Michael Singer - Learning to Handle the More Difficult Events in Life

h chy g Masters people often invite us and they say you know I got the low hanging fruit thing but there's a lot of fruit higher than that the answer is very very simple things happen in life unfair unjust harmful pain ful things happen in life only a fool would not recognize that from a spiritual point of view this is how it looks those things happen do you want to suffer because of them or do you want to handle them reasonably do what you can and get on with your life if you had the choice

which would you do people leave you people die children die accidents happen on purposes happen everything happens doesn't it has anyone noticed been living in a bubble somewhere okay does a spiritual person want those things to happen of course not to them or anybody else of course not that doesn't change anything things have always happened they are happening and they will happen yes we should do everything we can to have them not happen we put people in jail and we have rules and laws and all kinds of policies and everything they still happen so the

question is not do they happen the question is what is the spiritual thing to do when when these things happen to either you or anybody else it's very straightforward they have already happened you can't make them not have happened no one has ever made anything not have happen anything good things bad things neutral things doesn't matter if they have already happened they have happened so that's not the question of whether they happened and whether you can do anything about the fact that they happened you can't you can't stop them from having happened as much as

you would like to you can't stop them from having happened so then what the choice is very brutal either you accept that they happened and do what you can to get on with your life which can include working to try and make it so they don't happen to other people there's nothing wrong with that in any way shape or form it's not about being passive it's about accept ing reality that's what it's about if it happened it falls into the category of reality it's what happened either you accept that it happened and then go about

your business I'm not going to say what that business is or you don't accept that it happened and you suffer you are going to suffer do you understand that the event caus a certain amount of discomfort the fact that the event is over and you can't accept that it happened means that that suffering continues maybe for the rest of your life does anybody understand that there's no argument with this is there this is not a philosophy this is not a religion this is not a way of life this is called okay there's pain and suffering

but then it's over until you decide that you can't handle that it happen and I can't handle it and I don't want it to have happened how bad so bad that I can't sleep at night so bad that I'll never get marryed to anybody ever again so bad that I'll never feel love ever again for the rest of my life so bad that I suffer every single moment of my life that's how bad it is okay so one is something the event caused and the other something you're causing and boy they do not want to

hear that do you understand that you are the only one in there the event is not in there the experience erience of the event is in there things outside don't come in their image comes in their energy comes in the event comes in and you're in there if you block that energy and say no I deny that that happened I won't accept that it happened it was wrong and you push the experience the inner experience away you have caused suffering to yourself potentially for the rest of your life in fact how long will you suffer

until you let it go so far we've touched acceptance letting go and of course surrender Falls right in there people don't understand surrender surrender does not mean this thing happened I Surrender okay I'll do nothing about it no surrender doesn't mean that surrender has nothing to do with the outside the outside already did its thing by the way I want to tell you them as terrible as it is weather can do Terrible Things hurricanes tornadoes tidal waves and you know what happens the next day the Sun comes out she does not say I'm sorry does

she she goes about her business and creates the next day do you no no I do not I cannot accept that that happened my house was damaged somebody happened this all this neighbor everything I cannot accept that I will not accept that so the next day doesn't come for you that day stays with you but it didn't stay it did not stay it came and it went but not inside of you please listen that's why I said people want to ask what about the tough stuff you don't want to hear the answer now we will

get to the point in the discussion that we can talk about can you learn to handle things yes can you handle them now no but you didn't know how to do calculus when you went to your first calculus class you didn't know how to drive when you first drove a car you didn't know how to play tennis when you first picked up a racket you sure say didn't know how to play the piano the first time you sat down a keyboard you have the ability to learn the question is do you want to or do

you want to suffer so let's just go back to Nature I like you know okay yes bad people can do bad things and all kind of things happen nature you ain't doing nothing about that that's when going on forever and it's going to be going on forever nature expresses herself it's not true that she doesn't like you and so it ran on your birthday it ran on your birthday because the weather conditions that happened in Spain 3 weeks ago and then they came across the Atlantic and there was warming and okay not because it was

your birthday don't do that I think science is a wonderful thing I think reality is a wonderful thing why because it's what is it's called reality it you have to respect reality because there's nothing you can do about it except you know what you going to do about reality suffer suffer when she's not even doing what she's doing yeah your choice so here we have the situation where a day has happened I really want to focus on that a day has happened and it was very destructive weather terrible conditions and then it stopped and the

