How To Unf**k Your Life Like a Millionaire

you know how it's almost like there's two sides of you one that builds and grows and develops and is confident and is capable and wants to work and grow and one minute you know this part of you is existing you're meditating you're on self-improvement you're reading you're working you're doing things that you need to do to achieve your goals but there's another side of you a part of you that destroys where it's the polar opposite to the other side where you're breaking things down you're going to bed late you're going to stupid websites that you

shouldn't you're playing video games you're not exercising you're not taking care of yourself and it's bad there's like an angel and a devil on your shoulder and one week or one month the angel will be on your shoulder and this part of you will take over and you'll feel really confident about your ability to achieve your goals and you'll be working really hard and you'll be focused and you'll be locked in you'll be saying no to distractions and you'll just be you know you'll be like a monk disciplined proper how you should be but after

a couple of weeks or month of that you either burn yourself out or you stop feeling that emotion to grow and you essentially just start to break yourself down and you end up in a rra and you end up angry and you you know you're EA eting bad foods you're not you're not doing things that you should be doing and you seem to just jump from one extreme to the other um the chances are is that this is happening to you right you're going through a cycle or you know you're living out a pattern in

your life where you go up and you go down and your behavioral manifestations of your psychology seem to be very unpredictable and you swear to yourself every time you come out of a rut that that will be the last time you know you tell yourself I'm never going to do this again or I'm I'm never going to go back there and then miraculously two weeks later after you know two weeks of confidence you the doubt creeps back in and you go from feeling extremely confident and happy to extremely doubtful your borderline like depressed you have

self-hatred well fortunately enough for you I've been through this for a long time um and I feel figured out how to completely solve this and break the cycle this video will change your life this is that YouTube video that you've been looking for the one that you miraculously stumble upon and you watch and if you finish this and you watch it and you understand it until the end I'm going to completely blow your mind and I'm going to completely change your perception on not only yourself and your behavior but the entire way the world works

and this is genuinely the key and the secret to truly getting what you want out of life and becoming successful and achieving the goals that you want to achieve and that's not just some dodgy YouTube retention strategy like watch to the end because you're going to get value this this changed my life this took me from um a basically broke lazy um addicted useless you know apathetic 18-year-old kid who didn't really have much going for him and was just angry at the world and got rejected by girls all the time and just played video games

and you know just drank and didn't do anything useful for the world all the way into someone now who is 25 years old and has built an 8 figure business has his dream life um and is happy and content and you know um the the the difference between those people is night and day and I can sort of show you right this is where I live um if you've been watching my past few videos like I'm a aare that if you're going to watch someone talk about how to change your life on YouTube it's it's

nice to know that they've actually got some level of authority so believe me I take no pleasure in flexing on you but this is where I live um I have a beautiful house on the palm in Dubai um it's a pretty big house um don't know if you can see this here Tada but you know I moved here a few months ago um I have my dream car I have my dream watch which is a $30 Casio but all jokes aside like you know I I think that blatant displays of wealth are quite pathetic and

I think that like I know that I need to earn your trust through Authority so that's my pathetic attempt at doing that right you know your argument could be well if he's a millionaire and he can afford to live on the palm why can't he afford a new hairline but the truth is that I'm scared of Turkish doctors anyway let's actually get into this so I've drawn a little diagram for you and this is going going to be a deep dark Dangerous video um it's going to tell you some truths that are going to um

open your eyes and if you're not prepared to go on a journey of discomfort with me then I would suggest you click away now this is not for the fainthearted this is not for this is not a casual self-improvement watch this is not I'm not going to tell you to you know pull yourself up by the bootstraps and go to bed on time and you know stop texting girls I this is not none of that all of those try things that you already know to do like you know oh like fasting and all this it's

not about any of that it's about something severely deep and terrifying and I'm going to explain it to you I don't know how long it's going to take um maybe a couple of hours so let's hope that I can Main maintain my train of thought and explain so we're going to start with the um the diagnosis right what I've done here I'm actually quite proud of this drawing CU you if anybody watched my videos before you know that I can't really draw I know that this doesn't require too much artistic prowess but you get the

point so you are essentially as an entrepreneur or anyone trying to achieve anything you know if you have a goal and you want to achieve something if you're not like a normal person and by that I mean you don't want to go to the 9 to5 you just want you don't want to have that nuclear family and a mortgage you want something different you want to be different you want to grow you want to develop you don't you're terrified of mediocrity and being average and the thought of settling down you know with a with a

job that you're not too sure of for the next 40 years terrifies you right and that's fair enough um so if you want to escape that and you want to build a company and you want to grow well you are my friend at War right there is an enemy there is someone or something that you have to defeat in order to accomplish that which you wish to accomplish right and the enemy is you I kind of explained this earlier there's two sides to yourself one confident powerful developing growing action-based the other one doubtful weak lazy

apathetic angry doesn't want to work hates hates the idea of progress right and what happens is you can start to map your behavior and the way in which reality manifests to you on a simple graph and this is essentially called an oscillation right it's a wavelength but we're just going to call this an oscillation of behavior okay and what your life looks like and how your life is currently happening is you basically build yourself up to a peak right where you get to a point here here right where you feel pretty good you know you

you spend a couple of weeks or a month or two months or even a couple of days and up here you have loads of positive e positive e means positive emotion right here you're proud you're happy you're confident you're on top of the world you're crushing it right and what starts to happen is you sit at this peak for a short period of time right because obviously the the main you know the thing down the bottom here is time because our behavior is is tracked over you know the variable of time and so you know

for for a short period of time here you sit in positive emotion now if you could be this person in this state for your entire life you would achieve your goals easily right you know that side of you that knows what to do and you're working and you're concentrating and your focus and you removal distractions if you could just be that person forever then you'd have exactly what you wanted so the question is is well if you're this person and you start feeling great and happy and proud you're making progress and you're genuinely moving towards

your goal then why do we have this like Cliff why does it happen well it's going to get deep but what happens is you go from feeling great about yourself to feeling terrible about yourself you know this here represents growth and building and working and working and then this here you just stop working you actually start destroying so what you're doing here is you're creating and you're building and it's almost as if sadistically you create it just to destroy it and you come down here to a point where you have negative e which is negative

emotion right these are the emotions that don't feel very pleasant they register neurologically as bad and painful we have self-hatred we have anger we have guilt we have shame we have apathy we have like just these negative low frequency emotions that make you feel pretty bad about yourself right um and it's going to happen in a very short period of time as I'm sure you're aware you can go from being on top of the world at the top of Tip Top Of Heaven in your mind to the very depths of Hell at which you despise

and this can happen in a day this can happen in half a day it can happen over the course of a week it's usually gradual you know what it's like where you you go and you start working and then suddenly you sort of let one thing slip like I'm just not going to go to the gym today cuz I'm feeling a little tired or oh like you know I made 50 cold calls yesterday so I'll only do 25 today or I'll let myself off because I've done pretty well coming up to now and and and

and the cracks start to show and your discipline starts to waver and before you know it you're here but what happens is you get to here and you get to the bottom and you feel all this negative emotion and you've built it and now it's destroyed you know but for some reason by some miracle all of this negative emotion is channeled back into your work and so From the Ashes you rise you get to this point here you hit a low and then you start to regulate yourself you get to this point and you start

to regulate yourself back up and suddenly it's about no I'm this isn't I'm confident and I am feeling good and I can be disciplined and then you know a few days goes by before you know it or few weeks or few months or whatever time Horizon that you track your behavior over then you're back on top of the world and you know all the positive emotions are back you're building you're feeling confident you're feeling determined you've got this drive you've got this motivation all these positive emotions are pushing you forward and you do it all

over again you get to the peak and then suddenly you start slipping and then bang couple of weeks couple of months couple of days later couple of hours sometimes you're back here and you feel the doubt and so what's really happening here right is we are oscillating um our behavior and like our actual like physical actions are oscillating but really what we're oscillating between um are really two emotional states I would say right um the first one is confidence right and the second one is doubt so you seem to be sort of you know between

these two states where one minute you feel like you can do it and what you want to achieve is actually accomplishable and oh my God this is actually going to happen I can see it you're doing affirmations whatever but then the next minute it's 3: in the morning you're still awake and you're just sat there crippled with fear and doubt as to whether or not this is going to work right so what I'm going to tell you is that this graph um in order for us to break this cycle and like actually surpass this and

transcend it which is entirely possible by the way I'm going to tell you how and your life won't be the same it you it like I can I can I cannot overe exaggerate like the amount of importance this holds right now in your life if you resonate with this right um but in order to break this we first need to understand it right so what you might have noticed here um is that we have this sort of dotted Blue Line right and you might be asking yourself well what does this dotted Blue Line you know

represent well this blue line that we have in the middle here represents the average State at which your behavior is manifesting or the average result that you achieve in your life it's the average State effectively right and so what I mean by this is if you mapped your behavior um over you know 90day 180 day 365 day time Horizon we would be able to establish an average right so let's start getting actually like let's get let's get specific on these behaviors because this graph can exist in so many different forms this isn't just like a

macro explainer of your entire emotional state or behavior or being this thing manifests everywhere so this will manifest to the amount of money that you have in your bank account to how healthy you are to the state of your office or the state of your like you know the state of your bedroom to how well you treat your friends to how extroverted you are to how introverted you are like how clean your email inbox is like this you have this everywhere and essentially what this is is it's like a internal thermometer of behavior right so

in um in biology right in in human biology um our bodies are capable of Performing something called homeostasis and homeostasis is essentially um if you're familiar with it you kind of should be um it's pretty responsible for keeping you alive but homeostasis is the like system in our body that is responsible for temperature regulation and control and so like if we get too cold then our body will start to do things to warm us up and if we get too hot then our body will do things to start cooling us down so you know if

you get too cold and you're freezing then your body will start to shiver and like the blood will start to like circulate in different ways I don't know how it works for most of you um and then that will bring your body temperature up but if you're way too hot then you'll start to sweat and you know things happen to your blood and like your organs and stuff like that and then your body temperature decreases right and so it's important for the body to have this thermometer right because you know the average body temperature is

