Owen Cook Reveals Secrets to Elite Social Skills, Public Speaking & Communication@OwenCookSelfHelp

today I'm out here in Los Angeles USA with Owen Cook the real technique is you have to want to break out of the jail one of the world's Pioneers in Social Dynamic an expert in public speaking and communication skills you're not this loser you're not this lazy mother you're not this guy that has to whack off and off in your fuing keyboard that's not you so wake up over the years him and his team have Tau live events in over 265 cities and 75 country Nothing is Stopping them from getting their Perfect 10 girlfriend right

now it's not oh when I get a million I get my girl but I get better looking I get my girl no you get your girl in the next 2 minutes it can happen they've coached politicians celebrities Bo athletes over 100,000 people face to face and millions online I don't want to convince a girl to like me I want to date a girl who likes what I have to offer remember babita you don't have the right to the result of the action you only have the right to the action itself welcome to Iron Man lify

own thank you bro it's been a dream of mine to sit with you and just talk about these things with you that I've been seeing you you know for over a decade firstly I'm very curious like I haven't seen you doing a lot of podcasts in a while what made you sit down with me like why do you choose to do that we just had fun you know you know this is so bad but I'm I'm like an elitist for people to take action to go out so because you'll go out with me I like

you okay that's literally all it is Lally if somebody will just go out with me it's like if someone won't break bread with me I feel uncomfortable if somebody will go out with me and you know hit the club and have fun then if we have a good time that I'm happy yeah yeah I saw you do public speaking live and that's the first time I saw you do it and it was epic and it was never a moment where I felt bored or disconnected as soon as you came in the energy just took over

my sleep went away and I just kept on laughing and I was enjoying how were you able to do that okay so um I'm going to try to put this in a framework that anybody at home could benefit because I think that you're also somebody who can do this okay so you're somebody who you know we sat down and did a live broadcast for my channel and you were one of the few people I've ever seen in my life that can do all the exact same things so even though you're complimenting me you're able to

do the exact same thing too so everything you're really just asking yo how how do you do this am iow to swear here okay okay well basically you're asking is like you know how do how do you like how do you do the [ __ ] that I can do okay cuz you could do this too okay so so you could do this 100% as well okay so there's no yeah there's no question that you're doing this and we've taught a lot of the best public speakers in the world so a lot of the really

really sharp people that you see on YouTube and social media are old school clients of ours or people that we've taught and you have that same thing right it's um there was an old rap group called NWA and you know and so EAS e was one of my heroes right a lot of things they say I don't agree with but nonetheless they were they were pioneers and gangster rap and so you saw this sort of NWA tree and there was so many amazing people that came from that West Coast tree and we've seen that in

our organization as well there's a lot of amazing speakers so the thing is is that there's very specific insights that most people just never take the time to think about that will allow you to do this okay now here's what I would basically say first of all you've got to tap into something that you actually give a [ __ ] about okay so the areas that I talk about I'm passionate about it because I give a [ __ ] like even as I'm sitting here thinking about what we're going to share with your audience I'm

I'm imagining in my mind somebody s I'm thinking who it is that I'm talking to directly and I'm just starting to formulate it as you're asking the question okay and I'm imagining somebody at know maybe back in India right maybe they live in in Mumbai maybe I'm probably mispronouncing this okay but my favorite movies are bahubali and trip totally age but they actually my favorite movies but the point is like um you know they're at home maybe in New Delhi maybe in Mumbai did I pronounce that properly okay you know they're there right um maybe

they are struggling with communication right there there's a lot of different uh social dynamics that are happening in India what they're dealing with and then I'm thinking to myself maybe they struggle with communication what do what do they deal with and I'm imagining that in my mind and then I'm imagining their pain now you told me that is it called the cast system or case system cost system the cost system okay so you told me that doesn't really exist as much anymore right no it doesn't okay but there's probably still some lingering pain from that

system okay we have that here in America too there was slavery and even though we don't have slavery anymore there's still existing pain from slavery okay so the thing is is that um you know I'm imagining somebody who has the pain of maybe being lower in the cost the you know I'm imagining somebody who maybe read the babad Gita um somebody who is is U maybe who likes meditation and maybe is very spiritual but they're not getting the social results they want or they're not able to make the money that they want I'm imagining somebody

who lives in India and you know that you guys are going to be like running the whole planet soon enough especially with America wh our politics are going right so you know soon enough and you guys are on the up and up but at the same time I also know that a lot of people in India are very very poor and I understand that too although some are very rich um you know you know so I'm imagining that so I'm going into my mind and then I'm thinking about the pain of the person who it

is that I'm talking to at home and I'm thinking what could I do to help them and the more that I could imagine their pain and my discomfort with their pain the better of a job that I can do here to communicate with you now if I don't care about their pain and I'm just not thinking about it and maybe I'm just thinking about myself or whatever else then when you're talking to me rather than me having passion for what is that I'm saying my energy is going to go down and there's going to be

less of a human element in there okay and I'll be like uh yeah okay well hey bro uh you know do this or do that right it's not going to be as passionate but if I can think about that guy's suffering and the fact that I'm not okay with that guy's suffering or you know ultimately like I can't control everything but I can contribute something small and if I can focus on that that will begin to energize me so that's what I'm always thinking about is who it is that I'm talking to now you know

on the other on the other hand if I was talking to say a business owner he wants to make money you know even if it's not him in pain maybe he wants to make more money that's a legitimate thing to want to make more money so maybe I'm thinking how to help him make more money if I'm thinking of a woman that I'd want to date that I'm thinking thoughts like she's bored she wants to meet a guy who's fun a guy who's confident and then I kind of speak into that if I'm talking to

somebody who's depressed I speak into that it doesn't matter who I'm speaking to the first layerers I think to myself well who am I speaking to cool now the next thing is that I'm a huge fan of the bab bagita so you know we've got it right there right over there okay so I love the da of Jing I love the babad Gita and I love the Bible and I love the Power of Now by Carle but the babag Gita really really changed my life by teaching we have to focus on the process um we

only have the right to the process and the um the action itself not the fruit of the action so as I'm sitting here one part of me is thinking about the pain or the concerns or the Ambitions or dreams of somebody who's watching back in India and then another thing I'm doing is I'm trying to be present to the moment and just enjoy the process itself like even as we're speaking now I feel it's like you know we're kind of talking across from each other a little bit and we're kind of trying to make it

good and like make it like look way and the more that we can get silly or ridiculous or be idiots just be a bunch of idiots and be playful and have fun with it and get present with it with that underlying driver that we care about the people at home that's going to bring a lot of great presentation and then there's the techniques on top of that but that would be the foundation of it so it's basically you're you thinking about the people and feeling it and feeling it and actively being empathetic to and being

present with it but then there's a lot of things about your voice and your energy and how you're able to go on and how you're able to project that voice which are a bit more practical could you touch on those topics and I want to go there in fact I was going to I just want to give a chance to talk I can talk this whole thing want even be a podcast I'll just be talking okay so that's the underlying Foundation of it which is basically I'm envisioning the pain I'm being present with it and

that's driving me to see what's going to come out so that's going to make it connect and that's what's going to make it human okay and I have to get out of my own way it's not about me it's not about you it's about that person at home and what they're going to get from it okay so that's the underlying Foundation because I can show you the technique but without that it's just somebody who's who's soulless yeah you know or maybe who needs an outcome like the B with teach against rather than being you know

in the moment even even the movie just to jump in uh movies like Triple R or movies like Baho Bal are some of my favorite movies if not my favorite movies EP um they're so epic right and people in America don't even know about them and we watch them up on we've got a big movie theater here and we watch them and we laugh and we bring friends over watch these things and the thing is like that was created My View From Joy like think about the scene with like where they're doing all the dancing

in Triple R where where like the Indian and and they're having so much fun you can't replicate that like like you know that's that's a um you can't make that from a technique you have to really be having fun you have to really want to engage the audience it comes from sincerity or authenticity okay now that's the basis is authenticity caring giving a [ __ ] being present having only the action and the joy of the dance in mind not just the outcome of the action okay and there's a tension between wanting to help but

being very very present and then and then kind of pulling that tension okay now that's cool very theoretical a bit abstract now let's go technique okay the first one that I'm going to show is vocal projection now unfortunately the what what happens at home if you're at home you're watching this the microphone caps how loud we can get okay so like you could have someone who's just talking very quiet like right now if I just talk like that it probably doesn't sound that much different I'm like that's the the microphone will adjust and make it

sound the same okay but in a room I will often speak to up to 500 people without I have a mic connected to the camera to record it but the mic is not connected to any speakers even if I have speakers I might use them on the last day but I will bounce my voice off the walls like an opera singer yeah so that's why in my videos like you'll see me like really using a lot of power in the videos um you know a lot of public speakers are kind of like hey like more

like say a Jordan Peterson hey how's it going you know so on and so forth but I like to be what's called a pure form or what I call in my mind a pure form tradition orator okay so say back in you know way back in the day in Greece when you know the beginning of democracy and things like that if they're presenting their case you know to a couple 100 people they would have to know how to communicate without speakers yeah so for and it's also because I like to teach social skills like going

out to parties going out to clubs so I do it for that reason as well because it's a part of your Club you don't have speakers you don't have a mic true so I do it for that reason too so I do it for that reason but I also believe that people have to learn to project because honestly if you go out to say a party or a bar or a club or even somewhere in the day that a lot of are having fun it's the person who is the most free who's going to get

the most attention that's my experience right so we have this weight on us okay a lot of weight and you know in China I think a lot of that weight also comes from a lot of the collectivism in Japan as well and to some extent in India as well like here in America it's more about individualism in the East it's a little bit more about collectivism and I think America could learn a lot from the East which I have and then Al and we need that for uh things like Eastern philosophy you know Alan Watts

brought brought that back back here back in the 70s but also Bruce Lee um but also I think that the the East could learn a lot from America in terms of individualism okay so if you're just like okay well you know I'm just part of like this like larger social order and I have to kind of like keep my head down and I can't be a big winner here in America okay in Canada a little bit we don't we don't [ __ ] around that [ __ ] okay it's like we're going the top baby

okay you know so we walk into any environment we're loud we're obnoxious and again I know that might not sit well in the East but I'm just sharing a little bit of Western from the West yeah loud noxious having fun you know maybe there's someone there who you're very attracted to you're going to go talk to them you're going to go on a date with them no question okay no question okay you're not like oh it's it's them I'm scared no no no no no no no none of that okay it's like you know that

like like you feel good about yourself you love yourself you want to share that with the world you know that you have a gift you know that you can be a multi-millionaire easily it's not hard to become a multi-millionaire it's really not people say oh it's hard to become mul no it's not it's hard to be [ __ ] broke okay being broke is hard being rich is easy okay just F put down Tik Tok for a minute stop looking at [ __ ] start studying some [ __ ] marketing start starting some business if