Beautiful sun came up with a beautiful light and sunshine and colors and hello I'm back all right the question is are you back and the answer is no why it's not happening anymore why do you want to take the worst day of your life and carry it into the next day and and I'll give you the answer for you because you don't know how not to how's that because nobody in the right mind would choose to suffer it's over he died the hurricane took place the house is gone no what it is it's what happened

you're not going to make it not have happened so a logical wise person looks at it and says okay now what mean now what that day is over what is this day what I'm going to do this day and like I said I know you can't do this I'm not telling you to do it but I do want you to learn how to do it why because I care for you why would I want you to suffer beyond the terrible event that already took place if I have a choice okay you went through a terrible

event now I want you to be okay to say the weather's okay why not what's the upside of not being okay go tell me has that fixed anything it doesn't does it it's not logical I'm putting inside don't worry that I know you don't know how to do it but I'm telling you there's a way to learn there's a story of a very very great and light master and we're not there but it's nice to tell the story R Mahari he lived in Himalayas and from a very young age he went off the Himalayas and

was fully enlightened and one of the higher beings that walked the face of the Earth very very great being in fact his teachings were witness Consciousness his entire teaching was who sees when I see who hears when you hear all that way back that beautiful and he was an Enlighten Master there's a story that you know they live in halalas with this small band of disciples and and the hom is a tough place to live and so they're going on a trip up to see some other Saint or something up to some place some asham

somewhere and they're climbing the halalas and they go to sleep a little him and band of his people and robbers come I don't want the karma of those robbers but robbers come steal beat them up literally beat up the master beat them up and take their stuff and go away and you know they're bleeding they're hurt okay but it was late at night and they fall asleep from all the commotion and then they get up in the morning and it's a mess all this stuff is all over the place and people are hurt and so

on and the master is up early and walking up the path which path the path that they were walking on before this happened and ACI call that Master where are you going he said well up to the asham I thought we're going to the asham up up there I said hello right and there was no hello it was over for him do you understand that and they were just sitting there saying well we got to go down go back down the mountain and tell people do something but so you are capable everyone's capable why because

it didn't stay inside of you except if you kept it inside of you it came an event happened outside it came in you experienced it and it passed through and so now another day has unfolded I mean of course you bandage your wounds if you do but you just pick it up and you keep going why because the alternative is to say that terrible event is going to determine the rest of my life that terrible divorce is going to determine the rest of my life the fact that my child got sick how unfair is that

oh innocent child that's going to determine the rest of my life is that what you want cuz that's not spiritual that doesn't mean it's not compassionate doesn't mean you don't have feelings it means you can handle your feelings it is Perfectly Natural that an event takes place and it comes in it is not going to be easy to digest it's not it's going to hurt it's going to bring with it the vibration that it created now the question is how long does that stay in there there I've taught you something that I don't know anyone

ever told you before there is nothing solid inside of you nothing air is not solid is it what is going on inside of you I don't mean your guts I mean inside your mind your emotions they're more subtler than air by a million billion times air is made of atoms that's not your thought not made of atoms go on create a boat inside your mind and go to Mars boy did you Reland you reuse your rocket right it's like you can do anything you want with your mind why there's no laws of physics there's no

laws of matter it's very etheric it's completely subtle it's subtle energy none of it is solid nothing there's no superglue in there there's no fly paper in there there is absolutely nothing except that the energy the shaky the chi of the event comes in it's experienced by the indwelling Consciousness as it passes through and then the next event takes place that's what be here now means be here now is the most natural state thing it ever exists there is no other place to be these events unfolding and unless you're creating alternate events inside your mind

that's the only way you're not here now is you created an alterate reality within your mind you're hanging out there so it's all very very simple there's nothing solid in there how come stuff gets stuck because you use your will to hold it in there I don't care how bad it is how strong it is how terrible the event is it comes and it goes if it is done outside I I want to say it should be it can be done inside why because there's nothing solid in there the wind does not stop unless you

hold up plywood and then the wind still doesn't stop it tries to push you over okay energy moves and if you're not in the way it will come in and it will pass you have to suppress it you have to rationalize it you have to deny it somebody asked me the other day there was sitting over there I've learned to process these things that's wonderful other people deny them and suppress them you learn to process them why because you're holding the plywood and you're learning how to let go a little bit all right in the

end if reality was taking place the event would come in you would experience it of course there going to be some tinges of resistance right Christ in the Gard Christ fully enlightened the highest being walk the face of the Earth he sat there and look what's going to happen to him he was psychic he saw the whole thing he saw the crucifixion he saw the arrest he saw every single thing what did he say may I pass this cup that's so beautiful do I have to go through this may I pass this cup then what