37° um and that's the temperature at which enzymes can cataliz substrates and you know that's the temperature at which proteins aren't denaturing in the body and stuff so it's kind of important that the body maintains its average because new Splash if you don't you die you know you know how like hard your body will fight like being too hot with a fever like it's not pleasant right and it's because it knows if it doesn't you're going to die so the point here is you can exp you can use this to explain ups and downs right

it's too hot too cold but it's also it's not physical in the body this is also psychological so too confident too doubtful you know too happy too sad um what are some other like um too laidback too disciplined or sorry too disciplined too lazy right you you have this thermostat essentially this air conditioning of your emotions right and there's a gauge inside of your being or Consciousness or psyche that regulates your emotional state and doesn't let you go too far in One Direction and so the first thing to understand about this graph is it serves

a purpose of Maintenance it doesn't want you to go to too much of an extreme and the thing about extremes emotionally is that any behavioral thing or any emotion taken to its extreme will naturally become its opposite it's paradoxical so if you think about it like extreme discipline like and I'm talking discipline on a level that's like sustained and extreme like you all you do is like you're super disciplined well extreme discipline will become extreme laziness through burnout right and extreme laziness can not always become extreme discipline but for me it would because I won't

tolerate it right so let's get to understanding this so the first thing you need to know is that like you can map this let's just map this in terms of your finances right so I'm actually going to just remove these bits here because they're going to get in the way of my diagrams okay just wanted this to be nice and clean though all right so I think that is a pretty good introduction to this graph and now let's actually start getting somewhat um somewhat like specific with this thing okay so if you track your bank

account and how much money you have in your bank at any given time over time what you will find is probably an oscillation between a peak and a trough so for example when I was 19 years old 18 years old actually and building my first business um at my Peak Financial State I would have about £10,000 in my bank account right and that's what I would save and that's what I would get to and and save and at my trough you know at my at my very least my bank account I would probably have about

you know £4,000 and so this is the first thing to understand about the graph is you have a natural like ceiling that you perceive you do not surpass and you have a floor that you do not surpass so this is essentially like the lowest standard that you're willing to accept and I can tell you that most of the leverage you're going to get from this video and and and how I'm going to help you is we're going to talk about your standards because that's really the main thing um but the point is is that it

would be very very difficult extremely difficult for me to surpass £10,000 in Saving as soon as I got to you know close to 10 grand or got to 11 or 12 Grand I would just look for ways to spend my money and I would you know spend that money and i' start to break it down and you know spend it and stupidly spend it and then I get to the point where I've got like £4,000 in my account right and this was like 7 years ago right um and I would never ever go Bel below

4,000 like never it was was just a rule of thumb would I would rather not eat for 3 days and spend no money on food than go below 4 grand right and so I get to this point where I've got 4 grand and that'll be my Panic number right so everyone has a a panic number everyone has like a a standard that then not willing to break and so I would then start regulating it back up to the point where I had 10,000 and if you you know if you tracked my average sort of savings

you know how much money I've got in my bank account at any given time on average over the course of like 180 days um well you you'd obviously find the mean between these which would be about £7,000 so the thing is here is in life you know it's 7,000 because you know if you add 10,000 to 4,000 like if 4,000 is the lowest it goes and 10,000 is the highest it goes and I regulate between these two points well the average is you know those two together divided by two CU there's two variables right so

it's about £7,000 um and the thing is is that in life it's all about this blue line right achieving what you want or not achieving what you want is seldom about your low point or your high point it's all about your midpoint because the average is the thing that matters right right because if I looked at my financial State and I was trying to to fix it and diagnose it and I was trying to get to grps with it and terms with it then like I'm not I haven't got 10 grand frequently I haven't got

four grand frequently it's just the average and having both of those is is you got seven Grand right so this happens financially this would also happen with other things in my life as well and I'm sure it does with yours so for example um let's take my state of Fitness when I was when I was younger I was like 18 19 right um you know at the peak of my fitness I'd be going to the gym 5 days a week I'd be running like 15 km um per week and I'd be like perfect diet like

I'm talking not a single not a single gram of sugar or seed oil or anything is getting past my lips just perfection right perfect discipline towards my diet and my my my body and so what would happen this would be my Peak and I might be able to sustain that for a couple of weeks or whatever um but naturally after you know a couple of weeks of that like I'd stop training or like I'd say I'm fatigued or like I'm burned out whatever and then like I'm also craving this stuff and I feel like I

should eat it blah blah blah and so then down here like there would be zero days a week right maybe I do like 3 to five kilomet you know per week and there's there's no dieting you know there's ABS I'm eating McDonald's I'm drinking Coca-Cola I'm like there's absolutely no dieting right but once again it's not about like my severe lack of discipline here and it's not about my extreme um presence of discipline here it all comes back to the average right because if I'm trying to like bulk or grow it's not about like doing

it for a couple of weeks it's about doing it for a couple of years is right and so it's about the sustained average of these two things so what I'm going to encourage you to do now is take a second to get a piece of paper and a pen and draw out an oscillation like this and I guarantee that you will be able to map out lots of things in your life where this is manifesting right where you go up and you go down and you seem to have this pattern right so I want you

to go and get some paper get get a pen and I want you to look at the thing or look at the things in your life that you know are happening and then I want you to map them and I want you to make it like like what I just did there with numbers I want you to make it specific and predictable right because what starts to happen the first step to fixing this thing is becoming aware of it and you might say to yourself oh I don't have like a panic if you doing the

money the money thing is the easiest cuz you can actually see it with bank statements and stuff right but you might think like I don't have a panic number or I don't have you do you have a number that you self-regulate down to and when you hit that number you you panic um I can give you a prime example right so my company Imperium acquisition um we are near enough at eight figures right in terms of in terms of income so like you know $800,000 a million doll a month you know sometimes 700 but we

we're near enough at that point now we're making $10 million a year and in December um of because I'm this is now January 2024 so in December of 2023 um I think we did something like 500 grand in cash right in revenue and um you know it's December so we basically two weeks where there's no sales coming in um people are pausing and stuff like that so it's natural you've only really got like two weeks to do it but it still count as a month right and I remember this cuz it was only like a

couple of weeks ago that we got the financial reports back um we did $500,000 by give or take or pound maybe like $550 but that made me feel pretty disgusting and I know that this is going to be extremely difficult to believe and I know that you're going to think about this as false and a lie but for me making $500,000 in one month makes me feel physical pain that genuinely registers in my mind as painful in the same way that £4,000 going below that would be painful me going below 600 Grand a month in

Revenue makes me feel I'm beside myself with fear and Terror and I I know how ridiculous that sounds and I know how insane to you that may be because if you made 500 Grand in one month you probably like I don't know what you do probably feel great right but what I'm trying to tell you is that this thing it doesn't go away this is a universal behavioral phenomenon and it does not matter what level of success or financial abundance or anything in your life doesn't matter what you achieve there will always be a lowest

standard and there will always be a highest peak so for me at the moment in my business and I can tell you this because this is exactly what happens right because I'm still living this oscillation but I've just been able to play the game at a significantly higher level and I've broken it and I'm going to teach you how to sort of get out of the cycle but it's still it still regulates you can still become aware of it um you know I'll go between like you know like a million a month right where I'm

making a million dollars a month and then you know we'll have like months where we do like you know 500 to like 600 right so my goal right now is figuring out how to get to like 1.5 just consistently and hold that there and then you know but the point here is you know if you told me if 5 years ago you know six seven years ago when I was starting out as an entrepreneur I was happy if I was making like three grand a month and my Panic number was like a grand a month

that's when I'm freaking out right but if you transcend yourself enough you will genuinely get to a point where $500,000 a month registers as painful and so one man's goal can be another man's hygiene standard right so what this is down here essentially is like a hygiene standard it's a standard it's something that you do not break or tolerate or in any way shape or form like you just just just you won't allow it like the idea of me going below 500 Grand a month um like that's that's the danger zone that's T amount to

me eating rotten chicken out of the fridge or not brushing my teeth for 4 days it's like I have these basic hygiene standards that I don't break CU they're disgusting and I see the 500 Grand a month in the same way right and in the same way that I see 500k a month you might see three grand a month or you might see 2,000 in savings you might see an you might this might be you know minus this might beus 1,000 maybe you're in debt maybe you've got an overdraft of £1,000 and anything below like

a th000 anything above ,000 in your overdraft then you start to register that as painful and you start to panic and you start to save money and grow and like try and build it up and then you break it back down so you know this number and these things you can map they become incredibly predictable and so what I want you to do now is pause the video for a second here draw a bunch of these out and track everything track your health track your wealth track your social life track how clean you keep your

office in your room I used to have this for how clean my car would be like same thing with like my car and petrol like I'd fill it up and I'd let it get to just the point where there was almost none left and I'd go and fill it up right it happens everywhere um the big ones that you're trying to solve is probably money but you can also track this with your emotional state with how confident you are so you should be doing that right now so we can now move on okay so essentially

this thing it exists in a few different stages as I've mentioned so stage one is you know to sort of build stage two is to like this is stage one you know and this is really happening over here right and then stage two happens up here when you hit the peak and you start to break it down stage three is like you know you sort of Hit the trough and then you start to build it up and then essentially what happens is you know we have stage four where it happens again right time to get

deep all right um do I want to rub this off yet how uh okay right so I've got a few notes and a few points um so this video is about to take a a Sinister turn um I'm going to explain when it's going to take a while to do this so you're going to have to bear with me because the answer won't become abundantly clear for maybe an hour right I promise it will make sense eventually I'm going to explain this part to you because the thing is about this cycle is it's not about

how high you can go it's not about everyone in life who's trying to make progress they focus on the Peaks right they focus on like how far they can go or how much money they can save or how healthy they can become but the truth is that the Dark Truth and I'm going to explain this all in a second is the low point this is the thing that matters because think this out of me for a second here right um if you if you figure out how to make a ton of money and you figure

out how to become a millionaire but you have a gambling addiction or a you know spending addiction or whatever it doesn't matter how much you make right in life and business whether it's money or health or relationships or anything it doesn't matter what you achieve it matters what you keep so when you achieve something a state or a level of Finance it's the the the hard work isn't achieving it it's keeping it and it's stopping yourself from coming in and destroying the thing that you've built so maybe you have this with your personal relationships right

