Understanding THIS Will Change Everything!

if you have gotten to a point in your personal growth where you're feeling stuck you're absolutely going to love this episode because I'm going to talk about why so many of us hit a ceiling in our self-help and what you need to do in order to break through to the other side I'm going to give you four very specific tactics to implement that are going to help you continue to grow personally and evolve spiritually most people get stuck in personal growth because they believe that the only thing they need to be focused on are their limiting beliefs and the truth is is that they're four types of resistances that are preventing you from creating more in your life having more joy having more abundance having more prosperity and really achieving your full potential and so I'm going to break down those four resistances and again give you a daily practice that you can Implement in order to continue to break through the personal growth ceiling and I got to this place not that long ago it was in uh two years ago where I hit a wall in my personal growth and I didn't know what to do frankly it was a very very scary experience for me because there was a part of me that said look man you know you teach personal growth you know everything there is to know about human evolution and how to rewire your brain uh maybe there's something fundamentally wrong with you um that's going to limit me in having a joyful life and and moving forward and that of course was just a limiting belief what was happening was uh a a breakthrough but it felt like a breakdown and for me it was actually a breakdown uh I was having a lot of friction in my life I was experiencing some very nagging chronic health challenges my wife was pregnant with our uh first son and so she was uh experiencing a lot of emotions and that was downstreaming into our relationship and our life our business was in a contraction um and I didn't know how to manage my emotional state I was in chronic overwhelm chronic stress chronic anxiety uh and one of the things I decided to do was to go back to a place that was helping me or had helped me in a in a previous time in my life when my life become unmanageable uh and when I felt powerless to change anything and that was going back into the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and so I started going to uh a couple of meetings a week I called up an old buddy of mine I said hey I got to work the 12 Steps again he said why are you drinking are you drugging are you sexing I said no I'm not doing any of that uh I said but I'm worrying a lot and so I want to work the steps around my chronic worry and really see what's there so I worked through the steps again I think this was the third time I'd worked through the steps over 10 years and I saw some things that I had never seen before and they connected to the work and the framework that I had been developing and it actually gave birth to a 12-step program that we've developed called the whole human framework I know that some of you have gone through that program it's the most transformational framework that I've ever experienced uh and was excited to be able to bring it to uh our community and um what I realized in that process was that we get stuck in personal growth because we think that limiting beliefs are the thing to focus on and limiting beliefs only represent about 20 25% of the resistance that holds us back um in the name of the game if you've listened to any of my other episodes is not to try to hustle or grind or figure out how to have more time or more money or to be constrained by the limitations of our life the the master equation that we teach is desire plus non-resistance equals desired result desire plus non-resistance equals desired result and when you when you take a look at that equation the Desir P piece you've already got down like there are things that you want there are a lot of things that you've experienced in your life that you don't want as a result of experiencing those things that you don't want you become clear on what you do want and so you're basically a Desir making machine you have a whole portfolio of desires that you've already created and so pretty much Step One is complete desire you want more money you want more time you want more freedom you want to grow your business you want better relationships you want a better body you want more Health you want to be a better parent you want more spiritual connection you want more clarity you want want want want want want want want want so you got the desire piece down it's the second piece non-resistance where the battle is won or lost and when you are non-resistant to the desires you have 100% of the time consistently and predictably given enough time you'll produce the desired result no matter what it is more clarity More Money More Health more relationship more business more impact the thing that is tripping us up is resistance and the reason why you're experiencing negative emotions in your life stress anger overwhelm jealousy what we would call Primal states of emotion hopelessness depression anxiety suffering is because you're arguing with yourself on one hand you want something and on the other hand you're resistant to it and one way that you're resistant to it is your belief systems and so your beliefs which were formed at a very very very early age mostly before the age of seven as you were impressionable with a very absorbent mind you came to conclusions about the world or other people had their conclusions and they imposed them upon you and you these programs started to inform how you think how you feel how you act on a daily basis and ultimately how you experience reality and so you know a really simple uh exercise that I give people is to complete the sentence when I was growing up money was blank and usually how money was for you as a child is how money is for you as an adult you know some people rebel against however money was for them as a child um but they still have an unhealthy relationship with money and what what normally shows up in that blank I'd say about 70% of the time was money was scarce when I was growing up money was scarce and your brain is a goal achieving machine so based on the beliefs or the programs that were formed at a very early age you're going to think on a moment by- moment basis thoughts in alignment with that belief so you'll have thoughts in alignment with