The Psychology of Success with Joe Polish and Peter Diamandis

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this offer today [Music] welcome to the Tony Robbins podcast I'm your host a New York in this special episode we are giving you unique access into one of the most exclusive mastermind groups in the world Joe polishes genius network each year marketing expert Joe polish brings some of the most skilled focused and brilliant minds in the world where they delve into a vast array of topics that are overlooked and underappreciated by even some of the most astute businesspeople when he brought Tony Robbins and Peter Diamandis together to share their wisdom and knowledge about what it

takes to achieve true greatness an absolute fulfillment it made for one of the most powerful provocative interviews of all time it's a must listen for entrepreneurs and seasoned business owners alike [Music] well I'm um that's just a lot of things I'm involved with I'm very passionate about feeding people I think you know my story when I was 11 years old we had no money no food and stuff gentleman came and fed my family and he wasn't used as a delivery boy but it changed my life because it made me believe strangers care in it my

father didn't respond very well the situation he was very angry and he left our family shortly thereafter but for me it left an indelible mark that people really care if strangers care about my family I care about them and and maybe want to do something so I promised that myself somebody well enough to do feed other people so I 17 I fed two families and then four and then eight and then a hundred thousand and then a million and the last seven years we've been feeding two million through the foundation and I've matched it with

two million to four million a year so I've had forty two million people in my life and then I started working on this book four years ago thank you thank you sure we're gonna this book and I interviewed 50 of the smartest financial people on the planet um you know people like John Paulson had done an interview in ten years and I got one of the first ones for them and Ray Dalio and people like that and these are all people not from the lucky sperm Club that he's the people that did it on their

own they built it from scratch no one gave them a break and I'm getting all these insights and I'm watching Congress passed these laws where they changed the budget and they cut food stamps and I don't call it food stamps anymore but that's basically what it is by eight point two billion dollars which basically means every person who needs food in this country who's not the position anybody in this room sin has to go without food one week a month for 12 months out of the year unless the private sector picks it up which is

their hope and most the private sector is really stressed so I went to the feeding America and I said you know what if I gave you all the profits this book and all the money I'm getting all the money I'll ever get how many people can I feed and they said ten million people and I said I'm in and then I got more excited I added a bunch of money to it so I added it to fifty million people and then I said I'll do matching funds 200 million which you qualify to go awesome so

we focus in on three things one is the X PRIZE and and Tony has been extraordinary generous as a philanthropist and a number of you in the room here who are members of innovation board thank you for those of you who are part of that some of our trustees in the room here and the story there again I think you guys all know this is my nine-year-old dream and myself was wanting to go into space and giving up on NASA being the way I was gonna get to go there and saying there's got to be

some way somewhere somebody can build a spaceship that I can go on to and organized a ten million dollar prize and as my dear friend Dan Sullivan says didn't have the ten million dollars at the time but had every faith that I would just took me six years to find it and that 10 million dollar prize launched a private spaceflight industry that Richard Branson is now commercializing a number of their teams are doing but on the heels of that we said this idea of asking the world what do you want to solve what is a

problem that should be solved that you think you know it's a sin that it's not solved yet and realizing that there is so much brilliance around the world that a kid today has more power than the president states did 20 years ago in terms of the computational power or the knowledge they have and that you know used to be only the kings and queens that could solve things in the past and now it's any of us can solve something and what we do is we work with the top philanthropists and corporations in some cases governments

and put up these large prizes a million or a few million dollars actually Christian Cudicini who runs here oh axis spin out does the smaller prizes we are doing these ten million twenty thirty million dollar prizes and saying I don't care where you went to school whatever you've done before you solve this and you win I'll just mention one that that we did together who's Tony Robbins the DeVos family and Elon Musk that funded a global learning XPrize 250 million kids around the world nearly 700 million women around the world can't read write or do

arithmetic and we put up a prize that said if you can build an app that can take a child where there's nothing no school no adults nothing and take that child from illiteracy to basic reading writing in numeracy in 18 months you win 600 teams entered that competition we're down to 200 delivering software they'll be in Tanzania in about 14 months and with that actually John Raymond Tilson one of our sponsors in that will be that winning soft will be open source to the world so that every device becomes a teacher so that's XPrize really

excited about that we're really focused on mapping the ocean floors thank you with with my dear friend Eric Anderson in the back here co-founded Planetary Resources and the concept here is that we think of things as scarce on earth and certain things are the beautiful lands that we have and we shouldn't rape and pillage them but we live in a solar system filled with resources and the concept here of planetary resources is we are using the most advanced technology 3d printed spacecraft AI onboard sensors have never flown in orbit before to go out to prospect

near-earth asteroids which are rich in in fuels platinum group metals construction materials and those same spacecraft when pointed down towards the Earth we've just discovered and we're really excited about this can actually map and predict the yield of every acre of cropland on planet Earth and really help us feed the planet much more efficiently so we just launched our first spacecraft next one goes up in first quarter the last one which is sort of like you know I think relevant to all of us is the idea that we can all live 30 or 40 more

