Michael Singer - The Root of the Mind is in the Heart

intive J Masters sometimes a single line from a deep being can take you the whole way there are many of those one that is absolutely true the Buddhist teach they say work at the root work at the root why if you don't work at the root everything keeps growing keeps expanding keeps manifesting if you work at the root you don't to work anywhere else that's how it works with plants how it works with everything so doesn't mean spiritually work at the root it's very deep let's start with your thoughts if you want and I know

you don't but if you want you can learn how to control your thoughts you can struggle with them you can make them pure you can push away any the ones that you don't like you can try to create thought patterns in your mind that are easier to live with you can be very busy if you haven't noticed in the Gita or junis S Krishna it must be easier to catch the wind than to control the thoughts maybe you've noticed that okay but people will do it my personal experience is for I tried that for a

while that you can do it but then you have to keep doing it you took a manifestation of energy that was manifesting that way you didn't change that energy you just used your will your strength your power inside to push it away hold it away create a space in which the thoughts don't come but my experience was that if I'd go deep and deep enough in meditation then I wouldn't be there to hold them back and they would pull me back that's when I had my great understanding of what it meant to work at the

root there is a reason there are those thoughts pushing them away is no different than a person who's saying something you don't like and you throw out of your house who knows what they're going to do next so instead of trying to get rid of your thoughts or purify your thoughts and I'm not saying you shouldn't do that there stages in the path you work at the root which is what why are the thoughts there not I don't want them to be there why are they there it's like a sickness I have some sort of

a symptom happening around there right put some powder over it hide it look I don't have it really I don't think so you have to go deeper you have to sit there and say what is causing this rash what is causing that to happen if I get rid of that what I'm eating wrong what I've got allergy something then it doesn't be there anymore and I don't do anything that's how you know you're working at the rout if you solve it at the root there's nothing else to do ever so work at the root is

very deep so instead of I qualify yes you're going to work with your thoughts but I'm talking about going deeper over time it goes deeper all right instead of messing with your thoughts I would like you to understand why they are there why are they manifesting the way they are so for example you just went through a tough divorce I can guarantee you that's not the end of your relationship with that person it is going on in your mind on a regular basis yes or no how do I get him out of here right well

you can do all kinds of things or you can find out why if he or she is not there anymore outside why are they in their inside they're not there it's silly and you start to look and yes you can fight with your thoughts you can try to do this you can do affirmation do all kinds of stuff to try and make your thoughts be okay or you can sit there and say why are those thoughts manifesting as opposed to other thoughts I've had lots of experience throughout my life why are those manifesting and you're

going to find yourself in your heart the root of the mind is in the heart and most people have no idea of that but a yogi understands that if you meditate deeply you follow those thoughts down to their source and you will find that at your heart just like I use the example of a spring with beautiful Springs out here in elal County if you go to a spring it bubbles up at the surface those are your thoughts that's not where they come from yeah it is I've seen them no they have a source how

do I find the source go into the stream don't go somewhere else right the stream is a real clue of what the source is right or wrong dive into the flow and you'll go down you'll go down and you will find an opening where it's coming out the stream is coming out from the aquifer from whatever it is you understand that that's why it's bubbling on the top if you start trying to stop it at the top good luck it's crazy just go down to the source go to the source if you follow your thoughts

and you're not able to yet but if you follow your thoughts down all of them not intellectual thoughts personal thoughts you know the difference 2 plus 2 is four I hate my ex husband those are very very those are very very different so if you're manifesting personal thoughts and you are manifesting personal thoughts all right if you instead of fighting them you try to calmly openly see where they're coming from why is this thought manifested at this time it's easy to say because he hurt me that's not why the thought is manifesting that time manif

that time because you haven't gotten over the fact that he hurt you you haven't handled the hurt that is in your heart and therefore it's expressing itself through your mind what's wrong with that I know it's difficult to live with but it's natural if you have something wrong going on inside your body and it manifest outside to show you tell you hey something's wrong here and this is how I'm expressing that to you that's a good thing not a bad thing if your mind is having trouble believe it or not it's a good thing why

it's telling you something's wrong it's a signal it's a disease it's a manifestation of something wrong your mind should be peaceful your mind should be whole all the time you should have great beautiful thoughts of solving problems that's what it's four if you take a computer and screw your life up by going to the dark web and porn sites and all that kind of stuff you did that poor little computer it didn't do that your mind is empty your mind is open it can go anywhere what Microsoft used to say where do you want to