money being scarce you'll experience or feel money being scarce and so those are the actions that you will take you'll take actions steeped in financial insecurity and financial scarcity and then those are the results that you will produce and then the results that you produce will just reinforce the belief that it started with where you'll go see I told you there's not enough money and so it's not inherently true in this case whatever the limiting belief is that there's not enough money but that'll become your reality because it's the way that the brain works this is the basis of Behavioral psychology so I'm not making anything up here you don't have to believe me go believe the psychological Sciences if you want but what you believe you think what you think you feel what you feel you do and what you do produces your results and the results will 100% of the time be correlated back to the belief that originated them so if we want to transform our reality our circumstance or situation we have to transform our belief so beliefs is one layer of resistance I account it to be about 25% of the resistance pyramid and the reason why most people get stuck in personal growth is because this is where all of our energy and focus and attention goes because personal growth for the most part doesn't really talk to us about the other three layers I'm going to share those with you here today in my pursuit of trying to figure out out how to go deeper into my personal growth if you've heard my story you know I did everything you know I did everything from you know going from event to event reading all the books and doing the meditation and the breath work and the uh the sematic body release and Drg my girlfriend who's now my wife to India for three weeks to study with monks and then Tibet to do even deeper meditations and back to Sedona to see if I could find a Vortex to jump into or a crystal that could remove whatever limiting bleach were still holding me back and we end up going round and round and round in sort of this personal development Carousel sort of stuck at that first level of limiting beliefs and uh and then we get to a place where we think we suck at our own personal growth you know then I went down the Journey of psychedelics iasa MDMA therapy psilocybin um so a helpful part of my process but ultimately the thing that has pushed me through to the other side is understanding these three additional layers but limiting beliefs are fairly easy to work with when you've got the right technology and you've changed your belief systems before you've done it before right there's some beliefs that you've changed there's some beliefs that you haven't maybe a belief that you've changed is something like you know uh I can't trust people because you grew up and you experienced some sort of what you perceived as mistrust or betrayal and so you know for a while you ran around in your life not being able to trust anybody and it kind of brought you to your knees because it created unmanageability and Insanity in your life and then at one point in time you're like well maybe I'll just decide to trust people and you saw that the mistrust started cycling out of your life and the trust started filling into your life you started seeing that actually those those were isolated experiences of mistrust and for the most part 99. 9% of people actually behave the way that you would expect them to so you can trust people or you can trust life and it's important to assess like what did you do there to change that belief and that's what you know I did is was getting into personal development work I'm like what what is actually happening here and it's a very very simple process that uh I teach in our programs and I've explained fully in other episodes because I'm trying to give you guys just everything and not hold anything back to support you in your growth and transformation um and I call it a decision Matrix and so basically what you did was you took a limiting belief and you came up with a new belief which is really a new decision and then you found evidence in your own life to support the new decis ision and really the fastest way and I think the only way to transform a limiting belief is to number one become aware of it like oh I'm aware that I can't trust people number two to decide how you want life to be right I trust people people are trustworthy and then number three Source evidence from your own life to support the new decision and to dismantle the old limiting belief because when you find enough evidence to support the new belief or what we would call the new decision we say beliefs are simply decisions you can just decide when you find enough evidence to support the new decision the old limiting belief doesn't make any sense anymore H and so the best way to do that is to actually Source evidence from your own life that the limiting belief really isn't true and that the new decision is it's a really powerful distinction that beliefs are decisions it's at the core of part of our framework uh because you just decided with you were younger that money was scarce it wasn't necessarily true but you unconsciously decided it and so as a result of that you've only been paying attention to evidence to support that theory and you've been ignoring all evidence that is not supportive of that theory and so it's become your reality but you can change your reality almost instantly by changing your beliefs there's a little bit of time where kind of reality has to catch up and so it's important to not go back into the limiting belief you know a lot of times people will shift limiting belief you know they got a new empowered decision that you know prosperity and abundance flows to them and then all of the sudden they get a bill in the mail they didn't expect and they go see I knew it I'm never going to have enough so you have to kind of wait for reality to change the materialized world has a delay and for a little while you may experience the old limiting belief we call that the echo effect um so it's good to know that that's how it works because then when the echo shows up you don't overreact by undecided and going back to the old limiting belief but this first layer of resistance is limiting beliefs there's really good tools out there I think the decision Matrix is one of the best of them and if you want to know more about it you can jump on over to our website and check out you know mind hack or the