healthy years in our life and to Dan's point earlier about you know living to 95 but not 95 living to 195 on you know whatever it might be we're at a moment in time where we have to realize the software that runs our body our genome what happens to you isn't happenstance it isn't like this oh my god I happen to come down with that that you know your destiny is in your genes it's also in the environment all these kinds of thing but and this is one of 21 of our investors we created a

company called human longevity craig Venter who sequence the first human genome and Bob Murray and I founded it together and it's built the world's largest genome sequencing facility on the planet we've sequence more human genomes and the rest the world combined and not just the genome your microbiome a full body MRI 2300 chemicals in your bloodstream the most massive data set about you and we've mined that data to actually help you understand what is going on it's the most complete information data set in the world and we've also just a few of you in the

audience here I know a benefiting from this in our health nucleus we're now actually sequencing cancers to help you know what drug specifically works for you in your cancer not just for everybody who happens to have that general cancer so that's a big one I think that's something that's gonna impact all of us is you know making 100 years old and you 60 right you'll get younger that's it awesome what are the biggest trade-offs that both of you consider may be negative in order to do what it is you do because you're both I mean

incredibly driven what I would consider insane schedules but at the same time you're making massive contributions to humanity so what are the trade-offs that you would consider like you know we work our asses off we do a lot of stuff but this is what we had to sacrifice in order to do it if you think of it that way I think if you think of it as a sacrifice then you're gonna build frustration or resentment I really don't if you think it's that question shouldn't do it I think the challenge is that most people have

this illusion about life work balance and that's you know if you're gonna accomplish it's what people are laughing is you know right what's true is life work integration so I was just in twenty one country or seven country twenty one days but who's with me is my family who's with me as my friends and I've done well enough to have a plane and that rooms and all that kind of cool stuff makes it but when I didn't we still we pumped it together and beginning days it was coach and dragging ourselves around but I thought

it was great for my kids to have schooling but I thought an education was more valuable and traveling the earth was a part of that but you know we're in the middle of this crazy schedule but we're it's not work it's a mission when it's work it's that I always ask people I said how would you describe what you do and people I say because at work it's a couriers admission and most people of course say it's work and that's exactly what does this heavy if it's you know if it's your career it gives you

something more but your mission it doesn't wear you out it brings energy to you it's fulfilling and if you can tie your mission in with the people that you love it's pretty cool you know there's some people assume there are my friends I see Dean here and front row here and it's like we're all on this mission and we find time to connect and be with each other and have a blast with each other but we're sharing about things that matter I'm not a person to go to a party and like you know go on

the corner and chitchat it's like you want to talk about something deep let's rock let me go home and be with my family you know let me go do something fun with us some of that nature if you can combine your mission with your family combine your mission with some of your friends then you're gonna accomplish a million times more but if you think it's a sacrifice don't do it because then all you're doing is you're gonna have resentment later on or frustration later on and and then you really aren't contributing cuz it's you're you're

trading off you're not giving no great good I think I'm a nine-year-old kid does you know me no I am a nine-year-old child in my body pinching myself every day that I get to do it is extraordinary I could not would not want to be doing anything else I mean there's hard work and it's and it's like I'm push myself or anybody else but I love it I love it I love it I cannot imagine doing anything else and that's the challenge right the question is a lot of people are doing something to get to

something else and that's just wrong and it's matter of don't do it because your parents told you because you're heard on an infomercial because whatever if do what is your highest calling in life and love it and so I don't work at all I really don't work you know dan has told me to get rid of it and so I get rid of it well you know I mean this this room is filled with some very high achievers and obviously what I wanted to derive from you guys is this some insight somehow to some what

it is you do to just you know perspective and stuff and I carefully chose some questions and this one is you're both masters at achieving what most people consider impossible and I mean really like what you guys do most people consider absolutely impossible so when something is considered quote/unquote impossible how do you reframe it so it becomes possible in your mind and how much of that is mindset well I think impossible is not a fact it's an opinion when someone tells me it's impossible I always just look at anybody around me knows that they can't

do this that's part of it but if they didn't know me it's your opinion then don't say no science shows and I say yeah and how many times the science shows something's impossible now science shows it's possible things are impossible till somebody does it and so I find that you know most of your business people you look at businesses and what does it take to make a business grow it's not impossible like a business growth this has been shrinking for a long time or it's been stuck the real problem is always the chokehold as always

the psychology and the skills of the leader always an 80% of that as psychology and 20% is the mechanics like if you don't know how to read your financials and you're trying to fly the plane of your your company I mean come on you know if all you do is go down you look at profit loss and you see what it is and you have a beer either way you either celebrate it at the brass you know something you know you're gonna be in trouble right but if you have the skillsets that's one thing but

