O Poder da Empatia (Animações RSA) - Dr Brené Brown

[Music] so what is empathy and why is it very different than sympathy empathy fuels connection sympathy drives disconnection empathy it's very interesting Teresa wisman is a nursing scholar who studied professions very diverse professions where empathy is relevant and came up with four qualities of empathy perspective taking the ability to take the perspective of another person or or recognize their perspective as their truth staying out of judgment not easy when you enjoy it as much as most of us do recognizing emotion in other people and then communicating that empathy is feeling with people and to me

I always think of empathy as this kind of Sacred Space when someone's kind of in a deep hole and they shout out from the bottom and they say I'm stuck it's dark I'm overwhelmed and then we look and we say hey climb down I know what it's like down here and you're not alone sympathy is oo it's bad uh-huh uh no you want a sandwich um empathy is a choice and it's a vulnerable choice because in order to connect with you I have to to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling rarely if

ever does an empathic response begin with at least I had a yeah and we do it all the time because you know what someone just shared something with us that's incredibly painful and we're trying to Silver Lining it I don't think that's a verb but I'm using it as one we're trying to put the Silver Lining around it so I had a miscarriage oh at least know you can get pregnant I think my marriage is falling apart at least you have a marriage John's getting kicked out of school at least Sarah is an a student

but one of the things we do sometimes in the face of very difficult conversations is we try to make things better if I share something with you that's very difficult I'd rather you say I don't even know what to say right now I'm just so glad you told me because the truth is rarely can a response make something better what makes something better is connection [Music]