Michael Singer - The Essence of the Spiritual Path

gig G masteris the essence of the deep teachings really just the complete turning point of your life is as follows if things are not well inside you're not comfortable you have needs you feel defensive just you're not comfortable inside you're going to want to do something about it I'm sure you've noticed that there's two things you can do about it and they are night and day different but it takes time to make a transition one you can let your mind tell you and it will what needs to happen for you to feel better what needs

to happen for the pain to stop what needs to happen for you to get what you want it will scream it will yell it will throw Tantrums you will not be able to stop it have you noticed has anyone noticed okay and the more that you're uncomfortable the more it does that and what it will always do is tell you what has to happen outside of you now or in the future in order to make this better period they will always do that okay fine what it tells you to do I'm interest it we're all

different it tells you different things you've got different patterns in there and so on we can talk talk about that later the alternative is not that you don't have disturbance because you do the alternative is not that it's not comfortable because it's not you can't make believe it's something it's not that's just suppression that's meaningless Can't Hide You got to do a truth but the alternative to what do I do to make this feel better what do I need what should I get what do I say what can I do yell scream run something fight

or flight they say that don't they okay you do that inside the alternative is why is this bothering me not what do I do about the fact that it's bothering me that is the entire difference between what they call a worldly life which I'm not using that about money or a derogatory term it just means a life that you think the solution is outside of you it's about somebody saying they're sorry you're winning the lottery that'll do it I need a vacation that'll do it I need to change my relationship that'll do it I need

to change my job that'll do it it's going to tell you something outside of you to try to compensate for the fact that you're not comfortable the alternative and it's very rare right but you all are learning people write me all the time I see they're struggling to learn this the alternative is to say why am I not okay and your immediate response but you all are too wise for that is to say because I haven't found a new job in other words the reason I'm not okay is I haven't found what will compensate for

the fact that I'm not okay that's why I'm not okay I'm not okay I need a cigarette I'm not okay I need a drink that's not why you're not okay you want the cigarette you want the drink you want the joint you want the vacation you want to change jobs you want a new relationship because you're not okay you were not okay first that was an attempted solution or compensation for the fact that you might feel better if this were to happen that is a vast difference that is the essence of the difference that will

guide your life the other alternative is not to say what do I do about it it's why is it this way why did I get bothered by this all right and the answer is not well anybody would okay I look at his tone or my mother used to talk to me like that of course bothers me you see what I'm saying you're basically saying it's the outside that's causing the problem therefore the outside is the solution the other is to say why am I not okay why did this bother me and you finally reach the

state of witness Clarity to sit there and say I was not okay first and I'll clue you in I was not okay yesterday also before this person said that it just wasn't activated it's been in there I used to ask people I don't work what I want any Wass When anybody but I would if I challenge them I would sit there and say are you telling me you never felt this ever before in your life this fear this anxiety this defensiveness well no okay it was in there to start with this is just what stimulated

it so the question is now what do I do about to offset the fact that I'm carrying this inside of me a Target my stuff got hit how's that it's why do I have stuff in there that change in attitude of what do I do about it to do why is it happening that's the difference of a spiritual life and a worldly life if you are bothered there are two directions you can go one is what do I do about it the other is why is it happening I can't make it any clearer that's what

it means to grow spiritually you that doesn't mean you're not going to get hit it doesn't mean you're not going to slip right and defend yourself and carry on but when you come back you uhoh I just did something to try and push it away and try to what do I do about it I went in the direction of what do I do about it this is bothering me because he forgot my anniversary or she forgot the anniversary and it really bothered me last year and the year before I can't handle what happens again what

do I do about it I could leave little reminders around the house I could have somebody call them and remind them why are you being so quiet because you do this stuff you hear me it's be it doesn't even that it got hit you don't want it to get hit so what you're doing all the time is I'm either bothered I'm afraid of being bothered I I got bothered before I don't want it to happen again what do I do about it as opposed to why why does it bother me that he forgets the anniversary