where you come in you meet a woman or a man and you build this relationship and then like a few mon goes by and you just break it all down because you're sabotaging yourself essentially right um so it's seldom is it ever about how high you can go and how far you can go it's all about what you don't what you what you do when you when you're down here when you're at your worst because you can extend this and you can go from May maybe right now you know maybe right now your your your

limit is 10K right $10,000 £10,000 and you you can extend this out to like a million right you know but if whatever you can bring it to like 100 Grand or a million and save a million or 100 Grand but if this part of you is still existing and still wants to just destroy you're going to have you're going to end up with the same result which is nothing or maybe the average increases slightly but if often if you don't address what's down here and you just address what's up here the more this grows in

extremity the more that this thing develops and and and pushes forward like the more extreme the high if you don't address this the further you have to fall so it's kind of like a like if you climbing a building the higher you go the further you are away from the from the from the floor if you want to build your ceiling you have to bring the floor with you right and this is a very profound thing it won't make sense for a while but I promise um I'm going to get going to it's there's there's

a place to go right which I'm I you know I've actually put off making this video for like a couple of months because uh it requires me to be quite open and emotionally vulnerable with you um because I can only explain this through my experience um and we we'll get into it um so the point I'm making is is like you know there's this there's a TV show called The Biggest Loser it's an American TV show you may have heard of it and The Biggest Loser is all about fat people um and I'm going to

say fat because they are fat objectively you can get upset if you want I don't really care it's about fat people who lose weight and the idea of the game show is the person who can lose the most weight in an allotted period of time wins it's the Biggest Loser right so who can lose the most weight and what the Biggest Loser Doom after you know a year or two of the of the show is they'll go back and they'll go back to the contestants that won or came second or Runners up or something I

haven't watched it in a long time and what they'll do is they'll reconnect with them and they'll find out have they you know where are they at with their physique and their body and you know their health and almost always on The Biggest Loser they go back a year later and the person has put the weight back on and so what happens with the Biggest Loser on this TV show is they lose a ton of weight right so this is might happen with their weight so maybe maybe like down here at the beginning maybe like

you know we if we if we extend this out and we draw it down right and this is the the Peak at the beginning maybe I don't know how much like they would weigh but let's just say that they're like you know 120 kg right so super overweight if if that's not muscle it's body fat right and so maybe like you know their their their lowest trough their floor they won't go above 120 kilos right and then you know maybe they lose like a bunch of weight and they get to the point where they're 90

kilos right you know which objectively you could argue is still overweight depending on the BMI but you know they they lose all this weight and then time elapses but if they haven't addressed the psychological conditioning that is leading to them sabotaging themselves and and getting to this point they're not it's like you're addressing the symptom not the cause behavior is an effect behavior is a symptom of psychology psychology is the disease and the behavior like if you have a cold let's say you have a let's say you let's say you have um let's say you

have a disease right and let's say that you have I don't know like cancer right to to to just bring a Sinister one in and let's say that you have symptoms of cancer like you're vomiting for example if you go to a doctor and they give you anti- like sickness medicine they are solving the symptom they are not solving the cause because if they don't diagnose you and say that oh you've got cancer let's let's put radio therapy or these treatments etc etc like if a doctor just looks at the symptom not the cause they're

never going to solve the problem and so this is why you struggle because what you try to do through your to try and solve this thing is you look at your behavior you you try to solve this problem by regulating your behavior and so it never works because there's a reason as to why this thing happens my friend and I can tell you right now is not the pomodora technique it's not it's not noat it's not intermittent fasting it's not the gym it's not like self-improvement these it's not journaling it's not meditation these are behaviors

they are symptoms they are manifestations of something deep right and likewise you know all the negative behaviors that you perform that bring you down here like if you're on The Biggest Loser sure you can exercise and you can you can start to like you know eat better and exercise and do cardio but you're focusing on the wrong thing you need to focus on you need to strip this out root and stem understand why have I got to this point in the first place because it's not about the behaviors if you fix the psychology of which

the behavior is Upstream then you fix the behavior you you you fix your behavior by fixing your mind because the the the body form behaviors commanded by the mind right so everyone has this so backwards if you want to achieve a certain state of reality you have to achieve a certain character right a certain person certain type of yourself and you you don't do that through Behavior I can tell you that for free so let's let's get a bit into this shall we all right so the way that this I really don't want to I

don't want to do it let's do it all right so let me explain to you um I'm going to explain the an emotional cycle that exists in life and then we're going to get into why this thing exists and how you can break it because if you can fix the emotional cycle you can fix the the behavioral cycle um and I'm feeling a lot of resistance to doing it which is why I've put it off for 38 minutes but let's actually start talking about this um so when we look at this this graph you know

that goes up and down like this um really there are four primary emotions or there are four stages or states to the regulation of your emotional state to regulate your behavior and ultimately regulate your reality because what this thing is is it's a reality regulator right where you have a ceiling you know something that you will not go above and you have a floor that you will not go below and between these two between essentially heaven and hell like your behavior manifests and so your your body and your mind and your unconscious being doesn't want

you to go below a certain point but it doesn't want you to go above a certain point why because these are the points of which are familiar and which we are comfortable and you know you know the whole like oh you don't grow if you're not outside your comfort zone this is true but people misunderstand that this exists because of an evolutionary trait inside of the brain um that is that is engineered towards familiarity right because we know that like if we go like it doesn't make sense like logically but if this is 10,000 and

this is 4,000 right the brain knows that we're safe between these two stages because we we sit between these two stages and we're not dying right so that's kind of how this works any of these states like you're evolutionary you're regulating it so I'm getting to the point so the way that your mind or your spirit or your unconscious being regulates your behavior is through emotion right emotion so the key is in the word here motion because emotion is like a not emotion a motion what is emotion well essentially it's an action right it's it's

movement it's putting something into play right and so e basically means like emotion you get the point so what are these emotions that regulate our Behavior so really you can sort of map this out in like I said four stages so I've got this over here because I wrote this out before the start of the video and I'm going to denot it with a couple of different pens so this is this is how it worked for me and this might be slightly different for you but I can only share with you here how I broke

this cycle and how I came to go from doing nothing to a million dollars a month and this is genuinely how I did it right so this is how it goes um okay okay here we go so the way in which my behavior was being like my behavior is being controlled by my emotions right and so what would happen um if I if I sort of draw this graph like if we draw this graph in the middle here right you know we're going up and down up and down right so typically the cycle Begins for

me with anger and this isn't anger at someone in in particular it's anger at myself so this this is stage one which is anger right and I'll just put an a you know anger exists for me at the very bottom of the trough this is where I've basically destroyed whatever I've built I've been lazy I've been undisciplined I've been sloly I maybe I've been gluttonous I'm sinning whatever you know I'm doing stupid stuff that I shouldn't do and I get angry at myself now this this this emotion for you might not be anger it could

be shame it could be guilt there are lots of lowlevel emotions that like exist that will push you to to to sort of fix it right and so the anger is the is usually the place that this cycle Begins for me um obviously it's a cycle so it's chicken and egg like where the hell does it begin probably like when you're five right but it starts with anger right and then what happens is I get so angry at myself and I get so much self-hatred that the the anger has has to go somewhere right so

in physics right there's this idea um the energy cannot be created or destroyed it can merely be converted into another sort of um like Silo of energy if that makes sense like so you can't create or destroy energy it just it transfers between different states and it's the same thing with emotion right with this cycle it's like what's getting ped here essentially is energy right or emotional energy at least and the more energy the more behavior and so what happens is the anger over here gets transferred into what I call drive and drive to you

can mean a lot of different things Drive is determination discipline Focus motivation this is basically positive emotion that fuels the hero's myth so this is like what you could call the hero's emotion it's when there's something wrong and you need to go and fix it and it's meaningful and it feels great because you know you go from being really angry at yourself and then you're like right it's time for me to pull myself out of this rut like I'm going to you know then you it's it's the hero's emotion essentially right and so what happens

is at the bottom I get angry and then this anger um quickly turns into drive right and the drive happens here like just as I'm about to start you know on this upward upwards Trend by the way this isn't the Deep thing we we're going to get a level into this into my emotional state and it's right it's it's it's going to be difficult um so the drive like this the drive brings you up you know the the hero's emotion whatever you want to call it the the motivation the discipline the whatever it is and

at the peak here this becomes Pride right cuz I've mapped this out pretty pretty diligently right so I can tell you this becomes Pride so pride is a very simple emotion it's when you feel good about what you've done right it's when you you've been disciplined or you've been doing the right thing or you've been going to bed on time you've been working really hard you've been you know you start to feel good about what you've done you know it's like a good feeling like oh like I've actually made some progress here and I've saved

this money up blah blah blah um and so you start to feel proud because you've manifested your drive and you've you've escaped the anger so to speak right but what happens pretty quickly um is this Pride then becomes Comfort right and the comfort is the thing that sort of destroys it and then the Comfort after a while turns into anger so the way I'm defining Comfort here right is like you know you're all proud of yourself and you feel good and then you start to you start to like you lose the drive that made you

have all the positive like action and you start start to feel comfortable and you're like okay like you know I can sort of ease off the gas now and you know now it's time for me to sort of relax a little bit and like you know slow it down and I'll start to like do this and I'll go to bed a little bit late and you know maybe I'll go and eat the burger and like maybe I'll start doing this I'll go for a few drinks like I'm I can I'm comfortable now right and comfort

exists for a fair while right but the problem with Comfort is it's not like there's no reason to do the right thing because you just feel good you just feel comfortable you know you just hooked up to an IV on morphine you're just like yeah this is great I feel I feel fantastic right and so what happens is through Comfort like slowly anger starts to form it's important to understand that these are not binary emotional states you don't just wake up one day into comfort and then suddenly you're into anger right these are we transition

between states right like for example example if energy is being um if energy If energy is being converted or transferred it's not just like one minute it's one form and the next minute it's another but let's say for example you turn on a light bulb right what will happen is the light energy will be converted into heat energy right over time as the as the as the light sort of you know gets hot and stuff like that and it'll be converted into heat energy um and then maybe eventually into kinetic energy but it's not sudden