go today that's what your mind says to you every one of you have a brilliant mind I saying you're Einstein but you're less smarter than a plum you are you really are let's see them take an SAT okay or get the math tables down right you have a brilliant mind what it was meant for is creativity analysis not analyzing how do I get somebody to like me not analyze how do I get even with this person that hurt me I analyze well I can't handle the fact that that we used to be married we used

to eat over here and then these through my friends and every time I see them it freaks me out I think I need to move to Alaska so I can be okay right that's not what your mind is for it's solving air conditioning problems why rocket ships O-rings blow up it's got a reason it's a beautiful thing it's a great thing you have what's called an abstract mind you are capable of thinking of a galaxy aosome is not the human mind is phenomenal it's a gift it's nice to have a calculator but boy it's nice

that your mind can do it without a calculator so you have a mind and that's what it's given to you for you're the Consciousness inside and you have these tools and implements you have a body that lets you experience this outside world otherwise you wouldn't experience it has senses that send the message back to you right you have a mind that's able to think but if what it's thinking about is you because you have problems you wasted your mind the personal mind is a complete waste if you are living your life to try and satisfy

your personal mind what you're saying is I'm a mess I'm not going to fix the mess I have all kinds of clues that I'm a mess but I'm going to go out there and make you behave every one of you you're going to behave the way I need you to behave so you don't mess with my mess okay I'm going to compensate for my problem by traveling by having a relationship by doing drugs by drinking whatever you want I don't judge anything because I know what you're doing anything you do it's because you're a mess

I need to distract myself from my mess I need to have the outside world when it comes in through my senses because it doesn't see your body was a gift it comes into your senses s touch smell taste right hearing comes in but it disturbs you doesn't it there are things that can come in that you don't my God help you didn't just say that I can't believe you said that I never thought you would say anything like I can't handle that have that go on in there what is that telling you it's telling you

I'm not okay and you just hit it you hit my stuff I always say to you so you guys say to me no it's the vibration of what was meaning okay I wanted to say it in a foreign language that you don't speak the insult they just said to you let's say they say it like that you laugh they not the vibration it's not this it's not that it's the fact that you can't handle that that got said all right so the question is not do you want I mean you can if you want but

I tell you it don't work you go on out there and try to manipulate every moment that did pass before you those are fun let's see change that one the moment that did pass before you that you didn't like the moment that is passing before you don't like and all the ones that might pass before you go on get busy get busy using your brilliant mind to try to figure out a strategy and control and manipulation and everything to try and make it so that you you can handle the things that are going on inside

is that not the human life I call it in the new book living untethered beyond the human predicament I'm telling you that is the human predicament everybody's got it it's like a disease humanness okay well it's not easy to live with is it and isn't it true they say people nowadays even kids have anxiety why why would you not have anxiety look at the job you just took I have to have the moments that are folding in front of me what everybody's saying how they think of me no it's not just what's happening ready you

get anxious if you think they might think that someone else thought that you did something that you don't think you did create anxiety we're in big trouble so if you're not okay inside you need to protect yourself from the outside world that's what you're doing by manipulating it I'll dress a certain way so you like me I'll watch my words and say only sweet nice things so that people like me I will dress in a way that you are so scared of me that you won't say a word okay everyone's doing one of those all

right plus I got some weapons over here you want to know where War comes from it comes from that I'm not okay step back you will be the way I want you to be or wait till you see what happens to you we used to say Hell Fire and deinition now we say shock and awe just wait till you see what happens to you if you don't do what I want you to do that's human predicament what's the root what's the root of War what's the root of divorce what's the root of hate what's the

root of all of it I'm not okay inside and I need you all mean everybody to behave in a way that doesn't make it worse in there and maybe rarely behave in a way that makes it better if you come up to me say oh my god I've never told you we've been together all through school and college since kindergarten I've had such a crush on you you're the most beautiful person I've ever met but I've been too shy to tell you all right and he's like how you doing I just think you walk on

water you're so beautiful okay tend to do a little bit better the question is are you okay inside if you are okay inside the outside is fine it is what it is you came down for a visit to the planet Earth don't worry not stay very long people ask why do you always talk about this this size of the universe are you kidding me please once maybe you ripe to listen this time right you are sitting in one spot on a planet that 1.3 million of the planets fit inside the Sun and you care what's

