Ep 21: Pop The Balloon Or Find Love | With Arlette Amuli

[Music] n hello everyone and welcome back to my channel it's your host Arlette and we are back with another episode of pop the balloon or fine love and this time around we've got some beautiful Single Ladies Make Some Noise ladies woo all right so we are going to be bringing out some single men one by one when they come around this corner if he's your type you know he checks all of your check boxes whatever it is do not pop your balloon however anything he says or you know maybe just really not feeling his fit

whatever it is go ahead and pop your balloon if you aren't feeling him at all okay are we ready all right so let's go ahead and bring out our first single guy hello welcome in I'll have you hold that what's your name my name is Troy and I'm 33 years old with a baby face all right Troy what do you do I'm a family nurse practitioner with over 7 years experience and I also recently uh started my own company uh hotline Health it's a tele medicine company geared towards uh men but I'm qualified to help

um everyone and I just uh love being an entrepreneur and helping the community and that's what I do very nice uh what are some things like to do for fun uh mainly I love to travel uh mainly of course experiences uh either in the Caribbean or Italy I just love new experiences I'm spontaneous I'm also adrenaline junkie so either from hang gliding uh scuba diving river rafting jet ski um and then basic also like basketball and uh just eating you know nice Cuisines nice nice now what are some things you look for in a woman

uh I look for first and foremost um a Christian woman uh mainly you know love God um another plus is if she does attend church regular like I do uh and also if she can hold a note um you know I love to sing and so maybe do a little Duets you know would be nice and go from there and mainly someone that has a caring spirit and just a sweet person got it now what are some of your deal breakers uh mainly someone who smokes um and just not a pleasant attitude and someone who

can just be peaceful but also loves to try new things and just have fun okay all right well we did get uh two pop balloons let's head on over there see why they end popping all right definitely come on okay if we can have your name and age hi baby face my name is Lila Elise I'm 29 okay and Lea Elise what do you do I am a real estate investor and I also just got into project management awesome okay so why did you end up hopping your balloon so I really love your demeanor um

very calm very welcoming I feel very comfortable appreciate it unfortunately we just don't align in terms of like the church you know um I am an adrenaline junkie too but yeah the church that's a big thing we went in a line on I think that's very foundational it's very important yes um and then yeah all right I respect definitely now is Lea Lee someone that's your type yes definitely she's beautiful I love the color she has you know and it compliments her well thank you thank you and we did get one more down over here

let's head on over there okay let's start with your name and age Kendra I'm 29 all right what do you do nice meet you too I work in sports I'm the head of a Marketplace for an nil Network okay very nice and now why didn't you end up popping your balloon just not aligned religiously but you're dressed so so nice so attractive thank you thank you so much and now is Kendra someone that's your type yes definitely I like the accessor she has you know and I see she has Style with the white shoes so

definitely thank you yeah all right thank you let's head on back all right so we do still have quite a few balloons left un popped go ahead and ask these ladies a question just help you narrow it down see who's on your type definitely so what would you say is one interesting or unique thing about yourself okay let's start right on over here if we can have your name name and age first hi baby face I'm Serena and I'm 29 okay and Serena what do you do um I work at regular 95 I drive coach

buses and also I'm a full-time student for pre nursing there you go definitely nursing connection now your question was what something unique about yourself correct yeah unique or interesting about yourself um something interesting is that um I shoot pool and I work out five to six days a week so okay definitely the fitness awesome let's go right on over here your name and age Jordan I'm 27 awesome nice to Jordan what do you do I'm a therapist and I also own a small business great and if you want to just go ahead and answer his

question yeah so um aside from being a therapist I'm really really into herbalism um so I'm actually working towards becoming a registered herbalist and I think that's pretty interesting awesome all right what's going on over here your name and age hi my name is Candy and I'm 29 hello candy what do you do I am an HR professional and I am also a Travy adviser okay good good and if you want to just answer his question absolutely so um one interesting thing about me is that I love travel as well um so I think that's

one of the things that we could really connect on is just being able to travel um and I truly believe in living life and not just exist just existing so that's important to really experience yeah totally agree yeah what's going on over here your name and age I'm t AA I'm 29 and Tena what do you do I'm a real estate agent and a part-time server okay nice and then if you want to go ahead and just answer his question so one interesting thing about me is that I actually like anime okay and um and

also pretty nerdy things like um Lord of the Rings as well cool cool hey everybody likes what they like yeah so that's what I like okay yeah awesome thank you let's go on to our last Lady over here your name and age my name is Nia but I go by NA mon I'm 26 years old I'm in the beauty and wellness industry and something interesting about me is I do modeling acting and music awesome I love all things beauty I'm actually getting a degree in that I love helping people making them feel beautiful and understand

that Health and Beauty and wellness is a commitment self-care is really important I do understand and I love that you like to travel and I like the way that you carry yourself as well I appreciate it so much thank you all right let's head on back let's head on back all right so I am going to now hand you a pick okay it is time to pop these ladies balloons so let me I watch all the clips and now it's my turn it's your turn yes yes it is okay so I am going to have

you pop let's go with one balloon one balloon yes based off of what you see what you've heard whatever may be okay okay all right why did we end up popping her balloon um just I Love Her Style you know the black uh mainly I think just initially just a physical attraction okay M okay all right fair enough yeah and I love to hear the color you know everything okay thank you let's head on back okay go ahead and ask our beautiful ladies another question okay if you was describe your yourself SL your personality as

an animal what would it be Wow Let's Start down there and then move back all right let's start with you I think that I would be a cheetah okay I feel like I am Majestic and kind of fast in a way all right and yeah okay good so for me I would say probably a bird all right um because I feel like I have a free spirit and like I mentioned before I really like to enjoy life so I would say a bird definitely like that answer over here I would say a lionist because um

