Stop Being Kind to Everyone - Billy Graham Message

[Music] kindness is a virtue that reflects the very nature of God it is a fruit of the spirit a mark of those who walk with him the Bible tells us to love our neighbors to show compassion to care for the weak and to be a light in a dark world but while kindness is Godly discernment is necessary not all who come to us with open hand hands have pure hearts not all who seek our kindness have good intentions and if we are not careful our kindness can be misused our compassion exploited and our love taken

for granted by those who do not value it Jesus himself was the embodiment of love and grace he healed the sick welcomed the outcast and forgave Sinners but he was never naive he saw through the hypocrisy of the phes he discerned the motives of the crowds and he did not entrust himself to those who only followed him for what he could give them he knew the hearts of men he knew that while some genuinely sought the truth others only wanted to manipulate deceive and take advantage his kindness was never without wisdom his compassion was never

without discernment many of us have been taught to be kind to everyone to to give without question to always say yes to never turn anyone away but that is not biblical kindness that is people pleasing and peop pleasing will drain your spirit rob you of your joy and leave you exhausted carrying burdens you were never meant to Bear there is a difference between being kind and being used there is a difference between loving people and allowing them to manipulate you when the enemy wants to destroy a person he rarely does it through direct attack he

sends people who will take advantage of your kindness who will drain you emotionally spiritually and even financially he sends people who will play the role of a friend but their only goal is to benefit from your generosity this is why discernment is necessary you are called To Love but you are not called to be blind you are called to be compassionate but you are not called to be a doormat you are called to help others but you are not called to enable irresponsibility Jesus told his disciples be wise as serpents and innocent as doves this

means that while we should have pure hearts we should also have sharp Minds we should be kind but not gullible we should be loving but not foolish there are times when saying no is the most loving thing you can do there are times when walking away from a toxic relationship is the most Godly decision you can make there are times when withholding your kindness from someone who refuses to change is an act of wisdom not cruelty some people do not want help they want control some people do not seek friendship they seek Advantage some people

do not appreciate your kindness they expect it and if you continue to give it without discernment you will find yourself empty drained and distant from God's purpose for your life Jesus did not heal everyone he did not answer every question he did not give everyone what they wanted he gave what was needed when it was needed and to those whose Hearts were open to receive look at your own life are there people who only call you when they need something are there relationships where you are always giving always sacrificing always pouring out but receiving nothing

in return are you constantly saying yes even when your heart tells you to say no this is not what God wants for you true kindness is rooted in wisdom true love operates within boundaries and true discernment allows you to see beyond words and into the intentions of the heart God has given you a calling he has given you an assignment but if you spend your time trying to please everyone trying to be available to everyone trying to meet every need that is placed before you you will never fulfill what he has planned for your life

sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is walk away sometimes the most loving thing you can do is say no sometimes the most Godly thing you can do is say set a boundary and set firm in it the world will tell you that love means never turning anyone away but God's word tells you to guard your heart the world will tell you that kindness means giving to everyone who asks but God's word tells you to be a good Steward of your time your resources and your energy the world will tell you that being a

good person means sacrificing your own well-being for the the sake of others but God's word tells you that even Jesus withdrew from the crowds to pray to rest and to be alone with the father if Jesus set boundaries why shouldn't you if Jesus walked away from people who only wanted to use him why shouldn't you if Jesus knew when to speak and when to be silent when to give and when to withhold when to heal and when to let go why shouldn't you kindness is Godly but but discernment is necessary Jesus walked this Earth as

the perfect example of Love Grace and kindness he healed the sick fed the hungry and welcomed Those whom Society had rejected his heart was filled with compassion for the lost and the broken and he demonstrated love in a way that no one had ever seen before but while Jesus was kind he was not passive while he was merciful he was not weak while he gave freely he also also set boundaries many people think that kindness means always saying yes always being available and never turned anyone away but Jesus did not live that way he was

fully committed to his mission and he did not allow the demands of people to distract him from the purpose his father had given him there were times when he withdrew from the crowds times when he refused to perform miracles on demand and times when he confronted people with the truth even when it offended them his kindness was not driven by the approval of men but by the will of God the gospels tell us that large crowds followed Jesus wherever he went they came to him with their needs their illnesses their desires for miracles but despite

the pressing crowds Jesus often stepped away he withdrew to lonely places to pray he took time to be alone with his father he did did not allow the expectations of people to control his schedule he knew that his strength came from communion with God and he prioritized that above anything else if Jesus the son of God needed to set boundaries for rest and prayer how much more do we there were also times when Jesus refused to engage with those who had hardened Hearts the Pharisees often tried to trap him with their questions twisting his words

