My Best Life Advice For You | What 83 Years Of Living Has Taught Me | Life Over 60

hello and welcome so nice to see you again thank you so much for joining me for a few minutes for this conversation today as you know those of you who follow me my granddaughter and her friend came to florida to visit with me while they were going to a country music concert in fort lauderdale and we had the best conversation and i want to share that with you today [Music] [Music] let us all just take a minute stop and look around and be thankful for everything that we have right now in this moment [Music] it

seems as though when you're an elder you get asked a lot of questions because everyone is curious about your life and about what your ideas are on life well my granddaughter is 18 and she and her friend came down here to fort launched they came to fort lauderdale for a country music festival and had a great time we went out to breakfast as you know because i've shown pictures and while we were sitting after breakfast and walking along and we sat down near the beach she asked me a question and she said nana what advice

would you give me that will help me age just the way you have i said well i don't know whether i can help you age but i can tell you and all the years that i have lived things that i have learned that have helped me lead a better life and maybe not a longer life but a better life and i said well maclean i have learned a lot in my lifetime i've made a lot of mistakes but the best thing about those mistakes is that i took the lessons from them so that i was

not making those same mistakes over again but the first thing i told her is in your life do what is right not what is easy and i want you to think about that sometimes we take the easy route because it's you know less complicated and and good for us and maybe not really good for everybody else but i want you to take the other road i want you to do what is right whether it's in your college whether it's with your friends or your workplace or your family don't take the easy road but just sit

down and think about it and maybe the easy road is the right road but don't take the easy road road and always think about taking the right road now i know a lot of you probably have had circumstances in your life where the when you have had to make that decision and maybe when you were younger you made those decisions because it was easier for you but now that you're mature and you've lived a little bit longer maybe you realize that that was a mistake and you should have taken the right road i have always

tried to take the right road although it has not always been easy and mainly i think probably the biggest thing that i did is when my husband became ill i gave up a thriving career on television it was so hard for me because i absolutely loved what i did i loved getting up and going to work every single day i loved it but i knew that when i lost my husband and when i was the main caretaker of my children i knew the right road was to be with them and not to have them lose

both their mother and their father i knew the right road was to stay with them and to raise them and to be able to have some type of work that i could support us all but yet that i could be there with them more it wasn't easy but i knew it was what i should do it was the right road and it's because i love them so that is the first thing that i would say to my granddaughter or to anyone always try to take the right road when you're younger weren't we full of dreams

oh i can remember the dreams that i had were absolutely maybe out of touch for when i was living in this small industrial town in ohio but dreams are only dreams until you take action maybe it takes you a long time to realize that dream it took me 50 years to realize my dream of being on the stage in new york city and acting or being in film or being on television it took me 50 years but i never let go of that dream back in my mind the time frame may not be the one

that is meant for you but if you have a dream don't only dream that dream but take action to try to make it come true treat others always the way that you want to be treated you know at the end of all of my videos i always said be kind to whomever crosses your path and that's because this has been one of the things that i have learned throughout the life treat others the way that you want to be treated because i have found everything in life that you give out you get back everything if

you give out negativity and hate and spite and jealousy that'll come back to bite you it really will but if you give out love support kindness all of those things will come back to you but i do believe so much in treating others the way that i want to be treated i think that is extremely extremely important take risks and if you fail don't stop there don't stop get up off of your knees as i said a thousand times get up off of your knees and and don't quit because if you quit you will never

realize anything in life never everything will just stop and fail and you will wind up being extremely unhappy and you're going to wonder why am i here but don't quit if you have a dream if you have a purpose if you have a goal whatever it is in your life that you want to do don't quit even if you're planting a garden and you spread those little seedlings out so beautifully and you water and you water and you water and only half of them come out up don't give up plant new seeds and water them

and they surely will grow but that's like our lives if we don't plant good seeds then we will never grow and nothing very few good things probably will happen to us because we don't we don't follow through on everything so tronite try not to try not to quit and that i think is something that i think encourages even young people too because in this world things to be so overwhelming that they sometimes just give up because it seems to too hard remember i always talk about your gut instinct and how important it is in everything

that we do and how many times we don't listen to that instinct that is 99.9 right most of the time listen to your instinct whenever you are wondering about something and whenever you have to make a decision in your life whenever you meet someone and there's a vibe there that you are feeling whether it's negative or positive listen to your instinct how many times in your life has your inner voice told you something and you've pushed her aside and said shut up i don't want to hear it and you go on because your heart tells

you to or because you want to and it turns out to be the wrong thing and then you look back and you said uh-huh my instinct told me way back when that this was not a good choice for me listen to your instinct so if you start young mclean and you can always take that gut instinct and roll it around and think about it probably the choice that you will make from that will be the right one for you we've talked about this a lot learn something every day you are never too young to be

curious and to try to learn something new every day even if it's a new way of tying your scarves even if it's a something new in technology even if it's a new book coming out or learning a new skill be curious about life be curious about about the planet around you and try to be curious about your friends and what is happening with them because so often whatever is happening with them they hide and what you see on the surface is not what they're feeling how many times maybe we can reach out and help other

people if we actually listen and we learn ask questions about them ask them how they're feeling anything in life never stop learning and that i think will keep you young forever to the very last breath and when you think of all of the older women who in their 80s became famous because they were living their dream and they were not too old to learn something new believe in yourself we have talked about this too i mean some of these things i know that we have discussed before but believe in yourself mclean believe in yourself don't

ever let outside static or other people's opinions shape your own view of you because if you do that a lot of times you'll miss out on opportunities and a lot of times your self-worth will be eroded away and basically that kind of comes down to the last thing i want to talk about don't worry don't ever worry about what other people think now i probably spent three quarters of my life worrying about what other people thought whatever people thought about me what other people thought about my marriage what other people thought about my circumstances how

i dressed you know whatever people thought about anything i was so concerned about my public image and what people thought and even my private image what you know when i was having problems with my husband who was ill oh my i'm so embarrassed what are people gonna think you know how stupid i am or how uncaring i am or or or how how could i make such choices in my life don't worry about what other people we think and then when i had went through menopause i gained 20 pounds or maybe 30 pounds and i

thought oh gee people will think i'm fat you know who cares who cares let it go and when you're young that is so hard because you really don't know who you are yet and you don't usually have the mature self-confidence to to be strong enough to look to believe that you are unique and you are special but don't worry what other people think be unique be memorable be confident be proud but mainly be you i hope she remembers and will take my advice as she goes along through her life in college and business and beyond

or maybe getting married and have a family if i'm not here on this planet i hope she will remember if you were to sit down with your children or your grandchild or maybe your granddaughter because this basically i can't be both male and female but basically toward young women and if they would ask you what are the pieces best pieces of advice you can give me just exactly what would you tell them i really would love to know if you can and if you have time and if you don't mind thinking about it please put

your responses down in the comments i would genuinely love to know what seven excellent pieces of advice would you give to your child or to your grandchild to help them lead a better life going forward thanks so much for joining me today i am blessed and i feel so special that all of you have come to share conversations with me and share a little bit of time with me sophie is down here on the floor sleeping she's having a senior moment of relaxation after her long walk today and it's really hot down here in florida

please do something wonderful for yourself today be kind to whomever crosses your path let's all share the love and pray for world peace thank you again and i hope to see you in my next video [Music]