why did it bother me last year why did it bother me it's a day there's a day there's 365 of them well well it's the day you got married it's also a day you got born it's the day you had an operation all kinds of things happen every single day what are you doing with this right now let's understand what it means instead of asking what do I do about I show you do about it make sure he's reminded do this do that some hint do something right just make sure you protect yourself right as

opposed to why am I this way why is it that way and what you're going to see is because you don't feel loved in that particular situation you're not sure somebody loves you you're not sure that you're accepted you're not sure you're pleasing somebody and you've said that for God's sakes if I'm married to somebody and they love me they're going to remember the anniversary of course they are right well what if you feel loved what if you feel so loved that you never even think about it you're the one who forgets it you're so

filled with love for your whole relationship for the person to come home you're so excited to going to come home that you don't even know what day it is you're intoxicated with which one you want to try and make sure nothing happens to hit your stuff or find out why you have stuff that's what it means to work inside instead of outside if you work outside you may succeed you may not and usually it'll work a little bit and it won't really work remember the anniversary but then the next day here what about the day

wait a minute some people start celebrating five days before the anniversary some people will say oh this is our anniversary really you've been together a year No 3 days it's our 3-day anniversary and that person is very insecure and I hope he here she remembers it okay which would you rather have that you temporarily manipulate the world outside of you people plac and things so that you feel a little bit better inside or that you always feel fine inside because you got rid of the reason that you're so weird there's nothing wrong with having universary

nothing wrong with going nice and all this kind of stuff right but it's a trap and that doesn't mean you shouldn't respect the anniversary it doesn't mean it's not about doing and not doing it's not about the outside world it's about how you're doing inside and are you using every moment of your life to find out why you are such a problem are you a problem come on all right is there a problem in there are you sensitive do you get hit does anybody ever get defensive does anybody ever feel defense defensiveness come up inside

and make its way out yes or no the ego will always be defensive it will now fight or fight why one defensiveness maybe you know fighting don't you dare say that good away from me blah blah blah right the other is you run away that's defending yourself also is making sure that stuff doesn't get hit okay ego's always defensive one way or the other why now we can go down to have a deep talk why is it that way in there I'm going to keep saying not what do I do about it not how can

I protect it why do you want to protect that stuff in there you hear me do you think you win if you're defensive and somebody oh okay I'm sorry I shouldn't say anything you lost you defended your defensiveness therefore you will have it even stronger next time and if you sit there and say I like it that way then I don't know why you're here all right because you're welcome to go out there there's nothing wrong with it until you wake up and realize it doesn't work but it felt better yeah but you kept it

you kept it and you'll be sensitive about that person you'll be sensitive about that subject you'll be sensitive about the situation that happened you understand you'll remember it because you kept it you decided to keep it the spiritual path is I don't want to keep it I'm not done yet I guarantee that but I want I told you if you're growing spiritually when you wake up in the morning every single morning you are a different person that woke up yesterday morning why cuz one more thing you didn't defend one more thing you didn't grab for

one more thing just one tiny one you didn't try to compensate for the problem you have inside yourself the problem is not the other person the problem is never the other person who taught you that we're coming into Christmas basically you start off with what does it mean to not defend yourself but did Christ say forgive them Lord for they know what they do not my will but that will net result is there's this Time After Time After Time After Time that he showed it is not about defending yourself it is not about getting for

yourself is about letting go of yourself and he specifically said he must die to be reborn that's what it means you have to be willing to let go of who you think you are who you're busy being who you're busy defending who you're busy protecting and getting and all this junk who you're busy compensating for how's that I have a problem therefore you have a problem my my problem is your problem I'm senstive about this subject watch it I don't like to forget my anniversary you're on thin eyes baby all right my problem became your

problem why because you're supposed to compensate I'm trying to compensate for my problem and that means protecting myself defending myself manipulating the world around me so that it doesn't bother me and that is how I'm supposed to be okay fine be like that until you catch on that it doesn't work how do I know it doesn't work work because you've been doing it every day of your life for your entire life didn't you I'm going to behave really really special so I get the toy I want for Christmas I going to really suck up to

