Jealous Ex Accused Me of Cheating & said she was Pregnant to baby Trap Me, but it Turns Out That...

jealous X accused me of cheating and said she was pregnant to Baby trap me but it turns out she was the one who was cheating and baby wasn't mine I'm 28m and I've been dealing with some serious drama lately my ex-girlfriend Sarah 26 fake name and I had a pretty nasty breakup about 2 to 3 months ago we'd been together for 2 years and things had been getting Rocky for a while now she's dropped a bombshell on me and I'm not sure how to handle it to give you some background Sarah and I met through

mutual friends at a party we hit it off right away and for the first year everything was great we had similar interests enjoyed spending time together and even talked about a future together I work as a software engineer and Sarah's a graphic designer we both have demanding jobs but we always made time for each other in the beginning our relationship was like something out of a romcom we go on spontaneous weekend trips try out new restaurants and spend lazy Sundays binge watching TV shows we introduced each other to our families and everything seemed perfect my

parents loved her and her parents seemed to like me too But as time went on crack started to show it started small at first Sarah would make comments about how much time I spent at work or how close I was with some of my female friends I didn't think much of it initially figuring it was just normal relationship stuff however things escalated pretty quickly Sarah became increasingly jealous and possessive she'd get upset if I hung out with my female friends even in group settings she started checking my phone when I wasn't looking and questioning me

about every text or call I got I tried to reassure her but nothing seemed to help one one time I was out with my best friend Mike and his girlfriend for dinner Sarah was supposed to join us but had to cancel last minute due to work later that night she called me in tears accusing me of lying about who I was with because she saw a Snapchat story from a mutual friend who happened to be at the same restaurant it took me hours to calm her down and convince her that I wasn't cheating things got

worse when I started a big project at work I was putting in extra hours often coming home late my team included a few women and Sarah couldn't handle it she'd call me multiple times during the day show up at my my office unannounced and even started following me to catch me in the ACT I tried everything to make her feel secure I offered to let her meet my co-workers I shared my location with her I even considered quitting the project but nothing was enough the constant accusations and lack of trust were wearing me down the

final straw came when she accused me of cheating on her with a co-worker named Emily Emily and I had been working closely on the project often staying late to meet deadlines Sarah saw some texts between us discussing work and completely lost it she showed up at my office one evening when Emily and I were the only ones left working on a presentation Sarah burst into the conference room screaming and crying she accused Emily of trying to steal me away and called her all sorts of horrible names I tried to calm her down but she was

hysterical she screamed at me and threw a potted plant at me missing thankfully security had to be called to escort her out I was mortified and Emily was understandably shaken the next day I had to explain the situation to my boss he was understanding but warned me that this couldn't happen again Emily was professional about it but things were awkward between us after that some of my other co-workers started treating me differently too like I was the guy with a crazy girlfriend after that incident I knew I couldn't continue the relationship I took a day

off work and went to Sarah's apartment to break things off I explained that her lack of trust and constant accusations had become too much to handle I told her that her behavior was affecting not just our relationship but my work and other friendships too she didn't take it well there was a lot of yelling crying and name calling she accused me of never loving her of using her of cheating on her throughout our relationship she even threw some of my stuff out the window of her apartment it was ugly to say the least as I

was leaving she threatened to make me pay and ruin my life for breaking her heart I didn't think much of it at the time chalking it up to the Heat of the Moment I was just relieved to be out of the relationship for the next few weeks Sarah kept trying to contact me she'd call text and even show up at places she knew I frequented her messages ranged from pleading for another chance to threatening to tell everyone I knew what a cheating scumbag I was I blocked her number on all social media and eventually she

seemed to get the message and backed off I spent the next couple of weeks trying to get my life back on track I threw myself into work started going to the gym more and reconnected with friends i' neglected during my relationship with Sarah things were finally starting to feel normal again that brings us to last week I was at home on a Friday evening enjoying a quiet night in I'd ordered pizza cracked open a beer and was settling into watch a movie when there was a knock on my door I wasn't expecting anyone so I