did he say as the breath left his mouth as say I pass his cup he said I'm sorry not my will but thy will other words I will not not resist and he did not resist one iota through the entire experience did he that is the epitome of what we're talking about isn't it forgive them Lord for they know not what to do in other words he is high enough to where the event passed through they can pass through all right well guess what so are you why because the only thing solid in there is

your will you have free will you have free will you have hands in there don't you you can push things around you can grab them if you like them and push them away if you don't like them you can push them away so far that Freud had to show up and tell you oh what' you do with that it's still in there that's all that is that's like a deep form of resistance I resisted the event and he said okay you suppressed it there's a subconscious down there there's nothing anywhere's inside it's empty you built

a subconscious with the things you couldn't let pass through each one of the things that you couldn't let pass through is like a brick you made a brick out of it why cuz it can't pass it stopped as your will and you made a bunch of those and built a house and part of the house you like looking at the things you accept your self-concept and part of it you don't ever want to look at again the part you held inside you don't want to look at again well then why hold it in there if

you don't like something why did you keep it and the answer is I know the answer because you don't know how not to and you want to know why cuz no one ever taught you they taught you the way to be okay is to not have bad things happen that's the way to be okay and the way to be okay is they do happen and they bother you express that either suppress that or Express that start blogging about it as fast as you can and get everyone else to share what's happening because you stopped it

and you don't know what to do with it normally people stop it before the web showed up they stop it and they now I can't deal with okay push it away push it away in time it's push P away it's called suppression suppression or repression the event happened and you couldn't handle it so you pushed it away and you built a subconscious there is no subconscious you made something you made an area of your mind where you can store the things you don't ever want to look at again it's subconscious it's below the conscious who

put it there you God didn't put it there unfortunately God created the event you know the hurricane or the tornado all right the life reality unfolded and then you couldn't handle it so you shoved it away and you built an area inside your mind which is below your conscious your conscious doesn't want to look at it so when I say there's no subconscious I'm not disagreeing with Freud I love Freud just understand that if you didn't do that your whole mind is available to you now it's not why because you can't look there and so

not only there there an entire part of your mind that you don't have anything to do with but you're also you must continuously resist the event or it will come back up no not 20 30 years later what mommy did go talk to Freud go talk to any psychologist or any psychiatr and therapist is that not what they're doing trying to find out why you're screwed up and then trying to help you release it have a breakthrough what is a Freudian breakthrough finally I saw what happened to me when I was young and I cried

and I and I could talk about it I like I felt all this energy free and I I Feel Free at once oh my God it's unbelievable and never felt so open I've carried this my right or wrong what does that mean you let it go what does that mean you're not letting it go means every single thing in your entire life that you resisted is still in there until you are willing to let it go and that's a lot of energy you're wasting aren't you and then there's a whole part of your mind that

you can't use for math or for music or anything else because it's busy being blocked down at that level and that's what they call the subconscious it's not that complicated is it and the most important part of the whole discussion is you're doing it okay but it's so intense that you don't know you're doing it you don't want to hear that you're doing it okay it's just how do I not feel the pain and so you take drugs and they give you drugs right you go oh my God you're suffering here take this or you

guys go take the other ones or drink any why do people do all that stuff because they have all it's junk stored inside they cannot handle it they get tired they get burned out you don't get burned out cuz you work you get burned out because you're pushing all the stuff down and work makes it come back up you don't go along with this person like the boss did you get this that everything's hitting your stuff you're struggling now you need a vacation from what yourself there's no different between getting in a kayak and going

down to swanie then it is going to work and putting widgets on top of something else it's just something you're doing they're exactly the same there's no more stress until you do it because you can't handle it and now you've stored all that stuff in there and now all day stuff's hitting it is that true somebody doesn't say hello somebody says hello somebody's hair looks better than yours somebody wear the same dress as you wore you drop something on your suit when you go back to work the boss gave a compliment to somebody else and

you actually did it and they don't understand that every minute of every single day there's something going on hitting your stuff what stuff the stuff you stored if you did not store this stuff in there it would not be in there and you would belong to the moment of the day it would come in doesn't mean it's going to be great but it's going to come in you're going to experience it it's going to pass through and I'm going to tell you a secret someday when you learn to do the techniques we're going to talk

about and you get empty and you open up you're going to find out that every single moment of your life as your teacher every experience you have teaches you what you didn't know before you had the experience if you go in and have your hair done and it comes out exactly the way you like it that's an experience you go in there have your hair done and it comes out in the way you don't like it that's an experience and both are equally wonderful for your spiritual growth if you get married and stay married for