whole human framework two incredible courses that we have that'll take you through these Frameworks but this is the work that most people do in personal growth where they improve their lives but then they get stuck on the carousel because they don't understand the other three layers of resistance and remember desire plus non-resistance equals desired result remember the only thing causing you to experience suffering in your life is resistance and what is it resistance specifically to it's resistance to what you want which is showing up in the forms of thoughts and emotions and perceptions that resistance is creating friction inside of you because you're holding yourself back one layer of resistance is limiting beliefs we had a number of people in our program who had been in our programs for a while and I also experienced this in my own Journey that while I and they had sh shifted a lot of our limiting beliefs there were some limiting beliefs that just felt like they were harder to get rid of you ever experienced that it's like how come how come it's so hard for me to overcome these money limiting beliefs or these beliefs about myself or these beliefs about other people or these beliefs about relationships or I'm still procrastinating and self-sabotaging in my business like why am I still struggling with this belief that nobody would want to hear what I have to say and the reason for this is that there's a set of beliefs that are more deeply rooted in neurology so we could actually see that the myin sheath and the electrical activity around these beliefs is a little stronger than the run-of mill limiting beliefs that you've been able to transform and the reason for that is that these beliefs are bound by resentment so resentments bind this is a really important concept I think it's groundbreaking in personal growth resentments bind limiting beliefs in other words you cannot get rid of a limiting belief if you're still holding on to a person who represented that belief to you and you hold on to them through the mechanism of resentment now if you want to identify those resentments you don't even have to go all the way back to your childhood you can and I'm going to give you an example a story here of my experience of transforming a resentment you could just look at the current resentments in your life because the current resentments in your life are Echoes of the past most of our resentments I would say about 70 to 80% of them are from our primary caretakers and sometimes that's a hard pill to swallow you know it's from your mom or your dad or whoever raised you sometimes it's from the absence of a mom or a dad and the meaning you gave that experience and the resentment you have towards a person that you don't even know or a person that abandoned you but about 70 to 80% of the resentments are from our primary caretakers and so sometimes it's like oh man I don't want to acknowledge or admit that I resent my parents some people believe they had a wonderful experience with their parents they love their parents you know I love my parents but there was a lot of challenge growing up in my family my dad um in the way that he was and the way that I perceived him I interpreted my experience with my dad as I'm not good enough and I always sought my dad's approval and I wanted my dad to agree with the things that I believed because that agreement for me was a sign of love and my dad was very disagreeable you know my dad was an attorney he was a critical thinker um he didn't have a high level of emotional intelligence um and so throughout my entire childhood and my adolescences even as an adult I was always seeking my dad's approval I would actually bring my dad a controversial topics that I knew at an unconscious level he had one perspective on and I had another perspective so that I could win him over to my perspective in order to feel like I was loved now you can imagine how that worked out not very well and so um as I was working the steps around uh my resentment towards my dad I I found forgiveness I realized that my dad really did the best he could that my dad was holding his own traumas you know my dad's dad was very similar to my dad you know my dad probably never got the love that he wanted from his dad his dad was very critical and a kind of a a tough thinker um and not particularly um empathetic and so um so I really just saw clearly that my dad gave me the love he was capable of giving me and did the best that he can and in that I found forgiveness we actually teach a whole framework around this called the Forgiveness framework uh within within our whole human framework structure and uh and I'd actually done this work while Carol was like 8 month pregnant hey it's David just a quick Interruption to your regularly scheduled Episode by your favorite sponsor Mah I want to tell you about my book it is available on Amazon right here right now a changed mind go beyond self-awareness rewire your brain and re-engineer your reality in this little book are all the Frameworks the tools the 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on this natural birth trip so everything was now going to be a natural birth we were going to try to do no medication we were putting colored sashes on the fluorescent lights in the hospital you know we weren't going to prick our child with a bunch of you know shots and needles when he just arrived into the world um and brought this into the OBGYN who we decided to work with and he was not thrilled about this at all and so we end up going Carol goes into labor we go into the hospital uh and he's on vacation that weekend and the hospital staff are trying to move us through the birth what I would call the birth machine and we were very resistant to it we had our own plan our own opinions and they didn't like it at all but you know we really we we we held firm and the doctor comes back in after Carol's been in pre-labor all weekend on Monday and he's like why have we had a baby yet and I said well because the baby has not decided to come yet and Carol's body has not decided to eject the baby yet that's why and he's like well we need to get that baby out of there and I'm like well that's not really how this works and I said could could I step outside with you and the doctor and I are having a conversation and he's kind of given me all the risks he's like you know Carol's water broke you know in 24 hours she could be susceptible to infection