was a bit confused I opened the door and there stood Sarah she was pale and looked like she hadn't been sleeping well before I could say anything she blurted out I'm pregnant and it's yours I was stunned my first reaction was disbelief we'd always been careful and given how our relationship ended I couldn't help but wonder if this was some kind of trick to get me back I asked her how far along she was and she said about 2 months my mind was racing 2 months ago we were still together but things were already bad

between us I tried to remember the last time we'd been intimate but everything from that period was a blur of arguments in tension I invited her in more out of shock than anything else we sat in my living room I asked her how she found out when she'd taken the test she said she'd missed her period and took a home test then went to a doctor to confirm it I told her I needed some time to process this I offered her a glass of water and went to the kitchen to clear my head when I

came back I found her going through my phone which I'd left on the coffee table what the hell are you doing I yelled she jumped dropping my phone I I was just checking the time no you were snooping just like you always do I have had enough and told her I needed proof before I could even begin to process this information I asked for a paternity test which seemed to upset her she accused me of not trusting her ironic given our history and said I should just believe her after everything we've been through you should

know I wouldn't lie about this she said tears in her eyes but all I could think about were the countless times she'd accused me of lying of cheating when I done nothing wrong I refused to accept what she was saying without concrete evidence I told her that given how things ended between us and her past Behavior I couldn't just take her word for it I said I'd be willing to discuss this further if she could provide medical proof of the pregnancy and agree to a paternity test Sarah got angry she called me every name in

the book saying I was a coward for not stepping up and taking responsibility she threatened to tell all our mutual friends and my family that I was abandoning her and my supposed child then she stormed off slamming the door behind her since then I've been a mess I can't focus at work I'm not sleeping well and I feel like I'm constantly on edge part of me wonders if I'm being too harsh what if she really is pregnant but Another Part Of Me can't shake the feeling that this might be a manipulation tactic I've spent hours

researching online about false pregnancy claims and paternity rights I've thought about reaching out to Sarah but every time I consider it I remember how toxic our relationship had become and how much happier I've been since the breakup I haven't told anyone about this yet not my family not even my best friend Mike I'm not sure what to do am I the for not believing her and insisting on proof should I have handled this ly I keep replaying the conversation in my head wondering if I miss something she did look different tired stressed but couldn't it

just be from the drama of our breakup and why wait 2 months to tell me if she really is pregnant shouldn't she have known sooner the threat of her telling everyone is Weighing on me too my parents would be devastated if they thought I'd abandon a pregnant girlfriend and my friends I can only imagine what they'd think I've always prided myself on being a standup guy and the thought of everyone believing I'm some dead beat dad to be is killing me but at the the same time I can't just accept this without question Sarah's past

Behavior has made it impossible for me to trust her word alone and bringing a child into the world is a huge responsibility one that I'm not sure either of us is ready for especially given the current state of our relationship I've thought about reaching out to some of our mutual friends to see if they know anything but I'm worried about the rumor mill starting before I even know what's really going on and what if Sarah hasn't told anyone else yet I don't want to be the one to spread this information if it turns out to

be false there's also a small part of me that's terrified of the possibility that it might be true I'm not ready to be a father Sarah and I had talked about kids in the abstract someday in the future but never as an immediate reality and the thought of being tied to Sarah for the rest of my life given how toxic our relationship had become it's overwhelming I've even considered the possibility that the child might not be mine even if she is pregnant given how accusatory she was about my fidelity could she have been projecting could

there have been someone else it's a horrible thought but I can't help but consider every possibility the more I think about it the more can confused and frustrated I become I feel like I'm being forced into a corner with no good options if I reach out to Sarah and try to get more information am I opening myself up to more manipulation if I ignore her am I potentially abandoning my child I know I need to do something but I'm Paralyzed by indecision every option seems fraught with potential pitfalls I keep hoping that maybe she'll reach

out again with more information or agree to my request for proof but so far there's been nothing but silence part of me wonders if I should just bite the bullet and agree to whatever Sarah wants just to keep the peace but I know that's not the right thing to do if there really is a child involved they deserve parents who are sure and committed not someone who's just going along with it to avoid conflict I've even considered seeking legal advice but that feels like such a drastic step what if this all turns out to be