the lions are known to be the king of the jungle but if you know anything about them as creatures um the woman um is actually really the homestead for yes for them so and over here I would say I'm a cat and um a cat because cats are very independent um they love to sleep and love to eat I love sleep and I love eating and also um cats sometimes need their space but they come and they they're very affectionate and they come up under you so I'm I'm pretty much like a cat okay cool

cool cool all right okay it is time to pop another balloon and I would say can I answer it oh yeah let's go ahead and hear yours but I would say that for me it would be more of like a bear um I am a leader um pretty much I'm also an nurer especially being in the healthcare field and um also being strong and powerful to even protect the home and my loved ones so yeah okay nice all right so off of these responses you've heard let's go ahead and pop one of those balloons just

one just one okay sorry sorry all right why did we end up Popp hers I think I love all the your responses so far definitely I think the compatibility especially with the anime and the things I think just it wouldn't jel well with me but you know I love your smile I love the pearls um and yes I just think off of the vibe all right and now why did you have your balloon unpopped for him I think that he has a really nice style um his career is really intriguing and I would love to

learn more about it but um yeah okay thank you perfect thank you appreciate it okay we do have three ladies left let's I have you asked one final question one final question probably like man I came with two can I check my notes real quick you have notes oh y' he came ready okay let's check those notes yeah see he said I'm finding I'm finding my match today sorry sorry sorry um okay two-part question okay um but what are some qualities you look for in a partner and what do you feel of some elements for

a successful relationship okay let's start on over here um some qualities I would look for in a partner is a man that's considerate number one um a man who has some sort of relationship with a woman figure in in his life okay um that that shows me that you know you understand women and femininity um somebody who is loving who loves affection a leader um a man with a plan a love intentional man and um and the second part was qualities of a partner important things for a relationship correct yeah um communication but comprehension along

with communication because you can have great communication within the relationship all day true but it's about do you understand me when I'm talking or do I understand you when you're talking if it's something that bothers you can I bring that to you or can you bring it to me and without um arguing and not every disagreement is an argument so we're able to disagree with each other love that yeah yeah all right let's hear from you okay um so I look for emotional intelligence okay in a man and I know that's a very common phrase

um and I think it's misused a little bit obviously it's about understand your partner but I also think a component that a lot of people Miss is understanding your own emotions and being able to articulate those and control them um so emotional intelligence on both of those levels yes um I also look for a man whose manhood is not grounded in anything external right I want um a man who is confident in his manhood and who he is regardless of me or anybody else um and then I think to answer your second question what's important

to me in a relationship ship is obviously communication um both ways um and also uh the ability to again communicate how you're feeling in a productive way yes um and then secondly um am an ambitious man right um who's not intimidated by an ambitious woman a lot I'm a traditional woman right and I find that a lot of traditional men although I am looking for a traditional man they often are intimidated by an ambitious woman so yes got it all right and our last girl here yes um so some of the things that I look

for in a man is definitely compatibility um I want to be able to have a friend uh first and foremost in a relationship so definitely compatibility um I also look for um qualities someone who has a relationship with God so you mentioned being in church and those types of things I do a lot of uh mentoring and tutoring of children um and I also am very active in the in the church Community as well um and then also emotional intelligence so one that has already been mentioned um but for me that's really huge because I

want um someone who is able to understand my emotions as a woman understand my emotions as your partner yes um but also understand your own emotions and how to regulate those and conversations or conflict and things like that um so in a relationship I think um the biggest thing is uh definitely emotional intelligence and communication so again um comprehending is one thing and being able to communicate is another so it's you know both go hand in hand for me yeah definitely ooo those are good responses they are they are they came with the heat they

came yes they did all right so you do have to pop one of their balloons unfortunately sorry okay all right why did we end up popping her balloon so for starters I love the color I love the dress um mainly just out of the three remaining I just feel like I'm more gravitating to them too um but I do love the eye contact you gave when you're answering questions and things like that all those small key things I pay attention to right and why did you have your balloon un popped for him he's a very

handsome guy carries himself well and he speaks really well as well so and I love the outfit I I love for my man to have you know some nice in you know Classic on so I appreciate it yeah okay all right our two remaining ladies any questions for our guy okay let's start right over here I actually wanted to ask you to Define in your own terms what it means to be a man but since you already mentioned your religion what does it mean to be a god L man God man definitely um so for

starters without Christ you know where would we be and so mainly for me growing up in the church but as well as I've seen how God's hand has moved and blessed me along different trials that I've been through and so one uh using him as the leader in everything that I do in decisions that I make and maybe trips I want to go on or uh business ventures and so with prayer and fasting sometimes um that's where I get the guidance and so I see that is really important you know and so you know I

don't hate on anyone else who likes to do it on their own way but I know with me um God is important and without Christ in my life that I wouldn't be the level I am thank you yeah you're welcome any questions here yes I have a lot of questions but um what do you like to do for fun so like I mentioned you know adrenaline but so on a simple level things of singing doing a karaoke um sometimes playing board games uh going to like a participating in a dance class say like a Zumba

or hip-hop class and so I'm definitely loving to switch things up and so I don't like just a boring stagnant life and you know there's beauty in all things and so yeah that those are a few things to list okay yeah all right do you go out at all or anything like that as far as like a social life in that regard oh oh yes yeah you know few of my family and friends label me as a social butterfly and so yes I am more outside than not um there's rarely a day when I'm in

24 hours like I just it yeah that's not me and so I'm all for the social events and sometimes even planning things outside or even Church related too okay okay okay all right woo y'all came with all the heat today all right it is time to pop one of their balloons who are we going to pop can I ask one last question just on where they live that's all okay let's do that that's that's that's a simple enough one all right where do you live I'm actually nomadic so I like I said I'm a therapist

but I work fully remote okay so I travel wherever I plan on living I'm currently staying in Texas that'll only be for a couple more weeks okay okay where do you stay so I am in North Carolina Charlotte North Carolina Charlotte North Carolina I've been there as well yeah okay where are you I'm based out of Phoenix now okay yeah originally from New York but I'm here now for the past few years okay okay with that information who we popping one key one key question is it'll be quick no no it's not actually a question

well it's more of a statement please okay okay okay okay I have o okay I guess never mind then I was just going to say that I have a son that's all if it was a deal breaker for anybody but that's it okay yeah we do I'll come back actually no let's let's go here first then we'll go to her okay so why do we end up popping um I I understand there's a lot of beautiful women up here um but I feel like when you get narrow down to two I want an intentional man

