Become Irresistibly Sexy with these Secret Techniques | Ep #46

[Music] this woman is an expert in her craft and we are blessed to have teaching US Body Language to make you irresistibly sexy make love to men around the room and never touch them what techniques are you using see to make to make love to men around the room this woman has shared stages with Barack Obama Oprah Winfrey get that breathiness you've been out of breath before you know what me you're such a tease just imagine we're in a club and the music is playing and I'm feeling good and then he did not want to

leave you and maybe some cases he didn't I need a glass of [Laughter] water and now guys here to educate us here to inspire us here to teach us how to move we have body language expert this woman has shared stages with Barack Obama opri Winfrey I feel so honored right now truly she teaches the top sales producers in the world and they've generated over $2 billion this woman is an expert in her craft and today we are blessed and honored to have us with us teaching us on body language so please welcome Linda Clemens

thank you you welcome Linda and welcome Caitlyn so this interview format I wanted to do it a little bit different firstly Linda Clemens who is this incredible woman so Linda was a member of our community um she had attended several mind Valley events and we had kind of like said hi to each other but never really met and then one of our authors introduced me to her and said you got to interview this lady for the M Valley podcast so I brought her on back then our podcast was done in a webinar format we had

hundred of people watching live and then we we had hundreds of thousands of people listening to it and Linda's topic was intriguing it was basically body language to make you irresistibly sexy you see if you're running a podcast you got to have a title that's going to grab people who doesn't want to be irresistibly sexy right and so Linda got on this podcast and she basically seduced the audience men cuz we had a live audience men started melting then woman started melting then I started melting it it's incredible and and she has all of these

techniques it's like a toolkit of sex appeal and so what we're going to do today is we're going to go deeper into some of Linda's unique tools uh Caitlyn's going to interview Linda um from a female perspective I'm going to be interviewing Linda from a male perspective and for those of you who are new to our interview format let me introduce Caitlyn Caitlyn's the host of many mind Valley events she's a remarkable healer one of the most inspirational people I know her talks get standing ovations she has inspired people to heal their body because of

this woman um a truly powerful human being and so Caitlyn Linda welcome on stage thank you so much thank you I'm excited to be here every time I have the opportunity to be able to share drop gold diamonds or nuggets to be able to transform someone I get excited about it and when I'm near you [Laughter] [Applause] I feel like I'm a third re a third wheel on a date right now when you're when you're near me when you're when I'm no this right when I'm near you I just sense a special vibration and energy

and fire thank you um that's a cologne called o to [Laughter] Greatness and so again thank you so much uh for for for allowing me to be a part uh this wonderful wonderful Community I've met so many people and had so many great experiences thank you Linda now I do have a question for you me and Caitlyn are wearing these like doky little mics you have a a held mic is that cuz a sexiness trick it could be a sexiness trick it could be from the way I hold the mic if I'm see what I

mean see see what I mean this woman is Devious so I'm trying to behave my niece is here right but uh niece could you leave the room please close your eyes I need Linda like fully being Linda how old is your niece she's old enough okay great she's 27 so she can handle it right so so Linda let's talk about the word sexy what makes someone sexy so I believe what makes someone sexy is knowing who you are your truthful authentic self so if you use the acronym like tap like tap dancing you're truthful authentic

and and it shows up in the proof so when you're confident about yourself and know and love yourself there's an energy that vibrates you know I guess rean was talking about the vibration and it naturally comes out it's like I want what he or she's having because it radiates and confidence is a key to sexiness explain how does confidence tie to knowing yourself confidence is not just knowing yourself it is convinced and committed to your purpose as to what you were destined for you know I was telling a friend the other day and she was

talking about her work and that she wasn't like really happy but she had to stay in that position because she felt because of the benefits and I was trying to explain to her her job is what she's paid for but your purpose is What You're Made for and ooh is that a tweetable moment that's a so your purpose is what your made for and when you know that you know that you know that's when that desire comes in see when I um was working in Corporate America I've been in sales all of my life and