a misunderstanding or a false alarm would I be overreacting by getting lawyers involved at this stage the whole situation has made me re-evaluate our entire relationship were there signs I missed red flags I ignored I thought I was being a good boyfriend by trying to reassure and prove my faithfulness but did I just enable her behavior should I have ended things sooner it's been a week since Sarah showed up at my door and I feel no closer to a resolution every day that passes feels like a ticking clock if she really is pregnant decisions will

need to be made soon but how can I make any decisions when I'm not even sure of the basic facts I keep asking myself Ida for insisting on proof should I have been more sympathetic more trusting or am I right to be cautious given our history I honestly don't know anymore so here I am turning to the internet for advice I know it's a complex situation and maybe I'm not giving you all the details you need to make a judgment but I'm at my wits end here I need some outside perspective am I the for

not believing my ex-girlfriend and insisting on proof of her pregnancy or am I justified in my caution given our history what would you do in my situation update 1 hey everyone it's been about 3 weeks since my original post and a lot has happened I wanted to give you all an update on the situation with Sarah and her pregnancy claim first off I want to thank everyone who comment commented on my original post your advice and perspectives really helped me gain some clarity on the situation many of you suggested that I should Stand My Ground

and insist on proof While others pointed out that I needed to be prepared for the possibility that Sarah might actually be pregnant after a few days of radio silence following our confrontation Sarah reached out to me via text she apologized for her outburst and said she understood why I might have doubts she agreed to provide medical proof of the pregnancy and to take a paternity test once it was safe to do so I was relieved that she seemed to be taking a more rational approach but I was still wary we agreed to meet at a

local coffee shop to talk things through I suggested a public place to avoid any potential drama and to keep things civil when we met Sarah looked different from when she had shown up at my door she seemed calmer more collected she handed me an envelope containing ultrasound images and a doctor's report confirming her pregnancy according to the documents she was indeed about 10 weeks pregnant which aligned with the timeline she had given me earlier seeing those ultrasound images I can't even describe the mix of emotions I felt this was really happening or at least it

seemed to be we talked for hours Sarah explained that she had found out about the pregnancy just a week before she came to my place she said she was scared and didn't know how to tell me especially given how things had ended between us she admitted that her approach showing up unannounced and making demands was wrong and she apologized for it I listened to her and tried to keep an open mind I explained my perspective too how her past Behavior had made it difficult for me to trust her words alone and how shocked and unprepared

I felt when she dropped this news on me we discussed our options Sarah said she wanted to keep the baby but she understood if I wasn't ready to be a father she said she wouldn't force me into anything but she hoped I would be involved in the child's life I told her I needed time to process everything the paternity test was still on the table and she agreed to it we decided to wait until it was safe to perform the non-invasive prenatal paternity test which can be done after the 7th week of pregnancy but decided

that 12th week would be the safest after our meeting I felt a bit better about the situation but I was still overwhelmed I decided it was time to tell my family and close friends about what was going on I started with my parents to say they were shocked would be an understatement my mom was torn between excitement at the prospect of being a grandmother and concern about the circumstances my dad was more skeptical reminding me of how volatile my relationship with Sarah had been they both supported my decision to get a paternity test and urged

me to be cautious telling my best friend Mike was next he was surprised but supportive he offered to be there for me throughout the process whatever I decided to do he also suggested I might want to consider talking to a lawyer to understand my rights and responsibilities just in case over the next couple of weeks Sarah and I stayed in touch via text she kept me updated on her doctor's appointments and how she was feeling it was strange navigating this new Dynamic with someone I had such a complicated history with then about a week ago

things took an unexpected turn Sarah called me sounding panicked she said she had started bleeding and was on her way to the hospital without thinking I rushed to meet her there the next few hours were a blur of tests worried waiting intense conversations with doctors finally we got the news Sarah had suffered a miscarriage the doctor explained that it was unfortunately common in early pregnancies and that it wasn't anyone's fault I was stunned I hadn't even fully processed the idea of becoming a father and now it was over Sarah was devastated despite our past issues