I I want you to be able to choose what what's best for you so that's fair yeah I was just mentioning that I had a son that's all but yeah that's fine okay so now he did did say he has a son is that a deal breaker for you uh no how old is your son 18 months yeah that might be a just kind of young yeah and that's for and that's why I wanted to mention yeah yeah I don't have a problem with the kids but I just I just don't do the baby mama

drama and I don't know that you have of I was previously married for 11 years but yeah there is no toxicness but I just wanted to mention he seems really young though for the Sun so I I I understand no judgment no for sure that's why I wanted to all right okay let's head on back yeah I just want to be honest yeah we almost had her yeah no it's cool I wanted to definitely make sure everyone understood I mean I had a little song to sing from a match too as well but you I

don't have one so it's all good we want to hear it n no it'll be when AR let brings me again when we bring you back okay okay all right well that is all the balloons but ladies let's go ahead and give it up for him I'll take this mic thank you so [Laughter] much okay let's go ahead and bring out our next single guy hello welcome in I'll have you hold that what's your name hello my name my name is jock ja jock jock right French okay okay and how old are you I am

35 ma'am 35 and what do you do I I am a cyber security engineer cyber security engineer yes ma'am okay now what are some things you like to do for fun uh I like uh hiking I go to a lot of tropical places uh typically I just came back from Columbia earlier this year uh I like uh snorkeling so that's one of one of my favorite things to do okay uh as well my free time I have uh a lot of friends I like to hang out with I live in Vegas as well so uh

I uh I uh I hang out with them a lot of time uh it's it's a lot of stuff to do in Vegas as well so like uh that place keeps me preoccupied regardless okay nice and now uh what are some things you look for in a woman oh uh I would like start my own family so uh hopefully she doesn't have any kids no offense or anything uh see hopefully she's nice and kind uh she's a she likes catering right to a guy that she connects with uh there is a spark of connection and

uh most important thing for me I'm a hard worker and I want a woman that is also a hard worker too okay now what are some deal breakers for you uh like I said earlier if she has any kids uh that's that's the main deal breaker yeah uh okay all right so we did get some pops let's go on over there see why they ended up popping yes ma'am all right let's start here with your name and age hi I'm Serena I'm 29 hello Serena and Serena why did you end up h in your balloon

you said you wanted a hardworking woman and I am not a hard worker I don't want a job so that's pretty much that that's cool um I'm born to be feminine not hard yeah okay now prior to him saying that it was he someone that is your type he is someone that's my type um I'm actually not trying to go for my type but you are someone that I would give a chance to yeah and now uh Jo is someone that's your type absolutely okay and all right so we did get another pop well two

more let's go down over here your name and age I'm Tena I'm 29 okay and Tanisha why did you end up popping your balloon so I actually live in Sky sale and that is a deal breaker for me so him being in Vegas was a deal breaker yeah got it got it but is he someone that is your type oh absolutely yeah okay nice fit and everything thank you and now is she someone that's your type ad holla okay so that's a yes no like it's a yes okay cool cool thank you let's go on

over here your name and age hi my name is Kendra I'm 29 okay and Kendra why did you pop your balloon for me it was just the fact that he mentioned he wants a woman to cater but he also wants like a hard worker and for me it's like if you want you kind of have to choose a lane where it's like if you want a woman that's going to be a hardworking professional I love that and I admire that but if you want a woman that's going to be at home catering to you she's

not going to be out like only so much time in the day but you look so good dressed nice handsome the whole thank you thank you very much and now is she someone that's your type yes okay thank you all right so we do have four balloons left unpopped go ahead and ask these remaining ladies a question just to help you narrow it down all right uh first question I have how are you uh in moments of anger like how how are you when you're mad like or angry okay let's start with your name and

age and how are you when you're mad hi is it Josh jock jock I'm sorry Hi jock I'm Leila Elise I'm 29 um the question is how am I when I when I'm angry that's actually a great question I think it's really important um when I'm angry I like to be very intentional um figure out you know why I'm angry what's triggering it but also stay calm in those moments so that I can work through it um yeah I think it's really important to stay calm because then in moments of anger if I'm dealing with

another person um it also if I'm calm it disarms them so they're not angry and now we have a peaceful kind of a situation where we can kind of move through whatever conflict it was so definitely definitely just remaining calm okay all right let's go on over here let's start with your name and age and how are you handle hanger anger I'm Jordan I'm 27 and I am definitely the type of person who I do like space um when I'm angry I would say when I was younger like teenage years um I did struggle with

handling my anger and I feel like now as an adult who's dealt with that I do like to have space um so that we can come back and have a productive conversation okay okay we'll be back we'll be back let's go on down over here all right name and age and how do you handle anger my name is Nia but I go by naon and how I angle how I handle anger is I like to allow myself to feel all my emotions and then revisit the situation and you know what I mean what's going on

and then I like to talk to the person if I'm angry at them and get down to the bottom of it and go from there good thank you okay let's go to our lady who ended up hopping her balloon your name and age hi my name is Candy and I'm 29 and Candy why did you pop your balloon um so originally I was definitely trying to give it some time to just maybe hear a little bit more um I love your career choice um I'm an HR professional certified in the field so I admire a

man who has a professional job um but I think initially just after I kind of have thought about it um personality wise I feel like you might be a little too timid um so I'm just unsure that our personalities would match I would disagree if you get to know me but that's fine yeah okay so you're not really a timid person I am not okay so now is Candi someone that's your type yeah I like her I like I like what she's wearing too I like red thank you okay thank you Candy all right so