in an attempt to discredit him but Jesus did not entertain their deceit he answered when he chose to and remained silent when he knew their motives were impure he did not waste time arguing with those who had no desire for the truth his kindness did not mean he tolerated manipulation or allowed others to dictate his mission one of the most powerful examples of Jesus setting boundaries was in his interactions with those who followed him him when a rich young ruler came to Jesus eager to gain eternal life Jesus told him to sell his possessions and

follow him the young man walked away sorrowful because he was unwilling to let go of his wealth Jesus did not chase after him he did not lower the standard he did not try to convince him to stay Jesus extended the invitation but when the man rejected it he let him go Jesus also set boundaries with those closest to him when Peter one of his own disciples tried to rebuke him and discourage him from going to the Cross Jesus responded firmly get behind me Satan he recognized that even those who loved him could sometimes be used

to distract him from his purpose he did not allow emotional ties to pull him away from his calling another example is when Jesus visited his hometown of Nazareth the people there were skeptical of him they had grown up with him and could not accept that he was the Messiah because of their unbelief Jesus did not perform many miracles there he did not force himself upon those who refused to believe he moved on to other places where people's hearts were open his kindness did not mean staying where he was not welcome even in his ultimate sacrifice

Jesus demonstrated boundaries as he stood before Pilate for falsely accused and mock he did not defend himself he remained silent choosing to submit to the will of his father rather than the demands of the crowd he knew his purpose and he did not allow others to dictate how he should fulfill it his kindness was never a weakness it was power under control too often people mistake kindness for Endless availability they believe that to be a good person means never saying no never turning anyone away never walking away from unhealthy situations but Jesus shows us a

different example he loved people but he did not allow their expectations to control him he healed many but he did not heal everyone he spoke the truth but he did not force anyone to accept it if Jesus set boundaries why shouldn't we if he knew when to walk away when to be silent and when to say say no shouldn't we follow his example kindness is a reflection of God's love but it must be guided by wisdom Jesus was kind but he set boundaries not everyone who Smiles at you has your best interest at heart not

everyone who offers a helping hand does so out of love the world is filled with people whose intentions are not pure whose words do not match their hearts and whose actions are driven by selfish desires this is why discernment is necessary the Bible warns us time and time again to be vigilant to be wise to test the spirits and to guard our hearts against deception even Jesus who was full of love and compassion did not entrust himself to everyone the Gospel of John tells us that many people believed in him because of the Miracles he

performed but Jesus did not commit himself to them because he knew what was in in their hearts he understood that some followed him for the wrong reasons some wanted to use him for their own gain some only sought his power but had no desire for True transformation there were those who pretended to be with him but were actually against him Judas es scariot walked with Jesus listened to his teachings and even sat at his table yet in the end he betrayed him for 30 pieces of silver Judas looked like a disciple acted like a disciple

but his heart was far from God he followed Jesus but his intentions were never pure he saw personal gain rather than true devotion the Pharisees the religious leaders of the time spoke eloquent words about God but their hearts were filled with pride and hypocrisy they put on a display of righteousness yet behind their religious appearance was a desire for control and power they plotted against Jesus Jesus not because he did wrong but because he threatened their position they pretended to seek truth but in reality they were looking for ways to trap him throughout scripture we

see examples of people whose intentions were not what they appeared to be Delilah spoke words of love to Samson but her heart was set on betraying him she gained his trust only to deliver him into the hands of his enemies her kindness was a disguise her affection a tool for manipulation not everyone who speaks softly has a soft heart not everyone who draws near does so with good motives even among those who seem to be doing good there can be deception Jesus warned about wolves in sheep's clothing those who appear harmless but are dangerous at

their call they come with flattering words they make promises they appear kind and helpful but their true intentions are hidden they seek to take advantage to deceive to control and if we are not careful if we do not seek wisdom we may fall into their trap the world is full of people who pretend to be something they are not some will smile to your face but speak against you behind your back some will offer friendship not because they care for you but because they can benefit from you some will claim to love you but only

as long as they can use you and the greatest danger is that without discernment we may not see them for who they truly are until it is too late this is why Jesus told his followers to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves he did not call us to be naive he did not tell us to trust blindly he called us to love but he also called us to Be watchful he called us to be kind but he also called us to be Discerning love does not mean allowing ourselves to be deceived kindness does

not mean tolerating manipulation many have been hurt not because they lacked love but because they lacked wisdom they gave their trust too easily they ignored the warnings they assumed that everyone had the same heart as they did but not everyone has good intentions some people enter your life only to take to drain to manipulate and when they have gotten what they want they leave some build relationships only for personal gain some speak of loyalty but have no intention of staying When Things become difficult even in churches even in families even among those who claim to