happening on that spot that is pretty far out and there are 300 billion stars in your Galaxy and your sun is one and you care about what how did you get so lost is that hilarious go drop down on Mars dirt you get bored pretty quick dropped down on any other planet we have the Hubble out there we have the James web we're looking all over we Amia we nothing nothing nothing there may be something somewhere El I'm not saying that all right but we ain't seen nothing okay if you drop down on any of

those like every single galaxy has hundreds of billions of stars and now we find out the stars have planets way more than what we thought there's trillions of planets out there go drop down on one and see how long you last you get so bored you don't even want to live why would you want to live there's nothing happening you drop down on a planet that every single second there's things happening where everywhere not in the desert of course there is there's scorpions there's cacti every single Place deep under the ocean every single place on

this planet there's something going on there's nothing going on anywhere else you won the lottery at a level that's incomprehensive you won 64,000 lotteries in a row how can you not be okay to drop down on God's idea of Disney World there's things to do there's people there's languages there's variety there's all kinds of stuff going on in and there all the time everywhere and you're only here for a few years oh no yes yes it's just a few years how long you to live 80 90 100 the planet's been here for what 4.5 billion

years how does your 100 years compare to that so you don't have any problems except for you you have decided if you burped in my presence that means you don't respect me you did that if you're on Mars and you hear a burp you'll find out where it came from and here you have everything going on and you create hell for yourself that's the personal mind that's not the mind the mind can do anything if it can do anything why are you doing that why are you using your mind to decide what bothers you and

then being bothered by it if someone burps in your presence and you feel insulted two years later if you see that person you avoid them or you say something hey burer you did that that's what you chose to do with that brilliant mind that has memory and intellect and logic you decided it's logical to be upset cuz somebody burped or because in a city in his elevator the people waiting it's already very crowded and some idiot held the door open for two more people to walk in again that will bother me for the rest of

the day I'll tell everybody it is that's the personal mind it's still a computer it's still mine is what you chose to do with it okay why why would you do that with this brilliant brilliant mind what kind of a thing is that to do you do it because your heart can't handle things that happen it hurts in the heart it gets personal it gets it just does something doesn't it the heart's very is your heart sensitive most you don't know it because you stay so far away from the thing that you don't even know

it's there you get lost in your intellect or lost in your preferences and so on your heart is like of the finest instrument that was ever created you think your mind is great I do this in the new book your heart is way greater than your mind your heart is like an entire orchestra that was put in there that can play all kinds of vibrations at different times it could play the funeral March ever feel it ever felt it it can just get so low and it can play the rights of spring yes or no

yes has your heart ever gone so high you can't even handle it so beautiful you would do anything to experience that again has it ever gone so low you would do anything do I have to experience that yes or no that's your heart natur your heart that's just like your mind was given to you just like your body was given to you this heart was given to you but you know what you can't handle it there are lots of Orchestra pieces that your heart can play no no you're not going to play that so what

happens you suppress it you push it away when you push it away now this what I really don't to talk about we about the root now we're working toward the root that root is why your mind keeps talking why there's energy that needed to express itself through your heart totally natural I mean sadness is natural I thought yoga are an ecstasy they're an ecstasy about the sadness they're an ecstasy because they're experiencing something because they're not on Mars because they have a heart and this is the note it's playing now you know what that does

I ask rahar Krishna I told you I love that he said that great fully enlightened Master intoxicated with God they asked him once does an enlightened being ever feel anger you know what he said yes but it's like riding on water what's the difference something comes in the heart expresses this vibration it's powerful vibration right right strong strong vibration all right like the was it the Overture of 1812 right or the peaks of some of these great pieces right it comes up and it passes right through you experience it you don't touch it you don't

like it or not like it it's just a feel feeling it's just an expression of energy isn't it just there it is it's a music note all right so what if it passes right through you don't have to do anything about it you can't handle anger so what do you do you can't handle it so your mind starts thinking about what to do about it don't you what am I going to say what should I do should I accept this oh my God I can't believe he did that I'll beat the heck out of him

you can't handle the vibration therefore you try to push it away therefore you're intellectual mind your brilliant mind is being used for this ridiculous thought pattern which says what do I need to do to manipulate the world so I don't have to live with what I can't handle it's embarrassing isn't it what do I need to do to manipulate you and everything else so that I can handle what I can't handle all right that's not like riding on water that's like carving steel I know people that things happen to them 20 30 40 50 years