H let me have you ask these ladies another question all right uh all right if I was to talk to either of your exes uh sorry I got to R this up uh how would they like advise me on dating you start here how would your exes advise him on dating you okay um I think it would be different depending on who you're talking to because you know there's always growth after every relationship um and so I can't even say that so I guess my last relationship maybe he'll say that H that's a really good

question I'm pushy Maybe [Music] um no little patience pushy yeah I'll say that um because what I what I what I used to do was if if I don't like something then I will continue to bring it up right instead of having patience and allowing that person to work through it and develop and so that was something that I really had to learn like you know giving people Grace um waiting and you know things like that so yeah that's my answer what would your ex say about you ah easy uh the main thing she would

say uh mainly sorry like I I didn't expect that to be yeah it's a tough question you asked it and you weren't even ready to answer all right I'm ready all right bring it all right so she would mainly say like uh I'm a very outspoken person uh I will say what's on my mind I don't mean any harm at all I am respectful like uh I get along very well if you uh have a mother like I don't know why but moms love me uh I'm very cool with the dads too just saying and

uh yeah like um pretty much you see what you kind of get like uh like I said I'm a hard work hardworking person so I want a hardworking person too in my life as well family oriented I definitely want a family one day if uh hopefully that's the thing and uh yeah yeah like she would definitely say like I'm all a good guy like I don't I don't think like we ended on bad terms either we ended on pretty good terms is just uh disagreement as far as like uh where we were both headed in

life and to uh I mean just extra bonus points all my other exes uh I lived in other countries so that's why those ended too I left the country so like most relationships ended on good terms okay yeah so at first I was like a little hesitant because you were only listing positive things and I'm like you know that's kind of a little interesting but um okay what's next no you're good we're going to go to the ones that popped all right why did we end up popping um so I was really trying to hear

you out uh when you first it was like three things when you first came out I picked up on kind of she said um being timid but uh this is a unnatural environment and I'm nervous myself so I was like you know maybe in a different setting you'll present yourself in a different way um but what she also said down there resonated with me as well about the balance between wanting a catering Woman versus a hardworking woman and if we we got far enough and I got the chance to ask you a question I actually

wanted you to elaborate on that that was kind of the second thing but I wanted to hear you out more before I made that decision but but the final straw was really the question I think um a better phrase question would have been like what did you learn from your past relationship not how would my ex guide you into dating me I think that's kind of intrusive and also um counterproductive as well so respect all right so now is uh Jordan do his name is Jordan someone that's your type yes I like what you're wearing

to by the way thank you so much thank you thank you all right and then someone else did pop oh okay we'll head back someone else did pop on that question I pop my balloon in regards to the X question only because it's kind of hard to decipher because you know you get different versions of people and some people are just seasonal so you could ask someone from my past and they could say oh this or that and then you could also have somebody that has a good experience like oh she was the one that

got away I mean I still have them on my phone to this day not saying I'm entertaining anything you know but you have to see for yourself because if we're on the same exact level we can come to an understanding and really get to know each other and be intrigued by each other you can't really base things off of what somebody in the past says you have to see for yourself okay got it so that's why I bought my balloon got it okay and now before he asked that you did have your balloon un popped

why so I like the way he carries himself and I also like his career choice he seems like a sophisticated black man and I love to see a black man thriving because you know everybody's different and everybody is a different level of life okay you know what I'm saying but I appreciate that I'm proud of you keep keep it going thank you okay all right and now is she someone that's your type yes okay why why did you hesitate over there cuz I'm silly yeah yeah she's goofy but yeah yeah I would I would talk

to her I had to get talk to her like to know her a little bit more but I think I would yeah yeah thank you okay our last last hanging balloon did end up popping why did we pop I'm sorry I yeah so I'm giving it a chance um at first I was a little weary because you did seem way too [Music] an unnatural environment I would still want you to show up and be dominant and be you know what I'm saying and not feel pressured in a in an unnatural environment I think I would

prefer that um and also I think that you would probably deserve a woman or want a woman that's probably drooling over you I think you're attractive yes but just a little too slim for me I like um maybe like 220 and up oh that's fine okay got it and now is she someone that's your type yeah yeah she's hold on for me oh that's fine though sorry all right well unfortunately that is all of the balloons popped but we do thank you for coming on let's give it up for ladies thank for experience thank you

okay let's go ahead and bring out our next single guy hello welcome in I'll have you hold that what's your name my name's Antoine Antoine how old are you 35 okay and what do you do I'm a school safety specialist um I do private protection on the side I'm a restaurant investor um if you ever in DC hor are syis uh that's what we uh invest in uh in addition to private protection nice nice and uh what are some things you like to do for fun for me play basketball watch basketball learn about myself okay

um love to go to the gym I let her be home you know I'm a home body for real let her travel okay and uh yeah that' be it it now what are some things you look for in a woman someone who's built off affirmations and selflove cuz I feel like that's a strong woman you know okay someone who knows exactly what they want and where they going got it got it now what are some of your deal breakers deal breaker someone who isn't who's angry you know all the time uh who isn't humble who

isn't nice who isn't kind um and who just I guess don't have no motivation and desire to be better I would say for sure nice so we don't have any pop balloons you're doing well Antoine all right so for the first round I am going to have you pop two balloons just off of what you're seeing so far what's not really your type so let me hand you a pick there you goed so I'm switch this okay no you're good do whatever you got to do go ahead and pop those two and then I'll ask

you why you ended up popping Prett okay pop one over there okay and and then one more okay let's start right here we can have your name and age I'm Tanisha I'm 29 and Tanisha why did you have your balloon unpopped um I just wanted to hear him out I feel like he has a great fit and um I liked what I heard so far so yeah got it and now Anton why do we end up popping her balloon um just you know just not my type okay I'm big on energy you know so for