50 years your entire life with one person that's really beautiful if you get married and it falls apart completely within 6 months and your divorce that's quite an experience right you'll do better next time maybe if you don't block it you'll say whoa wow I messed that up I can do better next time come on like some ask people if you let's say you're older and you're dating somebody and they're divorce is that a good or a bad thing it depends on how they did do they learn from it so that now you've got a

much more mature person who understands how people can love each other and end up not loving each other and kind of say I don't want to go down that road again as opposed to I'm completely naive oh my God I follow you anywhere here the beginning and end of everything I've ever wanteded my entire life okay come back tomorrow mat Yan actually talked about that he say come back in 5 years we'll say what's the probability that that's still how you're feeling slim to nil so a mature person has gone through experiences in their life

and they are better off because of it but not if they resisted if you resisted you stored the bad part of the experience inside and you will be afraid it will happen again and you will not open your heart again not fully so this is what we're talking about we're talking about the fact that yes things happen yes they do yes we should work together as a society as friends to work to try to make the place a better place to live there's lots of things we can do but if something happens and you can't

handle it you can literally push it away hard enough to ruins your life you'll never get your heart open again your mind will never be settled again it'll keep compl complaining and having problems and so on and so forth so what I'm interested in is you understanding that if it is like that in there I know you don't like this you did it you didn't do the event that's ridiculous but you dealt with the event when it came in in a way that it stayed and why would you want to do that I challenge you

if you knew how to handle it without it staying wouldn't you choose that okay this this happened this happened is it painful yes of course it's painful it will be painful for a while of course it's painful somebody died or somebody stole from you or somebody you know whatever it is you had a situation in your life was not comfortable is that okay with you it better be because it happened so either it's okay with you and you handle it let it go or it's not okay with you and you keep it and let it

bother you forever is it not true that something happens it bothers you and you keep it keeps bothering you do you have things from your past that were unacceptable that you couldn't handle and you still think of them people say things they come back up your dreams get affected by them yes or no so what we're talking about is it does not have to be like that and it is not a matter of coping oh come on you went through this bad experience you have to learn to cope no it's not about coping it's about

letting go it's about saying this happen I'm not saying it's going to be done in an hour or minute or some stuff like that okay or 5 days or 10 days some things take time for you to be able to handle and let them go I think it's beautiful in the Jewish tradition they thing called sitting shiva I think it's five days I'm not sure but I think it's five days and what happens is somebody dies who you love you're with you partner and 5 days you mourn you sit there stay home people come they

visit well okay that's really nice what happens after the 5 days you're ready to come back to life you're ready to have processed that to let that go it's not supposed to stay in there you don't use the 5 days to suppress it to rationalize and push it aside so it stays in there and now every time you see we used to eat you get hurt you can't live in the town I literally have people tell me that psych and there's nothing wrong with this by the way that a psychologist told them well you had

this bad relationship in this town and it's over and so on but you seem to keep having trouble you need to move you need to move because the restaurant hits you again and then this hit you and the house hit you and people who knew your friends you can't have the same friends you can't do anything CU keeps reminding you of it okay that's one thing you do you can move that's like taking a drug you're anxious or hear some Zanax or what the heck it is I don't know so it's like you just keep

it but learn how to live with it yoga doesn't say that yoga treats you like a very great being because you are a very great being and it says you let it go you have the ability to let it go what is that mean nonresistance one of the chapters of the Soul it's called the spiritual path of non-resistance what does that mean it comes in and I'm resisting what if I don't that's hard why because the energy is uncomfortable to say the least uncomfortable is a nice word you understand that it's very uncomfortable and I

don't want uncomfortable and so I push it away well that is not a rational thing to do because when you push it away it stays don't you dare think it goes away when you push it away it does not go away ever ever the example I always use the Hoover Dam there was this thing called the Colorado River it used to flow down this stream and down the area the bed and for good reason I'm not complaining about it they built a dam there so that what so the river could not flow anymore and we

captured all the energy of the river and we made turbines and and made electricity out of the thing all right I ask you a question did that River stop trying to flow past that Dam it will never stop it's trying to pass through right you get a little hole in that Dam they better patch it that whole sucker's coming down the power of that thing is unbelievable it's the same thing with the event it's an event it happened it has energy it has Buddha say has its nature it's nature is energy that's what comes into