when employees potential employees would come in Caitlyn they would say oh I say tell me about yourself and they would say I've got passion for what I do here is the thing passion comes and goes passion can die down the fire can die down but when you have a deep rooted desire that's the thing that wakes you up at night that's the thing that calls you it's the thing that is constantly in your head whatever you're destined for so when you have that desire for something bigger and greater it comes out so you can look

at a person and not say a word and the desire if you have it for that person I love that can I just say because I grew up you know in a religious structure heavily programmed and I thought sexy was something that was off limits and to hear you talk about confidence and being sexy is just being aligned with our purpose and our desire anyone else have that like that is a brand new understanding for me of just what it means to be sexy just really being yourself why you're here on Earth that purpose that

desire that's a total reframe you know what I do every morning I have a meeting in the mirror can everyone say meeting in the mirror meeting in the and that meeting in the mirror Caitlyn I do affirmations and confirmations I love my body be it whatever parts that we don't like or could be better on I love and I give attribute and honor to the Creator for that because it guess what I didn't have to wake up I've had an experience I can remember to this day June the 4th 1996 I was a radio djh

and I got off the air and I was scheduled for outpatient surgery something minor to go in and come out but I believe it was Mother Teresa who gets um attribution to this she says the best way to make God laugh is to make plans so I'm going into the hospital and something happened where I ended up in a coma for seven days wow so my heart stopped for 60 seconds my radio listeners had visuals my family was praying they were people were preparing for the worst but I believe that something bigger and greater said

not yet so when you have that kind of Joy within you look when I'm stuck in a traffic jam I've you know I've got my niece to tell you I'll get out of the car and dance around the car CU I didn't have to be here to be in the jam so I look at everything as joy and I try to find the miracle in any mess that's beautiful I love that so much of what attracts us to someone else else is is not just their confidence but their self-belief yes and self-belief is is something

that arises when we truly are authentic to ourselves but let's go beyond that let's go beyond the mental game because you speak about body language in fact Linda's program on mind Valley is called body language for dating share some of the ideas in your program so what this is going to be fun yeah I can tell you my boyfriend has watched this and he I've literally walked in on him is that how he became your boyfriend I probably he probably did because people say I knew him before you and I'm like maybe you knew him

before Linda Clemens and so some of the things we talk about on B in the uh body language for dating is the look that we when we meet someone so if you are going out to a club or social event and say you're alone and you're looking in the room and you see somebody that has captured your eye and one of the things you want to do is try to lock a gaze okay so when you meet their eye look look it get oh my god did you feel jacket's coming off in a moment and

you're just kept okay and you're locking the Gaze but watch this you're locking the Gaze and then you slightly Look Away practice who said yes see you like that you slightly so it's like I did that little sneak in that peek and then I look away you caught me and then I watch this I'm looking away watch and then I look back again and so we talk about the eyes the looks and how you approach and how you walk across the room and how you focus on the individual of your desire I had a friend

of mine that used to tell me he says Linda I've watched you you can have make love to men around the room and never touch them how many of you want to do that what what techniques are you using see to make to make love to men around the room so so if we talk about the face let's talk about the face we have about roughly 43 facial muscles in our face and I'll talk about this a little bit more during my session so 43 facial muscles we use about 37 of them to make anywhere

over 27 perhaps more uh different Expressions on our face so when I look at someone in their face there's different things that you can do if it's in the business or the corporate Arena you want to stay above the base of the pyramid so it looks like this you want to keep your eyes above the base of the triangle or the pyramid the moment that you look below the base so like this gentleman right here sir right here so if you can I demonstrate yeah okay so you stand up okay and I'm looking right at

you right okay so and I and your name e okay and if I say e it's a pleasure to meet you okay now what if I did this e it's a pleasure to meet you the pleas so simply what I did Vision I looked at him directly in the eye the business context vision is a pleasure to meet you okay so you're not going to think oh what's going on but if I go like this vision is a pleasure to meet you wow and that's just with I movement that's just eye movement now can a

guy do that to a woman or would that be a guy can do it to a woman but the way the guy does it it has to be where you're looking right at him okay or he's looking at the woman and it's just like with the Tilt yeah yeah your mother is looking at you yeah it's really awkward having my mom in the audience I want to ask you on that because sometimes being a woman yes can a can a woman feel more connected if the man just stays at the eye versus looking at the

