World's #1 Sex Coach Reveals How To Make Her Orgasm in 4 Steps w/ ​⁠@StirlingCooper | #podcast

this is the man helping men understand what it is that women crave in bed the brain is a woman's biggest sexual organ you can literally make a woman orgasm without even touching her just by Whispering [ __ ] in her ear this is Sterling Cooper I am a retired award-winning adult film star and now I'm the world's best sex coach for men how do you reverse the effects of por and then how do you better your performance in sex as well get on your knees grab it put your hand here take it off I help

guys just like you to trans form their sex lives and make them the best lover that their woman has ever seen people confuse a lot of orgasm with squiring does squirting have to happen for orgasm if you're watching a porno and the word squirting is anywhere in the title it is fake how much lay count is Val first of all women don't care about body count as much as people say they do I've had women open their eyes while kissing me and just like have you ever just you know come instantly as soon as they

start shooting the closest it ever happened to me was working with Angel I've seen a lot of your testimonials a lot of videos where you talk about you can actually grow [ __ ] penis eyes I've done it myself I gained 1.2 in over the course of 8 months women need an emotional roller coaster they need this up and down this is why women will stay with an abusive boyfriend women will open up to you with their deepest sexual fairness if you come across as the guy who is never going to judge her for that

thorling welcome to Iron Man lifestyle thank you for having me m yeah man it's been [ __ ] epic firstly so you've done a lot of idol film scenes right I did a few yeah yeah um I think it was like over 300 over the course of like four or five years yeah not not a lot I mean 300's cool to be honest it's actually not as many as some of the super duper veterans that guys might be very familiar with we're talking like thousands but but you know in India like the average body count

is like two for a person you mentioned that yeah I did um so firstly enlightened me on like after doing te what's ideal sex for a man according to you or like just an ideal sexual experience for like as in that's good for the guy or that's good for the girl or that's good for both I think I think for both sort of but then for the guy as well since this is we'll have more men watching the channel yeah okay I'll I I'll say espe okay let's let's go from the angle of like the

dude who's very inexperienced right yeah cuz like you said this the majority of your audience probably like haven't had a ton of experience right I would say chill out don't uh don't put don't put you want to put pressure on yourself like sex is a skill just like learning to ride a bicycle you fell off your bicycle the first time you tried to ride it so you're probably going to be terrible yeah at sex the first time you have it and that is totally okay because the thing the magic superpower that you actually do have

as a guy who's very inexperienced is you have enthusiasm yeah that's the big thing you can bring to the bedroom as a guy is just enthusiasm if you just and and the ability to like if something awkward happens learning to just laugh it off yeah that'll be a very good start as a guy who's inexperienced like your first girlfriend or you're married right because you know if you if you're trying to get your pants off and you you fall over or they it's all like just laughing it off is you know making it better for

both of you it takes away the pressure takes away the the the the nerves the anxiety it's like if you can just laugh off silly you know unhooking the bra like that's the that's like what do you call it the cannon event that's that takes for if you don't know what you're doing takes forever like if you've never seen a bra like how the hell is is like I'm like cracking a safe it's so so complicated but don't like yeah those SC of things don't worry about it like you don't she is not going to

expect you to be some you know Don juario in the bedroom and you shouldn't expect yourself to be that way either so take that taking that pressure off is it going to help a lot of guys for sure so ID let's say for somebody more experience like um when I talk about like ideal sex you you have one where it's like very porn oriented very wild very like a Hollywood movie scene right like you know you're going wild ated and then there's the other one which is like soft and sensual and you're sort of making

love so which one you know should people be going for is the thing is like you can be sensual without being uh soft Okay so people think have this idea impression of like soft sensual sex from Hollywood from Hollywood movies and things like this right where it's lovey doy romantic lay her on the pillow with rose petals and things like that it's fine to be romantic and there's a time and place for that but understand as a man that you're going to get a much better reaction from a woman by being more dominant and by

being more masculine and by by not being afraid and intimidated by her the female body yeah and and and when I say not being afraid I mean not being afraid like women aren't these sort of super fragile delicate flowers everyone wants to believe that they are you know they don't want sex and you're you're a dirty man to think like you want to have sex with a woman yeah like it's it's oh no woman could possibly want to be ravaged like like a wild beast no no of course not that would not at all oh

that's that's that's why 50 Chad of gry was a best seller yeah you know and that's like we could talk about the Kamasutra for like years and years exactly right uh so there's an aspect to female sexuality that wants to be taken right she wants to be taken by a man with balls so and and when I say women aren't these delicate flowers obviously you're not trying to like you you never want to like accidentally injure a woman her or cause pain or anything like that yeah but you can show strength and dominance by being

controll like physically like imposing and physically controlling over her body in a way that is very arousing to women yeah and gets them off but is you know doesn't hurt them doesn't doesn't put them in any danger there's a there's a dynamic here that is very arousing for women and I think that's where I think guys develop a lot of confidence too if they can tap into that understand how to be that guy how to be that dominant masculine lover yeah just makes you feel like you got a gigantic pair of brass balls so I

think it's it's healthy for both people yeah and then and then maybe that you know when we talk about size so I think if we can do that then we can stop obsessing single the size every time completely completely yeah if a guy like you there's a lot of things you can do that have nothing to do with your penis yeah that are probably I would probably say are arguably more important to getting your woman off yeah than just like where you put the dick and how long it is the brain is a woman's biggest

sexual organ if you can tap into her mind and direct her thoughts the way I like to think about it is uh or way to frame like dirty talk for example imagine her her brain is like a car and you're kicking her out of the driver's seat you're putting her in the passenger seat and you're taking control of the re of the wheel instead that's that's what with content with content but that's what dirty talk is yeah dirty talk is guiding her brain where you want it to go guiding her thoughts guiding her Focus where

you want it to go to elicit an arousal response this question I'm going to ask for my uh for my viewers you know and I'm going to I'm going to try and play dumb this entire podcast like I've never had sex and I don't know other things I call [ __ ] yeah we'll just we'll just pretend we'll just play pretend I mean you you say like a woman wants to be taken and you want to have like wild sex and the r and you want to say dirty things so dirty talk uh I mean

don't you think it'll be like against the modesty of a woman because she she's would like to believe she's delicate she's nice so there's very there's lots of different types of dirty talk yeah okay so dirty talk isn't just you know calling calling a woman names for example like oh you're a filthy like that's okay that is a type of dirty talk I would call like degrading language that is one type of dirty talk there's lots of different types of dirty talk so you can have commanding and controlling language just telling in basically just instructing

a woman what to do yeah confidently with it with with self-belief like get on your knees grab it put your hand here put your hand here do this take it off do this do that right these are just these are basic things there's nothing necessarily perverted about it right but it's still puts a woman in this mental head space of oh this guy's in control he's taking charge he's dominant these are all arousing things to a woman right so I classify that still as dirty talk CU it's all it's it's it's all it is is

arousing woman through words yeah right so that is like controlling oh you know instruction and direction right then there then there's other types of Daily Talk which revolve around let's say the dynamic of ownership this isn't necessarily degrading but it's like you know calling you could start as as simple in vanilla as just calling her your woman like you like something like you are mine now you're mine you're mine you're my girl you're mine that is a bit more love it every romantic you could take it a bit more extreme and be like this P

belongs to me that's a bit more you see you see the Spectrum we're playing with here from kind of vanilla to a bit darker and then it keeps changing as we know her better as we develop more chemistry completely as you unlock her like sexual side as you allow her to express it with you right and this is I I'll add something in here that's the importance of being a non-judgmental guy yeah in the bedroom women will open up to you with their deepest sexual fantasies if you come across as the guy who is never

going to judge her for that that's a superpower yeah that they they just they're like oh I can be his yeah I'm not a I'm his and she will open that up to you and give you that side of her sexually that she would never give other because she's afraid you're going to judge her for being a bit kinky a bit perverse a bit whatever yeah I've got this I've got this one thing so we teach men how to you know go talk to girls and everything and get a girlfriend so I've got this one

thing like when you're talking to a girl um she's judging you and she she's sort of not exactly judging you but she's getting a feel of how sex would look like right so if you're talking to a girl like hi excuse me hello she knows you're not going to [ __ ] her doggy but if you're like hi yo hey what's up up what's your name nice to meet you I love that she knows you're going to just spank It smash and demolish it isn't that interesting yeah going along that line I think that women

also will judge or will estimate how good sex is going to be with you based upon the first kiss I think the first kiss is a really strong indicator of a man's sexual confidence or the way the way he kisses a woman women will read into that a lot if you're a if you're a dud kisser or a timid kisser like a cow yeah they're they they'd be like oh this guy's going to be a bit of a limp noodle yeah i' I've had women open their eyes while kissing me and just like and and

have to teach them you know and it's it's it's just weird again kissing is kind of kissing is a skill as well yeah nobody teaches people how to kiss you kind of have to like figure it out this one girl taught me I swear and that was like the best kissing I had and then I start teaching women right because in India you know like it's it's just very different um it's so if and and let let's tie this to the non-judgmental thing you said in the bedroom if you're non-judgmental and you talk about it

and she tells you all the V fantasies she also tells you the stuff she's done before right and then suddenly you're like [ __ ] you a [ __ ] you know you're a [ __ ] [ __ ] how the [ __ ] could you do that you got no self-respect and now suddenly in India you know we've got this hashtag going on um since a lot of uh male influences have come up for men which which is like you know Tate you um um we've got the Tate brothers and everyone you know and

