congratulations you are about to embark on the best days of your life I know it doesn't feel like that right now because you're sat there waiting to hear from them crying eating Ben and Jerry's ice cream feeling sorry for yourself because you're in the middle of a breakup you've just had a breakup you're in no contact whatever the case may be but rest assured baby girl baby boy I got you these are the exact steps that you are going to take to become unrecognizable truly though whether you want to get them back whether you want
someone brand new or whether you just want to do you for a while this is the only video you're ever going to need to watch to get over them and get back to your best self in fact even better than you've ever been breakups may actually just be the best thing to happened to a human being especially men and the reason that I say this is because it lights a rocket inside of you maybe not initially of course you've got to go through the motions the tears the harand DAR the crying to your friends the
moping around not going to the gym we all got to go through that but then there's a switch and you're like hang on a minute and you use that fuel to turn into an absolute Beast and the reason why I say it's the best thing to ever happen to a man is because usually they will get into the gym and get into the best godamn shape of their life and it's truly the fuel that helps people build Empires so these are the exact things that I would stop doing first of all and then we're going
to go into the things that you should immediately begin doing stop please for the love of God stop checking their Instagram their Snapchat scores their followers their last scene on WhatsApp I've done it all okay honestly when I say please have some self-respect I wish someone had told me at the time to be honest I don't think I'd have even listened to them cuz it's like I need to check their following and create stories that don't even make sense and have absolutely no ground in my mind to help justify how I'm feeling for example you'd
go on there following and be like see it's obviously her he's with her right now that's why his last scene on WhatsApp was like 12:00 at night he's with someone else right you create these nonsensical stories and drive yourself mental stop doing it it's not worth it I promise and it may have become a bit of a habit especially if you're in the early stages of a breakup it may have become like you wake up you check their following or your middle of the night you can't sleep cuz the anxiety is so overwhelming and you
check their WhatsApp whatever the case may be that urge to do that is actually guiding you okay I need to do a meditation I need to do a breath work I need to go on a walk I need to go on a rampage I need to go and do uh some exercise some at home yoga or some at home polares whatever the case may be that I'm going to check that following is actually your time to work on yourself you checking that following does nothing you checking their Snapchat score or whatever it is does nothing
their repost on Tik Tok it changes nothing in your reality all it does is causes you more pain and so what you realize is you're actually self Haring to prove that you are unlovable see they don't want to be with me because of this this and this there's so much wrong with me you try and build a case stop harming yourself stop hurting yourself when you like yourself you're not compelled to look at that Instagram to look at that last scene to check what they're doing I think the best thing you can do if you
are on WhatsApp to take your last scene off so that then you can't even see what they're doing cuz once your last scene is off their last scene is off right stop the insanity and go within keep going within the second thing to stop doing if you're just in the middle of a breakup or you're in no contact stop posting like you're having the time of your life on Instagram if you're not if you're not right right honestly I was guilty of this so I went on a date with a guy in the middle of
like our breakup I went on a date with a guy and this guy had the a Lamborghini or a Ferrari I don't know what it was and he arrived with this big bouquet of flowers and I was like oh God that it's freaked me out because I'd never met him he arrived this big VK of flowers I was like Photo opportunity now bearing in mind I do not take photos and the person that I was with knew that right so I not the person that I was on a date with my my ex knew that
so suddenly if your behavior begins to change they know what you're doing you think that you're being slick about it like no one knows I got this guy to take this picture of me with this big bouquet of flowers and this yellow Lamborghini and posted it on my WhatsApp story like can you can you imagine the secondhand embarrassment and when I did meet her with my a afterwards he's like honestly it was just embarrassing it was just laughable cuz I knew what you were doing right they know they know what you're doing don't embarrass yourself
stop trying to be like outside being like look at me look at me look at me please love me please love me please love me cuz that's all that that is right and so I've embarrassed myself for you on behalf of you so you don't have to go through that right you don't have to do that so stop the posting stop the quotes you know you always know when a girl is going through a breakup because she'll startop posting quotes all over Instagram just stop right it's not necessary go within you feel that need to
post is it is it authentic like do you want to genuinely post because you're having a great time and you know it's normal to post that's absolutely fine or is it like please like this photo please you know see how hot I look let me edit this photo says I'm like the hottest girl and then he sees what he's missing out on we've all been there right it's not worth it just relax and keep going within now the third thing to stop doing and this is really dependent on your situation for example if you've just
broken up and you are emotional and you're feeling upset and all of this stuff it's not really the right time to date so I would say in that time stop dating at that time stop dating however if you're in like a no contact situation it's been a few weeks a few months you've been doing self-concept work you've been working out feeling good maybe it is the right time today I don't know you have to decide I am only now dating after years of being broken up with the ex that basically all these videos are about
right I'm only now feeling good about dating and it's so much fun dating should be fun it should be exciting it shouldn't be like you shouldn't be in your head so if you are just in the middle of a breakup you know and you're on this date with this person and all you're thinking about is your ex or when they text you or checking your phone like you're not being present you're not showing up as your best self it's not fair to that person but it's also not fair to you because you're hurting yourself even
more wishing that the person opposite you was your ex all you can think about is what they're doing who they're with right so take that time to kind of neutralize how you're feeling about the ex before you start you know deciding who the next is whether it's the ex or whatever so that's the things I would stop doing immediately whether you're in no contact or whether you've just broken up so these are the things that you want to immediately begin doing work out as little and as often as you can whether that's 10 minutes on