walk with God there are people whose hearts are not right some preach not for the glory of God but for the Applause of man some give not out of love but to be seen some claim to follow Christ but their actions reveal otherwise God does not call us to live in fear but he does call us to walk in wisdom we must pray for discernment we must ask for eyes to see beyond the surface we must be led by the spirit so that we do not fall in into the traps of those who do not

have our best interest at heart not everyone who comes into your life is sent by God some are sent as distractions some are sent as tests some are sent by the enemy himself to pull you away from your purpose Jesus knew who was truly for him and who was against him even when they disguised themselves he never allowed the deception of others to interfere with his mission he did not give himself to those whose Hearts were not right he loved all but he was not blind to the reality of human nature if he in his

Perfection exercise such wisdom how much more do we need to people pleasing is a trap that many fall into often without realizing it it starts with good intentions a desire to be kind to be helpful to avoid conflict but over time it becomes a bir burden that Robs a person of Peace joy and purpose the need to be liked to be accepted and to keep everyone happy can slowly take control leading to a life that is dictated by the opinions and expectations of others rather than by the will of God the Bible warns against the

fear of man saying that it is a snare when a person lives to please people they become trapped in in a cycle of approval seeking every decision is weighed against how others will react every word is filtered through the fear of offending every action is shaped by a deep desire to be accepted instead of living freely they become slaves to the expectations of those around them instead of following God wholeheartedly they hesitate worried about how others will perceive them even Jesus who was full of grace and truth did did not seek to please everyone he

spoke the truth boldly even when it offended the religious leaders he performed Miracles not to gain popularity but to reveal the power of God he did not change his message to make it more acceptable to the crowds in fact when many found his words too hard to accept and walked away he did not run after them or try to soften his teaching he remained faithful to his mission regardless of who who approved or disapproved people Pleasers however live in fear of rejection they avoid saying no because they don't want to disappoint they agree to things

they don't have time for just to keep others happy they stay silent when they should speak fearing they might offend they overextend themselves constantly giving constantly serving constantly saying yes even when they are exhausted and over welm and in doing so they lose themselves their own needs their own convictions their own purpose become secondary to the demands of others one of the greatest dangers of people pleasing is that it leads to compromise when a person is more concerned with making others happy than with obeying God they begin to make small concessions they allow things they

once stood firmly against they bend their values to fit in they tolerate sin to avoid conflict they water down the truth to avoid offending over time they drift further and further from what is right all because they are afraid of what others will think the religious leaders in jesus' time were more concerned about the opinions of men than about the truth the Bible says that many of them believed in Jesus but would not confess it openly because they feared being put out of the synagogue they valued the praise of people more than the approval of

God they knew the truth but their need for acceptance kept them silent this is what happens when people pleasing takes control it silence is truth it weakens conviction it makes a person more concerned with their reputation than with their relationship with God another danger of peop pleasing is that it leads to resentment a person who constantly tries to keep everyone happy will eventually realize that it is impossible no matter how much they give no matter how much they do there will always be someone who is dissatisfied and over time bitterness begins to grow they feel

unappreciated taken for granted used they become weary from carrying burdens they were never meant to carry what started as kindness turns into exhaustion what started as love turns into frustration Jesus never called his followers to be people Pleasers he called them to be obedient he called them to take up their cross and follow him even if it meant losing the approval of the world he warn that following him would bring opposition that some would reject them that they would face criticism and persecution but he also promised that those who seek first the kingdom of God

will find Tru true fulfillment true joy and true peace living for the approval of people is a never ending cycle one day they applaud you the next they criticize you one moment they love you the next they turn their backs on you people's opinions change but God Remains the Same when a person chooses to live for God instead of for others they find Freedom they no longer feel the pressure to meet everyone's expectations they no longer carry the weight of trying to be everything to everyone they can walk in peace knowing that their worth is

not found in what others think but in what God says the danger of people pleasing is that it pulls a person away from their true calling it keeps them Trapped In Fear distracted by the opinions of others and exhausted from trying to meet impossible expectations but God did not create his people to live for the approval of men he created them to live for him when Jesus sent his disciples out into the world he gave them a warning and a command behold I send you out as sheep among wolves therefore be wise as serpents and

innocent as doves these words were not spoken lightly they were a called to both wisdom and Purity to to both discernment and righteousness Jesus knew that the world would not always be kind that his followers would face deception opposition and even persecution he did not tell them to be naive nor did he tell them to be harsh he called them to a balance a life of spiritual sharpness and moral Purity to be wise as serpents means to be Discerning a serpent does not move recklessly it is careful observant and strategic it does not waste energy

