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I took back my house and left my mother homeless after she disowned me for not attending my sister's wedding hey Reddit my mom's favorite was always clear when I was growing up my younger sister Rachel 37f and I 42f are the children of my mother Karen 62f it seemed as though I had vanished from the world the instant Rachel was born I don't want to come across as theatrical but this is the reality my mother was naturally quite protective of Rachel because she was born underweight and ill I get that it must have been frightened

for her to have a sick kid but Rachel was the only child that Karen cared for rather than merely the family's baby Rachel received Royal Treatment her needs wants and moods were the center of attention for example mom would hand feed Rachel until she was well into Middle School since she disliked eating by herself mom would simply complete any school projects or homework for Rachel no questions asked Mom allowed Rachel to stay at home if she didn't feel like going to school and then there was me I had clothes food and other essential so I

wasn't completely disregarded but I was alone emotionally unless it had to do with Rachel mom never truly cared about me Mom was preoccupied at a spa and forgot about a dentist appointment I had when I was around 10 years old after hours of waiting outside the school a family friend saw me and offered to drive me home my mother pretended it wasn't a huge thing when I returned Oh I thought you'd figure it out she simply said The only person who actually saw me was my father Michael may he rest in peace he wasn't wasn't

home as much as I would have liked because he worked so much but when he was he tried his best when Karen and Rachel weren't there dad and I would go out for movies or ice cream he would give me extra cash for birthdays or School outings but he would urge me not to tell my mother in retrospect I believe he was attempting to compensate me for feeling so unnoticed but Dad could not deny the favoritism no matter how hard he tried everything was always better for Rachel I had to save money or work for

what I desired Rachel however only needed to ask and it would materialize I requested a bike one Christmas and Rachel made a last minute request for the same item Rachel received a brand new gleaming bike beneath the tree on Christmas morning I received some socks you're older mom responded when I inquired why you can get one for yourself by saving money however it was more than just material possessions Rachel's happiness was Karen's Obsession mom would move quickly to resolve whatever small problem Rachel was having such as a friend not texting her back or receiving a

poor grade I quickly learned not to bother going to her for anything though as she would tell me to stop being so dramatic or figure it out like an adult whenever I was upset about something of course Rachel took it all in why wouldn't she she was living the dream since Mom took care of everything for her so she didn't have to do anything Rachel eventually stopped learning even the most fundamental life skills she was incapable of managing her own schedule cooking or even cleaning Rachel was totally reliant on her mother since she pred protected

her from everything I didn't know how toxic the dynamic was until High School mom would complete Rachel's schoolwork after she would SOB to her about how difficult her lessons were mom pleaded with the principal to have Rachel's grades modified after she failed High School accusing the teachers of failing to recognize her unique needs naturally it didn't succeed but it demonstrated the lengths Karen will go to in order to Shield Rachel from responsibility of any kind however I was supposed to be self-sufficient I had to work things out on my own if I had trouble in

school I had to use the money I earned from babysitting if I wanted to participate in extracurricular activities and Karen would tell me you're the older sister you need to set an example if I ever venture to voice my displeasure I was eager to be out of high school by the time I graduated I never looked back after enrolling at a college in a different city I never made a better choice than to move away I was able to breathe for the first time I didn't have to compete for Karen's attention or continually compare myself

to Rachel I might Simply Be Myself Rachel meanwhile remained at home and didn't leave until she was 26 years old and married Karen continued to be involved in her life even at that point phoning her five times a day to inquire about topics like what did you eat or how is your hubby doing she even unexpectedly came up to bring Rachel groceries or clean her house even though Rachel and her husband were more than capable of handling those tasks on their own for my part I was going about my life I obtained a job after

graduating from college and began constructing my future future dad kept in touch with me by giving me frequent phone calls and coming to see me when he could not so much Karen she would occasionally comment on my Facebook posts or send me a birthday text but that was about it I honestly didn't give a damn her unrelenting criticism and partiality no longer burdened me and I was joyful in hindsight I believe Karen's fixation on Rachel stemmed from a desire for control she never allowed Rachel to grow up because she wanted her to always be in

need of her I had to fend for myself after being thrown out of the nest early although it was painful at the time I now consider it a blessing while Rachel became totally dependent on Karen I learned to stand on my own two feet the dynamic remained the same even after I left Karen was Rachel's facilitator I was the Forgotten child and Rachel was The Golden Child some things never change which is humorous not funny haha but funny in a depressing manner but everything did 11 years ago at first dad's frequent coughing didn't seem like

