Be Needed, But Don’t Be Needy

good afternoon Dwayne here Dry Creek Ranger school been a little while since I've been on we've been running pretty hard with the school uh we just finished up this week the last student from this week left this morning and so we're getting stuff caught up around here before we start again tomorrow and so we got two weeks left of this year that's all we got two weeks of school left and uh and then we'll be off for the winter so we'll run out to Kentucky to one of my daughters is getting married we'll be out

there for that and then I'm hot footing it up to Idaho spend some time in the mountains with my boys for a while so and I'll be making a couple videos as I prepare for that on the gear and and what we're doing there uh just here as we get closer but looking forward to that um but being kind of busy um I want to keep you guys up on a couple things uh we do have the on Shopify now we've got a Dry Creek Granger School store we got one t-shirt on there uh and

uh and it's on pre-order so the end of September whatever orders come in they'll be filled and sent out and if it's a success then we'll start adding more t-shirts and ball caps and one of the things we're adding I'm going to try to get it on tonight if I can figure out the internet side of stuff but we found these there's a guy making these or Zippo ladders uh with the logo on them and then the tagline don't do more do less better and so we're gonna we're fixing to make those available and like

I said they should be on tonight and just a couple stuff like that also want to remind you that Mom and I are going to be in Vegas in December at the National Finals Rodeo we're not going to the rodeo but we will be at Cowboy Christmas we'll be there for three days at rand's custom Hatters my Hatter there we're going to be at their booth for three days with them Lord willing and the creek don't rise now if our erstwhile powers that be in Washington reinstate the full-on covered lockdown we won't be there because

I will not wear a mask period um and so but if you know if the stupid people don't do stupid stuff then the Working Man will carry on uh his life and and we'll be there so if you're going to be in the area and I think we'll be there roughly around 8 through the 12th I think um but combined and to the rand's Hat booth and and say hi and we'll love to see you um so enough of that you know mentioning mentioning the booth the covet lockdowns and stuff that kind of rolls right

into the subject for today um been talking you know I always got people asking questions and coming and looking for some answers and stuff and you know for several weeks now it's been on my mind that young men and not so young man um there's so much out there on the direction you ought to go and paths that you want to take but it's it's my tendency it's my natural tendency to try to take stuff that's complex and a lot of different moving parts and boil it down and make it simple and I think there's

one path that if you started working down that path a lot of this other stuff would be taken care of it would take care of itself um and it's two sides there's two points and there's two sides to the same coin okay um and and I think if you were to ask me Dwayne what encapsulate what encapsulates the thought of healthy masculinity of being a man um I think there's two sides to it number one is so don't be needy now that's a tough one in this country in this day and age because everybody has

programmed us from the start that we need them um the church has programmed us that we need the church um and they can they don't need to fulfill what they're supposed to be doing they don't need to be actually teaching and maturing and growing and shepherding and comforting uh they can just you know Hammer whatever their favorite hobby horses but we need them we need to be there our government we need the government you got to have the government you got to have those those little six hundred dollar checks every once in a while I

need to sign to throw you a bone and they you got to have them telling you want to do and you got to have them uh looking out for you we're the government we're here to help and we're raised like that you know uh Society tells us that we we shouldn't need each other um and so many people these days are in a job that's not fulfilling it might be worse than that they may hate it um but they need that job why do they need that job because they need that paycheck and why they

need that paycheck because they need to make that truck payment that they just needed now why did they need that truck payment because they needed backup camera and they needed um you know the all the newest bells and whistles and they just needed all that stuff and so the need one need leads to another need which leads to another need which leads to another need and all these are links in the chain that imprison you and bind you and uh and we need you know my wife has said and I'm not speaking out of turn

here she'll she'll very openly very publicly you know she has said uh we've been married for 32 years and the biggest difficulty that she has had throughout our entire marriage is her sense that I didn't need her now I'm going to say something here and I want you to listen I don't want you to need your okay I want you to just stop and listen and contemplate meditate on what I'm saying okay I never have needed her but I've always wanted her now let's stop and boil this down I mean you're taught by books you're

taught by movies you're taught by television programs you know that that I need you I need you well if I need you then I'm keeping you there for me so if you are all about me it's complete selfishness uh so if you have developed a relationship to where you need you emotionally need your spouse your significant other that's not healthy That's not healthy because if you need them then you're staying with them for what you can get out of it do you see where this can go do you see how deep this can go all

right but you want to be with them you want them around that's a whole nother Planet that's a whole different world okay uh we need uh fellas will go into relationships and they'll need they'll need they'll need and guys we we you know it's part of the sphere these days everybody talks about how how uh difficult to find a good modern young lady who's who's not whacked out on all these these new Concepts and stuff but you know if we just step back and I'm not talking about uh man I'm treading in muddy water here

I'm not talking about all this in-cell stuff okay but there's a big difference in between wanting a good woman and desperately needing any woman one is weakness and the other is a superpower all right we you need to start working you need to start working you need to start trimming stuff in your life you say trimming it for what trimming away the need you don't need an iPhone 14 pro Max all right and with all the hundreds of dollars a month you're spending on that you say well I do need it because I've got this

one we'll stop that whatever this is stop it so that you don't need it so then you don't need the phone so that you can get a 40 TracFone so that you can free up several hundred dollars a month so as you work down the line you don't need that paycheck he said well I gotta have a paycheck no you don't money's good all right and we can dig everything too far all right you need money but you don't need near as much money as you think you need right now which therefore you don't need

near as much bigger paycheck so Dwayne I got to make the payment on this house let me ask you a question now tell me the truth do you have more house than you really need I didn't say then you want I didn't say then it's convenient uh I didn't say do you have more shelter than you need well if you don't need all of that house and you don't need all of those payments then you don't need that paycheck and if you don't need that paycheck you don't need that job okay you can settle for