on unnecessary fights but knows when to strike and when to remain still Jesus was calling his disciples to move through the world with that same level of awareness he knew that there would be people who sought to deceive them who would try to twist their words who would pretend to be friends but were actually enemies he was warning them not to trust blindly not to walk into danger without thought not to be easily manipulated wisdom means understanding the reality of human nature not everyone has good intentions not everyone speaks the truth there are those who

disguise themselves as helpers but have selfish motives there are those who claim to seek righteousness but are driven by pride and power the Pharisees in jesus' time were an example of this the they wore the Robes of religious leaders they spoke the words of scripture but their hearts were full of hypocrisy they sought to trap Jesus to twist his words to find any reason to condemn him yet Jesus saw through them he never fell into their traps because he carried the wisdom of Heaven the Bible is filled with warnings about deception Proverbs tells us that

fools believe everything they hear but the wise examine things carefully Paul warns in his letters that Satan disguises himself as an angel of Light meaning that not everything that appears good is from God many people have been LED astray because they lack discernment they followed charismatic leaders who spoke eloquently but led them away from truth they trusted those who seemed kind but later revealed selfish harmful intentions Jesus knew this would happen which is why he commanded his disciples to be wise but wisdom alone is not enough that is why Jesus is also said to be

innocent as doves a dove represents Purity sincerity and A Heart That Remains undefiled some when they learn of the evil in the world respond with bitterness they become hardened suspicious of everyone unwilling to trust or love but Jesus did not call his followers to be cold or cynical he did not tell them to respond to deception with deception or to meet evil with more evil he called them to remain pure to walk in righteousness to keep their hearts free from corruption a dove does not seek revenge it does not scheme or manipulate it moves gently

bringing peace wherever it goes Jes Jesus was telling his followers that even as they walked in wisdom they must never lose their innocent they must never become so cautious that they lose their compassion never become so Discerning that they stop loving never become so aware of evil that they allow it to take root in their own Hearts to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves is to live in the tension between shrewdness and sincerity it means knowing when to speak and when to stay silent it means recognizing deception without becoming deceitful it means standing

firm in truth without becoming arrogant Jesus lived this balance perfectly he saw the schemes of his enemies yet he did not respond with hatred he knew the hearts of men yet he still loved them he faced betrayal yet he did not allow bitterness to take hold the world is full of both wolves and lost sheep there are those who will seek to harm and there are those who simply do not know the truth wisdom allows a Believer to see the difference to know when to engage and when to walk away innocence allows them to love

to serve to extend grace even in a world that does not always return it this is the calling of every believer to walk in wisdom without losing Purity to see the world clearly without letting it corrupt the heart to be as wise as serpents and as innocent as doves truth has never been popular from the beginning of time men have rejected it twisted it and tried to silence those who speak it the prophets of old were ridiculed beaten and even killed for declaring God's word Jesus himself who was the very embodiment of Truth was mocked

despised and cruci ified the apostles faced imprisonment rejection and suffering not because they did evil but because they refused to compromise the message God had given them standing for the truth has a cost it always has the world does not love truth because truth exposes sin truth shines a light on darkness and those who love Darkness will fight to keep it hidden when Jesus spoke the crowds marveled at his wisd wisdom but many also grew angry when he confronted the religious leaders they plotted against him when he declared that he was the only way to

the father many walked away he could have softened his message changed his words to make them more acceptable but he did not he spoke the truth even when it offended many today are afraid to stand firm in the truth because they fear rejection they fear losing friendships opportunities status or Comfort the pressure to conform is strong the world demands that truth be reshaped that it be softened to fit cultural trends that it be adjusted so that no one feels uncomfortable but truth does not change to accommodate feelings truth does not Bend to fit the shifting

morals of society what was true in the days of Jesus is still true today and it will be true for eternity the Bible warns that in the last days people will not endure sound Doctrine they will gather teachers who say what they want to hear who tell them they can live however they please and still be right with God they will reject correction despise rebuke and mock those who hold fast to righteousness but God has not called his people to be silent he has not called them to blend in to dilute his word or to

seek approval from the world he has called them to stand firm standing firm means speaking truth even when it is unpopular it means refusing to compromise even when it costs something it means being more concerned with God's approval than with the opinions of men Jesus said that whoever is ashamed of him and his words he will be ashamed of when he returns in glory those who belong to him cannot afford to shrink back they cannot afford to stay silent when the world distorts God's word there will always be opposition to truth Noah preached righteousness but