Mommy and Daddy and show how good I am so in other words I'm compensating and manipulating the world because I'm not okay I'm not okay with the toys I have I'm not okay with the way parents treat me I'm not okay with my friends I'm not okay in high school nobody's okay because the ego is getting built and everybody's busy building that thing all right H I hope you see and so you're not okay you know the the ones that are most popular they're not okay they're busy being popular and if somebody doesn't respect them

they don't like them they get away from them said it's just come on you know the game all right let's let's cold shoulder them we say not being the way I want them to be you try to manipulate the world so that you feel more comfortable inside can anybody relate to that you try to manipulate the world so you don't feel worse you're going to repeat that that's the essence of the outer life I'm going to manipulate the world so the moments I'm folding in front of me make me more comfortable and I'm going to

manipulate the world so the moments I'm folding in front of me do not make me less comfortable anybody can relate to that have you not been doing that your whole life you're just doing different things to get different things so it keeps changing but the process is exactly the same I'm not okay but there are things y all can do that'll make me better and there are things you all can do that'll make me worse get with the program so basically you come down to realizing that's the Crux of the matter am I asking what

do you need to do to make feel better and not feel worse or why do I have this problem why am I not okay you listen to me why am I not okay all the time why is my natural state not and now I just go go and share it doesn't matter what you do what did Christ say love thy enemies that's like a nons to most people I'll make believe I am but I don't okay no it's not like that if you're fine inside you think it's funny that someone doesn't like you I told

you you want to measure your level of spirituality don't measure it by how hours you meditate or with your nice Aura floating around you or something like that or how many spirit people you met right you went to visit different gurus and theas and picked up their little icons and dash trays and stuff and look I have a collection right that that's not what makes you spiritual it makes you spiritual is as follows you're standing there with a group of your friends you're talking getting along and all of a sudden the person over there in

the distance starts to walk towards you all and you notice and you blush a little bit and you say oh oh my God here comes George like he thinks I walk on water it's really embarrassing right just waiting to see what he has to say cuz he always does it right just I'm sorry right they come up and George all accolate you most beauti there you are I've loved you since kindergarten and you're so beautiful and blah blah blah blah blah fine now George Goes a little while later you're talking and here comes Frank right

and you look and you react exactly the same oh there's Frank you say wait he hates my guts wait do you see what he says he never says it he says the meanest meanest thing it's so exciting come on wait you'll see right now you got some worse it's like you're fine what's the difference what George or Frank have to say about you nothing the reason it makes a difference because you're not okay and you need this positive reinforcement to say hey you're doing well you heard me the part that would make you not say

right is generally in our culture and Society all through your school through everything you are not taught that you're an ecstatic being and inside of you is the most beautiful thing that ever was and that any love that you actually feel is coming from inside isn't it it's not out there when you really love somebody and they're hugging you are your eyes open checking it out no you're melting into what into the inner flow of energy love is an inner flow of energy beauty is an inner State you turn the corner and there's a sunset

you don't get out of the car go run after the sunset it blows your mind the next thing you know you just you go bye-bye yes or no ever go bye-bye where do you go when you go byby outside or inside okay the source of Love is inside the source of beauty is inside the source of music is inside the source of ecstasy is inside joy every single thing that you feel you feel it inside when you get all excited and happen inspired where do you feel it inside it comes from inside and drives you

to express outside doesn't it it is always in there it has always been in there it is always in there there's not a single thing you will ever do that will make not be in there every single one of you period oh no one told me that they tried to teach me how to me how to control myself they tried to teach me how to to to you know drive a nice car and How to Win Friends and Influence People spirituality says why do you want to win friends and influence people what's wrong with you

what happens if you don't win the friend or INF of people you feel bad don't you you feel better if you do win the friend and INF of people that's cuz you're not okay yogis that are great and ecstatic they go into the mountains and hide and throw rocks at people when they come near them they do all right the really great ones it's beautiful what stories you read all right what do they need you for okay there's best nothing enters their mind if you're okay you don't do anything right I I told you you're

