How To Read People (Animated Story)

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Mitch Manly

Check out the book "Laws Of Human Nature" - Where most of this story came from Today we look at how to read anyone instantly. We all want to know how to read people, and there are some psychological tricks that can work, but the main way to really read people, is actually very simple. It’s not some crazy trick, that only a few people on planet earth know about. A lot of people will simply say to “read their body language”, and it’s true, you can certainly read people better by looking at their body language, but the real secret is to master something called sub-communications. And I’m going to go over, exactly what I mean by that in this video. How To MASTER Your Emotions (Epic Video)

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This is Ben and Bendel's the secret to reading anyone instantly but before we can talk about that we need to first understand his childhood little Ben has trouble talking with other people and he can't pick up on basic social cues like facial expressions or body language and the medical term for this something called social-emotional Ignazio and as a result of this Ben started to develop social anxiety and whenever he would Talk with someone like an attractive girl for example he would just awkwardly smile or he would just not his head along or give one or two would answers and this was a major problem for Ben because the only thing that he really wanted in his life was to have a wife and a family and if he couldn't get this then in his mind he was destined to live alone and die alone so he set out on a journey to cure himself at first Ben tried to put himself out there more in School he figured the more social experience he had the better off he would be so he would raise his hand more in class or he would try to talk to his classmates but the problem with this is that when you are labeled as that awkward kid or labeled as that weird kid most people just don't want anything to do with you so most kids would just kind of ignore him so Ben decided that he would attend events that were put on by other schools because nobody there knew Him but even at these events when he would try to talk to other people he still couldn't have a meaningful conversation with someone he would totally be stuck in his head and he would obsess over trying to read people and he would over analyze what they were saying and how they were saying it and the kids would often call him weird or awkward and over time then started to dread all social interactions and this caused him to go into a fairly deep Depression and he was very close to giving up on the dream of having a wife and a family one morning Ben woke up and discovered parts of his body that were suddenly paralyzed and over the next few days the paralysis spread and he was soon diagnosed with the disease called polio as he lay there in bed he heard his mother in the room discussing his case with the doctors that the family had called in assuming that Ben was asleep one of the Doctors told her that the boy will be dead by morning and he could hear his mom crying in the other room after the doctors left his mother came into his room clearly tried to disguise for grief unaware that Ben had overheard the conversation then asked his mother to move the mirror in his room so it would face the window and if he began to lose consciousness he would then focus on the sunset in the reflected mirror holding on to this image as long as he could the Sun always returned so maybe he would - within hours he fell into a coma then regained consciousness three days later so somehow he had cheated death but the paralysis had spread to his entire body even his lips were paralysed he could not move he could not gesture or communicate to anyone in any way and the only part of his body that he could move were his eyeballs and the only social company that he had were his seven sisters his one brother and his parents And for someone who had such an active mind the boredom was almost unbearable so the only thing that he could really do was to focus on things that he could see and hear and when he looked outside he started to notice all these new details about nature like how the leaves on the trees had all these little grooves on them and he would watch how the rain would fall in between these grooves and then roll off the leaf and he would listen to the birds singing Outside and he noticed how they used all these different tones as if it was a small Symphony he spent weeks just looking and listening but one day as he was looking outside his sister's came into his room to have a chat with one another and as they were talking Ben noticed something the face has made all these movements and the tone of the voices would change very frequently in the course of the conversation for example one sister said to another Yes that's a good idea but she said this with the monotone voice and a noticeable smile on her face all of which would likely mean that she didn't actually think it's a good idea so somehow a yes could really mean a no and then had never noticed this before but due to his current state his eyesight and his hearing were all heightened in the course of the next few days he had counted sixteen different forms of no indicated through body language tone and Facial expressions if people said yes when they actually felt no it would appear through their body language and tone of voice then found all of these observations somewhat interesting but he found himself not really wanting to engage in this little game what is the point of trying to understand people better if you're going to die in a year or die in a few months why even bother doing this Ben thought for himself then could either let the disease consume him Or he could try to keep the most important muscle active by focusing his brain on things like nature's social interactions or simply just thinking deeply but at first he didn't want to do this then he thought about his dream of having a loving family he thought about having dinner with his wife and he thought about playing with his kids in his yard he could either take the hard road of keeping his dream alive and fight or the easy road and just let the Disease take over him Ben would try his best to keep fighting so been completely consumed himself in observing other people he would wash their hand gestures their vocal pitch their son an arm movements the way their legs move and the way their lips would quiver on certain topics he would even notice how often the veins in his sister's neck would Paul say when they stood over him indicating that they were nervous just by being around him and because his Hearing was getting better he can now pick up on conversations in the other room and he noticed a funny pattern in a conversation people were rarely ever direct one sister would spend minutes beating around the bush leaving hints to others about what she really wanted such as to borrow something or hear an apology from someone but she wouldn't ever just say it at first her hidden desire was clearly indicated by her tone of voice Which gave emphasis to certain words and her hope was that the other person would pick up on this and offer what she desperately desired but oftentimes the hints were ignored and she would be forced to come out and say what she actually wanted but by this point she was already frustrated with the situation conversation after conversation fell into this reoccurring pattern It was as if because of his paralysis he became aware of a second Channel of human communication a second language for which people express something from deep within themselves without even being aware of it he thought that perhaps the mind and the physical body are much more connected than people realize or maybe they're one of the same because every single time that his sister wanted something or they would be upset about something it would clearly show through their physical body so one day Ben wanted to try something Ben was watching his brother and sister play outside so he closed his eyes and he imagined himself playing with them and in his head he literally saw himself standing up and walking around and he put all of his mental energy into this single imagination really trying to feel and experience the sensations that he once felt and for a brief second he felt a twitch in his leg and this was the first time that he had felt any movement in his body at all and this simple Twitch gave him hope so he began to focus deeply into every single muscle in his leg and he would remember the sensation he had in his body before the paralysis and over time he started to have success and the slightest bit of movement would return to the muscle after some more time he even started to stand up and to take a few steps and then later he would walk around his room then sit down and then after some more time he started to Walk around outside and he slowly just kept increasing the distance inch by inch and over time then became a functional walking adult and he did this through the power of his mind he realized through watching his family communicate that the mind does not operate differently from the body but rather they are completely connected Ben became so fascinated with communication that he began to study psychology and he actually became one of the world leaders In hypnotherapy so I bet a lot of you are probably thinking that this story is completely made-up and it's almost ridiculous I'll be honest and I'll tell you the truth his name wasn't Ben his name was Milton Highland Erickson and he was born on December 5th in 1901 and he really did catch a disease called polio which paralyzed him and through this experience he did become strongly aware of the significance of nonverbal communication and he really did become One of the world leaders in hypnotherapy we are at a point in society where basically everyone is trying to put on a mask for you they want to present themselves to you in a certain way that does not accurately represent who they actually are if someone has a nice empathetic mask on they will say almost anything to match this ego of perception of themselves but underneath that mask underneath the soft kind words that they say all the time is the truth and this Idea is the origin of the timeless saying actions will always speak louder than words so if you want to become somebody who can read anyone instantly or you want to become somebody who sees the true of people then you have to master nonverbal communication and the best way to do this is to be more like Ben and to become more observant listen for vocal pitches watch for facial expressions body language see how people act when You bring up certain topics and if you do this I guarantee you you will be able to read people check out my last video about the real truth about emotions

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