Selling Without Selling - Selling Simplified

back says go all right here we go so hey guys Myron golden here here's the fifth video Elling simplified the five biggest mistakes sales people make that keep them from making sales that make sales hard when you do it that way this mistake is mind-blowing [Music] mistake number five is trying to get people trying to get people to buy to buy that's always a mistake don't try to get people to buy but instead what you should be doing is creating a an environment Byron mint that's a funny word okay creating an environment that makes people

feel makes them feel keyword I'm going to put that in all caps feel like buying like like buying that that's a huge mistake of all the mistakes that may be the biggest that may be the biggest mistake sales people ever make trying to get people to buy they're trying to talk people into buying their stuff they're trying to convince them to buy their stuff so I'm going to give you a couple of definitions before I go into detail here number one there's a difference between selling and convincing selling is not convincing and convincing is not

selling I'm a great salesman I'm a hard closer if you're a hard closer you're a hard closer because you don't know how to sell I know I know I offended some of you and I know some of you think I'm wrong but if you change to do it this way that I'm about to show you it'll change your life it'll change your business so so um here's what you have to understand selling is not convincing convincing's not selling convincing means I'm attempting to talk somebody into doing something I desire them to do for my reasons

but persuasion is the opposite that's what selling is selling is persuasion and persuasion is helping people make a decision they already desire to make for their own reasons so convincing is attempting is when I attempt to get you to do something I desire you to do for my reasons persuasion is one I help somebody make a decision they already desire to make for their own reasons so the person we should be focusing on when we're selling is them not us right so that's why trying to get people to buy is a mistake think about it

do you like it when somebody tries to talk you into doing something you don't like to do and most people I believe this is one of the reasons why most people think they don't like to sell because the only sales experiences we remember are the bad ones what does that mean well like remember how somebody did a horrible job showing you any of the value that you get from the thing they're attempting to get you to buy and then they try to pressure you into buying it and it feels so yucky it's like oh that's

gross it's like syrup between your fingernails I mean between your fingers right nobody wants that and so you remember that but really good sales experiences you don't remember them they're seamless they're effortless they are you don't feel them they're it's like you're under sales anesthesia what do I mean by that like you bought an iPhone probably I don't know maybe you bought an iPhone I I have an iPhone right I had I had the first iPhone then I had the iPhone 3 I had the iPhone 4 I had the iPhone 5. skipped this no I

had the iPhone 6 skipped the seven had the eight um if there was a nine I skipped that but I definitely got the 10 had the 11 skipped the 12 now I have the 13 right well here's the interesting thing about it nobody had to talk me into buying an iPhone nobody had to talk to me to buy them the first one or the iPhone 3 or the four or the five or the six or the eight or the 10 or the 11. I just bought them because well I wanted them right at least that's

what I think I bought those iPhones and this iPhone because I felt like buying it see when I understood and began to really understand at a higher level human beings are singularly motivated which means people do what they do for one reason and one reason only and that is because they feel like it you say no it's because they want to the reason they want to is because they feel like it everything in sales when you understand that everything in selling goes back to feelings people buy what they feel like buying and whatever that feeling

like whatever they the feeling is that makes them feel like buying whatever caused that feeling cause that feeling but the reason they bought because they felt like it see nobody needs a 300 000 Dollar Car people why do people buy rolls royces and lamborghinis for 300 000 or 400 000 no he needs a 300 400 500 000 car it doesn't get you there five ten times faster or 20 times faster than a thirty thousand dollar car so why do people do it they do it because they feel like there's something about that experience that makes

them feel like yes right um nobody nobody needs 10 pair of sneakers or 10 pair of shoes for that matter you only have one pair of feet but you got ten pair of shoes or Worse 30 pair of shoes or 40 pair of shoes why did you buy them you bought them because somebody sold them to you and the way they sold them to you is they made you feel like buying because when somebody is actually good at sales and they create an environment that makes you feel like buying you think you bought it because

it was your idea I mean wrap your mind around that you don't remember somebody knocking on your door and say would you like to buy an iPhone would you like to buy an iPad why because it didn't happen but what they did was they created an environment where they made the iPad or the iPhone look cool and then everybody wanted one oh they're gonna have one oh my goodness well it's only fifteen hundred dollars for that phone I'll take it right and so they created that feeling in you that made you say I have to

have that thing and so when you understand how do you create emotions in other people that cause them to feel like doing the thing that you desire them to do and I'm going to show you more quickly maybe than I have ever shown anybody in my life in the next four or five minutes at the outside how to create a feeling in people that causes them to feel like buying so here's how it works um when you understand that this is the fact and so what happens that's the fact and I'm going to undo that

