Advice to a Young Man That Many of You Need

hey guys one of the great things about DV is that Dr rocks around a whole lot and some things are obviously going to be for the show but sometimes things come along that can stand alone and what you're about to watch is something that I know will bring value to so so many of you it's a long clip um but it's advice that 65% of my audience really needs and um and I hope you enjoy it how old are you 32 perfect you're at the point now where why don't you just take 3 years and

just do and see what that tastes like cuz you know what journals taste like cuz I think one of the things that really works for me is I'm not worried about the micro but I think about the macro oh I don't know where the this just came from but I just walked in and saw it this helps me a lot like like I just like what the am I doing with you right now has a lot more to do with the showing up to the funeral than it has to do with yeah the bank account

mhm and you know what's funny is if you actually live your life like the funeral you end up making stuff for the bank account by accident you end up meeting somebody who you know yeah like it's so crazy when I think about like how I invested in Twitter and made all that money it was more about giving about my funeral like doing the right thing by a bunch of people which you know led to going to South by Southwest which led to me meeting the Twitter guys which met you know like it's just yeah like

following your passion following your list yeah I mean you just got to really think about like how like I'll tell you like even in four seconds maybe some of the context Robert gave me maybe making some assumptions but when you're thoughtful like I think one of the things that people Fe like struggle with is actually being very real with themselves what do you mean the difference between being you know the difference between understanding who you are versus who you wish you were and and I think that's something that I'm always very fascinated by when I

have a meeting like this like what kind of read do you have on yourself and how like you know I think I would struggle a lot if I didn't really genuinely know who I was and it and then once you know who you are you get more comfortable with what you're up to so like if I ask you right now and I think it abs and flows when you're 28 when you're 32 when you're 57 like I've asked you right this second like what do you want to happen in like what would you say what

do I want to happen with like my creative projects or just with life or what way sure all of it all of it uh what do I want to happen I yeah I want to have a life where I'm able to create with fun create with the team I want to put out content that affects people's lives for the better in terms of helping them feel good or better about themselves and their relationships and cultivating relationships that are meaningful I want to like travel with my man and like have property International property and like travel

for fun also for play and also a little bit of time for work but controlling and maneuvering life with ease and also impacting people for the better in the process you know what are you hoping as you're like rolling up to this office what are you like what are you hoping for you know what for Real by the way yeah for real for real I mean there are like you know that I do not know so I honestly just want to pick your brain about a couple of key things um and really like ideally like

what I was hoping and what I expect like to get in a place where like I know you and I could hit me up have a meeting start start the process of building a relationship okay yeah let's start with this if you want to like listening to what you said the first thing I will tell you the best thing I I think I hope I think the first best thing I can tell you is don't front the number one mistake that people that aspire to the sentences that you just spit out of your mouth the

number one mistake they make is they try to over sell themselves because they think they need it to have people's attention they try to oversell themselves correct so let me give you an example yeah whether it's life coach inspirational figure business coach whatever form it takes I think it's much smarter for you to talk to the world about your process of going through this than the advice that you sh think you should be giving them yeah okay that makesense and that's where people are struggling I I got real lucky I've never said this D Rock

so pay real close attention I'm not sure that if the internet was around in its current form that I would be as successful because at 22 and 23 I knew I was special MH and I might have not been patient enough to First build a business first get experience I didn't start talking to the world till I was 35 and I love to say to you be patient to you to be patient I'm not sure if I would have been I'd like to think I would have been but the freedom of putting like I love

to hear myself talk like like okay you know and I think anybody that is sp like think about so do you and so do so many of you like that's what it is and it's nice there's nothing wrong with that it sounds bad it's funny a lot of what I deal with now is being okay with not being politically correct work life balance yeah cursing whatever let meritocracy you know I don't know if you've seen this did you see that I was on The Breakfast Club mhm so I don't know if you watch that interview

