Traditional Masculine And Feminine Characteristics - Jocko Podcast Excerpt

i don't know this was written in 1976 obviously this is a a topic that might be addressed differently today but what i did want to do what i did look up is i said okay what is it what is a feminine characteristic and what is a masculine characteristic characteristic generally speaking yeah now okay i'm just going to read them first masculine this is coming from some website about psychology right masculine strong controlled focused powerful centered purpose driven loves the challenge in competition single task oriented problem solver wants freedom and release makes big things small forgets

needs admiration and appreciation wants to be needed and respected they're the the masculine intimacy killer is being criticized controlled or shut out so those are the masculine uh characteristics here's the feminine characteristics free flowing open radiant radiant wild destructive emotion driven seeks and gives love nurturer multi-tasker diffused awareness wants to gather talk vent makes small things big remembers needs reassurance and attention wants trust connection and praise the intimacy killer is feeling unseen unsafe or misunderstood now um clearly these things every human has both these things in a spectrum and you could call you didn't you

be i think what makes them challenging to talk about in this day and age is they put man and woman on them what they should have done is said you know uh just black and white right two yang yeah yeah oh ying and yang would have been perfect right so you got the yin personality you got the yang personality here's how they are not necessarily men and women because let's face it we know a lot of women that are strong controlled and focused we know a lot of men that are free flowing open radiate right

so these but i think they're generally speaking psychologically here's some characteristics so that's where we're at dave are you concerned yet is this the freaking podcast that gets us banned finally i don't know no i'm concerned at the depth that this guy is going into to explain what i think is going to be a series of behaviors that we're going to discuss that are really deep yes it's it's interesting because what he's saying is and what he says is that the military can shut out these feminine characteristics and that's not good good yeah that's what

he's about to say yeah that one of the negative characteristics of a militaristic organization is it doesn't have enough of the feminine characteristics for instance free and open mind right those are bad if you don't have those those you're in a bad bad situation so he goes on to say uh evidence of this aversion is of necessity circumstantial it embraces such phenomena so here's some things that kind of show maybe this this anti-effeminate role that you have in the military one the importance attached to such outward signs of sex role identification as hair length since

the insistence on short back and sides seems correlated with those periods in history when sexual differentiation was linked to hair length we can dismiss excuses of neatness and hygiene as rationalizations field marshal lord woolsey stated the true case when he said it is very difficult to make an englishman at any time look like a soldier he is fond of his longish hair hair is the glory of a woman but the shame of a man uh so what he's saying is listen it's not about hygiene it's not about convenience which by the way i totally disagree

with this i think having short hair is totally uh convenient low maintenance hygienic neat right that's why i have the hair that i have when my hair gets longer than three quarters of an inch which it hasn't been for a long time i i can't stand it i don't think dang i kind of look wait i'm looking like a like a woman i need to shave my head right now not even in the ballpark so dude i think he's stretching here i think he's doing a stretch in fact the other thing is how do you

make how do you bring uniformity to a person's hair you cut it off otherwise you know you have some dude with long red hair you got some other dude with curly hair you got another dude with the with uh no hair you know you got all these different hairstyles and all of a sudden we look different we're not trying to look different and you know how like when people girls hang guys by the way they have like longer hair and it starts to go in front of their face and they like whip it back right

with their head that's a that's a functionality thing i get it but it looks pretty feminine okay i'm saying what about when you see a fighter a professional fighter in the ultimate fighting championship and he has to adjust his hair while he's fighting by the way same gig right same gig it doesn't make them any less of a fighter yeah i guess technically right you got to do one more step for efficiency or whatever i guess but you know isn't that a sexual thing when girls do that like flip their hair that's like a that's

like a mating thing right i was just thinking of clay guida watching that dude fight and just like bro how do you see and he's constantly messing with his hair and it didn't seem to affect him all that much that's true and his hair was so freaking wild it was almost like a target disrupter yeah like his hair would be moving around same thing with big ass beards like how does that not throw off your punch to someone's chin when they've got a beard a big beard that's a problem i don't know if this is

true but i distinctly remember being told and i i i don't even know who told me but your hair the one of the reasons they talked about your hair being short is they don't want somebody to be able to use your hair as a as a way to manipulate your head during hand-to-hand combat you don't want to grab your head and you know so i don't remember that being like in a regulation as the explanation but being told hey if the guy can grab your hair and pull your head because your hair's too long you're

wrong that's to put you at a disadvantage you can't do that so 100 yeah my i've always my rule was just my role of me but i i will say i kind of talked to my son about this however maybe i'm wrong didn't didn't really tell my daughters this i said hey if your hair is long enough for someone to grab then that's a problem you don't want to have hair that's long enough for someone to grab i told that to my son i didn't i might have told to my daughters but i didn't enforce

it it didn't of course right so i guess i'm whatever uh uh what is that sexist yeah no you're not sexist but you know yeah what is it when you treat someone different right you discriminate a little bit yeah well whatever although i've told all i told all my daughters like hey i can take care of this problem we can shave that head i always offer my daughter's haircuts they've never said yes yeah i say i say it as a joke like i don't know if i'd want to shave my daughter's head but i told

my son the same thing i was like yeah you do want it short yeah so when you get in a fight or whatever they can't grab your head or your hair like that oh that's what it is double standard double standard double standard that's true the doubles although i didn't i gave them the option yeah but you didn't enforce it though wait did you enforce it with your son though no but i mean it kind of makes sense hey man hey so as far as your role and your level of enforcement it was the same

oh hey how they behave that's different they got different lies i get it you know but hey man no just i kind of thought i might get my middle when my middle daughter was wrestling yeah you know and going into some freaking savagery yeah they don't have a favorite wrestling no yeah or they do no they don't but still let's face it that's the principle let's face it you roll it you're you're a female wrestler and you're rolling with the [ __ ] it's kind of like thug rose right yeah yeah are we not looking

at thug rose thinking hell yeah we are we are looking at the girls even her opponent yeah she shared her last one yeah yeah she never had shaved the first time but you know my daughter would get the cornrow braids like the real tight braids right that's kind of a war mode you can't grab those by the way yeah i mean in the back yeah well if you have some kind of a ponytail sticking out the back but yeah for some reason my daughter didn't really have that they were just tight interesting well done well

isn't it the same for beard though like a big beard totally like i see a big beard and i'm like bruh yeah like it's the exact same thing yeah i look at someone with a big beard i think just handle it you must be super super double extra confident you think that someone's not gonna freaking get a wrist wrap on that bad boy and slam your head in the pavement well i feel like the beard is in a less opportune position i guess technically still very useful very useful but you know on the top of

the head that's like i'd say there's like a good level or two more control yeah it's very shocking when i see guys with long hair again you must have a lot of confidence that someone's not going to grab you and that's one of my favorite takedowns on the battlefield just grab a handful of hair and slam people down it works good bro watch the girl fights on youtube well if you have the time bro that's that's gonna be the default at some point they're just gonna grab hair and it's like they kind of nullify both

attacks when they're both grabbing hair so it's man it's like proof you know in the field yeah field proven combat scenario drunk chicks scrapping it out on youtube it's totally true it's totally true