you is energy the event does not come into you the event that come through your eyes light bounces off the event it brings its energy sound everything comes in through your senses it comes in and then it Paints in your mind and you resist it because it's not comfortable in your heart in your mind everything inside I don't want to feel this and so use your will the Consciousness has power will it focuses and pushes it away I'm telling you it stays just like the river it will never stop it will never stop till you

let it go it's it nature is to flow it energy cannot stand still energy keeps moving it's a wave just passing through so what happens you put your will in its way that's the dam none of it's real so will works just fine you put the will in the way you have power fighting Power and I taught you before what happens is it has to keep moving it cannot move so what does it do the only way energy can keep moving and stay one place is a circle it circles around itself here it is no

matter how fast it Go doesn't matter it can do that can it now all of a sudden the energy did not stop but it's stay in one place that is called a Sara that is the most important word you have ever learned you have a few of those it doesn't have to be a giant thing right tell you Sally did something yesterday that you don't understand next time you see Sally what happens it comes right back up you're not being here now it's stayed inside and there it is so Sally a bad day you don't

have to do anything you have to say anything no be deal if it goes through you it passes through you all kind of things pass through you I once told you you are 95% enlightened it's probably 99% what the trees go by The Cars Go by the grass goes by the white lions go by almost every single thing you ever experienced sight sound everything came right in and passed right through you don't hold it all in there do you tell me about the white lines you pass yesterday tell me about the trees you drove by

tell about the people in the streets of New York that were walking nothing oh all of it goes right through you see you are capable but if the person who walks by you look like your ex they didn't make it by are you hearing me so there's just very little of what you experience that get stuck in there but when it does it becomes your whole life instead of it everything else is your life that's your life that's called the self-concept that's the ego that's what the ego is me I me my that's what it's

about okay the stuff you caught in there does it have to be that way obviously not if 95% passes right through obviously you're capable letting things pass through without resisting them aren't you well take this example you're walking down the street with a boyfriend or girlfriend and all of a sudden somebody walks by that looks like your ex but doesn't look like their ex they just keep walking nothing happens inside of them so it can't be the events that did it the only differ in you and them is you got something stuck in there that

you held in there all right so now we've laid the groundwork you want to do some spiritual work you want to talk about spirituality that's not spiritual and sitting there saying I got all this stuff in here and I can't deal with it because I'm scared of it and it's too painful and I don't want to deal with it I want you to tell me how I can make life be so that it doesn't hit it where can I go who can I be with what can I expect what money can I have what car

can I drive how can I dress how can I act how can I do so that the outside when it comes in doesn't hit my stuff okay so if I meet somebody who for whatever reason they don't hit my stuff you know just positive things that happen to me add together into this person and I'm distracted by them and I feel comfortable around them I love them if they do one thing that hits my stuff I never thought you would do that I trusted you I love it what in the world you mean I trusted

you I trusted that you would be what I need you to to be to not hit my stuff okay so now we get the groundwork so one you can go out there and try to attract to yourself everything that makes you feel better try to do drugs try to do this go on vacation there all this stuff of try to make the outside world so that when it comes in it doesn't bother you good luck what's the other alternative the other alternative is this thing called spirituality spiritual path so what happens takes two to tango

it takes the outside world hitting my stuff and it takes me storing the stuff in there which one you want to tangle with cuz you ain't tangle in the outside world I tell you right now there's no way in the world you're making everybody and everything you ever meet be the way you need them to be so you're okay so the alternative is to say wait I'm doing this I'm not doing the event but I'm doing the resistance I'm doing what it hit it didn't hit the person next to me it hit me I held

that in there so is it possible that it's more intelligent and wiser and better off instead of trying to manipulate every moment that unfolds in front of me to get rid of that stuff that I'm holding in there but would that feel like that is spirituality as a pure definition of spirituality I am working I remember roomie said the following yesterday I was clever so I was trying to change the world that D wise so I'm changing myself that's the essence of spirituality all right so what does that mean am I capable of not holding

this stuff in here the answer is yes you are capable period but it was really big what happened to me I know and that's why I teach what I teach I don't teach like this about the high hanging terrible things as people can handle it because that's not where you work that's not where the work is saying right now if you don't play the piano don't you dare sit down with Beethoven or Mozart and try to play the thing was the same thing in here don't even think about it you weren't able to handle it

when it happen you can't handle it when it comes back up you are not going to just because of this talk or anything else good it's gone no will be gone because you can resist it understand that you're resisting to what happened even though it happened 20 years ago it hurts when it comes back up doesn't it so what's the right thing to do learn to work with yourself learn to handle things you don't start with the big things you start with the low hanging fruit you start with the simplest thing world you get so