at least to my basic knowledge of physics it's not maybe it is maybe I'm completely incorrect here but the point I'm making is this is a gradual cycle and you can see it's gradual by the way that these graphs go they are they can be exponential emotions so as soon as you start feeling angry it can really quickly come on but it's a it's a transitionary you know State of Affairs where we go in this cycle and so what happens after comfort you know you stay comfortable for a while and then you start getting a

little bit angry at yourself because you know suddenly you've done some stupid stuff and blah blah blah and then you get angry again and then the anger then sits in that for a while and you're sort of like still doing the stupid stuff and you know you're angry about it cuz like you're you're angry so you go out and you drink and then you're even more angry that you drank and then eventually like we each emotional state has what we call a threshold right it's it's sort of like you know a point if this is

a graph and this this represents a threshold don't know if you can see that there like the emotion will like if this is sort of like the intensity right the intensity of the emotion and this this over here is time you know what will happen is the emotion will start to develop and start to and then suddenly it will hit threshold and then bang it it just like flies way up right don't you can see that there you can but the point here is it just goes you know and then your behavior starts to like

line up so it takes a while for your behavior to catch up with the emotional state that you've just entered but these are the four stages of the cycle now we need to get to the bottom of these stages to really understand like what's actually going on here right and there's a couple of things that we're going to get into and then I'm going to get into the the deep dark point that I really don't want to but will help you a lot because if someone told me this when I was 18 it would have

saved me 5 years of immeasurable suffering so I'm going to do you a favor um but here's where this gets fascinating and when I figured this bad boy out I was like oh I get it now cuz I've been meditating on this for like years right um so what this comes down to is the first principle of human behavior which is pain really at first principle the reason any human being does anything is to avoid pain right now you could make the argument there's other reasons we do things but the truth is my friend if

you if you ask yourself why enough and you socratically reason your actions through to a length that's probably borderline unhealthy and obsessive you'll find a deep desire to just avoid pain and here's the problem different emotional states carry different levels of pain so and different levels of pain carry different levels of action because in order for us to do something there has to be a reason that reason usually has to be pain right so anger if I am in the state of anger my pain level is like a 10 out of 10 if I'm at

the bottom of the and this applies to as well I'm Machining if I'm at the bottom of the r and I'm at the very the trough the lowest point of which I could be I am so angry at myself and I am I feel so much shame and guilt towards my behaviors that I am in real pain right genuine real psychological like suffering like I hate where I am right now I hate that I've done this to myself I hate this has happened again I hate everything right and so I'm in a 10 out of

10 pain right and then when I get to my drive right I'm still in pain but not as much right so when I'm into the drive stage you know maybe the pain is like a 6.5 out of 10 because like I'm still pain in pain but the thing is is certain emotional states act act as painkillers for the mind right and what this means is that if I'm really angry and then I start feeling motivated the motivation dulls the pain a little bit it's like a it's like a sedative almost because the positive emotions like

they they they they dumb it down because you're starting to make progress you're starting to behave to to fix it and that numbs the pain right so maybe we let's just say we go from a from a 10 out of 10 to a seven out of 10 so you know when I'm on this sort of you know remember what happens here right so we've got this and we've got anger here and we've got the drive here and we've got the pride here and we've got the comfort here right and so what starts to happen is

I'm I'm in my worst pain 10 out of 10 here 7 out of 10 at this point so I'm still like below my average when I'm in my drive period right the thing that gets me from here to like sort of here I'm still in pain because I'm still running away from this feeling of anger and shame and guilt and all this suffering right so 7 out of 10 and then the thing is is when I get near to my Peak I start to feel proud right um and that's yeah that's that's pretty that's pretty

pretty much how it goes I'm just looking at my whiteboard here um yeah essentially right so I start to feel proud I start to feel pretty good about it right and when I'm proud I'd say my pain levels maybe like a I don't know like a 2.5 out of 10 you know like there's if you're proud about what you've done it's kind of difficult to feel pain and pride at the same time like if you've just finished a marathon you your body might be feeling physical pain but psychologically like you're you're feeling pretty good right

you're proud of yourself you're not like you did it right so I'm not in pain here and then what happens is when I get around to comfort which is the thing that comes after Pride this is a zero there is not a single piece of pain going on in my life because what I can start to do is I can justify the down if I'm like if I'm proud and I start to become comfortable like I can now start to eat the bad food and spend the money and do the stupid stuff because I feel

that I've deserved it right I'm not in any pain at this point and I'm not in any pain because the behaviors that I'm performing feel Justified they feel like I've I've earned them I've earned the right to do the do the bad thing if that makes sense um and so this is how like this is the thing and so what we can observe is that with the graph is the level of action that you take to improve your life or break the cycle or to start to make progress depends on how much pain you're registering

at any given time um and that's essentially how how it works and so what I can tell you and this is the unfortunate secret cuz I actually need to make another note here um I'm just going to make a not over here and that so what I can tell you is that like the secret to constant progress is pain right um and what you want to try and do here is learn to register your current ceiling as painful I'm going to explain how to do this right there's there's there's three things that I need to

walk you through now right um the first one is what have I got there well no there's two things I need to walk you through the first thing is a a theoretical model that I've developed on how to like break the cycle and the second thing is the the the thing that I am getting to that you need to understand all this to to get to why I'm going to explain it um and that's the the bit that I don't really want to get into because it requires me to be emotionally vulnerable to like 30,000

people but we'll get there I'm working to it I promise but you need to have context to this thing before right so we've got this graph right and you know we go from up here to down here and we have an average in the middle right and by now I'm hoping you are you get you I hope you I've taken an hour here to explain this and I hope you understand it you understand that you have a highest point at which you can't seem to break past and the lowest point at which you won't go

below because we never break our standards right we have an average which is the summation of these two things over a long period of time with enough frequency and we have four emotional states that regulate our behavior and explain why we do what we do but it's not the it's not the only reason but the way that like the way that you break this thing and the way you make progress is you have to basically change your perception of this scening right now we're going to attack this from two two pieces earlier on I said

it's all about down here this is where most of your leverage will come from okay because we'll get into it it's to it's got a lot to do with trauma I know I'm dropping the word now I'm hinting at you um and we'll get into that but the first thing we can do is we can focus on the ceiling and I can I can theorize this out and explain this out to you so what you want to do and I I in my program um impira program we have some mindset training that explains this and

I explained this in there and some more detail but what we want to do is something that I call flipping the floor right so we have the floor here which is a state at which we will never ever go below it's a hygiene standard we just don't going below it right and we have the ceiling here that we seem to struggle to you know break through we bang our head every time we try and we regulate back down what you want to do and I'm going to explain this in a simple format is you want

to register the emotional state that you would usually register at this point here this is how this is the secret theoretically and I've been able to do this this is how you break this cycle right is all of the emotions that you feel here all of that negative energy and all that pain that comes when you hit your lowest point you need to channel and continue to feel when you hit your ceiling because what we can know now is that this is all about pain and what we're trying to do here is we are trying

to enter an endless loop of this stage here you know this stage here where we're in the up this is what we're trying to cultivate as much as humanly possible Right is we're just trying to stay on this upward Trend and we are we will always always always be on this upward trend for as long as we feel true genuine pain the second that that pain is numbed and the second that that pain is gone is the second that you will stop working and you will stop making progress towards your goals and so what we

want to try to do is when you regulate up and you start to you achieve your goal and you you get to your ceiling is you want to start perceiving that ceiling and you want to start believing that the peak that you usually achieve is actually disgusting it's the worst possible thing that could ever happen to you let's say right now you want to make $10,000 a month you my friend need to reframe your relationship with that goal you need to look at 10 grand a month and imagine that that is that makes you it's

it's disgusting to to just even just break 10 grand a month is just like horrible that's so hard to do because you've pedestal it right you see it as the be all end all achievement and that would solve all your problems in your life but I can tell you right now that if you achieve 10 grand a month and you celebrate 10 grand a month and 10 grand a 10 grand a month makes you feel happy and proud and good then you'll never ever that becomes your ceiling what you celebrate and what make what you

register as emotionally nice and whatever up here numbs the pain is what will become your standard is that's what will become your limit the the true roote of limit is celebration okay if you're playing this game to feel good stop okay if you're if you're if you're in getting into business because you want your life to be happy and you want to be content and comfortable do not go into business because once you enter this realm I can tell you right now that you you it is a trap it is a psychological trap that only

a select few people have the heart to play consistently it's not about feeling good it's not about going and sitting on a beach maybe that's what you think right now maybe you think you want to make 10 grand a month so that you can have Financial Freedom you're going to get here man and you're going to enter this pain and if you're playing this game to feel good just stop it's not about feeling good it's not about happiness it's not about being content or comfortable it's all about consistently constantly breaking yourself through this cycle over

and over and over again and maybe you don't believe me but I guarantee you in a year or two of entrepreneurial progress you'll realize exactly the same thing you'll get to 10 grand a month if if it means a lot to you and you'll get 10 grand a month and you will feel the exact same way now you know all that pain all that suffering all that doubt all that you know you'll feel it when you make 10 grand a month because you know what will happen is what is your floor right now like you

know you you'll break it and you'll get 10K month or whatever but then the 10K month will become the new floor and you will start to register negative emotion at 10 grand a month and it won't feel good anymore it's a trap it you're not going to escape it it's great I love it I love playing this game it's like I said earlier 500 Grand a month makes me feel sick to my stomach and I know that sound I know you won't believe it and I know that you won't I know that that's not feasible

and I know that that just sounds ridiculous but I genuinely feel true psychological horror and pain at 500 Grand a month if I made $10,000 in one month I don't know what I would do that would that would make me like I I this is the thing about standards is you can't even it's it's a the same thing as if I said to you like imagine if you like went down the street and you saw an old granny and you just beat the living you just beat her up you just beat this old woman up

for no reason like you trying to comprehend yourself doing that you can't even imagine it it's so unfathomable and it's so like out of your remit and and conscious understanding of the way the world works you can't even comprehend it like if I made $10,000 in one month I would be I reckon I I reckon that would make me ill I reckon I genuinely would be terrified like pure unfiltered horror and so you need to start to learn how to do this at this you want to be in constant pain this is a cynical way