I mean it's been [ __ ] amazing but then a lot of things is coming up where we're talking about body count right you know and in India there's one thing which is like no seal no deal right seal means the hman and I have to tell people the guys I mean I don't think that's a very healthy thing to go for I feel it's very judgmental and very insecure for you to expect your woman to be a virgin and like if I go 10 years back a decade back I was that guy I wanted

my woman to be a virgin right but when I started dating they weren't virgins yeah and then I I'd be like [ __ ] how the [ __ ] could you do that you did that with that that person My First Girlfriend told me that uh I think she had she had sex with a guy in the pool and it was his Farmhouse and his his pool and his Mansion daddy's money and my parents having no money I'm still a virgin to like 21 I'm like people are having so much sex and then that [

__ ] me up so I had to rire myself to not be insecure like that and be fine because if I'm going to have sex with people and I all right so we're expecting me to not be a virgin before marriage but I want my woman to be a virgin before marriage who the [ __ ] am I going to be having sex with yeah obviously it's a different like it's the the culture in India is obviously very different from the culture in like Australia or America or whatever right I've S I saw some numbers

recently like you were saying the average body count India is like 1.8 in Australia it's like 13 yeah like that's a massive difference right yeah the only thing is if you talk about Delhi and Mumbai and Bangalore thean cities then it would and [ __ ] boy that the urban cities are places are [ __ ] boys like my 20s were just me being a [ __ ] boy just me being a [ __ ] boy right but in terms of guys like demanding the ver like I do I see the discourse you're talking about

online I see it on Twitter I'm very active on Twitter um because that discourse is not just localized to India that discourse has moved to everywhere the the Arab world the Western world oh yeah oh you know no no himman no ring right she's not a she's not a virgin I'm not going to wife up stuff like that here's the thing those the same guys who say that will absolutely get with a girl with a high body count and they'll and they'll s for her because she's the first girl to ever touch his pee pee

that 100% happens all the time so for a start I know you [ __ ] are lying I know you're not like adhering to your own proclaimed rules I know you're not second of all it's cool to have a standard like that but but they're still banking off okay yeah probably to the same ones yeah but the thing is are you the kind of guy who is worthy of a woman of to to meet that standard you kind of have to look cuz it's a competition when you think about it like like that example you

just gave like okay that guy at at that younger age that guy was out competing you yeah for sexual access for women true which is objectively true yes it you had to go out and improve yourself to get the access cool that's the way the world works with everything you can't this idea of like oh I'm I mean maybe it's a little bit different with like arranged marriage culture maybe but the idea that I am owed a wife it's not really true like I'm not owed anything that I don't earn I'm not owed a h

a roof over my head I'm not owed food I'm not owed a job I have to go out and earn these things as a man so I think you should apply that same principle to women and and having a wife or a girlfriend and then look yourself in the mirror and be like cool it's okay to have the standard I'm I'm fine with guys having the standard of I want a virgin wife cool what do you have to do as a man to get that what do you have to improve about yourself in order to

to get the attraction of a woman who meets those standards cuz that's that's the very lengthy process it takes work guys who are extremely successful will definitely be able to meet those standards but I don't think the average guy this these days is going to meet those standards especially with our cultures becoming a lot more degenerate and women obviously women's body count is going up so you know you have to be realistic about your standards no true um but then with like let's say you've done lot and you want a virgin wife how the [

__ ] are you going to know if she's virgin or not Binger so mostly like you're sing over those girls and you're not getting them till let's say 25 so because you cannot get any girl till you're a certain age till marriage right and you're a virgin by uh circumstance right but she's got all the guys in her prime which is let's say starting at 18 to like 25 but your Prime would start much later in your 20s so why would she not take advantage of that so that's that but then again we come down

to the discussion of how much l count is valid like how when does it become too much when is when is the problem when when when is it a problem yeah um I I agree what's your personal when is it going to be a problem I agree with what you said that you're like you're never going to know you're never going to know like no woman is ever going to be 100% honest with you and I'll tell you how I know this because in the early stages of dating this girl talking to her about like

trying to fish for like her body count I'm not out outright and you always multiply by three well you don't okay there's there's somewhat true that and I'll explain what I mean so you never want to overtly ask what your body count cuz she's going to lie to you she's going to lie to you so you so what you want to do is you want to fish for like how like who her boyfriend who her ex-boyfriends were right okay cool now I have an idea of how many relationships she's been with it's this many right

okay how many guys have you kissed cuz women will be will actually be kind of honest about that yeah okay and then you can kind of infer okay well she's if she kissed like Five Guys how many of those guys did she actually give a [ __ ] too or a hand job too because because they're going to guys will count Absolut guys absolutely count going be like that does that doesn't count Bingo right so you you can kind of fish for like a more accurate number you're still never going to know the actual number

but you can kind of fish for a bit more accurate but being a bit more subtle with it uh because that it also comes across as surprise surprise less judgmental so she's going to open up a bit more and be more honest with it so there's that to it um I forget the original question you asked me um how much is too much oh right how much too much like for you let's just let's just go with you yeah how much is too much 20 30 50 I kind of I try to cap it around

five like Le five or less you're over 300 yourself yeah but what the [ __ ] but here's the thing and people and and I'm glad you said that cuz people will be like how can you demand such standards when you don't meet that standard yourself men and women are different [ __ ] I don't get invited onto Yachts at 18 yeah is that fair no it's not fair the world isn't fair men and women are treated differently so men and women have different standards this is obvious to anyone with a pair of eyes yeah

who actually lives in the real world but if people live in live incessantly online they're like oh his body counts high so hers has to be he can't demand a well well it doesn't it doesn't even matter it doesn't matter if it's fair it doesn't matter what I demand or don't demand all that matters is what I actually get and I do get that true so suck a dick yeah I like I can get that so it doesn't matter if it's like fair or just or whatever it's a case of what I can get out

of the world out of the reality through my actions and through the things I've done and the reason is because first of all women don't care about body count as much as people say they do they really don't about men's body count yeah about men's body count at all they really don't care um and second of all they they definitely prefer a guy to have a higher body count than them 100% because they perceive the guy to be to know what he's doing for me personally um I think it would be around 10 12 I'm

I'm cool with that yeah and I'll tell you why there's so I I told you about those girls you know like a kissing like that right so I honestly I do not prefer being with a girl who's a virgin because and I got to teach everything everything and I got to like being the first it's like you got to the first sexual experience is just like too much of like you know it's just not fun then you going to teach how to give a [ __ ] how to kiss you how to have sex and

all that and takes time to open up so I would actually prefer like a girl who's not a virgin at least had some sex but then cap it like I mean three five is fine but like on a rare occasion depends how old she is seven eight 10 she needs to be like [ __ ] amazing to be with like 10 people it's just it's it's the it's the hot crazy scale as we have it you know how hot she is and how amazing she is and and what the circumstances have been right because when

a woman will get out of a a relationship she's going to be pretty going are there that's an indicator I think of a of a woman that's worth pursuing is does if if after every breakup did she go on into a ho phas or did she not did she actually restrain herself that's a really good sign a woman who's like 20 with a body count of five is very different from a woman who's 30 with a body count of five right woman who's 30 with a body count of five okay that's like five relationships over

the course of like 12 years that that's a woman who like no one would consider that woman a [ __ ] she just had bad Rel she she hasn't quite found the right guy maybe she's bad at picking guys maybe she maybe the relationships didn't work out whatever the circumstances is but that that that's a very different circumstance to like the 20-year-old with the same body count cuz she's been through them in such a short space of time right so maybe she had one boyfriend they broke up and then she went crazy for for a