and I said well no she she wouldn't be she was already tested for strep B and you know she tested negative and we've limited cervical inspections and you know the data that you're giving me is from the old us data from 1972 but it was updated in the 1990s and then you could look at the European data and I felt bad for the doctor because it's like he didn't know who he just stepped into a conversation with because like I'm doing all the research and um but I was very calm despite the fact that my wife is laboring in the other room and the doctor's arguing with me I was very very calm and it was really interesting cuz in my calmness and just holding space for the doctor he had a total meltdown he literally I watched his circuitry fry right in front of me he said I can't handle this I'm leaving and he literally stormed out of the hospital and thankfully by the you know power of coincidence or for me God you know a whole team showed up on that Monday morning an amazing Nur triage nurse who knew exactly what we needed to do and we had a very healthy baby without the doctor's intervention and uh but what I realized was that the only reason why I was able to stand so firm which was a very important thing to be able to do considering the circumstances I needed to be emotionally resilient I needed to be kind of grounded and solid and spiritually connected in order to navigate this this was a big deal this was our first child and we're making some really important decisions I realized in that moment that the old me would have been trying to convince the doctor to agree with me because the doctor would have been my dad and I realized that almost every relationship I have with men of any influence around me is a relationship with my dad and I'm always trying to improve impress or convince the influential men the men in position or power around me because I'm seeking the love I never got from my father but because I had done this resentment work I let go of all those beliefs and I was free I was free to be myself in the midst of that conversation and free to be supportive of my family in the most powerful way and so this is how we want to be able to create we want to be free if we're free meaning if we're non-resistant all of our desires will materialize and manifest we will intuitively know is the promises of of AA tell us we will intuitively know how to handle situations and circumstances that used to baffle us so the second layer is resentment you want to take a look at who you're resenting what resentments are you holding from the past and who are you resenting right now because they're simply representing Echoes from the past that's the second layer I'd say it's about another 25% of the resistance that needs to be cleared out most people are carrying it because they're still carrying their resentments the next layer which is the next 25% so we're getting into 75% of the resistance here is what I call the core program and I talk about the core program at a very deep level in other episodes and the core program is something that each and every one of us has it's different for each and every one of us although there are some similarities and overlaps I've identified about 12 to 15 core programs that we all all of us experience one of them and only one of them the core program is basically your core wound it's the core wound that you got from your mom and the core wound that you got from your dad or if your mom and dad weren't around it's the the core interpretation the wounded interpretation of the absence of your parent and it's the it's the intertwining of those two it it has created a core program in you so for example for my mom it was worry and not being good enough and for my dad it was uh it was uh thinking there was something wrong with me and so this internalized as the nucleus of my personality and in an earlier stage of development through through your uh adolescence and teens and into your early adult life the compensation for this belief in my case for example that I'm not good enough and there's something wrong with me which also materialized as chronic worry and rumination and overthinking at the earlier stages of development it sort of contributes to what you're achieving it's it's it has a gift form to it so I was a deep thinker I worked really hard I wanted to achieve I pursued success those were all compensation mechanisms for feeling like I wasn't enough or there was something wrong with me but they seem to produce results in my life and so if you look at your own life your core program is in some ways the aspect of your personality that you perceive that you attribute success to I'm good at these things because this is the way that I am but by the time you hit your late 30s early 40s into 50s and 60s and Beyond the neurology which is really what it is it's an expression of personality through your nervous system has built up so much momentum that it's overreaching it's become too much and that's why we find so many people in their 40s and 50s who come into our programs who go I feel suffocated by myself like I can't I can't stop doing this particular Behavior this way of thinking it doesn't serve me anymore but it's confusing because it feels like it's the thing that I'm really good at but now it's suffocating me that's the core program the core program is very similar to what Paul refers to in scripture as the thorn in our side it's the thing that calls us back to a relationship with a higher power of your own understanding or a god of your own understanding because the core program cannot be changed by a decision Matrix the core program cannot be alleviated through a forgiveness framework the core program is something that has to be uh let go of and let God of it's a pattern of behavior and thinking and thoughts and actions that you have to surrender and so now it brings us into this concept of surrendering and so we teach something called The Surrender experience which is becoming aware when the core program becomes active in your system and instead of engaging in the behaviors that the core program usually compels you to engage in for me it might be like checking my pulse or looking up Health stuff or symptoms on Google or going to another doctor and going round and round and round and filling up my cabinet with supplements again because this showed up as my chronic health conditions and chronic worry about my health um you instead do healthy