I people say oh it's hard to be it's hard to be poor I'll look in their feed let's look let's actually look and audit what the last 100 hours of content that they watch was was it about how to make money or was it them having a diversion okay what were they really doing let's look at their actions what they're doing is it about making money or is it about a diversion okay so it's about having that self-esteem that value that you love your you love the world and you want to help the world but

you also want to help yourself too and you're you're someone deserving of love and of respect and of success and knowing that you're worth it and also knowing that being broke is the most selfish thing in the world because what being broke means is not that you weren't greedy what being broke means is that you don't put most of your thinking into how to help other people because if you're thinking about how to help other people and what's actually of value to them and then how to monetize that and then how by getting money you

can actually make a better Serv and a better experience for that for those other people right that's called giving okay and you can get paid too because you have to give to yourself as well so part of communication is like you're here you're proud of yourself you feel good about yourself you've got something to offer you know that you're cool and so you're going to make sure that you can be heard you want to be heard right you see someone that you're attracted to you want to talk to them you want to be heard you

know you go up you say hi you want to be heard you're confident you have something to share if they're not into it that's totally okay leave them alone say have a great night and move on but some people will like it and it's the same thing with this video some people will get the message some won't that's okay we're just speaking the people that will get the message the people who don't that's okay that's why there's a million channels and there's millions of people and not everybody has to like totally resonate that's fine but

you're speaking directly to the people who resonate and you're like look if that person would like me and we would have a connection I don't want to force a connection I don't want to force a vibe that isn't there but if there is a connection if there is a Vibe I want them to have the chance to get to meet me that's vocal projection that's you actually being [ __ ] heard that's you out of that party like we had a huge party here was like a Dan buaran kind of party right that we had

going here in the Hollywood Hill yeah probably best party in all of Los Angeles on Saturday or uh Friday night so you know if we're going to have that party it's like we want to have fun we're going to we're and it's going to be loud and we want to project our voice and we want to be heard okay so the more that you want to be heard people can feel that you want to be heard they're like this person this person likes themselves and then they want me to hear them they want they want

uh me to engage with them there's like a an energy transfer between the people so when I was just chatting with you guys at the end of the party I just want you guys to have fun like I want I I care about you guys I I love you guys I care about you guys I want you guys to have fun I want you to hear my message I have a message to share so that's it's the projection and the caring and then so it's caring about let's review caring about the person who you're talking

about and wanting to engage them but not having like a need for them to like you right but caring about them and then they they can take it or not that's up to them but you're not forcing it but you care a lot and and having active empathy um being present to the moment and just letting allowing yourself to just channel the vibe and feel good and whatever comes out comes out again I go to bars and clubs all the time I have a very active social life active dating life and I'm just I'm not

thinking what I'm going to say just whatever comes out comes out we're having fun it is what it is I'll be respectful but we're having fun okay and then from there um vocal projection which is a natural building block on top of that that people can hear you because you want to be here you care about them you're present at the moment so you're not because when you're not present at the moment you're stuck inside your head it's like you're like thinking too much and then your voice starts to tighten up and you can't project

your voice and you get nervous right but when you're free and just present your voice will open up and then people can hear you and that will also make you get hurt now if you want to add a touch onto that but I'd like to get more of your questions yeah you can use shift and Cadence right right you can shift your Cadence um you could do stretch shotgun so you go hey how are you or you going to go hey hey how are you right you can you can shift it so shotgun staccato um

you can you can look at things like the the tone of like talking up or talking down you know things like that you play like an instrument staccato would be like if I'm talking like this stretch would be if I'm talking like this and you and you play it and it's an instrument you can tighten it you can lengthen it so now you have projection you have energy you have active empathy you're present to the moment right channel in my belief we Channel God Be by being PR to the moment that's what's so important about

the Bhagavad Gita we connect to God by being press to the moment go we we summon the spirit of God to act through us when we get present to the moment which which is contagious and people are drawn to that because people are drawn to God's creation and we're not God but we are you know a creation of God and we can channel that energy by being present to the moment that's why it's so so important so when you're doing this um people get addicted on it and again like I will always be fully myself

which means as a of that I'm going to connect very very deeply with the people who the message is me for and then it's going to quickly put push away the people that the message is not meant for like there'll be people watching this now that are like oh finally someone's sharing this message I've been waiting to hear this message my whole life and there'll be other people like I don't know what the [ __ ] this guy is talking about this doesn't help me this is stupid why is this even a thing why people

watch this and that's when you know you're winning because if everybody likes it you've had to dumb it down like a politician I'm not trying to be a politician and and you know get the get the center of the of the left for people like do say that I'm dating a I don't want toce like me I want to date a girl who likes what I have to offer who thinks I'm cool I don't want to have to ultra myself so that she thinks that I'm cool I want to meet a girl who thinks that

I'm cool right like us talking you know we get along well well guess what I don't I don't I want to be around people like you I don't want to be around people that are like oh this sucks I want to let them be around the people that they're meant to be around I'm cool to talk to them if they want to talk but I'm not trying to persuade them and have need for their approval or their acceptance to know who I am because we know who we are through God by being present to the

moment by anchoring ourselves in the action not in the fruit yeah needing other people to like you is being addicted to the outcome right just loving the joy of the dance that's a more spiritual place that's a more powerful Foundation to be coming from True um what what do you say to people like I've got clients most of the time they come up to me and they're like bro I have a huge problem with vocal tonality I cannot talk loud or or they're like girls can't hear me when I talk to them or like whenever

I talk to people I'm I'm scared so why is that and and and then they ask me for exercises like we do those I can't I can't talk loud what do you what do you say to those people okay so first of all we got a lot of exercise so we're we're happy to give that to you now I'm going to give an unconventional take here I always like to give something where you didn't hear this in any other self-help thing so you know if you want I you know I love Tony Robbins I've been

I've been to almost every self-help seminar on the market okay I don't care who it is they're either my friends or I've been to their seminar or both okay I love all personal growth seminars so you want me to give standard personal growth SE or seminar answer I'll be like you know you got to love yourself and you know know what your values are you know something basic right so I want to give you something I always like to give something that is more like a thought experiment where it kind of throws a curveball at

you and I'm saying this I don't really a lot of these things that I say I don't really mean it I'm saying it as more of a parable to make you think okay so I'm going to say something that I don't really mean but I kind of mean but I don't fully mean and I'm saying this to get you to think okay so the thing that I'm going to say I'm going to I'm going to say a lot things like this in today okay so I I like to make the audience think okay so this

is not good content for people that can only take it to the surface okay but for someone who can think a bit deeper maybe can help so the thing that I like to say that's kind of unconventional is I say you need to be more negative and you need to hate yourself more now I just said to love yourself right so what is he saying right but you got to start to hate yourself and you got to be more negative and you have to be more cynical and more pessimistic and hate yourself now obviously I

don't really believe that but I say that as a thought experiment to get you thinking okay here's what I mean so what I really believe is that people that are scared they're not as negative as I am okay so in other words I hate being broke okay I [ __ ] hate being broke yeah I [ __ ] hate not having a good dating life like I don't know about you but like have you ever had it like you have a lovely lovely significant other right now amazing I'm so proud of you right but can

you imagine not having her and you know how crass can I be her can I be very crass okay this is an adult podcast imagine that instead of having your lovely partner you're just at home masturbating all day you know shooting [ __ ] all over stomach and you know jerking off can be a little bit fun but imagine you know you're jerking off to porn all day Imagining the love your life stomach's covered in C keyboard is just covered in [ __ ] and it's like no matter how many times you masturbate you're just

covered in your own cub and angry okay and I hate that okay I don't like that I think a lot of guys they don't hate it enough they don't [ __ ] hate it enough they're just like well it's not that bad right and then they smoke weed they process food they work a shitty job and they make themselves [ __ ] numb so the very first thing you have to do is if you're scared bro it's cuz you don't [ __ ] hate it enough I'm not scared at all because what I'm scared of

is being covered in my own [ __ ] with my keyboard getting broken and having to take it to the repair shop and knowing that the repair guy is going to know that there's crusted come in the [ __ ] keyboard and that he's going to go oh I know what this was and I'm like hey it's dry bro don't worry you won't get pregnant from it bro and like like that's what scares me being lonely having to hug my pillow being broke eating shitty processed foods because I can't AFF good food living in some

shitty [ __ ] house I hate that that scares me that scares the [ __ ] out of me bro and I and I came up broke I look like this cuz I came up [ __ ] broke [ __ ] that you got to start to hate that [ __ ] okay hate it hate it and then what'll happen is when you hate it then you're motivated not to be in that spot likewise you got to start to have more limiting belief like bro if you think that you could be scared to go talk

to somebody man you must have a lot of confidence in yourself bro you're actually a pretty confident [ __ ] if you believe that you could just be afraid to talk to people man you must be [ __ ] more confident than me because I'm not confident I think that if I allowed myself to be afraid to go talk to people if I allowed that to [ __ ] happen then my life would be [ __ ] and I'm terrified that look if I if if I put like a sword up at your neck and

I was like look you got to go talk or you're going to die you wouldn't be afraid anymore right because so you you care more about talking to someone than the sword of your neck I believe there is a sword at my neck I believe that if I don't go talk to people that I won't get the networking connections peer groups that I need look just talking to you this week yeah let me say something okay I want you to listen to me carefully okay just meeting you this week made me 20 or $30 million

over the course of my career no question does that shock you yeah I mean how it shouldn't [ __ ] shock you bro do you really believe that by meeting you I'm not going to make 20 or $30 million extra over the course of a 30-year career are you saying that meeting you I can't make an extra million [ __ ] dollars over the course I can't make a million year extra to my business maybe w't pocket it because I'll put it back in my business I like cycle it back in my but I wouldn't

make a million dollars extra from having met you I could I could literally sit here make this whole podcast just from hanging out with you all the things that I [ __ ] learned because I'm a very appreciated person thank you bro for meeting me man okay okay thank you okay and I'm not just sitting here [ __ ] I'm here I'm here as I'm going to talk [ __ ] here I'm talk a lot of [ __ ] but I'm in my regular life I don't just talk [ __ ] like here I'm an

active listener I want to learn from you I want to see your Vibe your energy how you think um you've already told me a lot of things about YouTube that I'm T taking note of sometimes too it's not just that you told me some secret trick it's the person who said it to you the person who connected with you the person who was able to get it in your head you were the guy that was able to get that into my head okay so you were the guy who was able to get that in my

head maybe maybe some of my other friends that that I have big YouTube channels could also got in my head but somehow you did maybe because you went out with me I just like guys that will go out me nobody wants to go out they don't want to leave their [ __ ] house bro I want to be in nature I want to go out I want to have fun [ __ ] staying at home [ __ ] staying at home like like Ser that's how I am okay I want to do we're saying home

we're doing a party we're having fun we're doing a podcast I'm not sitting here crying and masturbating my keyboard and crying my [ __ ] life I'm going out so I want to go out I want to have fun I want to learn from my friends so I know that if I don't meet someone like you it's going to [ __ ] my life up that's what scares me bro people say they're scared they need to get a more they're too confident they're like oh my life will be okay no your life's not going to

be okay bro your life's not going to be okay okay having come all over you being lonely being broke being ruined having your life [ __ ] that's not okay so okay and so understand we could all be spiritual look I'm going Avid meditator if look I just came I was in a wheelchair for 4 months I've only been walking for the past 2 three weeks yeah okay when I was in that wheelchair I didn't know if I'd ever walk in I had ski accident okay I love skiing I'll ski again but I got in

that wheelchair I still went out I went out to the club I still did parties i s an active very very active dating life was a lot of fun met a lot of amazing people who I dat during that time i' being we being better like like I had like a piss bottle I had to piss in a piss bottle bro you know in this [ __ ] wheelchair I'm like baby I you know I I have to piss in the bottle go baby could you please throw out the piss you know maybe someone who

you just met baby please throw the piss like that was my life bro but even when I was in a wheelchair I accepted maybe I'll never walk if I know that I can never walk again I'll become very present to the moment I'll meditate I'll be at peace when I was in that ambulance in excruciating pain I I took minimal painkillers I stayed in a good mood and I'm not going to let that ruin my day just hey bro just cuz you broke your leg because I had a I have more metal in my leg

now than [ __ ] bone at this point okay okay but the point is like um just because you got hurt doesn't mean you can't have a great day it hurts but it's still a day of your life it's a day your life you'll never forget so if I'm in a position that I can't control something then I will meditate I will accept it I will be present and I will use that pain to deepen me being present to the moment like they sh babad Gita y okay so if that's where you're at and like