a yoga mat in front of your TV following something on YouTube whether that's a 10minute walk in the morning 10 minutes at night you want to get your body moving you want to move this dormant energy and the more that you start moving your body you're going to feel lighter you're going to look lighter as well you're going to start actually shedding you know whichever fat that you have or you know start seeing some ABS whatever it is that's going to naturally make you feel incredible then you start seeing yourself in the mirror and you're
like damn and this ties into the next point which is dress up for yourself just so that you start feeling top tear so you start truly believing that you are that prize cuz you see when you look in the mirror and you go to the bathroom I am the prize I am that guy I am that girl right and so it becomes less believable that they don't want you because you're not worthy and more believable that actually there is a chance that we could get back together because they'd be lucky to have me and it
you kind of go through that those emotions of maybe they don't want me cuz I'm not worthy to actually they would be lucky to have me anyone would be lucky to have me because of these little things that you start implementing into your daily routine now when you are in this no contact and you know the middle of a breakup or whatever you want to use this no contact as a time to reflect on the relationship now if you've clicked on this video because you want to manifest that ex back the point is is that
you're not manifesting that person back already established this relationship does not work for whichever reason and so when we think about manifesting this person back we're not we're manifesting a different version of that person and so you we're using that time to reflect on the relationship reflect on what happened reflect on the part that you had to play in it reflect on the part that they had to play in it and really take this time to understand what it is that you desire in your next interactions with them or someone else you want to forget
what you feel and remember what you deserve if you were wronged by this person how could you even desire to be with that person if you wronged this person why did you believe that they deserve that treatment and what were you believing about yourself it's really a time for reflection and understanding okay this is what I want this is what I do not want but that relas ship that version of that person is not what we are recreating because the same thing will happen again if that has been no change this is seeing them in
a completely different light for example when you answer these questions about this person every single answer you initially say has to change in order for you to begin seeing them better so they always they are known for it's not like them too they are the type of person that fill in the blank right however you're viewing them has to completely and radically change and also how you view yourself at the same time has to change in order for that to come back together as a brand new relationship where you can actually try again in a
few weeks or a few months whatever the case may be but by this point you're seeing yourself different you're also seeing them completely different it's a brand new relationship with two new people and some books I would actually recommend to help you along this breakup is radical forgiveness radical self forgiveness breaking the habit of being yourself the power of positive thinking and of course our favorite on this channel love yourself as if your life depends on it there's so many more as well but these are really great to get started on understanding the dynamic of
the relationship and also understanding your role to play in the breakdown of the relationship another thing is that whether or not you want to rekindle this you still want to be sending love to that person to their experiences in their life because the second that you are bitter about any breakup or not being with them or not hearing from them you're slagging them off to your friends you're saying nasty things about their character you're not changing you're not changing how you view them so they cannot change and you're also not changing how you view yourself
so you cannot change and so even if you do hear from them in a few weeks or a few months nothing will change because nothing has changed right so it's really important to send that love that unconditional love when you like a beautiful flower you don't pluck it out of the ground because it will die you let it Bloom you let it do its thing you give it that space you give it that love that unconditional love I don't need anything from you I don't expect anything from you whatever you need to do whatever space
that you need I respect that but I also respect myself right and so you take that time to focus on yourself to to glow up differently and it's not for them it's not so they can see look how good I'm doing it's never about that you're glowing up for you so that you can move differently and when you move differently you see differently in your reality you expect different things you demand different treatment and you become completely unrecognizable by actually implementing these things you also want to be imagining who are you what does your ideal
life and scenario look like by yourself being happy with yourself being happy alone being happy doing your hobbies meeting friends falling in love with your life romanticizing your life in every way and when you do feel that fulfillment and that new person comes in or that an older person comes in or whatever it's no longer that they are the whole cake they're just the cherry on the top and one thing I will say is that I know a lot of people come to this channel because they're manifesting their ex back and that's what I did
and you know we've spoken about this on my videos but I have to say that the breakdown of that relationship of us no longer being together is the best thing that's ever happened to me in my life House of vibrations would never exist and so you have to find your house of vibrations what is your passion what is something that you can monetized that you love doing anyway that you're so familiar with and once you recognize that it was never the person and it was always the importance that you placed on them you made them
that important you made them that that valuable you made them that special you reduce their importance and recognize who you are and what you desire and suddenly you're not feing for this person anymore because they're just not that special they never were they never will be and it's the same for anything in life the second that you reduce that importance you begin to actually attract what it is that you want and so while you may have clicked on this video to manifest your ex back or whatever I want you to know that please go through
the motions I know you may be in pain right now I know you may be crying and feeling sorry for yourself and moping around but please go through the motions without constantly going back and forth without constantly trying again let's try again let's try again let's try again you will waste so many months and years of your life instead just cut it clean do the inner work don't be feing don't be begging don't be crying don't be sending flowers to the house yes that was me just really doing the work and constantly going within and
then in a few months or a year if you decide okay we're both brand new people let's start again then do it again but I promise you if you have truly done the work and you've truly elevated they suddenly not that attractive so I trust this video helped you manifest you are worthy you are loved I love you and thank you