this singer is so

much better than them why why you don't need to compare two individuals with each other it's unnecessary both have a soul to express okay and the way I can express my soul no one else can do this for me like I can express my soul a way another Creator does because they are themselves and I am me the same goes for singers or songwriters like you guys need to stop comparing people with each other and putting them into an invisible contest against each other because it's at some point I was like oh my God am

I competing with them because it made me feel as if I was competing with them when in fact I was not like I am not competing with anyone when I see the success of someone else I think to myself I'm happy for you then I focus on myself back you know the more you stop comparing two individuals with each other the more you stop comparing yourself with another person because this whole comparison thing is not going to stop until you realize that every soul Has Its Right to exist and every soul Has Its Right to

express itself and to show the beauty whether it's physical beauty or it's I don't know internal beauty but every soul has the right to and you need to stop comparing two individuals just to say that they are better or they are better they don't care and at the end of the day there is nothing to compare to because you can't compare a cat to a dog you know they both have very unique qualities they both have different characteristics and the same same goes for humans every human being is their own unique self seriously Sal she's

shy Salem what you also need to realize is that this a beauty this physical beauty is the least interesting thing about you okay we are all going to age aging is a privilege aging is beautiful but at some point we will be old and our aut beauty is not going to be as it is in our 20s anymore it doesn't matter how much Botox we try to get or something it's not going to be the same okay it's it's going to be different and when you focus your whole life on being beautiful external but you

never developed internal things to feel beautiful or to give Beauty to the world this is when you're going to feel so lonely and you're going to feel like as you have nothing to give anymore I observed this when I was in high school okay people who were very popular and very beautiful this is just my observation okay I'm not trying to make this into like a stereotype but my observation the people who were very beautiful and popular they never focused on anything else besides being beautiful and popular they never had really interests they never read

a book they never had really Hobbies so after their High School peak when they got into their trains they didn't know who they are because they never developed anything else like an interest worked on the humor or and anything else they can give to the world so if you are not doing the inner work if you don't have anything else to focus on besides your other Beauty you're not going to be beautiful for yourself and not for others because you are beautiful to look at yes people will look at you they will say oh my

God what a beautiful person and then they will go on with their life but the people who really stuck to my memory these are the ones who made me feel something the ones who motivated me the ones who made me feel seen heard and Loved These are not the people who were the most beautiful I see beautiful people a lot I think to myself oh wow beautiful person and I move on with my day that's it focus on the skills you can develop to feel more beautiful to bring more Beauty into other people's life to

be a good person to help other people everyone can contribute something okay everyone comparison kills art it kills creativity it kills your whole soul no one else's Beauty can take away a part of your own Beauty okay your beauty is going to exist nonetheless and no one can take this away from you no one but yourself if you choose to take your own Beauty away from you by thinking that another person is more beautiful than you and I feeling so bad about the fact that you think you subjectively think that this person is better than

you this is when you sabotage yourself just imagine like some of the world's great greatest artist okay like van go and stuff they say I don't I don't make art anymore because there's I don't know the Vinci and he makes so much better art just imagine okay imagine that the all these people these famous people artists singers whatever decided to not do what they love anymore or to not show themselves up to the world anymore because there's already someone better there's already someone doing it there's already someone who's more beautiful it doesn't matter you could

be the most beautiful most talented person for someone but you are not going to believe that you are beautiful and you are worthy and you are talented unless you believe it yourself like the amount of people who told me things about myself when I was still struggling with myself I thought they they would lie to me they said things to me and I was like this is a lie there's no way that this person can think that I thought they were like making things up until I realized oh my God I don't believe them because