part and then I'm going to move this part over here okay so that's the fact this is you or we won't even say this is you for the sake of this illustration we'll say this is your prospect right your prospect is over here and you're talking to them and they observe the fact and the fact this could be your product right that fat could be your product it could be your opportunity it could be your service whatever they observe the fact your job is to use words to put a frame around that fact and that

frame creates a focus in their head and there's no dot or you don't got to use you just thought the Eisen iron okay so you put a you put a focus you you put a frame around the fact and the frame causes your focus the reason you put frame around the picture is so you can focus on what's inside the picture right so you put a frame around that fact and that frame is in the form of focus that you install in their head that you get them to focus on an aspect of the fact

now of your and that fat could be your product you haven't focus on the aspect of your product your product has a positive aspect it has a negative aspect not positive and negative objectively but positive or negative for them in their mind when you get them to focus on what's positive to them about your offer your product your service your opportunity they buy when you get them to focus on the negative aspects which is usually has something to do with you your product your company all that stuff you want to tell them about how long

you've been in business what the stuff all the great stuff about your business how wonderful you are and how you believe in quality customer service and integrity and all the rest of those useless words people use when you get them to focused on that that doesn't do anything for them so what happens is if you get them to focus on the positive aspects of the fact makes them happy they buy if you begin to focus on a negative aspect makes them sad okay well here's what happens you create this focus in their head and as

soon as you get them to focus on something they're going to amplify what you caused them to focus on it's going to cause them to conjure up a belief about you and about your offer okay y'all tracking so it's gonna cause you to conjurable belief it causes them because of belief and that belief is like a two-sided coin if that coin lands on heads they're going to have a belief called faith if that belief lands on Tails it's going to cause them to have a belief called doubt now here's what most people don't realize faith

and doubt are both belief most people think that faith is belief and doubt is the absence of belief but faith is belief in the outcome you desire or this person desires doubt is belief in the outcome you don't desire I'm going to make this a little smaller there we go so faith is belief in the outcome you desire doubt is belief in the outcome you don't decide what happens when you have this belief that belief travels down into your heart and then it creates so the focus in your head creates a feeling boom there it

is a Feeling in your heart that feeling is going to be determined by whether or not you got them to focus on the positive or the negative whether they manifested Faith or whether they manifested doubt if the feeling that they focus on I mean it's the aspect of their belief they focus on is Faith that's going to cause create the feeling of anticipation anticipation is the energy I get when the outcome I desire or when the outcome I expect is desirable to me I'm going to say that again anticipation is the energy I get when

the outcome I expect is desirable to me now what happens when I'm talking about my product and they anticipate that they are going to get an outcome that they desire what happens they feel good about it and that good feeling is what causes them to say yes to your offer but if I cause them to have doubt because I got them to focus on something that to me was positive but to them was negative now they're going to have anxiety and anxiety the feeling that I get when the outcome I desire and when the outcome

I expect is not desirable to me so what is what is anxiety anxiety is when the feeling I get is or when the feeling I the anxiety is the feeling I get when the outcome I expect is undesirable to me and so I have anxiety and anxiety robs me of the energy to take the action so now instead of me like showing them all of the good stuff that they get that they desire I show them all the stuff that I think is good that I desire them to focus on and then they end up

saying no because I created an environment that made them feel like not buying okay so what happens well when the focus in their head creates the feeling in their heart that feeling in their heart produces or manufactures or creates one two three four five one two three four five it creates are you ready for this it creates a function in their hands and when the focus in their head is Faith and the feeling in their heart is anticipation the function in their hand is called power now they have the power to purchase what you have

offered them but when how did I do that okay so the power so when the focus in your head creates when the focus in their head causes them to manufacture a belief called doubt it's going to create a feeling called anxiety that anxiety is going to create a function in their hands called powerlessness and now it's not even that they don't want to buy now you've created an environment where they can't buy why can't they buy they can't buy because you cause them to focus on the wrong aspect of your offer and when you are

trying to get them to buy they are going to resist buying because nobody likes to get got they are going to resist buying when you try to get them to buy they can feel that you're desperate for a check or you're desperate for a sale so you can get an award whatever the reason is they can feel it and when they feel pursued when they feel chased when they feel pressured they are going to resist but when they feel served and they feel loved and they feel like you have their best interest in mind the

only thing they can't do is not by so instead of trying to get people to buy what you have to sell instead create an environment that makes them feel like buying and watch your sales go through the roof I'm Myron golden remember subscribe like comment share and I'll see you on the next video I'm out