or some of the content that I've been building on I'm on a hot no excuses kick I have a lot of female entrepreneurs I have a lot of fans that are African-Americans I spent a lot of time in that community in my college Years I just think I'm giving the best advice to women and minorities in business today which is tough and and it's crazy like you have to understand in my body right now it doesn't feel great it feels a lot better going somewhere else the problem is it's the truth like the market just

doesn't care yeah does and what's cool is when you actually say it then you start betting on your strengths do you know I was a businessman in a world where going to Smart colleges was the only thing that mattered for businessmen you were only a good businessman if you went to Harvard Business School mhm and then I reversed it like I'm like I'm a dnf student like like I curse I don't dress the part I do me and then you know what happened the world came to me and so I would tell you that the

best thing that you're going to walk out of here with is something that took me a long time to really realize is if you want to pull this off and you want people listening to you there's only one thing the truth there's more of your autic was the and no everybody says that cliche term just beat yourself and all that it's unbelievable how much that's the reason I'm winning h i and I think it's easier when you have a level of success mhm and it's harder when you're climbing up the ladder but I think that

there's a lot of people who if they talked about the Journey of the climb could win I think it's the best piece of advice I can give right now to a bunch of 20 to 30 year olds that feel that they should be talking to the world and bring bringing value talk about your journey of trying to find that voice and synthesize it properly versus let me tell go find you know because the problem is a 30 40 50 year-old listening to your one minute rant video on Instagram even if it's powerful there's a level

of cynicism of like what do you know yeah and I think that that's fair and look you could just be a whiz kid about the world and that exists but I do think there's a smarter way to context it you know it's like starting the sentence of you should versus inant person you know it's funny right now I can say you should cuz I built so much but if I was at 20 it needed to be like my intuition says mhm and it changes everything or when I look at or when I met with Gary

today the takeaway I got was that's got it yeah uh what your respect is on cultivating relationships with people who not only believe in your ideas can actually help fund or will point you to funds cuz right now all of my friends are broke and trying to create some you know it's like I I can't borrow from your negative bank account so like how do you get into a position when you are around people who are influencers or who also will donate or whatever the case may be the market will give you money the market

will give you money whether it's Kickstarter I'll give you money you just have to give somebody what you want it's against so the biggest problem right now is finding money is not the problem really it's not I'll explain that's definitely my problem right now well let me explain it's not it's how you're looking at the world okay there's things like angelist and kickstar do you know how much harder it was for your mother to get money oh yeah yeah I remember that like like do you know how hard somebody would slap you that do you

know that the 1973 version of you if he was sitting here would punch you in your mouth because money is the last thing you have to worry about angelist Kickstarter the world can give it to you you start a Kickstarter can you know why most of them fail cuz most is whack cuz most stuff isn't good cuz most people don't give a you can go to angelist and hit up all the angel investors the real question is before you go there is I think most people say everybody says to me Gary I can't find money

and then I go cool I'll give you money what do you got and then they don't no so tell what am I what am I buying your brand what in perpetuity got it there's a we're living through a really interesting time in the world right now where people don't like Where Art and Science and business are colliding and they're all very different I understand the art that's in your heart but how you going to yeah see I got lucky I had the art and the business M but like okay what am I buying there's no

buying look buying into Gary Vander trck would have been a really good idea for a lot of people but it wasn't for sale and I didn't even know how to sell that like what do you sell like what are you going to make 20% of my speaking fees or my book deal or my TV deal I just like right I guess you can do that I actually do think that plays out over time but if I said to you cool I got money for you what are you selling me like what's the business so what

