How to stop feeling sorry for yourself

so in my last video I had triggered lots of people people did not like the video where I said why everyone is obsessed with me now what you guys didn't know is that I have posted this video strategically to trigger people why did I want to trigger people first of all you only learn through your triggers you can never know what is wrong with you until you actually feel a Feeling and you can ask yourself why am I feeling this right a woman sitting in her dining room just talking about how people got obsessed with

her how people found her mesmerizing and talking about her long-term relationships and friendships that they got obsessed with her should have never triggered a confident person why because they can see and listen to the advice that I'm giving they do not care about what I'm saying because what I am saying they can see in themselves as well the way I am talking about themselves they can do that about thems as well but imagine you're a person you're not comfortable in your own skin you're not comfortable to talk to yourself like that you will get really

triggered by that video and that's absolutely the reaction that I wanted to create what would I suggest you do right right now with a trigger take a journal right and write down why did this video trigger me write everything down that comes to your mind if you say I hate this girl whatever doesn't matter write everything down because after like behind every emotion there is an explanation and this is not about me this is about you there is something which you that you need to work on people that truly want to change people that are

at Rock Bottom people people that have no hope they will look at the video I could have said I have three toes I could have said I have I have purple hair I have a third eye right here that's completely open they would not have cared because they would have just listened to the advice because they need help and those are the people that I'm trying to reach I am going to show you in this video how we can deal and I'm going to explain to you guys how we are all privileged there's literally men

right now that have uh got this big platform that are literally saying I hate women they're saying I hate women women deserve to be cheated on women deserve to be lied to and these men are praising them like Gods but don't you dare be a woman that is good-look say that she's good-look don't you dare cuz you're the real criminal here you're the real narcissist here as well um my mom she called me she's like Liz I heard about your new video and uh that you put in the title that everyone is obsessed with you

she said Liz why did you do that I did not raise you to talk about yourself like that I literally told her mom if I don't talk about myself like that who's going to talk about me like that hi guys my name is Li and welcome back to my Channel first of all I want to say something pretty privilege exists 100% pretty privilege exists do I benefit from pretty privilege right now yes I absolutely do why because I can make pretty work for me okay at the height of my most beautiful years most beautiful I

was most depressed I would not leave my room I would not want to go outside nothing Beauty did not work for me then why because I had low self-esteem low self-worth I hated my life I just didn't want to be alive and I wanted to hide away pretty doesn't work then because I did not make pretty work for me if pretty privilege was really the case then I also believe that every beautiful woman on earth should be successful I believe that um if you look at big celebrities right they're beautiful they have Fame they have

power they have all the Privileges and yet they still get cheated on and some of them just stay in that relationship because the mind is not right let's be honest here you know you can't you can't fix it when the mind is not right if you are constantly going to whine about oh yeah she has pretty privilege so it's easy for her whatever um okay you have two arms and you have two legs well there's somebody out there that doesn't have that well you have leg privilege you have arm privilege let's talk about that you

can see you have not being blind privilege and screw all of that let's talk about the fact that you have food on your table you can afford a phone or a laptop or whatever to watch me on the screen people do not have that privilege some people that are watching me come from a loving family were not abused you know what I would trade my beauty for just not be just having a good childhood because there's mental scars that I am still trying to fix therapy after therapy after therapy you know what beauty is something

easy beauty is so easy you know why it is it is easy because most of you guys are not ugly most of you guys just look unhealthy if you have a healthy body shape if you uh have just healthy normal skin and kind of healthy hair enough that's enough to have pretty privilege that's enough you do not have to look like a model and as well instead of thinking like oh this girl has pretty privilege whatever think about how can I get as pretty as I can if that is what you want it is not

wrong the thing is as well I cannot help my friends it it's been years years years of me trying to help them hey you deserve better oh you can get this you can that blah blah blah you deserve it I can't help them why people don't want to change people don't want help they're extremely pretty pretty is not working for them okay being hot is a mentality you act like you're hot people will perceive you as hot you act like you're ugly everyone will think you're ugly okay I had this one friend she was extremely

gorgeous extremely gorgeous like even when I saw her for the first time I said whoo I don't know people actually exist like this because you look like an Instagram filter and that was her in real life and she constantly when I was with her Liz I'm so ugly Liz I'm so ugly Liz I hate my body Liz I'm really ugly Liz and I constantly no you're not no you're not no you're not no you're not no you're not no you're not until you know what this girl became unattractive to me because she kept reinforcing in