body is there a way that they can feel more seen or more loved absolutely so first of all to all the men in the room and to the people that the woman or the person that you desire you don't want to just look at the woman like she's a pork chop or a steak you're looking at her like you don't want to do that it's like like who you know I mean cuz that's a little creepy you know what I mean so you don't want to do that you want to look at the woman as

if she is the most important thing on this Earth in the world at that moment and by the way fellas just being quiet and the and the tilt of the head men have a tendency to want to fix women if their problems or issues we don't need you to fix you we don't need you to fix us just listen just listen and fellas do me a favor practice this just not in your head just do this just do this oh good J okay so let's say that the person in your life Say Caleb she's upset

about something and you guys are just looking at her like this watch it demonstrate like this and I'm just going like this so that uh will help her calm down but here is the thing where you get the extra points when you look at her you nod like you understand affirmation and then you tilt the head like this look at that I love that simple movements without saying a word so this is what a man does to a woman is there a corresponding woman effect on a man well see what men all all you have

to do is look at a man a certain way and he just loses it all right right I mean it's true yeah men men just men just lose it we are really really really simplistic machines yeah I mean really really men are men are stimulated by the visual women are often stimulated by the auditory that's why it's so important that we need to hear the words you know quite often a man is say oh my gosh well you think I've bought this and I do this and I've got a roof over the house up for

you and do all these things and the woman would say I just needed to hear you say you love me and so we are stimulated by and that's why with the lower register that men have women love lower register and also men love love the lower register thank you so much cuz I'm getting yeah I feel the same give one for Caitlyn yeah but I need it like so Vision fishing can you help me cuz I don't have a no can you help me I don't have a mirror absolutely yes perfect do I need to

get closer you can make sure okay you're good honey I saw him touching is that a good move did you see that I saw the touch it was like so endearing so this this is a really interesting point men love it men absolutely love it when women asks them for help um I've been in situations you know like dating someone and she's like um and I'm like hey why you're going through that stuff why didn't you call and she thought well I didn't want to like add more to your life you're already doing so much

and I tell her no like I would drop everything for you and I love it when you ask me and so this is something about men like men and I think this was John gry wrote about this and Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus men are drawn to women they fall for women when they have an opportunity to help a woman and to make a woman happy absolutely see here's the thing ladies we can be the CEO of our companies but you don't have to be the chief everything officer as a woman allow

the man to be the man that's what my grandmother used to say allow the man to be the man yes we know you can do it we know you could take care of everything but allow him to be able to do some of those things because it gives them joy to be able to do that they're wired to be our protectors and to give that security allow them to do that see when you capture the man's mind everything else will follow CU you capture the mind you capture the heart everything else will follow when I

interviewed you last you spoke about a concept called the wet voice what yeah um I don't know if it's because it sounds like you are you you you have water in your mouth or because it makes you wet I don't know but the technique is called the wet voice um Linda would you teach us this technique so right now I'm speaking in my my regular natural voice if I lower my register it goes like this then if I begin to use the wet voice so just imagine that the tongue the pallet is moistened and then

you speak to that person of your desire and you ask them would you like to have some juice what is going on with you all oh my God it's just orange juice is the difference if I would have said would you like to have some juice right or would you like by the way Vision I have some chocolate in the refrigerator would you like some chocolate it's different when I say would you like some chocolate what are you doing differently what do you feel differently what is that like so it's just like can you Kaitlyn

can you hear it it's like it's like I'm caressing him with my voice for juice I did it I got to practice does this only work for women no men can do it as well okay I'mma teach you are you ready okay say okay let's see can we practice with can you practice with Kayla you want because if you practice with me it could be deadly I'm just saying you got to know your own power okay you know I could be deadly too so here's what I want you to do Vision I want you to