to explain the entrepreneurial Journey but do you think for a minute that any of the super successful entrepreneurs that you look up to are always happy and feel great about themselves no like don't get me wrong I I am in a place in my life right now where I am content and proud and happy right and you can you can have like a good life and you can have good things in your life but and you know because business isn't it's not all about business right but my point here is it's not like I don't

want you to think that if you start a business you're going to be depressed forever that's not how it works but my point here is like there always needs to be an element of pain if you want to make progress pain is petrol right and without petrol the car is not going to go anywhere so most people in their business because they're building businesses to try and Escape pain I want pain and I don't think you quite understand I derive pleasure from being in pain now and I don't mean that in some weird sexual masochistic

sense what I mean by that is like I am comfortable when I'm uncomfortable and I am I feel happy when I'm in pain you know so when I'm making progress in my business and I'm in the pocket and I'm suffering and I'm having to do this work and you know I love it like it it brings me true joy and meaning so I'm talking about this as if it's a bad thing but for me I love it because it's what I'm familiar with now you know it's kind of like if if I'm running and I'm

doing like a 152k and you I'm running and it's horrible and I'm not enjoying it but I love that feeling like I get genuine Joy from it you know and you might doubt yourself as to whether or not you can do the same but I promise if you do it for long enough like what becomes familiar becomes like you know what becomes what we're happy with right if you don't believe me someone explains stockhom syndrome to me right where someone can get kidnapped being in an awful lot of suffering and then they fall in love

with a kidnapper it's kind of like that's kind of how it works this is like the kidnapper right you'll fall in love with it you'll love it um so further to this point where you are um you're you're basically the the easiest way to explain this is you have a dream and you have a standard right you have something that you want and you have this peak this this ideal Heaven likee State and you have this terrible hell-like state that you'll never break and go below right the easiest way for you to achieve your goals

or to achieve your dreams is make them the lowest standards that you willing to accept we do not become the highest version of ourselves of which we can imagine we become the lowest version of ourselves that we can accept that's a s Robins quote for you we do not become the highest version of ourselves that we can imagine we become the lowest version of ourselves we can accept it's all about the standard right now I've got one more thing to explain we're going to get into the Deep thing um but it's all about like taking

the goal and making it the standard that you like that you so wish you didn't have like I know it sounds weird man but you need to start looking at 10 grand a month and being like God if if I made anything less than 10 grand 10 grand in one month I would like I'd be on the edge of a bridge right you rhetorically I'm not telling you to kill yourself cuz you're not making 10 grand a month obviously I'm not going to do that it's it's like a it's a point right I'm not using

suicide to make points I'm just explaining you need need to start looking at your goal as an outcome that makes you feel very uncomfortable and very unhappy because if you register your goal as emotionally painful when you achieve it you will want to escape it and that will force you and push you even further away from the goal towards something better so for example like for me right now I'm in a state where if I'm not if I'm not clocking a million dollars in one month consistently I register that as true emotional genuine pain and

I'm I've hit that number coup times but I'm not at the point where it's consistent I'm like a couple hundred grand off here and there sometimes right and so I'm right now in psychological pain because I'm not at the point at which I want to be right and even then when I get to a million a month it's still going to make me feel uncomfortable because I've been able to associate my dream and my goal with pain and it's such a hard thing to do and it's such a weird thing for me to tell you

to do because it doesn't seem to make sense you're like well 10 grand a month would fix my life and change my entire life and you're telling me that I should be happy with that yes because this if you if you're going through this cycle where you sudden you make four grand a month and then you come down here make one grand a month then you regulate back up to three and then back down to 500 then back to four then back to one if you're going through this cycle it's simply because you're not in

enough pain and so you need to create Pain by looking at your goal and telling yourself that that is not a good outcome you might then ask well that's paradoxical because then what when why am I going to try and move towards something that I feel pain towards um it's not that's not the point the point is that you need to tell yourself that if you're not at your goal you feel sick and it's like your goal is like instead of your goal being up here it needs to be here cuz this will really push

you forward right so I hope that makes sense it might you might have to sort of watch this you know a fair few times here but essentially this is like flipping the floor right you have the diagram the ups and the Downs you have the the low and you have the high and the way that you make progress is not by trying to increase your high but by trying to increase your low because if like remember we have this dotted average across the middle it's all about increasing the average how do we increase the average

well we know that just increasing the high in the long term won't increase the average because if we increase the high without addressing the low the further we extend the high right so if you imagine for a second here the further we extend the high up all the way up here all the way up here all the way up here all the up here like blah blah blah the further this goes right you know the further we have to fall back down to the original low so you you can't just set Higher Goals and expect

yourself to achieve them you have to set higher standards and not accept anything below that right so if you want to raise your average and you want to make progress in life and business it's all about what you're willing to accept not what you're not what you're willing to try and Achieve and so if you're trying to make set look at your goal right now and you need to start perceiving that as a hygiene standard not achieving that and not having that is is makes you feel sick and uncomfortable instead of instead of making you

feel good having achieved it it makes you feel bad having achieved it it's like it's the lowest point it makes you feel angry so if you if you're making like I'm going to stop this point because I know I keep repeating myself but it needs to make sense to you before I get into the deep stuff um if you want to make 10K a month stop imagining that 10K a month is going to make you feel happy and start to imagine that anything that anything below that even just making 10 grand a month is like

that's the lowest you'll accept and you need to meditate on this for a while right so now um now I'm going to explain do you remember earlier how I talked about cancer and I talked about symptoms and we talked about cause and effect and how like if you had cancer and you went to a doctor and the cancer was making you vomit and you went to the doctor and the doctor just prescribed your anti-sickness medicine and you stop throwing up but you know the cancer is going to continue to grow because they haven't addressed the

cause what I've spent doing in the the last hour and 10 minutes is I've been addressing the symptoms right and I've been telling you how to fix these symptoms right although with the exception of the last 10 minutes but we've gone into the sort of symptoms of understanding now I'm going to address the cause and this is something that I have never talked about on YouTube um it's something that I've only really discussed with very close friends and family um it's going to take me you're going to have to bear with me here because to

unwrap this there's a lot of personal emotion and suffering tied to this for me and I am near enough certain that you will resonate with it and that it will in some way shape or form um help you understand yourself better and help you understand this cycle um forgive me if my emotions get the better of me and I start to um like like like right now it's it's going to be yeah we're just going to get into it it and the reason I'm going to get into it is because I just wish that someone

had told me this or had the balls to be honest with me when I was starting out because it makes so much sense and right I'm going to get into it and whatever happens happens um okay so as we said there are two types of person so okay this circle represents you right this is your identity inside of this circle you have two versions of yourself this is simplified unian psychology the reality is you might actually have 20 30 different parts of yourself operating right but to keep this simple and straightforward there's two versions of

you right so let's actually um address these so you have part part one and you have part two okay right then so part one is the version of you that builds stuff up part two is the version that breaks stuff down we don't need to worry too much about part one because part one exists and part one gives us progress and this that the other the part that we need to address and fix is the part of oursel that decides that we want to break ourselves down and it's the part of ourselves that undoes the

the progress why does this part exists why does our Behavior manifest a negative way I'm going to explain it it's going to take me a while because it's a very dark and it's a very dark and difficult psychological concept to unpack um like I said it's wrapped in a lot of emotion so this is how this goes so how do I break into this um how do I break into this okay let's do it so we have negative behavior and a lot of people would call this negative behavior self sabotage right and the truth is

that you're not really sabotaging yourself that doesn't make any sense cuz you're like this this I don't get that um but the truth is that the reason that you have this self- sabotage is because there's a part of you that wants to destroy yourself right there's a part of you that doesn't want you to make progress doesn't want you to grow and this all comes back to trauma right this is this is this is how I learned this and this is the thing that did it for me right um so I'm going to explain to

you how I explain to myself this is this is what has worked for me I'm not necessarily pinning this on you or saying this is you I'm just going to tell you my thing and that might resonate with you and that might help you understand like I actually have got like for for the first time in this YouTube channel I have got a psychological block to explaining this to you like I'm struggling to I'm usually pretty capable of as you might have noticed of articulating my thoughts and getting into topics and just drilling to the

point and getting but there there's literally part of my mind that doesn't want to do this so it's blocking it off but I'm going to get into it right so when I was when I was 12 years old um this is trauma by the way when I was 12 years old I was bullied pretty pretty hardcore bulling um when I was yeah 11 12 first couple of years of secondary school 11 12 13 for about 2 years I was pretty viciously bullied um and I didn't really have any friends I didn't really have much support

and I didn't really have any anyone to to help me um with the exception of my parents but obviously it's in school right and every lunch time I would take my lunchbox and I would sit in a toilet stool or I would go to the staff room where the teachers worked and I would sit outside there because those were the two places where I felt safest because no one could come and pick on me right um and you know there were a group of guys in school who persistently picked on me physically emotionally um sometimes

they pretend to be my friend and then it was it was it was a a horrible um couple of years and I had a bad time I don't know if you can hear the doorbell but I'm not going to answer it someone else can get it um and this is essentially trauma right and what this did to me is for for between the ages of 14 to really 18 four five years of my life I went in on myself um I didn't really have many friends um I never really had a girlfriend I played video

games all day I ate junk food and I didn't really exhibit any sort of healthy behaviors or or progress or like it pretty pretty unhappy time and when I got to 18 years old um I I essentially wanted to start to build a business right um and this was like a psychological phenomenon right you have to understand that if you want to create a company you're weird and I don't mean this in like a negative way but you have to think about this the psychological conditions that are underpinning your drive for Unique weird abnormal progress

are your different right if you you've just spent an hour and 60 Minutes watching a video on how to regulate your behavior through emotion on a graph with some weird dude with a dodgy beard like this is weird right you're you're not acting in a normal way you're not acting like 99% of people on the planet right and you know so I I was 18 years old um and I began to um start this business and what would happen um after you know a few months of progress in the business is I would come in

and as I said I would just break it down and destroy it and I essentially would start making progress and after a while I would just taper off and like break it down and this all came back to what happened to me when I was younger there is a Freudian quote that says that the adult is developed to protect the child most people mistake this thinking that it means that like when you're an adult you're developed to protect children you know like your kids or whatever that's not true the you you you grow up to