in the arms of your belove you never loved anybody that much in your entire life they've been gone for years and you've been riding other and they just showed back up and you are in their arms and you are hugging right there's a knock at the door would you want some pizza leave me alone would you like a diamond leave me alone if you're experiencing what you want to experience that's all you say to anybody leave me alone all right I am feeling what I want to feel I'm feeling what I've always longed to feel

you understand it's because you need it's because you're not whole it's because you're not well excuse me you are whole but you're not experiencing the wholeness you're feeling you're feeling lacking you're feeling the exposure you're feeling sensitive you hear me you're feeling vulnerable how's that therefore you need things that will protect you and that was everything we're talking about I'm not okay so I want the moments in front of me to unfold so that I am okay bigs better and I don't want them to unfold to where I'm not okay period it's as simple as

that or or instead of doing that work of manipulating controlling everything I want to find out why I'm not okay I want to find out if it's true and every master that ever live taught you this that there is I'll use Christ words right as I sit by the Throne of my father that's a state of consciousness as I sit by the Throne of my father so you shall sit by my throne and these things that I do should do these and even greater things oh I'm not some little peon what the great Mont that

come from the Hindu tradition so I am he Brasi I am Brahma Shiva I am Shiva in other words they're teaching you what you should be taught you're the greatest thing ever walked the face of the Earth okay so now that we've looked at the difference between what do I do about the fact that I'm not okay and why am I not okay no matter how many times I say it I hope you hear me don't ever forget it not what do I do about the fact why am I not okay one is temporary and

a struggle that's very very difficult to try and manipulate the moments so they what you want if you haven't noticed yet and that they're never the way you don't want right and the other is a permanent state of gradually working your way back to the purest being inside of you which is pure love pure joy every wonderful thing you ever felt came from there and there's no reason you don't have it all the time it's called unconditional well-being as opposed to conditional wellbeing all right so we know how you go about trying to get things

the way you want how do you ask the question why am I okay first you have to understand there's a reason you're not okay and don't you dare say it's because you don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend or enough money those are what you're using to compensate the fact that you're not okay or wish you could be using to compensate you're not okay the question is really why you're not okay and I've taught this a thousand times I teach it quickly again you're not okay because you are blocking the flow of energy inside of

you that is okay you're blocking it you've done a stupid thing you put stuff inside of your psyche that blocks the flow of your shocky that blocks the flow of spirit that blocks the flow well that's silly if I had the most beautiful flow that could ever exist inside of me I wouldn't block it how about you I don't block that thing it's beautiful how did I block it you blocked it by trying to push away what you don't like when something happens that you don't like you first try to stop it so it doesn't

come all the way in you understand have that tendency don't you push it away don't say that you shouldn't have said that I can't handle this you're in there doing that that's what blocks it every time you push something away where do you think it went it goes down into your shocky flow it goes down into your heart it gets stored there just like Freud suppressions and repressions but it's broader than just clinical suppression repression it's resistance any resistance to the energy that's passing through you the outside world causes things to happen come inside of

you they come in you experience them if you don't like the experience you push it away when you push it away those are the blockages that act of pushing things away is what is storing inside of you I always ask the same question if you push away and store inside of you everything ever bothered you what's it going to be like in there bothered that's why it's bothered in there it's the most logical thing in the whole world have you not stored stuff in there which stuff the stuff I couldn't couldn't handle the stuff that

wasn't comfortable the stuff that I didn't like the stuff that wasn't fair stuff I stored stuff does it come back up what does that mean it was stored in there okay it wasn't stored in there it doesn't come back up does it so you store stuff in there you stored every single thing that ever bothered you inside of you because you didn't want to experience it so now there's a Crux it's true you didn't want to experience it did you and what did you do with it since you did experience it I this is I'm

too logical you obviously experienced it or you wouldn't know you didn't want to experience it how's that for logic okay I I always ask you right do you mind experiencing well I don't know what it is I have to find out what it is decide whether I want to experience it or not all right you're in there pushing away things that are not comfortable and that means you're storing inside of you everything that ever happened to you that's not comfortable that is not wise not only are you storing what's not comfortable therefore it's going to