seeing her in so much pain was heartbreaking I stayed with her at the hospital until she was discharged on the drive back to her place we barely spoke once at her apartment Sarah broke down she apologized again for how she had handled everything saying she had been scared and didn't know what to do she admitted that her past Behavior the jealousy the accusations had been wrong and losing the baby had made her realize how much she had messed things up between us I listened to her feeling a complex mix of emotions part of me was

sad about the loss of a potential child even though I had been unsure about becoming a father another part felt relief which then made me feel guilty and there was still a small voice in the back of my mind wondering if this whole thing had been real I asked Sarah if she had told anyone else about the pregnancy she said no that she had been waiting to get past the first trimester before telling her family and friends so now only my parents Mike and I knew about the whole situation we talked for hours that night

about the pregnancy about our failed relationship about where we go from here Sarah said she was going to start therapy to work on her trust issues and jealousy she didn't ask to get back together or try to manipulate the situation which I appreciated I told her I needed some time and space to process everything that had happened she understood and agreed that it was probably for the best if we didn't see each other for a while as I left her apartment that night I felt drained but also somewhat relieved the roller coaster of emotions over

the past few weeks had been exhausting now a week later I'm still trying to make sense of everything that happened I've been seeing a therapist to help me work through my feelings about the whole situation it's been helpful to have a neutral party to talk too I've also been doing a lot of thinking about my relationship with Sarah and my own behavior while I still still believe I was right to ask for proof of the pregnancy I've realized that there were times in our relationship where I could have communicated better or been more understanding of

her insecurities Sarah and I have texted a few times since that night she's been going to therapy and says it's helping her understand her behavior better she's apologized again for how she treated me during our relationship and for how she handled the pregnancy news I'm not sure what the future holds for us I don't think we'll ever get back together romantically too much has happened and I think we're better off apart but I'm open to the possibility of eventually developing a friendship once we've both had time to heal and grow as for the question of

whether the pregnancy was real or not I honestly don't know the medical documents seemed legitimate and the doctors at the hospital confirmed that Sarah had miscarried but given our history there's still a part of me that wonders I've decided that for my own peace of mind I need to accept that it was real and move forward from there I've learned a lot from this experience about communication about trust about how past actions can have long-lasting consequences on relationships I'm trying to take these lessons and use them to become a better person and a better partner

in the future my parents and Mike have been incredibly supportive throughout this whole ordeal they've listened when I needed to talk given advice when I asked for it and just been there for me I'm grateful to have such a strong support system looking back at my original post I can see how shocked and confused I was I still stand by my decision to ask for proof but I also understand now why Sarah might have reacted the way she did initially fear and hormones can make people act in ways they normally wouldn't to those who asked

in the comments of my original post no I haven't told any of our mutual friends about what happened Sarah and I agreed that it was A Private Matter and spreading the story would only lead to unnecessary drama and gossip as for work things have thankfully calmed down the awkwardness with Emily and my other co-workers has mostly dissipated I've thrown myself into my projects which has been a welcome distraction from everything else going on in my life I know this update might not be what some of you were expecting life rarely follows the neat clear-cut scenarios

we imagine it's messy and complicated and often leaves us with more questions than answers I'm still processing everything that's happened and I expect it will take time before I fully come to terms with it all but I'm taking it one day at a time focusing on my own growth and healing thank you all again for your advice and support it really helped me navigate this difficult situation if anything significant changes I'll be sure to post another update for now I'm just trying to move forward learn from this experience and focus on building a better future

for myself update to I really wanted to end my story at the last update it was a somewhat of an okay ending but the world sometimes just doesn't work as it's supposed to it's been about 2 months since my last update and and I'm still angry from everything that's happened I thought the situation with Sarah couldn't get any more complicated but I was wrong so so wrong after the miscarriage Sarah and I had minimal contact we text occasionally mostly her updating me on her therapy progress and me politely responding I was still processing everything and

trying to move on with my life work was going well I'd thrown myself into a new project and it was a welcome distraction things with my co-workers including Emily had pretty much returned to normal I was even starting to consider dating again though I hadn't actually gone on any dates yet then about 3 weeks ago I got a call from a number I didn't recognize when I answered a man's voice asked if I was my name when I confirmed he introduced himself as Robert and said we needed to talk about Sarah my stomach dropped I