say these words in your re your regular register which is beautiful and deep and Rich I want you to say I love the air that you breathe I love the air that you breathe okay so that sounds good right there okay okay but I want you to look at me or Caitlyn and say in the most seductive way one second get your wet voice honey get your wet voice okay love Yeah and get that get that breathiness you've had you you've been out of you've been out of breath before you know what I mean I

love the air that you breathe oh gosh we're going to get better did you hear it anybody hear it okay so I want you to go like this listen to me go like this I I I I and then go love love yes the air the air that you breathe that you breathe your mother is applauding your mom is wait so I have a question how can you take the wet voice and then add in body language to take it over the top okay so example you it's very difficult and challenging to do the wet

voice if you will with very sharp abrupt movements so if you're if may get up or walk what so if you're going like this I love the air that you breathe I love it I love it I love it see it doesn't work but come on Caitlyn stand up oh gosh what's gonna happen Okay okay go down to the end okay work those long legs girl okay okay all right uhoh I'm following for you okay so now in your MC voice just simply say I love the air that you breathe in your MC voice I

love the air that you breathe see that's a different thing now find a gentleman in the room just spot someone this is only a test feel it look at him think of your favorite fruit or dish or your favorite moment walk towards the person now here's your seductive walk Caitlyn look this is the walk oh okay I'm just backing up so I got room for that right go ready and I say it yes oh God see so that's a part of the wet voice right there I love the air that you breathe woo nailed it

taitlyn oh my gosh that was um yeah that was something wow how did that feel it felt um if I'm being totally honest it felt I think it's from programming growing up that it's like can I yes that is a bad thing yeah bet you're going to burn kind of thing right now just like let me ask you this hold on how did you feel he felt hot we're both burning then see but so it's and it's just the kindness of words lot of them if you ask men in the room who've been married for

a long time they would all tell you that when they started dating that their significant other their vocal tone was different you know according to a study by Dr Mahar robian on communication said that 38% of our communication is tonality and quite often when I ask man so what was your your spouse your partner tone before you were married it was softer and she didn't nag at me or and her tone how many women know what I'm talking about how many fellas know what I'm talking about look at the hands going up right so it's

the tone when it changes and there's so many things that you can acquire and get when we begin to talk with PE talk to people with love and kindness and compassion C can I ask you something go ahead so I saw a study that said body language can actually change your hormones for a short period of time so if you wanted somebody to fall in love with you are there certain body language movements that you could do to release oxytocin in their brain to make them fall in love that's why so many Latin dances are

so seductive okay we got to go Sal dancing Sal so it's so seductive so what happens it's begins with selflove in the mind and when you feel that in the mind it shows up in the matter and we our brains are programmed to watch for movement in humans it's primitive so can you imagine someone moving with such elegance and Grace and power and present yet gentle at the same time people are attracted to that and so when you're feeling a certain way that's why if you're feeling a bad way people say what's wrong with you

are you okay but when you're feeling good they want to know what's up with you and by the way even the way you think you can have that after you know what glow just by thinking I I and so when you think that you know how many of you can think about the very first time that you made love to someone that you really loved and care about you could forget what happened yesterday but you could think about that very first time and your body begins to go through those chemical changes am I right when

you first fell in love or someone so you can actually do that that's how powerful that super Neo computer is in our brain so what there's a saying that goes whatever you think about comes about so we think that in our brain it starts to produce the chemicals in our body and then our movement is actually emitting the love and that think about this our bodies are so powerful that women in college who share the same dorm room you know what I'm about to say right ladies do you know what I'm about to say every

woman knows right if if you share the same dorm room everything gets in sync on the same cycle am I right yeah two women that's how powerful our bodies are there was a study I read about and maybe you have heard of this Linda they wanted to see if the act of spraying on cologne on a man made him appear more sexy so they had this group of men go into a room the control group had to go into a room and speak in front of a a camera and they were being raided on attractiveness

by woman on another side of the building so the woman couldn't see the men they could only see the Men's image on camera now the second group same thing but before they walked into the room they were given some cologne and they were told you know this is a really attractive brand of cologne spray it on yourself and then they'd go and they'd speak in front of the camera same deal it turned out that even though the women were looking at these men in the monitor they found the men who had sprayed the cologne significantly