you can get any skill set if you have the psychology and anytime a business is not growing it is not because it's impossible it's because they aren't innovating and they're not innovating because they're believing it's impossible I mean if we all know what does it take to transform and obviously help people it takes three things to create a breakthrough in anything and your personal life in your business anywhere you need a strategy but that's not the first place you should look and it's the first place all of us look me too it's our inherent thing

you want to lose weight well how do I do it I'm gonna grow my business how do I do it it's it's instinctively been trained to think that way but the problem is the how-to is usually not that complex I'm gonna come on seventy percent of America is what seventy-five percent of America now is overweight is that because it's so complex how to be fit and strong all right and only the 1% know the answer as they hide it from you you have to work your ass off to not hear what it takes right and

so so you know I never I went to this I went to a TED Med Center and I watched about 12 doctors won't have to another get up and do these stories about how we could just get patients to take their medications and try to figure out the whole thing and I was just looking and going you're all talking about strategy and you've forgotten psychology because strategy is wonderful I'm a strategist let my whole life thinking have strategy is is we both know a strategy could save you a decade right and doesn't the strategy could

save you you know it could make an interesting success and failure but most people have strategies available or they could get them or you could create them but the problem is you got a story and your story is why it isn't working and the story is I've tried what everything if you tried everything you'd be fit you tried everything you'd be profitable if you tried everything you'd be there but people said you know I'm big-boned that's what I use I'm still big-boned but I'm 38 pounds lighter than I was 25 years ago and I've never

gained it back right a big bone that was my story all the good ones are gone that's why I'm not in a relationship or they're gay and I'm not on a game they are whatever the story is there's always a story and what I tell people's you know if you can just divorce the story of your limitation and marry the truth of your unlimited capacity then the whole game changes but it's hard to do that because when you're in your story you you don't even realize it so you need a third piece for breakthrough and

that's really what my life's about which is changing people States because in a different state with different people you know can mean people be nice yes or no yes or no of course they are when they're a nice day can I speak mean sure I get a means day so really learning to train yourself to be in an ideal state where the best of you comes out for yourself for your family for your mission for your world for your co-workers to me that's one of the most important decisions in life to make you just asked

me out of all the people I've met all the things I've seen you know what creates a magnificent life you know everybody has goals and dreams that are different some people want you know picket fence some want to make a billion dollars some you know want to have this huge breakthrough in technology some people want to write poetry whatever is right for people is what I want them for themselves I don't want to be like me or you or anybody else I want them to have their dream but to have that you need two skills

you need number one to have the science of achievement it's a science you have to know how to take your vision and make it real and most of people assume they've already figured that out and this guy sure as hell has and you have and I have so most of us know and we can all refine our skills in that area but we know how to take what we dream about make it real if you don't you can learn from somebody who does you know the simplest thing is get crazily hungry for something we all

know when you get so hungry so desirous your brain starts coming up with answers and then it's massive action but effective execution which is all modeling which is I assume what this is about find the best example compress the time let someone else take 20 years to figure it out you do it in two weeks or two months or whatever the period is that's we should all be standing the shoulders the people around us instead of reinventing the wheel and then there's this thing called grace you know if you work your ass off you're totally

focused you're trying to serve something larger than yourself and you really are executing what works you need a little grace might want to call it luck if you prefer God the universe but it's there and we gonna hold chief but I think the more important skill if you ask me is to have an extraordinary as the art of fulfillment and it's an art it's not a science because there's a science to making money I don't care who you are if you do certain things you're gonna have too much financial stress you do other things you're

gonna have an abundance there's a science there's a science to your body everyone hears biochemically different different genome but there's certain fundamental patterns that if you and I follow them you're gonna have tons of energy gonna feel good if you break them you're gonna pay the price and have low energy or disease but fulfillment is an art what's going to fulfill you is differently at first and next you're not gonna learn that from anybody else you got to find it because success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure and I get those phone calls all the

time for the multi billionaire entrepreneur or politician or business person or a person just won their Academy Award and they're depressed and they can't tell anybody because they got all their goals but they're not fulfilled because they really don't have that sense of meaning in their life they went for something and they got it they achieved and if you doubt this what I'm saying is relevant to you or us or anyone just think about about a year and what a month ago we lost what I consider be a national treasure robbing wipes how many of

you loved robbing lives look around the room keep your hands up look and most of you didn't know almost anywhere you go in the world people live Robin wins by the way was he graded achievement oh my god that guy he said he want to make become a great comedian he did that I want to make the world laugh he did I want to make my own TV show he did I wanted the number one TV show he did it I want to make movies he did I want an Academy Award for not being funny

not his skill set drama and he did it I want a beautiful family he did it and then he hung himself make everybody happy but yourself not a good plan so if I had a gift to give you it would be maybe make a different decision and a decision is that no matter what happens in your life you're gonna live in a beautiful state a beautiful state and that could be happy that could be grateful that could be being generous those are all beautiful states aren't they it could be curious it could be fun it