mad at me all you told is the driver in front of you or the Sun is hot what if somebody di I understand believe it or not the answer is the same the same is let go but you can't do it there but you will be able to if you work on yourself if you every single day sit there and say am I am I resisting the reality just unfolded in front of me whoa that's the question can I not resist this moment that unfolded in front of me the fact that I went to the

restaurant and the food wasn't as much as it used to be it wasn't hot enough somebody spilled water on me oh I know it's terrible okay or I dropped something on my pants or the driver in front of me didn't use their blinker and that's really a killer right or somehow I got every light when I driving to town I just oh my God can't can you handle reality and the answer right now is oh no I didn't know I was supposed to yes you're supposed to you're supposed to handle reality start with the small

stuff how small way do you see how much you complain about what do you see oh my God I gained a half a pound oh my God it's every single thing causes you trouble causes you angst and by the way you don't even wait for it to happen happen to bother you you think about that it might happen and it bothers you we have a word for that that's that W word oh worry you don't worry that something happened already happened you're worry something might happen so you're making up in your mind that something you

don't want to happen might happen does it bother you when you worry like that and then you wonder why you're not okay you're not okay because every single moment that happens to you find a reason to resist and it get upset and hits other stuff and you define I don't want to get into it so the answer is you start somewhere which is right now and you sit there and say okay I can't do the big stuff right now you can't don't even try that's stupid they don't sit there and say to me but you

gave me teaching and I still have pain what you sit there and say is is there something I can do over time like when I learn the piano when I learn to play tennis or I learn anything over time you get better don't you there's no way you pick up that racket and practice you don't get better doesn't mean to get a pro but you get better same thing with the piano you play those scales you'll be better than the first time you sat down this is exactly the same you practice Letting Go you practice

acceptance with the tiniest little things that go on in your life that now you just don't think it means anything to resist them it does you're wasting your time you're not practicing so what you do is the driver in front of you is driving slower than you want to go and you feel this oh I'm sorry if you do you ever feel resistance didn't what I mean when I say you feel resistance inside just feel resistance then the mind starts resisting the heart starts resisting you feel resistance that's the time you grow that's playing the

scales that's oh my God those are the most precious moments in your spiritual life you feel the resistance but it's not that strong one you notice it the fact that you notice it means that's like when is consciousness I notice the T tendy to resist now are you want to let go what what does that mean let go where I got in my growth is that relaxation is the antithesis of resistance when you are relaxing you can't resist if the wind is blowing and I want to pick up the plywood and hold it but instead

I relax I can't pick up the plywood and I can't hold it because I'm relaxing I can't tense my muscles I can't I'm relaxing so people always say well something bothers me I want to do something about it yes you should relax that's what you do about it I'm serious this is where the rubber hits the road this is your work you get to do it all day you got a built-in video game so it starts to resist and you remember this talk and you sit there and say this matters this matters if I don't

practice non-resistance I will never learn non-resistance I forgot why should I practice non-resistance because you stored all this stuff and you keep storing more stuff it's causing you to suffer it's stealing your life from you that's why you bother to learn this and so basically at that moment when it starts to tense and you feel those hands in there those the hands of your will you can push things around relax that is very hard even with the little things okay that's why we practice it's like it's hot out yes it's hot so I don't like

it I I'm sorry this is so simple it's ridiculous I'm sorry that it's hot out I'm sorry you don't like it but you ain't doing squat about the fact it's hot out but you can do something that you don't like it you have the right to work on yourself you have the right to grow you have the right to not resist and so you find ways to work with yourself I told you with the sun I was always very into astronomy I love all the stars that help me think of the size of the universe

and so if if it was hot it back in in the' 70s I noticed he's complains that it's hot didn't have air conditioning in my house or the car and it's hot in Florida and he'd complain and I sit there and say well why is it hot and make a long story short he'd look up at the Sun and say dear Dad did it right and I said I say what is that he'd say the sun I no it's not it's a star it's a star it's the same thing you look at at night those

little twinkle twinkles but this one's close enough that you feel it heat wow he thought that was fascinating you're close enough to a star to feel its heat and it's 93 million miles away and you feel its heat and you're complaining how far is Miami you know 250 300 how big would a fire have to be in Miami for to feel the heat here if the entire city caught fire you would not feel a single thing that thing's 93 million miles away and you feel the heat OMG all of a sudden it's like is that