I hear in that is when you show up with more content that allows people to see more of what they're investing in more of no what I would say is what's the container I'm putting my money in you could have unlimited content you could have 4,000 episodes of a podcast and the greatest Instagram account I've ever seen and the funniest Snapchat and Instagram stories I've ever seen great so that's not inherently letting people know what they're investing in like that lets them know a little bit about you but what's the vessel got it so you

saying so when I meet Jerry or when I meet the fat Jewish I know they've got attention on Instagram three years ago that really matters what am I investing in oh oh fatuous you're making a rosé oh I can put $25,000 into that and own 8% now you've given me something to put the container in oh Jerry you want to become BuzzFeed you're going to build a website and have traffic and sell ads you got to come to me and say what what am I investing in you have to put your thing into a container

that's investable nobody's writing a check to a person yeah okay package it package it and then and then it gets hard because once you package it you have to be able to explain it in business terms and that's not necessarily what everybody does this is where it gets into Partnerships one thing I would tell you based on the vibe I'm picking up if you and I both grew up in Milwaukee you know I would have been a great partner for you because I could have been the businessman to the art if that's how you're thinking

about it maybe you're the business part but it's not what you've been bringing up yet I don't know I've been in a position where I've had to do like both right now you know well look I mean you should you should be putting out content on a very regular basis you should start a pillar show whether it's I mean vlogging I think is very fascinating MH you know you should be doing Instagram stories and Snapchat stories at scale you should be putting out seven to 25 pieces of content on both those platforms a day a

day and let me explain how Don't Go Fancy document versus create when you when you make you like that right it's a a big it's a big shift when I say 7 to 25 you say my God how do I produce 7 to 25 meaningful things that will have me respected versus document see that's that's that's always the thing is like meaningful that will get me respected I feel like anybody can put out you know I don't want to put out but is subjective my man and I got good news for you you're fully in

control yeah yeah people always like yeah you put like I'm in control how many things I say no they send me quotes to put out on Instagram nope I'm in control who makes the final call on like Productions the producer the director I don't know whoever who's the final person producer great you're the producer my man yeah right I don't know you take you take a selfie with a nice Skyline and yeah but you got to put out stuff and you and you got to fabricate it like when you're like I still can't believe how

many people that live in New York don't use New York people if I were you and I had an hour right now go to the park right right now like I don't know like go back to your basketball route stand outside the garden right there and be like what do you think about the next upcoming season yeah interview four people one person gets into a thoughtful conversation he was the former ball boy in 1957 it's a nice story and boom you see where I'm going people aren't starting people aren't starting they're just not making they're

thinking they're pondering they're strategizing they're debating the difference between people like me and and the far majority is I'm just doing at all times I'm doing so much that I've decided to have a man walk around with a camera and follow me cuz who knows when it's going to happen and you know what's so funny in parallel my brain right now when you're going to leave here I'm going to say to him dck I want this whole thing cut the whole thing like what I'm giving you so many need right now so I'm like it

let's just put it out right right so I like you mentioned before you know you have to be putting out content all the time I personally go through these periods like extreme creativity and extreme just chill you know like I'm not feeling it how do you motivate yourself or how do you continue this process of like go go go go go and balance that with like selfcare and checking in with yourself you know I do what feels right to me you do what feels right to you yeah so if I got to check out for

the week I check out for the weekends all the time no Creations people are like where's your Snapchats like I don't know got to be with my family like I don't punish myself but that's really hard for me in right now because I feel that same thing of like dude you're not putting out you're not doing enough you had to following you you're not doing I agree all right you see where I'm going yeah I don't know life I I don't think you I don't I don't think you should squander it but like I mean

like you just got to you you know listen this is back to do you know yourself MH or do you aspire to be something you might actually not be this is the toughest question of it all my man I mean if you want to be respected and really known show up show the up are you kidding me with a week going a week without doing something you know I don't know how much into my content you are but I always say nobody you've ever met got there without the hard work nobody you know it's just

real you know do you know how insane the daily V and the Snapchat stories has been been to everybody they didn't realize how hard I was going at it you can't believe how many you can't believe how many people you know how many people used to say the word luck that that word luck has gone right back like nobody has the audacity to say that to my face now and I love it and that's why I did it I did it I made it for you because you can watch it and be like okay but