could be playful you're not limited to one state but it's different than suffering and most people suffering and all suffering I've ever seen I traveled 100 countries I've dealt with presence of countries and you know presidents of businesses CEOs I've dealt with people in prison I thought with you name it average people suffering always comes because you've obsessed about something related to you you can only be depressed if you're focusing on yourself so now I'm depressed cuz my kids and and they're not doing well no you're depressed because you feel you've failed your kids it's

about you it's about how you think you what you should have done or shouldn't have done or what someone did to you or didn't do to you in the past through the future which don't even exist so I have a simple goal my goal is help people make a decision that says I don't know what's gonna happen you might get a divorce even though you don't think so you might find a family of your family with cancer you might have your house get burned down or have a tornado go by and if you live in

the same place it happens every two years and you move back we should talk but some people seem to do that for some reason you can't control those things I can't control those things I don't want those to happen to you or anybody I'm loved or anybody who's even a stranger to me but they're going to happen true not positively just the truth so if that's gonna happen I say make a decision now that says I'm gonna live in a beautiful state and I'm gonna find beauty and whatever Life brings me cuz life is too

short not to I see a little buddy up here named Shawn a member when I got a phone call from the make-a-wish Foundation say have a young man is about to die and he wants to meet you and he came to the seminar and then I took him out after his in time if he coughed too much they said they said you can't grab him I said I want to take him across the fire I said take him across the fire said if he if he coughs he breaks a rib I said I'll be really

gentle we're gonna do this thing and he did it and then afterwards I sat down and I said man I don't have the answers but if your body is you're just coughing and it's gonna make you break a rib your body is so acid I said you should get alkaline let me put you the other with a doctor how many years ago is that you were 19 year now 36 I like seeing you here so brother you have a man he's beautiful man but Shawn but maybe think of Shawn as Sean lives in a beautiful

state he could be complaining and whining the words he do his whole life is not about himself that's why he's so happy he doesn't live in himself he lives outside himself serving things he loves he still takes care of himself and he's funny he likes to seduce women and things like I can't talk about right now but oh you're married now okay well good I'm glad to hear it's about freakin time I John good to see you grew up now the bottom line is this young man over here who knows different stage of life he's

always been he weighs I think he lived because you live for more than himself yeah I'm sure he felt pain but we only suffer we think about what's being done to us or what people are gonna think or what they should have done and haven't done and you can't control that stuff anyway I mean why be pissed when people can do are people gonna be mean yes or no are people gonna be unfair and unjust yes or no are people gonna be beautiful and generous yes or no you just never know when that's gonna happen

so - we'll enjoy yourself along the way and I suggest today if you want there's any gift I came by to give you it's to tell you what you know already they get you to make a decision about it to actually decide I'm gonna live in a beautiful state that doesn't mean I don't get angry or too tired or you know suffering arises and you end it the moment you go I'm thinking about me if I leave this I'll always be suffering the human mind is always looking for what's wrong the human brain is not

designed to make you happy it's designed to make you survive happiness that's your job and you only get it if you draw a line in the sand that's how it's gonna be and I can tell you the few people to do it I know a few people that have done it they have magnificent lives and when you're a beautiful state the best ideas come here this man lives in a beautiful state every time I talk to him I love seeing theater Peters are just always on fire about something but notice you know he's doing unbelievably

well there's nothing wrong with that but almost everything he's doing is about more than himself and so that's why he feels so alive he's not suffering an ounce he's an ecstasy he's not lucky he's living life a certain way it's a beautiful way I'm honored to have you as a friend thank you brother how many met this man before and he was in a wonderful state let me share her head I don't think I've ever seen not a wonderful state I've seen him have some painful challenging places but he doesn't stay there and look what

he's able to create because of it he has a nine-year-old boy who's on fire he's not fired to light the world on fire with what's possible it's a beautiful thing I honor you so the contribution I'll make thank you Tony and I think it was about impossible and I'm set and so forth yeah is the reality is there is very little that's impossible period it just is and your mindset as soon as you say something is impossible then you shut down every possibility for solving right and we all know this and the challenge is that

it's really hard not to be in that state because we get thrown stuff all the time and what I want to share with you is an experiment which is to say okay not only how do I make it not how do I make it possible but how do I actually go ten times bigger and you've heard me speak about this you know moonshot thinking bold thinking whatever the case whatever terminology want to give it and most of us in our life are trying to make a 10% improvement and we know this this is I'm trying

to increase my revenues by 10% I'm trying to increase Mont you reduced my sales by 10% save 10% more of the you know the lands out there whatever it truly is we all have this sort of beaten into us by life and by the rest of the universe that you can make these small incremental improvements but the fact the matter is that there are those in the world that go ten times bigger and you every one of us can be that and as soon as you say I want to I want to not only solve

this thing but go ten times bigger in my work in the things and can I say this in something that you're truly passionate about not just about earning a little more money I mean it really should be in something that you care truly about that is bigger than yourself that is impacting the world as soon as you try and go ten times bigger three magical things happen number one even if you have no idea how to solve it no idea how to get there you'll be amazed at what you come up with and what's interesting