few months you know so these are like the number to me is never really as as important yeah as like her behavior cuz again first of all you never really going to know the number and two it's I'd much rather the girl who is like submissive to me doesn't argue with me follows my lead is wants to be a mother wants to be the mother of my kids specifically like these things these are all green flags to me so like and there is a strong correlation between those really good behaviors the green flag behaviors and

like low body coun women it's undeniable when you get with women who have had high body counts oh all of a sudden like there's a very strong correlation between her not her talking back and being nagging and her having a high body count it's a very strong correlation between her not being feminine and submissive and having a high body count oh [ __ ] you cook for yourself I'm not cleaning up all this kind of [ __ ] dad issues yeah drama all these things tie they just they overlap so much it's easier to like

just look at the behavior yeah as an indicator I think H how do you keep a woman uh you know longer like let's say in a relationship um it's now this is huge I feel like we're opening a Pandora's box of troubles out here because you want to keep a longer but as a man your 20s Sex Drive is very different than in your 30s y um I felt that you felt that definitely definitely so it's very different and and we spoke about the enthusiasm for you have it for the first time it it was

very different for me when I had it for the first time when I have it now so like keeping her for longer or like uh giving her that the same experience that as a 20-year-old I might give and then now it might be a bit different and also having the pressure to like always be like oh no you know I got to have great sex every time otherwise she's going to leave me she's going to cheat on me I don't think that's like I mean it's going to make me very anxious going into it so

let's just uncover this area it's it's and you being like an adult film star and a bedroom coach of women and older than me like shine some light in it I know exactly what you're talking about so I would say the first like couple of times you have sex with her MH kind of set the tone yeah you like how good of an experience you give her the first two or three times that will solidify in her brain forever that are either good in bed or average in bed after that you don't have to be

like firing on all cylinders every single time that's the key you can be like cuz she knows that she she knows what you're capable of you know yeah then you don't have to like whip out the Anaconda every time you know like you don't have to give it like the the one too special what like your your signature finishing move every time you can take a few you can have a few sessions where it's just you're being selfish and you're having you're getting off without getting and the reason this is okay as well is because

it adds an element of unpredictability to the relationship and to the sex predictability is what kills relationships boredom is what kills relationships you can do anything to a woman except bore her yeah right women need an emotional roller coaster they need this up and down as much as they'll say they don't need it and I've had girlfriends tell me that they don't like they've heard me say this on podcast I'm like I'm not like that [ __ ] you're like that I know you're like that I trust me because you know you're so you're not

self aware enough to realize that you're like that but they need the ups and downs and this is this is why women stick around with [ __ ] this is why and I'm not encouraging anybody to do this but this is why women will stay with an abusive boyfriend because the emotional variance is it's addicting to them they're an the guy is an emotional slot machine for her look at the gambling addict why is the gambling addict sit at the slot machine because intimate reward because he's pulling that lever like he loses money loses money

loses money he wins something it's when's the next hit doesn't know the same it's the exact same emotional stimulus that women respond to in relationships again I'm not saying be abusive I'm not saying you be an [ __ ] but the idea is if you don't create some kind of emotional variance MH or drama let's shall we say if you the man don't create it she's going to create it for herself by being a [ __ ] by pissing you off by nagging by starting drama with you so it's going to happen either way there

is no woman on this planet who is drama free no matter how autistic she is she's no there's no one who's drama free so you might as well be the one who's steering the ship you might as well be in control of it cuz at least you know that it's kind of not real if I'm the one who's just starting beef with her occasionally like and and it doesn't have to be anything really mean it's just like calling her out on like bad behavior like put your phone away when we're having dinner yeah correcting Behavior

a little bit like that having boundaries having boundaries and standard foring them in a [ __ ] way but in a respectful way like a man like her father might do right that's not how you behave me don't do that again oh okay she's put in her place all of a sudden and surprise surprise when when we get put in their place their [ __ ] gets wet this happen this is this is biology that's how that's what we respond to but that we're giving her these ups and like the UPS are like you're so

beautiful today maybe I love you or giving her an orgasm and the Downs are put your [ __ ] phone away when having dinner yeah or spanking her in the bedroom like we're giving her this em emotional polarity which is so fulfilling to women dud just dudes are fine just being happy all the time we don't care for drama whipping out the belt occasional times right SP the thing with spanking is it's both a punishment and a reward at the same time so that gets a bit complicated right but I think I think that if

guys just understood that more there would be a lot less breakups divorces drama and and sexless relationship sexless marriages definitely there'll be a lot less of those things I'm pretty sure like a lot of couples when they get older like 40s 50s 60 they stop having sex but but the love is still there yeah like is does sex become very important then as well or is it like you fall off the wagon and why does that happen like you can definitely they can Spock that up again and I've had plenty of clients or you've had

clients who are old way older than that like 50s 60s who who are respon who've taken some of my advice and they come back to me they're like we just had some of the best sex in our 20 years of marriage it's like their honeymoon phase again right I'm all I'm doing is teaching Old Dogs new tricks it's all I'm doing yeah right but I'm giving them a new lease on life in their sex sex life especially by and again it just comes down to unpredictability if I just give a guy a few new tools

he can he doesn't have to do them all the time every time but if he makes it unpredictable enough if it's in if he doesn't know when he's going to pull something new out of the bag all of a sudden he's having fun she's excited the healthy lust for each other is back there again and it Sparks everything in a relationship again and and more importantly the guy is doing all cuz I teach everything sexual from a frame of being a dominant masculine man in the bedroom oh surprise surprise that's what women really want yeah

so she's now no longer nagging she's now taking like she's not asking him to take trash out all the time she's cooking and cleaning for him again she's giving him a [ __ ] every now and then just randomly her lust for him has been inspired because he's Ste up and become more masculine and dominant in the ways expressing his sexuality it reinvents a marriage I've seen this for btim again and again and again from clients it's it blows me away that such a tiny little thing like like sex can have such a massive ripple

effect yeah in like two people's lives like that but it really can yeah yeah and and then for this how do I mean what are some of the tools you start gets people started off with are there some things in the porn industry that really helped you out to have just better sex you secrets of them you know what it was a lot of my work with uh kink.com which is a BDSM website okay really helped to sort of like round out my understanding of the female understanding of female sexuality the female body uh and

sort of like a renous zones and in different ways to arouse women um for example the idea of pleasure through pain right and that's a big part of BDSM right so things like say spankings uh you mentioned like the belt a bit ago like Bings floggings uh I I'm became quite proficient with a fogger which like kind like a whip like a not really super dangerous pain painful whip things like that things like bondage uh things like nipple clamps and clothes pegs and things like all these kind of kinky little ways of delivering shall we

say pain you learn that that actually amplifies and wakes up a woman's nervous system so if so things like that you would normally associate with pain can actually cause her to have a far greater response to play pleasurable things so it's kind of like um the carrot and the stick in a way so by in let's say in doggy style incorporating things like spanking or if you know how to use it incorporating things like a fogger you know how to use that correctly you're waking up her skin waking up her nervous system and then that

makes every single P like penetration or thrust 10 times more sensitive to it it amplifies everything that is the whole point one of the main points of BDSM is to amplify the sensations that women feel so that was I I learned quite a lot from my experience doing those kind of scenes what what are some very simple things we can utilize in the bedroom in terms of BDSM you could classify things like hair pulling and spanking there's a very there's a like kind of very very basic beginner level things I think things like restraining a

woman in a safe consensual way obviously something as simple as like pinning her hands down like beside her in missionary position or keep pitting her hands behind her back in like doggy style position like this there's a very basic beginner moves but there's a deep like psychological element to what you're doing there it's not even about like like the the physicality of what you're doing there isn't that o that overwhelming it's a psychological thing he oh he's restraining my hands I I'm under his control now that is submission by default so it puts her in

that submissive head space where women truly want to be when they're in the bedroom with a guy right um so that's one yeah what else I will start with talking about dirty talk here because I think dirty talk is way more powerful than people give it credit for woman's brain can you can you if you really know what you're doing you can literally make a woman orgasm without even touching her just by Whispering [ __ ] in her ear just requires you you not necessarily going to do that like the first time that requires like

building it up and anchoring and stuff but you can eventually get to the point where you you can anchor her feeling and The Sensation the physical response of her orgasm to like trigger words that's really that's really deep like NLP psychology stuff you can get to that point now getting to that point is quite challenging but you can get halfway to that very easily and that's as simple as when she's in an orgasmic State when she's either having an orgasm or when she's high like super highly aroused using a phrase that you would use again

and again and again like this [ __ ] belongs to me whose [ __ ] is this making her repeat [ __ ] back to you is a very big powerful one whose [ __ ] is this baby it's your [ __ ] Daddy it's your [ __ ] whatever making her repeat stuff makes it like go deeper and deeper into her subconscious yeah but saying C like whatever you whatever phrase you want really but saying a dirty talk phrase a trigger phrase at like a height of her arisal not only amplifies her arisal in

that moment but the next time you do it it makes it even more powerful so you're like you're just layering like sexual amplification upon sexual sexual expedience every time you do it every time you it makes it it just makes it deeper and deeper into subconscious like this phrase is and her brain will be like this phrase when when he says this I get wet instantly like those two things just become instantly linked like the Habit yeah and that's really useful in a long-term relationship yeah that keeps [ __ ] exciting and keeps [ __