more attractive so obviously they're not smelling the cologne but there's something going on in the man's mind when he puts this thing on how would you explain that that activates the pheromones by the way and the moment that it's like it's like giving yourself a placebo if you saying okay in this glass of water one of the glasses has the elixir of Youth and sex appeal look look see I and the moment and it's called and for those of you you know we've got the one of the best H hypnotists out there the way a

certain suggest suggestion so that's an auto suggestion when if I spray this on they do it to us in advertising if I spray this on this will happen I don't know how many pair of jeans that I can buy but my butt doesn't look like beyonces I don't know what I'm going to do but for some reason if I buy this outfit or buy this I begin to think and feel a certain way we tell that to children do you know it's so powerful just not just with the fragrance because our nose plays a big

deal in how we communicate as well as how we taste and everything so it's very very critical me are attracted to like grapefruit and fruit scent smells because trees fruits we like to eat that and that's why naturally primitive we're attracted to that and what about women and the same thing and so are women and so are women so why are male perfumes mostly Woody or musk because they relate that in advertising to masculinity to strength whereas women feminine soft flower basee light fruit base right as opposed of your own natural clean scent just the

touch so what you're saying is there's a there's a placebo effect to this wearing something that we believe is a high quality outfit spraying on perfume wearing a watch that's a pretty decent watch it makes us feel more attractive and thus we act more attractive and it's gives you the the feeling of power as well women are attracted to power women are attracted to power is there something that people are doing that's the like we're talking about the positives we do but is there something that people are doing maybe unconsciously that is repelling love that

is repelling people from them okay that's a great question so one of the things that we all want to do we want to be people rep people magnets rather than people repellents so the way you become a people magnet it's not just about you it's the value that you can extract from another person how many times you've been around someone and they talk about is how great they are right and then all of a sudden I'm meeting you meeting you and I'm fascinated about your life and what it is that you do we hardly have

time to spend with our kids anymore we live in a fast food technology generation and by the way high-tech is great put a man on the moon it's doing so many things making our lives easier but Hightech will never ever replace High touch until a robot able to have a baby it won't change it right so it's so important that I find the value in you because quite often when do people take time to listen to us we're busy oh call me call me when you can we're busy we're moving and you have no idea

so when you begin to listen to a person and find out what's important to them then you can build that rapport with them and that's the first step of being attractive everybody going is that yummy yeah what are some of the most attractive behaviors that both men and women could display say on a date okay so okay can I now can we keep this between us okay okay okay so okay I'm looking at my niece because no no no no no the reason why I'm looking at my niece so she travels with me a lot

and she says to me she says Auntie no offense she says you're starting to attract younger men I'm going toss toss I am what a problem yeah what a problem to have maybe it's the maybe it's the energy ladies men are attracted to energy gentlemen women are attracted to energy so you're going on a date and you're there on the Dance Floor I always tell the girls and the guys especially the ladies to look at how the GU is dancing on the dance floor so okay look at how they dance so if the guy is

dancing and all you see is just upper movement [Laughter] upstairs and he's just getting down upstairs right just do just doing it upstairs right just doing it you know there may be cobwebs in the basement I'm just saying I'm just saying work your legs at the gym is what you're saying say oh so so think think about this from being primitive being primitive if we were on you want to get on the Dance Floor okay I got a sprain dle he look he's not a good idea come on sayage JN come on this is so

[Applause] fun so lets me know there be acrobatics in the bedroom right all right so can we just have a little music just a little music and just to demonstrate just a little music so I'm going to set this up here just imagine we're in a club you know Singles Club and I'm looking around and the music is playing and I'm feeling good and then oh feeling good and you know and all of a sudden you're looking around and then our eyes meet was the music was the music and then what do we do naturally

we don't even know each other what do we do [Laughter] naturally oh and see the reason and see the reason why the lower part of our region moves because now we're going into primitive so guess what's happening you're ready to mate with me that's why we no that's why we dance that way why do think about why do people dance that that's why we dance that way thank you it was a pleasure handshake is a pleasure was mine so he just did a hand hug okay is that good he did a hand hug so in