is our legacy our past anchors us to where we are today and you have to let go of that you truly have to let go of all the stuff in your past what you thought you'd done all of the heart you know the infrastructure that you've built to let yourself go you know when Elon Musk built Tesla the reason Tesla was such anime we better car is he didn't have a hundred years of Detroit to hold on to he start with a clean sheet of paper and imagine what could be the second thing is when

you try and go ten times bigger versus ten percent bigger it's a hundred times the value proposition and it's never a hundred times more expensive or a hundred times harder and so you get this increased capability and then the third thing is when you try and go you know ten times bigger to solve a problem ten times bigger you've got to reinvent stuff you have to actually go and figure out okay I have no idea how I'm gonna solve that you're gonna start to reinvent things so when Eric and I were working on you know

asteroid mining we had to reinvent we had to have you know so much computational power onboard the spacecraft we had to come up with brand new sensors and hyperspectral and mid wave IR that didn't exist had never been licensed because these spacecraft were gonna be operating at 200 million miles away and that forced us to come up with new kinds of capabilities that were not currently possible and you'll be amazed what those capabilities that you create in your business in your life enable you to do and so there's this massive benefit that's pay off this

dividend that comes from expanding your mind and not being anchored to the past and so I think that there very few things that are truly impossible I think that impossible is a is a state of mind and I'll say one other thing the people in your life are part of that anchoring and so how do you anchor yourself with a new set of people right I'm looking at my dear friend Naveen Jain here with whom we've opened up XPrize India and are really working on solving women's and girls issues in India and providing abundant drinking

water in India I mean so what do you how do you surround yourself with amazing people who live in the state of anything is possible I'm blessed at XPrize at singularity University at h-line PR I live I live that constantly and so how do you do that where are you doing that what is your nothing is impossible community it is truly here and so that's really critically important because once you get into that mindset then you start freeing yourself from that other that you tell yourself and people tell you because we are living in a

world where constant amazing miracles happen another thing because I'll put my commercial into this stop watching the news stop watching the news you could not pay me enough to have the crisis news network with the constantly negative news network whatever you call CNN pollute my mind really I have social networks I have you know Google filters and so forth I was just telling Arianna about this and hopefully she'll do this I want on the front page of Huffington Post I said I want a slider where I can control the percentage of positive news stories right

how would you like that instead of because right now it's good right now it's it's you know it's 10 to 1 negative to positive it's true it's like why would you possibly invest in the world and in the life and all these things if the world is falling apart if you know if the crisis you network is like showing you airplane accent of airplane accent airplane accident what problem is that the news networks never tell you there was no school shooting today at this school you know or there was this airplane actually flew LA to

New York and actually made it and everybody survived it's not used and so we get this disproportionate view and so our minds are constantly the mindset you have when you watch the negative news is awful not it's not going on it's not that there's this amazing hardship and and lives that are on the precipice of of hunger and death around the world but the world is getting better an extraordinary rate and you can make a difference in it and there is no problem there is no problem we cannot solve period end of statement awesome alright

so since both of you are two of the the greatest achievers and biggest thinkers at least that I know in the history of well honest to god you know I know in a very serious way I you know it's funny I can't imagine there will ever be another Tony Robbins you are a frickin best week of nature that's true for City and I think one of the most amazing things like when when I went to date with destiny would he'll ask how many of you came here you're thinking about committing suicide and literally I don't

know anywhere from six to twelve or whatever I don't know the amount stand up and you literally take that on I don't know another time being that could I mean it's it's mind-boggling and you flip it you take a person in a horrible hopeless state and they're coming to your seminar maybe is a last-ditch effort but there's that hope and you just channel it but then you share that with freaking thousands of people live on the spot I mean and that's just one of like hundreds of things that you do that everybody wanna see there's

no way there's no way he can do this there's no way you can saw how can you possibly and then boom it's done you do it it is it is truly a blessing to have a nice thing I mean like were you born this way as a stupid question but like I'm saying it for other people like you built yourself to be Tony Robbins publisher gene sequence I was a kid from Azusa who had no certainty who we had no food and had to be in charge because my mother was a little crazy and I

promised myself that my future family would never go through this and so I decide I hated suffering as I experienced it and I want it ended so I read some in her books near a human development psychology and physiology when I was still 17 18 19 to 21 20 years old saying what's gonna read a book a day and do that but I'm still immersed I went to every event I listened to everything I got immersed but when it comes to people you know I've been doing now I've been doing this for you know 38

years and I've been with 50 million people so and 110 so there's nothing I haven't seen at this point that somebody stands up so it's beautiful it happens different every time it comes through me and I really believe in grace I really believe it's there but I prepared a level the most but most people never dream of and I also know that there's whatever human beings feel we are not our feelings we are not our patterns those are things we might identify with or not that and so when I see a pattern it doesn't work