come back up in your dreams during the day people say things so basically something happens right or you're afraid it didn't even happen you're afraid it'll happen so not only did you store the garbage so it keeps bothering you but the part you don't understand that a spiritual person does is you push that on top of the most beautiful thing that exists in the universe that flow of shaki that flow of spirit that FL the rush of holy Waters all right this beautiful flow that's flowing inside of you all the time it cannot flow because

you put push this stuff on top of it so you get a double whammy one you have the stuff keeps coming back up and you're afraid of it and two you block the most beautiful thing in your whole world all right again how do I prove that somebody comes up to you and talks to you exactly right they look exactly right their hair is exactly right their accent is exactly right their clothes are exactly right their job that they have that they tell you anyways is exactly right the car is exactly right you feel attracted

to that person you may even feel loved love at first sight how does the love at first sight happen oh it happens when somebody's exactly the opposite way that you like no I don't think so it happens when the person I call it tiptoes Through the Tulips manages to get around your garbage they don't slurp their soup their father wasn't this and that like yours was and like they don't have the accent like your Uncle George had which you couldn't stand it has to be exactly right and what will happen if follows an opening path

so that that which is beautiful inside of you managed to come out it was blocked but you opened didn't you I feel so open around this person the person did not do that you did that well prove it have them do one thing you don't like have them show up for your third date in a bow tie and Uncle George wore bow ties and pinched your cheek and that's it man you're not going to feel love for that person okay because it matched your stuff you opened you were willing to not defend yourself to protect

yourself to close yourself and when you open that which is behind all your garbage came up and you felt love so basically instead of asking what do I do to feel better you ask why don't I feel okay why don't I feel love why don't I feel acceptance why do I need everybody's accolades and saying nice why do I need all this stuff and you're going to see eventually because I blocked my natural flow of spirit of Shakti of chi call it whatever you want I blocked it with all this garbage that I shoved down

on top of it okay so now when the question becomes I'm scared I don't feel okay why you know why your mind will tend to blame it on what somebody just did do you hear me it always will do that what you're blame it on it's personal to you it's based on your past experiences look how they're standing look how close can you stand when somebody talks you real close and come right or so far away why they stand so far away right I like this one right why do they fold their arms across the

third chakra they must be protecting something let's do some body language is there body language yes what I want to know is why do you care there's always a deeper way to look at it why are you sitting there analyzing somebody's body language because I'm scared and I want to know whether I can protect myself or whether I need to protect myself whether I can trust them whether they're being honest why do you care because I might get hurt no when you're filled with love and joy you think it's funny you having fun with everything

you don't sit there and say what do I do with the fact that their body language says they're protecting themselves that's for you literally if you see that you said oh how can I help whole different ball game you see it that's what it means to turn to the spiritual path you ask why am I being bothered by this not what do I do about it so now the answer you should I hope is when you ask the question why am I bothered like this it should be an instantaneous recognition because I have garbage inside

of me and it's being hit and if it wasn't there I wouldn't be hit do you understand that anything that bothers you might not bother somebody else right or wrong remember that you got programmed by your past experiences and so now that's how you're deciding what you want what you don't want and so on and so forth so basically eventually when you ask that question which I hope you do now instead of what do I do about it why is this bothering me the answer is because I've stored stuff inside of me from my past

and it's stimulating that and I'm getting closed it's an immediate reaction isn't it okay so what do I do about that I always teach you this there's only one way out as through but that's what I want to talk about a little bit what through means okay I've got this stuff in here honest real yes I got it you hit it thanks are you saying thanks you hit it look are you saying thanks a lot okay that depends on how spiritual you are if your entire intention of your entire life is not how the stuff

in there you say thanks I wasn't sure that was still in there now I see it is all you did was say in the name of my ex oh my God my heart like that or even three years later all right thank you thank you I got some work to do not why' you mention that name you ruin my night see there you go what do I do about it versus why is it there so you reach the point I hope you're there where you're a wise at there person as much as you can every

moment of every day stuff's causing disturbance and you're in there first looking at it saying why is this B Bing me why is this bothering me you're working hard at a job and somebody else gets the promotion are you serious I teach you all the time which teaching do you want there's 8.3 billion people on the planet Earth who knows what promotions they got are you telling me you're so small that the only thing that matters to you in the whole world is your little stupid ego that I deserve that I worked hard for that