become someone to protect who you were as a child and what I was doing with my business was protecting myself because is that door go R it doesn't matter so I was protecting myself with my business right where like I was so afraid of being bullied and I was so afraid of having someone exert or exercise tyrannical control or power over my body and my mind that I didn't want to have a boss right I didn't want to have someone tell me what to do and so I used the business like you know unconsciously like

a part of me knew that if I had a company and a business and I work for myself that I wouldn't be under someone's thumb and no one would ever be able to bully me again and so this is why I started my business now I would invite you to explore your path to understand what's happened because if you want a company and if you want to do something that's different to everybody else it's likely that something happened to you that hasn't happened to everybody else right there's always a cause and effect to this and

you might not have been bullied you might not have been through some trauma but if you want to pursue an abnormal life you've got to have an abnormal state state of psychology right um and there's always something that starts in the conception of it so what you have to understand is that maybe you've been through some some bad stuff in your life Maybe you've had um an abusive parent or a terrible relationship maybe you were bullied maybe your parents broke up when you're a kid maybe someone died like you probably the chances are if you're

a young adult or you've grown into like a young man you've probably been through some bad stuff right something has happened to you and what happens when you're young and and this is the other thing as well by the way like most people don't even remember their trauma like like some of the stuff that happened to them when they were like five six seven even younger than that they just you just haven't got the memory to comprehend it right but what happens when you go through trauma is your your mind and your body the the

thing that you're dealing with is so painful that your mind and your body essentially just go in on themselves and they we don't deal with the thing we don't process it we don't deal with it we just bury it deep into our psyche and what starts to happen is if you've been traumatized or something bad has happened to you and this can just be as much as like you know you could be 5 years old and you could drive past a car crash and see like a dead body and you might not even remember that

right so don't think that it's something as obvious as being bullied and I'm not trying to gas light you into you thinking you've got something wrong with you that's not what I'm trying to do here but when we go through a Trill we bury it and we push it down and so what happens here and I'm going to I'm going to get in I'm going to explain um I'm doing doing well so far with this it's not pleasant but imagine that your brain is kind of like a box right and if like you know this

is me here at 12 years old right I'm 12 at this point right and I am you know being bullied these arrows they represent trauma and they represent bad things happening to me in a pretty bad you know State of Affairs right um when I'm at the age of 12 what I started to do to deal with this trauma is I started to become apathetic and I started to just go in on myself and like I just stopped feeling things at this point you know I I I stopped getting angry I stopped getting sad like

after after a while whenever I used to think about it when I was like gaming when I was like 14 15 I just wouldn't feel anything towards this right and so what happens when you have trauma is this box here represents your psyche right and so what what happens is your brain takes the trauma and you know this is the trauma here right it takes the thing that's happened to you and it it basically just buries it right it buries it in a deep dark corner of your mind because it simply doesn't want to deal

with it and the thing is is it buries the trauma but it also buries the person that you were when you were experiencing the trauma so what starts to happen in your in your mind in your brain is like you that this part of you still exists because you didn't deal with it you didn't process it so unconsciously you're still living the trauma and what starts to happen is is you develop this sort of part of your psyche and this part of your psyche is going to try to communicate with you I know that this

is so weird and this is like a I'm not doing a good enough job of properly explaining this but I'm going to keep going until you get the point think of it like this um imagine that you are up to your waist in a swimming pool right and imagine that there's someone here and this person they throw a beach ball at you right they throw a beach ball at you you're up your waste inst sing B right what happens is they throw the beach ball at you and you know the beach ball is ugly and

you don't want to deal with it it's like it's not a nice beach ball you just don't want to look at it it's annoying you just it makes you feel horrible so what you do is you take one of your arms and you catch the beach ball and you you just push the beach ball you know under the under the water right and this is like this is trauma right I'm going to explain and then what happens is you know 5 years goes by you know another 5 years goes by and then you know someone

else like this point maybe you're like you know 15 years old the first beach ball you buried when you were 10 and now you're 15 and the the person comes along and like they throw another Beast ball at you you know and once again it's you don't want to deal with it it's not a nice beach ball you it's really horrible to deal with like I don't want to deal with this like you know I don't like it right and this represents a traumatic event right so what you do is you catch the beach ball

with one hand and you use you know you use your other hand and then maybe you cram the beach ball like between your legs and then you still got like one hand you know above the pul but you're sat on one Beach pul you got one hand on another and you're kneeling together to try and keep this other one down and then you know there may be another like you know this is when you're 15 for example right and then maybe like another few years elapses and now you're 20 right and then you know five

more years go by it doesn't have to be 5 years could be 3 days right you get the point someone comes along and they throw another beach ball at you right and then you catch it again and you you push it down and then what happens is now you've basically got these three beach balls buried and if someone comes along now and they throw another beach ball at you well now you can't catch it so now if you someone throws a beach ball and you go to catch it suddenly all the the trauma comes up

and this is how a midlife crisis happens so you know when people get to like 40 50 years old and something bad happens to them and they just they just break like even someone who can be so calm and they seem to have their their stuff together and then suddenly they just out of no way they just snap and break this is what happens if you push stuff down and you you you know you bury things like this eventually they're going to start bubbling up and they're kind of like little volcanoes in your mind suddenly

you're going to start to behave in a way that you can't really explain because you're feeling emotions that you you don't even know why you're feeling them but it's all coming from this this place of trauma right so you know another example here could be like let's say that um you grew up and let's say that you're um you grew up with your mother right and you know you didn't know your father but that wasn't traumatic because you hadn't registered it right but let's say that your mother was always super super um strict with money

and she always was so so like never wanted to spend money super type never wants to spend any money doesn't want to go anywhere doesn't want to do anything and over the course of a few years of living with your mother you start to develop this like complex because you want money and you want to sort of deal with it so when you go on to start your business it might be because you've got this deep part of yourself that you buried that has always seen this scarcity and this like lack of money and so

like that's why you start your business it doesn't have to be some big traumatic event some big painful thing but there's almost always a psychological reason as to why your behavior is manifesting right so I'm hoping that this is starting to make sense I'm aware that it's weird and it's out there and I still feel like I'm not hitting there on the head here um but what basically happened is when I was 12 right I had all this this bad stuff this 12-year-old me and when I was being bullied I didn't want to deal with

this or process it I didn't really talk to anyone I didn't talk to a therapist I very rarely told my parents about it I just dealt with this on my own and usually I just buried Myself Away in video games and junk food so that I didn't have to think about this or deal with it right and so what happened is I push this thing down into my head into my mind and here's the thing when you go through something and you don't process it and you don't seek to understand it and you forget about

it but it's still in your mind this thing exists in your own conscious and Jung came up with a quote that defines this perfectly in until you make the unconscious conscious it will rule your life and you will call it Fame so until you make the unconscious conscious it will rule your life and you will call it Fame and so what started to happen remember what we talked about remember what we talked about earlier with self-sabotage and this diagram sort of the the slope off into the trough you know like the reason that I would

self-sabotage was because in my unconscious I was still convinced that I was being bullied now this is going to get weird and deep I have done hours of shallow work therapy thought into this but I truly I truly get it now and I can explain it so I buried this you know I buried this 12-year-old kid into my psyche and I didn't I never I never chose to deal with his experiences right I never made the decision to process and understand up until a couple of years ago and so what this kid basically thought this

version of me it was living this cycle so unconsciously it was still believing that it was being bullied because like it's just and it's in the unconscious and so what would happen and this is about this this is where the point's about to make sense I hope is I would build myself up to a certain point right and I would make progress I don't know if you can see that I don't think you can I would build myself up to a certain point and I would make progress and I would start to you know develop

but then some part of me would come in and obviously destroy it and bring bring it down to a trough and the person that was responsible for doing this was my traumatized self because it is impossible for you to behave out of alignment with what a part of you believes it wants or believes it should have and so if I'm making this progress say in my business right and I get to a point where I'm nearly like independent and now I'm My Own Boss well if there's a part of me unconsciously convinced that it's still

being bullied to behave out of alignment with that belief is is doesn't make any sense so I would like build myself up build myself up build myself up and then this part of me would come in and destroy it down because it's like well hang on a minute we're still being bullied like you're just a victim you're you're not you're not worthwhile you haven't got any friends you you're lonely you're miserable you're sad you're You're vulnerable you're weak like if I'm behaving in a way that is out of alignment with the beliefs of this kid

is impossible so I build myself up and I'd start to believe that I'm strong and independent and like now I've got friends and stuff but over time this thing will just come in and be like uh-uh that's not how I see the world so in your mind in your in your psyche you have um your psyche sort of can be broken up into lots of different segments right lots of different you know pieces of the puzzle here so you know this part here might represent a desire for for social interaction this part here might represent

a desire to be on your own this part here might represent you know the idea of you being bullied and this part here might represent you making money we are constantly at war with ourselves with these parts and like let's say for example that you've been invited to a party and initially you accept the invitation and your you know this part of you is getting What It Wants it's getting this social interaction the extroverted energy and it's starting to you know go out and see people but then you get close to the party and you

start to feel like I kind of don't really want to go to that part anymore so I'm just going to ignore them and not go or maybe you start to date someone and at the beginning you are totally in love and you're like oh my God this is amazing and then time goes by and you're sort of like I'm not so sure no thank you and so whenever there's like something in your life where you've got two competing parts of yourself this is an indication that in your psyche and your unconscious there are two things

that are trying to get different different things from life if that makes sense um and this is this is uni in Psychology this is this is some deep dark psychological stuff and it goes into a lot of stuff um say for example there is a woman who is outwardly extroverted right um but when she was a kid um she was like she was when she was 5 years old she was playing in like a sandbox with some other girls and you know the popular girl befriended her and then the popular girl completely embarrassed her in

front of all of her friends right um if this woman wants to grow up and develop as an adult to be a healthy integrated adult she needs to remember that or at least recognize the emotions that come with it and Pro process it because if this woman now starts going to try and socialize she might start making friends with people but as soon as she starts making friends with people that are popular she's going to naturally ease off and she won't know why but basically what's happening is their unconscious like the Deep part of herself