me I'm a no you know that's pretty much it for sure okay got it and then we did pop one more let's head on over here let's start with your name and age my name is NY well NAA but I go by NA I'm 26 and why did you um have your balloon un popped I had it un popped because I he's a smooth talker and you know what I'm saying you know you hear of green flags and you also hear red flags but um anyways he's a smooth talker so I was interested in listening

to what I was was hearing um but yeah them pants a little too tight to okay okay and now why did we end up popping her balloon just wasn't my tip you know um I'm not I'm not here to go viral from disrespecting no femal so I mean just not my preference I'm not yours well I was yours but my jeans is a little too tight but that's fine feelings Mutual baby I appreciate it appreciate you have a nice smile appreciate it okay let's head on back okay so I'm going to have you ask the

remaining ladies a question ladies um how's your mental health like cuz I feel like you have to be mentally healthy to even start a friendship or relationship or anything like that okay all right let's start here with your name and age and then answer this question hi um first of all you smell amazing you're lighting up the entire room appreciate you um my mental health is your name he doesn't know your name I'm sorry I'm sorry Ila Elise my mental health is phenomenal um I work on it daily I'm very big on self-mastery self-growth I

read a lot that's literally my world um and so what I realize is that if I don't work on myself and develop myself I'll continue to be miserable unhappy angry frustrated you know being in bad situations so it was really crucial for me to start that journey and I've been on it for a while so I think I'm going to phenomenal mental space I love that for sure okay let's go over here with your name and age and answer this question hey I'm Serena I'm 29 and uh my mental health is really great uh the

gym has helped me with a lot of my mental health some things I am still working on daily is um it's just patience and so I don't tolerate anything that's toxic or negative simply because I'm a calm person and um I'm very spiritual so anything that's too heavy on my soul or spirit I just get it out of my life so I'm I'm I'm not patient with anybody that's negative but overall my mental health is great it's amazing all right name and age and answer this question I'm Jordan I'm 27 and I'm actually a licensed

therapist and I don't share that to say that you should assume that my mental health is great because of that but I I think I'm qualified to be able to answer the question and I have good days and bad days you know I've made a career out of pouring into other people's cups and sometimes that leaves yours empty and so I um am working on being more intentional about that but a great release for me is basketball actually I'm a washed up retired Hooper um I love I love the game um and so that helps

me a lot I'm very conscious of my mental health because of my profession so okay it's outstanding um I play basketball as well I don't care y'all feel I dunk on you though what position what position one through four yeah so I can do everything point for what did you do do well pass the ball be a good leader good leader um I was always a leader in everything I've done so yeah I was the point guard I was more assistant points as well okay okay all right our next lady your name and age and

answer this question hi my name is Candy and I'm 29 and I would say my mental health is well I'm really glad that you brought that up and asked that question I am an affirmation girly so I have about 20 affirmations that I go through daily and I I speak to myself um and I also started a jar um that I put positive things that have happened to me throughout the year in and then at the end of the year I will read it to myself and kind of reflect so that's one of the things

that I would Inspire my partner to do um as far as um making sure our mental health is good yeah do okay and we did get a pot balloon what let's start with your name and age and why you ended up popping your balloon hi I'm Kendra I'm 29 I know you like probably shocked by this um we follow each other on social media I know you're from a past episode for me the pop balloon was not from here it's from how I perceived after you came off the episode I I work in a very

like um exposed industry and so like how my partner represents me is really important and I want someone that's like the kind of like act like you've been in there before and after you came off your episode it was like all thirst traps like I just get the feeling that like you're enjoying the fact that so many women thought you were so attractive because you are on paper like chef's kiss but I just need someone who is focused on my admiration and not every woman's admiration so okay can I respond to that definitely go ahead

um I get how it could be seen I mean looks can be deceiving you know I just love myself unconditionally so it maybe seem like I'm thirst trapping but I don't comment on anybody who's sending me messages or sending me comments under my pictures you be pinning those comments though cuz I think they're funny at the end of the day at the end of the day if somebody's giving you affirmations right and you think they are good affirmations that's fine you know but my social media is for me and if my partner had an issue

with that we could talk it out it ain't that deep for me for real um I feel like I'm representing myself well because my last name means a lot to me it's a legacy to me you know so if my partner felt like something was wrong with that I'll definitely take care of that for sure I respect that yeah okay thank you all right let's head back okay so off of those responses you heard I am going to have you pop one balloon one balloon one balloon okay so why do we end up popping hers

she has a great energy and aura about her right it's just for me just I need to feel more and I felt it but I just need more from me you know you look great your response was amazing thank you top tier for sure and you look great nice smile um so yeah that's pretty much it she look great though got it and so why did you have your balloon unpopped for him um um so definitely there's a physical attraction um I like the tattoos I like that you're tall little buff I see you being

in the gym a little bit U you know um but yeah I think that um just kind of hearing him out and his responses and the affirmations was a big thing for me um so yeah I was just kind of waiting to hear a little bit more okay all right thank you of course okay let's go ahead and ask these ladies another question ladies um are you happy the reason I asked that is because I feel like before you can make somebody else happy you have to be happy I feel like a lot of people

depend on somebody else's happiness to bring them up and now I'm not here for that I can add to it but yeah I just really need to know what that what is that to you okay happiness start over here okay okay answer this question please can I ask you to specify I feel like you said are you happy do you mean that in the general sense but then you talked more so in a relationship yeah like are you are you happy being like are you happy enough to even enter a relationship what is what is

happiness to you okay I would say I'm happy but not content and I mean that in the general sense not in a relationship sense so um I I I'm happy with where I am I'm happy with who I am but I'm not content right I think there's always room for growth for sure okay for sure go let's go over here uh I feel like I'm a very happy person um I'm happy with myself I love myself a lot um so I actually do like the fact that you love yourself the way that you do because