you really have no control and you're really just a [ __ ] idiot and you're really just so stupid that there's nothing that you can do to fix your life there's nothing you can do there's nothing you're [ __ ] that's it you're just that dumb you're just the most you're that one in a billion people that has no control no agency you're not at the cause of your life you're just at the effect you're just a [ __ ] loser then fine be present with it accept your fate because bro someday I'll be 85

years old if I live that long yeah and I'll meditate and that'll be my life okay and I meditate now but we're young now bro we have Vitality we have life we have joy we have expansion I want to you know i' I've drove the whole country bro I've driven this whole country several times I've been every National Park every skill every Club every every [ __ ] restaurant bro you know had a fun dating life met my my city crushes F crushes right you know built a bus I've got children bring my kids with

me everywhere my kids are with me all the time I want to live man I want to [ __ ] live it's short bro it's short don't you want to live so it's like what are you afraid of bro live be afraid of death most people are dead by 30 spiritually their body just their body is a Walking Corpse that just walks around and goes oh here going to work going to smoke my weed going to masturbate do what I'm going to do [ __ ] that bro okay like if you truly have no control

cuz you're 85 fine sit on the Park Bench meditate reflect on your life beautiful some people in India I think they do that right in the last part of their life they just kind of yeah go into spirituality that's beautiful I would love to do that yeah I'd love for you to find me on the streets at 82 in some Rags just like just present like just in the now getting ready for the next Dimension you know right and that could be my life and then you know you'd see me now in a big yellow

jacket yelling and they'd go oh he's so different he's older and just be in the zone I saw Ron do before who ROM dos is I met him before he died I met at Carle and you know ROM dos you know I came up to ROM and he was in a wheelchair and I started saying uh different things from his books um that I that I that inspired me and he and he just looked at me like I'm a [ __ ] idiot and he was like I love you and he was just he was

in he was in the zone right he's like I love you so good to meet you and I I want to speak intellectually to him but he was at the end of his life he didn't care about that when I'm older I'm not going to be in I hope I'm not going to be intellectual maybe I will be who knows right I'm kind of crazy but you know like I want to just be present I want be at peace I want to be in non-resistance I want to accept what's happening and just be so present

and go on a spiritual journey deep inside myself okay and that's going to be so cool and I'm looking forward to that and that's for the end of your life bro that's the end of your life but it's not when you're 25 bro yeah unless unless you're like a spiritual Guru and that's like you know you were born as like that unique spiritual Guru you're in some some some uh Village somewhere and that's a gift that you've been given from God but if you're I'm not I don't have that like EXT you know I'm a

spiritual person but I'm not you know a spiritual Guru right so I'm a regular guy so I could learn from a spiritual gur but I'm a regular guy so I want to live my life my my spirituality is you know being up in the mountains of Montana being being up in an airplane in Denali in Alaska with my kids out in the ocean with my children with whales going by showing my children the world you know showing my you know my my son Tristan he was he was four years old he said Daddy I love

whales I said let's go see a whale jumped in in a plane saw showed him a whale the next day yeah that's how I want my kids to live their life right I want them to to have joy to have experiences I want I want my viewers to have experience that people take my course to to have experiences think all the experiences just from like this kind of philosophy that you would have had just in the past 10 years just by taking in a little piece of this and how it changed your life well people

also Chang my life I have the people who changed my life you've changed my life we all change each other's lives right the the viewers that are watching this change my life by bringing this out of me and making me want to serve them so enjoy your life don't [ __ ] not being confident [ __ ] being afraid [ __ ] fear [ __ ] fear you should be afraid of dying before you die you know what I'm saying you should be afraid of your body being this emptied out [ __ ] husk and

not enjoying it and bro this is real this is how I live this is not some [ __ ] that I turn on and then I just go back and I just jerk off in my basement okay like not that I'm oppose that you know could have always have a good jerk but I'm just making the point like like I'm not a noof fapper but I'm Mak the point like that's not all that I do right I live like this I want to have fun stop being afraid be afraid of what you're going to miss

out on this is your life bro wake the [ __ ] up that's what I would say to somebody that has fear there's no technique bro it's it's it's not a technique like um wiggity wagged woo the fear is gone bro or hypnosis or something that could be cool too maybe I don't know but what I'm saying is like it's a way of being it's who you are it's your joy your passion your your desire to serve your desire to add value loving yourself loving other people going to see them like this is how I

go out this how I think about social confidence in public speaking that was that was crazy and this won't be for everybody right there's people this will be over people's heads yeah but that's okay you know why cuz there's a million people who can go oh here uh do this or say this and I have courses like that too but I want to show something that you can't get somewhere else you know so like you know if you want me to show you the basics like step one do this or step two do that we

can do that I've got I've got friends that are coaches to do that but I want to show you something unique to my experience I want to give your audience something a little bit different true true um so now about communication and like Charisma when we talk about or like social skills we talk about one very big limiting belief or like one hindrance that people have is that I don't have the money or I'm not tall enough or I'm not good-look or I don't have the six-pack abs yeah um and and when we teach people

about confidence that's the first thing we get them to do we get them to hit the gym and we get them to dress well because yeah because I feel like Indians are anywh coming from a deficit they haven't they don't have General social skills that are built in the west because the culture is a bit different so it becomes a culture shock that's why they got to go meet up with you if they don't have the [ __ ] social skill stop not having the social skill and go meet you in [ __ ] person

yeah yeah and then but then at the same time you're completely completely opposed to that and and you're very passionate about whenever you talk about that so why why is that like like break it down me here's why because okay there's a book called levels of energy by Fred Dawson okay amazing book yeah levels of energy Frederick Dawson now any book that I recommend doesn't mean I have to agree with all of it okay he talks about space aliens and Angels I'm not saying it didn't happen but I'm just you know don't be like thinking

I believe that by default who knows world's a crazy place so um what he talks about is that the there's a different message for every single person at a different level of energy okay so one of the lowest levels of energy is what's and there's another book uh called power power versus Force by by David R Hawkings same idea I actually am a little bit partial to the Fred dots and levels of energy but I like power versus force a lot too and again I don't you don't have to agree with everything in it okay

so the thing is is that um what he would say is that there's a different message for every single different person okay so like a lot of the way that I communicate is energetically so what I'm saying is not as important as the energy that I'm coming from but somebody who's not at a level of energy that they can receive that message that's not going to connect with them okay so somebody at a lower level of apathy um for them they're they're below even depression right they just don't want to do anything so if you

can just get them to go lift some weights or maybe improve their clothes what that's going to show is they're begin to give a [ __ ] okay they're coming out of apathy so if you're dealing with people that are in apathy I think anything that shows sign of self- Lov or self respect I think is very very powerful okay now let's talk brass tax though as far as dating okay you're going to talk dating okay so I live in a several million dollar um several million dollar mansion in the Hollywood Hills you're sitting in

it right now yeah um aichi used to live here Testo has lived here um the guy who runs um what's that music thing in Vegas the Big celebration uh EDC in Vegas um has lived here um I pick this place to do parties actually I specifically pick this place to do parties okay so I live in a huge mansion right now I'm wearing this watch is you know depending on the market is anywhere from 70,000 to1 140,000 have a green dial Rolex Daytona okay now this watch here okay as a watch or this house here

is not enough to have a successful dating life in Los Angeles okay of itself why why is that because I've got a big house with a nice well you can't see the view tonight because it's foggy out but I've got a big house but the women that I date have been to Giant Estates they've been to Estates like if you want to see real wealth I mean yeah I'm like I'm like new money like I can I can buy a 100K watch or you know get a house worth a couple million bucks by the way

with watches you can resell them you you never really pay for it okay they they usually go up in value anybody like oh I paid 100 grand for a watch you could just flip it and resell watch watches usually will keep their value okay so it's it's never as cool as it sounds but anyway the point being is it's not like like you've been out with me did any girl recognize what this watch was no I every single time is don't know what it is Watchers know what it is I do get approach cuz watch

by men I've had many guys come up to me Rich guys who I want to network with so I like to wear bling to network with rich men and you don't need that to to network with rich men because I've had clients that are billionaires or have a couple hundred million bucks they don't have a watch okay so you don't have to do that but it's it's a quick way you know if you've got a nice watch you know you're out you see another guy who has a nice watch go oh cool what you get

oh I got this dial I got this you can Network a little bit same thing you have a Lamborghini you can actually go to like private events like for for people that bought Lamborghini you can network with other people that bought a Lambo so these are more networking tools for clients for rich men but again having social skills I mean I've done networking and had multimillion doll clients before I had a watch or Lamborghini so none of that really you don't have to have it but it's like a cool little thing to have if you

want but as far as your dating life first of all no girl knows what a watch is second of all um or they or they might know the most basic Rolex like date just or something but they don't really know what it is second of all it looks like you're compensating okay it looks like you're you're trying to compensate and self- qualify but here's another thing too this house the girls that I date have been to bigger houses they've just been to bigger houses yeah it it does and and again I've also done dating when

I'm 22 years old living in a hotel with six guys I meet somebody special and we'll just sit there in the bathroom joking around while my while five of my friends are in the other room on the floor you know and who knows what'll happen like that I just leave the sink running to cover the noise you know so um I've been having success like I'm 44 now I've run a business for many years and I'm here to teach people how to make money so anything that I say is just to try to piss you

off to try to get you to want to go make money I'm saying that for that purpose but they don't really understand what money is and what they do understand is charisma they understand social skills but the reason that I don't like teaching guys for looks and money is no matter how much I lift weights I will never be good-looking enough to outcompete the men that have better genetics than I do and I know that sounds bad but you have to understand we you and I go and we demolish these guys we destroy these guys

you and I were out the other night and Destroy These Guys these guys were no competition every night that we go out right cuz like you're sitting here and because here's the thing that you don't understand okay in your mind you're like I'm dressed cool look at this what you don't understand is they don't know what that is bro they don't know what the watch is they don't know what the bling is they don't they don't know um they don't know what's going on they're emotional so you will never be good-looking enough that you're dating

the that you want from your looks I will never be good-looking enough to date the woman that I want just from my looks you will probably in your lifetime never be rich enough to compete with the richest guys here in La okay look I've had it where I have a I have like a small yacht in Miami and girls come on it and they go H this is boring I was on a mega yacht earlier today if I don't entertain them they get off like you could have you could have a house worth like $5

million they don't care you could have a watch withth 100 Grand they don't care you could have a boat worth a couple million they don't care you could be very very very very fit they don't care because are you going for the best the best what are you going for yeah because if you're going for the best the best they've seen the best so you're never going to compete when you're competing from 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 nine 10 you're still and here's the main key okay because I know I'm losing

your audience right now they're getting mad they don't believe me I understand that don't worry about the fact that I've gone out four nights a week for 22 years don't worry about my dating history don't worry about his dating history don't worry what we've done just stick you know my uncle hit the gym and he killed it bro he met Nancy but okay but don't worry about the fact that we split test this for 22 years don't worry about that don't worry about the fact that I teach courses where I'll take you out and show

you right in front of you or posted videos showing this for decades but don't worry about that don't worry that we created an industry showing this don't worry about that I know You' got your opinion okay and that's okay that's the cool thing about life we can all have our opinion okay they call that the Dunning Krueger effect you can look that up but anyway so okay duning Krueger look that up so what it is is that to if you're trying to date the most attractive women in the world and you think that like if

you're a male model like you're just you're a 6'4 male model and that's going to be your approach like that's how you're going to meet them then yes if you were born rich and you have an estate you've got a giant estate then yeah throw parties and that can be good enough but most 99% of the people that are watching this are never going to be maale models they're not going to be oding an estate so at that point they've got to extricate themselves from the 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