I don't think the person's broken I don't think anybody's broken I'm not here to fix people but I am here to break up the patterns that don't work and I've never lost the suicide knock on wood and you know thousands for 38 years and we follow up two years later three years later we're making they're making a documentary right now so how do you both deal with or think about or even channel like extreme levels of stress adversity criticism public opinion or failure because both of you have had you know things that just flat-out didn't

work but you're quite your public figures and how do you handle it or deal with it or think about it I really let go of criticism really fast I actually I I might you know sort of process in the moment to try and figure out this is something that I truly learn from there valid but I let go of it really fast and so if I'm in a you know a fight a personal fight or whatever it's like is so time is so precious sign is so precious failure god I've had a wonderful series of

failures and you know I built a launch vehicle company that we won this huge contract and couldn't finance it had to close it down I've built a multitude of companies you know luckily you know a third have been great a third have been ok and the third have been life lessons but it's I have to believe that what I'm doing in my heart of hearts is the right thing to do and if I'm doing the very best I can and I believe it is something because when I take a dollar from sub buttocks as a

donation or as an investment I and those of you who are in the room here who who have supported me or invested in me know that it's like it's me it's like you got you got my cell phone number and I care and I am so so committed to making you know to delivering I would do everything I possibly can so I need to know that for myself and I can sleep at night if something fails but I know I gave it everything I can't possibly could and there are also those times where you know

it's like nosedive and I will stop everything else I'm doing I will go laser-like on that a hundred percent twenty four hours a day seven days a week and I will do everything humanly possible and it takes that a lot of times it absolutely takes that a lot of time still I mean that's for me awesome thank you um you know I love to light people up since it's a little kid I love light people up and so early on I was want to make everybody happy all the time and then I you know I

come in this package I was 5-1 and then next nano I'm 67 I goo ten inches in a year because I had a tumor in my brain and and I don't even know it when I grew some big and so and I'm you know quiet unassuming I'm hard time expressing my true feelings so it makes it difficult to people to understand what I'm really like um no I'm fairly loud and intense and what happened for me in the beginning as I was trying to make everybody happy all the time and then I just mean I

realized nobody wants to be happy and and gradually I began to realize opinions are a dime a dozen but impact is all that matters to me so you know when you've had the impact and you don't need anybody else to tell you and you don't need something else to acknowledge you and you know put stars in your chart and you do what's right you know it and no one could take that from you didn't take away anything you have but they can't take away who you become and you become something unique when you find a

way to grow and you find a way to give and you do that consistently it creates an extraordinary life so I'd like to say that I've you know want people I don't want people to hate me or just like me but I would be accurate to say I don't care but I don't care enough to change what I'm doing that's what I'm doing is valuable and I think that as far as failures concern on my god there's so many failures but I just don't hold it that way and it's not a technique or being positive

just being intelligent you know failure is education if you use it if you learn something it's not affair if you don't learn to thing than it's failure but if you learn something I mean how many of you in this room had something out in your life that was horrific you hated it you'd never want to go through it again you never want something you care about it go through it but looking back on it five ten years later you say I'm so glad I went through that because it made me so much stronger or so

much smarter and made me care so much more who can relate I'm curious right so if that's true then you know why not adopt the philosophy that life is not happening to me it's happening for me and everything is happening for me even what I thought was failure and now my job is to figure out where is the benefit and use it use it for greater good so I'm sure I could probably list unlimited failures but I would be insincere because I don't really look better than this failure and that's not because I'm positive just

cuz I worked my ass up to figure out what can I learn from that how can I use that and I'd like to make people happy and but I've also learned in business like I fire customers I don't need them it's a privilege to business with us because we will more than deliver times then and so I teach my team and it's so rare we have to do it anymore but you know you fire a customer and you say listen we're not gonna be able to meet your needs clearly because there are there people out

there that no matter what you do they're gonna be unhappy yes so now why are you doing business with them and you and taking the life energy of your organization from it I get rid of them so fast and then they always want back in and I never let them back never and then but they become a public hanging and other people go oh this is how you play here because it needed the Internet we've lost any form of kindness people say things that are the most harsh horrific thing or the stuff people write and

all it is is people who feel insignificant who would never have the guts to say something to your face but we've created an environment where it's tolerated and so I think reversing that it's really important you have to define your environment your business your world your family because we all get what we tolerate I'm gonna tolerate it I'll give my soul to a stranger but I won't tolerate somebody being abusive any member of my team or two people my audience or to me certainly not to my family and you get what you tolerate you got

to decide and you'll also get what you tolerate in yourself and I think if you can look at what you're tolerating yourself and say I'm not gonna tolerate that anymore myself and it's easier to lead other people if you just tell other people you want tolerate they look at you and go yeah yeah you don't tolerate but look how you are in order to be perfect but people see how you know you don't know who I am you don't have to watch my lips move you can see how my feet move for 38 years that's