I do want a man that's like that um so I would definitely say I'm I'm happy with everything where I'm at now I would say um something that will make me happier is to become a family woman so so yeah just build my own family or you build our family and I I nurture our family so yeah sure yeah and then if you want to ask this question um in this moment I'm very happy generally I'm a happy person bubbly energetic um there are moments where you know I'm not happy I might feel sadness or

you know different types of emotions but the good thing is that I'm able to still be I'm still able to accept myself and be content in those moments okay mhm I think that's really important because if we aren't always you know content in these moments and accepting and appreciating right we're always going to want more we're always we're never going to be satisfied so I think it's important to be you know satisfied with where you are now even if that's not where you want to be got you for sure I know you guys want to

hear from him too right yeah what about for yourself what makes me happy is you know being there for everybody else you know that right there is why I do it every day uh my grandmother raised me um don't know my father never seen him before so seeing other people have um and again seeing my self growth that makes me happy you know so seeing other people win I don't care if it's a friend somebody I don't know if they're doing good I'm happy okay that's what makes me happy just being there for others got

it okay Antoine well it is time to pop a balloon which one out of these three beautiful ladies are you going to pop you guys are making it hard for him ances are amazing they look amazing um stop looking at me like [Laughter] that okay I mean I saw that was really tough but why did we end up popping hers it was tough um energy great you have a great AA about you as well thank you um it wasn't no real specific reason these ladies look at me in my eyes like they trying to take

something from me these and that's pretty much what it was but uh that's that's pretty much what it was all right she great though yeah yeah she looked great she great so why did you have your blue and unpopped for him um he smelt really good coming out like just lit up the room um and you're very handsome well put together I love your outfit even though I do not prefer my man to wear are those jeans considered jeans these yeah these jeans yeah I wouldn't um prefer my man to wear it but I know

clothes are changeable and uh you're you're you're left-handed so left-handed people are really smart for sure so yeah appreciate it all right cool let's head on back hold up can I ask a question where you I'm from Chicago you from sh yeah okay I ain't changing my swag for nobody though what that mean I go now cuz you said je you said cuz you said um we could change that yeah well no I said clothes are changeable so which means one day you could reg jeans another day you can wear slacks or you know whatever

you prefer yeah but I just don't prefer a man that wears jeans all the time oh no I don't wear jeans all the time but I appreciate it of course all right our two remaining ladies any questions for our guy she said yes I'll go to her first all right let's start here do you have a relationship with God absolutely can my God is Muslim my God is Allah are you Christian or I am Christian but I I personally believe there's one God and you know you can serve him how you choose to uh but

so can you elaborate on your relationship with God um I talk to him every day um it's a bill to work in progress just like everybody do am I faithful with my praying and my dealings I can't say I am but I believe he loves me because how I am every day and everyday life um I give good to people and uh that's what he asked be a good person uh give yourself back to the community and things like that for sure I appreciate your vulnerability you lack thank you any questions here yes can I

ask two okay the first one is what is something what's a flaw about you maybe something that you feel like you need to work on uh okay I thought it was a two-part uh they're completely different one at a time yep um I would say caring too much you know cuz you could care about a lot of people and uh forget about yourself cuz you pouring in everybody else cup even though I love myself a lot and I pour in myself a lot but sometimes you can go out your way a lot as well you

know that's a flaw oh what does forgetting about yourself look like forgetting about myself uh putting others first so basically I guess you would say if I'm if somebody needs me I'm on call you know and I'll forget about this stuff that I have going on it could be finishing uh I guess talking to fam some like like it just depends on what it is honestly I honestly don't know exactly what that is but I can forget about myself in many ways okay yeah um political views Cala or Trump I ain't going to hold you

I'm not with none of that okay I ain't going to lie I'm not into the politics um I feel like they G to choose who they want and it's not up to us to decide that okay all right well it is the final round it is time to decide which one out of these two ladies balloon are you going to pop okay why do we end up popping hers is she looking through my soul it's a good thing it's a good thing look she's looking like what does he mean that's cute that's cute honestly um

I love your answers I love your eye contact you actually had me thinking over here for real so you challenged me in a way oh my questions like question was outstanding for sure um I love people who can challenge me yeah you know cuz that doesn't happen often um so that's pretty much it you look great you came look amazing okay and you popped because just energy my energy I felt like your energy was great but uh okay I got you I got you okay all right let me have you scoot on that way let

me bring bring you on up here come on up come on up all right any final questions between the two of you before we determine if this is a match I do um do you have children I have no children okay uh where do you live in New Jersey okay okay well do you have kids I don't where do you live I'm nomadic so I work fully remote and so I travel okay where do you currently reside I right now now in Texas but that's only for a couple more weeks um then you'll be where

my next stop is Louisiana okay um how do you feel about long distance um I guess it would depend on the person okay so that means you're open to it absolutely and I travel so I can be where I want to be you know for sure hey for sure all right all right chel so is it going to be a yes for you for him yes and is it a yes for you for her yes we got a bch I will take this mic and you guys can go on up let's make some noise for

them oh let me get out the way like yes all right let's go ahead and bring out our next single guy hello welcome in what's your name Thomas Thomas how old are you 32 and what do you do uh I work for a Clean Energy company as a buyer and I'm in the Army National Guard and I am a bartender nice well thank you for your service and now uh what are some things like to do for fun uh you know go play sports watch video games that's pretty much it okay simple guy yes all

right and what are some things you look for in a woman um they need to be kind woman of God um I prefer somebody who is going to be understanding and actually have a conversation with someone you know I think you should always look to understand the person you're with rather than you know have some fairy tale in your head okay got it now what are some of your deal breakers um they need to be clean okay uh and they need to be understanding most importantly and other than that uh that's pretty much it got