asked who he was and he said he was Sarah's ex-boyfriend apparently they had dated for a few weeks during a period when Sarah and I were on a break I remembered that break it was after a particularly bad fight and we'd spent about 2 months apart Robert said he had recently found out about the pregnancy and miscarriage from Sarah and he had some information he thought I should know we agreed to meet at a local bar the next evening I spent the next 24 hours in a state of anxiety my mind racing with possibilities part

of me didn't want to go didn't want to know whatever it was Robert had to tell me but I knew I had to face this when I met Robert at the bar I was surprised by how normal he seemed he was about my age seemed like a decent guy he bought us both a beer and got straight to the point Sarah lied to you he said the baby wasn't yours it was mine I felt like I'd been punched in the gut Robert went on to explain that he and Sarah had continued seeing each other on

and off even after she and I got back together the last time they'd been together was about a week before Sarah and I broke up for good Robert showed me text messages between him and Sarah dating back months in them Sarah talked about how unhappy she was with me how she was only staying because she was afraid of being alone there were messages from the time she found out she was pregnant panicking about what to do as I scrolled through the messages feeling sicker by the minute I came across one that extremely angry it was

from Sarah to Robert dated just a few days before she showed up at my door claiming to be pregnant with my child I have a plan the message read I'm going to tell my name the baby is his he makes good money and he's always wanted kids he'll take care of us I couldn't believe what I was reading not only had she cheated on me but she had deliberately tried to trap me into raising another man's child Robert felt guilty after the miscarriage and felt I had a right to know the truth I thanked Robert

for telling me though a part of me wished I could go back to not knowing we finished our beers in silence both lost in our own thoughts before he left Robert apologized for his part in the whole mess I couldn't bring myself to hate or beat him up since I appreciated the gesture of him telling everything to me after Robert left I sat at the bar for a long time trying to process what I just learned the bartender must have sens something was wrong because he gave me the next beer on the house I went

home that night feeling numb I couldn't sleep couldn't eat the next day I called in sick to work I needed time to think I spent the day alternating between anger and disbelief how could Sarah have done this how could she have lied so easily so thoroughly and how could I have been so blind I thought back to all the time Sarah had accused me of cheating all the jealous outbursts and invasions of privacy it had all been projection she was the one cheating all along after a day of stewing in my own thoughts I knew

I had to confront Sarah I couldn't let this go unanswered I texted her asking if we could meet she agreed probably thinking it was just another check-in we met at the same coffee shop where she had shown me the ultra sound pictures as soon as she saw my face she knew something was wrong before she could say anything I laid it all out I told her about my meeting with Robert about the text messages about everything I now knew for a moment she looked like she was going to deny it but then she started crying

saying she was sorry that she never meant for things to go this far I asked her how she could do this to me how she could lie about something so huge try to trap me into raising a child that wasn't mine she said she had been scared and desperate that she thought if she could just get me to accept the baby as mine everything would work out I told her that what she had done was unforgivable that she had not only betrayed my trust in the worst way possible but that she had been willing to

bring an innocent child into her Web of Lies Sarah begged for forgiveness said she would do anything to make it right but I knew there was no making this right the trust between us was irreparably broken I told her that I never wanted to see her or hear from her again I said that I hoped she would continue with therapy because she clearly needed help then I got up and walked out ignoring her pleased for me to stay and talk the next few days were a blur I told my parents and Mike what had happened

they were Furious on my behalf my mom wanted to call Sarah and give her a piece of her mind but I asked her not to I just wanted to be done with the whole situation I also decided to tell a few of our mutual friends I knew Sarah might try to spin the story and I wanted to get ahead of it I didn't go into all the details just said that Sarah had cheated on me and lied about the pregnancy most of them didn't know about the drama that was going on and were shocked and

supportive of me one friend though admitted that she had suspected Sarah might be cheating she said she had seen Sarah with another guy a few times but wasn't sure if it was anything serious she apologized for not telling me sooner I was hurt that she hadn't said anything but I understood why she hadn't wanted to get involved at work I finally told Emily the whole story she was incredibly understanding and supportive she even admitted that she had always thought Sarah seemed off but hadn't wanted to say anything negative about my girlfriend we've actually grown closer