] fun keeps like she's like her her body is kind of under your verbal control at that point literally yeah I don't care who you are that is exciting actually to both the man and the woman it creates just really fun stuff you can play around with that's an entire Rabbit Hole you can go down yeah so let's talk about like making an orgasm as you were saying so what are the things important to make an orgasm like one is dirty talk and the second one we spoke about yeah I think having dirty talk is

a key component because it makes everything else easier yeah right when this when this brain her brain's height heightened like that everything else any physical things you do way way easier cool so before even getting into the physical you move into the into the medic if you start with a mental everything it's like it's like a shortcut it's like it's like cutting a marathon in half right makes things so much easier so then with the physical stuff with in terms of in terms of like penetration yeah if you think of sex in terms of like

angles mhm everything becomes a lot easier to understand so if you think of say like a missionary or cowgirl positions like basic positions think of them in terms of where is my penis like hitting inside of her primarily is it hitting is the head of my penis hitting her G-spot that's the real that's the trigger so so G-spot is mainly the thing that we want to Target while having sex yeah well when there's a there yeah so there's because there's different ways women can orgasm right so a woman can have a clitoral orgasm a woman

can also have a vaginal orgasm yeah typically a G-spot stimulated orgasm right there's a couple of different ways you can have a vaginal orgasm but the main easiest one for guys to to get down pat is stimulating the G-Spot M so if we can change the angle of pen with say things like pillows and things lifting her hips up so our the head of our dicks directly stimulating her G-spot we're more likely to get her off that way so this is for missionary right for ex that's for example in missionary another example would be in

cowgirl instead of what most people think of in terms of cowgir position and this is primarily from pornos is like the girl just going up and down on the guy's dick or like twerking on his dick or whatever well if you switch that up and instead of having an up and down motion if you have a forwards and backwards Mo motion of her on top of you yeah what you're doing then is you're slamming the head of your dick again and again into that G-spot g- spot and if you actually watch women like when if

you just let if you just sit there and let a woman grind on you she will naturally do that she'll kind of grind that way turn back yeah but if you take control of her body and women typically smaller than the dudes they're having sex with so she's light and you're stronger than her you can physically manhandle her a bit well you can do this what I I like to call it panning for gold kind like made like an old western dude like you know the river you're kind of doing that R yeah yeah exactly

right cool that's a new whatever you want that but with a hips and you're physically moving her back and forth like that if you do it in a and you can do that quite fast and forcefully yeah uh you can if you if you kind of take a Woman by surprise like that if she's in a heightened em like arousal State and you kind of do that out of nowhere you can get a woman to come pretty fast you could like you can do it like a minute or two like you can get it a

pop real quick combining it with like hair spanking Dirty Dog yeah you can do and and also remember that if you if she's doing this back and forth in a Calo position what's also happening is her clitoris is going to be grinding a bit against your pelvic area so pubic bone yeah so you've got kind of two two types of stimulation happening physically already cool then you can add in a third layer of dirty torque like if she's on top of you pulling her in a bit and dirted Hing into her ear right it's an

extra sensation you can pull her hair while she's doing that it's a four sensation you see how we're just layering different Sensations in every every different layer we can add in doesn't have you have to make it super complicated but every little extra thing we can add in is going to heighten her arousal think of it this way if a girl's giving you a blow job right and then she adds in her hands oh it's even better and then she starts tingling your balls oh it's even better like she she at all these different Sensations

make your experience better so it works both ways the same thing can work on women if we just get a little bit creative with all these that's why I look at is like kind like tools in a tool kit tools inol right oh do I need I want the hammer today or do I want you know the protract I don't I'm not I'm not a technician obviously like a compass and [ __ ] yeah I'm not a builder my sore out do I what do I get out what different tool for the job right and

I just and you can mix and match this endlessly to stop things being boring and predictable y right you can mix and match and play around until you find the the combination that works for her the best you unlocking her unique like seed phrase yeah so uh people confuse a lot of uh orgasm with squirting yeah does squirting have to happen for orgasm and and does every woman squir let's talk about squirting okay U everyone is every woman is physically capable of squirting everyone's capable of it yeah um if you're watching a porno and the

the word squirting is anywhere in the title it is fake that is a woman who is has drank like 2 lers of water before the scene and she is then pissing on the dude [ __ ] on command cuz she needs it like most of the time like that's typically how they Works however there is a gland in the woman it's called the skin gland it is basically the female equivalent of the prostate MH it produces a fluid that is actually very similar to seminal fluid that minus the semen so it is an actual gland

that produces a fluid that can be stimulated through but basically via G-spot stimulation you can get that secreet it is not necessarily the super exposive fire hydrant thing that you see in a por right it's a lot more subtle yeah but squirting is absolutely a thing um and depend the the the sensation women feel it can be different for different women some women it is like if they orgasm at all they will squirt along with it other women if you make them squirt they will then orgasm like there's different it's kind of like a spectrum

of how intense that sensation is for each woman so it's not the every woman can do it but whether or not like the degree to how extremely pleasurable it is will vary for women and to do it it's not really that hard you just need to to do this upside down like Spiderman SP exactly yeah that's exact yeah Spider-Man right Spiderman but you're inside of her okay yeah and then you so this is these fingers here are hitting basically hitting the g- spot like that and you just you're doing it quite aggressively yeah and force

but then your hands get tired at times what you just got work it outo go I I I can make woman squirt with my right hand very easily my left hand's a bit more challenging cuz I do it all the time with the right hand can you can you can you go like right and then suddenly switch to the left or or you lose sensation by or she loses sensation by no no it it it doesn't take that it doesn't you can you'll do the 10 20 seconds you'll get it to the squir it doesn't

take that much if if we add in the dirty talk and everything from before and then we move into the squirting I would say it's it's squirting has more is more about physical stimulation it's more about physical it's less of a mental thing it's a physical reaction okay interesting and but but that would vary for every woman right it's not going to be 20 seconds or every it'll very for every woman it'll very for every woman and and the big part that's going to change like how quickly it is is how comfortable she is with

you it's got goes back to being with the that goes back to being non-judgmental a lot of women a lot of women will feel the sensation when during sex like they need to pee yeah cool a lot of the times it's not pee it's actually this fluid produced by the SK gland so a good if you want to introduce this to your your girlfriend or your wife and you want to like give her the freedom to experiment with this great place to start is just do it in the shower turn the shower on yeah both

there standing yeah whatever if you got a bathtub lay down do whatever you have the ability to play around with it there without her feeling self-conscious worrying she's going to pee on you or whatever like that take takes away that kind of hesitation there oh cool now she's experienced it it's cool the world didn't end now now you can move it to like the bedroom and play around with it there and she'll feel more comfortable doing it there and she's because it's it's the resistance she has she like women will stop themselves from doing it

because they think they're going to piss on you yeah yeah but if and again but if you know what you're doing and you do it like quickly without a really really been realizing what you're doing yeah you can kind of bypass all that entirely sh T it bigger sh T this [ __ ] have you ever just you know come instantly as soon as they start shooting like sometimes as you know what that's never happened to me the closest it ever happened to me was working with Angela White that was the closest that ever happened

she something about it she's got some kind of like magical Voodoo vagina I don't know what's what's up with that and and and that scene I heard her talk about on a podcast with Manuel Ferrara uh that one why she starts crying at the end oh yeah I've think I've seen bits of that yeah SE the bit at the end yeah I I saw her talking about it on the podcast where she's like um uh the New York Times wrote a wrote a post about that that this it's the this is how porn is supposed