ago and is still the center of their life they're still making decisions based on the fact that I can't handle that it decides who I married or if I ever marry again heck no I'm marri again that's ridiculous because you can't handle things that's not a reason to live your life based on what you can't handle then what do you do learn to handle it oh my God that's working at the root isn't it the root of the problem is not that I had a divorce the root of the problem is not that I got

fired the root of the problem is not that I'm getting older and I look in the mirror and don't like what I see that is not the root of my problem is it the root of my problem is I can't handle reality did you get divorced yes how long ago 5 years ago did it actually happen yes can you handle it no no you're in trouble okay was it like riding on water just went right through that's pretty funny it was like carving in steel it left scars didn't it leave scars that's why it's still

there there is nothing in there that can get scarred it's not like Concrete in there there's no fly paper there's nothing holding anything inside your mind or your heart it's all be here now that's a natural state all right except for your will because you're using your will to resist it that's what makes it stay I'm telling you it's empty in there it's anything you want it to be it's a total blank slate and it's experiencing the moments that are coming in and they're awesome and they cause the heart to naturally play a certain song

and the mind will naturally think certain things while it's happening it's going through all right it doesn't leave scars there are no scars in there what's trauma a really serious thing that you really couldn't handle that's a traumatic experience I can't handle this I can't I I suppress it but suppression what I just said it's using your will Freud talked about I love Freud so Freud said just what I talked about things happen they come inside and you can't handle them who can't hand them you I mean you you who's in there are you in

there are you in there is it true that things can come in that you can't handle what do you do with them you push them away you use your will to say not on my watch yes you came in but you ain't coming all the way in if somebody says something really mean to you and insulting do you let it in as far as when you're hugging and someone saying I love you so much oh my God you're my whole life that goes a little deeper doesn't it ever have an experience that you said have

touched me the depth of my being have you ever had an experience that touch you through the depth of your being that's the right thing to say it touched you to the depth of your being nothing interfered you were completely open nothing resisted it and it went back and merged into your Consciousness this whole energy from the outside came in and made it not just through you but into you you became a greater being the ocean is greater because the rivers flow into it it's feeding it everything that happens that comes in that you don't

resist that touch you the depth of your being makes you a greater being if you saw a sunset that was so beautiful that it blew your mind meaning blew your personal mind went away it boom was strong enough and it came in and touched the depth of your being you say I it was like a spiritual experience why it made it all the way back to you and now you're experiencing the self you're experiencing who you are instead of resisting the experience in which case you're experiencing The Experience because you held on to it you

kept it and then you started thinking what do I do about it so now it's still the experience it's same thing root was the fact that you couldn't handle it now everything you're thinking about it is a leaf and a branch it goes out from there because you couldn't handle it if you could handle it you would just come in and imagine you're so high oh I can't talk about it you're so high that every single experience every single experience that comes in is like that beautiful sunset you mean it's beautiful no a storm does

that oh my God blew me away the power was so great uh May sh they gave us the J statue brought it over from India in the 70 late 70s or she passed some years ago she once said to me she was very very proper person all she did was mantras and did very pure very pure purest person I ever met and and she never talk about personally about anything about herself but we were very close and she once said to me Mickey I said yes mother she says don't you just love when they yell

at you there's so much energy isn't there but you resist it don't you you resist it because you can't handle it and therefore it's blocked down in your heart I know what you said to me I'll never forget that don't you just talk to me like that oh boy you got some stuff in there don't you all right and then the mind will think all the time about what to do about it when they know about it so blah blah blah blah blah why because the energy needs to express itself it's real it came in

it needs to pass through what if you saw that beautiful beautiful sunset when you're with your beloved person signifant other and during the midst of that Sunset they turned to him and said God this is a wonderful time to tell you I'm leaving I feel so open and I never feel that way around you and so I met somebody else that owns the house over there that overlooks the sunset that's why I drove you by here so I just now you can appreciate what I'm doing right okay I'm telling you every sunset you see from

then on you get depressed because you won't let it in right you stored this negative thing in your heart and now anything that happens stimulates it and it comes back up and you start having thoughts about everything take a breath is that not true is not meant to be that way it's not just like your body is meant to be healthy but it's not always healthy yeah but it's almost always healthy if I took every person on this planet planet and I took every breath they ever took from birth what percentage of the time that