Tony Robbins right that's probably the best signature you can get that's the brand that you put out there it's the way you live the thing you said the line which I love life is not happening to me it's happening for me is that like you know I mean as part of that a trick you plan yourself or do you truly believe everything you have you are able to take that as is ingredients of this is all happening for me this most horrible most horrendous thing from diseases to to suffering I mean that's that's an important

line and I like to it's just it's not just a line there's a woman that I just saw that I'd met 15 years ago and she just showed my seminar and she was suicidal because one of her daughters had gotten sick and she brought to the hospital my doctor said she finds rapado home and the child died and she was gonna kill herself and she had three other kids so I really truly had to work with her and I remember working with her back then I looked it up because we had all stuff I've ever

done on film and I asked her I said what are your spiritual beliefs and she said I believe everything happens for a reason all that stuff he said so you're gonna abandon what you believe spiritually because life didn't turn out the way you want right now just no no no I said if it's if it's the truth it'll be the truth when it's painful it'll be of the truth when it's pleasurable so I I would like you to say I jump up and go oh this is happening for me right now I don't do that

I think what the hell's happening white and then I catch myself and I go there's some good in this and my core beliefs my real core belief underneath that is everything I've ever been able to help people with us because I face some portion of it if if if I you know I have to face a divorce I decided I need to go through a divorce and I didn't want to no imitate you to pick your partner after 14 years it was the most horrific thing in the world but I thought if I can figure

how to do this Ellie Utley intelligently lovingly no matter what the other parties like and I can help anybody else if I you know I've had several businesses over the decades that were you know near the verge of bankruptcy out of Resort in Fiji and there's a coup you know it's kind of inconvenient you know and I'm losing a million dollars a month you know and it's like and I didn't have a million dollars a month to be losing at that time just I wanted to create this great place for people but it's like in

the midst of all those elements you know I'd come back and say if I can figure this out I can help any other business so almost all my skills have come because of some thing I had a salt in me or help someone else solve and my views if I can figure it out for me I can help millions of people and so that makes the problem inspiring as opposed to the problem being why did it happen to me because we've all gonna experience problems I mean the only thing that we all have in common

is everyone here is gonna experience severe pain kind of how rich you are money is not gonna create immunity your pain suffering can get immunity from from the decision I told you about but we're all gonna have problems we're all gonna have challenges the only difference is what the hell you gonna do with them and if we just deal with our own problems they get really boring and some people need problems to have drama in their life to cover the fact they're not doing anything but I think it's much more interesting to solve it and

move on and help other people do the same cuz you've actually done it not because you talked about it yeah gotcha what I love is Robin Sharma who we did a call with he's in the roomies he has his thing the 5 a.m. Club a guy named Hal Elrod wrote a book of miracle morning you do priming in the morning I'd love to hear what you guys feel are your best rituals or what it is that you are doing that just massively impacts you to be as effective as both of you are if there's something

simple or something that you just do that makes your life work starting being a morning ritual or just anything that people here just watching cartoons with my kids at 7 a.m. count no you eat that maybe back your I mean it's for me it's anchored in my desiring to make the impossible stuff I said out happen right it's it's anchored in this infinity challenge I'm never bored these problems I've taken on with an amazing group of people are all sort of infinite and there's no getting there so when there for me there are my guiding

stars so it's like okay what am I do right now to move the game forward this day you know I wish I could say I was a great meditator or yoga person and so forth and that will come but not right now for me it's just its dedication to the child inside me and what I care deeply about which is making this making these succeed and and ultimately it's it's trying to be clear about what I'm enjoying doing right it's surfing the the stuff I love versus this is work I'm probably not good at this

work who else can I find that can do it and doing the stuff that I truly love better and doing more of more of that I mean it's it's there's nothing sophisticated there Tony what do you what do you got um I think anyone who succeeds has something that they aspire to there's a mission there's a direction there is a desire and they bring it up regularly and you do that even though you say you don't do it this fist Gateway attacking human genome and and figuring how to get meteors to to feed you what

you need is a fairly large vision somewhat sophisticated our mind is really simple mind simples I believe that the body is the place that drives the mind the fastest you can go inside your head all day long trying to resolve things and make excuses or freak out but I learned early on in my life that in order to make myself do things I had to trigger this body to feel strength and to know that when I say something I mean it and so I have a simple ritual that it's actually enjoyable it may not sound

joy but it is now which is I get up every morning and I'm privileged to have multiple homes so from those homes one of the homes I have a river the rest of them I have cold plungers and I I go into 56 degree temperature just for about 60 seconds I jump straight in or I was just in Sun Valley the river is 38 degrees a little bit cooler and I took my nephew and said you're about to learn how to start your day and I bring all my friends when they count like a day

they all have to do this but every cell every nerve in your body explodes and it's phenomenal for your lymph system phenomenal for your health but it also is just a simple discipline it says I say it it happens I'm gonna say I'm gonna do this I do it and I've done it so much it's there and it's invigorating and then I do as you said something I call priming I don't you know you wake up and you're you know 22 hours off your normal time zone and you've got to get up and take care

