Casually Explained: Red Flags

in dating and relationships a red flag is a small thing you notice in someone else's Behavior that's symptomatic of a bigger problem the trouble is that often times a red flag can be hard to pick up on because red flags aren't only what someone does they can also be what they don't do and some red flags are certainly worse than others so I want to start with the more mild ones and move up from there assuming you start with a blank white flag at the lowest level we have red and white flags which are just

small quirks or inconsistencies that aren't bad just kind of weird things like they don't lick the yogurt off the lid they use Internet Explorer they hold the door open for you as soon as they see you park your car or they're apologetic even if something is your fault basically if it can be explained with oh Canadian then it's probably in this category so let's get started on the serious stuff low tier red flags a low tier red flag is something that's probably bad but not necessarily a complete deal breaker they don't laugh at your jokes

um I thought this was just normal but they say if a girl doesn't laugh at your jokes she probably isn't very compatible with you if a girl is really into you though she'll likely laugh at all your jokes even if they're not very good they have a secretive past uh this depends a lot on how communicative the person is uh they might just be anxious about sharing personal details but if they have no problem talking about anything and everything except their past is either something they don't want you to know which is pretty bad or

they're a Russian spy which is pretty hot uh putting you on a pedestal that is to say they think you're way out of their league this one's OB obviously more common for guys to do to girls but it can go the other way around too imagine I was in bed with a girl just going to let that sink in um imagine I was in bed with a girl and she whispered oh my God the casually explained tell me again about how many subscribers you have of course that would be a huge turn on and I

have dreams about that but it's probably going to be a pretty one-sided relationship think of how celebrities almost always date each other even though they could be with any fan they wanted uh they have the same last name as you that's a bad sign in most places all right mid-tier red flags these are a bit more serious and are usually harder to overcome or talk about tread very carefully if you notice any of these they're a stripper uh on paper it might sound well and good but when it inevitably doesn't work out you'll realize that

from now on you can only pay for things by card worth it they don't have any Independence uh that is to say if they have no interests or Hobbies or Ambitions in their life it's likely they'll try to involve themselves in every moment of yours which will eventually weigh you down and get in the way of your goals kind of like Reddit uh they Trash Talk their ex a lot early in their relationship this is usually an indicator they're still emotionally invested in their previous partner and it can be very difficult to build a new

relationship from the rubble of an old one got that from Tumblr uh using ultimatums these are saying things like you have to do X or I'm going to do y you have to watch out though cuz that's like me saying if you don't subscribe I'm not going to be your friend which I would never say only think all right next is high tier red flags these are ones that are complete deal breakers and are pretty much always non-negotiable they're married unless you're into that uh they're already pregnant unless you're into that uh they're under 18

this isn't just a red flag it's a felony but if you do find yourself attracted to girls who are still in high school great way to get over that is to talk to one of them are they treat weight staff poorly I think being mean to other people in general is a good sign of how they're going to treat you in the future and I know that'd be hard to deal with because my self-esteem is based on what other people think of me uh if you don't like their friends people tend to be friends with

people similar to them and if someone surrounds themselves with unsavory individuals tells you a lot about that person now after a long time eventually you might find that after going on date after date or going through relationship after relationship even just after meeting a lot of new people you start to think really seems like pretty much everyone I meet has something wrong with them they don't get me they always have problems that they don't think are problems I I can't connect with them at all and why can't I find someone who's not such a disaster

this is the maximum tier red flag it's actually just you this might sound pretty bad but in a way realizing that you might be a bit more responsible than you previously thought is the first step to becoming a more wholesome person and having better relationships with other people and if you have a friend who shared this video with you now is the moment where you reflect on whether they thought you'd find it funny and interesting or if they trying to passive aggressively tell you something [Music]