activities you do the things that the person who would who is already free of this Behavior would be doing so I I exercise I go out and enjoy my life I call friends I go to a 12-step meeting because what what you're wanting to do with the core program is surrender it and trust that as you let go and let God God will do for you what you have not been able to do for yourself which is to solve the problems that the core program is manif manifesting in this case it's health challenges for me and also alleviate you of the emotional symptomatology like the stress the anxiety the overwhelm that has become chronic for you and to heal your mind and so we let go and we let God and as we do that it's a neurological habit break and so as we stop doing the Habit The Habit gets weaker and weaker and weaker and as we choose to do other things trusting that God or the universe or Jesus or Allah will solve the situation for us through the power of synchronicity and coincidence and new thoughts and ideas that we may have access to we start to build a new neurology we start to become the next level version of ourselves and this is very much an identity shifting process so we have to let go of the old personality which has really developed into such a strong habit so that we can build the new personality necessary for us to achieve our full potential so this is the work that we do with the core program and it shows up differently for everybody know for my wife it showed up as working really really hard she said she could outwork anybody uh and controlling circumstances and situations and being obsessive about making sure she doesn't make any mistakes but then that turned into I have to do it all on my own and there's not enough help to help me and her hustling and grinding and overworking and almost burning out so that was her core program so the core program will bring you to your knees almost in a prayer position so that you start looking for help and it's really a mechanism by which I believe God brings us back into relationship with him or it uh after we've gone on this journey of our own life it's very much the prodigal Sun story where the sun goes out and lives a life of sin uh and comes back and is forgiven by the father and comes back into relationship with the father it's this idea that you know God has been waiting for you to ask him to address the issues that you have not been able to solve in your own life but that you have been so busy trying to manage that there's no been no space for God to do God's work that's the third layer which is the core program that core program brings you into a deeper relationship with a higher power of your own understanding and it starts to reconnect you with yourself which takes us to the fourth layer of resistance the last 25% which is the um reestablishment of self-love so what you've been doing as a result of a disconnection between yourself and a disconnection with a higher power as a result of all of these lower level misunderstandings or limiting beliefs or resistances is that you've been Outsourcing your self- Lov and your self-esteem and you've been making other people or other things your God you've been making money your God you've been making success your God you've been making the number of social media followers or the amount of Engagement you have on your social media post you're God you've been um determining your self-worth and self-love by how other people respond around you or what other people say about you or how much money you have in your bank account and so all of that is conditional and so we are living a conditional life which is a victimized life because we can never control our external conditions or circumstances they're always going to change and so in this fourth layer of restoration we address the uh the the absence of self-love and the tool that we predominantly use for that is affirmations and incantations affirmations are very very powerful they can be resistance creating if they're used too early if you've ever done an affirmation or an incantation but you haven't done the work to start to pull the weeds of the limiting beliefs and pull the weeds of the resentment and pull the mother weed of uh the core program then you don't have any space in your garden to plant new seeds and so you know you just become frustrated because the affirmations and the incantations don't stick and then that of course reinforces there's something wrong with you uh but in this in this fourth layer of resistance we start doing incantations and affirmations reminding ourselves of what's actually true encanting and affirming the new decisions and new new belief systems um and I also recommend getting into a practice every single day of writing to your higher power I've talked about this in the last few episodes I developed a practice of waking up in the morning and writing to God and doing three things number one thanking God for all the incredible things and experiences in my life psycho emotional material thanking God for my recovery thanking God for pulling the weed from my garden thanking God for uh encouraging me into a deeper relationship with him thanking God for my son for my wife for my community for the podcast thanking God for this planet thanking God for all the provisions that he has made for me and as I write I feel as if I'm actually in conversation like a long lost lover or pen pal with my God and then I start asking God for things just like my son would ask me for things I ask God for continued spiritual growth I ask God to know his will I ask God for a million milons and millions of people to receive the work that he's channeled through me through my book a changed mind I ask God for lots of things and then I pray for other people and so this has been the biggest game Cher and I think this is the transition from personal development 1. 0 to personal development 2.