to be so so basically Angela white women break you know what that's that's actually not that uncommon um like a woman having like a super like emotional reaction like that actually I know another PA said a similar thing yeah uh when like yeah if she she can have such an intense like orgasm or like back to back to back orgasms like over a sexual experience yeah that it just sort of breaks something and like unleashes like this tidal wave of emotions to a woman so if a woman's like crying like that after sex obviously check

in with her and see like you cool all right like probably the first question ask is did I did I do something wrong did I hurt you in any way check that first it's probably not even going to be that bro it's probably going to be like she just had such a good experience that some like all this emotion came out yeah sex is a very emotional experience for wom true super emotional so that's it's not uncommon to see those kind of reactions yeah so how would you how would you prep for a scene and

this is a two-part question one the night before and one when you've got all these [ __ ] cameras and 20 dudes there and you got to get yourself [ __ ] hard and go at it how do you prep for that [ __ ] right so the night before I would always take my bonus Shake which is basically like four or eggs scoop of vanilla protein powder and a dash of water yeah I'd slam that in the in the the nighttime yeah so I'd rake up the next day with like a raging boner yeah

try it out it works boner Shake boner shake that and what I'm doing is I'm I'm giving my body like all the building blocks it needs to get to produce testosterone so the next day I'm like firing on all cylinders like what about things like ashwaganda ash is good Ash Works she legit I've just started playing around with it so I'll let you about that later I I haven't done India's huge in that yeah I've heard that I haven't used that enough to really see any any noticeable effects yet yeah you want to you want

to see like a Himalayan resin yeah written on it and ashwaganda usually like my dietition recommends me a ksm66 version of that so yeah I've never tried [ __ ] but I'm on constant ashwaganda all the time um it helps with stress as well yes yeah yeah um there there's a lot of like herbal stuff like that that it really really does work yeah bonus Shake cool also there's a bunch there was always like I'd always have a stack of supplements I'm taking a lot of stuff that is either good for testosterone or good for

blood flow or both or good for my dopamine levels there's a bunch of different stuff I have a chemistry background actually all things so I kind of nerded out on this a lot you list it out things I would take pretty regularly would be zinc uh that's good for testosterone it's also good for seen volume increasing your seamen volume was pretty important in my in the job uh Le for the money shot exactly leathan does the exact same same thing makes your money sh way bigger all right so so when I have VAP protein I

there's ltin is a compound there right inside W so do you need letin um apart from that as well as a I was I was supplementing with lesser than tablet is it safe side effects yeah okay telephone side effect is you'll have a much bigger load that's the side yeah yeah sign me up with like a bucket of it right that was that was for like the SE the Sea Side of things for um blood flow side of things stuff like pomegranate juice M uh things stuff like beetroot juice vitamin K2 the mk7 variant very

good for cleaning out arteries which is good for blood flow as well these are all things these again these all tiing strong you take that D3 usually you can take those on D3 too if you if you take um D3 you want to take K2 because otherwise you can get if you take D3 vitamin D3 without K2 you can get calcium deposits in your arteries so the K2 stops that it stops calcium from depositing in your arteries which causes arterial plug so corrects corrects that issue okay perect people don't seem to don't understand the association

between like heart health or cardiovascular health and boners mhm but it's the same thing so really if you want if you want stronger boners just take look after your art so in terms of Lifestyle things like Sprints big fan of Sprints like just you know Zone one cardio V2 Max 20 20 M Sprints Sprint the 20 M walk back Sprint again a set of 20 couple times a week it produ growth hormone resp massive growth hormone response you'll get jacked from it and your cardiovascular health will be way better you'll feel amazing um zone two

cardio so like an hour or 45 minutes like on a treadmill with like a slight incline and a and like a slight Pace to it basically to get your heart rate at about 120 beats per minute it'll change for everyone like the speed and the the incline but if you can do like 45 minutes to an hour of Zone 2 cardio heart rate 120 Minutes amazing for your cardio vascular Health amazing for it way better than than like super high intense stuffff that you see people doing in like um like hi yeah like I don't

I'm not necessarily against hi hit workouts but like a lot of stuff can be isn't the 20 minute 20 M Sprint like hi kind of it's kind of is but it's also like it's also kind of not it's a bit bit this gray thing okay so we we'll keep in terms in terms of cardio like those two are going to do way more for your cardiovascular health and your body composition than like going for like a a 5em jog oh that kind of like just look at the bodies of people in the Olympics right yeah

do you want a sprinter's body or do you want the marathon runner's body but you obvious but then you want to last longer as well yeah and that that that's where I think the the the zone 2 cardio can help with that for endurance sexual endurance I would recommend things like kettle bell swings yeah because you're mimicking the the literal hip thrusting movement so you can do like rep heavy kettle bell swings that's actually something I used I used to do a lot of that I used to do like I think it was tud so

it's like 24 kilos 70 reps um pretty like almost every day I do like that one or two sets of that yeah and yeah for your trusts for the basically you're working your entire posterior Chain break the bed yeah you ever broken a bed yes yeah yes yeah you just [ __ ] roll out of the damn thing it's annoying it's once happened with me as well I felt [ __ ] proud proud of that yeah um yeah so Bon shake the night before these these are all things before and then you ask about the

day the day off the day yeah right getting out of your head is the most important thing in that scenario cuz I think about it it's like high pressure there's a bunch of people standing around whose paycheck depends upon my ability to get a boner that's a big thing that's adds more pressure to the situation right it's kind of like I I used to uh always do the same like routine I used to play basketball right and if you watch professionals shoot free throws in basketball they always do the exact same thing yeah in fact

kyl Malone used to work used to play for the Utah Jazz he had this famous like really long like free routine he would bounce the ball dribble the ball like 16 times and the Rumor was that he was saying the Lord's Prayer I think when he would before he would take every shot but he never told anybody what his routine was he never ever ever told like know he never told any what what he was saying so no one could get in his head yeah and so for that exact same reason I never told anyone

what my routine was cuz I do the exact same thing every single day but it was all it was really was just like i' it was really simple I would go to like the bathroom brush my teeth like like fap a little bit and then like get myself excited think about something exciting and then meditate yeah all you're doing all I wanted to do was calm down my aut autonomic autonomic nervous system get out of fight or flight mode slow my breathing down box breathing is really good 4 eight yeah the 48 thing right where

you breath like it's like you breathe in for like eight hold for four exhale for eight hold for four breathing for eight hold four it's a it's a box right four eight four eight four aen four eight out that's that's the idea and that's that's supposed to calm your nervous system down you calm your like sympathetic I believe having let's say a Red Bull or a c a coffee thing is going to have the opposite effect correct so you don't want to do that at all correct I never I would never calm yourself down didn't

drink I avoided caffeine M before like the morning off or the day off completely avoided it yeah tried to meditate and try to do box breathing yeah anything I do the calm like deep belly breaths anything to do to turn on my sympathetic nervous system and calm me down in general uh and then that's like that's the physiological things you can do to control your your brain yeah I've got a question but then you're calming yourself down and you got to be turned on as well you got to be some [ __ ] heart pumping

[ __ ] going in yes so that's that's what you're what you're trying to achieve is a state of uh calm confident arousal yeah right so you can cuz owner is a relaxation response when you wake up in the morning with with morning wood are you stressed out no or are you relaxed I'm relaxed you're calm your body's all the muscles in your body everything's relaxed everything's calm you're not stressed out and you wake up with a with a raging erection that that's morning wood it's a relaxation response you don't need to get all psyched

up and hyped up to engage in sex it's better for you to be in this calm confident State and old boy rise the occasion you can be turned on without being anxious and uh yeah fired up yeah what do you what do you think about um rubbing one out before your scene maybe the night before or the day before I never did that um because I I would rather be high sex drive yeah than low yeah right it's better for the in my particular Circumstance the worse scenario was not being excited enough m MH than

being too excited yeah cuz I can always say I can always pull out and say cut to to calm down again right if I needed to if I was getting too close I could always just pull out stop for a second yeah like edging yeah yeah that's way easier to do than like oh I'm not turned on at all because I jerked off 5 minutes ago right for guys who do have like a premature ejaculation problem that can absolutely help yeah I had a friend do that he he used to do that all the time

and then and then that would help him um and and this one time him and I pulled two girls from the club and this is Delhi all right so so I've painted a picture for you like you know I come from a place where it's very shy but bro like like I'm a I'm a dating coach teaching guys how to meet girls in India so I've had my fair share of like like 10 years of this [ __ ] and everything that happens in the west it's been done in India and that's when I was