sunshine it's it's Starshine and if you stay out there too long you don't get a sunburn you get a starburn all right that booger is so hot that it burn could burn wow all of a sudden it's exciting you get to do that you get to work with yourself that's called positive thinking you're welcome to do that or you're welcome I do this in a new book I give you some techniques and used to give techniques to me once you understand what's going on that's the technique I don't want to be like this anymore good

don't but people like techniques so basically positive things is a wonderful thing to do find ways to be positive about everything like I told you what about something bigger not really low hanging food somebody's yelling at you the boss is yelling at you just like we did with the sun and the star watch this did you know that you have vocal cords humans have vocal animals have sound making course they make sounds you make sounds too but you are so good at it that you go a e i o u a b apple apple you

make sounds don't you you can make it make sounds that's Prett far and your mind is so intelligent that you can understand what somebody else means when they make that sound you actually he makes the sound your ear picks up the sound and you would know what it's talking about and that's what's happening when somebody's yelling at you they're making sounds that did you understand isn't that exciting you can do it you hear me you can use your higher mind the other one you want a good one right somebody's yelling at you or you got

a car accident or something like that right go see the little planet spin in the middle of empty space I do it all the time in fact there's a picture right there opposite that door there and said why this 8 by 10 blank picture on the wall well it's not exactly blank there's a tiny little dot on it which is a actual photograph of the planet Earth from 2 million miles out when Cassini was on her way to Saturn she turned around said take a picture of home right it's like that big in the middle

of this thing and you're on it and there was a car accident you're on it and somebody yelling at you you're on it and you got sick and you got to go to a hospital on this little planet spin nowhere and there's nothing on any other planet we said the Hubble up there we sent the James web telescope there we ain't seen squat not an amoeba not a proo nothing and you're on this little piece of dir SP of nowhere and all this stuff's going on that is pretty neat it doesn't matter what it is

it's just amazing that that's going on isn't it I told you go to Mars and stay up there for a while there's nothing there by yourself and just sand and everything and if all of a sudden a roach big old roach ran by You' run after it not to catch it to be friends and you got all this going on here and all you can do is complain you get to do this with your mind this is called using your mind constructively instead of letting the fact that you couldn't handle some stuff and you stored

it in there and all that Rod is coming up in your mind all the complaints and the problems and the issues that's because you stored that stuff so basically there there's an example I love it I love it I'll never not do it if anything's happening to this planet Earth I read the paper come on we read the papers all the stuff goes on right you just take a little vacation start on the earth just sit there like you're on top of the Earth and then fall off fall off like that movie Gravity whatever it's

called right just fall off right but don't resist and then float until the Earth's not there anymore then go a little bit faster and start seeing galaxies floating by which ones the two trillion that there are and keep going forward and keep having it happening and then when you get far enough into it and you're ready and you m me for a while you listen to me turn around and look back there's no Earth you don't even know what galaxy belongs to two trillion galaxies each one with 300 billion stars it's gone until you were

never there why would it even be in your memory it's like this is the universe you have every right in the world to use reality to liberate yourself and then if you come back it doesn't mean you don't come back you come back you're a totally different person hear me the astronauts went up and they they had What's called the overview effect when they went to space they look down the planet and they said my God what am I doing down there I was born down there I'm going to die down there and oh my

God and they come back and they very much more constructive and much more caring and environmental and all kinds of stuff all right well you can have that with your mind you don't have to go into outter space you go do what I just told you anytime you want it's free of charge when it's all said that's the same as going when it goes I told you it just comes in and paints the picture in your mind well you can paint the picture in your mind anytime you want liberate yourself Free Yourself Free Yourself work

on yourself all right and you're going to find out that there's an anchor in there that keeps pulling you back that you can't stay out there it comes back and if you're luck you're lucky you get out there you can't get out there you start to go yeah but what about George what's George going to do when I'm God oh my God I want about the kids I so you basically wake up you can work with yourself the way I talked to with your mind you can a simple thing to do is Mantra I want

you understand why these techniques evolved they're real they're not religious what do you mean ever get a song caught in your mind ever get a song caught in your mind that won't stop well now you have a choice pay attention to the song or pay attention to the garbage of your mind is saying that's what a mantra is it's a very neutral phrase that's going on in the back of your mind not in the front in the back of your mind you can plan it there by saying it over and over again and now an

event happening outside and all of a sudden you startu to feel all that junky energy you know what I'm talking about and all of a sudden you hear just quietly in the back I can handle this I can handle this I can handle this how would you like to hear that every time someone starts yelling at you well they're saying I can handle this I can handle this instead of I can't handle this or or do a mantra I don't care God's name I don't care the point is you're not letting your Consciousness become absorbed