a huge concern he blamed it on a recalcitrant cold or allergies however he didn't get better as the weeks stretched into months he actually grew worse he was usually exhausted breathless and simply not himself nevertheless he continued to labor because he was a selfless industrious man who always put the needs of others before his own Karen didn't appear to notice at all she was too preoccupied with her daily schedule of yoga sessions Spa visits and whatever else occupied her time after her first marriage ended Rachel was back at home by that point she didn't appear

to be really worried about Dad's health and she wasn't working either they seemed unwilling to face the inconvenience of admitting that something was a Miss I was trying to keep some distance from all the family dysfunction while establishing my career in a distant place during our frequent phone conversations I could sense that something wasn't right he sounded more worn out and weaker he dismissed my question about whether he had seen a doctor claiming to be all right I knew he wasn't though when he eventually went to the hospital following an especially severe coughing spell things

reached a Breaking Point a serious lung infection was the diagnosis when I learned I immediately dropped everything and ran home I was appalled when I arrived dad was laying in bed by himself looking so weak and Ill Rachel and Karen they were out getting manicures Karen pretended to be shocked to see me when they returned she even attempted to give me a hug but I refused when I questioned her why she wasn't with Dad she said that she had errands to run both had recently had their nails done and were carrying shopping bags so it

was clear they had just left the spa I spent as much time as I could with Dad when he was admitted to the hospital every now and then Karen would stop by but only for a few minutes Rachel she said it was too hard for her to see him in that state and she hardly turned there at all I was balancing everything at the same time including communicating with doctors controlling his medicine and attempting to make him comfortable on most nights I even slept in a chair by his bed it was frustrating that Karen didn't

participate it's not like she was too busy to be there because she didn't work however she pretended that going to the hospital was a huge hassle the day she stated he's in good hands with the nurses will always stick in my memory should I just sit there or what yes Karen supporting your husband is exactly what you're meant to do dad was released from the hospital after a week we hired a nurse to assist at home because he still required round-the-clock care Karen was expected to take charge and assume greater responsibilities yet she continued to

be untrustworthy she would leave for hours to run errands only to return with shopping bags or she would fail to give him his medications on time on one occasion she chose to stop at the salon before picking up an oxygen tank for him I had already made arrangements for someone else to deliver it by the time she arrived home Rachel wasn't any better she said she avoided dad completely because she couldn't bear to see him in such a vulnerable state she spent much of her time in her room watching TV or browsing on her phone

she even went on vacation with her friends during one of dad's worst bouts leaving me to manage everything by myself in the end I resigned my job to care for Dad full-time to be honest I didn't want to leave him alone with Karen or Rachel and I didn't trust them to do it he was worthy of better in order to keep him from feeling lonely I prepared his meals assisted him with his physical therapy and made sure he had company I loved him so even though it was exhausting I would do it all over again

if I had to as Dad's health deteriorated Karen did make an attempt to work harder but it was too late she would sit next to him but she would be glued to her phone either talking to Rachel or posting on social media it seemed as though she was unable to fully focus on him Rachel only arrived after being coerced by Karen and even then she would excuse herself and depart after a short while a few months later dad died the nurse I and a few of his friends who had come to bid him farewell were

all around him Rachel and Karen they weren't present Rachel was out with friends and Karen had gone to some sort of Wellness Retreat when it became apparent that Dad was running low on time I contacted both of them but they did not answer the funeral went by quickly I was tired and heartbroken but I still had to put up with the from Rachel and Karen as though she hadn't been ignoring all the warning signals for months Karen talked to her friends about how unexpected dad's death was for the majority of the funeral Rachel made a

huge show of crying but it felt so forced she hadn't given a damn when it counted dad's attorney called me a few weeks after the funeral to discuss his will I was hoping for a tiny inheritance or a momento but nothing more however I was taken aback when I met with the attorney dad had bequeathed the house his savings and his assets to me Rachel and Karen receiv received nothing given how little his wife and youngest daughter cared for him I could only imagine how much anguish dad must have been going through in his last

months he expressed his appreciation for everything I'd done for him by leaving everything to me it caused caused a firestorm though when Karen and Rachel learned they were Furious in fact Rachel yelled at the attorney stating that she could never be subjected to this treatment by her father Karen called and insisted that I give them a piece of The Inheritance I declined for the sake of my sanity I disconnected from Rachel and Karen their sense of entitlement was draining I eventually met my husband after relocating to the city where I was employed and concentrating on

starting again we relocated abroad for his work got married and had a baby to be honest I didn't feel the need to tell Karen or Rachel about it because it was a new beginning after a few years I became a mother to my daughter Karen appeared at my place out of the blue it was unexpected to see her at my door as I hadn't spoken to her in years she appeared more worn out and less put together she sobbed expressed regret and expressed her want to be involved in my daughter's life she even acknowledged that