like [ __ ] let's do it so um so so we pulled two girls home and then like you know I was in one room he was in the other room and then suddenly in a minute he he tells the girl oh let's go for a walk so he came in pants and the girl's like oh he's making me wait so he played it as if like you wait for it and he got to Chase and then after an hour he got started that that is incredibly close yeah yeah but but like it's it's all

about frame and playfulness as you say right yeah but then I I've heard you talk so much about uh the negative side of porn and the negative side of masturbation as well um and then sometimes you know it might be helpful like in the case that we just pointed out right now so yeah I mean you can you can fap without porn you can fap without porn so what's your take on it like fapping without Pawn is cool or no fap at all or like Pawn is is like it needs to be there I'm not

okay first of all I'm going to say don't consume porn quit also can brazers and and king.com like sue you you're like [ __ ] no no [ __ ] up their businesses everywhere I am I unfortunately even like I could I could spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the rest of my life going on podcast saying don't consume porn I would be a drop in the ocean of the amount of people who are consuming this content unfortunately but why why why don't why aren't we supposed to consume porn for a

start it screws up with your dopamine receptors mhm so you'll notice that guys who have a habitual porn problem like porn use they have erection problems they have performance anxiety problems they have delayed ejaculation problems they have arousal problems in general they have motivation problems in their real real real life they don't really if if a dude is habitually consuming porn he will struggle with motivation this is because it is bombarding your brain with with dopamine stimulus and you need a greater and greater stimulus to produce the same response each time so your dopamine receptors

are getting dulled and DED and DED and less sensitive which is also why like dopamine is the is the reward chemical you get dopamine for pursuing goals and things like that so you're so surprise surprise your motivation drops when you jerk off heaps like especially two porn because all this visual stimulus is like crack cocaine in your brain like it lights up very similar Pathways to heroin in your brain unfortunately so it is incredibly addictive habit I mean you know I mean technically addictions are like substances so there's a technicality there but for the for

for all intents and purposes it's an addiction and guys pursue this stuff too much so that's that's one of many reasons why I would say don't consume it uh I don't think it's a good thing for Society on a societal level for for for for the like I mean just look at where We've Ended up like I think most people would agree that we're living in a society now especially in the west right maybe it's not the same in India but where I'm from which is a lot more degenerate there's less families we're not having

kids uh like you know drag queen Story Hour [ __ ] like this like these are all Downstream effects of normalizing porn and degeneracy yeah and I contributed to that and I have to deal I have to live with that and my I have come to the I came to the conclusion like four years ago I'm like I don't want to participate in this anymore I don't want to contribute to this anymore in fact I would like to try and help to reverse some of the damage that I did uh hence what I do now

so that's that's the the why the not por the fapping side of things right you can faap without porn there's people have been doing that for Millennia okay we didn't you know we jerked off in as cavemen so you can do that it's it's called using your imagination if you if you if you know a pretty good girl just think about her and voila and in fact that's actually better for you you're going to you're going to learn you actually learn to turn yourself on mentally which will help with performance yeah also also this thing

with a girl you know like let's say you you dream about one girl and she's she's like in in game we've got this thing called one IIs right you you dream of this girl and you've got a crush on for like years and years and you're like and and you know I've had a friend who's so this was like back in school when we were kids around like 18 and 17 and my friends had started having girlfriends so I like bro you have you had sex with her and he's like what the [ __ ]

do you mean I don't look at her that way behave yourself and you get really offended and that's very fugged so when you obsess with a girl so much and you're just thinking of her as like a goddess and like she's not a sexual being it might just be helpful where you think of her a bit sexually and you just rub one out thinking about her yeah and then then because you know it you make it real for yourself in your mind that if I'm with her I'm going to have sex with her and I'm

going to blow her brains out wor is you being all timid and shy about it so that that really helped out yeah I think immensely it's I mean it's not it's not a healthy attitude I think to look at anyone like as a perfect being to put any to put any human on a pedestal like that be be a girl or be like a celebrity or anyone anyone else you like every humans are fallible everyone no one's perfect like if you treat women like a human beings yeah magically they respect you more if you stop

putting them on a godamn pedestal like that and think they're perfect and sugar and spice and all things nice if you see them for what they really are they actually have flaws just like men do there's there's there's a light side and a dark side to women just like men have cool now we can approach and and engage with women on a human level yeah which will get a it look a much more a greater level of respect from women themselves women don't like being put on a pedestal yeah like that it's they find it

creepy yeah yeah so how do you how do you reverse uh the effects of Pawn one and then uh let's move do more of uh all the issues around sex that happens and is is it linked to pawn let's say performance anxiety and you have erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation and everything you mentioned a bit of it and so so how do you reverse the effects of Pawn and then let's move into how do you better your performance in sex as well yeah I mean how do you reverse the effects of porn you stop consuming

it right um just that yeah I well it's all tied cuz it's all a it's basically the main problem with consuming porn is as as it translates into the bedroom is the dopamine issue I talked about a minute ago so you really want to go on what's called a dopamine detox so that would involve cutting out porn that would involve also cutting out things if you want you can take it like as far as you want to go really but it could also involve cutting out things like sugar yeah cutting out things like alcohol mhm

uh cutting out if you do any recreational drugs i' consider cutting those out too yeah uh cutting cutting out obsessive like habitual mobile phone usage yeah incessant scrolling on social media yeah like in the middle of a podcast I know you're Shing your not I'm but that is but all those these are the thing all of those things have in common all these vices have in common is they they all are their like cheap dopamine quick dopamine fixes which reduce our dopamine sensitivity which screw up our motivation screw up all manner of things in our

life as especially as a guy right like why don't men build great things anymore why why don't men you know accomplish great great feats of achievement anymore sitting there on their [ __ ] phone all day and they don't have any motivation like okay so we need to if we can go on a dopamine detox and cut you can completely rewire your brain in like 3 to four weeks man like if you can get this [ __ ] out of your of your lifestyle yeah you will be a different guy yeah but then again there's

there's that part of um you know I've seen when I'm let's your lifestyle you travel around you stay in my Sunny Side chilling going on podcast having fun I mean that's what I imagined when I started doing this but now all that yeah but now like a [ __ ] CEO of the company like we've got a team of 20 people back home so now I've noticed like when I'm more stressed when I'm at work I don't feel like having sex anymore like the the sex drive goes down um versus when I'm traveling if I'm

traveling I'm thinking about sex more my sex drive is higher if I'm in nature that's better if I'm going to the gym that's better if I'm meditating that's better so for people leading those busy Lifestyles as well even if you reverse the things of porn but then there there stress coming up there's bunch of those things well that's hand that means you have to handle the stress better I mean you already descri you just described it perfectly it's the it's the stress response I just have to [ __ ] do it yeah I mean like

every guy reacts the same way to stress yeah so the key is to develop is to have better stress tolerance if that's one thing I've seen amongst all super successful guys it's their ability to tolerate stress to a high degree that's what that's really what discerns the winners from the losers yeah like the guy who's going to give up after like the first try with like say pickup yeah going out approaching girls the guy who's to who's like oh she rejected me and he quits yeah his tolerance for stress is very very minimal versus the

guy who just consistently hits it again and again and again and eventually gets better his tolerance for stress is much much higher he's going to have a lot more success yeah that is one of the biggest defining factors amongst success amongst men is just their ability to tolerate stress you just described a bunch of them hit in the gym getting out in nature getting in the sun yeah reading getting off social media like be like time by yourself like meditative time is a way of thinking about it right I personally love to go on long

walks by myself that is really distressful for me some guys like to hit the gym some guys like to Spa like or do like like roll in MMA right whatever it is boxing is great it forces you to be present and out of your head it's fantastic for right you might think you might not think of it as a stress relieving activity but it kind of is then you're getting punched into the [ __ ] once you start punching other people it is stress relieving but it has other benefits it's competitive it's good for cardiovascular

health it's competitive so your testosterone is going to get jacked up like I don't know a single person who either habitually trains Combat Sports or was a professional fighter with a low sex drive yeah they've all got high sex drives yeah so we just spoke about all this stuff like stress and everything helps dopamine do dox helps um just two major problems If he if he were to tackle what have you found the solutions to premature ejaculation and just uh erectile dysfunction cool erectile dysfunction is is interesting because there's the physical component like the blood