10 cycle and they've got got to become what I say is one of one one of one okay so remove yourself from being uh 7 8 9 10 you've got to become one of one so you've got to become something that there is no competition there's no competition okay so if you look at at my presentation how I'm talking to you what I've done is I've alienated about 80% of your audience actively I've made 80% of your audience go who the [ __ ] is this guy only because you know me maybe they'll be open-minded

but if they didn't know me they they'd be like this guy's loud mouth he's [ __ ] crazy but you're going to see a small number of people it'll be very small but they're going to say who this guy's awesome where the [ __ ] he been all my life that is who I'm looking to reach now I'll tell you why because you're going to have people that will come on your podcast okay and they're going to dumb themselves down and nobody's going to give a negative comment yeah but nobody's going to buy from them

because I am communicating authentically I will penetrate and Pierce their reality deeply enough that even if it's only one in a thousand of your viewers they're going to come pay me money and they're going to come be my clients because I was honest because I didn't hold back because I didn't go for everybody's approval and I said no I don't care about them [ __ ] all those people that we don't care about I wish them the best I'm not trying to you know think bad of them I wish them the best I care about

you and I will be fully myself to help you I will give 100% authenticity of who I am warts at all to you I care about you and only you so what I'm looking is if that's the size of the audience I'm trying to find that little sliver of people I want to be fully fully fully who I am 100% yeah 100% And then from there I want to connect with those people because those are the people that are not just going to go oh um nice meeting you um that was fun yeah maybe they

didn't reject you but they didn't become your girlfriend I want to meet that girl who she thinks that that my weird quirky unique personalities are such a breath of fresh air she's like finally I'm sick of these like six or four Rich guys with washboard abs they think they're the [ __ ] and the weird thing is that when you don't give a [ __ ] and you place no value at all on these rich guys or these Jack guys okay and look I wish them the best men of my clients okay I love everybody

but I'm just saying that like if you stop being addicted to their approval then in a weird way you almost make them look kind of dumb you actually make them look like they're trying too hard it's like why can't you just have fun why can't you just be yourself like why do you have to sit there all day miserable building this business that makes that makes you hate your life instead of having fun why do you have why do you have to sit there like just like literally like like you can't even eat a [

__ ] carb okay look if it's for health reasons to live longer amazing but if it's because of your vanity unless you're a professional male model why can't why can't you eat a slice of pizza bro and if it's for health then then amazing or energy then amazing I don't really have trouble with energy but this is me with no caffeine okay um but it's like why can't you just have fun bro so what happens is like all get to a table and and and this really happens by the way this happens all the time

and I'll be at a table I'll get invited there by by my promoter friends at a highend club and there'll be a dude there who's like you know six for full head of hair super jacked probably on trt testosterone replacement therapy and and I'll go to his table that guy's super rich and I sit down and there's a lot of music going so me being kind of loud really works there and me having fun kind of works there and I'm just being a bit of an idiot I'm joking around I'm having fun I'm giving him

a noie what's up bro you know right we're having fun and then all the attention goes on me and that guy sitting there dis table he's like I thought that if I just worked and hit the gym until I was like 50 that finally I'd have the money and a girl would like me and then I just come in like an idiot having fun and then I get all the attention and that's what you'll understand is that you've been living in in what I call the cont and this all comes back to babad Gita by

the way yeah they're living in the control muscle they need to control everything rather than just letting go release remember bab bagita you don't have it's paraphrase you don't have the right to the result of the action you only have the right to the action itself so go [ __ ] all this like comparing yourself to other people not think you have enough money look make money look I like money for me for my children for you for my clients I do free think about this okay I do free events all over the world I'm

about to go do a free event leaving tomorrow okay to Chicago okay so I do free I I literally do completely you go to www. selfhelp freetour.com that's not mean promoting anything because it's [ __ ] free so you want you want a free event completely for free selfelf freedo.com go hit it up maybe the address will change in the future look it up totally free events I do free Zoom calls all the time I I spend Millions a year on free events free zooms uh free videos we shoot beautiful highly produced videos all over

the world outside social skills videos seminar videos I record the free events I put them out for free I pay my staff a ton of money I take my kids everywhere I share I love helping the world but I care about money to do that okay I haven't been sick in 13 years because I like taking Eastern herbs you guys have a beautiful tradition of Eastern herbs in India if if someone's from India watching this they should actually embrace that they should embrace their culture Baho Bali baby Triple R baby you know babag Eastern herbs

beautiful beautiful traditional herbs spiritual systems and these are not cheap all the time maybe in India they are don't know but here they're not and so you know I like to invest in mentors I take courses with mentors I like I I have a big house so I can host all my friends I host parties that's what money's for I care about money so that I can give more to other people and so I because I have because you have to remember you want to give to other people and not be selfish but you also

want to give to yourself and you're someone who deserves to be given to as well you should hope that other people get rich you should cheer for other people getting rich if it's the wrong way then no but if it's adding value then yes and the thing is and and because they got rich because they added value to other human beings okay they added value to others so people paid them for that but you shouldn't care about money to get a girl bro come on bro like I said it to you the other day I'm

like hey how come you don't have watch you know what you said to me you go I am 10 I am 10 right and even I felt like taking the watch off and throwing it out at the thing right I am 10 and I said no bro you're not 10 you're one and one baby one and one baby [ __ ] so when you sit down and look I I'm not I don't train people to be me I have my own quirky ways that I am maybe they're very chill like because sometimes people say I

don't want to be high en like Owen no no maybe they're chill I if you're chill I want you to be chill if you're high energy I want you to be high energy I want you to to speak your truth and to be your truth and to say [ __ ] all this like needing money needing to look a certain way bro you got to understand you will never be good-look enough to get the highest quality wom in the unless you're a male model you'll never be rich enough to just use money to get the

highest level to get the highest level women in the world unless you just do look Dan bullar is a friend of mine okay Dan is Rich but he deployed that money and used that money in a very specific way that most rich guys would never think to do it okay so he used that money a specific way but guess what bro I've run parties just as expensive as Dan has run maybe even more expensive because I used to live with my old buddy Big Mike and Big Mike uh his business makes about 300 million a

year and he just thinks I'm cool so he wound up inviting me to live with him cuz he think s cool and then we would run million dollar million dollar per party parties and we were competing with the Playboy Mansion for best party in La now the party that we ran here was only five or 10 grand and we do a great party like that too but a million dollar party is fun too I I'll maybe uh talk to you about the million dollar party later but we'll go there okay but the point being is

that do whatever you want but like in the same way yeah I can I can meet someone at a million dollar party I can meet someone at a $10,000 party I can meet somebody on the [ __ ] Street I can meet somebody the [ __ ] grocery store I can meet somebody a bar club I can meet somebody when I'm in a different city I can meet people anywhere because at the end of the day bro be you be your [ __ ] self and when you and you have to understand the reason that

I have high energy I wasn't wired like this I'm 44 years old I got a Gray beard I'm getting older the more that you be yourself you get so much energy that your hands almost start shaking and you need to discharge the energy because so much energy is wasted by being someone you're not yeah right you're like well I need to get approval do they validate me do I have enough money am I good-looking enough and it kills your energy it kills your humor it kills your energy like my son Dylan could immediately be a

public speaker with no training from me because I love him so much I love all my children so much that I give them so much love that they've never felt like they're not good enough so I can bring my kids in front of a crowd and they're better public speakers than anyone in the room as adults because they haven't been ruined yet by all the looks and money [ __ ] so when you're teaching looks and money I love that you're teaching that for your audience because there's people that are apathetic they don't care about

themselves right they don't care about themselves so that will get them to care about themselves and stop being pathetic and and to take some [ __ ] action and get some momentum and to knock down some small wins and that's great and for that reason I'm glad that you teach them to do that as long as they understand that nothing and I mean [ __ ] Nothing is Stopping them from getting their Perfect 10 girlfriend right now nothing is stopping them it's not oh when I get a million I get my girl when I get

better looking I get my girl no you get your girl in the next two minutes it can happen won't happen automatically but it can absolutely happen the next 2 minutes if you would just start being yourself and what would happen is when you stop caring what people think think and operating from a paradigm of needing the outcome and go back to the bhabat Gita about embracing the joy of the dance embracing the action itself and finding your identity by being connected to God then what would happen is you'd have you would stand out you'd have

so much energy you'd be so different you'll say this some people might like you some people might hate you but they'll never have seen someone like you because you're being truly yourself and those people that can't be themselves are [ __ ] cowards okay they're [ __ ] cowards and what I'd say to them and I'm mean about it cuz I want change [ __ ] being a coward be yourself starting [ __ ] now and when you do that what you're going to find is you're going to get you're going to get pres of

the moment and it will be like you're you're in the Baba Gita you're you're it's like a feeling almost like of Enlightenment I'm not saying I'm enlight I'm not okay I got my Petty moments but I'm saying it's a feeling of Enlightenment you feel so good you start joking around you never run out of things to say you're so confident look you ever been in a bad mood and this is horrible and I I try to avoid this I know you try to avoid this but you kind of almost want other people to be in

a bad mood cuz you're in a bad mood you ever do that dumb thing I mean I hope you haven't but I have okay not consciously though but I didn't do it consciously either yeah but like unconsciously I'm in a bad mood you just do things that just puts everybody else yes yeah I'm not proud of it I try to check it okay I'm older now so I've done better with it when I'm younger I [ __ ] up right maybe once a year I [ __ ] up now once once every five years but

I'm human right well in the same way bro when you're in a good like I love my life bro so I just just want everyone at home watching this in India or wherever to be so happy you know what I mean right I want I want them I don't care if they make more money than me they quote unquote better girls than me though it's better you know I mean it's just cares what you like but I don't care what it's not a competition bro it's just you being you you being one of one and

when when that happens you have so much joy that you want other people to have joy right like it's those people that hate on rich people or maybe hate on good-looking people that they they're they have a hatred because they're in competition we're not in competition there's billions of people in the world there's trillions of dollars of money in the world there's money for everybody there's people for everybody to meet and if you would just be yourself and put that out there you'll kill it and then from there take that and we teach this to

people as well and I know you do too take that same attitude make a YouTube channel make a make a Instagram make a Tik Tok I know you don't on Tik Tok in uh probably for the best the Chinese Communist party okay yeah but that's probably a good thing chines Communist party but you know my point right like literally like put it out there on social media what do you love what are you passionate about what drives you what is it that when you talk about like I don't always talk like this like if I'm

if I'm just sitting there you know eating breakfast I don't always talk like this but when you ask me questions about things I care about and then I start and let's go back to the beginning of the video I start thinking about your audience home back in New Delhi back in Mumbai maybe some of my people that are watching this right and I think about that then I get present to the moment I think about how to help them I think about being part of the joy of the dance I think of I I I

don't filter who I am I'm okay that some people won't like it that's okay but some people will think it's cool and even if it's 5% of people that think it's cool but I'm speaking right to them I don't care look bro I'm going to be honest with you I don't give a [ __ ] about the guy watching this who's like look I I just want like one tip so I can keep being a loser but maybe I could keep being shy and keep caring about approval and keep being lame and keep sucking but

maybe there's just like this this one tip that's magic that that by Magic I get all these girls and money and fame and I could just keep being shy and keep being a loser and he would just tell me the one thing I don't care because he's never going to change the tip doesn't exist it's not [ __ ] real but there's that maybe that one guy I just care about one just one that I would care about if I could just find one guy in your whole audience who's like [ __ ] this I

want to be me yeah [ __ ] this I want to be myself [ __ ] this I want to enjoy my life [ __ ] this I'm sick of caring about approval [ __ ] this I'm not my looks I'm not my money I'm me I'm something deeper than that bad [ __ ] Gita baby okay and okay and and getting back to that that that core of like look here in America I would encourage people to look at people like George Washington Thomas Jefferson go back to your cultural Roots see the tradition that