she felt bad about the way she raised me she said she just wanted to make amends because she had been living with remorse ever since dad died although I must admit that I didn't trust her I chose to give her a chance it was all right for a Time Karen would occasionally send gifts and make video calls to see how my daughter was doing for once it felt normal then predictably the hints began I thought it would go away so I disregarded Karen when she casually said how hard life had been for her since I

took everything or how she was having financial difficulties Karen gave me a call around a month ago the fact that she seemed enthusiastic made me uneasy right away because Karen doesn't call unless she needs something she struck up a discussion by inquiring about my spouse and daughter which was already strange then she revealed the shocking news that Rachel was getting married once more as you recall Rachel's first marriage ended almost a year later she never really put her life back on track after moving back in with Karen Rachel and I hadn't spoken for more than

10 years so this news was unexpected Karen talked endlessly on Rachel's significance of this wedding How It Was A New Beginning for her and how the family would be I congratulated her was courteous and assumed that was the end of it but obviously not Karen went on to say something like you know Rachel has had a really difficult time organizing this wedding within her budget after everything she's been through she deserves a lovely day I knew where this was going so I said nothing I was hoping you could help out with the expenses she finally

added considering everything your father left you it's the least you can do I was astounded to begin with R and I don't even communicate second what level of entitlement is required to demand payment from someone who isn't even invited to the wedding indeed Karen made it apparent that I was not invited oh we assumed you wouldn't want to travel with a baby but of course you're welcome to come Karen said in an attempt to backtrack when I brought this up your sister is getting married so you don't need an invitation I bluntly told her no

I had nothing to pay for she attempted to place the blame on me by claiming that I had an obligation to assist Rachel as the older sister she also mentioned dad's wealth saying that while Rachel was struggling I was hoarding the family fortune I informed her that Rachel and I were not romantically involved and advised her to get in touch with Rachel directly if she needed assistance Rachel predictably never did Karen didn't accept rejection she kept bringing up the same point in her voicemails and texts over the course of the following few weeks I was

disappointing Rachel I was self-centered and I didn't care about my family if you don't help it will ruin R's big day and everyone will know it's your fault she even stated the problem is that Rachel and Karen were behaving as though I owed them money but when I needed assistance where were they I was the one who put everything on hold to take care of dad while he was Ill while everybody continued living their lives I was the one who remained by his side and now they wanted me to come through and save the day

after years of Silence not at all karen made matters worse by asserting that Rachel had already reserved the space and paid deposits for musicians caterers and decorations since the invitations had already been sent she claimed that canceling everything would make the family look foolish if they couldn't afford it how did they plan all of this I asked her what did she say you were what we needed that was the last straw I informed Karen that because I wasn't providing them any money she could solve the problem on her own she broke down in tears and

threatened to cut me out of her life if I didn't help you already treated me like I didn't exist I responded laughing what makes a difference I hung up and blocked her after that although he cautioned that there would be criticism from extended family my husband supported my choice he was correct some family members contacted me and said that since family is family I should be the bigger person and lend a hand however where was all of this concern when Karen and Rachel were treating me like trash I disregarded them and refused to back down

I haven't replied and to be honest I don't intend to but Karen left me a voicemail with the words if you can live with ruin in your sister's wedding then I guess you're not the person I thought you were too much of my life has been devoted to going above and beyond for folks who don't value it I'm finished I reached my breaking point after the wedding drama in the house Dad left me Karen and Rachel had been living rentree for more than a decade a part of me believed that especially after Dad's passing it

would be simpler to avoid the drama of evicting them but as time went on I came to see that they were not appreciative of me did not respect me and had no plans to ever be respected let's go back a little Karen and Rachel were Furious that dad left everything to me when his will was read Karen said that because she had lived there for many years it was her house Rachel screamed about how unjust it was during her tantrum in actuality though neither of them was worthy of a dime when they couldn't even bother

to come up most of the time dad left me the house because he could see how much I cared for him in his last months I see you and I appreciate you was how he expressed his gratitude I allowed them to remain in the house house even after I inherited everything I had the hope that they might change however Karen never once offered to pay me rent and instead rented out one of the rooms to pay for her own costs acting as though the house was hers I was treated like a villain by Rachel who

told the rest of the family that I had tricked Dad into excluding her from the will they didn't try to patch things up between them I finally came to the conclusion that enough was enough I needed to reclaim what was properly mine since they had stayed too long I was hoping you could help out with the expenses she finally added considering everything your father left you it's the least you can do I was astounded I don't even speak to Rachel to start second what level of entitlement is required to demand payment from someone who isn't

even invited to the wedding indeed Karen made it app parent that I was not invited oh we assumed you wouldn't want to travel with a baby but of course you're welcome to come Karen said in an attempt to retract her statement when I brought this up your sister is getting married so you don't need an invitation I blunt told her no I had nothing to pay for she attempted to place the blame on me by claiming that I had an obligation to assist Rachel as the older sister she also mentioned dad's wealth saying that while