my brain that she was ugly so I believe that she was ugly even though she was physically very pretty I know girls extremely gorgeous extremely beautiful they have the shittiest personality I've ever seen in my life mean mean mean like even people Everyone that knows about them right they're so beautiful they don't even want to date them they don't want to go near them people don't want to befriend them because they're mean they spread rumors about people try to literally make people life a hell you know what happens your character shows on your face my

mom was the most beautiful woman in her whole city in our home country most beautiful woman if I could put a picture up of my mom you would literally say like wo this woman should have been a supermodel literally she was so beautiful and is still a very beautiful woman you know what happened by the way I don't know you if you guys knew this but I'm a refugee like I'm an immigrant uh we fled our country because there was a war going on right so my mom went to uh from having University degrees working

in a university and it's very hard to get those she would study day and night to get those um she went from having all of that to all of the sudden our country being invaded having crazy war that lasted for years my mom went from being at the height of everything to having nothing and now she has children that she needs to take care of right and she was in a marriage with a man that abused her and gave her no money nothing at all I want to ask you guys um where is my mom's

pretty privilege because this one woman is drop the gorgees where where is it you know um so what did my mom do my mom literally imagine she saw bombs bombs flying everywhere uh she lost family members um she saw dead people on the ground literally all these traumas are happening but she was in survival mode her only thing was we have to get out and we we have to save the children so she came to another country she doesn't know the language her univers diplomas mean nothing in this country she went from working a university

job to literally uh cleaning toilets to provide food for us because all the money that we were getting from the country um her husband would take and literally keep for himself you know so she had to deal with an abusive husband for years years years meanwhile providing for her children and making sure her children have food on the table my mom sold her Jew jeel so we would have clothes to go to school I do not come from a wealthy family I do not come from anything but really really lots of abuse and you guys

don't get it because I gave you this much about my life if I really went into detail you guys would be shocked that I'm even alive today one day I sat down I asked my mom I said Mom you have been through so much trauma and all these things you lost and everything everything that happened to you don't you feel sorry for yourself aren't you sad you know what she said to me she said Liz life is not for the week there is nothing that has literally touched me more and changed my mentality than what

my mom said to me because this woman had life punched her down so much and still I have never seen this woman complain ever about anything she said everything single day she has so much gratitude for what she does have right now yes she said situations happened it was not nice but whatever right now I did learn the language I bought a house I did everything I I fixed it I fixed it and she's grateful for it she said W with literally uh God's blessing and with my strength I made it and she did and

that woman is so powerful she's my biggest hero and I look up to that woman everyone has their own problems literally everyone does there was this uh video that my sister sent me of this guy saying like uh his mom told him there was a saying right if we could all uh get into a group and we should all throw our problems in a pile everyone would take their own problems and run because people have it worse than you and people have it better than you but it all does not matter you can create the

best life for yourself if you decide that you are going to create the best life for yourself up in your mind okay I read this book it's uh 13 things mentally strong people don't do I'm going to tell you guys uh the tips they gave on how to stop feeling sorry for yourself so basically what happens when you feel sorry for yourself first of all it's a waste of time right you could use this time to actually heal yourself work on yourself try to become better you're wasting time because at the end of the day

nobody cares you're going to wallow in your self-pity and how you are not privileged and blah blah blah and nobody will care because nobody does care because life is Harsh either you get tough or you let life make you tough it leads to more negative emotions you will start to feel self-pity then you will start to feel anger and jealousy and everything and then it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy everything that happens oh but it's just because life hates me and everything is bad and everything and I don't have anything that's literally where you're going

to go for every single time something bad happens instead of just looking in the mirror and be like hey you know what how can I fix this as well it prevents you from dealing with your other emotions if you have other other underlying emotions these are emotions that you have to deal with right but you can't because you're just wallowing and feeling sad for yourself so I'm telling you nothing is involving you are not evolving it causes you to overlook the good in life so um basically I'm telling you there's people right now maybe from

the hospital watching they just want to be healthy literally so uh feeling constantly sorry for yourself you don't see the good things that you have so you don't appreciate them so what happens nothing comes to you that's good because constantly you're giving out this Vibe of I do not have I do not have so what do you get you get nothing it also interferes with relationships um complaining and constantly feeling sorry for yourself who finds that attractive like who constantly wants to listen to someone basically saying that they're ugly that they don't have enough they

don't have enough money who wants to listen to them please who so how do we turn self-pity around basically what you need to do right now is you need to change your habits because feeling sorry for yourself constantly is a habit see things might have happened to you you did something wrong somebody did something wrong to you you learned from your mistakes or you went on with your life right you need to come to terms with the situation it happened it happened honey it's fine it happened okay now we have to go and deal with