you came from people from India are powerful they're strong they're courageous they're populist okay there's a lot of them they like to [ __ ] clearly so okay there's a lot of [ __ ] going on down there so clearly it's a powerful people go back to your culture go back to your spiritual for me okay with Christianity okay there's so much power in the in the serent on the mount I go back to those roots okay my great-grandfather was was a preacher even in World War I and World War II he actually snuck in

and and was preaching the gospel in World War One World War II and you know I'm not a preacher I live a different lifestyle but I resonate with that go back to your to to who you are back into into the deepest roots of your soul you're not this [ __ ] loser you're not this lazy [ __ ] you're not this guy that has to whack off and jerk off in your [ __ ] keyboard that's not you so wake up is what I'd say and and I don't care about a bunch of people

that want to just be entertained here a tip and won't do [ __ ] I care about that one guy that one girl that one whoever okay these days who I don't care whoever that person is who's like I want to change I want to [ __ ] change I want something better for for myself and I love myself and I want something better for the world that's what I'm looking to connect and if you take that attitude towards dating you're going to have it to where you're dating people who love you they are inspired

by you they can't believe they met someone like you because you didn't dilute yourself to get the approval of a bunch of people that never hook up with you never do business with you never do [ __ ] with you oh you avoided their disapproval [ __ ] them okay wish them the best but [ __ ] their approval you were you and connected with the people who love you so I get it like it's it's exactly what I agree with just for like clarification you don't you don't agree with being fake no no I

agree with it I agree with it I think I think it's [ __ ] amazing I believe it 100% so according to you when does technique come into it because because with social skills it it still still a lot of skills when when does that come so you have to understand I've done this 22 years also also also I got one more thing like with most of my clients they're they're in that they're in the heads all the time because they come from like stem backgrounds and for them like getting into this state of passion

is very difficult and they should and that's why they should but yeah keep going and if and if I could just give them like one technique that gives them a vision of that and the validation the technique I'll give you technique but before I say it [ __ ] your Technique because what you're really saying is how do they stay in their comfort zone how do how do you stay in that comfort zone I'm not here to help those people yeah I'm not I'm sorry I'm not I'm not here I'm not here to help someone

to go I don't want to have passion I don't want to evolve I just no no no but honestly I've done I've taught 22 years most people want to stay the same and stay in their little golden jail they don't want to leave the jail yeah they don't want to leave the jail entirely they want to stay in the golden and they want to say like just let me stay in jail and I'll get you some techniques okay you know you know I'll techniques that's why you're asking but before get when I'll give you Tech

I'll give you technique but before I get there what I see and I hate this okay I cuz when I was younger bro I cared about the [ __ ] money I cared that that guy came and paid me to take my course I no longer care I'm 44 I never have to work a day for the rest of my life I don't want to [ __ ] these guys okay that's not my audience anymore my old audience was whoever would take a course of me yeah look I love these guys I wish them the

best but when I say [ __ ] them I mean [ __ ] me pandering to them okay so in other words like like if right now I could create a McDonald's that would poison people and I get paid I'm not going to do it I only want to do what will help people okay so I'll give technique but before I give the technique I want to be clear here that the real technique is you have to want to break out of the jail okay look I've coach guys that are billionaires and literally you would

think that having a billion dollars or more or hundreds of millions or even tens of millions or even a few Millions still not bad you'd think that these guys would be like these Heroes like it's like these heroic guys that accomplish this they're just [ __ ] d works with more money in most cases they don't they don't even stand up for what's right in a lot of cases they just tow the trendy line of the day during things like 2020 lockdown they wouldn't fight against the lockdown they would just sit there going oh yeah

yeah like whatever it is that they're supposed to say literally as of recording this finally Mark Zuckerberg admitted that he should not have been censoring people during the [ __ ] lockdown but him as part of uh one of the most important powerful people in the world he'll say that now now that it's trendy but he knew he [ __ ] knew back then what the truth was but it took him four years to say it okay me when 2020 hit I spoke I spoke my truth and now that got me in trouble but I

spoke it that is what having money is meant to be for it's called [ __ ] you money in other words you can be honest a lot of these rich guys they just want to stay in this [ __ ] comfort zone what do we even learn in the gospels why does Jesus get put to death because he spoke his truth but he wasn't afraid to do that stop being so focus on the physical body and what the physical body wants and focus on the health of your soul what does it matter if you got

got something in your physical body while you're alive and then after you die you go right to [ __ ] hell or some negative Incarnation so focus on your soul so that is why it age 44 I'm happy to give someone a technique but if that technique is going to enable you you know maybe you get more social success or get more money and then you're just stuck there and that's going to that's going to entrap your soul in in a negative Incarnation or put you in hell however you want to think about this yeah

then what I would say is no okay no because there's a lot of people helped to get rich and it didn't help them at all if I'm going to be honest with you okay it only hurt them now let's keep going so I want you to think about this like there's you're in jail okay right okay if you can't if you can't just go up to someone and be yourself and create attraction or if you can't just go up to someone and be yourself and do business with them and so on and so forth that

is because you are in a in a jail you're psychologically in a jail because if you just be yourself you'd find that five or 10% of people that that resonate with you you wouldn't care anymore with the other people that don't resonate think you'd respect them you wouldn't be mean to them or anything bad you would you would always you know be cool to them but you wouldn't be worried about their approval you'd focus on the 5 or 10% of people that are your tribe you know when you see me doing a thousand person seminar

that's a thousand people that like what it is that I do there's another 100,000 that don't that's okay I care I'm there to serve and speak directly to the people who do care because they support me what do I care about some guy who doesn't like me thinks what do I care if I go to a club and someone doesn't want to go on a date with me why am I going to be worried about like you know changing who I am yeah right I'll I'll be respectful to them and nice to them if we

don't hit it off I'll say great to meet you and walk off in a nice way but I'm not worried about them I'm not stressing over them okay so understand that the the best technique is no technique I can walk up to someone without even talking and I can generate chemistry I'm almost there give me one second now from there what I would say is um but when someone says give me the technique they're in jail and I'm like hey let's break you out of the jail and they go no I want a water bed

in the jail I want a golden bars in the jail I want to look out out to the outside world with these golden bars here I want to have a golden plate to eat my jail food off of right [ __ ] that break out of the jail completely now you want to talk technique here would be examples of technique that could help you okay so here's we get the examples okay but but like I I'm asking like let's say there is one guy who's never been around a girl because he's never uh he's from

India let say he's from Village bro there's a billion [ __ ] [ __ ] people get around someone whether it's a girl a business connection bro if you don't have respect enough for yourself to begin to take action I got nothing for you homie so so what I'd say is begin that process now if now if he doesn't know to start start with what I'm telling you start being your [ __ ] self now if you want to know some now look I can give you ways to start a conversation but at the end

of the day bro the word high has been known for many many years it's not the best way to open but you can say hi you can wave there's a million different way to start a conversation I can give you some but the real success comes when you start being you yeah okay so but keep going to my context is that if you throw him into any social scenario he will creep people out because his himself is not even himself like not even himself he's not even himself at the same time if he were to

even be himself he's never been exposed to a situation like that so for example if any white woman goes to India that a lot of these people just want to take selfies with her yeah yeah they're being themselves yes but they're creeping around they're not being themselves they're being losers they're not a [ __ ] loser no grown man wants a [ __ ] selfie with a white woman that's not themselves that is some weird entrainment that they've had in some weird submission narrative that's meant to keep them under control so that is not who

they are but what you're saying which I appreciate and I think it's a beautiful transition that you made and I appreciate what you said here is that they'll think that's themselves I am the loser who wants to take the selfie with the white lady yeah so they think that's themselves because they've been ined in that trans and that is all they've seen yeah um so but now that trap is become themselves like like it's the ego right they believe they are the ego we we believe we're the ego so for them how do you get

that person out of it sure okay so what here's what I would do okay so if you want to build social skills what I recommend is that you go out about three or four nights a week at minimum okay now I know that sounds like a lot but if you suck you got to go out you got to work on this okay I I used to go out five nights a week for like seven eight years I go out seven nights a week but I'm just making the point that for you know I don't want

to freak people out okay so three nights a week okay but if this is an area of importance to you then a lot what you want to do is you want to go and engage with people and here's what I'd recommend you do okay so say that you go out to like a bar or club or a party okay so let's say the part let's say sh a square or even like let's say you're you're going to a social scenario like that'd be better any social scenario what I like my personal preference is I like

people where they've checked IDs I want them to be ID do they check IDs in India yeah yeah I like it when they checked IDs okay I want I want to be me adults just for context let's keep it to during the let's say the daytime I'm not a fan of that because if you're working on social skills um I like it when I know I'm talking to an adult I'm a big fan of that okay now that said if I'm for sure someone's an adult then I'll go talk to them if it's like clear

as [ __ ] day yeah now okay so if you want to do in the daytime that's fine yeah because a lot of people don't go to the clubs and the clubs I think that's a mistake yeah the but the only exist in like the urban areas which would be like five Seven Cities I think that if you want to work on your social skills you should go where people are okay it's like well how do I go how do I get jacked in the gym if there's no gym so if this is important to

you I'd recommend you okay I'm going to say something that a lot of your viewers are going to disagree with it's going to piss them off they're going to make comments about I'm fine with that okay okay they're going to say that's not true I'm killing it in my little village when I talk to two people a year and I'm going to go cool bro show me the Instagram who you met and see if I'm impressed and no off I I know it's offensive but I'm going to be real here and then I'm going to

say um you know like show me your lifestyle show me who you're who who you're meeting show me how much progress you're making my friend Ty Lopez you know always said you got to learn faster you're learning too slow you're learning too [ __ ] slow I say [ __ ] all this like you know learning over like a year two years no bro learn today make it where by the end of the weekend you've had massive progress and by the end of the next weekend you have massive progress so my recommendations go where there's

a lot of people and you know that you're talking to an adult that's my personal preference okay I avoid anybody who's uh partying too hard and I just want to meet people that are adults and out and they're there to socialize y now if there's somebody out in the daytime clearly an adult then you could go talk to them as well okay now from there um what I would say is go to a place where there's a lot of people because again um whatever skills that you build where there's a lot of people you could

apply that if you're just out of the grocery store okay so let's say that it's like a square go interact with every single person there and after every single interaction focus on minimizing the time in between to the next interaction minimize down the time so that if you go out for 3 hours 2 hours and 45 minutes of that was you talking to people so don't go more than 10 or 15 seconds without talking to the next person talk to guys talk to girls talk to everybody there treat everybody equally have fun with them okay

it would be the next thing that you do um we focus on the positive of the interaction so we you know a joke that you might say is thousand out of 10 yeah okay who the [ __ ] could have the balls to do that I actually would to met someone don't be fooled by all those guys that came there with people maybe some guy came with five girls he came with her you actually had the courage to go start a new conversation with someone new and to create a new opportunity so go do that

okay then what will happen is um so you focus on the positive but then ask your and give yourself credit give yourself love for the fact that you actually did it again not focus on the outcome babita bro focus on the process by the way I talk about bagita not just to indan audience I talk about to Western audience because they hear that I've I've heard that you get that so now from there what I would say is enjoy that process for the process itself then what you would do is minimize time into the next

interaction the more that you just focus on going from interaction to interaction you're naturally going to get into a flow State and you won't need a technique now if you want me to give you a technique sure here's some techniques you could say also right after the technique I want you to explain what a flow state is and how that feels I love that okay cuz that's the real technique is a flow State now right after the technique we get which is really your cultural heritage babag not caring about the outcome caring about the action

itself is the Flow State that's why you don't like people at home watch this India don't realize how powerful that Heritage is in some cases okay that Heritage changed the world so people need to embrace that and to and to to love that and to realize that you're your spiritual Destiny is to be in that flow State now um going and and I and I'd say that to any Western audience too I'd say that to any Christian person too so what I would say is going from there a couple ways you could start a conversation