flow component shall we say right right that is that is actually a rectile dysfunction but then there's the the other problem which people call the rectile dysfunction but it's actually anxiety performance anxiety specific it's their nerves is is their mind right they're anxious in that situation right like trying to get trying to get a boner in a room filled with cameras and lights and right that's that's anxiety right function so it's super easy to fix it's like eat better food don't eat trash get better nitric oxide production by through things like pomegranate through things like

beet fruit uh sprinting in your lifestyle get Zone to cardio in your lifestyle both things are [ __ ] amazing for your cardiovascular health uh get out in the sun too vitamin D deficiency is attributed to heart disease and things like this so get more make sure you get plenty of vitamin D yeah very very simple lifestyle habits you can use to clear out your arteries vitamin NK uh vitamin K2 the mk7 V variant very good for clearing out arteries as well all these things combined either through diet or supplementation very very good for I

actually have a my supplement brand clubhous supplements literally has a boner supplement called wood that does exactly that why I designed it yeah so there's that that's that side of things the other side of things is the performance anxiety side of things and it's mental so there's two ways of tackling that one through habits that calm your brain down improve your stress tolerance and help you to dissociate from like the situation you're in like as in be present not be up here right and that's things like meditation things like I think boxing or sparring is

actually a good way of training that trains you to be present and not be in your head I think that's fantastic uh things like ice bars great for stress tolerance and like you don't really think when you're when you're doing like an ice bath right sauna is another really good one I think SAA is really good for that too de-stresses you calms you down all this stuff that's like habits physical side of things the mental side of things with performance anxiety with the with an anxiety induced boner problem okay there's a few things chemically we

can do if we can increase like we want to reduce things like cortisol adrenaline mhm in your in your body CU you want to reduce adrenaline yeah yeah cuz those are the things that get you anxious and nervous they get you exed adrenaline is what is like a fight or flight kind of thing it's not a I'm want to [ __ ] something chemical right cuz you think about it if I'm if me and me and my M are in the jungle we're about to get freaky with it and I see a snake am I

going to have a problem getting a boner probably probably right because my adrenaline just jacked up yeah cuz I'm putting myself on fight or flight M it's not fight flight or [ __ ] it's fight or flight it's fight or flight it's it's not the [ __ ] is is the third option is never there right so your body doesn't give that option it's like the blood is going elsewhere you're going to die so do you want to [ __ ] yeah yeah the blood's going to our legs or our brain to get the [

__ ] out of there it's not going to the boner to like pregate a woman quickly before we die that didn't our body didn't evolve that right too bad too bad too bad so you want to get out of that photo flight response so we reducing things like cortisol reducing things like adrenaline again all these lifestyle factors contribute to that but one of the big things you can do is to increase your Gaba levels cuz Gaba is the is a the primary calming neurotransmitter in your brain how do you spell that Gab G is an

abbreviation um it's it's a longer name I can't pronounce I I'll put it down yeah but if you increase the amount of gabber in your body you actually conversely reduce the adrenaline and cortisol and another one is glutamate glut there's an inverse relationship between gabber and glutamate in your brain and glutamate is another excitatory neurotransmitter which makes you anxious uh how do you spell that g l u t a m a glut mate yeah mate yeah m m yeah that's confusing with glutamine yes yeah so fun thing you you might have never heard of glutamate

before but you actually have MSG the flavor enhancer is mono sodium glutamate uh if you consume anything packaged processed anything from fast food any Dam anything from a restaurant anything that comes out of a packet you are consuming MSG which means you're consuming glutamate which means your body has a bunch of this neurotransmitter in it already so if you want to help reduce anxiety by to rectile dysfunction you should probably cut back on this processed crap yeah because if you have high glutamate your body was naturally going to be in this more anxious nervous state

by default your stress tolerance is going to be much much lower so cutting that [ __ ] out can help to reset the balance in your brain make you more calm in general right okay uh that was that was the bonus side of things that yeah the other side was other question was about premature ejaculation premature ejaculation elect dysfunction you were you were cover that was dysfunction yeah covered yeah if you have a now you're an idiot you didn't listen yeah you didn't listen unless it's some medical [ __ ] maybe then the doctor would

help you out fine yeah didn't see a doctor yeah didn't see a doctor probably probably yeah premature ejaculation so again there's kind of two sides to it there's a there's a chemical like brain chemistry side of things and then there's a physical side of things the physical side of things again not that hard to to deal with reverse keegel are the simplest probably the most effective exercise you can do to help your your pelvic floor which is the region that kind of holds all your your fun bits there all the muscles around that between like

your balls and your and your and your anus that area the perum area right the what sorry the perum the perum yes the perum that whole area is where all your your your PC muscle your BC muscle all these pelvic floor muscles are sitting there if they're too like tight all the time when you when you orgasm those muscles are what and and contracts so if you're already if those muscles are already always tight you're kind of in a pre- orgasmic State already by default so if you can relax those muscles through thing an exercise

called a reverse keigle you can help to gain more control down there and a reverse keegle is here's the easiest way to do it when you go for a pee when you go take a piss try to push the piss out as fast as you can like you're trying to like imagine like there's a fly in the in the bowl you're trying to like hit him and like drown him right pushing it out as fast as possibly can is is that Sensation that will relax those muscles it's a reverse ke figure out how that sensation

feels and deliberately do you know 10 sets like 10 wraps of you know two sets of 10 wraps or whatever a day every day or the easier way to do it is just when you go for a pierce just practice pushing it out every day oh like once a day do that in the mornings yeah first thing in the morning like just do that every day yeah don't do it every time you go to pee but do that like once a day Bang you you are training that muscle to be a lot more relaxed right

the mental side the brain chemistry side of premature ejaculation again it's very very similar to what we just talked about with performance anxiety because it's again your brain is in if you bust too quickly you're too excited you're OV excited you've got too much adrenaline too much cortisol too much of these like excitatory chemicals so again a very very similar process reduce adrenaline neur adrenaline cortisol bring these things down yeah and then we're not going to be as on edge like all the time every time yeah yeah true so uh exercises one is we've just

spoken of reverse keyles uh two more you can recommend not for perature ejaculation again like all like any and all pelvic floor exercises are good like the pelvic floor bridges are good and regular kles are good you just want to make sure you're balancing by doing more of the reverse keegle stuff to relax than doing of the of the regular keigle sort of things to kind of tighten them right cuz we're trying to make your it's it's good to have a balanced pelvic Flor we don't want it too tight or too relaxed we want it

balanced explain the kles yeah so the a regular keegle is the kind of opposite if you going for a piss yeah that clench you do when you stop your P midf flow that is a keyle right so you can you can still do you could I could do one right now yeah there we go podcast while I'm sitting here you can do them whatever you just do them you can do them sitting down at your desk right and you but they're they're more powerful if you hold them you clench and you hold it for a

few seconds that's more powerful than just doing like the a bunch of them but again you don't want to again you don't want to you want to do some of those not too many of those you want to focus more on the reverse ones but if you do both you can have a kind of healthy balanced pelvic floor where you'll have a lot more control over things that way so pelvic Flo is going to be really important yeah is like the basis for like your your penile functionality downstair so how much does seis model like

the biggest insecurity for men and what's what's what's like the average size I think globally the average size is probably 5 in I think that's the global work 5 in or yeah yeah totally F there there's dudes who like there's Veterans of the porn industry with 5in penises uh I think one of the big ones was think a guy's name was George O who's a Hungarian guy Uhl yeah if anyone's wants to call me call me bull call [ __ ] my claim I made that dude had like a 20-year career um oh yeah he's

like a veteran veteran yeah right so like it's totally like and consider the fact that he like not only has he got like a you know an like a statistically average penis he has to like contort it at Angles and stuff to like so the camera can see so we had he had to work like twice as hard as I a d with a long dick it's kind of irrelevant but uh to show the camera Bingo for the camera to see like we so like sex on in a porno is actually really uncomfortable and boring

cuz you're not you're not having sex for pleasure you're having sex for the for the camera to see shitless you're turning and twisting and unless it's Angela White unless it's Angela White yeah and it's like holy [ __ ] hold on yeah you can there's a million and one things you can do besides using your penis that that or like in addition to using your penis that help to like have an amazing sexual experience yeah and like I said earlier it's a large part of it is mental it's like if you if you can get

a woman in a submissive and aroused mental state first it does half the work for you yeah before you even go down the path of angles and stuff but that is another big uh reason why those sort of angle of angle of penetration tips we gave before the pillows and stuff that's why that's so important because that will that basically like to on for the woman it feels like your dick just grew two Ines because now it's the angle it's hitting the spot it's hitting deeper and more direct on The Sweet Spot she likes to

have stimulated yeah so you're just biohacking like through sexual geometry you're hacking like her sensation yeah of your penis so there's a million things you can do to change that it's not the on end all MH it's although I do teach guys how to like you know increase their size and stuff the the point of that is that so you can have control over it like so you don't feel so bloody helpless so you don't feel like oh I'm I I'm stuck with this forever well no you can if you want to change it you

can you don't have to you don't have to it doesn't actually like no one actually gives a [ __ ] like okay maybe there's some size queens out there but but they're slots anyway so why you care about them anyway it's a very self-imposed problem on yeah it's a mental prison guys put themselves in uh but once you realize that there's all these other skill sets you can add in the bedroom into sex that you can be like you can have an average or below average sized penis and you can give you can absolutely Rock