through all of this and I'm starting to see her in a new light who knows maybe something might develop there in the future as for Sarah I haven't heard from from her since our confrontation at the coffee shop I've blocked her number and on all social media a mutual friend told me she's moved back in with her parents and is continuing with therapy part of me hopes she gets the help she needs but mostly I just want her out of my life for good looking back on our relationship I can see now how toxic it

was Sarah's jealousy and insecurity weren't just annoying quirks they were signs of deeper issues I realize now that I should have ended things long before I did I've been doing a lot of thinking about why I stayed with Sarah for so long why I put up with her behavior I think part of it was that I was afraid of being alone part of it was that I thought I could fix her make her trust me if I just tried hard enough and part of it I'm ashamed to admit was that I enjoyed feeling needed even

if it was in an unhealthy way one of the hardest things to come to terms with has been the loss of the future I thought I might have even though I had been unsure about the pregnancy a part of me had started to imagine what it would be like to be a father to have that ripped away and then to find out it was all a lie it's been tough but I'm also relieved relieved that I found out the truth before it was too late Rel believe that I'm not tied to Sarah for the rest

of my life I've been focusing on myself these past few weeks I've gotten back into running something I used to love but it given up during my relationship with Sarah I'm reading more spending time with friends and even thinking about taking a solo trip somewhere work has been a great distraction I've thrown myself into the new project and my boss has noticed he's hinted that a promotion might be in my future if I keep it up it's nice to have something positive to focus on as for dating I'm not ready to jump back into anything

serious yet I need time to heal and to learn to trust again but I'm not closing myself off to the possibility of meeting someone new when the time is right I've learned a lot from this whole experience about myself about relationships about trust I've learned that it's important to trust your instincts if something feels off it probably is to those who followed my story from the beginning thank you for your support and advice you helped me see things more clearly when I was too close to the situation to do so myself if there's one thing

I want people to take away from my story it's this trust is precious and once it's broken it's incredibly hard to rebuild don't stay in a relationship where you're constantly doubting your partner or yourself and if someone shows you who they really are believe them the first time as for me I'm taking things one day at a time some days are harder than others but overall I'm doing okay I'm looking forward to the future whatever it may hold and I know that whatever challenges come my way I'm strong enough to face them this will be

my final update on this situation it's time for me to close this chapter of my life and move on thank you all again for your support throughout this crazy Journey here's to new beginnings and better days ahead update 3 it's been about 10 months since my last update and I honestly didn't think I'd be writing another one I thought the Sarah chapter of my life was closed for Good but life has a way of throwing curveballs when you least expect them after everything that happened with Sarah and the Revelation about her cheating I focused on

moving forward with my life I threw myself into work continued with therapy and started rebuilding my social life things were going well all things considered the promotion my boss had hinted it came through I'm now leading my own team on a major project which has been challenging but rewarding Emily and I have been working closely together and I have to admit there's definitely been some flirting going on we haven't acted on it yet mostly because I've been cautious about getting involved with a coworker after everything that happened with Sarah but the attraction is there then

about a month ago everything changed again I was at the grocery store one evening just picking up some things for dinner when I quite literally ran into Robert yes that Robert Sarah's ex-boyfriend the one who had told me the truth about the baby we both stood there for a moment shocked at The Coincidence then Robert asked if I wanted to grab a coffee and talk I hesitated at first did I really want to revisit all of that but curiosity got the better of me and I agreed over coffee Robert filled me in on what had

been happening with Sarah apparently she'd had a complete breakdown after our confrontation she'd quit her job moved back in with her parents and had been in intensive therapy Robert had kept in touch with her parents feeling somewhat responsible for her State what he told me next was that Sarah had recently discovered that she was pregnant again and this time it was definitely Roberts they weren't back together but he was planning to co-parent with her I sat there angry why should Sarah get to have a baby when she had lied about the last one but Another