Rachel was struggling I was hoarding the family fortune I informed her that Rachel and I were not romantically involved and advised her to get in touch with Rachel directly if she needed assistance Rachel predictably never did Karen didn't accept rejection she kept bringing up the same point in her voicemails and texts over the course of the following few weeks I was disappointing Rachel I was self-centered and I didn't care about my family if you don't help it will ruin Rachel's big day and everyone will know it's your fault she even stated the problem is that

Rachel and Karen behaved as though I owed them money but when I needed assistance where were they I was the one who put everything on hold to take care of dad while he was Ill while everybody continued living their lives I was the one who remained by his side and now they wanted me to come through and save the day after years of Silence not at all Karen made matters worse by asserting that Rachel had already reserved the space and paid deposits for musicians Caterers and decorations since the invitations had already been sent she claimed

that cancelling everything would make the family look foolish if they couldn't afford it how did they plan all of this I asked her what did she say you were what we needed that was the last straw I informed Karen that because I wasn't providing them any money she could solve the problem on her own she broke down in tears and threatened to cut me out of her life if I didn't help you already treated me like I didn't exist I responded laughing what makes a difference I hung up and blocked her after that although he

cautioned that there would be criticism from extended family my husband supported my choice he was correct some family members contacted me and said that since family is family I should be the bigger person and lend a hand however where was all of this concern when Karen and Rachel were treating me like trash I disregarded them and refused to back down I haven't replied and to be honest I don't intend to but Karen left me a voicemail with the words if you can live with ruining your sister's wedding then I guess you're not the person I

thought you were too much of my life has been devoted to going above and beyond for folks who don't value it I'm finished I reached my breaking point after the wedding drama in the house Dad left me Karen and Rachel had been living rentree for more than a decade a part of me believed that especially after Dad's passing it would be simpler to avoid the drama of evicting them but as time went on on I came to see that they were not appreciative of me did not respect me and had no plans to ever be

respectable letun go back a little Karen and Rachel were Furious that dad left everything to me when his will was read Karen said that because she had lived there for many years it was her house Rachel screamed about how unjust it was during her tantrum in actuality though neither of them was worthy of a dime when they couldn't even bother to come up most of the time dad left me the house because he could see how much I cared for him in his last months I see you and I appreciate you was how he expressed

his gratitude I allowed them to remain in the house even after I inherited everything I had the hope that they might change however Karen never once offered to pay me rent and instead rented out one of the rooms to pay for her own costs acting as though the house was hers I was treated like a villain by Rachel who told the rest of the family that I had tricked Dad into excluding her from the will they certainly enjoyed living in a house they didn't pay for but they didn't try to patch things up after Karen's

request that I cover Rachel's wedding costs and the constant attempts at manipulation I finally had enough I had an eviction notice prepared after I called my attorney Karen went insane when she got it you can't evict me she yelled when she called me I call this place home I've spent 45 years here I politely told her that she had 30 days to leave the house and that it was legally mine naturally Rachel threw herself into the conflict she accused me of being greedy and callous calling me every possible insult in the book I just just

cared about Dad to get the inheritance she said it was absurd I'm the terrible guy even though she was the one who hardly ever saw dad while he was dying Karen did everything she could to get me to reconsider she pretended to be tough at first adding I dare you to kick me out she then softened saying that the house was all she had left and that she was too old to start again I'm not going anywhere as if it wasn't the place I should have been collecting rent on for years she even sobbed about

how she had been Renning out a room to make ends me it didn't work her attempt to Guilt Trip Me by asking what would your dad think if he saw you throwing your mother out on the street was the last straw dad left me the house for a reason I explained to her perhaps he would still be alive if you had given him even half the attention you gave to Spa sessions I realized that was harsh but I had had enough of sugar coating things Karen had to deal with the repercussions of her decisions the

eviction wasn't warmly received by Rachel either she made a huge deal out of telling Karen to temp temporarily move in with her she boasted to every one of her relatives over the phone that she was supporting Karen and that she didn't require anything from me she seemed to want a round of applause for performing the absolute minimum and it was all very performative on the 26th day of the 30-day notice period Karen left I didn't even make an effort to appear to oversee the transition I engaged a property manager I had the house refurbished and

cleaned after it was vacant I made the trusting decision to rent it to the brother of a family friend knowing that the house was would eventually be occupied by individuals who valued it was a pleasant feeling in the meantime because I wouldn't pay Rachel's elaborate wedding plans fell through she was forced to move from an elegant Lakefront location to a municipal Hall it seems that this embarrassed a number of people in their Social Circle and Rachel's fiance wasn't pleased either he didn't even want a large wedding it turns out shortly after Karen moved in with