the world ignored him until it was too late Jeremiah was thrown into a pit for warning Israel to repent John the Baptist was beheaded for speaking against sin Paul was imprisoned beaten and ultimately killed because he refused to stop preaching the gospel none of them compromised none of them changed their message to avoid offense they spoke what God commanded no matter the cost Jesus promised that his followers would face persecution for standing on the truth he said they would be hated ridiculed and excluded but he also promised that those who endure will be rewarded the

approval of men is fleeting the praise of the world is empty but the reward of standing firm in God's truth lasts forever those who stand for truth must be prepared to be misunderstood they will be called intolerant unloving or narrow-minded the world will try to silence them shame them or pressure them into compromise but their calling is not to please the world it is to please God they must not allow fear to to keep them quiet they must not allow opposition to shake them truth is not determined by how many people accept it it is

not weakened by Rejection it remains unchanging unwavering Eternal compromise may bring temporary peace but it leads to spiritual destruction silence May avoid conflict but it allows Darkness to spread unchecked those who love God Must Love truth and those who love truth must be willing to stand for it even when it offends compassion is a gift from God a reflection of his own heart he is full of Mercy slow to anger and rich in love he calls his people to care for the broken to help the hurting to love the unlovable but just as God is

compassionate he is also wise and he calls his people to be the same compassion that is not directed by God can lead to exhaustion manipulation and even enabling sin true compassion is not just about feeling deeply it is about being led by the spirit in how and when to act Jesus was moved with compassion many times he saw the sick and healed them he saw the hungry and fed them he saw the lost and called them to repentance but he did not heal every sick person in Israel he did not respond to every request in

the way people expected when the Rich Young Ruler came to him Jesus loved him but he did not chase after him when he walked away when the crowd sought him after he fed them hoping for more bread he did not perform another miracle to satisfy them he pointed them to the truth Jesus compassion was always directed by the will of the father there is a danger in allowing human emotion alone to guide acts of compassion feelings are powerful but they are not always wise it is possible to give so much that one becomes drained and

has nothing left to give it is possible to try to help someone only to find that they take advantage of kindness without ever changing it is possible to carry burdens that God never intended for one to carry this is why compassion must be directed by God because only he sees the full picture there are times when God calls his people to step in to give to serve to sacrifice but there are also times when he calls them to step back to say no to allow consequences to take their course the prodigal son's father loved him

deeply but he did not chase after him when he left he did not try to stop him from experiencing the hardship of his choice es he waited he trusted that God would work in his son's heart and when the son finally came to his senses he returned home truly changed some people are drawn to helping others to the point that they neglect their own well-being they feel guilty for saying no they pour themselves out until they are empty thinking that this is what love requires but even Jesus took time to rest even he withdrew from

the crowds to pray and be refreshed he was not driven by the demands of people he was led by the father he knew when to give and when to step away there is also a difference between helping and enabling some people do not want a change they seek help but not responsibility they want Rescue but not repentance they take and take but never grow when compassion is not directed by God it can turn into enabling Behavior prolonging someone's struggle instead of allowing them to face the reality that will bring true transformation Jesus helped those who

were willing to receive truth but he did not force change upon those who rejected it God calls his people to be generous but he also calls them to be wise stewards he calls them to love but also to discern compassion is powerful when it is aligned with his will it brings healing restoration and true help but misplaced compassion can drain deceive and distract from the true work God wants to do the greatest act of compassion was Christ's sacrifice on the cross but even in that he did not force salvation upon anyone he offered it freely

and those who chose to receive it were changed forever in the same way Believers must let God direct their compassion giving where he leads stepping back when he says to and trusting that his wisdom is greater than human understanding God calls his people to be compassionate but he also calls them to be wise true compassion is not just an emotional response it is a Divine calling directed by his wisdom and led by his spirit Jesus demonstrated perfect compassion showing Mercy to the broken while never compromising truth he knew when to give when to heal when

to step in and when to step back he did not allow the demands of people to dictate his actions he allowed the will of the father to guide him when compassion is directed by God it leads to True restoration and healing it strengthens rather than drains uplifts rather than enables and reflects the heart of Christ but when compassion is driven only by human emotion it can lead to exhaustion manipulation and misplaced priorities there is a time to help and a time to let go there is a time to give and a time to wait there

is a time to speak and a time to be silent God does not call his people to carry burdens he never placed on on them he calls them to trust him to seek his wisdom and to allow him to direct their love and care for others when compassion is aligned with God's will it is powerful it brings real change lasting impact and eternal significance his people are called to love as he loves to serve as he serves and to trust that his ways are higher than their own