that's the kind of stuff you look at and say why is this bothering me why don't I feel good for the guy congratulations and you mean it it's incomprehensible isn't it not if you're okay if you're okay sure you work and you you you strive for things but you don't care it's not like like I think it's fascinating I always it fascinates me I don't know if you know that but Major League Baseball after a baseball game and baseball's not so violent they don't hug they don't congratulate each other they don't just walk off the

field both teams football holy mael they beat the hell out of each other hard as they can the entire time at the end of the game right there on the field they hug congratulate each other did you notice that anybody notice that see you can do that it's a sport I've seen quarterbacks go up to each other glowing wow great game you know wow or I've always admired you wow wow after an hour we're beating the hell out of each other okay that's pretty impressive isn't it all right he teaching you something you can be

competitive to work for things but it doesn't have to be you against somebody else it's just you're competing with yourself to be better how's that I'm trying to bring out the best that I can in me because it's fun I would do it even if you weren't here that kind of thing right I'm learning to paint or play the piano or do something not for you not to make money not to sell it just to perfect my ability to express myself and that more beautiful well that's how sports are supposed to be like so basically

you're sitting on a planet I tell you this all the time what do I do if I've been working for something and and he he the ego in there right he's disappointed that he didn't get it something like that right I take him by the hand we're going to talk about how do you do this you catch it you ride away see the energy start to drop right you're all excited energy does it happen come on that means you're starting to close your heart close your heart CU somebody else got a job on a tiny

spot in a planet of which 1.3 million Earths fit inside the sun I don't know why that doesn't blow your mind it liberates me instantly if that were to happen inside of me I just take him by the hand I take him out to space 1.3 million Earth inside the Sun and you care that much you're willing to give up your spiritual give up your love give up your joy you were feeling Joy a moment ago now because somebody else got the the stupid office you don't feel Joy you give up that Joy because of

one spot of one event that's happening on some stupid Planet out of 8.3 billion people and and 1.3 million Earth F inside the Sun and there's 300 billion stars in your Galaxy and there's two trillion galaxies what did you say was bothering you is that rational is that reasonable that's absurd and if you get bothered you gave up the joy that you felt by not being bothered why would you do that you're giving up something beautiful for something ugly for something uncomfortable for what reason you decided what if deep inside you didn't want that promotion

you like your vacations you don't want to work that hard and the difference in Pay ain't worthwh I want to spend time with my family but you still got to you know be a trooper work for the company and they announc Sally got the office instead of you ecstasy why I tell my wife oh my God this is so right or wrong you're doing this there is nothing intrinsically out there that can close your heart you have to do it but isn't that a stupid thing to do if what you want to do is feel

love if you want to feel Joy if you want to feel inspiration if you want to feel just wow every morning told you how a great being wakes up I'm back I wonder what's going to happen today that's what the Bible what Christ me when he said L you be his little children it means you're just filled with joy about nothing a little kid can take a stick in a rock and have fun all day you hear me if they're open and so basically why not be like that you're just on a little planet please

remember that you're a tiny little planet in the middle of nowhere for a few years and you're going to make this mess out of this thing and worse yet you have nothing but ecstasy pouring inside of you okay but you fell from the garden that's what it means you fell from your natural state of toe wellbeing into this ego that says no I can't feel good unless you're this way and you're that way and everything's exactly the way I want it to be and and I don't have to worry about anything that's the fall from

the garden you fell from the garden but what's that tree called the tree of self- knowledge what self- knowledge now I know myself as something individual I am my ego not I am God all right so basically you wake up and you ask that question when something happens why am I not okay why did this bother me why am I so scared why just simple all right and the answer is because you block the flow of your natural energy okay fine so now I have an answer what do I do about it that's a whole