one of my favorites is is to imitate somebody okay because everyone is obsessed with themselves so even if you do an imitation that's not even good they will think it's 10 out of 10 funny so like like even if I just you know I go see how you laugh right like I just I just go and you laugh right yeah see that right I just imitate you and you start laughing right yeah okay okay right it's not even a good imitation yeah yeah you see what do right that's an amazing way to start a conversation

imitation okay another one is uh talk about the Dynamics between them oh you know you have this shirt you have this shirt who's the boss here you know who's the one who's the leader who's the mom you know because they want to talk about themselves right or you know T you guys are like a little Powerpuff Girls right like okay is there okay is there anything in India where there's like a famous character where they're kind of like very they're very cute and adorable but Ador uh any like female characters that are cute and adorable

and lovable but aork people people love the those uh people love like things like shinchan and doron and everything if you've seen that like some some Japanese cartoons they they love it it's like anime yeah shinan yeah yeah's one yeah shinchan yeah what's the other one uh doron or something doron yeah I doron yeah yeah yeah doron yeah shinan shinan that's a great open it sounds like that open people at home will hear that they'll go no that can't be a good open that's a great open they they won't believe it till they try it

okay y J right then imitate you okay then oh well you know then I can make a joke like hey like you know oh you got the mic here I like how you had the mic mic the mic you got the mic right here yeah talk in the mic come on bro I'm trying to come on come on shinen talk in the mic sh you know just te like a little bit of teasing so I think teasing is great but but it should not be mean-spirited never mean-spirited it's fun okay it's fun it's play it

shows that you're not trying to take something and it builds trust when you joke around not mean-spirited but fun teasing okay so imitations teasing another one is funny arguments I love funny arguments right like that jacket I like I like that jacket maybe a little too orange we can't we're not doing that that's too much orange that's just a little too much orange why you got to bring out all that orange why you got to bring out that orange right and then if you're in a bar club everyone's laughing they're talking about the something stupid

it's an imitation of an argument you can imitate they're cheating on you you're cheating on me right look this is our first fight why are we having our first fight you know things like that right so it's a lot of teasing joking you do you do a fake marriage you know we're going to get married you get down on your hands and knees you put a straw on their finger you know then you then you um you know then you have a divorce we're having a divorce you know have like a little divorce yeah then

a big one is also introduce them to your friends mingle right be like here you got to meet my friends intro then start introducing them to each other with out here oh you meet this person this person meet this person and you create a little Hub is great also have Little Adventures oh we're going to go here we're going to go to this after party we're going to this restaurant we're going to go to this end of the club and then also don't just stick in there on the same person mingle talk to other people

let them see visibly that you're talking to everybody in the venue it's easier to go and take over a whole venue and have fun in a whole venue then to talk to one person that's what your audience will never understand until they do they'll go oh that's condescending like I don't even know how to talk to one person and your advice is to talk to everybody it's actually easier because what happens is that if you're just sitting there and you're like okay I'm scared I'm scared and then you know then you finally go talk to

someone by the time you get them you've weirded them out cuz they can tell that you're looking at them and then and then by that time You' you've just been exactly you just been looking at them you've been obsessing with them for like an hour Y and that's when you're like now I'm going to do my Approach yeah someone who you don't even know what are you doing you should be living your [ __ ] life being your [ __ ] self enjoying your [ __ ] night and actually go around the venue have a

lot of fun have fun with everybody and you don't need to force a Vibe you don't need to force chemistry there's going to be two or three people in there for sure that you're naturally going to hit it off with and they're going to go I love you this guy's the best where have you been my whole life right like take myself okay I can grow a really insane beard yeah 80% of people that I'm talking to be like why the [ __ ] did you do that but 20% of people when we go out

are like dude you're the man girls will be like Oh I'm obsessed with this that'll be 20% but I not looking to meet the 80% I'm looking for the people that want to do business that want to meet up that want to have chemistry I don't care about the people that are like half in and half out the secret to life is focusing on the people that like what it is that you have to offer and then getting and then throwing entire parties of people like that like when we had the party the other night

those are people that like us that want to meet us so the vibe is so good we could talk more about that later but I think that's the main thing as as far as I'll give one more technique let's say for example somebody's walking don't just go hey you know and and try to interrupt their night ask yourself questions like who are they with are they enjoying the people they're with where are they going are they trying to get somewhere what is their mood what is your mood right things like that and then what will

happen is you'll find the perfect way to start a conversation if if someone's walking I'm not trying to interrupt their day or like come up behind them and go hey hey like that I want to be a little bit ahead of them walking the same direction and and rather than drilling them with boring questions I make statements yeah look I can get away with questions cuz I can use tone to make it interesting hey what do you do right you can make it interesting you could you could use your tone to make it different but

assuming that you're not a master of tone then what you could do is just make statements I saw this you could imitate you could talk about their Dynamic you could you could s you could literally start singing try that sometime that you go out you know just start singing with people and then they'll start engaging with you now as you what you do is you almost want to make it like let's say that you're thinking of buying a pet at the pet store you don't necessarily want that pet to like jump all over you right

away maybe you want to look at the pet through you know through a fishbowl or you know through the glass and do I like this pet by making statements they're not required to respond they don't have to respond and as a result of them them not having to respond they can get a sense of your energy they can feel you out and see if they like you so you're giving them a preview of your energy before you have before you demand any kind of respect then look at their eye contact look at how they're feeling

you out look at if they're if they like you and then if they do then you can say oh where are you from but wait for a second to if they even want to respond to true that's nice um you spoke about there's just like one thing I think you spoke about networking M and how in exclusive Lamborghini events you meet all these rich people so now I've had a very different take of networking and it's just like I feel I don't understand it properly everybody talks about your network is your net worth the video

that you just showed me about that it's coming out soon and then so so my girlfriend she's very p with the Lamborghini people in India yeah and every event she's invited and I'm invited I hate going there it's the most boring thing I've ever been to and I just don't go there like any Ferrari event any Lamborghini event because I feel that if I were to like for example it's you and me sitting out here I could have networked with you like for yours versus secondly I build my own [ __ ] I develop my

own personality I be a cool guy yeah and then I have something to offer you is just much more better than me networking and just trying to be like hey and then I don't have any so what's the like what's the purpose of networking when I can just do my own [ __ ] without having to network with other people and still be where I want to be well I'll say this um a lot of the best ways to make money is learning how to write a sales ad networking you network with uh you know

the most rich person in the world they're not going to write your sales out for you right um you know but the most rich person in the world doesn't need to network with anybody correct depends you know that it's a deep topic but the point being is okay so the I definitely agree with you there was an old video that I put out called the truth about success and I even said you know i' I've hung out with say Tony Shay he was actually a old client of mine Tony sh the owner of zapo which

was like the Amazon of uh for shoes and like I've hung out with a bunch of times and I've coached him he can't write my sales ad he can't create my video he can't teach my course so what you're saying that I love is that the hard work cannot be done by networking however by hanging out people like Tony Shay I watched as he built ve he built up this whole downtown of Vegas from scratch and I found that to be very ins iring so your network is your net worth because like we say uh

like Fred Dawson or David R Hawkings says in levels of energy or Powers versus whoever you're around you'll start to resonate at their level if you have negative friends you'll be you'll you'll tend to become like them because human beings we're not isolated Islands we're more like a permeable membrane so when think about how good you felt after this party yeah if you get around the right people like when I said that I will make easily a million dollar extra Revenue to my business a year for over the course of later in the business as

I make more and more by being friends with you that is because you helped me to raise the vibe you help me to raise the vibe so the people at the Lamborghini party they might have a good vibe or they may not if they don't they may have money that could be a great one-on-one client and rather than working with people that are broke which I love to help broke people as well do free events but it's also nice to have some wealthy clients so you could meet them there um you might be inspired by

what they've accomplished or you might not they might be the the nerdy rich guy stuck in the jail that just wants the golden jail but they've at least accomplished something so at at least you can learn something from them so I wouldn't say that that's going to replace you writing a sales ad it's not going to replace them teaching a program it's not going to they can't come here and do our podcast for us and I think a lot of people overly Network because they think that the work will get done if they're just around

rich people and a lot of people that do too much networking they wake up 10 years later and they go I'm around rich people all the time but I'm not rich yeah so it's a balance one thing I've noticed over the years like you've built one of the biggest followings over the years right one of the most passionate followings I one of the most passionate one of the most like people that will come out for you they like I'll give you an example a Tik Tok influencer or an Instagram influencer could have a million followers

and and this is real right so this one girl posted a story that I'm going to be doing a Meetup today nobody showed up 1 million followers and when you were at the peak you were at like 150k subscribers and there was like a huge team of people as passionate as you bringing in their own different things all around the world the passion was so much that when I started watching you for the first time in 2013 mhm it was it was always a dream for me to be with you or like just meet up

with you and if I've held on to that dream for 10 and 11 years that is the amount of passion you injected into it right how were you able to do that is it what you've already spoken about if it's that I'll get to the second part of it well because here's the thing it's it they call that vanity metrics okay it's like so I do parties here yeah and I'll have guys that have 10 million followers come to my house and these guys live in small studio apartments yeah and they go how do you

have a mansion and you I think between all my all my FS I have about a half a million okay which is like a lot but not really a lot right like it's a lot but it's not so there's a very big difference in the quality of the follower just because you um you know put a you put a cat on a skateboard and that gets 100 million views people go oh that's so cute they're not going to buy anything from you so for example most of my videos are over one hour and many are

several hours and I love that um and I think there's there's a I think there's a place to do shorter videos as well you've talked to me about that you know they can go more viral and then some of those people that you went viral with will watch your longer stuff but I think because I put so much emphasis and again I I have a lot to learn too so I'm not saying to just do this but there's something still to be learned here to an extent so be those longer videos um sometimes friends of

mine people that are my friends will say hey man I want to go watch your videos I wanted because I meet them outside of this like these are friends that I make not from foll me online and they'll say hey man I went to watch one of your videos but bro it's 3 hours like who has time for this I go well you're not trying to pay me money for my course bro yeah you're just a guy that I'll see out and say hi to you're not trying to take my course so if somebody's about

to spend you know at minimum a couple thousand bucks on a course that I have they can they're certainly not going to have a problem with watching a couple hours of videos right so I will put out content that's very very deep and very very demanding and very very challenging because I understand that if someone is not going to watch that they're never going to be a client so I create content to generate high-paying clients who love what I do and think that I can help change your life and then that they can make money

from what it is that I'm teaching them so I'm not looking to just get a random view I want a quality view when I go out I'm not just trying to go hi uh hi uh hi to everybody I'm looking to make Quality Connections that is my metric is that someone actually moved yeah somebody actually connected someone actually invested in me not this uh you know just everyone thinks you're okay and that's it true true so so yeah so over the years like we've had that going and like it's pretty clear how you're able to

do that and you've mentioned this multiple times as well um so I think the past four or five years where you've taken a break from all of this and you've been traveling in nature you want to spend time with your kids and everything and like post lockdown a lot of other people have come up and then a lot of Clips have come up why they've spoken [ __ ] about you or they've just commented on things about you and I've never seen you address that why why is that why do you not address it I