business usually don't do the hand hug politicians by the way do the hand hug hug quite a bit Bill Clinton very charismatic did the hand hug and he also touched the forearm touched my arm yes he would do that so even when he would shake hands with you you would feel that he did not want to leave you he made everyone feel that way and maybe some cases he didn't okay but I'm just okay I'm sorry I'm sorry okay so so shaking the hand so watch watch us part it was such a pleasure pleasure to

meet you without rehearsing so we're in sync thank you so much thank you e again again my friend e thank you [Laughter] you're such a [Applause] tease that's probably why I stay boiling all the time so you're talking about men uh what about women yes in what let's imagine let's imagine a scenario sitting across someone or next to someone at a dinner table first date okay so let's say we're no let's imagine this the three of us are out this is my best friend okay okay she invited you to the party right and I'm kind

of liking you right so we're all talking about great things and I need to let you know that I like you so you begin to share some things about yourself so what do you [Laughter] do wow tell me more I see it I see it you see so without even saying a word so if I don't even say the words and I go like this okay now there's the other just leaning in there's power in leaning in we have a tendency to lean towards things that we like are curious about or have an interest in

and away from things that we don't so can you imagine if someone says something to you that was quite rude whatever you go like it's called taking a back the body language jerks and it happens and we are missing those cues in the meeting now if we're meeting for the very first time Safe Touch huh building Rapport that I'm marrying him building Rapport hi time it's working what if not rears what if you're what if you're feeling because especially nowadays everyone's communicating and talking dating online on apps so meeting someone in person there can be

a lot of anxiety there's social anxiety maybe you're not feeling confident is there something that you can do ahead of that date or even in that date body language to help yourself feel more comfortable and more confident excellent you're good I'm you should do more this okay okay so everyone say open open I I I lean lean Beam Beam okay so making sure that your body language your power zones are open and when I say power zones the throat area right this little dip here called the super sternal notch the heart area quite often women

if they've been on a bad date or their hearts been broken they often will meet someone when someone introduces like okay hi how are you they're all closed up the house is locked down so open an eye contact eye contact by the way not glaring you know and when you're talking look away then go back to home base look away as you begin to talk it and go back to home base so open eye leaning in if you're interested in what they have to say cuz the more they talk the more they feel good because

you're listening and the beam and the beam is that internal fire in you that comes out look at you you know what to do I was just practicing you know you know and that because now when every time he says something or she says something it's that internal fire where you're lighting up so open eye lean and be open ey lean and be open ey can you move honey open lean and bean all right and so that's the thing that I recommend when you're going on a date now safe touch Safe Touch forehand right on

the hand the arm safe touch you don't want to get too forward and go like they was so great just that joke that you told was just awesome you don't want to do that cuz it's some of you may like it okay but you not so so let's put it all together show me what it'll look like if we were on a date and you as a woman wanted to really let me know that you were into me okay so one of the things that I will do I'm gonna now watch this instead of sitting

back in the chair came forward I'm gonna get at the edge of my seat in body language is called seat s a t ready I'm ready to launch seat ready I'm ready to launch I also tell college kids when they're going for job interviews to be seat ready you don't want to sit in the back and seat yeah I'm really excited about maybe we can do something together Vision no I mean really and so I'm at the edge of my seat so that tells you get ready something's about to take place you notice my eyes

are wide open you know so it's like a little child you tell a child they're going to go see Mickey what did they do with their eyes yay you know when we're excited our expressions are open using orbicular oculi muscles the zymatic major muscles to do the genuine smile and I'm going to let you know what I like and what I admire about you three things three things that I admire about you you were destined I know to be a leader and to change lives cuz I feel you're changing mine wow you I need a

glass of [Laughter] [Applause] water that hand touch keep going keep going me next me next we need to get a waiter over here oh that feels so good just a little are you okay I'm good I'm very good just a little wet just just I don't know where this can go I I don't know what the future holds but I do know I see you in my future wow thank you Linda Kem oh my gosh Linda thank you Linda Clemens so we we we ran out of time oh my god um that was so fun

I loved that thank you so much