I don't believe myself and if I don't believe myself to be beautiful to be talented to be successful there is no amount of people on the outside who can convince me otherwise why do you give out so much energy to the external world people comment on my videos sometimes they're like oh my God you live in your like your own reality yes I do I do because I said that when I cut someone off they don't exist for me anymore they are dead to me and and someone commented you live in your own reality this

is delusional yes I do live in my own reality because I am allowed to and in my reality I feel good about myself I love myself and I can love others as well and then I I can find them beautiful as well but their beauty doesn't take anything away from me this is my reality you get to create your reality if you get to create your reality full of jealous or Envy thoughts this is what you're going to attract and I don't say that jealousy or Envy are bad feelings because there are no bad emotions

okay all emotions have a right to exist in the ones who are very negatively connotated okay but I say I don't say repress this emotion or act like you are never jealous or just like suppress it I say acknowledge this emotion and turn it into something else so when you feel jealous now or you feel this feeling of comparing yourself to someone go against your first instinct you go to that person and you tell them you are beautiful this is nothing you would normally do you would May me think okay it's going to make me

feel even less beautiful but now what you are going to do is you create a new neuronal pathway for your brain to associate this feeling with this feeling of giving something positive to somebody and getting their gratitude in return and when some people try to put you into competition with someone like they did to me all the time don't accept that like if you can't remove yourself from the situation at all because that's what I do just say to them oh yeah this person is beautiful this person is so talented I'm so happy that you

acknowledge that and that you see that and yeah they can be beautiful and talented on their own you know I don't know why you are bringing them up make them feel dumb make them feel as if their comparison of you to another person is totally out of place because there's no need of you to be envious or to feel jealous because you actually you you like other people being beautiful or successful you are not in competition with them so people come to me sometimes and they tell me like oh my God your ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend

is so ugly and I think oh do you think that H okay why do you think that she's beautiful for someone you know everyone is beautiful for someone every being even the ones you think oh my God this person is ugly this music is ugly this artist is ugly someone on this world sees Beauty in it and that's really the key to Beauty you have to see the beauty in the whole world in order to see it in yourself if you don't pick up a flower and you see the beauty in it if you don't

observe animals and you don't see the beauty of it if you don't eat fruits and see the beauty of a fruit how are you supposed to find the beauty in you you need to see the beauty in the easy things okay like the whole universe with all of the galaxies and stars and planets you are a part of the this universe you are not just an observer like a part that was taken away to this planet to observe it all you are a part of this universe the same being the same God the same universe

whatever you believe in that created the stars and milky ways and galaxies created you your existence alone is beautiful Your Existence alone the fact that you are here on Earth and you can exist and you can express yourself and you are individually unique it's beautiful there is no other being like you even if you have a twin they are not like you because your soul is what makes you unique okay only need to do mirror work you need to stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself you are so beautiful I'm so thankful

that you're here I love you so much thank you for always being there for me thank you for I don't know okay talk to yourself and look at yourself while saying these things and have this feeling of gratitude of oh my God I I love this person that I'm seeing in the mirror right now I really love her or him or whatever I love this person with my whole heart before you give all your love away to someone else who's maybe not even appreciating it give that love to yourself always refocus on yourself okay always

refocus on on yourself if you feel that you are focusing too much on someone else in a negative way and it makes you feel bad refocus on yourself the only thing you can control is your response to the external things and the only thing you can control is how you choose to react and if you teach your brain because you have to be the master of your brain this is what really happens you have to be the master of your brain If you teach your brain that it's first instinct of feeling jealous of feeling envious

because these are like human instincts is wrong and it's not going to make you act on that on the long run your brain will realize this and you going to react differently than you did before or than you do now you are teaching your brain how to deal with these situations and every time you try to react in a positive way is another vote for the new you you are going to create for the higher being of yourself but also every time you're going to react in a negative way it's also a vote for the

negative part of you what you focus on multiplies okay so you want to focus on positive reactions positive feelings positive selft talk thank you for watching my video guys I love you and take care of you she loves me I love her as well I can't kiss her because I have a lip gloss on my lips would be full of hair can be something so cute angry that I can't kiss her I'm going to remove my lip gloss yeah bye