I would love for you to address some of those things yeah because that would make me more like okay I can like make me more want to like back up okay everything right so a couple things is that when you have a high profile you will have people that don't like what you do just like what I've talked about here so I think that everybody should have the right to speak their truth if that is what they believe I don't want to take away their free speech so that's their free speech it's their choice to

believe what they believe do I wish that every person in the world could love me and they'll name their children after me everyone's kid will be named Owen and they're daughters will be named owened and the whole world will go Owen Owen right and so on and so forth right yeah that'd be great it's not that's not reality we all wish that everybody could love us and think that we're the best and no one would ever say anything bad but on the other side of not caring if somebody makes a bad video about you or

if you're not a social media influencer on the other side of not caring that you know maybe you talk to someone at the club that you were attracted to and they didn't want to talk to you on the other side of that is the love of your life yeah you know what I mean right on the other side of having people talk [ __ ] on you on the internet is you making millions of dollars if you focus on your clients now a client of mine do they care about my ego and me going what

that guy said that's not true that I'm not good I am good I'm really nice everybody I'm a nice guy or do they care that I use every inch of my energy thinking about them like I said at the beginning of the video right where we said where's that person they're New Deli they're in Mumbai what are their problems how can I help them if I can use a 100% of my brain power to help that person at home and I don't make it about me it's not about me it's not about me it's about

that end person at home yeah then at the end of the day they will attend my programs if it's the right person and so I think over the years because we've always had a growing business sometimes I'll see stuff like that you know it'll come up in the feed and like nine times out of 10 or even 99 times out of 100 I'm not going to click it but once in a while just click bit I'm like I'm like the [ __ ] is this right and it's a weird thing because I'm like man if

I hung out with this guy you know that we'd be friends like who are you not going to be friends with when you see them in person right like like especially if it's people who like do the same kind of businesses that we do you know that if we went out we're going to have a good time you like that's my thing is like why I did this podcast I like to do podcasts and do things with people that will come out with me yeah so like those guys have an open invite to come out

with me anytime they want I love going out I love to have fun and I know that if we had fun together we' like each other so why make a fake fight which is not who we are what do we learn in spiritual growth right that same that same Divine energy that animates me animates you and even animates what you would technically or not even reality but technically call your competitors or enemies right so you are them there's that that energy of life when you identify with that energy of life that's in them now maybe

they're confused and they're a little bit more in their ego and they don't know what they're doing or maybe they do know what they're doing and they they just have a personal preference and want a voice and that's their freedom of speech let them have that pull and my goal was always I wanted to prove prove that we could be the market leader and do the highest amount of Revenue so I've done over $100 million of sales in my life I didn't keep that but I've done I've driven that in sales okay from a little

YouTube channel and my goal was to prove that you don't have to engage in the drama you could be above the drama wish them the best and even help them if they ask like hey if you need help I'll help you right they in in Christian philosophy they say help your enemy you know if somebody was mean to you go help them so my goal is just to help people and to just get the word out and I understand there's a lot of different ways to live life right like reputation management you know giving your

take on it but I don't know bro okay it's like this say that I say to you right now are you trustworthy person what are you going to say I mean I'll say yeah yeah but what if you're not trustworthy what are you gonna say anyway yeah yeah so it's like whatever I'm going to say about like the Goss about me it's like I'm good though but of course I'm going to say that so so everybody knows that you can't take that seriously so all that I can do is show my actions and if my

actions are focus on just like free events free videos free groups free zooms millions of dollars spent put back in the community that's where I can put my focus and then if I've got time to be making a response video to somebody I've got time I should use that extra time for a client like if I'm going to take an hour and say this guy said this and but I am good if I'm going to do that I should take that hour and spend it with my [ __ ] son yeah I should spend that

with you my friend I should spend that with a client who paid me I should spend that to make a free video so if you just live your whole life like that and say that you are going to add value that to me is the secret to life that was a weird choice that I made some people confuses some people get it and that's okay but you know you saw with like say and and here's another Point too I'm also not going to win that kind of a dispute because I'm not built like that bro

I'm not built I don't like to argue I'm a lover bro I like I like to love people you know so like you know someone was mean to me and I'm like well you suck too but like I don't think they suck yeah I don't wish B on them I want them to succeed so like jcole he was kind of in that beef with Drake and Kendrick Lamar and he tried to make a dis album to Kendrick but it wasn't even good he's like your your last album well not good yeah and he's like it's

not even a good disc album I wouldn't be good at making a diss track bro you know right I'm like I'm like let's go out let's go hiking someone wants to go hiking I'm good at that someone wants to go out I'm good at that if someone wants to argue I don't like to argue the main reason I break up with girls because they like to argue so I you could clarify now like I'm I'm not saying this so so I've done two reaction videos but I'm just laughing all the time that could be fun

yeah I'm I'm just laughing and I'm like you know actually this is not what I meant this is what I meant and then sometimes it's like I do [ __ ] up and I'm like I [ __ ] up that I'm going to edit that part in the video okay well I'll clarify one thing right now you ready okay so for many years I always said that if I was ever in a wheelchair that I would still go out and i' still crush it and everybody said I was lying well guess what [ __ ]

I was in a wheelchair for 4 months I still killed it still had fun I got on video so that's my response okay so I finally responded you got me to respond yeah yeah perfect so now I mean you're 44 you've got like three kids M um you've been at the top of the game and you were getting even up there and then we got uh and then lot of [ __ ] happened then the lockdown happened and then now four years down things starting to like sort of look good what what are your future

plans now what are we going to see what do you want to do so my okay I have this philosophy that okay I'm going to say something again very controversial it's not going to resonate with most people make most people angry okay okay I believe that being a good father doesn't just mean you paid the bills this is going to piss a lot of people off okay there's people are going to hear that's going to really offend them okay um I never want to be the kind of father where I just paid the bills and

I'm like I'm a great dad you always had three meals on the table you always had a nice school like no I want to actually like you will never get back those years with your children okay so my goal my kids was I wanted to take them around the world take them on take them into airplanes take them into nature a lot of my time that I spend now from age 40 to 45 I'm going to be 45 soon um is me in the mountains with my children in in the rainforest with my children like

us just playing having fun and I'll shoot videos when I'm out there and I'll come do tradings from time to time because that's fun and I'll actually bring my kids the tradings and I'll show them how I do the tradings and I'll bring them up on stage but I want to be a father right now okay so now now that my kids are getting old enough that they probably don't need that as much then I'm a little bit more open-minded to go back to work but what I believe every man should do is from from

age 20 to age 40 you have 20 years to make your first couple million bucks you got 20 [ __ ] years okay I remember what my friend Ty Lopez said learn faster [ __ ] right like oh uh how do I live in the small town and get better social skills you don't I mean you can somewhat but you know my point right how do I get jacked in the gym if I don't have a gym here well you know do some push-ups whatever right but you know you don't have a gym well in

the same way with money like get your money [ __ ] handled so that you can be a better father so that you can spend time with your children and what you should do is go do a retirement from age 40 to about 45 do every bucket list item that you want to do go everywhere you want to go do every dream that you have spend that time with your kids and then maybe by 45 maybe you want to go back to work so you know I'm sitting here um I you know I was in

that wheelchair for 4 months and I'm kind of like yeah I might be open-minded going back to work so I'm open-minded to going back to work but if I were to go back to work now and I'm leaning towards it it would be for legacy not for money so for me what it would be is what kind of impact do I want to make and whether that's to a small group of people to a big group of people maybe I'll do big maybe I'll do small but I'll tell you what I will do I will

feel inside myself of what lights me up and what gives me passion and I will do that and that is why there's kind of different ways you could live life and one could be oh I hate my life I'm miserable I need money I need I need I need I need and you stay inside the golden jail breaking out of the jail to me is being truly yourself which then would be step one be truly yourself not the the self of the the dude getting the photo with the white chick right the real you not

the one that's the real you okay um from there step two is let that energize you because all that mental bandwidth like you're burning so much mental and spiritual energy by being fake that what happens is um it it just kills you it sucks the life out of you right I've been sick in 13 years why because I don't have the life being sucked out of me okay um then from there um you have all that energy use that energy to find what you're passionate about and make a couple bus make your first four or

5 million by age 40 you don't need to make 100 million by 40 but you can at least make 2 or three M maybe make four or 5 enough you don't have to work anymore you're working by choice ideally make more than that but at least make that now you can spend time with your kids go travel around do all your bucket list items and then when you come back maybe mid- 40s maybe you got 15 20 years of work left what do you really want to do and the cool thing about that too is

that and and this I'm going to say something a little bit darker but I actually think it's very beautiful because I believe this is part of Christian tradition right so when Jesus dies in The Bible okay what you see is that through his death and he he doesn't compromise himself is actually the resurrection of the Soul okay so by by by saying by by allowing that death of the ego and the physical body we have the birth of the Soul so I really think that real like strong powerful men they should make their money raise

their kids and then once they've raised their kids they come back and they go do something for social good but they should pick things for social good that maybe could be viewed as bad but is good yeah okay because really in the world we have what i' like to call a pimp hole relationship between the elites and the masses the elites are keeping the masses asleep and they're controlling the media and what winds up happening is like the pimp is evil but what the ho what what the ho is doing is evil what the pimp

is doing is evil they're both making money but neither are happy I've coached the elites bro I've coached these guys most are some of the most unhappy people that you've ever seen okay and so what so the elite they produce things like bad food poisons things that put people to sleep [ __ ] up education systems they control the media and so on and so forth yeah and then the masses are asleep and they eat it up and all that the masses want is diversion to stay on autopilot and to be told what to do

and have some false sense of identity and they're basically being trolled and they're ultimately trolling each other and so what I think coming back into um you know your older ages is that you have to you have to let go of your fear of death know that if you really try to add value to the world that you will be uh you know put in a negative light you could get shot you could get killed I mean look at gandi for example right think of the amount of Courage that he has to have to go

do what it is that he did right but there's certain things in life and I'm not saying I'm gandi and by any means okay I'm just some guy but I'm just making the point that we all have that little piece of us in there where if every man in the world could focus on just getting a couple million bucks getting a beautiful beautiful woman to have and beautiful to you whatever beauty is to you intellectually spiritually to you have your children raise them them show them show them the world have some money safe for them

and then you could use your older age to do something that maybe would be against that pimpo Dynamic against the system that puts everybody to sleep and even if you got shot you got killed you got put in a bad light they they distort your words they put you in a way that you're not but you could actually go do that and you could go to your death in the same way that Jesus did you could go to your death knowing that they can kill your body but they can't kill your soul and why why

walk around from age 65 to 80 you're all old and you know like like what are you really going to accomplish doing that when you could actually do something good with that towards the end of your life look back in the day if there was a war like to go fight Hitler people would line up to go fight Hitler but these days people are so comfortable and they they they're not growing into that I think part of growing into your real power as a man is saying I'm going to try to do I'm going to

try to determine what the right thing is and part of me being a nature for four or five years was me thinking about what is my legacy going to be what am I going to go do with my older age what does it mean to really do something that's good mean to like one of the best things you could ask somebody is what is the one opinion that you have that would get you in trouble but you believe that if the world knew it the world would be a better place and to and and we

need to move the world in a place where we can make that an acceptable conversation and if what the person thinks is stupid then have a conversation about it that's what the first amendment's for right do you guys have a First Amendment in India freedom of speech yeah I think I guess can the government put you in jail for speech um if it's if it's inciting religious hatred and and there's like mobs and violence it creates then yes if if it's disent and everything yeah for sure or if you're talking about um like a civil

war or if you're talking about I want my own State then it's pretty well I'll say this in America the idea of the first amendment is that we can have a discussion okay we treat each other as adults and we can have a discussion and we don't view everybody as some idiot who can't have a discussion and so I think discussions are there but you can't go up there and give a speech to like 100 people and then inside a mob so you can have a discuss that's but what I would say is that you

want to have it to where you can have an adult conversation not about hurting each other but about how to make the world better and so the the thing is is that um like not living in a nanny state where you're treated as a child and the thing is is that um we have to start having these kind of conversations about what's going to move Society forward look artificial intelligence is coming all these crazy social changes are coming only fans is biged up that's crazy I get what you're saying so the point that I'm making

is that um part of being an adult is like maybe go get shot honestly I know that sounds [ __ ] up maybe go get shot you know what I'm saying because if you're going to make the world better there's a reason why Jesus gets crucified because there was evil in the world and he spoke out against that there's a reason why Gandhi um you know H what happened to him happened to him there's a reason why Nelson Mandela was put in jail okay so maybe we as adults need to be you know when I