and addicted and struggling with this garbage that's coming up in your personal mind due to the stuff you stored in there and next thing you know your Consciousness feels Liberation it feels a freedom okay and then ultimately it's witness Consciousness you don't have to do any of those well you should you can do those things I don't make S you don't do them you use the tools that are in your toolbox witness Consciousness says I don't need to think my way out I don't need to monitor my way out although they're very good things to

do don't hear me saying not to do them I am noticing that the mind has its issues and the heart has its issues but I'm not pulled into them I'm just noticing I'm not denying I'm noticing that's witness Consciousness from that seed of witness Consciousness you don't get pulled down into the garbage so therefore this act of not resisting is much easier because it's something down there Ras once said I feel like I'm standing on a bridge and the water is Flowing out under the bridge and everyone once in a while hits some rocks and

a spray comes up and it just reaches me and I look down there and remember I used to live in that that's witness Consciousness I used to live down there in that turm malous water it's still there I don't have to stop from being there but I don't live there I am the witness The Observer the Consciousness that is experiencing what's going on that's aware of what's going on and from there from that seat where you're not sucked into it how by relaxing I'm telling you I've been doing this for more 50 years it's about

relaxing isn't yoga about relaxing awesomess aren't they about relaxing okay it's about relaxing when when you don't want the reason you don't want to relax is because you want to resist you want to push it away relax let it pass through and little by little it'll be gone all right now you do that with the simple things just for fun and you're going to find out you're better at playing the scales now you can play Twinkle Twinkle same thing here you're better off at relaxing through things that you used to resist now all of a

sudden something bigger will happen and the exact same behavior pattern inside will work you'll relax but just relax and you'll feel some distance and eventually what will happen is you'll start to feel what's underneath all that junk when you shove that junk down down there you don't understand how important that was not only you wasting your energy shoving it down there but you shoved it on top of the shaky flow I promise you I assure you there is something beautiful flowing inside of you yand said there's a river of Joy flowing inside of you and

basically you blocked it with the stuff you're shoving down there as you let it go you'll start to feel that Joy all of a sudden you'll hear birds sing you'll feel love well the birds were always singing you too busy listening to your junk and all of a sudden more and more things will pass through you'll get higher and higher and that encourages you to let go more because you now because I taught it to you you'll start noticing if I'm willing to relax through this stuff there's a much nicer life inside and then you'll

do more and eventually I always close this way you get to the point and you will you will I don't care how long it takes if you work with this every single day and let go of the stuff as it comes up the best your ability you will get to the point where the energy flows is so strong inside that it's always Bible calls it the rush of holy Waters there's always coming up inside of you going up now it goes down because you're busy fighting with everything it won't go down anymore it'll go up

every once in a while something will happen that could have brought it down but you ain't trading that off this is too nice in here I ain't give it yell at me all you want do whatever you want you let go let go and you start feeling this Joy this Bliss EX to see satand flowing inside and eventually it gets so strong that you can't resist its pull so that you who is noticing it falls into it and that's like an experience of love that's so strong that you melt some experience happens some music you

can melt into music can't you you melt into the shock and it takes you where it came from and that's where the great Masters went I was in the spirit of the Lord's day man does not live but alone by every word that leave with the mouth of God every single thing they're teaching is the exact same thing that yoga teaches that the great Master's experien that buddh is nirvana it's all the same and it gets so strong that your Consciousness merges into it that's what yoga means Union merger your individual concept of self falls

apart Christ go to dying to be reborn every single thing he taught every single thing the cabala teaches every single thing the Sufi teach it's all there all of yoga that's spirituality and eventually you merge that drop of your conscious falls into the ocean of Consciousness and okay so we talked about the heavy stuff didn't we I didn't just talk about the driver in front of you but it's all the same you have to practice Letting Go it does no good to store what bothers you inside of you it's going to keep bothering you you

have to learn how to let go but that doesn't mean when you come back you don't help you don't don't work for change or whatever it is but you don't do it out of anger you don't do it out of hatred you don't do it out of fear and anxiety you don't do it because you couldn't handle it now I'm going to fight with everything to express that I couldn't handle it you can handle it you're the person I want to my table I can handle it I went through this I went through this terrible

situation and how are you about it it's fine I understand I understand how it happened I forgive everybody no problem now how can I help other people go through it you're the person can help because you made it so that's the highest thing you can do it's not selfish let go we talked about acceptance we talk about letting go talk about surrender inside Letting Go falling back so that's spiritual path work on these things agative