another ball game but at least if you understand that's 70 80% of the whole process I understand the problem is me the problem is not you the problem is not outside the problem is that I have set up these preferences and Concepts and Views and opinions and hopes and dreams and all this stuff inside my mind and if the outside matches them I'm doing okay if it really matches them I'm in love that's the greatest day of my life why because everything matchs what I want therefore I opened and if it doesn't match it's the

worst day in my life I'm depressed I told you no one is depressed they are watching a depressed psyche how do you know you're depressed oh boy would you fight with me he said you're depressed I've been depressed for years how do you know what do you mean how do I know how do you know you're depressed because I'm in here and is depressed in here who's the eye that's in there that notices depressed in there I guarantee you that eye is not depressed it's watching something that's depressed isn't it if all of a sudden

something happened your girlfriend came back and said oh my God I'm so sorry I can't believe I left you you're the most important thing in my whole life I I how I got lost can I come back you're not depressed anymore are you okay so you're not depressed you're looking at a closed heart and a depressed psyche and negative thoughts and so on so you wake up and you realize I'm doing this I'm storing this stuff inside of me I'm the one who's reacting that way I like that because enemies you don't have to you

can work on liberating yourself you can work on freeing yourself you can work on purifying this mess you stored inside yourself and eventually like I said the event happens you start getting weird and I just mean even tiny weird that's why I teach like if the driver in front of you bothers you own it if the weather bothers you it's hot it's raining I have to get out of the car and deliver why does it have to rain why does it rain on my birthday it doesn't know what your birthday the in front of you

doesn't know you and he doesn't hear you talking to him so you start getting down to where the rubber hits the road you sit there and say boy am I making a mess in here I'm s a little planet spin in the middle of nowhere making myself crazy right guy's driving 10 miles hour below the speed limit handle it go on you're catching every light on your way into to town every light turns red how you doing you wake up and you realize the moment in front of you is not bothering you you're bothering yourself

about the moment in front of you so the answer is why am I not okay why am I bothered because you're bothering yourself the weather cannot bother you but you can bother yourself about the weather the person in front of you driver cannot bother you but you can bother yourself about the person in front of you you even get to the extreme somebody I in graduate school somebody just said to you something mean something insulting something absolutely not comfortable like you you're the one who got the corner office and the person who didn't said yeah

right you deserve that what do you see you're going to fail oh my God I can't believe they picked you I would never picked you all the people all our friends in the office wanted me none of them wanted you how we doing all right they kind of take the fun off of it didn't it no not if you look at it proper and you have the right to are you ready what just happened in that inter interaction you listen to me the human being has vocal cords a cat can go make certain range a

dog a certain range right your range of those vocal cords can make sounds come out of your mouth a b c d e f g whoa and I can put them together and string them together to say things like yeah good luck that's some of these vocal cords making a sound out of their mouth it's like a dog barking or a cat meowing it's an animal on the planet Earth making sounds come out of their vocal cords wow that's far out all right not only are they making sounds you heard the sounds the way they

made them and you understood what they were trying to say You must be brilliant you understand that you can listen to these vibrations of the focal cords that sound very different don't they every sound I'm making different and it goes in through your ears and somehow your brain is so brilliant that you in there understand what this person is trying to say it should blow your mind that's how you should feel every time a sound comes out of somebody's mouth wow that's amazing right it's using your higher mind to raise your lower mind they say

I don't like what he said it's a miracle that they said [Music] it okay if you look at things properly it's not even just the noise that came out of the vocal cords that body standing in front of you is 25 trillion living cells they multiply they eat they excrete every one of them they're living cell and there are 25 trillion of them communic with each other and working together to create that body standing in front of you including the vocal cords or those S all right and that thing just made noise now how much

more fun is life you get to do whatever you want you're free you don't have to do this stupid thing of storing everything that ever bothered you inside of you so now you're bothered by everything is it not true that if you have one traumatic experience one at some point in your life it can determine your entire life that's how they Define traumatic what is traumatic it was so uncomfortable that you couldn't let it go you stored it so strong inside that it keeps coming back up everything reminds you of it it destroys your life

does it have to do that no it does not have to do that period all right how do I not do it you learn to handle the fact that things happen outside and they come in and they're not comfortable and then they're gone is it I'm not belittling it it's not easy to let go of can it be let go of of course it can be let go of well why is it still in there because you're holding it in there every single time it tries to come back up you push that thing back down