0 this is the bridge across to the other side is understanding these four layers of resistance and working with those layers rather than just the first layer of limiting beliefs but then ultimately the key that unlocks the door door into the next room that you're trying to get into right this next level of growth this emotional and spiritual Freedom that then materializes as Financial Freedom and relationship freedom and Clarity and purpose and spiritual vision business growth all the things that you want is actually a personal relationship with God but it's very difficult to have a personal relationship with God if you've got all this resistance going on inside of you I was having a conversation with one of my clients in Guatemala we were there for our legendary mindset event for my one-year coaching clients and we were standing at a sacred site there a big cross that overlooks the city of Antigua and he was telling me a story about how he's really been working with his core program and this feeling of not being good enough and he said yeah you know he showed up in my business networking group he runs a big business networking group and one of the individuals in his program I guess was very critical of him and was saying negative things about the way he was running the group and another guy in the group said hey who cares what this guy has to say you know this guy took A5 million business and turned it into a $3 million business this guy's a trust fund baby that hasn't created anything in his life you know don't worry about that you're doing a great job and he said to me you know I compare myself to other people I compare myself to you I compare myself to you know other great leadership uh uh icons and experts you know from you know Tony Robbins to uh you know John Maxwell and he said what I realized in using your tools and working through the four layers of resistance is that I'm as good as other people nobody's better than I am so he kind of went from this conversation of like I'm not good enough to I'm good enough and I said Scott I think that's a lot of progress but I want you to know where you're actually going he said where's that I said you're moving out out of this old conversation completely and into a new conversation because one way to have the conversation around what's holding you back is rather than I'm not good enough I am good enough but when you do enough weeding in the garden you can all of a sudden get your head out of the garden and you realize I don't want to be a gardener for the rest of my life I don't want to be pulling weeds for the rest of my life and you look up and you see the sun shining and you see the sky and that represents a relationship with your higher power it represents a relationship with God and all of the sudden the game changes from being a gardener to building a relationship with the god of your own own understanding a very personal relationship because when you do that the question is not am I good enough or am I not good enough is there enough time or there is enough time I can't trust people I can trust people money is hard to make money is easy to make I said you move into a completely different conversation which is what is God's will for me and when you operate from that place none of the other questions make sense it doesn't matter how much time it doesn't matter how much money it doesn't matter good enough it doesn't matter trusting people because you're in relationship with the creator of Heaven and Earth you're in relationship with the great way maker and when you have that actual relationship you know that your father will take care of anything that you need and so now you're only question is Father what is it that you want from me and so now you move into the highest level of conversation the highest level of frequency and personal growth and it's a true spiritual conversation because there are a lot of people that have a believe they have a relationship with God but they're full of resistance there are plenty of people in the churches and the temples and the mosques who aren't free to be themselves so if you're not free to be yourself because you've got all this resistance because you haven't weeded the garden how can you possibly be in clear and authentic communication with a god of your own understanding so this is the path and the structure it's important to understand that personal development 1. o working on our limiting beliefs brings us here into personal development to AO understanding that we're operating in a garden with a variety of different types of let's call them weeds that need to be pulled there's four layers of resistance right there's beliefs transformation there's letting go of resentments there's surrendering and building uh a relationship with a power uh a higher power or or a higher power of your own understanding and then there's loving yourself and deepening that relationship and the game changes from personal development to what I would call Enlightenment right and Enlightenment is a lightening it's a lightening of the load you become enlightened and you do that by offloading so many of these conversations that don't make sense by moving into the only conversation that does which ultimately becomes hey what is it you want me to do and I will go do it and I will trust that you will make the way and I know that things may not show up as I expect them to but but they're showing up as they need to because you're God so you don't really make any mistakes right it is a right seeing of reality so again if you want to go deeper into this we've got some Great Courses and then eventually our coaching programs our Live Events you can jump on over to David bear. com and check it out I recommend M hack and the whole human framework we've got them as a bundle right now and just stay in this work with me I mean you're in the right place obviously if you're still here listening to the end of this episode you know there's a reason for it and I'm here to support you I love you very much I believe in your full potential I believe in your spiritual vision I believe that once you get into this work it is an inevitability that you get through to the other side that for a little while we'll weed the garden together and then we're going to look up into the sky and we're going to find ultimately what's been calling us forward which is a relationship with the power greater than ourselves and an ability to live in that relationship on a day-to-day basis so if you love this episode share it with somebody you love do me a favor real easy you just click the share button and send the URL if you haven't yet and you're listening on YouTube subscribe hit that Bell icon so you get reminders and leave me a comment or a question and if you're listening on the audio platforms do me a favor subscribe and also leave me a rating and if you can a review I love reading every single one of them it's the way we 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