a whole lot less paycheck and a whole lot less job that's a whole lot easier to walk away from when things get stupid and crazy we don't be needy we don't need to need friends and people I'm not against friends and people I have a friend I have a friend um I have a friend if you call me right now and we only talk you know two or three times a year but if you call me right now said this before and he's like going I need a kidney I'm on the next plane down you

have two of them if you need them that's my friend all right whatever he needs all he knows and it's vice versa but I have a lot of people who come along and they call me their friend and they say they want to be friend then they stand on their head and show the rear end and then they're all shocked and bothered because I just shrug and walk away I don't I didn't need him as a friend in the first place don't need them I'm not needy if you want to be my friend and you

want to act like a friend okay but I don't need a friend and this is some hard this is some hard stuff okay this is some hard stuff but I don't need you take um what's coming on here you know every people start panicking about if they do these Mass mandates and shut down the coveted stuff well they do obviously you know our business the the school here is going to shut down that's okay I don't need the school all right the school's paying for herself but I'm not making any money off of it so

I'm not needy I've got myself set up I'm not needy say Dwayne want about the YouTube channel do you need the YouTube channel I don't need a YouTube channel I'm enjoying it and I love helping the folks and I'm helping you know and I'm enjoying it but if everybody comes down and somebody gets stupid and someone gets mean and nasty and whatnot I can shrug and walk away the ability to shrug and walk away is a man's greatest ability it is a superpower now it doesn't mean you walk away without pain it doesn't mean you

walk away without regret it doesn't mean that that you walk away without deep sadness uh it's it's not it's not a lack of feeling it's not a lack of emotion it's not a lack of caring it's just a lack of need uh I would like to not hurt now think about this whether it be physically or emotionally I would like to not hurt but I don't need to not hurt I can live with pain whether physical pain or emotional pain I can live with pain so I don't need to not hurt and you don't need

to not hurt now we would rather not hurt we would prefer to not hurt we don't go looking for her we don't go hoping for it we don't go stirring it up but if that's the price of freedom if that's the price of of stability then you need to pay that price now when I say freedom we're we're rolling into the other side of the coin okay we need to be we need to be unneedy but the other side of the coin which keeps keeps us out of narcissism which keeps us out of selfish Indulgence

which keeps us out of Hedonism which keeps us out of that place that we don't want to go is we need to be needed we need to be there for those who need there's a big difference between me needing somebody and me being available and making the sacrifices that someone who needs me that's the problem a lot of these modern these modern takes on masculinity they get the whole part down well you need to not need anybody you need to stand up here you need to be blah blah blah blah blah but they come to

a point that they're totally living for themselves that is the problem with most of these things and most these men are on these paths today they are completely and totally living for themselves and what they do for you and I'm not speaking by anybody in particular I'm just it's just across the board all right um what they do for you they'll do for you because they're going to get something out of it all right they're going to get something out of it so they get paid for it uh in one way or the other but

there's people around you that are needy and in order to not become a self-centered narcissist um the whole thing about true healthy natural masculinity is we are there to protect and serve now you'll see that written on the sides of police cars but that's the Mantra that's what it boils down to we are there to protect and serve and if I need to be protected if I need to be served how am I going to protect and serve somebody else you get on an airplane and you fly and the stewardess gets on there we're not

supposed to call them that these days the flight attendant my apologies ma'am the flight attendant gets on there and says now in the case of a sudden loss of atmosphere the oxygen mask is going to drop from the overhead bin if you're with a child or an elderly person make sure you put their mask on first and then put your mask on we're there to protect and serve the weak and then we'll take care of ourselves why because we're not needy we'll take care of them first because we're not narcissistic we're not self-centered we're not

living for us we will take care of them first because they are needful and then we will take care of ourselves because we are not needy let me wrap that up again we will take care of them because they can't take care of themselves they need us and then we will take care of ourselves because we are not needy now that's a wide Road and it's a long road that for most it will take years to get down to find that place but that's the direction you need to go no my all my church Brethren

out there I'm not talking about we don't need God don't waste your time and get on here and say all I need is God all you need is God and if you just accept Jesus Christ your savior you don't need anything or anybody else stop being a fool that's foolish talk and you stop that all right I'm sick and tired of that foolish talk on this channel if that were the truth then the god of the Bible would not tell the people of the church to help the needy and to help each other he would

say shut up and sit down you got me and I'll take care of it so stop with the stupidness all right just don't you're making me a little scratchy all right um and uh and you're not helping anybody okay fellas this whole masculine thing how is it that we become masculine without becoming toxic we quietly self assuredly take care of ourselves and we humbly graciously gently take care of those around us who need to be taken care of and if you can find that balance and get around that you'll be ahead of most okay you'll

be ahead of most all right what do we got going here got me a good cigar today Patron 1964 anniversary one of the students last week brought me a handful of these These are really good cigars uh these these there's a bundle these that stays in my humidor they don't get smoked all the time because that they're just they're uh they're kept for really good occasions but I was in the I was in the mood today for a really good cigar so I pulled one of these out um you can find these at cigar place.biz

uh Shane over there they're they taking good care of me and that's where I'm ordering my cigars when I order online and most of my cigars I get online because I there it's a lot more economical if you can afford to get them a box at a time put them in a humidor um and uh so anyhow I want to give a thanks to them and I thank you guys for your patience and for sticking around and patiently waiting for another video and if you have stuck around and listen through this one all the way

through then I thank you for that and I hope there was a little something there that encouraged you and that helps you and I hope you gain just a little bit of Freedom today a little bit of direction all right wish you guys all the best uh be logical be reasonable be safe and have fun and we'll catch you guys next time