A Woman's World in the bedroom like it doesn't matter anymore and I think that's I think that's why it's important for guys to learn sexual skills especially if they're insecure about that cuz it will it will it not only will get rid of that insecurity it'll make it'll build confidence genuine confidence for them yeah because they know oh doesn't [ __ ] matter I can do all this stuff to her true true and and I've seen a lot of your testimonial there a lot of videos where you talk about you can actually grow [ __

] penis size right um so I I had a doctor back in India uh a sex doctor and we did a podcast and I asked him about size like can you increase it he's like there is no [ __ ] way possible in your life that you can ever increase it yeah what do you so I want to know your perspec I say well a doctor has to say that for a start because otherwise he will get he doesn't want to get sued right a doctor one a doctor doesn't want to get sued yeah two

maybe not necessarily this doctor but there are but then at at the same time when you say it you could get sued or like or like because you can't get sued can you say it yeah I mean I I I tell guys look it's like I make it very very [ __ ] clear like this is not medical advice okay you can [ __ ] yourself up doing this if you do it wrong if you do it too aggressively if you're a dumbass about it yeah you if you're if you're a dumbass in general you

shouldn't be going down this path right cuz you're going to hurt yourself or you're going to you're going to cause problems right I've done it myself I have do I document proof of it okay on my website yeah I've got cents who done it how much were you before I gained I gained 1.2 Ines in length and about a third of an inch in girth over the course of eight months eight months yeah yeah right I was pretty obsessed with it to be honest cuz I did were you insecure as well I did it at

well I did it at the very very beginning of my porno career so I wasn't insecure about it but I did my first a porno and then I watched it and I'm like [ __ ] my dick looks small but probably I'd had women telling me my dick was was great yeah but I was like it it was it wasn't like a a a sexual performance thing it was like a [ __ ] I need to I need I this is a a career path I'm going down I should probably do something to make my

performance look better so it was like I just obsessed over it got super autistic about it found everything I could possibly find on the topic and then just tried everything out and found what basically found what worked yeah so that was that was kind of the path I went down did you order some pills off of websites where it's like did not I did not order any of those pills definitely didn't know that cuz those things are full of [ __ ] if if you think a magical pill is going to cause your dick to

grow you're a [ __ ] yeah I used to have a friend who used to uh sell those on the pawn website scam they make a oh they complete scam they they make a ton of money they a complete scam complete money and then you you've got the wheel where you where you spin the wheel and then it stops at a 30% discount every time or a 50% discount and you buy three so he's like yo bro we use all these marketing things and it's all scammed Sometimes some they don't even ship the pills oh

my God they justay the money so wild but that's that's that's the Dark Side of yeah I don't like so what did you stumble upon yeah I mean the two the two main Tech there's a bunch of different techniques there's physical exercise you can do manual stretching exercise you can do um I resed there's a few different devices you can use I used a hanger um which basically exactly what it sounds like you hang a lightweight off your penis safely there's a couple of companies that do that Zan hanger and bib hanger that you probably

need like 10 minutes a day maximum hanging you very very slowly raise the weight weight like literally every week or two weeks you add a little bit more weight within a couple of within two to three months you will actually see some pretty significant gains on like stretching the ligaments that keep everything attached to your pbook area that's probably the fastest least work so basically you're stretching the the ligaments and like you're trying to hang something is it like is it possible like what you your dick is going to come out it's entired it's try

[ __ ] me yeah so like if you if you went to some in the street and you said can you grow your neck they're probably going to say look at you like a weirdo and be like no of course you can't grow your neck but we we have documented evidence of like these tribes I think I think they're either in Myanmar or in Africa or somewhere where these women put like these rings on their necks from the age of 16 and they end up with these like giraffe necks so it's obviously possible and and

then earlier we used to have those car sets as well where you you know make it waste tiny and uh in China they have the they they wear those shoes that make women's feet smaller oh yeah like that right uh so body body modification is a thing it is possible it's a thing right now it's not what those examples are not exactly the same as what's going on with penis growth right but dudes have been trying this stuff for decades like they've been like they've been experimenting with this stuff for a while to kind of

find the few things that do actually work none of them are like magic pills none of them are overnight fixers they do take a lot of obsession and like consistency with them and patience because otherwise if you it's not a situation where like more and like harder and stronger is better that's more likely to cause damage hurt you you have to be really patient with it really cautious with it to and persistent to actually see gains and yeah so hanging weight hanging is one example of things like this uh Zen hanger bib hanger these are

two companies that make a hanger that's safe uh the other thing is pumping that's done through like a vacuum pump or a water pump things like bath mate is a great example it's a water pump very very safe also added side benefit is that helps improve your like blood flow down there so you're going to get stronger more reliable reactions too as well as increasing the girth and the length over time as well and that only takes like 10 minutes in the shower in the morning to do that and it's super easy so you use

the pum 10 minutes in the show in the morning and then how much time is that going to take when we see results well it took me it again I was patient with it took me eight months to get like a third of an inch in in uh the girth games us using the pump sty stuff so it takes time like you're not going to expect to see anything in like you want to aim for like a year minimum yeah I would say because otherwise like if you're like oh I'm gonna and here's the other

thing if you if you try your your the size of your dick when you're measuring it if you're if you're measuring it like every day you're probably going to have pretty inconsistent results because it depends upon how how aroused you are if you're getting an erection like how like what you ate that day like what your diet was like what your blood flow is like that day so it's going to be a bit inconsistent like if you're trying to measure it like day by day by day you're probably going to get dis discouraged and disheartened

so I actually wouldn't I actually don't recommend measuring it every single day I would say like look if you're going to go down this path and be obsessive about it be obsessive with the routine and the exercising mhm and not so obsessed with the measurement that you might discourage yourself cuz you're like you're you're going to be too impatient yeah I would say every three months do a measurement do a measurement three or every no every two months yeah bang bang and space it and and say I'm going to do this for a year commit

to it for you because otherwise you're going to be I think you'll the the average guy will be too impatient and disheartened in it that he won't commit long enough to actually see the thing through yeah that's that's been my experience instead of coaching guys through this stuff yeah but but with the case of hanging uh you could do a lot of damage as well don't you think if you do too much weight too quickly yes you need your body to like your body you need to you kind of have to trick your body in

a way to respond to it so you need to you need to start off light if you start off heavy you're going to hurt yourself you just start off very very light and then incrementally add that weight so your body has to react to it to that new stimulus slowly over time and adjust to it and and basically adjust accordingly if you stack the weight too much and you don't and you don't if you stack the weight on and you wear it for too long you don't need to you don't need like hours of hanging

you don't need like 10 minutes a day Max 10 20 minutes a day max is plenty to see the results if you stick with it consistently yeah so you just just hanging standing or like just sit on like a chair you could just sit you you sit on the edge of your chair wear very very loose like uh gym shorts or or like a loose tracksuit pants or something like that you can that can hang down the side of your leg and you'll be fine with it yeah it's it obviously helps to if you work

from home it's very very easy to do right but it's again it's only 10 minutes a day so you can do it you can do it in the morning you do it in the evening after work whatever but it's not it's not a very time intensive thing yeah interesting yeah yeah it's been a pretty pleasurable conversation very interesting bro good like I've been I've been meeting very different people learning different different things yeah yeah um thank you so much for doing this of course all right man this uh um and yes if we were to

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going to link it down down below in the video and then probably uh I'll add a discount coupon as well yes if you can hook it up yeah so that was [ __ ] amazing bro thank you brother thank you so much let's go thank you for doing this pleasureable conversation cheers