they take breaths is their body healthy it's enormous but we only focus on when it's not but the body was made is the body made to be healthy is there anything about your body that kind of proves it was meant to be healthy like the entire immune system yeah that's a nice one to have isn't it if you cut yourself does it heal itself within reason if you think you're body was meant to be healthy where do you find out what your mind and your heart Were Meant To Be they're meant to be filled with

love filled with creativity and inspiration and great thoughts developing air conditioning and Rocket shifts and studying science and oh it's neat stuff and you're capable of doing it you're the only speci is capable of doing it but what happens is if you can't handle what's coming in you push that down everything you don't like you push down and you store it inside your heart and it doesn't want to be there and the natural immune system of the heart pushes it up they come up in your dreams they come up when you see something that reminds

you of them all those emotions come flying it comes flying up inside of you that's because the heart is trying to purify it is like the natural immune system of your body heart cannot have that energy stored down there it can't feel love it can't be open it can't appreciate the sunset because she left you during the sunset but should have been like that well the sunset was an amazing experience then she left me she dumped me oh my God the pain was unbelievable it was so amazing the separation right of going from the great

joy and feeling tremendous pain what an instrument that the heart can feel those things and take those things right if you can do that then it's like riding on water it didn't not happen you were okay that it happened your Consciousness was willing to appreciate accept honor the pain The Joy the loss the death the birth why gu their life their life not my life I want people dying that I love too bad because people die and I hope you love them otherwise you can decide and people do do this I won't be able to

handle your death so I have to close my heart from you a little bit I'm sorry you know I can't handle this so I have to step back wow I can't handle your sickness I can't handle the fact that you're sick cuz I loved you so much I just need I need to take that love away whoa that sounds intense I know people have done that you understand that you do that I need to protect myself from you because I love you whoa now we're getting real aren't we as opposed to now I get to

love you like this now I get to love that you're bringing this experience to me and I feel all these different things coming up inside of me I never felt before thank you it's called being open isn't it the heart wants to be open doesn't it how do you feel when your heart's open then why do you close it the heart does not close itself you close it you close it by not being able to handle the things it's expressing releasing in the new book living and tether I dare to use the following example have

any of you ever seen the play or the movie Roman and Juliet isn't it a joy is it fun not exactly but many people go back for seconds and thirds and tell everybody the following oh my God it was so sad it was so sad I felt such pain in my heart come on let's go together it's one of the most famous plays ever written and look at that so you are able to handle that vibration and you're able to see the beauty in that vibration aren't you but not happens to you that's not how

you would feel if it happened to you is it okay so now you're catching on what it means to work at the root the root is your heart the root is if you can't handle energies and you push them away they are getting stored in your energy flow they're getting stored in your heart you can't open your heart now because of fear because of this because of that because you're not willing to accept you're not willing to accept what happened forget you're not willing to accept what's happening you know that you're not willing to accept

what might happen you know that you can't accept what happened are there events that happen in your life that you don't accept if you can't handle what already happened you're in trouble because it's not going to change I tell you even if they come back from high school when they bullied you and apologize not enough it doesn't right you say okay now there's this but that's still was I still can't handle what you did but I'll forgive you that's not if you have say I forgive you you don't forgive them forgiveness is when you sit

there and say I can handle what happened it's a personal thing nothing to do with a person I can handle what happened I was silly to not have handled it I was young in high school wasn't as evoled I am now I can handle that people are the way they are period however it is that's how it is everybody's different and so I can handle it by releasing the core that I stored down there I was not able to handle reality what's reality I do it in a new book I Define surrender as follows surrender

is the ability to accept reality then it next sentence is well what's reality that which already happened oh I don't think about reality I don't to think about it it happened all right can you accept it that's what surrender is if you can work at the root at that level it's over you have to struggle with your mind you have to struggle with relationship you have struggle with anything nothing has to be a certain way because you learn to handle things that come in how would you like to be able to handle everything that ever

happened to you what do you think be her now means you all love ramdas right I remember when you know cuz I was around in the' 60s be here now came out and this is what be here and now meant to everybody what are you doing I'm being here now there's a pillow I'm being here now right in other words I'm I'm there then in my mind and I'm trying to focus to make myself be here now be here now is the natural state of your being there's nothing you have to do to be here