of 2,000 people for three days and nights for 1415 hours you don't always wake up feeling Wow is this the coolest thing in the world somebody's wake up and go what universe is my body in you know and so I do my physical ritual but then I also do this priming and priming for me as just I don't hope that I'm gonna show up with my best I create a state for it most of you know probably the principle of priming you know you can they've proven in so many scientific studies we all think we

make our decisions consciously when much of our decision-making that we think is conscious is being made by contextual environmental manipulation that we're not even thinking about on one study they took some people and they hired actors they'll go to a hundred people and they walk up to you and if they were trained to do the exact same look same expression and they'd say would you hold this they hand you a coffee cup and they reach in their pocket and grab their phone put some back say thank you very much they just to kind of assume

the action and they would do it the same way same facial expression 100 people one way a hundred people are there and what was the only difference cold iced coffee versus hot coffee an hour later they come back with some people different people who've got little caps on they're saying listen we'll give you $10 if they'll give us two minutes if you read this three paragraph story and give us two question answers and they read this whole story everyone's the same story and at the end they asked them how would you describe the main character

what do they like as a person 80% of people that got warm coffee said they're warm they're generous they're loving the warm is always one of the language patterns 80% like clockwork if people got the iced coffee same story say that they're very cold that they had they were they used generate language like being obsessed or being about themselves selfish things of this nature I give you dozens of examples so what I do each morning is I do a breathing pattern and it's an explosive bring pass I learned in India breathing a breath in and

exploding it out you know from that got out the nose and I do that three sets of ten pause three sets of ten pause three sits 10 so alters my state and I just do three things for 10 minutes because I have this deal with myself if you don't have 10 minutes of yourself you don't have a life who's with me on this so I said you know what I don't I don't need to have 20 minute 30 minute 40 minute meditations I want 10 minutes and I don't know I mean to meditate I don't

know if I'm gonna meditate I don't to not think I don't know too many people can do that and I don't know that I want to not freaking think you know so I thought what I want to do is I want to focus on the emotions that will cause me to be the better me and the two emotions that most people are messed up by our anger and fear and when you're grateful you can't be angry try to be grateful and angry simultaneous it'll never work and you can't be fearful when you're grateful so when

I look at people almost always they're reacting out of fear or the reacting out of anger at some version of those two so gratitude to me is the antidote so I spend three minutes just three minutes and I think of three things I'm grateful for three people three situations but I step into it I don't know I don't remember the roller coaster over there riding it I put myself in the front seat going of the edge like feel the moment and I make sure one of the three things I'm grateful for is something really simple

like the wind on my face or something give like my child smile and the reason I do that is because I remember you know interviewing some of the astronauts Buzz Aldrin these guys and most of you probably know you can imagine you know to be an astronaut this man knows and we to aspire to do that and then to go through the thousands of people and be picked and then to actually go to the moon and stand on the moon and look back and see that picture we've all seen that Bluegreen earth I mean you

imagine and then you come home and what happens there's a ticker tape parade and you shake the president's hand so now what the hell do you you're 32 what the hell do you do for the rest of your life and you know what if you know the story of many disaster nots most of them had some major emotional challenges right some abused alcohol some drugs and they had a real rough time because they forgot to find adventure and a smile I thought the only way to just go to the moon so I trained myself to

make sure not just the big beautiful things that are part of my the little things and so I feel that for three minutes then I do three minutes of a blessing corny as it may sound I I imagine life God energy coming into my body healing every muscle every nerve in my body strengthening everything to strength and stringing the best of me my passion my love my generosity and my creativity my humor I love and then I see any problem that needs to be solved just being solved because I otherwise I didn't think I got

to do it all and then once I feel that fully and that energy comes through me and back through me multiplies that I do a circle of my intimate family my kids my wife my friends this little character over here is one of my list and I just circle out all the way out to my clients and I send that same energy them and I imagine as corny as it sounds they're being healed they're getting what they need energy wise they're having the life that they deserve and seeing it multiplied so I do that for

three minutes in the last three minutes or my three to thrive I think of three specific outcomes that matter to me and I don't think about achieving them I see feel and experience them as done and I see the impact that it has I see people's lives touched I see the joy I feel it as done and I feel grateful and it's ten minutes but honestly it usually goes 15 or 20 because I'm having a damn good time but by having a 10 minute walk there's no excuse not to do it and I do it

every day and I don't hope I'm gonna feel good and then what happens is you're primed you're you literally you see things through a different set of filters you make decision some of the filters and also think of it most people are wired for stress they're wired for frustration the wild for feeling lonely and they you know they got a highway to pissed off and they've got dirt roads to happiness so I decided I'm gonna wire myself for happens I wasn't born that way I've had my view as I had to change the whole earth

to be happy today that's different from me now I can just wake up and be happy because I've wired myself in a different way neurologically and then I show the people how to do this as well you guys are awesome I really really appreciate that oh it's coming to this and taking it thank you so much [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] do you have the right mindset and skills to take your business to the next level business mastery is the only event in the world created by Tony Robbins to prepare you to master the

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