I think yours is different I think a lot of theirs is different it's because I'm not fancy about it document over create I mean there's so much magic going on dude you're in New York City you know many people again I'm going to cut this whole thing because it's the advice everybody needs you know many of them sitting in a place that's not New York City you got a billion stories out there you don't feel motivated that you need to tell a story today or create go let somebody else to do it you have so

much Charisma you walked in here in 2 seconds you walked in here in 2 seconds and I'm like okay skid got a little M like you can roll up on anybody and get them feel comfortable yeah except racists I do that every day I do that too but do you know what I mean yeah that's so awesome so you can't create distribute got it you can't create today that's what has facilitate you know yeah man yeah there's no excuse for not talking to the world it just doesn't have to be your thoughts and words every

time yeah thanks for I'm on fire right now I'm on fire dck do you have like s more minutes yeah let's I mean look I'm going until they pull me out um you're already 8 minutes over building you're winning bu a team don't even worry don't even think you're not even close to that why not what do cuz you don't have the money to like really build the team right you can have homies help you out along the way truth is I feel like I've exhausted those resources though you good let me let me give

you a real good answer I got a feel for you right now you need to work on you before you worry about a team what do you mean I mean you got to get your together like you're you're responding to the right thing like I don't know much what what I do well is I talk and then through reaction I listen that's how I get a lot done in a meeting like this right M could tell that you you've got certain things that you need to do before you worry about a team get your thing

in place consistency persons yeah get great at what we just talked about if I go look now and I'm going to check now I'm curious if I go look in a couple weeks and I'm like oh my God six six you know Instagram stories per day like you know four Instagram post like he's been on Twitter on point his Facebook all oh he's got a YouTube channel now he's like create distribute you know do all that stuff interview like there's so much creative man like like I'm way more creative than I realized because stuff comes

so natural to me like for example like do a meme and that's just a slang term for it like go take a picture on every odd Street in New York in Manhattan like I don't know like go start at 113 and then 111 and 109 like anything could be like right like call it odd corner and just literally do an interview every day on Instagram for a minute starting at 13th all the way down that's cool right and like that's I'm just making up like I don't know like odd Corner hash odd corner it's your

show every Monday you go to 13th the next week 111th and literally you stand there until somebody walks by and you that person and that's the show I think what I'm good at M is building a pillar up top that creates content below daily V Ask Gary V show right and then all flows from there where did this quote come from I don't know you know like somewhere along the way that that's what's powerful and I think you need to I think one thing that people struggle with is they need they think they need to

it needs to come from them and it needs to come from the structure down instead of got it and that's why you wake up and you're like damn I'm not feel like you know how hard it is to manifest that kind of original creative thing from the bottom yes but if you if you made if you literally lived your life under show think of yourself as like CNN or msbc Monday is odd Corner that's it like if you whiteboard in now on like mini shows that you could do Monday's is odd Corner Tuesday's like subway

shots Wednesday's like suburbs you're just literally going out like you know and all of a sudden suburbs clicks and all of a sudden Toyota's hitting you up and saying hey we'll pay you and you'll drive a Toyota to the to Jersey to Long Island you see where I'm going MH but you got to put yourself in that position but what you then are able to do is you don't have to think you know why podcasts have worked for a lot of people because they interview people yeah so they don't have to do the work generate

the content in that's right that's why when everybody's like oh I love this podcast oh Gary ve and I'm like you don't get it they're just interviewing people I'm creating original from the get my version of that was what's a better version of that oh answer people's questions also scalable but brings value to those individuals and the entire Community M so got it got it good man give me an update in 30 days send me an email I'm dead serious this is you know you came in here and said I'd like to start the process

of a relationship ideas are execution is the game right email me in 30 either you're going to email me in 30 days and say look what I did or what you're going to do is not email me thanks you got it brother appreciate you take care for those that have gone through this video I would really love a detailed comment on the number one takeaway from this video this is there's something here that I really want to continue to expand on that I think is going to really bring value and help people that are in

a rut really win so please in-depth comment on the one thing that you really took away from this video