now where else would you be and the answer is in your mind and then your stored blockages inside your heart that's where El would be lost inside your Cy there's no other place to be the moment that's happening in front of you is the only moment's happening in front of you so be here now is where you are when you didn't store all this garbage inside and that's where the great Masters are that's what it means to be enlightened enlightened doesn't mean you go up to a mountain somewhere and don't deal with anything Enlighten means

you can live right here in the reality what's unfolding in front of you and no matter what it is you are fine it passes right through and you enjoy and appreciate the whole thing is happening that's the job which is reality is unfolding in front of me why can't I handle it and so we're going deep so the root is the fact that you can't handle things isn't it if you could hand here your husband comes home he had a rough day at work husband or wife rough day at work you were just all excited

waiting you feel romantic and have a nice evening and they come rushing in through the door say hello to you go into the bedroom slam the door and that's that didn't even say hello didn't do a single thing how you doing well it doesn't feel good is it like riding on water whoa a little twister just came through wow that should have messed my heart up it's beautiful right comes in rushes through and it passes through and you go about your business and then he or she comes out of the thing you can have a

nice evening the first words out your mouth is how dare you come thr through this room I I was no there's no need to say that your mind doesn't say that you don't not say it even though the Mind said to do it people talk to me about that well I shouldn't be like that I don't want to be like that you it's too bad you are and it's very nice that you try to raise it I'm telling you if you can handle what happened that doesn't go on in your mind you know a good

example we a hurricane comes through or turn tornado Hurricane's good wipes out houses things floods all right that's that day what's it like the next day total blue skies sun shining quiet real fresh because it washed everything away right it doesn't say I'm sorry nature doesn't say I'm sorry doesn't I'm asking you to be deep here you're the same you're higher than nature you're the highest expression of divinity on this Earth things can pass through you can handle them I know you can't right now okay then you start your spiritual journey but understand your spiritual

journey is not about attracting to yourself that which you want to happen so you're okay even though you're not it's not about learning to do mantras that can get a nice husband or a nicer house or it's it's not about that I'm sorry we talk about Laws of Attraction and manifestation what are you trying to manifest that which will make me feel better why don't you feel good to start with why do you need to have things to compensate for the fact that you're not okay I'm lonely what's wrong with trying to attract somebody no

nothing absolutely nothing I want to know why you're lonely you're lonely because you're blocked cuz I'm telling you you ain't lonely you're so filled with love you can't even see straight if por is inside of you wave your hand across your heart it'll burst open anytime all the time you're you're a very great being there's no one has ever existed that's greater than you are that's what's inside of you but you blocked it by shoving the stuff that you can't handle down inside your psyche and now your psyche your self-concept your ego is made out

of the stuff you couldn't handle I'm the one that doesn't like this I'm one who likes this I'm the one that wish this would happen I'm the one who can make this happen that's who your eye is so the root ultimately I said the root was in the heart is deeper than than that the root is that you can't handle things if you can handle things it will be like riding on water anything comes in not good not bad not right not wrong it just passes through you're here you're present and you're always feeling love

you're always feeling love but what something terrible happens you mean like Roman and Juliet everything has its beauty everything has its place you're talking yin and yang that's what it's talking to you about everything is what it is that's not the problem the problem is you can't handle it so it's the solution learn to handle it that's the only solution if the problem is you're allergic to bananas and you rashes all over well what's the solution how do I make it look good stop eating bananas the problem is that you can't handle things does that

make sense to you do you see that there's lots of things you can handle you can handle almost everything I once taught you that you are 99.99% enlightened every single one of you do you understand how many things come through your sens at any given moment the trees the wind the weather the cars the people you can handle it just fine unless one particular car drives by or you are planning your birthday party outside and it looks cloudy even one Cloud oh no if you don't have any going about it you handle it just fine

but if you did something in your mind to formulate what we call preferences what are your preferences the fact that I can't handle things and I prefer that you and everybody else behave in a way that doesn't disturb what I can't handle and maybe makes me feel better about what I can't handle I've always felt insecure I never felt anybody could really love me I just can't believe the way you're treating me it's like I almost really believe that you love me and I never ever thought that I could ever believe in it would love