it all right so we did get two pop balloons let's go on over there and see why they ended up popping okay if we can start with your name and age hi Thomas my name is Candy and I'm 29 nice to meet you and Candy why did you end up popping your balloon so initially um I'm not a fan of the earrings um but but I you know wanted to give it an opportunity to hear more about what you had to say and I think for me it was the video games I'm not like big

on guys playing video games so yeah that was it for me all right now Thomas is Candi someone that's your type oh absolutely but I mean somebody who's doesn't like my earrings or my style I mean I really can't do nothing for her all right now we did get one over here okay and then we'll go back to those your name and age and why you ended up popping your balloon hi my name is Kendra I'm 29 I pop my balloon just because you look great attractive I appreciate how you came here and gave effort

today but I'm just not a woman of God so I want to make sure that you find your match in every way so I don't think it's me it now she someone that's physically your type I know he a woman of God is something up there but oh no she's definitely my type but at the same time I mean you under you understand like I understand so I appreciate your honesty I appreciate you okay thank you and then let's go back to our other two your name and age and why you ended up popping your

balloon hey I'm Serena I'm 29 and um I popped my balloon because of the video game comment as well I was waiting for you to elaborate a little bit more when she did speak on the video games whether uh you play them a lot or not but I don't prefer for my man to play video games either way yeah okay so got it so are video games like do you play them very often or is it every now and then uh no I mean uh kind of came out here extremely hungry so that's kind of

the reason that you know it kind of came out just as short but it no I mean again it's plenty of other things that's just kind of came to my mind when that happened so okay but again you are extremely beautiful thank you and I do like your hair thank you all right and then we did get another pop your name and age and why you end up popping your balloon hi I'm Lea Elise I'm 29 um I popped my balloon well for starters I really love your top I love your outfit and your face

is beautiful you're very handsome but I I really can't do a dingly earring like it's a deal breaker and then you said yes you said something like you seemed like you were very stubborn on that when someone else said it so they're coming for that earring oh no um I understand you know some you know Different Strokes for different folks but um you know if a earring is what turn you off about somebody that kind of shows me that it's not not much that you're looking for so it's fine can I ask a question go

ahead like what inspired you to to get it um well I have two necklaces of angels on my chest um one is for my child that didn't make it the other one is for my daughter that did um I'm sorry to hear that so other than that you know the feather kind of represents just a angel wings that I wear pretty much it now um is she someone that's your type oh absolutely I I do like the dress I don't like the bottom portion which is I guess it's a flare but other yes but again

you look beautiful as you are thank you so all right so we do have uh two balloons left unpopped let's go ahead and ask these ladies a question see if any of them are your match all right um can you tell me what your ambition is okay let's start here with your name and age and what's your ambition my ambition oh name and age I'm Tena I'm 29 my ambition is to live the dream and that is to basically own a house and yeah okay own a house and um I'm sorry no you're good yeah

that's your yeah if that's your that's that's my dream that's that's the dream that's the dream let's go to our next lady your name and age and the answer to this question my name is naon and I'm 26 and my ambition is to open up a spa I'm in the beauty and wellness industry and I love to make people feel beautiful that's ultimately my goal and my ambition okay got it got it ladies any questions for him where let's let's start here we'll be back sorry did you say you had kids I have a daughter

you have a daughter okay sorry okay kids are a deal breaker yeah sorry got it so prior to that um is he someone that is your type absolutely I think that he is really well spoken and he dresses nice so that's a plus okay absolutely and now is she someone that's your type yes but I'm be honest with you a house is pretty low on the list of things you know but uh I guess American dream is whatever you make yourself absolutely thank you go let's go down over here you had a question for him

I've worked with kids how old are your kids or how old is your child uh she's two she's two okay that's a little fresh that would be different for me [Music] um what is your comment on Family Life why do you choose to be single and not with your family that you made a family with if you don't mind me asking if that's not a stretch just out of curiosity or we could talk behind closed doors no I understand um mainly because um you're raising a child no matter how you know much you want to

be with that person if you guys are not compatible all it's going to do is make you both angry and it's going to affect a child so I rather be with somebody that I love and I'm happy with so I can reflect on my child rather than be with someone just to hold up some sort of standard that the world puts on on us and then at the end of the day kind of make her into a piece of that's understandable because I'm a foster parent I'm not a biological parent like I said I worked

with the kids I worked with kids before and I do um but like I said I'm a foster parent so I can understand that because I know personally me if I have a child I'm allergic to latex okay so if I have a child with somebody I have a conversation before I lay down with anybody me personally I won't be with anybody I won't have a child with you know what I'm saying so it's like that's a big responsibility there's some people in the world that I would make a father but I would not make

a husband that's doesn't make any sense you know what I'm saying but you know what I'm you understand what I'm saying you get what saying saying I definitely say okay well hopefully we can talk about that okay okay we good any further questions where you from I don't think I'm from Michigan you but I've been here for a while where are you from Indiana okay yeah okay so you know what it's like to live in the snow sadly yes okay okay okay all right well let's go on to the front come on up come on

up come on why you looking sh get up here girl be stand here all right so are there any final questions before we determine if this is a match I don't have any maybe he has some oh yeah I actually good yeah I did have a question um so tell me how you feel about dating somebody with kids that would definitely be something new to me I know in the past I dated somebody who was a I don't want to call him a self-proclaimed stepfather but he was a stepfather to someone else's kids and it

didn't really bother me like I said I'm a foster parent and even I have friends who have kids and I take them in as they as if they're my own like I'll babysit them I'll watch them I'll help out financially because you know I don't have any biological children so I am a empath I am a giver but I know my limits okay you got to know your limits um um that would be something new to me um I don't think I necessarily dated someone who had kids that I knew of you know so that

would be something different like I said I work with kids I love kids um you're open to it I this is something new to me CU before I'd be like I would not date nobody with kids like I have said that before because I'm just like you know scientifically you know if you have kids with somebody like the women is still y'all still messing with each other like that's how it goes how it seem seems to have gone you know with the culture and how things are today in today's society but I would be open

to it if it's like mature and you know we have conversations and if there's boundaries then I would be open to it if there is you know some type of co-parenting arrangements and agreements because I don't play with my health I'm G have to see that my chart too all right girl okay so you look like you thinking real hard what's going through your mind just some of the things that she said Okay um and I appreciate your willingness and openness and I really do and I think that's beautiful that anybody who would be willing

to have a foster child to be 100% honest with you if I able to have another child who which is a son I would love to adopt a child because you know I think everybody deserves a parent so um yeah okay well is it going to be a yes for you for him yes okay and is it a yes for you for her no okay um and it's a very honest and very Greatful reason and I appreciate that I really do and there's a really straightforward reason um during our whole conversation it was more about