when I was for five years in the mountains I lived all my dreams yeah I did what I wanted to do like I've taken that time to raise my family to do what it is that I want to do I've lived my life bro you don't you know we say learn faster live your life faster do I do I need to just work some shitty job where I wake up go to some boring drive some job that I hate come back and just try to stretch that out or should I be doing should I get

back to being me do what I love make the money go you know have parties like what we did great dating life you know knock all those bucketless items off of a fun dating life you know fun social life leave your intellectual Legacy like for for 5 years I went nature and I just sat there in nature and just created video content that's not even out yet yeah okay that's not me doing a money play a money play would be me trying to get out quickly yeah but I was in I wanted to be in

nature and I don't want to say talk to God like hello God and God's like how are you I don't do that at all but God speaks to us in my view to everyone not me not you but everyone okay it's not unique we don't have any thing that anybody else doesn't have we're humans right everyone's a human but God speaks to us by if we if we get into nature and we calm our mind and we're truly ourselves and we have true gratitude and we really take in nature okay not this fake reality of

the hamster reality of society and we take that in yeah and you'll just notice that your thoughts go in all these expansive beautiful directions and and you start to find the answer to some of Humanity's greatest problems yeah and then what happens is that you then have a desire to curate that and to spread that and to leave that Legacy right like we can't live forever but we do live in a way through our children my son's um you know know Vincent Dylan and Tristan and whatever kids I don't know about and you know that

may turn up someday and and whatever kids all have in the future like that is a legacy that I have I want to make sure that they were raised properly really really really well um I never yell at my kids I'm I always love my kids know that they're love they're accepted no matter what we have fun together um we go have adventures together we do really hard nature adventures together that are really really tough like really tough like really scary really tough stuff you know we're hiking up glaciers in Alaska you know we're hiking

along the cliffs in in Hawaii we're out in you know uh like hiking through Navajo Nation in like Indian Territory that we have permission and respectfully are visiting and overnight hikes and there's rattlesnakes everywhere this is what I'm doing with my children we're having a beautiful time and um go do that raise your family raise your children and meet all your life needs by your mid 40s and then once you've done that you're like look I've lived my life this world has nothing for me anymore but what do I have for the world now what

do I have for the world and because once the world no longer has anything for you you can still enjoy it a little bit you know we a fun little party it was fun but as much as it's fun to have the party that we had and celebrate life and I love that as you get older it's what do I have for the world and even if it's misunderstood but again coming back on that theme of being truly yourself what do I have for the world and you know sometimes I'll read business books you know

like maybe guys who I like a lot like maybe Alex Ros or guys like that I like a lot I've been following him a lot it's awesome right and I love that and he's helping millions of people but I'd also say that like you know sometimes I look at that and I just start thinking like Revenue this and that like yeah that's amazing but make enough money that all your needs are met and then you start to and and you should be really living the whole way there but then you can really just say what

do I have for the world and maybe say that thing that like could be a little bit ahead of its time or misunderstood and and really sticking up for things you know like I remember when Co happened I'm like this is the dumbest [ __ ] I've ever [ __ ] seen the the reaction to it and um my staff was afraid my friends were afraid people didn't want to be near me people didn't want to be Associated to me I I was chilling I I never almost never voted a mask yeah bro I mean

I mean Co is is a real disease but the reaction to it the way the way that they exploited that to do a lot of evil things um that was something that from day one I said there's things that I understand because I've Got Friends inside the government because I teach right so I have friends I fans everywhere I've Got Friends inside government I'm hearing a lot of things like from the inside and I'm just like no I'm going to speak and so we speak to the extent that we can there's obviously limitations cuz some

of these places that we talk on are kind of [ __ ] up but we speak whatever we can speak we do the best we can um and yeah I think like you know once you once like go get what the world has for you have urgency about getting it also think about how to add value to others but then think about what you have for the world and and nothing that we can get like bro we like what are we going to do with money right now yeah go get a massage go get a

watch go to a party that's amazing but nothing will give us more satisfaction than what do we have for the world because that is truly living now I'm not going to say if you got someone watching this who's 22 they've got to actually learn about they should probably watch Alex trosi maybe watch some of my old school social skills stuff your social skills stuff they should do that but once you've lived your life and you're at that point where you're like okay like yeah wow look at my this is thank you God this is so

beautiful I I think that when you go to God and you say look like I'm here to serve and you actually say that what'll wind up happening is you is you get things that money can't buy what I love are things that money can't buy real genuine friendship you can't buy a friend y you can't buy a real friend real attraction this is why I don't care about money when it comes to getting attraction with women I want someone attracted to me okay a real someone who loves you for real having children creating art being

in nature even having a pet humans you don't beautiful about humans we have pets right you guys cows in India we have pets okay so it's like we got dogs as well dogs right so the thing is like we don't have to have a pet yeah but we could love our pet we don't have to have a friend we could just be transactional all the time but we can choose to give real friendship to another person I don't ever have to love a woman but I can choose to love a woman I could just date

and have fun but I can also have fun to really love a woman so you know I don't have to have children but the Act of Creation itself connects you to your creator and connects you remember we said it's not about the result it's about the action itself and and we can never find the infinite in breadth because even if you live to be 150 years it's too Too Short look I'm 44 life went by like that your life's going to go by you're never going to stretch it like 200 years 300 years five look

even a 500 year life is not enough it's all too short life goes by too quick but we can find the infinite in the depth we can find that one little moment where we find the infinite in that moment yeah hanging out with a friend being with your children being really in love with somebody being out in nature maybe having fun in the city just a great dinner with friends in the city but we can find that so our job in my view is to find um that beautiful these Beautiful Moments and allow that to

infuse us and to grow our souls and I believe that before when our bodies die our soul might have grown bigger or our soul might have shrunk and you'll see some people where the soul shrinks so much there's nothing left and we see that in homeless people so sad not all homeless people by the way but in some cases and you know your soul can grow and grow and your joy grows and your ability to contribute grows and it's not just about maybe giving money but it could be about something so deeply unique to you

that nobody else could give that nobody else cuz even this talk that we did here you know that I can teach step by step by step by step social skills dating all that stuff and I've done it for decades but I say to myself you're already so good at that bro I know why do they just have to hear you know why do they need to get another guy to say the same thing right but I I want to show something a little something from my perspective that someone couldn't get someone somewhere else and they

get a different version of it maybe but my unique version and I want them to and and I'm not trying to get that to everyone who's isn't ready to hear it but for that one person who's ready to hear it who who wants to get rich quicker wants to be better at social skills or dating or things like that quicker but then wants to do that not just to take but so they can grow their soul and to give and to live a a more passionate life not to be in apathy but to live a

passionate life and to do it in a way where it's not just some little trick to get a result but to do it to get more in touch themselves when you're out there when me and you are out there like this weekend or having the party here we're aligned to ourselves that's what I love about this art form is that it helps people to be aligned to themselves and then take that alignment that you learn through this and and like the thing that kills me bro I it kills me it hurts it hurts me is

that you're not just here a little bit longer because if you were here a bit longer like we did a baller party we went out we had fun right I me and you would go to Sequoia National Park like tomorrow okay I'm going to take a beautiful beautiful woman to Cat Island tomorrow but if you weren't leaving and I wasn't going with her you and I and I'd rather go with you bro okay I will literally I will take you we' go to SEO National Park the biggest tree in the entire world called the general

sherban is there and you and I would just kick kick we joke in the car and the windows would be open and we be talking [ __ ] and we listening to music and we go hiking and we go hiking way up into the Sequoia Grove and we would just sit there and Marvel at God's creation and then maybe we go do a little bit of skiing you know right just blasting down a mountain yeah we do it again again never live in fear bro okay I look forward to my death I'm not afraid of

my death okay I'm here to serve but when God is ready for me not to serve I'm looking forward to the next step so all of us our our souls yearn the next level past this life so you know I go get my kids my kids would be joking around my kids are crazy they'd be having fun you know then maybe we go out to the club maybe meet some girls we'd have fun with them maybe we do a party on the beach like that's living bro and then we record it make some content out

of it and then do some social media make millions of dollars help the world and life is great that to me is living life okay that's what I'm [ __ ] passionate about that's what I want to see not some little creeper who's like I just need a little hole give me a little hole to push into it's like come on bro there's more to life and I'll help you with that but there's more to [ __ ] life so you know so I want to break them out of that there's a parasite that that

eats the person's soul it's eating it like acid you've got to you've got to wash that off you've got to cleanse that off and allow them to get back to base level conscious allow them to connect their creator and again that's your culture too bro that's a great part of Christian culture but that's a great part of of Indian culture and and every single every single proud person mad woman and child from India with burning pride in their heart for their country and their culture should feel back into that beautiful message that I share here

in the west feel into that beautiful message okay feel into that and see that message and really looking at any of the great spiritual Traditions whether it's the doubted Jing and especially the Bible even someone from India who is not a Christian can learn from Jesus and see that message as well not get hung up in the story of it but see the more powerful powerful story of that of what is trying to be exhibited to us that's really living life and and a lot of marketers are not and and you're such a positive person

I know that you live this but so many marketers will not Embrace this because they can't monetize it it's not about monetizing it it's about making money while spreading Consciousness while helping to dissolve that parasite because bro let me tell you another thing all this other [ __ ] is rearranging deck chairs in the [ __ ] Titanic we've already seen 2020 we've seen lockdown we know that AI is coming we know that there's all this chaos is coming we need a jump in Consciousness [ __ ] now we need a human Awakening project do

you understand we need a human awaken look at me we need a human Awakening project do you understand what I'm telling you we need a human Awakening project do you understand what I'm telling you yeah we need a human Awakening project do you understand what I'm telling you we need that because what's going to happen is we can all go make our money get laid out fun but if we don't wake up there's too many ways to kill each other now one but look one [ __ ] button and everybody's dead you understand for the

wrong person having it you need a human a cutting project so Humanity needs to have a leap in conscious okay let me tell you something and and I'm not saying this as a guru I'm saying this to invite anybody to explore this I don't get sick I don't get in bad moods I mean a touch you're there but honestly I don't I love my life I I don't hate anybody you ask me why I don't [ __ ] talk to other people that [ __ ] me I don't hate them bro I want to give

them a hug I don't hate them I'm I'm down to hear their feedback even I don't hate them I want people to connect and to get together so people need to recognize that little shred from God that animates them is in me it's in you it's in every body we've got to embrace our tradition and our Our Heritage and feel that swelling pride in our hearts but then we also have to bring that into the new and next era that we're moving into which is going to be very different we can't predict it exactly what

it will look like but we can guess but we have we have to find that those powerful values that we've lost in this Tick Tock [ __ ] drug infested world and we and we have to bring that into future generations and that's why I'm so passion that's why even when you asking me for a technique I'm like look I'll show the technique but we have to we not have to just make a golden Jael cuz bro the golden jail is about to get [ __ ] filled with gas and kill everybody we have to

break out of the jail and and Humanity has to go to the next level like how Elon mus wants to go to Mars but there was a powerful movie called ad asra where people were going into space you know what they realize it's about the people that are back here at home we've got a beautiful planet we got a beautiful planet right here humanity is beautiful be proud to be human be proud of your heritage and and realize your potential that you don't even know you [ __ ] have we need a human Awakening project

we need a Quantum Leap we need to go to the next level so we can teach and share but that should just be bait to get people to take initial action as like like you know almost like the intro drug but the real thing that people need is for us to hit the next level true yeah that was amazing bro we I mean thank you for doing this I think this is epic we like cranked out like what two hours of podcast and by I think it was it was epic yeah thank you so much

for being thank you brother thank you so much man yeah thanks