is just trying to avoid that same thing that happened is is just basically going to manifest and happen again if that makes sense so like what my point is here is that when we talk about like the Angel and the devil there two different parts inside of your psyche um you were entally have like different versions of yourself different pieces of your unconscious mind that are going to fight to compete to get different things and so if you have extreme oscillations it's a sign that you're at War you know and there's two parts of you

that want different things so the question then becomes well how do we deal with this because this is the symptom right sorry the graph is the symptom but the cause is the two different parts of yourself that one different things so the way this works and the way that I basically had to do this is like I had this 12-year-old kid in my unconscious in my unconscious mind and because I hadn't processed the bullying and processed the stuff this kid was still convinced that we were I was being bullied right this part of me was

still convinced that I'm a victim that I'm lonely that I'm sad that I'm angry that all of this stuff right and so what would sometimes happen in my life is like I would start to make progress like you know I'd start to make friends and I start to build a company but then this part of me at the bottom of my psyche would recognize that and be like well that's out of alignment with the way that I see the world so I'm going to bring in what I want which is like you know destruction and

pain because if part of you is convinced that all there is is destruction and pain if you start trying to build non-destruction and non- pain in your life this part of you is always going to come and break it down because it's just like you can't behave out if you've got all these different psychological Parts you can't just behave with one's interest in mind because all the other ones are going to be unhappy we're going to come and get you so how do you fix this like if there's this part if if trauma is there

or if if you've got for some whatever reason you've developed like a Neurosis where there's a part of your psychology that just doesn't want to succeed and win how the hell do you deal with it well you need to perform something called integration right and this is entirely possible to to do um but you need to integrate the your your your psyches together and they need to start to see eye to eye and stuff like that so how did I integrate this part of myself this you know this bully 12-year-old kid that would always come

and destroy the stuff I was doing right because as soon as I can tell you the second that I did this was the second that I took off in my business and and this is not even a joke I went from doing like 30 grand a month to like 200 Grand a month this was like 2 years ago now the second that I perform this so here's what I did I had a therapist and well she wasn't actually a therapist she she helped me with something called Shadow work which is what we're trying to do

here right and what basically happened is we talked about me being bully and she suggested that what I do is I go back to that psychological place so I sat down after this session and I started listening to a song called Amber by Flume right it's one of my favorite songs um it sounds a bit weird at the beginning but there's these notes halfway through that are just gorgeous like what you want to do I'm not telling you to do this CU you might not be psychologically ready chances are you're rejecting this information by the

way because the part of you that doesn't want to be dealt with is like and I reject this this is how I did it I sat down and I listened to Amber by flum and um I shut my eyes and I actually imagined I took myself back it was like it was like suddenly I was just snapped into the I was like suddenly I was in the shoes of myself at 12 years old again right and I took myself back and I remembered the school and it was very Vivid it was like a dream almost

and I just sat there and revisualization a big deal at all just a couple of kidss that picked on me but I sat there and I replayed the memories that my unconsciously I've been continuing to play that I wasn't conscious of and I I played them through and it was horrible um I remember like you know I it was there was this there was this the the in in school um I I had this memory came back real fast and I was next to um this place called practical block which is where we used to

do all of our science and like you know practical science right and I was on the um sort of walkway and practical block was on my right and these kids were coming the other way and I just played it out and I remember it and it and it was so visual like you know being pushed around and like abused and just horrible right and and then I and then and then I went to sitting in the in the toilet eating my lunch but like what I would do is I'd pick my feet up and put

my feet on the toilet um so that nobody knew I was in there so like if people came in they wouldn't recognize my shoes you know and then I they' know I was in there so like and I remember it and I remember eating like jam sandwiches like white bread just very very very very very very Vivid horrible imaginations memories that I hadn't processed and so what I was doing is I was processing this trauma and you know then what I did is I took myself into the third person and I visualized it happening again

at third person then I put myself in the second person and visualize the bullies bullying me from their perspective and I did this for about 10 minutes right I had I think cornfield chase by hands of like songs that made me feel emotional and brought these emotions back and and then 10 minutes of this it was almost like I was it was Vivid it was like so extreme right I didn't know how much time it passed sorry this is this is I'm this is yeah it's pretty hard um sorry um and and I I did

that and then I opened my eyes and I remember just a complete wave of I don't know what what emotion overcame me and I cried a little bit right I cried a little bit just sort of sobbing like you know and I went downstairs and my girlfriend at the time I'm not with her anymore my girlfriend at the time was sat on the sofa downstairs or the couch as you call it in America and she was she was very nurtury she was great right and um and I was she she'd seen that I sort of

been crying and she was like you okay you know you're all right and you know when you're like you're sad and someone asks if you're okay and you're really not and then you know and I cried on on her for about 45 minutes like like and I'm not talking like I'm not talking like little sobbing I'm talking like full on balling like full on tears flooding down my face like whole body like like shaking like genuine like pain leaving my body and it felt amazing it was obviously unpleasant but I cried and I cried and

I didn't stop and I just didn't know when I was going to stop but this was essentially integration and I said to my girlfriend at the time I won't I won't name her name as I was crying I said to her I'm so proud of myself I said I don't have to worry anymore I'm not being bullied I haven't I'm not like that kid that part of me like he's good like I've shown him like I opened my eyes and I looked around and I saw my desk and I saw my house and I saw

like my life and I realized that I wasn't being I wasn't under the thumb of trummer anymore like I opened my eyes and I was like I've done it like I'm not I've built the business I've got the control I'm not being bullied I'm free and I remember I was crying on her shoulder and like you know I was saying like I was talking about how through my tears like how like I don't have to worry anymore and I don't have to destroy myself and like I'm not a victim and I am in control and

sorry I'm getting getting got a little bit caught up in this um but how beautiful is that you know like how how incredible that you can you can be downtrodden and and and destroyed malevolently by by other people and you can go through horrible horrible experiences and you you can you can really be put through the ringer sorry um and come out and and use that as as energy to um to do something and and to fix that and so what I what I realized in that Mo God crying out loud man sorry about this

guys um but what I realized in that in that moment is that my business up until that point had been all about protecting the child that was like in my unconscious I was working to protect myself and the second the second that I I realized this it was like a switch in my mind the second that I took myself to the darkness and the pain and processed it and dealt with it was the second that I was Now unencumbered by that child and I no longer like it was almost like I went down into the

cave of my unconscious I picked up this poor 12-year-old kid that I just hadn't dealt with or like I hadn't even like acknowledged him you know like the argument is that when there's then like emotions are often or sometimes unconscious parts of you that can't communicate and so if you've got like a a a part of you that's been buried away like when okay when trauma happens it's like you're it's like um when something bad happens to you when you're younger you don't want to deal with it and what happens is like it's like your

body and your mind take a screenshot of your current psychological State like a gif almost and they bury that gift under under your unconscious and that continues to replay over and over again and it will dictate your life if you're not aware of it and so it was like I went down into this into my unconscious through processing this and it was almost as if I'd gone to this 12-year-old kid who was crying and sat eating lunch on his own being bullied and it was like I picked him up you know fireman's left or I

just picked him up and i' brought him to the light I'd brought him to the unconscious and I said to him he opened his eyes and I said to him I got you we're good you're not being bed anymore you're not a victim I'm sorry that I've neglected you for the best part of 10 years cuz I didn't do this until I was like well 23 really 22 10 years most people don't do this in their entire lifetime right but it was like I picked him up take him to the light the open the door

my of my conso said look at what you've done like you're good man there's no more you don't have to worry about being bullied I've got you you I've sorted it out you're fine this is called integration integration is when you take a deep part of your unconscious that like a part of you that um is fighting against your conscious e because if you achieve your conscious efforts you are now out of alignment with that part so it's impossible for me if I've got a 12-year-old version of myself inside of my own conscious that is

convinced that it's being bulled in a victim for me to manifest a reality that is out of alignment with that is near enough impossible because part of me is convinced I can't do it so this is where limiting beliefs come from this is where negative behavior comes from and I'm still not perfect I still break things down I still have destructive behaviors and tendencies and you know I'll be honest with you I'm not I'm not like a monk I'm not a beacon or Paragon of dis been no one is all the people that you look

at online all of the gurus all of the self-help people we all struggle with this it's just that we're a little bit further along than you are right in terms of our ability to do this and so back to my crying right um I just realized like suddenly in that moment that I was free because up until that point I truly genuinely happy building my business to protect myself and so my business was serving the purpose of um protection and like the adult was developed to protect the child right so I was doing this to

protect this version and as soon as I brought this 12-year-old version of myself to the light opened his eyes gave him a hug and said I got you we're good you know that's integration that's processing trauma and when you do that it's it's like it's almost like you unlock this superpower because now my work and my you know everything that I'm doing through my business is no longer to protect a child so I am unencumbered by this trauma I can now just work and focus and there's lots of stuff I've got to work through there's

there's tons of manifestations of behavior and emotions that I still want to dig into I haven't been there since because it was so psychologically taxing and so painful that I don't want to go back to do I'm going to do it in probably soon um but since then I haven't done much Shadow work or therapy or anything because of how dangerous well not dangerous you need to know what you're doing you need to do it with someone that's good um but that was what happened man and so that sort of it comes full circle to

to the graph you know it comes back to this um this graph like it's the remember the symptom and the cause thing like what's the real cause of me destroying everything that I built well it's just having part of me that's sorry about that think the cleaners are cleaning up up why do I destroy this it's because you know I've got part of me that is just convinced that like I can't do it like I'm if if you if it's like you know I'm still convinced I'm being bullied right so that's how I fix this

and what I'm going to do I'm I'm going to take you on a quick um Excursion through my house to show you some books that might help you understand this in a bit more so I got them upstairs um as clean as about so I'm going to have to be careful hang on all right there's no one in here so right I'm in my room so the person that really sort of um like oh by the way you want to see the views it's kind of cool don't know if you guys have seen the Palm

before but this is the um Palm Tower you can see out there um it's pretty cool pretty cool anyway um so the person that like founded the whole idea of the unconscious and stuff was K young and so I spent quite a lot of time studying K young um and it's helped me make quite a lot of progress you in my life um so just a few books that you could read to help you gauge this and understand this better um the Undiscovered self by Kung is a good book um I haven't read all of