me in other words my relation with you is based on the garbage that's stored inside of me I am in relationship with you because I suppressed everything my whole life and what mommy did and what Daddy did and what Uncle George did and therefore I never was able to open up my and have bullied me in high school I was high school high school is a tough one all right nowadays it's probably junior high but net result is there's all kinds of social garbage going on right there you built all this garbage inside of you

and you think people don't like you so somebody comes up and they help to compensate for that you marry them my argument is and I used to teach this before I just I'm afraid to now right my argument is if the relationship works like you think it will then you won't feel the insecurity and the lack of love but that was the reason you got into the relationship uhoh divorce time you're just not turning me on the way you used to it's not doesn't it's not the same thing when I see of course it's not

they changed you changed and was it worked and usually it doesn't work anyways so that really does anyway so you lose either way you need to see where you're coming from and where you're coming from is your problems I loved my job until they told me they give me the corner office and then somebody else came in I gave them the corner office okay how do you feel about your job now insulted I used to love coming to work now I hate it give me a break what do you care what office you're in you

did that you ruined your relationship you ruined your job you ruined everything I me a musician and I was playing gigs I played one gig they got of them walked out I guess I'm not a musician right what are you doing hear me you have made a royal mess of your life have you not and don't tell me that the outside world did it the outside world is way out there it's just going about its business it's just unfolding it's natural way people are the Su of the Learned experiences so that's you got to meet

you hi some of your learned experiences seriously hi some of your learned experiences guess what I don't know you cuz I don't know your experiences I had my own experiences therefore for you are not anything like me and you will never be anything like me and I love it getting to know you getting to know all about you not oh my God you're the person I've been looking for my whole life no they're not there's no way in the world they are you don't know a single but I've been dating for 3 months you don't

know a single thing about that person and you never will because they're having different experiences all day and their whole life and you're having different experiences that's not a relationship you're perfect for me you're the one I dream I told you once if they come to you L say since I was little I dreamt of you I said I know that run gra you are not that they are not that you're projecting yourself onto them and it's not going to work you know why because they're projecting themselves onto you that's why relation are so hard

relation are not hard not hard at all here's a relationship there's 8.3 billion people on the planet Earth I'm not going to get to know them all I can tell that right now but you're in my house you happen to live in my house I'll get to know you and guess what it's going to be very healthy for me why because I'm going to have to let go of me to get to know you I have to let go of my Concepts hopes dreams preferences everything I cannot believe I married you we didn't live together

first and you actually don't put the cap back on the toothpaste I've never met anybody didn't put the cat back in the tooth place my mother always said don't hang out with people don't even bother put the cat back in the tooth place and now I find out I married you and that cap is not on that toothpaste that's what you do isn't it about everything you can't have a relationship like that the relationship is as follows I'm carrying around the garbage that I didn't get rid of during the course of my life that's what

they mean the semi- Learned experiences you're not the semi- Learned experiences you're the Consciousness that is experiencing what it's like to have the sum of your learned experience that you stored in there they're over you don't need to carry them but you did okay so now I have devoted myself to a relationship with you I know you are not who I think you are period that's not what it's about that's not I'm in this relationship and I know that I don't expect that you will be every way I need you to be so that I'm

okay even though I'm full of it I'm in this relationship to get rid of me that's a relationship that's a holy relationship that's a spiritual relationship not all this new Agy stuff all right I'm in this relationship because I know you're going to hit my stuff there's no way you're not going to hit my stuff why because I have stuff and I'm not going to manipulate you so you don't hit my stuff because then I keep my stuff I've committed myself to this relationship and what that means is that if something hits inside of me

that causes a disturbance in my heart or my mind I will use this relationship to let that go that's what it means to be committed whoa that's a little deep in it you better watch your marriage Val because that's what a relationship is you're here to go to God you're not here to get married people get married all the time get divorced all the time and when you die you're not taking the marriage with you okay so you don't live like that here great beings you understand the root of the problem is because I couldn't

handle things not the root of the problem because they happen nope the RO problem is I could handle them now there's a good time to say if you practice handling them that's your work it doesn't mean you don't deal with it outside if you go there and the cap is off the toothpaste but the toothpaste is all all over the sink and so on you let go first you first let go I don't want to carry inside of me something that can stop me from loving this person over a stupid toothpaste tube period I ain't

doing it wow I like you I like you if you ain't doing it you're a great being aren't you right you're not throwing away love over a toothpaste tube so what do you do first you let go then what there's nothing wrong with then kindly lovingly s there say hey look at this but if it happens again happens again right but there's nothing wrong with dealing with things after what I don't want you doing is dealing dealing with things cuz you can't handle you my reaction to this is that I couldn't handle it and so