so hard I can't handle the thought of it what if you worked on yourself what if you worked on being able to handle things right now you can't handle I asked you this all the time can you do that can you learn to handle that it's raining when you don't want it to could you learn to do that could you learn to handle that the driver in front of you is not driving the way you want them to can you learn to handle that can you learn to handle the noises that are coming out of

somebody's mouth because you chose to look at it the way I just told you thought it was funny can you learn that are you capable you can teach a dog to bark when us to go outside he teach monkeys to May believe they're driving a car well I think you're quite brilliant compared to that you are extremely trainable way more than any other animal why don't you bother getting to it and you start training yourself to do the kind of thing I just talked to you about to work with the situations that you're not comfortable

with so that you're comfortable with them why not be comfortable with it why not when it rain sit there and say oh boy there will be groceries at Publix there will be fresh fruit at the Fruit markets it will right cuz if it doesn't rain it won't happen instead of saying oh I don't want to rain today I wanted to go outside you don't have to be like that you have the right to raise yourself you have the right exactly what we've been talking about just take each thing but start with the simple thing don't

start with the traumas please don't even touch it you don't stand a chance if you're going to learn to play tennis don't play Borg or the Williams sisters because you're not going to do very well if you want to play piano okay you want to learn to play the piano here's Mozart don't do it that way you want to play the piano get the scales you want to play tennis get a coach or a ball thrower if you want to learn to be okay with the different situation that unfold in front of you practice being

okay can you do that can you do that can you make it fun it's like a video game in video games they eat you and they knock you and you move from one level to another and everybody goes right back and plays more don't they people do that this is a video game I'm trying to see can I handle today how are you ready this is my video game can I handle reality so if I said there say did you really say that obviously I would not have heard it okay you said it fine now

the question is can I handle it can I handle that the driver that the rain that this person that said just little simple things that's your scales that's the to practice you practice being okay so that again we go back to that question it bothered me do not deny that it bothered you don't play spiritual ego right yes you don't have to tell somebody but yes it bothered me it bothered me right I'm having trouble handling this good it's wonderful now what what do I do about it or why just remember that Turning Point why

is this bothering me what you said or how somebody's driving and you'll look inside and you'll say because I'm blocked because I've stored all this stuff inside of it if you listen to me if you're in ecstasy if you're just feeling love pouring through you and you catch every light on the way into town you love it man I get to stop and feel this love if you get stopped by a train with a 100 cars oh man if you're okay everything's okay isn't it and if you're not okay nothing's okay it all bothers you

am I telling the truth okay so you practice being okay you just do the little thing talk to you about keep raising yourself make it fun all right okay people right all the time we at the end here right well what do I do if I'm practicing I'm trying to be okay and I and I I I I I fall I I get messed up I get messed up and it really bothers me I say things that I shouldn't have said and so on and then I come back to a conscious State what do I

do simple it's a video game you fell down to level two work your way back up by getting upset no getting upset not going to help you you're you're Olympian you're an Olympic gymnast and on the horse and you've practiced for four solid years you gave your entire life day and night and you slip just a little tiny slip what do I do screw it get off the horse they're amazing aren't they they just keep going don't they they keep going and they can do really well they just let it go that's what you do

if you slip Let it go Let it go you hear me enough judgment no nothing I'll do better next time thanks for the opportunity to learn but I was practicing I was doing good and I hit it into the net okay good try to see how you swung make it better next time that's what you do with your entire life from now on you just do the best you can to rise above the garbage to let it go if if you relax in the face of the disturbance let start with the small stuff if you

relax in the face of disturbance you have given it the room to leave leave it the room to pass through if you resist and close down and suppress you stor it more make sense okay I wanted to get that main point across the difference in a life that is spiritually growing is the question something bothered me what do I do about it something bothered me why you're looking inside now you're doing your work at the core the root and it will change you they right from all over the world it changed my life it did

change your life because you changed your life you changed how you're working with yourself Giger