the situation deal with emotions not focus on the things you lost but focus on the things you still have right now focus on the strength you still have right now and how you can move forward with it first thing is what you can do to stop feeling self-pity basically volunteer to a wordy cause right basically you can go help in a hospital um you can give food to the homeless whatever once you are in an environment where you see people that have it less than you that will humble you real quick you will know that

your problems are like this start something new okay so either uh you start a new hobby you maybe start start drawing even if you're not good at drawing start drawing uh you start dancing um you do yoga whatever you want start something new because what is going to happen you are changing your lifestyle when you start something new if you change your lifestyle you will automatically start to change different habits that you used to have if you had an habit of constantly feeling sorry for yourself with a change of Lifestyle you will let go of

the need to constantly feel sorry for yourself cuz now you are trying new things you're doing doing different things you have to start to look for every good thing in every situation that's why I tell you guys when somebody leaves my life enters whatever or like I always think like okay it was not meant to be I am being protected God is protecting me from uh people or God and let this person enter my life to teach me something I really always look at the positive in every single thing so another thing I want you

to do is ask yourself what is another uh way I can view my situation okay so basically there is this thing that you can do try to literally when you are in a situation of um again like self-pity or feeling sorry for yourself constantly get out of your body right and look at yourself as an outstander look at yourself in the way you're behaving when you're beating yourself up and look at yourself and see yourself doing that to yourself how does that feel ask yourself what advice would I give a loved one about the situation

most of the times when we give a loved one um advice about the situation we try to encourage them so much and we say hey you'll get out of this it'll get better like we we lift them up right but when it's about us no we can't do that because it's weird it's cringy we need to be humbled it's narcissistic it's not whatever ever works for you is good whatever that is if it if it means looking yourself in the mirror and talking to yourself nicely good if it means hugging yourself good literally but do

whatever you would do to a loved one in the same situation do that to yourself remind yourself of the times that you have been able to get through tough situations that you have been able to deal with problems you guys are much stronger than you realize like literally you wake up every day you try every day so hard you're even watching videos like these this means you're trying this means you're trying to evolve and I think that should be applauded you know be proud of yourself you have come such a long way there were probably

times in your life where you thought that you could not make it and yet you still made it be proud of yourself for that be so proud of yourself for that instead of saying bad things always happen to me start to realize that good things happen to you as well you know make a list of people circumstances or situations that have that have loved you that have been there for you that have actually made you happier and that that actually made your life better you know be grateful for them so exchange your self-pity for gratitude

you can keep a gratitude Journal I have a gratitude Journal I write down the smallest things I'm grateful for I write down the big things I accomplish I write it down and you know it's so fun about it like like months later I open it again and I read it like um uh like it's like 8 months ago or something like when I hit my 10,000 subscribers I wrote it down I hit 10,000 subscribers you know um but that's so joyful and that makes me so happy to even read that and to realize like how

blessed I really am say what you are grateful for I for example uh I always say this before I go to bed I list every single thing I thank God for every single thing I have a bed to sleep and food on the table water the smallest things I thank God for right um and when I wake up I started to do this 5 minute little meditation of me just really grounding myself and then being like thank you for waking me up thank you for giving me good sleep thank you for giving me a platform

thank you I thank for literally everything I have because I'm blessed and I know that I'm blessed and yes bad things happen but the bad does not out outweigh the good and it will never outweigh the good because my mindset is Right ask other people what they are grateful for so you can stri up a whole conversation about gratefulness which is so beautiful like you will feel the energies it's really high it's really good um so ask what they're grateful for so you can maybe learn what you can be grateful about you know it's uh

it's very beautiful teach your kids to be grateful um teach them to every single day say something that they're grateful for I think it's beautiful to all the parents that watch me teach them say what are you grateful for today and they say something it's so beautiful to end this video I basically want to say justice for Masha amini uh 22-year-old Iranian girl that died in custody because um she was not wearing her hijab prop uh properly I am disgusted disgusted and uh lots of Iranian people have been cut off from the internet right now

it it was reported that during uh the protest they have there have been 60 people that have died already as well I'm disgusted this war and on women needs to end this is a war on women you know why they always put women against each other because women United is way too powerful woman that are all together is way too powerful it this situation is disgusting I think we should all spread awareness for this and I don't want this situation to give Islam a bad name because truly if you guys knew the core of Islam

and if you have learned about the core of literally Islam the religion itself it's a very spiritual and it's a very uh peaceful religion but it's people with their misogynistic and sadistic ways that want to twist the religion that put dirt on the religion this is a disgusting situation Masha amini deserves Justice