Part Of Me felt relieved relieved that it wasn't me in Robert's position tied to Sarah for the rest of my life Robert seemed genuinely excited about becoming a father though he admitted he was nervous about co-parenting with Sarah given their history he said Sarah had made a lot of progress in therapy dealing with her trust issues and manipulative Behavior but he was still cautious before we parted ways Robert hesitated then said there's something else you should know Sarah's been asking about you she wants to apologize in person for everything she did I told Robert the

first think about it but I wasn't making any promises over the next few days I couldn't stop thinking about what Robert had told me I talked it over with my therapist trying to sort out my feelings on one hand I had no obligation to see Sarah or hear her out what she had done was unforgivable and I had every right to keep her out of my life on the other hand a small part of me wondered if hearing her apology might provide some closure after much thinking I decided to meet with Sarah I figured it

would be better to face this headon rather than always wondering what if I asked Robert to arrange the meeting making it clear that this was a one-time thing we met at a park on a Saturday afternoon I chose a public place both for the neutrality and to avoid any potential drama when I saw Sarah approaching I was struck by how different she looked she seemed smaller somehow less confident Sarah sat down on the bench next to me keeping a respectful distance for a moment neither of us spoke then she took a deep breath and began

I know nothing I say can undo what I did she started but I want you to know how deeply sorry I am for everything for the cheating for the lies for trying to trap you with a baby that wasn't yours it was inexcusable and I'll regret it for the rest of my life she went on to explain that she'd been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder which helped explain but not excuse some of her past Behavior she talked about the Intensive therapy she'd been going through learning to manage her emotions and insecurities in healthier ways I'm

not telling you this to ask for forgiveness she said I know I don't deserve that I just wanted you to know that I understand how much I hurt you and I'm doing everything I can to make sure I never treat anyone that way again when she finished speaking I took a moment to gather my thoughts then I told her that while I appreciated her apology I couldn't forgive her at least not yet the wounds were still too fresh the Betrayal too deep but I did tell her that I hope she would continue with her therapy

and work on becoming a better person especially now that she was going to be a mother Sarah nodded she thanked me for listening and for being willing to meet with her as she stood to leave she paused then said I truly am happy for you you know Robert told me about your promotion and about Emily I hope it works out for you you deserve to be happy with that she walked away I sat on that bench for a long time after she left processing everything that had just happened it wasn't the dramatic confrontation I might

have imagined instead it felt like the quiet closing of a door the final end of a chapter in my life in the weeks since that meeting I've done a lot of thinking about Sarah about our relationship about everything that happened I've realized that while I can't forgive her actions I can let go of the anger I've been holding on to it's not about excusing what she did but about freeing myself from the negative emotions that have been weighing me down as for my personal life things have been looking up remember how I mentioned there was

some flirtation going on with Emily well about a week after my meeting with Sarah Emily and I finally addressed the elephant in the room we decided to give dating a shot with the agreement that we'd keep things professional at work can be open with our boss about the situation to avoid any potential conflicts of interest it's early days yet but being with Emily feels different from any relationship I've had before there's a level of trust and open communication that I never had with Sarah we're taking things slow both of us aware of the potential complications

of dating a coworker but so far it's been really good my friends and family have been supportive of this new development Mike even joked that he knew Emily and I would end up together from the moment he heard about the crazy ex-girlfriend incident at the office my parents are just happy to see me happy again work continues to go well the project I'm leading is on track and my team has really come together it's satisfying to see something I've worked so hard on starting to bear fruit as for Sarah and Robert I've decided to keep

my distance Robert sends me occasional updates which I appreciate but I've made it clear that I don't want to be involved in their lives I wish them well especially for the sake of their child but that's a chapter of my life that's firmly closed to those who have followed my story from the beginning thank you for your support and advice your words helped me more than you know especially during the those dark days right after I found out the truth about Sarah's deception I don't know what the future holds my relationship with Emily is still

new and who knows where it will lead my career is on an upward Trend but there will undoubtedly be challenges ahead life is just unpredictable like that but for the first time in a long time I'm excited about the future I feel like I've been given a fresh start a chance to apply all the lessons I've learned and build a life that's truly fulfilling this will be my final update on this situation it's time to close this chapter for good and focus on the future thank you all again for your support throughout this crazy Journey

here's to new beginnings hard-earned wisdom and the endless possibilities that lie ahead [Music]