these through and through um because they're quite dark it's painful but his point in the Undiscovered self is the whole like idea that um like you haven't discovered this part of yourself blah blah blah um psychology and the unconscious is a good one um research is into the phenomenology of the self by K young once again dark um psychology and Alchemy another one I haven't read all all these all the way through by the way like you could quiz me on them but I might not be able to answer but that and then the archetypes

and the collective unconscious um so you know I can I've kind of like Samarai to you um actually I think there's more I think I've got a couple more but I have I no not not not in Dubai um well let me just walk downstairs a second I can't do two things at once it'll go wrong it's cleaner all right got I feel like a vlogger it's embarrassing yeah this is like the living room by the way if you can see that it's kind of cool um so so yeah I mean you can you can

start reading into y if you want to if you want to get started with this um all you have to do really is just go on YouTube um if you go on YouTube and you start go um start searching Shadow work cuz Shadow work is basically the um practical solution to the integration of the unconscious parts of you that are fighting against you and like if there's a symptom there's a cause so if you if you if you have this if you you have this up and down and you sabotage yourself and you are going

through this cycle there's a reason for it right and that reason is that there's an unconscious part of you there's a there's a piece of your psyche that is actively battling and fighting your progress because if you're for you to consciously make that progress you're misaligned with some deep part of your psychology right you don't have to sacrifice the goal you just have to understand the part of yourself that's fighting against you and then you can integrate it and you can understand it and you can listen to its needs and wants and then you can

devise practical um Solutions psychologically and metaphorically and spiritually to make sure that when you do achieve your goals is in alignment with the part of you that's battling you because whether you like it or not you've got parts of yourself that are going to fight you and if you want to beat them you can't beat them it's impossible you have to understand them and integrate them and one example of of that is is me with that bullying thing so yeah so it's quite a um it's quite a dark thing and like you know I'm surprised

I managed to do this without getting all like super sad or emotional um but that's how I did it that's how I broke this cycle you know it still exists somewhere sometimes in my life like I'm it's not perfect like you know I'll still go through like Peaks and trough Peaks and troughs but ever since I did that my business like I said was less about like protecting myself and now and this is not even a joke this is not an exaggeration the day after I processed all of that trauma and I dealt with that

thing um the day after I did that I came up with my vision for my company so it was almost like I'd remov this psychological blockade and suddenly I was now able to see like my my company was able to serve more than just me because if you're traumatized and if you've got stuff parts of yourself you haven't dealt with um the chances are is you're working for yourself but as soon as you integrate all the parts of yourself properly then the company becomes something even bigger um and that was that's that was being the

secret and ever since I did that ever since I integrated that part of myself this has been far less of a problem it still exists in in in certain ways like sometimes I'll overwork myself and then I have to take like time off and burn out and stuff but it's nowhere near as extreme or it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be when I was sort of like you know in the first like four years of business um I managed to get like 100 Grand a month whil doing this so you can still

scale with this but if you remove this like if you remove the downside you know if if you remove this ability to to self-sabotage and you if you just basically shorten the the length of sabotage like this it's way less painful to work and really what your success and progress will look like like what's going to happen here is you're going to go up and down but over time you're going to Trend upwards and this is what your progress will look like your progress won't just be like this it will will be an oscillation and

you know you'll be able to draw averages and lines and what will happen to someone that's growing over time is you know remember we had that if you remember we had the blue dotted line right like this all you're trying to do is have your um no thank you man I'm good all you're trying to do is basically just have the blue dotted line going upwards and that's all you're trying to do to be successful is you're bouncing between this and what you're going to recognize here is like obviously your ceiling is getting higher over

time but as your ceiling is getting higher so is your floor so this is what I was saying earlier you can't just try to you know achieve progress and growth by having bigger goals you achieve progress and success essentially by increasing your standards so it's not it seldom is it about getting more standards it's always about this and what you'll notice here is like you know right here is you know let's just draw this out this is and then we we'll probably finish the video cuz it's almost been 2 hours so right here is maybe

where you're starting and this is your current ceiling right but if you do and you know if you do this properly after some over some time as you make progress is you know if we if we track this here if we keep going here um what we're going to find is that like here now when we're here over time our first ceiling has now become our floor does that make sense right so another example like you know if this is your ceiling you know if you're making progress and you're not fighting yourself because you've integrated

yourself properly and you're you're going up and down what's going to happen is you know if we keep tracking this along now your ceiling has now become your new floor so I'm hoping this makes sense this is how you make progress is you have a current ceiling and you have a current floor and you regulate yourself between those but what you want to try and do is integrate all of your psyche properly so you're not battling yourself you're still going to go up and down but with less you know intensity and all you're trying to

do is just raise your standards and if you do that often enough and you continue to raise your standards and not accept anything less than you know what you really want then your goal will become like what was your goal and what you really wanted is now what you will never accept my goal used to be 500 Grand a month like my goal used to be everything everything I ever wanted more was 500 Grand a month now if I make 500 500 Grand one month I don't feel happy I feel terrified right it makes me

nervous and genuinely I'm beside myself and fig so that's what's happening we're making this progress and I'll leave you with this in closing it's all about pain it's all about being able to manufacture pain and like build like and I'm not talking like you don't want to hurt yourself for like you know self harm and stuff like that because business is kind of just a form of self harm you think about it um but it's productive self harm right um but it's all about pain it's all about you know not when you get to the

ceiling and when you get to this top Point don't celebrate don't get too ahead of yourself remember the cycle we go from anger to drive to um Pride to comfort when you get like when don't I'm not saying you should stay angry or shameful or guilty all the time but when you get to the point where you feel the drive and you start to feel proud and you start to feel comfortable just just become aware of it and double down and bring like for me now if I start to feel comfortable I start to register

anger as a response to feeling comfortable because I don't want to feel comfortable I don't want to get to the point where I am just like deeply comfortable because I know that as soon as my comfort goes up my pain level goes down and my desire to work and make progress is sacrificed you can't really have comfort and work at the same time just doesn't work so you need to be able to regulate your emotions but like I said it all comes back to the root principle the emotion like if you ask yourself what is

an emotion it's a part of you trying to communicate so this is why if you get to the bottom here you start to get angry because there's a part in your psychology that wants to grow and wants to make progress and wants to flourish and succeed it's a it's a beautiful thing inside of your head right inside of your unconscious so any time that you get below a standard that part of you brings up the emotion of anger or it brings up the tion of Shame what brings up the emotion of guilt same thing if

you have a girlfriend and you cheat on your girlfriend and maybe you do that maybe afterwards you feel terrible about it that's a psychological part of you that like is is basically telling you this is a bad thing it's like the the way that your psyche and the different parts of it you know remember we've got this psyche here and we've got different segments of our brain or or psychology you know and the only way that these parts of um the only real way that these parts of us can get what they want and communicate

their needs and manifest themselves through the actions of the body is through emotion so this is why I'm really skeptical of my emotions because anytime if I wake up one morning and I suddenly start feeling like a certain way I'm like okay this is a part of me telling me that it wants something and then I'll start to explore it and emotions are sort of like the the Catalyst for self- understanding they're like threads of psychological understanding that you can pull on and really becoming successful is all about just lining up all these parts of

yourself with your goal so this is the thing about a great goal is a great goal will basically satisfy all of these parts and then that way when you need to do the work and start making progress and stuff like if all of these parts are aligned with the goal you're not going to be fighting against anything cuz you remember at the beginning I had like War written on the thing the reason it's war is Total War if you're not integrated and your psyche isn't aligned towards your goal like if half of your parts want

the goal and half of them don't well of course you're going to be in ups and downs because they need to these these things they all need to get what they want and so if one of these things is a 12-year-old kid that is convinced that it's being bullied and is a victim and it's given up and it's it's admitted defeat right which is basically what happened to me when I was like 12 I had admitted defeat I was like great I'm useless I have no control over my life and I am a victim and

and that was what it believed and so this part of me every time I would try and make progress against those beliefs or those unconscious understandings of you know myself I had no choice but to break them down because unconsciously that was what part of me wanted to do and so um no thank you man I'm good no thank you it's all good thank you um sorry the clean is coming but I had to obviously not today um so that's how this works that's how um God what a video I I hope this has helped

and if I knew this like it took me it took me what so I I started my entrepreneur J when I was 18 uh 17 really 18 19 20 21 22 it took me like maybe five six years of of this and suffering to figure this out most people go through life and they never get to the bottom of this this video I'm hoping this will change your life this should set you off on a trajectory that is so severe and so great that you're never going to look back because as soon as I learn

this and as soon as I acknowledge this this is like the the key the big secret to progress you no longer need to worry about self-improvement it's just like oh okay well the reason I need to improve myself is because there's another part of myself that wants to destroy myself and until you address that self-improvement will do nothing like all your behaviors towards your your goal and towards your progress they don't mean anything against the wake of your unconscious so if you want to fix it just fix your unconscious and by fix I mean integrate

because you have a goal for a reason right there's a part of you that wants to make progress and succeed and you know you want to you know manifest your potential and and bring yourself forward and you know raise the bar of the universe and expand and grow and develop and that's great but you're fighting yourself and if you don't learn the enemy like it's like sunzo said in the Art of War like if you understand yourself but not the enemy you will win half the wars if you don't understand yourself but you understand the

enemy you'll win half the wars but if you understand yourself and you understand your enemy you'll win every war so the point is you're up against yourself and the enemy is obviously a c as well so it doesn't quite apply but that's it um I'm at the point in the video now where I'm supposed to tell like sell you something but honestly it doesn't really feel appropriate um so you can I'm not going to do that there's like a link in the description but I'm not going to tell you anything about it I just feel

like this is a this I made this video for you I don't I don't care if I if I book no appointments from this quite frankly I couldn't care less because even even if one person watches This and like they get to speed up the process that I went through like I wouldn't wish this on anyone so thanks for watching I hope I haven't scarred you too much but that's that um if you made it to the End by the way um well done it's a feet it's like two hours long um if you've got

like any video ideas you want me to make just put them in the in the um in the comments and then the ones that get the most likes I like make them because this was a highly requested video like loads of people were like how do you break the cycle have a good day I love you goodbye