I'm okay with this I'm okay with that and I'm okay with this and it kind of seemed more of a a selfish desire than a how so when I'm being open and I just said that I never really dated somebody that had their own kids oh it's not about the elaborate on that so I can understand I want to have a better understanding so we can be so it's not about a hey I am open to dating somebody with kids and I'm more open about that it's more of a hey this is what I'm comfortable

with this is what I've seen this is how I've percept you know perception wise or anything never seen it before new experience not open to it anymore exactly and if it's that easy to be not open to it you will never open to it in the first place okay okay okay all right well I'll have you head on back thank you okay well that is all the balloons pop sted we do thank you for coming on let's go ahead and give it up for him ladies I'll take the mic thank you are some soft floppers

okay let's go ahead and bring out our next single guy hello welcome in I'll have you hold that what's your name you my name is lon luron how old are you I'm 35 and what do you do well what do I do uh there's a lot of things I'm a fashion designer audio engineer Chef most importantly and currently working on real estate okay very cool now uh what are some things that you like to do for fun uh some things I like to do for fun I'm very adventurous so I like to go out um

hiking Sports anything outdoors okay and now what are some of your uh what are some things you look for in a woman some things I look for a woman uh honesty communication um good energy yeah that's about it okay that's all I need I'm simple I'm a simple man yes now what are some of your deal breakers uh some of my deal breakers lack of communication obviously um attitude um and that really the two final ones yeah that's all I that's all that comes to all right so we did get a few pop balloons it's

going on over there see why they ended up popping okay let's start with your name and age hi I'm Leila Elise I'm 29 nice to meet you nice to meet you nice to meet you as well okay Lea leas why did you end up hopping your balloon um are those your real eyes okay no these are not my real eyes Okay um it's just I think the physical attraction the style the dangly earring okay yeah that's all I'm sorry that's fine I'm not everybody's cup of tea it's fine and now is she someone that's your

type yeah she's a beautiful lady for sure thank you I appreciate it but as far as my type goes I would have to say no okay but you are beautiful thank you right let's go to our next lady over here your name and age hey I'm Serena I'm 29 how you doing Serena I'm fine and Serena why did you end up popping your balloon I ended up popping because of the context I'm not a big fan of men wearing color contacts at all okay so yeah all right and now is Serena someone that's your type

no okay and why not honestly it's the hair for me you don't like the locks so you just don't like the style I just don't like the style the locks are beautiful though thank you let's go on to our next lady over here your name and a hi my name is Candy I'm 29 hi Candy how you doing I'm good thank you and Candy why did you end up hopping your balloon um just ditto some of the things that the ladies have already said I think it's the contacts um the earring and yeah those I

think just overall style okay yeah okay I can respect that that's fine like I said I'm not everybody's cup of tea that's fine no worries all right now is candy someone that's your type I like Candi she's cute thank you yeah you thank you let's go to our next lady your name and age I'm Tanisha I'm 29 okay how you doing Tena why did you end up popping your balloon um just some of the things that the lady said as well um just not my style and not my type unfortunately okay thank you same thing

is someone that's your type I mean she's beautiful but I would have to pass as well okay is there anything specific that no there's no specifics you know it's just not my just not my type okay all right cool thank you but you are beautiful though don't get that twist all right your name and age and why you ended up popping your balloon hi I'm Kendra I'm 29 I actually love the contacts I love the creativity that's like at my alley it's more just like for me at this age too many too much passion in

different directions I think at this point like I'm ready to hone in on what our purpose is as like a relationship and I want to be able to like understand what you love and your passions and everything and if you're kind of headed a 100 miles an hour in eight different directions sometimes so am I so it's going to get real disorganize so I could respect that I could respect that more Direction got it yeah you did mention like eight different careers yeah yeah do you usually always like Branch off and different things no those

are just things that I do that I have under my belt I don't do all of them at the same time oh okay got it I got to be ver I got to be open right you know I got to let you know what's up I got to let you know what I do and what I can't do and those are the things I can't do and that's all it is okay now is Kendra someone that's your Kendra's beautiful I love Kendra she's C thank you thank you all right let's go on to our last

Lady here your name and age and why you ended up popping your balloon my name is naon I'm 26 I couldn't really hear much of what he was saying over there so that was another factor with speaking up or maybe it's the mic um I really wasn't too sure about what you were saying so what is it that you do what do I do yes what were you saying over there yes can you hear me now yes I can hear you just fine I'm a fashion designer I do audio video production and I'm a chef

as well okay so what is your purpose what is your direction my purpose right now is really cooking that's my thing that's what I like to do I please people without talking to them that's my way of working through this world right now I can dig it I can see him in friendship level okay got it so he's he's he's not your type you seem just his friend okay friendship level for sure he seems like a cool person I would I would agree with that for sure for sure definitely okay all right cool I don't

think any of us are his type but I don't know personally that's just my yeah opinion but yes okay let's head on back all right well that is all the balloons popped unfortunately but we do thank you for coming on let's go ahead and give it up for him ladies I'll take this Mike thank you thank you thank you thank you everyone for tuning into this episode of pop the balloon or F love if you'd like to be featured in any of our upcoming episodes the submission form will be linked in the description box below

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