I'm going to try and manipulate the world that's Karma you know you changed energy outside because of the disturbance you have inside that's what Karma's buil from that's going to come back if I can't handle what you said and I yell at you I never talk to you again believe me it's coming back if instead I let go and I can handle that this bothered me because I have problems otherwise it's life on the planet Earth isn't it I let it go now I can deal with the situation not deal with me cuz I couldn't

handle the situ the highest thing ever want to teach you and I'm tell you you're doing it all the time I'm not dealing with a situation I'm dealing with me that I couldn't handle the situation so I'm trying to change the situation so I can handle it as opposed to I handled it is there something I can do to raise the situation someone can do this to the benefit of the person to the benefit of anything as opposed to the benefit of me all right but we don't live like that do we because we can't

handle things it's all down to the root I can't handle things fine I got one minute left and I'll tell you how to handle things because that's all it takes you want to study all these difficult techniques and all the kind of have fun it's good welcome it distracts you from yourself it's wonderful here's how you handle a situation you handled it what if happens and a guy cuts me off he cuts me off and and beeps at me after he cut me off I can't handle that well I understand that a reaction comes up

inside such as anger like Rach Krishna said how about if you relax now people misunderstand me they think relax means that the energy that's coming up that is disturbing has to relax not a chance in the world anger feels like anger it will never not jealousy feels like jealousy it will never not insecurity feels like insecure they are things the nature of insecurity is the nature of insecurity you're not sitting there saying I'll handle it when stops being like that see the difference you relax you who's in there resisting the fact that jealousy feels like

jealousy that anger feels like anger insecurity feels like insecurity somebody's in there experiencing that from the moment it starts relax and fall back I want to push it away no relax and fall back what will happen it will be like riding water if you don't resist it it will come in and passed through and now you just handled it that's all it takes to handle it handling it is all it takes to handle it yeah I think so one equals 1 you have the right to relax you have hands in there that can push things

around don't you and you think you're supposed to do that to make yourself be okay that is just totally the wrong direction you want to be okay handle reality handle what's going on then deal with it it's not that you don't deal with it but you don't deal with it try to make your mess be okay you can't manipulate the world to make yourself be okay why the very fact that you want to do it means you're not okay you don't manipulate the white lines most of the time you manipulate the weather or the trees

you're driving by or the people are walking by the street you have to manipulate them to be okay you only have to manipulate the things that you're not okay with well maybe that's your work to learn to be okay that is your work that is your spiritual work that's your Evolution so as you relax and release relax and release if you're not resisting the opposite of resistance is relaxation what they tell you in a yoga ASA when it gets tight relax through it don't they relax through it a massage when they hit the spot that

hurts you don't get up and yell and hit them I swear to God you say there right there right oh my God you got it now right there that's what you do inside with yourself you relax through it you won't be able to do it right away so start with simple things like the driver in front of you I always teach same thing driver in front of you bothers you don't they didn't use your blinker they're driving slower they're cutting you off right okay you can handle that it comes and goes make it come and

go let it come and go relax flu it the weather it's raining I don't want it to be raining relax through it I beg you learn to work with yourself to raise Yourself by releasing reality let it pass like I said doesn't mean you don't deal with things you just don't deal with them because you can't handle them by all means deal with them do your best to help them not to help you that's called service at that point you're serving everything instead of serving yourself all right so eventually that's who you are you everything

comes in you handle it and you've be the most beautiful person in the world why because every moment that passes before you is better off because it did I told you the highest life you can live every moment not some big charity thing you did every moment that passes before you is better off because it passed before you I mean a nice way to live isn't it but you have to be done with yourself that's what Christ said die to be reborn didn't it that's what MDA said becoming nobody you become empty inside so that

you're full you become empty of you and I tell you you'll be filled with shuy it would just pour inside of you all the time the rush of holy Waters constantly all right now you understand working at the root the root when I started talking I said the root is in the heart the only reason the roots in the heart is because you couldn't handle things so the real root is that you couldn't handle things isn't it because if you could handle them it's over it's over you're a great being just there's nothing but pure

light coming out of your your whole being right work on these things Dr