Rachel I began to hear rumors of trouble in Paradise because Rachel had assured him she would find a way to pay for it which was obviously code for my sister will pay having his mother-in-law as a frequent visitor to the residence did not sit well with Rachel's husband as usual Karen felt compelled to interfere in their lives she would make fun of Rachel's cooking or remark on how Rachel's husband managed the house and overall be a pain in the neck some family members have attempted to use guilt tripping to get me to forgive Rachel and

Karen they insist that I should have allowed Karen to remain in the house and that I have gone too far but to be honest I don't give a damn I don't care about these people's thoughts anymore because they remained silent when I was being tormented let's go on to the final update now I believed that I would finally be at peace after Karen moved in with Rachel I cut off most of the toxic relatives who tried to Guilt Trip me into forgiving Karen and Rachel rented out the house and concentrated on my family I must

admit that I was relieved when I didn't hear from them for a Time naturally though that didn't last I received a contact from a mutual relative inquiring whether I had heard anything about Karen and Rachel's situation around 2 months after the eviction I hadn't and I wasn't sure I cared to be honest but I had to ask since I was so curious they told me things that were both frustrating and dare I say it gratifying Chris Rachel's husband apparently had enough of Karen's interference and issued Rachel a final ultimatum either she leaves or I leave

due to the wedding Fiasco Rachel was already at odds with him do you recall that she had promised him a lavish wedding which I was supposed to pay for Rachel felt ashamed in front of her friends and his family when they were forced to sell for a modest Town Hall ceremony when things didn't work out there was a lot of friction in their relationship as a result of her disregarding Chris's warnings not to overextend financially things only got worse when Karen moved into their house Chris's Cuisine his parenting skills they have a toddler and even

his communication with Rachel were all criticized by Karen ironically given her own Financial mess she would advise them on how to handle their money for a while Chris tried to put up with it but after one very heated argument in which Karen accused him of not being man enough to care for his family he told Rachel that it was either him or Karen Rachel pleaded with him to change his mind but he refused the worst part is that Karen didn't go out in silence she lost it when Rachel informed her of Chris's ultimatum she also

threatened to remove Rachel from her will which was a pointless threat given that Karen had nothing to leave behind and accused Rachel of abandoning her like everyone else after they got into a heated dispute Rachel who was probably embarrassed and upset advised Karen to work it out on her own where has Karen disappeared to not surprisingly she made an attempt to get in touch with me she asked me if I would think about allowing her to return to the house via email yes an email as I had blocked her on all other platforms she wrote

on how harsh life had been to her and how as a mother she had always tried her hardest she even attempted to present it as a chance for us to mend and reestablish our bond I didn't even think to answer her deceptive strategies were now just depressing Karen attempted to use guilt tripping to Ade some extended family members to take her in after I failed to respond the majority of them flatly refused most likely due to their observation of her methods a distant cousin consented to let Karen stay for a short while but she was

asked to leave after just 3 weeks evidently the cousin had had enough of her persistent complaints and demanding demeanor Rachel is currently coping with the consequences of her choices although Chris stayed with her their relationship is apparently in very bad shape Chris has been withdrawing both financially and emot emotionally as a result of the wedding costs Karen's turmoil and Rachel's inability to accept responsibility for anything Rachel has been telling everyone that he not her is the issue even though he even recommended couples counseling according to what I've heard Rachel has been complaining to her family

about how unfair it is that Dad gave me everything she said that none of this would have occurred if I had simply divided the inheritance she intentionally omits the part where she and Karen treated me like a monster for caring about Dad and disregarded him in his last months with them it's always someone else's fault I've been doing okay in spite of their turmoil the best choice I've ever made was to lease out the house the space is truly loved and respected by the renters a lovely family I now have Financial stability and can invest

in my daughter's future thanks to the rental income my spouse and I are doing well in our jobs and we have begun preparing for a long overdue Family Getaway regarding Karen and Rachel they have already made their decisions and are now dealing with the Fallout Rachel is trapped in a marriage that is about to end while Karen continues to move between relatives I simply don't care about them anymore I don't mean any harm the most liberating thing of all has been realizing that their turmoil is no longer my problem I appreciate you reading and all

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